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The VulnerABILITY Podcast
35 minutes | 3 days ago
Episode 55 – Tuning Into Frequencies (ft. Janine Lopiano)
In this episode of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, Marisa connects with Janine Lopiano, cofounder of Sputnik Futures and Alice in Futureland (with Joanne De Luca) to talk about their new book, “Tuning Into Frequency: The Invisible Force that Heals Us and the Planet.” In this episode, Marisa and Janine talk about what it means to ‘tune in’ to your own frequencies to find healing, acceptance, and strength. Highlights From The Episode: [2:10] “The idea of ‘tuning into frequencies’ is becoming that much more aware of your presence, of your essence having an energy field.” [4:20] “We are walking in a sea of electromagnetic frequencies.” [6:20] “Tuning into frequencies is really understanding that energy is everywhere – from light and sunlight/lights around you, to sound, to electromagnetic waves that surround us.” [9:45] “When you give yourself a moment of peace, or joy, or passion, you’re actually giving yourself a release of oxytocin in the brain.” [13:25] “Even when we’re home and distancing, your emotions are connected through your Instagram, and your Facebook, and your TikTok, and your family networks. And you, in turn, can affect your friends and your friends’ friends up to three degrees or more of separation.” [14:10] “Practice these micro-moments of self-compassion. Give yourself a moment to tune your awareness into your body. Hear your heartbeat, like really sit and listen to your heartbeat.” [15:10] “We know that music is the universal language. We take it for granted, in a way, sometimes. The sounds around us, the music we play – there is some very, very serious research into sound and how sound will be our medicine in the future.” [15:25] “One of the biggest things we’ve learned from these experts is that everyone has their own sound. It’s almost like a sonic fingerprint. And if you understand your own sound, you can actually heal yourself [and] you can actually find a moment of bliss.” [17:20] “Music is the way that you can feel you are healing through frequency.” [27:20] “Healing with the biofield and energetic healing can be a very validated alternative, and/or a first go-to in a healing process instead of going to the doctor… and taking a pill for pain or for depression. Perhaps we just need to re-tune, if you will, our bodies to resonate with us and with everything around us.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/04/Episode-55-Tuning-Into-Frequencies-ft.-Janine-Lopiano.mp4 Recommended Resources: Janine mentioned so many incredible people in the research/scientific fields! Here are a few, plus ways to connect with her and her co-founder, Joanne De Luca: Dr. Jeffery Thompson: Healing the body through mind, heart, soul and spirit Dr. John Beaulieu: BioSonic Repatterning Connect with Janine and her partner, Joanne, on their website! Check out Janine & Joanne’s books, Tuning Into Frequency and Hacking Immortality, as well as their Alice in Futureland Podcast You can also follow Janine & Joanne on Instagram and LinkedIn! For more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here. You can also subscribe to us on Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio, or Spotify!
42 minutes | 12 days ago
Episode 54 – The Healing Power Of Music (ft. Tim Ringgold)
In this episode of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, Marisa connects with Tim Ringgold MT-BC—a speaker, author, and music therapist—to discuss the healing power of music. In Episode 54, they discuss pain and healing, high and low moments of life, and how music (or whatever else we listen to) can become a powerful catalyst for energy, healing, and self-love. Highlights from the Episode: [1:45] “Music was just this wonderful expression, it was this form of entertainment, education… but it wasn’t really until I hit rock bottom that I really let the real power of music be revealed.” [2:45] “I’m twenty-two. It’s April 18th, 1995, and while I’m at a concert (ironically, shouting my head off to music), about ten minutes away, my five best friends were just murdered.” [3:50] “No amount of drugs, alcohol, porn food… like, I’d tried all of it, I’d stack behaviors to try to numb the pain. Nothing worked all week. But the music did. And since that moment, basically, I dedicated my life to helping others reach for music in their lowest and toughest times.” [6:15] “Grief is qualitative, not quantitative.” [7:20] “I think that’s just how we are, as a culture. We don’t know what to do with it [grief]. And complex grief, of course, then we just bury because no one talks about it. No one wants to share it. And we live in such a happy-obsessed culture that we don’t want to process it. But that doesn’t mean it goes away; it’s just a scab. So then you have something else happen later and it triggers the unprocessed grief from before on top of the current grief.” [8:05] “Sometimes life sends you such a challenge you can’t ignore it, and you can’t pretend, and you can’t attempt to rely on your existing coping skills to solve the current problem because the problem is literally too intense.” [9:00] “Our body changes gear almost instantly when processing music.” [9:30] “Think about the time music saved you – and automatically people have a story… This is a very common experience. We have all been the recipient of the transformative power, the healing power of music.” [10:25] “How do you use music, not to just entertain yourself, but to really get by? How has music helped you get through? How has music helped you get over, or get past, or get beyond?” [10:40] “What’s beautiful is that my music does the same thing for me as your music does for you.” [12:20] “For me… music has always been such a release. I don’t have to put on a front, I don’t have to take care of anybody, I don’t have to look, or feel, or act, or be a certain way. I’m able to just show up and listen and that’s such a weight lifted. And with the pandemic, not having the ability to do that in the same capacity… it’s just so different.” [13:20] “The live music is the energy that the artists are physically just generating through the music that we, as the audience, feel in that moment. Because we are in the same time and the shared space. It’s a shared moment. And being human is a shared experience. So there’s this humanness in the collective giving and receiving and music for the audience, and then the audience giving it back.” [15:30] “The psychological effects of engaging in live music-making. It creates an altered state of consciousness for the body. It doesn’t just regulate the nervous system and bring it to a relaxed state. It creates a transcendent state.” [21:20] “Music is this unconditional, authentic voice in our life. And so we trust it, oftentimes when we don’t trust people. That connection is still alive and strong, and it’s really important right now for people to reach for their music, and stay connected, one-on-one, with their music.” [25:20] “Our screens are designed to capture and keep our attention for longer and longer periods of time. So what happens when we get stressed? We reach for something. That’s the stress response. We want to self-soothe. And so screens are the easiest way to self-soothe.” [26:50] “Let’s reach for music instead. Let’s go on a fifteen-minute, guided journey. The slow-tempo music will slow down your nervous system. The prompts will take you back to someplace where your nervous system was at a peak state, you’ll experience it like it’s reality, and you’ll come back at your best.” [30:05] “We use music as an escape, but we don’t use it all the time intentionally.” [31:40] “Perhaps thinking about music in this different way and using it as a vehicle for healing, as a vehicle for a different mindset could be really powerful.” [33:25] “You don’t need to be musical, you don’t need to consider yourself a musician. But when you bring the music on center stage, even as a fan, and the music takes the stage – that can just be, in the moment, what you need.” [33:50] “Think of your music as a part of your self-care toolkit.” [38:30] “How are we being intentional with what we have? Maybe it’s different, maybe it sucks, maybe it’s incredibly difficult… but how can we be intentional with what we have? With people? With relationships? With music?” [39:00] “How can we be active listeners? How can we music as a tool rather than something in the background?” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/The-Healing-Power-of-Music-with-Tim-Ringgold.mp4 Recommended Resources: Check out Tim’s website to learn more about the healing power of music! While you’re there, sign up for the free “Relaxation Vacation!” Take a listen to his Podcast and follow him on Instagram & Facebook! For more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here. You can also subscribe to us on Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio, or Spotify!
