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Drag queen Crystal Methyd (RuPaul's Drag Race S12) joins Nicole to chat about their most romantic date, getting the 'sex talk' at the age of 22, and debates if you should text your date back immediately. They also discuss their journey into drag, finding their drag aesthetic, and their experience shooting Drag Race in the middle of the pandemic. Meanwhile, Nicole is worried her Netflix show is cockblocking her.Thank you to all that have supported the show through 200 episodes!Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see linktr.ee/nationalresourceslistFollow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter:@nicolebyerInstagram:@nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Ms. Pat chats with Nicole about her time in jail for drug trafficking, shares the secrets behind her 28 years of marriage, and offers advice on how to play hard to get. Plus, Ms. Pat's not happy that Nicole's sleeping around with random audience members, so she decides to set Nicole up with a man. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see linktr.ee/nationalresourceslist Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Full-service sex worker Alexa Eason shares about her life as an escort. She teaches Nicole about BDSM, the relationship risks involved with sex work, Instagram's censoring of fat bodies, and the dreaded "Yelp for Escorting" sites where escorts are ranked against each other. Alexa gives advice for anyone looking to get started doing sex work. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Justin Martindale joins Nicole to discuss how their 'summer of love' has been disappointingly dry for the both of them. Justin shares the time he got catfished by a cop, how he deals with chucklefuckers while touring, and the craziness behind the #FreeBritney movement. Plus, what's up with these people getting duct taped on airplanes? Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Drag queen and choreographer Laganja Estranja (RuPaul's Drag Race S6) joins Nicole to discuss her truth coming out as trans, finding confidence in self-love, the thrill of sucking dick in the high school locker room, and getting off on Grindr messages. Plus, Laganja discusses the injuries she sustains stunting, and answers if she would participate in a future season of RPDR All Stars. For more drag queens on WWYDM, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Drag queen of Scots Lawrence Chaney (winner of RPDR UK S2) chats with Nicole about his dating live after winning Drag Race, how he got banned from Tinder for 'catfishing' as himself, and pitches to host the UK version of Nailed It!. Meanwhile, Nicole's plans for a Hot Girl Summer have gone awry. For more drag queens on WWYDM, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian and actress Maysoon Zayid was born with cerebral palsy. She chats with Nicole about some of the cruel comments she receives about her disability, the struggles comedians of color face in Hollywood, and shares her wild industry rejection stories. Maysoon also advocates why speed-dating is a cost-effective and efficient way of finding love, and helps break down the current Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

'Psychic to the stars' and best selling author Laura Day is here to teach Nicole all about intuition and how to develop it. She discusses how she realized she had intuitive powers, coaches how to be intuitive about your own love life, and how to train your pleasure receptors and send out pleasure signals to a potential mate. Black Lives Still Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

What a treat. Grammy nominated English musician Yola is here! Nicole and Yola chat about the difference in racism when dating in the UK vs the US, how crying on her motorcycle back from her mother's funeral inspired her songwriting, and how sitting on the toilet can be the best way to solve creative challenges. Check out Yola new album, Stand for Myself, out today. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actor Harvey Guillén (What We Do in the Shadows) is single but not quite ready to mingle. He discusses why he guards his profession from his dating life, how he found love on Instagram, and the important need for space in any relationship. Nicole reads some wild dating app profiles. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Nicole’s close friend Francesca Amber (host of Law of Attraction Changed my Life) talks about the struggles of being a mother of twins, explains the latest fad of 'co-parenting', and describes how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest your dream person. Meanwhile, Nicole counts down the days until her dick appointment. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Cat Hollis led the 2020 Portland Stripper Strike. Here, she explain why it happened and her work for equitable workspaces in the adult industry. Cat discusses the costs of being cute, shares the common challenges people face when dating a stripper, and gives advice on how to feel sexy even after a rejection. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actor and comedian Sam Richardson (Veep, I Think You Should Leave) chats with Nicole about his success finding love on Raya, wanting kids so he can continue doing kid things, the power of saying 'I love you' first in a relationship, and pitches ideas for dating app opening messages. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian and musician Reggie Watts (The Late Late Show with James Corden) chats with Nicole about his unique eating habits, his time spent playing in a 70's cover band, and the weird shift from being a fake band leader on Comedy Bang! Bang!, to a real band leader for The Late Late Show with James Corden. Nicole learns she may be 'love avoidant'. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Jason Concepcion (host of Takeline, Binge Mode) joins Nicole to discuss the culture shock he experienced visiting the Philippines during a coup, how the pandemic revealed America's systemic failures, their favorite small businesses to support, and the WNBA. As America opens back up, Nicole's back in the dating game but it's not going so well. Are dating apps operating fake profiles to keep you engaged? Plus, Nicole runs into an old fling and things got weird. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

International male escort Troy Amistadi is here to answer all of Nicole's questions about escorting and sex work. He discusses how the TV show Gigolos inspired him to get into the business, the particular services he offers to women, why 'civilian dating' is tough for escorts, and what it was like to have his work filmed for a documentary. Learn more about Troy at datetroy.com. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Drag queen Shea Couleé (Winner of RPDR All Stars 5) talks to Nicole about finding love at the club, being a drag mother, wig mishaps, and doing poppers. Plus, Nicole's back in the dating game and it's off to an awkward start. For more Shea & Nicole, check out Nicole's episode on Shea's podcast Wanna Be On Top? Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian London Hughes (Netflix's To Catch a Dick) and Nicole chat about her experience moving to America during a pandemic and race war, sleeping with her Uber driver, doggy style techniques, sucking dick, and pitch their new doomsday movie idea. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian and actor Paul Scheer (The League, Black Monday) and Nicole chat about how his proposal to June Diane Raphael went terribly wrong, how June's wedding ring was stolen from her finger, and shares good wisdom on the importance of relationship building. Plus, June sits nearby, fact-checking Paul's stories. May 25th See Why Won't You Date Me LIVE featuring Drag Race S11's Miss Congeniality Nina West! Get tickets at live.nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actress Jessica Rothe (Happy Death Day, La La Land) and Nicole discuss if it's OK to do kinky acts in public, the bizarre ways people are monetizing kinks, and the surprising reality of male escorting. Plus, Jessica describes her pandemy micro-wedding, and her major mic-drop "I love you" moment in her relationship. See Why Won't You Date Me LIVE May 25th! Tickets at live.nicolebyerwastaken.com Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746