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In today's episode we cover: Listener question: How do you recover as the perpetrator of an affair? What does it mean to know yourself? How can you not.. you're.. you. 3 ways to get to know yourself better How knowing and accepting yourself changes your relationships Your inner dialogue, and how it can push people away Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

There's all kinds of advice on how to be happy, but what does science say?  In today's episode we cover: The 84 year long Harvard experiment on happiness The single biggest factor in whether you're happy or not Money - can you buy happiness? Two key exercises to help unlock your personal happiness pathway How culture affects happiness Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

Do you have low emotional bandwidth? Here are the symptoms: You get angry quickly You end relationships rather than working through issues You have difficulty expressing yourself  You find it difficult to calmly resolve relationship issues  You avoid, dismiss, minimize, or numb yourself to avoid feelings You become preoccupied with issues and have trouble focusing on other things In today's episode we cover: Why some people naturally have this, and others have to work at it The two types of emotions and how one derails communication How you can increase your emotional processing ability  Why having low emotional bandwidth makes your relationships difficult Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

Huge week for us here at WBYI. Our new office is finished, including a room I had built just for our podcast. We also received our first reader question, so we're a pretty big deal now.In today's episode we cover: Reader question: How to deal with boundaries that become isolating? Three communication tips you can use in your relationship right away That's it. A punchy episode today  Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes. Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

The overbearing mother-in-law who drops by whenever she wants. The father who retires from the family business but keeps telling his son what to do. The friend who drinks too much at your dinner party. The colleague who overshares about their personal issues.There are so many examples of boundary issues, so it's no surprise boundaries are one of the most common issues people talk about in therapy.In today's episode we cover: What exactly are boundaries? Do you have to cut people out of your life if they cross your boundaries? What if your attempts to talk about boundaries always cause fighting? Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes. Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

It's a modern cliche featured in at least half of the series I've seen on Netflix lately. A person walks into a generic looking office and a calm, soft spoken figure with round glasses asks them about their childhood.But is it accurate? Or do therapists also focus on the issues happening now, the issues that made you pick up the phone and book an appointment?In today's episode we cover: Do therapists really focus heavily on childhood? What about childhood is relevant to your adult problems? The major types of parenting and how they affect you as an adult How our blind spots develop and the problems they cause Stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes. Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

The single most misunderstood topic in relationships is cheating. There are so many myths, so much information, and so many people on the internet who claim to have the answers.Today, we draw on decades of experience working with couples going through infidelity, and take a look at some of the most common beliefs about cheating.Which do you think are true?: Once a cheater, always a cheater  People cheat because of unmet needs in their relationship  Some people are just cheaters, some people could never do it If you don't break up with a cheater, you have no self respect Most couples in therapy for infidelity end up divorcing There are many more things we cover, and the stuff we missed or didn't have time to talk about can be found in the show notes. Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

After World War 2, American psychologists set out to prove that Americans would never fall for Nazi crap the way Germans did. They set up a clever experiment where a volunteer would be asked to push a button delivering a fatal shock to his fellow man.Their prediction? 0.01% of men would push the button. The result? 65% of men did it. This sent shockwaves through the field of psychology. In our first episode of a special series looking back at landmark experiments, we cover the Milgram obedience to authority experiment.You'll learn: The conditions required for two thirds of people to become murderers How many people it takes to convince you what you're seeing isn't real Why more bystanders actually decreases the odds of anyone helping The factor that dropped obedience from 65% to 10% Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

Today we talk about one of the most difficult topics: grief.People often say we need to talk about issues more, but this is one that gets left out. So today we're going to cover: The phases of grieving, and their legitimacy The differences between death, grief, and loss Different types of loss, and how the affect people  What it means to process grief, and how to do it in a healthy way How to know if you're suppressing feelings Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

Do long distance relationships work? How do you stay connected? Are there times you should rip off the band-aid and go your separate ways? This episode we talk all about long distance relationships and how to stay connected while you're apart. We cover: How to figure out if it's better to break up or go long distance What to do to stay connected when you're far away What it means when you stop missing the person When it's time to readjust your expectations Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

It's a huge decision, and if you choose wrong you might end up wasting your time and money. Worse, if it's your first time trying therapy, you might assume therapy doesn't work.In today's episode, we talk about: The number one factor that predicts therapy success and how to find it Different types of therapy and how each of them works The interview process: what you should be asking potential therapists Key factors in making sure your therapist is a good fit What to do if therapy isn't going the way you want it to Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday.Support the show

A bunch of strangers get together and date without being able to see each other, start saying I love you, and propose within days... all before they even see what the other person looks like.Then, they meet face to face. And get married within a month. We binge watched the series and in this episode we cover: Carlton's bisexuality  How shame fuels relationship conflict A play-by-play breakdown of a couple's argument (Diamond and Carlton), with detailed advice on how we would have helped them in a therapy session Reflecting on our predictions about which couples would say yes at the altar Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday.  Support the show (https://www.ryananswers.com/podcast)Support the show

People often equate being mentally healthy with not having anxiety or depression, but this is like saying you're physically healthy because you don't have heart disease or diabetes. Most people would say being physically health is about diet, sleep, and exercise. In this episode, we cover: What does it mean to be mentally healthy? How do you self-assess your own mental health? Tools for improving your mental fitness Signs that you are becoming mentally unfit When should you see a therapist? Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

A bunch of strangers get together and date without being able to see each other, start saying I love you, and propose within days... all before they even see what the other person looks like.Then, they meet face to face. And get married within a month. We binge watched the series and in this episode we cover: Is love at first sight real? Can you really fall in love in four days? What is love? Are there different types? A play-by-play breakdown of a couple's argument (Giannina and Damian), with detailed advice on how we would have helped them in a therapy session Predictions on which couples will make it, and which will say no at the altar Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show!We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show

Do you have reoccurring fights in your relationship? Do you or your partner get defensive and shut down? Do you feel like you struggle to communicate? These are all symptoms of the #1 cause of divorce, a specific type of communication issue called attachment conflict. Every relationship experiences this at some point, but for some people they get stuck in a cycle that gets worse over time.In our first episode, we talk about how to: Recognize if you're dealing with attachment conflict Identify your attachment style, and your partner's attachment style Understand why you react the way you do, and how it affects your partner Where attachment comes from, and how to change your attachment style Tools for how to defuse this type of conflict and create better communication Find the show notes at ryananswers.com/podcastPlease subscribe and rate us if you enjoy the show! We're back with a new episode every Thursday. Support the show