27 minutes | 2 months ago
Episode 53 – Building Dreams & Keeping Momentum (ft. Nastassia Ponomarenko)
In this episode of VulnerABILITY, Marisa connects with Natassia Ponomarenko, the twenty-something CEO of NastyFit & Founder of Connectful to talk about building dreams and keeping momentum as a young, female entrepreneur. All before age twenty-five, Natassia has created two successful businesses, created space for business owners to connect both virtually and in-person, and has broken barriers (and glass ceilings) everywhere. Highlights From the Episode: [2:00] “Age does not matter. You can start something great when you’re fifteen [or] when you’re fifty — it really doesn’t matter.” [4:15] “I just wanted to be my own boss… wanted to create my own things. I had some money saved up, so I just started.” [6:15] “It’s really, really important to surround yourself with people who share the same mindset that you have, people who are equal to you mindset-wise… and people who are better than you so you can learn from them as well.” [7:50] “You want to find other people who ‘get it’ and are aligned in the mission.” [9:45] “That’s the differentiator between who actually achieves something or who dreams but doesn’t actually turn them into actions… It’s action.” [10:45] “Write it out. Write out what you want to do, because even doing that will help you. Even doing that will set you off to the next stepping stone.” [11:30] “A) Write down exactly what you want to start. B) Start executing. I think from A to B, what people miss, is the ‘Googling’ part. I think a lot of people don’t take advantage of Google.” [12:15] “All of the information is already out there and I think that people just aren’t using their resources because honestly, if you had a great enough drive, you would execute.” [12:45] “Keep the momentum going because when you take the next step, and then the next step, and the next, you start building momentum, which starts creating into a habit, which starts creating discipline for yourself. And that’s what’s really important to do otherwise you’re going to fall off and never actually end up pursuing it.” [14:40] “There [are] thousands of other people without mentors, millions of other people without it — millions, thousands — of successful people who have done it without any help. So what makes you think that you need somebody to help you out?” [15:30] “Nobody can coach you through it if you’re not really committed to wanting to do it in the first place.” [15:35] “Mentorship is not hand-holding. At all.” [15:50] “You don’t want to be a carbon-copy of somebody else’s journey.” [21:30] “Here’s another reminder that you have to rest in order to be productive. You have to stop in order to fill your cup back up in order to keep going. It’s a constant cycle of giving yourself the energy to keep going.” [26:40] “Plan out your week on Sunday night. Your week really starts on Sunday; it does not start on Monday. If you think it starts on Monday, then you’ve kind of already lost half your day.” Recommended Resources/Link: If you’d like to connect with Nastassia, you can follow her on Instagram, or follow the accounts: NastyFit and Connectful! To learn more about Nastassia’s businesses, you can find them here: NastyFit & Connectful. You can also download the Connectful app! Head to our main page for more episodes of VulnerABILITY!
27 minutes | 4 months ago
Episode 52 – Embrace The Shift (ft. Deena Von Yokes)
What does it mean to ’embrace the shift’? In this episode of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, host Marisa Donnelly welcomes Deena Von Yokes, founder of Studio Savvy Salon in San Diego, California to talk about overcoming obstacles and leaning into change (especially in the wake of COVID-19). Deena, like many business owners during the pandemic, has faced pain, frustration, and the unexpected. In this episode, she candidly speaks about her experiences and what she’s learned. She also shares advice for others who may be feeling disconnected or looking to leave their comfort zones. Highlights From the Episode: [4:40] “I’m starting to recognize that in order to grow my business and have it grow into a path that really makes sense, and helps others, and trains others, is to get myself out from behind the chair more.” [6:00] “People are going to leave… nine years, two years, whatever it is. They’re going to move into a new spectrum for them. And you need to keep being a good mentor and good trainer and bringing new ones in.” [6:15] “There are so many options you can do with your career. If don’t like one option, there’s another.” [6:50] “For the longest time, I felt I needed to choose an avenue and stick with it. But what I’ve learned, recently, is that it’s good to try all those different things and see what you like. And sometimes even do multiple things (within reason, of course).” [7:20] “Sometimes it’s just good to try everything… and then you’ll figure it out.” [8:15] “I think that the biggest thing is to continue to look for inspiration in your industry.” [12:20] “It’s a testament to you as a leader if you’re having people leave and create their own businesses. [If that happens], then you were obviously leading in a great way. Enough that somebody says, ‘Yeah, I can do this, too.'” [13:10] “I’m a firm believer that there’s power in numbers, and when you work as a team, you can create these amazing things that you would not be able to do on your own.” [14:25] “I am all about energy breeds energy, and I want to be around people so that we can keep inspiring one another.” [14:40] “[Solo] energy is great, but there’s something to be said for the energy of community.” [21:00] “Things aren’t always going to go our way. And there’s always going to be something good and new that comes out of it. Sometimes we just have to shift and look at it from a different angle.” [21:30] “You don’t have to make people wrong in order to make a shift in your life.” [22:45] “For anyone who’s listening and wants to make a change, if they’re trying to leave somewhere, leave with love. You don’t have to leave with finding something wrong and then [thinking] it’s easier to go.” [23:40] “You were where you were for a certain amount of time, and that has value, even if it doesn’t fit anymore.” [25:00] “If you go and dig really deep, we all have that fighting human spirit in us, and we can pick up all the pieces.” [26:50] “Look for transformation in your life because it’s definitely there.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Episode-52-Embrace-The-Shift-Video.mp4 To listen to more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
46 minutes | 5 months ago
Episode 51 – The Naked Truth (ft. Dan Munro)
What does it mean to be truly vulnerable? To show and be who you really are? These are the guiding questions for Episode 51 of VulnerABILITY, where host Marisa Donnelly welcomes Dan Munro, coach and author of The Naked Truth to talk about honesty and aligning with your true self. In a world so hell-bent on keeping secrets and running from pain, Dan is determined to break down barriers and help people see (and connect with) the core of themselves. Highlights of the Episode: [2:00] “The whole book is about revealing who you are – in a sense being ‘naked’ psychologically.” [3:30] “When I say ‘nude’ or ‘vulnerable,’ I’m really talking about shamelessness – this revealing what you want to hide, revealing what you don’t think other people want to hear or see. It’s really important for us to reveal that stuff if we want to have high self-confidence, [and] if we want to show people who we really are.” [4:15] “The only reason we would label [secrets].. the ‘worst,’ or ‘bad,’ or ‘wrong’ is because we’ve hidden them. It’s the nature of hiding things that turns it into shame.” [4:50] “You know you’re shameless about something when it feels the same to talk about it as it does to talk about what you had for breakfast [or] what the weather is like today – that neutral emotional connect with it.” [5:50] “We think that whatever we’re hiding is really big deal, but most people wouldn’t agree with us because they haven’t spent a lifetime hiding it.” [6:50] “The more you are willing to talk about [your pain], the more you find healing… Bringing it to the open allows for healing and allows others to resonate with it as well, and say, ‘Oh, you know I’ve done something like that or I’ve gone through something like that, too. And now that you’ve talked about it openly, I have less shame. And now we’re healing together.” [7:00] “People think a connection is based on good times… that’s not what deep connection is built on. Deep connection is based on revelation.” [8:40] “That ‘not good enough’ story that plagues us – we create that by hiding things about ourselves. We’re the ones who decide something’s not good enough by keeping it a secret… See, if you share it, it must be good enough because it’s being shared.” [10:05] “If you can’t fully acknowledge it and get rid of that underlying secret, how do you truly heal from it? Well, you don’t.” [13:30] “I feel like people have stories that are worth sharing, and the more we can bring them to the light, the more we grow collectively.” [13:45] “How do you really connect with people unless you’re willing to share where you’re coming from?