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Comedian Debra DiGiovanni joins Nicole to discuss her experience being single and celibate for 18 years, importing her current boyfriend, and shares what it was like to date a feeder.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

In January, Nicole shocked the world with an Instagram post announcing her relationship with comedian Dan Black. On this episode,  Dan joins Nicole to respond to some of the comments they've received about their relationship, discuss their kinks, and reflect on their decision to hard launch the relationship.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actress Ilia Isorelýs Paulino (The Sex Lives of College Girls)  joins Nicole to chat about her sex life at Yale, being 6′2, growing up brainwashed by her pastor dad, and Curvy Wife Guy's new rap career.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Punkie Johnson (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss how the pandemic lead to her divorce,  learning to love her partner's ugly feet, and tiddy pain. Nicole reports on the unhappy couples she witnessed while in the Bahamas.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian and Nicole's opener Christi Chiello joins the podcast to discuss having 5 of her ex-boyfriends come out as gay, why theatre kids are so horny, and crazy stories from touring together. Nicole reminisces about the time she fell down a man's staircase.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka returns! She chats with Nicole about dating her community college teacher for 7 years, exploring the world of swing parties, and discusses whether hoe phases are overrated.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Drag queen legend Manila Luzon (Drag Race S3, All-Stars 1 & 4, Drag Den) joins Nicole to discuss her Christmas Eve eloping in Las Vegas, dating after mourning the loss of her boyfriend Sahara Davenport, and some of the most iconic moments from her seasons of Drag Race.    For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

On Drag Race, Nicole guest judged one of the most iconic outfits in franchise history - LaLa Ri's gift bag dress.  Today, Nicole finally sits down with the queen to express her thoughts that never made it to air. LaLa introduces Nicole to BLK, a Black version of Tinder, and shares the crazy sexual requests she gets from fans on Grindr. Nicole goes to the LA Auto Show for some dick.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actor Quentin Plair (Welcome to Chippendales) chats with Nicole about the fetishization faced with being the first Black Chippendales dancer, the empowering nature of stripping,  and whether playing football or dancing attracts more women.   Want to write to Nicole? Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Emmy-award winning actress Keke Palmer (Nope, Lightyear) shares with Nicole how she got her first kiss from MySpace, why she avoids posting relationships on social media,  and how she's learning to trust again after her boyfriend slept with her best friend.  Plus, is it ever okay to hack into your partner's phone? Keke teaches us, in great detail, exactly how to do it.    Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Multi-award winning actor and comedian Larry Owens (A Strange Loop, Abbott Elementary) chats with Nicole about his experience attending a bear festival, being the fixer-upper in a relationship, and the dangers of Googling someone after a first date. Plus, Larry teaches Nicole some complex new vocabulary.   Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Cole Escola (Difficult People, Tuca & Bertie) helps Nicole craft the perfect answer for dating app small talk, shares the secret to their successful 3 year open relationship, and the terrible time they had taking a Tinder date to Paris. Plus, Nicole learns about the new dating app "The League", which costs $99 a WEEK!    Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Julie Klausner (Billy on the Street, Difficult People) chats with Nicole about the corny messages she gotten from dating apps, why Nicole was kicked off Hinge, and whether or not Nicole would've met the love of her life at Heidi Klum's Halloween party. Plus, they discuss their favorite New York restaurants.    Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actress Aimee Carrero (She-Ra, Elena of Avalor) joins Nicole to discuss hookup hygiene standards, marrying the man she was set up with, and running into her ex on his honeymoon. Also, Nicole snatches a baby.  We're nominated for a People's Choice Award! Cast your vote for Why Won't You Date Me everyday until Nov 7th. Vote at bit.ly/PCAVOTE2022.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Caleb Hearon (Human Resources) joins Nicole to discuss self-sabotaging relationships, dating while still in the closet, and an awful date he went on at a Chipotle. Meanwhile, Nicole plans to fly to Houston for some dick.   We're nominated for a People's Choice Award! Cast your vote for Why Won't You Date Me everyday until Nov 7th. Vote at votepca.com/pop-culture/the-pop-podcast-of-2022.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Writer Rose Dommu (Out Magazine, Like a Virgin podcast) joins Nicole to chat about the story behind her transition, the dangers of dating a trans chaser, writing fan fiction, and her experience appearing as an extra on the set of a Cock Destroyers porno. Plus, they answer a listener's question about how to respond to someone when they say call themselves fat.   Got a dirty message, question, or comment for Nicole? Email it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actor and heartthrob John Stamos (Full House, You, Big Shot) is here to figure out the core of Nicole's dating issues. Stamos tells the story of how he met his wife while acting together on Law & Order: SVU, shares his favorite memories of Bob Saget, and rewrites Nicole's dating app bio.  Plus, Nicole continues to match with some wackos on Tinder.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Iconic drag queen Jujubee (Drag Race S2, All-Stars 1 and 5) joins Nicole to reminisces over her many seasons of drag competitions, her sobriety, playing a matchmaker, and having a praise kink.   For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Comedian Guy Branum (Billy On The Street, Bros) chats with Nicole about establishing sex contracts before a hookup, being a dom/sub in the bedroom, and the perfect sized bed for sleeping with your partner.    Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

Actor and writer Brandon Kyle Goodman (Netflix's Big Mouth, Human Resources) chats with Nicole about the time he was chased by the KKK, the struggles of doing a long distance relationship, and the adorable first date story with his husband, and saving money by getting married at the courthouse.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746