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This episode we’re considering whether or not we’re surrounding ourselves with the right people to support us in having the happy and fulfilling life we desire. In this episode we’ll consider Why it matters so much What we mean by the right people How to deal with the wrong people and What we can do to make sure that we surround ourselves with the right people Womanifest  It’s no boring conference or exhibition – it’s a full-on FESTIVAL! – it’s all about women having fun, learning how to put themselves first, get what they want, surround themselves with other fantastic women and have access to a huge range of learning and expertise that can help them to make changes in their life and feel inspired and empowered. Taking place on the 15th & 16th July at Lady Heyes Park in Cheshire, it’s about bringing everything a woman needs to live the happy, fulfilling and successful life she deserves into one place for an epic weekend of liberating experiences! Last year as well as talks there was a fashion show, a silent disco, a gong bath, a pamper tent, lots of female owned businesses selling their products. The list goes on and on. This year an amazing Little Mix tribute band has been booked for for the brand new entertainment area. There’s also going to be a burlesque class, jewellery making workshops, wim hof ice dipping is back, nude body painting, body positive sessions, confidence classes, loads of different types of yoga & meditations, Fit Camp, gong baths and soooo much more! That really is just a little taste to whet your appetite. I’ll be on the stage in the life lessons tent the morning of Saturday 15th  July and I couldn’t be more honoured or excited to be part of such an amazing event Get your tickets here:  https://buytickets.at/womanifest?ref=clare-w Work with me: Book a Confidence Jump-start – an hour of powerful coaching followed by a week of support to help you start taking action and create the life you desire. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour  https://clarewalshcoaching.com/work-with-me 

This episode goes live the day after International Women’s Day and as a coach specialising in helping women with their confidence I wanted to focus particularly on women this episode. The theme for this year’s celebration of International Women’s day is embracing equality by, amongst other things, celebrating women forging change, by elevating the visibility of women creatives and by building workplaces where women thrive.  This episode we’re going to explore some of the issues around how we treat each other, especially in the world of work and look at ways that we can make things better – starting with us. Because the only person any of us can truly change is ourselves! I will share five ways we can embrace equality and break the bias against women. Articles mentioned: https://www.internationalwomensday.com/Missions/18471/Race-to-the-top-Women-face-limited-window-of-opportunity-to-reach-leadership-roles   Womanifest It’s no boring conference or exhibition – it’s a full-on FESTIVAL! – it’s all about women having fun, learning how to put themselves first, get what they want, surround themselves with other fantastic women and have access to a huge range of learning and expertise that can help them to make changes in their life and feel inspired and empowered. Taking place on the 15th & 16th July at Lady Heyes Park in Cheshire, it’s about bringing everything a woman needs to live the happy, fulfilling and successful life she deserves into one place for an epic weekend of liberating experiences! Last year as well as talks there was a fashion show, a silent disco, a gong bath, a pamper tent, lots of female owned businesses selling their products. The list goes on and on. This year an amazing Little Mix tribute band has been booked for for the brand new entertainment area. There’s also going to be a burlesque class, jewellery making workshops, wim hof ice dipping is back, nude body painting, body positive sessions, confidence classes, loads of different types of yoga & meditations, Fit Camp, gong baths and soooo much more! That really is just a little taste to whet your appetite. I’ll be on the stage in the life lessons tent the morning of Saturday 15th July and I couldn’t be more honoured or excited to be part of such an amazing event Get your tickets here: https://buytickets.at/womanifest?ref=clare-w Work with me: Book a Confidence Jump-start – an hour of powerful coaching followed by a week of support to help you start taking action and create the life you desire. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour https://clarewalshcoaching.com/work-with-me

Over the last fifty plus episodes we’ve covered lots of topics to help us lead happier, more confident lives so it surprised me when I realised that we have never talked about today’s topic – self-worth. We’ve covered topics related to it but never looked at it on its own so that’s what we’re going to do today. Why? Because in my work with a counsellor after I finished cancer treatment it became apparent that I had a real issue with my self-worth. Embarrassing to admit as a confidence coach but also unsurprising giving what I’d just lived through. It’s also something that comes up regularly in my one-to-one work with clients. In this episode we will examine  What self-worth is How most of us measure it How we should actually measure it How we spot that our self-worth is low and What we can do when our self-worth needs a boost Episodes mentioned: Episode 5 – What would happen if you were kind to yourself? http://bit.ly/3kU9kJ6 Articles mentioned: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/self-esteem/why-self-worth-matters-and-how-to-improve-it/ https://positivepsychology.com/self-worth/ Work with me: Book a Confidence Jump-start – an hour of powerful coaching followed by a week of support to help you start taking action and create the life you desire. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour https://clarewalshcoaching.com/work-with-me  

This episode we are focusing on the importance of fun to a happy and healthy life. I was recently asked to consider how I could bring more fun into my life and realised that I was slightly stumped by the question. I struggled to identify how and when I allow myself to have fun. And as usual that got me thinking and noticing, and here we are with an episode devoted to the importance of having fun.  In this episode we are going to explore: what fun is; why it’s so important – what it does for us; the three elements essential for fun; and how we can have more fun. Previous episode mentioned: Episode 47 – The power of play to light you up https://bit.ly/3QvQrrz Book - Play: How it shapes the brain, Opens the imagination and invigorates the soul by Stuart Brown https://bit.ly/3GZaBHd TED talk: Catherine Price – Why having fun is the secret to a healthier life https://bit.ly/3XsIJRl  Stay in touch: Join my free Facebook group www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility Email: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com Ways to work with me: www.clarewalshcoaching.com