… If we don’t challenge ourselves to share those things, we miss out on the depth of what life has to offer.” [16:15] “Every time we pretend, other people see us do that. They think it’s the truth and that puts pressure on them to pretend even further themselves. And we kind of bounce off each other in this way.” [18:10] “This is where our loneliness comes from. This is where presure comes from. This is where not feeling good enough comes from. This is imposter syndrome, where you pretend to be strong than you actually are and then you feel like you have to live up to it. We’re doing all of this to ourselves by just the tiniest of white lies, just a little bit of hiding.” [20:15] “We want to show our best selves, and while it’s okay to want to show our best selves, there’s the element of – What happens off the screen? And is that ever being acknowledged?” [25:50] “You just let people polarize away from you with honesty.” [26:15] “Ultimately, people-pleasing is the core of the issue. We’re raised to make other people feel good and comfortable. And we feel good and comfortable when we feel good and comfortable. And we have this constant pressure to never ruin that.” [33:15] “What we can control is our behavior, including how honest we choose to be.” [33:20] “Would you rather be positive or real? Because you’re going to have to choose between those two.” [34:20] “We expect other people to be real with us, to share what’s really going. We expect them to be humans with faults and weaknesses. And yet we hold ourselves to [these] impossibly high standards. And only ourselves.” [37:10] “Talk about how hard it is to be honest first.” [38:45] “You make a list of all the things you hide, and every day you try to cross one off the list. Choose one, tell somebody, cross it off. And do that until the list is empty… It might take you the rest of your life. You might not ever empty the list. But everything you take off this list and put in the ‘Expressed Already’ category…the more weight that comes off your shoulders.” [40:10] “I started with safe people. I practiced with my friends, and family, and the coworkers I trusted.” [40:55] “One brick at a time you just rebuild your life.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Ep.-51-The-Naked-Truth.mp4 Recommended Resources: Check out Dan’s book, The Naked Truth: Using Shameless Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections and Integrity. You can also get connected with Dan on his website, The Bro Jo or by
23 minutes | 5 months ago
Episode 50 – Becoming 1% More Courageous (ft. Judith Martinez)
In this episode of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, Marisa Donnelly connects with Judith Martinez, Founder & CEO of In Her Shoes, and passionate thought leader committed to helping women recognize where they can grow by asking the question, “What would you do if you were just one percent more courageous?” In this powerful back-and-forth, Marisa asks deep questions and Judith shares about her fears, her catalysts to change, and her ‘why’ behind building this platform, as well as where she plans to go next. Highlights From The Episode: [1:40] “Everything that we do and what we stand for is truly providing the modern woman a community for courage, to genuinely live and create a life that they love, one act of courage at a time.” [2:00] “What would you do if you were just one percent more courageous?” [3:50] “In Her Shoes takes on that second angle of yes, thinking about other people and what is it like to be in their shoes, but also, too, sometimes I think we forget what it’s like to be in our own shoes and our best future selves in this moment.” [5:40] “I finally got the yes I had been chasing all my life only to realize that, when I was confronted with this yes, I just wanted to say no.” [6:35] “If I wasn’t so afraid, what would I really want to do? And that’s really the beginnings of what really lead to In Her Shoes.” [5:50] “Who are you when you’re not following that path anymore? …That’s a scary place to be and an even scarier thing to admit.” [8:45] “Closing the door on law school and what I thought I needed to be in the world really opened up a whole new world of possibility of In Her Shoes and so many other things that I didn’t know about.” [9:45] I think the scary part was bundled up into this big ‘yes’ I was chasing. What happens when you read that quote-on-quote ‘success’ and yet, you don’t feel the feelings that you’re told you should be feeling when you’re quote-on-quote ‘successful’… [There was] a lot of pivoting and redefining, What does success look like for me? But also how do you encourage and foster that courage for others to ask that question for themselves?” [12:00] “I think a lot of the most valuable learning for us is unlearning. Unlearning these definitions or these certain paradigms we’re told to operate in.” [12:15] “The catch-22 of the question of ‘What would you do if you were just one percent more courageous?’ is just as much as that answer could change, every time you practice and build those courage muscles, that thing that scares you grows, too. Because your courage grows bigger.” [13:05] “Success, for me, looks like building a legacy of In Her Shoes. What does this provide for young girls and women fifty years down the line, even? What’s possible with this work? …A fear that couples that is, ‘Is this really attainable?'” [13:10] I think that [it’s] a very human experience, to doubt your capacity for actually being able to enact change or to make a difference.” [18:10] “We say our work happens in the in-between moments. In the split-second decisions is where In Her Shoes really lives.” [23:00] “Courage doesn’t have to be a huge leap. Sometimes it can really just be taking that very first step, and moving forward, and trusting that the path will work out.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Episode-50-Becoming-1-More-Courageous-ft.-Judith-Martinez..mp4 Recommended Resources: Connect with and join the In Her Shoes “12 Days of Courage” (Dec 10-21) to redefine what giving means this year through courageous conversations and self-care activities. The goal is to give to yourself during this holiday season! [You can learn more here]. Follow In Her Shoes website or connect on social media: Instagram, Facebook, and Judith’s personal Instagram page. To listen to more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
31 minutes | 6 months ago
Episode 49 – Authenticity & Purposeful Leadership (ft. Lara Schmoisman)
In Episode 49 of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, host Marisa Donnelly welcomes Lara Schmoisman, the relentless and unapologetic and Founder & CEO of The Darl, to talk about authenticity and purposeful leadership. Lara is originally from Argentina and shares the ups and downs of starting her own business and why she resonates with the term ‘leader’ over boss. Highlights From The Episode: [1:40] “I… believe [vulnerability] is [to] be empathetic in how you relate to others and be able to show feelings and emotions and share those with others.” [3:20] “You need to grow [your business], you need to let it bloom.” [4:10] “You need to lead, in anything you do, with intention and with a plan.” [5:50] “There’s a huge difference between a boss and being a leader. Part of the leadership is to know the culture of your group, who they are, and what they’re about. If you don’t know that, how can you lead them? If you don’t know the strengths and the weaknesses of each person, how can you help them improve? Part of the job of the leader is to be a mentor.” [6:45] “I don’t like the word ‘boss.’ I prefer to be a leader. I am proud of being a leader.” [6:50] “The ‘boss’ is basically someone who barks orders and pays checks, pays money for services. And a leader is someone who is there emotionally for their tribe, is leading them with intention, that is communicating. The leader can read between the lines and understand because they get to know each one in their tribe to see where they’re struggling or recognize, ‘Are you okay?'” [7:35] “That’s, for me, the definition of leadership: being able to teach and to lead your tribe into a better place.” [8:10] “Even the words themselves: lead vs. boss. Boss has the connotation of ‘I’m going to tell you what to do.’ Whereas ‘lead’ is more about ‘Where are we going and can I direct us there?’ It has the growth built into it. You’re not just telling somebody what to do from a higher-up place, you’re leading others to follow and/or to walk with you.” [9:00] “I’m the owner of the company, and I’m no the boss of anyone. I don’t manage anyone. We collaborate. Each one in the team has a role and each role is important and has a point of view.” [9:15] “Working together and sharing ideas – that really is the core of what business and work should be – a bouncing of ideas, relationship-building, growing as a group as opposed to individuals on separate paths.” [9:20] “That’s what makes a tribe – the beliefs – and we all believe in the same thing. [11:00] “There seems to be a phenomenon in the last few years… that people have what’s called ‘FOMO: Fear of Missing Out’ because they believe information is power. Information is not power. The only thing you can do with information is if you know what to do with it.” [11:20] “There [are] so many people in work cultures that feel they need to know more, know what everyone is doing in order to get ahead. Instead of really using the information they need to do their task right.” [11:50] “We’re taking in all of this information because we think, somehow, that this information… gives us value or gives us an advantage over somebody else or something else.” [12:40] “It’s not about knowing more, it’s about how can we work together. It’s about relationships, really.” [13:05] “In marketing, everything we need to do has a conversion. We need to have a goal. And I’ve found that there are a lot of people who are not thinking about the goal.” [13:45] “If you’re putting something on social media to entertain, you have to think not only about the action-reaction, but what is the connection you can build?” [14:15] “We’re not just sharing information, we’re sharing it with purpose.” [16:30] “You can pivot your story. It all depends [on] how you see it and the point of view.” [17:50] “I think you just have to come to terms with who you really and not who you want to be. This is what I have and this is what I have to work with, and not try to be something or someone that you’re not.” [18:30] “You have to struggle with those things, but also, you know what, you can say: ‘This is who I am. Take it or leave it.'” [19:35] “We’re just too concerned [about] what the other is going to think about us, or if we say the wrong thing and what they’re going to think about that.” [26:15] “My clients need to be trendsetters, not trend followers. And that’s my job in marketing… to set new trends and create new things for them.” [27:00] “Life is full of people doing the same thing. We have to figure out how to stand out and create meaning.” [29:00] “If you’re not willing to be vulnerable in your personal relationships, or with your clients, or whatever it is – how are you going to grow?” [29″35] “There’s a new trend that because of time you earn things, and in my book, you just earn it through effort.” [32:10] “‘Unstuck’ yourself; you can do it! It’s up to you. It’s your choice to let go and say, ‘This is who I am and I can go for it.’ If there’s something that’s been in your mind long enough, it’s because it’s there to stay and you want to do it. So you should act on it. And nobody will do it for you.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/Episode-49-Authenticity-Purposeful-Leadership.mp4 Recommended Resources: Lara is the founder of The Darl (boutique marketing agency), and host of the Coffee No. 5 Podcast; you can check out my featured episode right here. She’s also the host of two Facebook Groups: one in Spanish and one in English. You can connect with Lara on Facebook and Instagram. To listen to more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
