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Christians often think we must push down, shut off, or pray away negative emotions such as frustration, sadness, anger, and fear. Strange as it may seem, these negative emotions can be our portal to joy. Enjoyed this episode? Leave a review and help others find this show! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Book | Telling Each Other The Truth by Dr. William Bachus https://amzn.to/33A38Z0 (paid link) . Book | Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend https://amzn.to/2mobFOu (paid link) . Online Support Group | https://www.boundaries.me/ . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . WEBSITE: http://darlyeelise.com

There is so much to get done — and most of it due yesterday! For this reason, we often treat sleep like it’s robbing us of time we’d rather spend on other more important things. Hence axioms such as “I’ll sleep when I’m dead,” which offers a false justification and consolation for running ourselves ragged. The fact remains, the things we love in life are better with sleep! Enjoyed this episode? Leave a review and help others find this show! Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . WEBSITE: http://darlyeelise.com

As the single/never married ranks increase, inside and outside the church alike, it’s natural we desire to make sense of our singleness. Well, hold on to your hat! The origin of the “gift of singleness” holds both surprises and insights. Enjoyed this episode? Leave a review and help others find this show! Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. WEBSITE: http://darlyeelise.com

Today's Christian culture has become all about “personal” faith, though faith, as taught in Scripture, is anything but. A special Bible plugin aims to help us appreciate the unity in community by the use of regional colloquialisms. You may just feel like you’re reading a whole new Bible! Enjoyed this episode? Leave a review and help others find this show! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Website | Bible Web App http://www.biblewebapp.com/study/ To switch to second person plural colloquialisms, click the top left drop-down menu, under “Options” choose “Settings.” Click “English Second Person Plural” and click on the regional English equivalent of your choice. . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . WEBSITE: http://darlyeelise.com

Is an apple a healthy snack? The WHY behind the correct answer may surprise you! I share my better snack hack and how it changed my life. Enjoyed this episode? Leave a review and help others find this show! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Digital Course | The Mechanics of Digestion: My step-by-step guide to reestablishing a healthy digestive rhythm and healing your gut https://darlyeelise.com/p/the-mechanics-of-digestion . TV Series | [BBC] The Men Who Made Us Fat . Book | Dr. Agatha Thrash quoted in Nature’s Banquet: A Vegetarian Cookery and Abundant Living Guide by Living Springs Retreat https://amzn.to/2VEVGbU (paid link) . Book [Kindle] | Counsels on Health by Ellen G. White https://amzn.to/32eXYAR (paid link) . Book [Free App] | Counsels on Health by Ellen G. White https://apps.apple.com/us/app/egw-writings-2/id994076136 . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . WEBSITE: http://darlyeelise.com

I’m sure you’ve observed in both the natural world and in society, where there are females, males will be drawn. However, the number of Christians that can say this principle of nature is alive and well in their church or campus ministry is small. I call this the "Testosterone Paradox” as there is no shortage of women in the Christian faith… Enjoyed this episode? Leave a review and help others find this show! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Article | Sex Ratios in the Pews: Is There Really a Deficit of Men in American Churches? by Lyman Stone https://ifstudies.org/blog/sex-ratios-in-the-pews-is-there-really-a-deficit-of-men-in-american-churches . Article | The Man-Friendly Church by Michael Zigarelli https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2018/june/man-friendly-church.html . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . WEBSITE: http://darlyeelise.com

Emotionally-healthy, emotionally codependent, and emotionally abusive people read and therefore apply Scripture in very distinct ways. Matthew 22:39, where Jesus says the second great commandment is “You shall love our neighbor as yourself,” is a fantastic litmus test for which of these three ways you relate. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Article | Emotional Abuse: Definitions, Signs, Symptoms, Examples by Natasha Tracy https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional-psychological-abuse/emotional-abuse-definitions-signs-symptoms-examples#ref . Podcast | Toxic Relationships Untangled with Wendy Carr. Episode 23 - The Communal Narcissist: Master Manipulator Cunningly Disguised as the Good Guy. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep23-communal-narcissist-master-manipulator-cunningly/id1446507808?i=1000449170798 . Book | Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend https://amzn.to/2mobFOu (paid link) . Workbook | Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend https://amzn.to/2ndgb2x (paid link) . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . WEBSITE: http://darlyeelise.com

Ladies, have you noticed we immediately offer our condolences when a friend tells us she’s on her period? Perhaps it’s time we upgrade our menstrual health paradigm, naturally opt-out of cramps, and cheer — rather than chide — our bodies on as they do what they’ve been designed to do. . Are you ladies ready for a new relationship with your body? Tired of feeling awful during your menstrual cycle? The Painful Periods Solution is what you’re looking for — https://darlyeelise.com/p/the-painful-periods-solution. This online course can also be used as a women’s small group study, complete with leader’s guide! . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . WEBSITE: http://darlyeelise.com

You’re sure to have heard the maxim, "Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” In the post-modern and highly divisive cultural climate in which we find ourselves, Christians are called to take the nonintuitive route and use our power in the service of love. . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . For more, visit darlyeelise.com.

So many Christians in my generation have subscribed to the idea of proverbially burying our sexuality as we turn our full attention to the pursuit of academic careers, professional advancement, and even mission work. Unfortunately, today’s all too common practice of protracted singleness in Christian circles has its costs. . Hungry for a fresh perspective to the Christian dating discussion? I give you plenty to chew on in the FREE course: Late to Potluck: The dating predicament of 30+year-old single Christians. And what to do about it. — https://darlyeelise.com/p/latetopotluck . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . For more, visit darlyeelise.com.

Whether at a church service, spiritual retreat, prayer meeting, or small group, no doubt you’ve heard (or yourself shared) a testimony in the aftermath of a romantic relationship come to an end. I’ve noticed these breakup testimonies follow a pattern and I wonder if important relational takeaways may have been altogether overlooked. . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . For more, visit darlyeelise.com.

Talk around health focuses primarily on eating good food. While necessary for physical vitality and emotional wellbeing, food isn’t THE most important physiological need. What is also offers us a core lesson for relational wellness. . If this dual approach to wellness and relationships resonates with you, check out my Happy, Healthy Body + Happy, Healthy Relationships course — https://darlyeelise.com/p/happy-healthy-body-happy-healthy-relationships . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . For more, visit darlyeelise.com.

If you’re trying to make apple pie, will just any fruit do? Relational substitution is a bit like this fruitless (pun intended!) endeavor. This week, I share an observation about this seemingly spiritual tendency and why we can finally let go of this emotionally unhealthy habit. . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . For more, visit darlyeelise.com.

"Put God first" is a principle and well-known saying within the Christian community, but I’ve observed we struggle with its practice. What if it’s because “putting God first" isn’t what you think it means? Want to dive deeper on this topic? Check out the Vision Series — https://darlyeelise.com/p/visionseries . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . For more, visit darlyeelise.com.

One of the challenges of talking about emotional wellness or emotional health is that we, as a society and also within the faith community, value physical and emotional needs differently. As such — and to our detriment — we don’t do such a great job of integrating the social aspect of our human experience into our wellness frameworks or spiritual paradigm. . Dr. Darlye Élise Innocent, MSW, Ph.D. is a social scientist and holistic wellness educator + speaker who has been teaching on relationships, health, and spirituality from a refreshingly holistic perspective for nearly a decade. . For more, visit darlyeelise.com.