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Comedian Sam Taggart (host of StraightioLab) is here to spill some juicy insights on gay relationships and why they often swing open. Have you ever thought of Kevin James as a bear icon? Neither did Nicole, but Sam gives us a whole new perspective! He also tells the crazy story of a strange threesome he had with 2 cops from Boston. Plus, a candid chat about all things anal, and why we need to break the silence and start talking about our holes.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Twin drag queen icons Sugar & Spice (RuPaul's Drag Race S15) join Nicole for a conversation about why you can't skirt around the law of attraction, to spilling the tea on the sugar baby lifestyle and how to shine as a high-value woman in today's dating scene. And if you've ever wondered what it's like for twins to audition for Drag Race, Sugar & Spice pull back the curtain on their journey, talking about their impressions of Snatch game, including the unforgettable meltdown Spice had on-set after Sugar's unexpected elimination. Plus, Nicole reveals a sweet tip on how to score free drinks on a bad date.    Hungry for more drag queen interviews? Check out our drag episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

The hilarious Bridget Everett (Somebody, Somewhere) joins Nicole to discuss the hot porn searches they've been into, the need for increased privacy on dating apps, Bridget's experience hooking up with a go-go dancer at a gay bar, and her stand-up routine where she has audience members motorboat her huge titties. Plus, the story about the woman whose breast implants started to grow mold.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actress Holly Robinson Peete (21 Jump Street, Queen's Court) opens up about her experience being in a relationship with someone who is "monogamously challenged", dating around Paris in order to learn to speak French, and being very publicly proposed to on the set of Hangin' with Mr. Cooper by NFL quarterback Rodney Peete. Plus, the challenges single people now face in today's social media-driven world, and how it affects relationships in ways both big and small.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actor John Leguizamo (Encanto, Moulin Rouge!, Ice Age) chats with Nicole about his secrets to a long, loving marriage, how he balances work and relationships, and his efforts to boost Latin representation in media.    Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Ashley Gavin (host of We're Having Gay Sex) teaches Nicole all about lesbian sex and relationships. They cover scissoring and tribbing, having secret girlfriends in high school, and the details of her open relationship. Ashley also shares her experience being the first openly gay comedian on Carnival Cruise Line, and the homophobia she encountered on the job. Nicole witnesses a bouncer get stabbed at a lesbian bar.  Watch Ashley's new comedy special at: youtube.com/watch?v=Ay6jUYPH644&   Submit your dirty message for Nicole!  Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actress/writer/director Zoe Lister-Jones (Slip) shares her experience opening and closing her "don't ask don't tell" poly relationship, what she's learned after exiting a 17-year marriage, and delves into the empowering nature of "dating to fuck". Nicole really wants to crash the cool teen party down her block.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actor James Marsden (Sonic The Hedgehog, Hairspray, Jury Duty) joins Nicole to talk about his new singledom, remaining friends with all of his exes, his romantic side, and reviews Nicole's latest Tinder profile. Nicole teaches Marsden about bussies and scat porn.    This episode was specially recorded in-person at Team Coco's studios. Thank you engineer Rich and the whole team for putting this together!    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Drag queen icon Sasha Velour (winner of Drag Race S9) chats with Nicole about coming out to their dad at a TGI Fridays, the challenges of working with their boyfriend, and speaks out on the current backlash against drag.    We just recorded a fabulous LIVE episode of Why Won't You Date Me with Gigi Goode! It's available on video on demand until April 19th. Stream it now at moment.co/dateme.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian and writer X Mayo (The Daily Show, American Auto, Swarm) chats with Nicole about her success making friend connections on Raya, how she positively re-framed her outlook on dating, and her life changing experience shooting a nude scene in Swarm. Plus, a PSA on pussy health and why you should go get a transvaginal ultrasound.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian and actor Jeff Hiller (Somebody Somewhere) reunites with Nicole to share how he met his husband on Chemistry.com, his experience acting on a reality TV dating show, and how a fight on Fire Island saved his marriage. Plus, Nicole reads the DM that lead her to deactivate a dating app.    We're live streaming a new episode April 5th!  See a live video recording of Why Won't You Date Me? with VOD available for 2 weeks after. Tickets at moment.co/dateme   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian and actress Gabrielle Dennis (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Luke Cage) chats with Nicole her philosophy as to why falling "in like" with your partner is more important than being in love, opens up about her experience dating a pedophile, and her love for writing Yelp reviews. Plus, the story of the murdering Disney dad.    See a live recording of Why Won't You Date Me?! April 5th in Los Angeles. In-person tickets: elysiantheater.com/shows/nicolebyer. The show will also be live-streamed worldwide, and available on VOD for 2 weeks after. Get the livestream tickets at moment.co/dateme   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Writer Bridger Winegar (host of I Said No Gifts!)  joins Nicole to discuss his experience being closeted to himself until the age of 26, being raised Mormon, and the thrill of setting people up on dates. Nicole reads some nasty messages she's received from the Bahamas.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Adam Pally (101 Places to Party Before You Die, Who Invited Charlie?) chats with Nicole about why an easy relationship is a often sign of a good one, marrying his high school sweetheart, and how the both of them broke Steve Harvey on the set of Celebrity Family Feud. Plus, what's it like filming with Sonic the Hedgehog? Nicole is dying to know.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Michael Cruz Kayne's dating strategy involves being the only guy left available. He joins Nicole to explain the approach and the success that's come with it.  They also discuss how race affects relationships, moving on from them, and his experience getting hit on by the rich kids and moms he was private tutoring. Nicole wishes she was a ~woman~. Season 2 of A Good Cry returns March 9th. Listen to Nicole's episode here.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Steph Tolev joins Nicole to discuss what it's like to date a groupie, getting matching tattoos with her partners, her experience dating a 60 year old, and shares SOOO many crazy awful dating stories. Plus, is it weird if your parent keeps in touch with your ex? The answer is YES.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Jordan Firstman (Big Mouth, Ms. Marvel) joins Nicole to talk about his experience being involved in a threesome where everyone had COVID, having real sex on-camera for a movie, and finding love in Berlin after a drug-fueled bender. Plus, Nicole shares why sucking dick is so joyful.    Disclaimer: This episode contains discussion of homophobia, including some strong language, such as the F word.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Debra DiGiovanni joins Nicole to discuss her experience being single and celibate for 18 years, importing her current boyfriend, and shares what it was like to date a feeder.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

In January, Nicole shocked the world with an Instagram post announcing her relationship with comedian Dan Black. On this episode,  Dan joins Nicole to respond to some of the comments they've received about their relationship, discuss their kinks, and reflect on their decision to hard launch the relationship.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actress Ilia Isorelýs Paulino (The Sex Lives of College Girls)  joins Nicole to chat about her sex life at Yale, being 6′2, growing up brainwashed by her pastor dad, and Curvy Wife Guy's new rap career.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746