36 minutes | 6 months ago
Episode 48 – The Self-Love Journey: Honoring Your Inner Diva (ft. Jacqueline Ortiz)
In this episode of VulnerABILITY, Marisa dives into a deep conversation with Jacqueline Ortiz, the self-proclaimed ‘Self-Love Diva’ who shares actionable tips and advice for loving your inner child and finding peace in your identity. Among guiding women towards clarity with their inner feelings and desires, Jacqueline also talks about how the vibe you portray attracts the love you desire. Highlights From The Episode: [1:00] “It’s all about falling deeply in love with yourself.” [1:10] “Your skin is the largest organ in your body. You might as well get used to it and fall in love with yourself. And that is what actually attracts everything you want into your life. Not just attracts a quality man, but attracts abundance and happiness and joy.” [2:05] “I’m really about teaching women how they could really empower themselves to feel good about themselves and feel really good in their own skin.” [3:10] “People only show their best selves on social media. I get it, I mean, who doesn’t want to show their best selves? But what are we missing behind the scenes? The truth about people’s messy self-discovery?” [3:20] “Vulnerability is connection. Because when we open up and we become vulnerable, we really connect with our inner selves… but we also connect with other people. Vulnerability is currency; it’s connection. And connection, to me, is currency.” [3:45] “When we peel off the layers and the masks, and we’re just vulnerable and authentic, that opens up communication because then the other person also feels free to open up. And if we can be brave enough to open up and be vulnerable—wow. What a world we’ll be living in.” [4:15] “When we are vulnerable, that is when we truly grow and connect with others.” [7:00] “It’s so powerful, how, even though we are going through this ‘perfect storm’ [COVID-19] as you said, there’s still so many beautiful things that are coming out of it, especially in terms of the connections we have with others and the way people are really leaning on one another. That, to me, is so powerful that even in the midst of so much frustration and financial struggles and fear, that people are saying, ‘Well, I want to learn how to love myself and others better.'” [7:55] “Some of the people that have the most issues with staying home and being isolated are the people who are really afraid to look within.” [8:20] “It’s so important, so vital right now, to take this time to deeply, deeply connect in a very profound way with your inner self. What it is that you’re feeling? What do you want? How do you want to transform your life going forward? And use this time to evolve.” [8:35] “I believe what isn’t growing is dying, so it’s time for you to grow and evolve and to really tap into your inner essence and where you want to go moving forward, what direction?” [9:20] “Stare at yourself in the mirror with your eyes and really look at yourself and ask what is it that you’re feeling?” [9:40] “There’s an inner part of you, the inner child that’s scared right now.” [10:10] “Put your hands to your heart and really close your eyes and take a deep breath, and breathe into that part of you that feels scared and isolated.” [10:45] “Emotions are like two-year-olds… not going to go away until you stop what you’re doing.” [12:20] “Take a deep breath and relax, and you will see that your emotional triggers will just calm down a lot.” [13:40] “Until you say, ‘Okay, what am I feeling? Let me feel it.’ You don’t really get anywhere…If we saw our emotions like we saw our children, things that we have to handle, and let ourselves feel, and acknowledge, then maybe that would really reshape how we are talking to ourselves. ” [15:55] “‘I am’ are the most powerful words on the planet in any language you speak because when you say, ‘I am’ you are taking a stance, you’re making a declaration, you’re identifying with it. It becomes a way of your being.” [17:25] “There’s so much healing that comes in that self-reflective process.” [17:40] “We’re so forward-driven and we just try to get through things. And we don’t always take the time to say, ‘Hey, I’m overwhelmed, I’m sad, I’m frustrated, I’m angry, I’m tired.’ You know, whatever it is. We don’t really let ourselves feel those emotions because we’re so quick to get to the next thing.” [18:25] “I think the most important investment on the planet is your investment in YOU.” [19:45] “Once you start falling in love with yourself and you keep building and cultivating and nurturing that relationship with yourself, you will see that your energetic vibration will absolutely shift. Your mind will shift. Because when you start falling in love with yourself, you’ll start talking to yourself in a different way. You’ll start thinking in a more positive way, and thoughts are really things. It’s all about energy.” [21:40] “The glass has the same amount of water whether you want to say it’s half-empty or half-full. But if you’re looking at it half-full, you’re almost there as opposed to ‘you have such a long way to go.’ And it’s the same glass.” [22:45] “I really believe you won’t find a high-quality sense of self-love and that amazing, healthy relationship until you learn to love yourself. Because you’re looking at love like you’re giving to get. But when you’re full, really full of yourself, full of joy, full of love to give—abundance, overflowing—that’s when you’re giving just to give. With no agenda, no scarcity mentality, just giving.” [23:35] “When you’re giving from that [abundance] people receive in a different way. They don’t feel obligated, they don’t feel resentment, they don’t feel need or clinginess, or they don’t feel like they need to run away because they’re being pushed. And when you give that type of love, you will receive that type of love in return because it’s a different vibration.” [24:27] “I’m already full, so I’m not looking for all the things that I think I lack in somebody else. I’m looking for somebody who is a partner.” [24:50] “I think we’ve been conditioned to seek our ‘other half,’ or look for that person who’s going to ‘complete us.’ So we’re chasing and looking for all these things we think we don’t have. But it’s like, what if we took that energy, [and] poured it into ourselves so that the relationship and people that we’re attracting are the people who meet us halfway as opposed to imbalance?” [27:15] “It’s so easy for us to say, ‘Yeah, I know what self-love is.’ And intellectually, conceptually we might. But it’s different to actually feel it.” [29:15] “Allowing yourself and giving yourself the space to acknowledge what you’re feeling: good, bad, and in-between, as a starting point. And saying, ‘How am I feeling right now? What do I need?” [32:15] “It’s so important to teach your child how to love themselves by showing them how you love yourself.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/The-Self-Love-Journey-ft.-Jacqueline-Ortiz.mp4 Recommended Resources: Jacqueline mentions her free eBook, and you can snag a copy right here! Connect with Jacqueline on her website and Facebook page. To listen to more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
24 minutes | 6 months ago
Episode 47 – The Body Fixes Itself (ft. Ellie Fabra)
In this episode of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, Marisa Donnelly welcomes Ellie Fabra, holistic nutrition and health coach, to share about her journey into purposeful, whole-body healing. Both Marisa and Ellie share about their personal health struggles, their ups and downs, and why modern society fails to truly recognize the connection between the choices we make and the way we feel. Ellie shares important notes about listening to yourself and leaves listeners with a positive reminder: the body fixes itself. Highlights From The Episode: [1:35] “Imagine that your body is a symphony, if the first violin is out of tune, the whole symphony is going to sound fun and out of wack. It’s the same with the body. I see the body as an integrative thing. I don’t see people as separate systems.” [2:50] “A lot of the illnesses that people experience have a root in bad gut health or nutritional deficiencies.” [5:35] “It’s a really overwhelming feeling when your body gives up on you.” [6:10] “What was going on with me had to do with my bad habits, bad stress-management, and my nutrition.” [8:50] “I wanted to put together a foolproof plant to troubleshoot myself. And I’ve replicated that same system with other people… and it works.” [9:10] “I think one of the biggest things you can gift someone is to not live in chronic pain, either physical or emotional.” [11:10] “Making the connection between nutrition and the quality of your life will change your life forever.” [11:25] “Imagine that you’re a car—you can be a Mercedes, you can be a Beemer, you can be a super fancy car—but you decide not to take care of your transmission, you don’t change your battery, you don’t give the fluid that it needs. It will run for a while, but it will stop running.” [12:10] “We have come to believe, in modern society, that we can eat whatever we want and it’ll be okay. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.” [14:20] “It’s like a snowball. Imagine it starts really little, and then as you progress through life, the snowball becomes bigger and bigger… and that’s where a lot of chronic illnesses start to happen.” [15:35] “The hardest thing is that sometimes we don’t have the answers. We’re going from doctor to doctor saying, ‘I want an answer.'” [17:15] “I need to pay attention to what my body is saying. And I think so many of us, either don’t make the connections or we don’t listen. And we think, ‘Oh we’re fine. I’ll just deal with this work stress. I’m fine, I’m fine.’ But realistically we’re not.” [17:30] “People have to come to a place where they’re really uncomfortable to actually make the changes. If it’s not painful enough, if it’s not annoying enough, in my experience, people won’t make the sacrifices that will actually bring the change about. People have to really, really want it.” [18:10] “We live in our heads a lot. We are distracted constantly, we are being bombarded with information. And people have very short attention spans. People want to run on coffee, and unfortunately, that doesn’t work.” [19:35] “There is hope. The body fixes itself. It’s not a lost cause. There is always something you can do to improve your quality of life.” [20:10] “You have the power to change your life. It’s actually something tangible that I absolutely believe in. No one should have to live in pain or be uncomfortable.” [20:45] “I think one of the main things that I’ve learned from this experience is not giving up—persevering.” [21:45] “I think the first thing is to recognize that you can’t go on like this. And then decide that this is the time that you’re going to address the issues, find your answers.” [23:25] “There is absolutely hope. The body fixes itself. Everything is temporary, even when it seems the darkest, the sun always comes out.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/The-Body-Fixes-Itself-ft.-Ellie-Fabra-VulnerABILITY-Podcast.mp4 Recommended Resources: To learn more about holistic health and how to get started, head to Ellie’s website. You can follow Ellie on Instagram, right here. For more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
30 minutes | 6 months ago
Episode 46 – Coping Skills & Finding The Good (ft. Janine Halloran)
In this episode of VulnerABILITY, Marisa welcomes Janine Halloran, founder of Coping Skills for Kids, to talk about moving through challenging times, navigating quarantine, and supporting children through finding (and celebrating) the good. Janine is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor with over 15 years of experience helping children and adolescents build coping skills in a variety of settings; including schools, mental health clinics, and in her private practice. Highlights From The Episode: [1:45] “The thing that got me started, actually, [on the path to] being a therapist, was being in therapy myself as a teenager.” [2:50] “When kids were having a hard time, they’d say, ‘Oh, well you have them try deep breaths or you have them take a walk, or you have them take a break’…but when the rubber met the road and I was in placement with kids who were really having big emotions, I said, ‘I’m going to need more than this…I need more tools in my toolbelt.” [3:40] “[It was] a lot of gathering information, gathering what worked well, [and] listening to what my colleagues were telling me.” [4:15] “There’s power in that, for kids, when they can take some ownership and they can realize and recognize that they have good ideas, and they have things that they can do, and they can recognize what works for them and what doesn’t work for them.” [4:45] “What we go through as kids impacts us later in life, for years. And sometimes what we go through as kids, we don’t even recognize as traumatic or difficult…or we don’t have those skills in place to know how to get through it.” [5:15] “[It’s powerful to teach kids], ‘Hey, it’s okay to ask for help and it’s even more empowering to figure out your own ways to help yourself.'” [5:50] “Why should we not encourage our kids to find what works for them, and what is a healthy strategy for them, and what are their triggers? We all need to figure this stuff out; it makes us better humans!” [6:00] “[There is power in] identifying, not only what makes me upset or what makes me feel a certain way, but what can I do about it?” [6:30] “It’s powerful to name your feeling. And then it’s even more powerful when you realize you can do something about it that is healthy and safe.” [7:30] “Kids are in different places throughout the day…and having different emotions throughout the day. You can take a break really easily at home. You can’t necessarily do that in school… So whenever I talk with kids, I say, ‘You have to have a bunch of different coping skills to help you deal with the emotions that you’re experiencing in that moment, where you are, and what’s helpful to you as a person.” [7:50] “Are you the type of kid who really likes to move? Then maybe it makes sense for you to do jumping jacks. Are you the type of kid who loves artistic stuff? Do you love to draw, do you love to create poetry – that’s how you can get some of your emotions out.” [9:40] “One of the silver linings [of COVID-19] is the opportunity for parents to connect, for kids to connect, for families to get together, and also for that downtime, that playing time.” [10:00] “That playing time is huge, and I find that when I play with my kids now—who are almost ten and twelve—that time is so powerful.” [12:30] “You don’t want to do it [technology time] too much, but you also want to utilize it in a way that is helpful. In a way that connects, not disconnects.” [14:00] “I think we need to talk about it. You know, inviting, the questions of the kids. And instead of us coming to them like, ‘I’m so worried about school.’ Instead, hearing what their concerns are.” [14:40] “I think we need to make sure that we’re not putting our negative or our worries on our kids, but actually hearing what their concerns are. Because I think they have different concerns than we think they’re going to have.” [16:50] “No one’s going to be happy [with school reopening changes] but we need to find a way to move through it. And the way through it is through communication.” [18:40] “We have to catch ourselves: ‘That’s my feeling, not their [my child’s] feeling.” [20:00] “Give yourself grace. I always find that when I’m trying to do too much, or when my plate is really full, ior when I’m trying to get a lot accomplished, that’s when my nerves are fried and when it’s hard for me to really relax and see a situation in a more accurate way, or ao positive way.” [21:15] “I need to chill out. I need to step back and find ways to be really present for my kids because it works better when I do that.” [21:50] “It’s okay to be mad about this. Talk about it…It’s weird that you can’t go and hug your cousins. It’s weird that you can’t go to the soccer field…It’s weird, and it stinks, and it’s not fun.” [22:20] “Try to find fun where you can and try to make things more playful and fun where you can. Maybe you picnic in your house. Maybe you camp in your backyard.” [23:20] “Getting creative about stuff and being okay with it not being perfect. It’s not going to be perfect, but to be also grateful [along the way]… Look for the good.” [23:50] “What are the things that are going well? When you pay attention to those things, you start seeing more of those things.” [24:10] “Every day may not be good. But there is good in every day.” [24:35] “Looking for those good moments, looking for those moments of connection, those moments of spark and of joy that you can find, wherever they are. Even if they’re tiny.” [25:20] “Sometimes I need to teach myself to rest so that I can unconsciously teach my kiddo to rest.” [29:00] “I just want to encourage families, especially adults — don’t’ forget about yourself. Make sure that you have a little fun doing something that you enjoy, too. It can’t just be about only focusing on the kids. You matter, too. You should be on your list. And you should be doing something fun.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Episode-46-Coping-Skills-Finding-The-Good-ft.-Janine-Halloran.mp4 Recommended Resources: To learn more about Janine’s work, you can visit her on her website, Facebook or Instagram pages. You can also check out her podcast episode where I share some of my thoughts! And check out her Coping Skills for Kids Workbook! For more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
28 minutes | 7 months ago
Episode 45 – From Approval To Authenticity (ft. Jacinta Gandy)
In this episode of VulnerABILITY, host Marisa Donnelly jumps into a conversation about facing fear, stepping away from the need for approval, and pursuing your dreams with Jacinta Gandy, founder of Social Circle. As these two business owners discuss their ups and downs along the road, they speak candidly on the need for authenticity and taking each part of the (often crazy!) journey one step at a time. Highlights From The Episode: [3:30] “What I didn’t know at the time [of starting a business], is that I was going to embark on a very personal journey and go through a lot of self-exploration. And that journey was necessary in order for me to launch my business.” [4:20] “The reason I’m so passionate about self-empowerment is because, you know, having a successful business—although there [are] tons of books, and courses, and things that we can learn from a practical standpoint—a lot of our ability to believe in ourselves and have confidence and have a network of people who can tell us to go for it.” [5:45] “I think people always say, ‘You can be whatever you want when you grow up.’ But as we grow and evolve, we learn (or at least we have experiences) that force us to believe that’s not the case. And so, when someone says, ‘Follow your passions!’ or ‘Do the things you’re passionate about!’ a lot of times that seems very foreign to what we’ve been doing our whole lives.” [6:20] “We grow up believing that it’s so important to be secure and steady. And then being an entrepreneur or being a business owner is sometimes the exact opposite of that. Sometimes you’re just fighting through the mess to…stay afloat as you build, and as you grow, and make mistakes, and figure yourself out. It’s kind of a counterintuitive experience but it’s one of the most powerful because you’re really learning to align yourself with what matters.” [7:15] “I also struggled with the need for approval. I wanted to make the people in my family, and in my circle that loved me…I always wanted their approval. And so I think that was another reason why I was scared to launch my business because I kept going to people who weren’t in an entrepreneurial mindset and saying, ‘I want to do this. What do you think?’ And they were like, ‘I don’t understand.'” [7:55] “Once I realized this isn’t about me, [and] I don’t’ need to have these people’s approval, I just have to step out and believe in myself and do it… then you realize those people end up being your biggest cheerleaders.” [8:35] “That need for approval or acceptance is so deep-rooted in us as humans. So to get past it and move along the path that you’re supposed to, is really hard.” [9:00] “It was just one step at a time. I don’t think the fear ever truly went away or goes away because as business owners there’s always going to be new hurdles and new challenges. There’s always going to be new things that push you out of your comfort zone.” [11:15] “Your brand just validates the legitimacy of you. People actually care about you the person and your story, and your experience. And a lot of times, because we know that story, we’re like ‘Eh, that’s boring. Nobody cares.’ But the more you put that out there, front and center, the more it really allows people to build a deeper connection with you and take things to the next level, where they are, ‘I want to work with YOU.'” [12:20] “You, as an entity—whether you are a brand, or business, or whatever—people want the connections. They want to know the face behind the Instagram posts. They want to know the real stuff.” [12:55] “I think, sometimes, we get caught up sometimes with social media, and the search for approval, and all these other outside things—the fear, the expectations, [the] ‘how to I compare to other people?’—we get so caught up in that. And we forget that, at the core, being vulnerable and talking about the ups, the downs, the in-betweens, the failures, everything—is what brings people in. And that connection is really the core of what it means to have a business.” [13:55] “I kind of got used to doing the things in my business that I was comfortable with. And that’s what I stuck with for a very long time… It wasn’t until I started working with a coach who said, ‘You have to be more visible.'” [15:15] “Even when I had in my mind, ‘Yes, I’m going to launch the podcast,’ I had to deal with six months of resistance, six months of: Why in the world would I star ta podcast? Who’s going to care? There are millions of podcasts already out there… I made up all the excuses as to why it was a bad idea.” [18:40] “It’s one of the things that people don’t talk about with being an entrepreneur or business owner — sometimes it’s really lonely.” [23:15] “I think it’s helpful for us to keep things in perspective and remember that [Instagram] is just one small moment of a person’s life… No one ever knows the backstory.” [24:50] “You have push against that fear and just go for it. One step at a time… Just think of that first little step, and then take one more, and one more, and one more, and you’ll get there.” [27:40] “It’s all part of the journey. I know the expression is ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway,’ and I know a lot of times that’s easier said than done, but I feel like the major takeaway from this episode is take it one step at a time. You’ll push past that fear and be successful.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/From-Approval-To-Authenticity-ft.-Jacinta-Gandy-—-VulnerABILITY-Podcast.mp4 Recommended Resources: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead — Brené Brown’s book on putting yourself out there and being vulnerable (in business and in life). Marisa’s iFundWomen’s workshop, “Your Digital Voice: How To Create A Compelling Online Brand” The “Hardest Part of Being A Creative (That No One Talks About)” VulnerABILITY Podcast episode Social Circle, Jacinta’s company Hustle with Purpose Podcast, Jacinta’s podcast Marisa’s Hustle with Purpose episode, “How to Build a Business That Fuels Your Passions“ For more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
32 minutes | 7 months ago
Episode 44 – Dyslexia & Changing The Way We Read (ft. Bonnie Shaver-Troup, EdD)
In this episode of the Vulnerability Podcast, host Marisa Donnelly jumps into a discussion with Bonnie Shaver-Troup EdD, founder of Lexend, about education, learning, and changing the way we read. Lexend is a collection of font families intended to improve reading proficiency. In this episode, Marisa and Bonnie share their personal stories and Bonnie offers practical solutions for how to help dyslexic students and struggling readers of all ages. Highlights From the Episode: [2:30] “What I noticed – the common element, obviously – is the struggle with reading. And not just the struggle, but the pain…the shame… the enormous pain that it put on the whole family.” [2:55] “Although I was a trained therapist, I saw that we were not able to truly implement success in the “now.” It was always going to be, ‘Keep doing this and you will get there.’ And yes, that does work. But in the meantime, we’re losing our children.” [3:45] “I started saying, ‘What if it’s print?'” [4:15] “I’m very much a person that believes that we are spiritual beings. I believe that when we ask for something and when we seek to find it, we will find it.” [6:00] “It’s a story of a miracle for all of us in a sense because it doesn’t just work for struggling readers. The fonts really are about the visual field and that it creates ease of reading for virtually everyone.” [7:00] “We have to push back against what’s ‘normal’ to find out what works for us.” [7:05] “As long as we keep looking where we’ve always been, we’re going to find what we already have. We have to step outside the boundaries that we previously considered and look for the variables or the differences that might be outside.” [7:50] “That’s where new ideas come from—from the idea that something that hasn’t been explored yet could be a solution.” [9:00] “People still have all sorts of needs. You can’t make a solution and say, ‘Well, that’s it.’ It has to be implemented within the larger midframe. And that’s what Lexend is. It literally says, ‘Changing the way we read by changing the font.’ It doesn’t mean you don’t have to implement all the other things.” [13:00] “We are offering a solution for someone we may never meet. But they will hear it and it will be their solution.” [17:00] “It was such an impactful experience to recognize that I could create a solution and be a guide for others… I knew that I could never repay what I had been blessed with, but I knew that I could give in the same way.” [20:05] “My son is not dumb. Look beyond these struggles and challenges and see who he is.” [20:40] “Maybe not fixing or offering a solution, but being willing to try. And to show up for people, and to show up for families, and to show up for kids. And to remind them they are not their challenges.” [24:30] “When we present the tool that allows a student to perceive — vision is a perception, it uses the eyes and the brain – when they can perceive the print, they can read the message (the text).” [29:25] “At some point, the ‘now’ will be [easy], and some days you won’t even remember that other time when it was so hard.” [30:10] “The world is so big and so full of opportunity to tell our stories to one another and to share them.” Recommended Resources: Lexend – Changing the way we read This is a collection of fonts to help with reading. Here’s an example of Deca on Google! “Building A Village,” Episode 36 of VulnerABILITY with Jennifer Wildasin on creating solutions and opportunities for dyslexic children. For more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
36 minutes | 8 months ago
Episode 43 – Quarantine Diaries (ft. Marta Gèpe)
Quarantine has changed so much for every single person. In this episode of VulnerABILITY, host Marisa Donnelly welcomes guest and fellow creative, Marta Gepe to share about her book, Quarantine Diaries, and finding inspiration in lockdown. Highlights From the Episode: [2:30] “I journal and I wanted to push myself to see something different in each day.” [3:30] “It just evolved into this urge to help others, to maybe just give them a hand and say, ‘I’m just going through this. And maybe it can help you. And maybe you feel less alone.'” [4:00] “Everybody in every corner of the world is feeling different emotions of loneliness, and fear, and uncertainty, and so feeling out these common connection points is so powerful.” [5:10] “[It was] just taking the step towards helping the way I could and putting myself out there, and just saying ‘This is me and I’m just drawing notes. And maybe it helps you a little bit.'” [5:45] “One of the beautiful things is that kindness has really taken the forefront. Whether people are creating things intentionally for others, or just speaking kindly to one another, or just opening up communication that maybe didn’t exist before—that’s one of the beautiful things.” [6:50] “If I want to make a change and help people out, I’m just going to put myself out there and just bring a little bit of positivity within the darkness that we’re all going through.” [7:35] “We need this energy of ‘it’s alright,’ ‘it’s absolutely fine,’ [and] ‘you can go a little bit mad, that’s absolutely fine.’ But focusing on the light instead of the darkness.” [8:00] “As a writer myself, it’s like, when I’m creating something, I’m creating something with the intention of sharing an experience that I’m facing or have faced in order to help somebody who may be wrestling with the same thing or in order seek an outward connection.” [8:35] “It’s so universal—our desire to want to connect to others and remind ourselves that we’re not alone.” [9:20] “Everybody longs to be connected, and especially in a time when we are forced to be more distanced, it’s just really cool to see how different forms of art or communication are bubbling up underneath the surface to help us create these connections.” [12:15] “That’s one of the really powerful things about when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable and share those inner-most thoughts because it kind of gives a window into our souls and experiences. And that’s what people can connect with the most – is being reminded of light in the darkness. We’re always going to be going through difficult and dark times, but how are we finding that light? How are we seeking that light? How are we creating that light for others? Or, how are we absorbing that light that others have created and then turning it around so that we’re continuing in it? And vulnerability is the core of that.” [13:05] “The whole book is me every day… there’s no bullsh*t. I’m just going to say it. And I’m going to put my day the way it is because it just creates the real deal.” [13:40] “We have… that tendency to protect [ourselves] with these vulnerability shields.” [14:30] “I think right now what we need is to open our hearts and say, ‘I’m feeling this way and maybe you feeling the same way.’ And maybe we feel a little more together in the darkness.” [14:55] “Because we’re all going through so many different emotions right now… it’s so important for us to be honest about our emotions.” [15:20] “I think people need to be reminded of that so often: It’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling. But then, also, what do you do with that?” [15:45] “It’s okay if it’s not [perfect] but that doesn’t mean you can’t still find the light in the darkness. They’re two opposite things. Don’t be ‘toxically’ positive. Don’t talk about how everything’s perfect… We don’t have to be like that, but we can still seek light, and inspiration, and hope.” [16:40] “The lesson I’ve learned is that life is dealing with the unpredictable. It’s upon us to take the chances or to leave them. I choose to take them.” [19:10] “We need control, as humans, to know that we’re safe. That’s part of the human instinct… Finding the blessing within the tragedy. [It] is that life unpredictable, extremely unpredictable, and now we know. And how do we flow with this? Is letting things happen and seeing what comes.” [20:00] “It’s change. And it’s uncomfortable. And it’s really tough. But I think we’re going to get to a point where we just find a little bit of light within that uncertainty.” [21:10] “Yes, I am somebody who values a sense of control because that means I know the direction my life is heading or that means I’m invested in what’s happening next and I want to put my hands into that equation and try to make life become what I’m working so hard for.” [21:35] “There’s a good side to control. But what happens when you lose that control? What happens when life shifts and you’re not able to have that plan?” [22:00] “When things are unpredictable we have to just go with the flow and learn to pick up the pieces where they fall.” [26:40] “It’s surrendering to the unknown but enjoying where we are right now for what it’s worth.” [24:20] “I’ve found rest in being able to create my own sense of work-life balance again in this different work environment… I think, for me, my rest comes in asking for help.” [31:00] “I think it’s one of the blessings of this moment – to pause and slow down – it’s deepening connections with those that you feel connected to… It’s liberating [to think] I’m not alone in this.” [31:40] “We think, ‘I’ll feel liberated when I do it myself because I’m strong.’ But really, it’s the opposite. When we ask for help, we feel liberated because somebody else is carrying that load with us.” [32:20] “The asking for help is strengthening our minds because we feel relieved of all the load that we think we have to carry. And actually, we don’t’ need to. And it allows us to open our hearts and that’s such a strong… way of bonding with people and connecting.” [33:00] “When you open up and say, ‘This is me and this is what I’m going through.’ You’re real. And people can say, ‘Yeah, me too.'” [34:15] “The aim, for me, with the book, was like, I didn’t want to preach to anyone or show that I’m positive because, as you said before, this toxic positivity is not healthy… It’s a challenge in vulnerability I was so willing to take.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Episode-43-Quarantine-Diaries-ft.-Marta-Gepe.mp4 Recommended Resources: Marta’s book, Quarantine Diaries, A story of a lockdown The ‘Toxic Positivity’ Coffee Collective For more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
24 minutes | 8 months ago
Episode 42 – Coming To Terms With Change (ft. Abe Lopez)
In Episode 42 of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, host Marisa Donnelly interviews previous co-host Abe Lopez on loneliness, isolation in quarantine, and coming to terms with change in a post-COVID world. Highlights From The Episode: [2:00] “My mental health really relied solely on spending time with people. It’s something that gave me life and still does… When I stopped doing that, I needed to find a way to come and balance myself out.” [4:20] “To some extent, we can kind of make adjustments. But in the area of mental health, you can’t just do that… It really takes a toll on our day-to-day everything.” [4:45] “It’s [mental health struggles] is something that a lot of people are feeling, but not a lot of people are talking about, especially on social media.” [6:00] “The world is such a bigger place than I will ever understand. Because people are so different and they vary from culture to culture, demographic to demographic..and when you take that all away, in like a weekend, it becomes very difficult to motivate yourself.” [6:15] “I didn’t have any motivation to want to read a book, to want to workout, to want to do all these things. It’s crazy because now would be the perfect time.” [7:05] “It’s wonderful if you can take a break and just relax, but what if you’re in an environment that doesn’t support that? Or that is toxic? Or unhealthy? Or just, you know, you don’t feel like you can be yourself? Or you’re alone?” [7:50] “It’s really hard when you’re by yourself or when you feel isolated to get back into your ‘normal’ headspace. And that’s not a bad thing; it’s not wrong. It’s a very human thing.” [8:50] “When it just stopped, it almost seemed as though I had all the time in the world but no idea of what to do with it. [9:10] “Everything shut down and I had all the time in the world to do what I want but the thing is, now I have no motivation to do it… It’s a weird paradox to find yourself in.” [10:05] “We’re not being truthful about our emotions because we feel guilty for having them. And that’s just wrong.” [10:50] “We’re all our own worst enemies, but realistically, we’re all fighting our own battles of varying degrees.” [11:20] “It’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling. We have to give ourselves permission to feel it [emotions], even if we feel like this is stupid.” [13:05] “Every single day it’s not just a matter of staying home, it’s a matter of waking up every single day and realizing that you’re not living the life that you once were, and you have to come to terms with that.” [15:05] “When this all shifted, it really made me actually take a step back and realize how much I was emptying my cup by always going and doing all of these things. It was taking all of my energy away from things that I didn’t even know it was taking away from… I was always going to these different places and busying myself to the point that I didn’t really make time for me, I didn’t really make time for tasks on my to-do list, or certain friendships.” [16:40] “I need to be really intentional virtually, and in person, and show up for the people who need me and let them show up for me as well in ways that I didn’t do before.” [19:20] “There [are] little things that I miss, but there [are] little things that I’ve come to appreciate more right now.” [23:05] “It sucks that we can’t physically do that [get coffee] but I think there’s a lot of things to be excited about in the way that we can create our own ways to make those meaningful moments.” [23:35] “We’re physically apart and we can’t do the same social things or make those exact same connections, but we can still invest in each other. We can still care about each other. We can still make this time meaningful and offer one another support, even when it’s hard.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/Episode-42-Coming-to-Terms-With-Change-ft.-Abe-Lopez.mp4 To listen to more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here.
19 minutes | 9 months ago
Episode 41 – Take The Fear Out Of Facing Difficult Things (ft. Bruce Matson)
In this episode of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, Bruce Matson, a Stage 4 Follicular Lymphoma survivor, shares his story of faith, positivity, and taking the fear out of facing difficult things by trusting in God. As a long-time Christian, Bruce shares about his faith experience, the ups and downs of being a believer, and how, in the wake of hearing news no one ever wants to be told, he was able to channel his fear into complete trust. Highlights From the Episode: [2:50] “The first thought that went through my mind was: ‘I’m going to be okay. God’s got this.’ I just believed, with all my heart, that it would turn out alright. I just knew that I might have to endure some difficult things…he did tell me about chemotherapy and some things I would need to go through. But the initial gut instinct in my heart said, ‘You’re going to be okay.’ I think it was the faith deeper than me just saying, ‘You need to lean on me [and] know I’m here.’” [4:20] “I just knew that whatever I was going to have to do, I was just going to have to endure something. It might be difficult, but I’m going to do it a day at a time nd eventually that clock’s going to run out to the point that I’m cured or I’m healthy again.” [5:05] “It was that moment that I knew I needed something higher than myself… Through my life to that point, I was very goal-driven and doing things through my own effort, through my own pride, [and through] thinking that I could will things to be. And it hit me immediately: I can’t do this without the Lord.” [6:15] “I went from being a very healthy man to… basically I was brought to my knees.” [7:30] “It’s so easy, when we’re thrown these unexpected moments, to feel like it’s a punishment… so we make up all these things to try to understand and to try to rationalize what’s happening to us.” [8:00] “It’s not a punishment. Pain is a part of our path here on earth, and instead of seeing it as, ‘Oh, what did I do to deserve this?’ and even falling into the victim mentality, it’s [about] trying to get beyond the victim mentality to say, ‘Okay I don’t deserve this—none of us deserve the pain that we go through—but we’re not alone.'” [8:40] “I believe we’re spiritual beings in a physical world. Because I think we’re created in the image of God and we all have a little bit of his spirit and we’re part of his family, but we’re in a fallen world… So yes, things don’t go right in this world. There are going to be bad things that happen, even to good people, but God will see us through.” [9:25] “It takes the fear out of facing difficult things, when you just know that the Lord is with you.” [10:10] “In the business realm [or] business world, fear keeps us from taking those next steps. It keeps us from pursuing our passions. It keeps us stuck. But if we remember that fear, like pain — we can’t control it, but we can accept and we can lean on other things around us—lean on faith, lean on people we love—then it makes it so that we’re not alone.” [10:25] “God doesn’t cause disease, cause us to us be sick. He doesn’t cause the COVID19. But He helps us to deal with it.” [11:10] “The difficult circumstances guided me back to what’s truly important, and that’s faith, family, and friends. The other things are good and important, but they’re not the priority.” [12:00] “I think that pain helps you to focus on what’s important, which can lead you to your purpose.” [12:50] “Going through the illness took away the fear of attempting to share what’s on my heart.” [14:00] “It’s not to diminish the pain or diminish what’s happening, but rather seeing it—on some level—as an opportunity… Finding a means of going through that pain to lead you to a greater purpose or a greater understanding of who you’re meant to be.” [16:20] “When we’re faced with those moments, it’s almost like we have two options: Are we going to let the fear keep us stuck? Or are we going to push against the fear and be motivated to be perhaps braver than we’ve ever been?” [16:20] “I’m going to start to be more vulnerable, I’m going to reach out to people – I think that’s looking at the opportunity of: ‘Where can I be brave?’ And hopefully, we can all learn to do that, not only when it’s crucial and necessary, but even more in our day-to-day.” [19:55] “It’s so important to let go and let God come in and do the work, rather than trying to make it all happen myself.” [20:30] “God created us in His own image. He wants to know us. He wants to have that relationship with us… We’re all created with this void in us that only He can fill.” [22:50] “I know what it’s like to have nothing in the bank account and not know how I’m going to pay the bills. It’s frightening. But you can’t give up. There is a way if you just believe and have faith.” [23:40] “When you’re at that lowest-of-lows, there is really nothing to do but just trust and just allow God to work in and through your life to bring you the people you need, or somehow arrange the finances, or work miracles, or just give you that sense of peace that it will all be okay.” [24:00] “To give it to the Lord [and] to trust – it doesn’t mean you do nothing. But you give your worries to the Lord. You give the anxiousness to the Lord… Because being worried and driving yourself crazy isn’t going to change the situation. It just tears you down.” [25:00] “I just took it a day at a time. I’m going to get through this day. And I’m going to get through another day, and another… And if I could give advice to people suffering with COVID19 and all that: Just take it a day at a time and don’t look so far down that it feels hopeless.” [25:35] “If you can’t do it day by day, do it minute by minute… as you continue forward, it will eventually work itself out, it will eventually get better, things will eventually fall into place.” [27:40] “Even going day by day, it’s not going to be perfect. But you just keep going.” [27:55] “You don’t go through something and then, ‘Oh! Everything’s fine.’ Life is this cycle of up and down. You might get through something, and then BOOM! something else might happen. It’s not because you’re doing anything wrong, or God’s punishing you, or anything like that. It’s just the natural course of life. And so, not hoping that everything will be perfect, but rather knowing that every obstacle will make you stronger and make the next battle, next hurdle, a little bit easier.” [29:30] “I know I’m getting to the end of it. There’s a lot of things in-between, but I’m not going to let that discourage me.” [32:20] “We can relinquish our control, and we can let go and let God come in, and we can trust that things will figure themselves out and get better. But that doesn’t mean we stand still.” [32:50] “Faith is active. It’s not just sitting there, hoping that God will come in, and intervene, and make everything perfect. It’s trusting that He’s got you, but it’s moving forward and saying, ‘I’m ready to battle this thing.'” [33:35] “The movement gives us the action behind the faith, which is the faith.” [34:40] “I believe that we’re all born with a purpose and certain skills and things. We’re all different and unique. But the Lord wants us to seek those things, and pursue those things, and then He’s going to bless those things if we actively pursue [them].” [35:10] “If you don’t trust and lean in, you don’t get those blessings. It’s a call-to-action, really. It’s a part of being a believer is stepping out in faith, especially when it’s hard.” [36:45] “When you’re doing what you’re meant to be doing and God’s working in you and through you, it won’t be so difficult. It will just flow.” [37:55] “You’re most vulnerable in this world when you don’t know your creator.” https://marisadonnelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Episode-41-Take-The-Fear-Out-of-Facing-Difficut-Things-ft.-Bruce-Matson.mp4 Recommended Resources: Bruce’s book, From Goo to God: A Science-Based Defense of Creationism vs. Evolution! You can learn more about Bruce and his story on his website. To listen to more episodes of the VulnerABILITY Podcast, click here!
30 minutes | 9 months ago
Episode 39 – Embracing Your Vulnerability & Loss Of Control (ft. Rabbi Simon Jacobson)
In Ep. 39 of VulnerABILITY, Marisa Donnelly welcomes Rabbi Simon Jacobson, founder of The Meaningful Life Center to discuss embracing your vulnerability.
33 minutes | 10 months ago
Episode 38 – Being In Alignment & Owning The Mess (ft. Ashley Graham)
In Ep. 38 Marisa invites Ashley Graham, publicity expert and founder of Your Brandista, to share about being in alignment and embracing change.
33 minutes | a year ago
Episode 37 – How To Be Intentional With Tech (ft. Bethany Baker)
In Ep.37 Marisa Donnelly speaks with Bethany Baker, Exec. Director of A-GAP, a nonprofit dedicated to teaching people how to be intentional with tech use.
29 minutes | a year ago
Episode 36 – Building A Village (ft. Jennifer Wildasin)
VulnerABILITY Ep 36—Marisa Donnelly welcomes Jennifer Wildasin, a mother & business owner who's passionate about building a village for those with dyslexia.
29 minutes | a year ago
Episode 35 – The Balance Of Logic & Emotions (ft. Dan Hill)
In Ep. 35, Marisa Donnelly welcomes Dan Hill, author and founder of Sensory Logic, to talk about logic and emotions and their roles in our lives.
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