This time of year can be hard. Christmas is behind us and it seems a long way off until the clocks go forward and the days begin to get noticeably warmer and lighter. Decades ago a travel company came up with the gimmick of calling the third Monday in January blue Monday – supposedly the most miserable Monday of the year. Gimmick or not I know a lot of us feel a little blue on January Mondays as we head into the new working week. I have to confess that there have been January Mondays when, despite being in a job I loved, I started the day with a little cry at home! With this in mind I decided that this would be a great week for us to focus on being happier at work. So I’m sharing my 10 pretty simple ways for a happier and more confident you at work. Episodes mentioned: Episode 8 – Saying no with confidence and without the guilt https://bit.ly/3CFuCQx Episode 6 – Letting go of perfectionism https://bit.ly/3W2gM1A Episode 12  - How good are you at accepting compliments? Learning to accept compliments really boosts confidence https://bit.ly/3GDi5hU Episode 4 – Let’s celebrate https://bit.ly/3jZNe7f Download my free guide to saying no with confidence and without guilt https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/saying-no-with-confidence-and-without-guilt Book a Confidence Jump-start – an hour of powerful coaching followed by a week of support to help you start taking action and create the life you desire. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour https://clarewalshcoaching.com/work-with-me

Not only have we reached 50 episodes, but it’s also our second podiversary! 50 episodes feels like a significant achievement that deserves to be marked and celebrated. In this episode, I’m going to remind you of some of the quick, easy but effective confidence boosters that we’ve explored over the last two years, signposting some great episodes along the way and we’re going to explore choosing our word for the year for 2023. What You’ll Learn: - What to ask yourself if you're feeling anxious - Why you should just do the one minute jobs - Why the phrase “Tell me more” is so useful  - The importance of being intentional - How having an intention or a word for a whole year works and what's the benefit - The steps to take once you've got your word I sincerely hope that you've got some ideas to start using yourself. Let me know what your intention for 2023 is going to be, I always love to hear from you. Have a wonderful Christmas and I’ll see you in the New Year! Episodes mentioned: - Episode 012 How Good Are You at Accepting Compliments? Learning to accept compliments boosts confidence. https://apple.co/3XjYF92  - Episode 014 The Power Of Believing “I Am Enough” – learning to believe this is transformative. https://apple.co/3Avb0gP  - Episode 027 Building Resilience – we never know what life is going to throw at us so learning to build resilience whilst times are good really helps us. https://apple.co/3EOaDkh  - Episode 032 The Dark Side of People Pleasing – How to Create Healthier Boundaries and Still Be a Caring Person! So many women think that being a people pleaser is a good thing but what it actually creates is burn out and resentment. Have a listen and learn to change that story. https://apple.co/3VcTRAI  - Episodes 36 and 37 – Cultivating Self-Esteem – the title says it all! https://apple.co/3Eq1ixB and https://apple.co/3EOaQnz  - And finally Episode 042 Let’s Slow Down This Summer - The Importance and Benefits of Slowing Down This is one of my most downloaded episodes! The need to slow down obviously hit a nerve. https://apple.co/3hWpbVX  Resources: - Find out more about the Confidence Jump-Start here. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour - Check out my website: www.clarewalshcoaching.com

Like it or not, we are all changing all of the time but sometimes it takes a big life event – good or bad – or perhaps a big birthday – one with a zero on the end, for us to take stock and acknowledge that change and what it means for our life.  In this episode I will share some of my learnings about change and ways that we can learn to embrace it even if it’s been brought about by a life event we hadn’t planned, expected or wanted. I will leave you with 10 actions that have helped me and I know will help you too if you are going through major change. What You’ll Learn: - What you can do to make change feel much easier and be easier to deal with - How to ask for help to process everything that you've been going through  - What you can choose to do when you have to go through unwanted situations - 10 things that have helped me to go through a major change Sometimes I feel like it's one step forward and two steps back but I pick myself up again and carry on. If you've been through something huge recently, and you feel changed by it, know that it's normal. You're not the same. And that's okay.  I want to let you know that my calendar is currently open for Confidence Jumpstarts. This is for anyone feeling stuck or even hacked off by life right now.  Episodes mentioned: - Episode 35 Using Your Values to Live a Happier, More Confident Life https://apple.co/3T6bBfr  Resources: - Find out more about the Confidence Jump-Start here. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour - Check out my website: www.clarewalshcoaching.com

What can we do in the moment when we’re having a bad day?  We all have bad days. Sometimes because of external factors and sometimes for no apparent reason – we just feel like we’ve got out of the wrong side of bed and can’t put our finger on why our mood is low and it feels like the world is out to get us. But there are things that we can do about it. I’m going to share 10 ways you can fix a “bad day” and improve your mood! What You’ll Learn: - How science backs up the fact that green spaces give our brain space - Why you should not underestimate the power of music your love - The ways you can make your environment a little bit more inviting - Check in on yourself! When did you last eat or dink? - How to make a plan to do something that you know you'll look forward to While the things I've suggested today may not fix the root cause of your bad mood, they can help fix your response and lift you out of it. Give them a go and write yourself your own What do you need list. I want to let you know that my calendar is currently open for Confidence Jump-Start. This is for anyone feeling stuck or even hacked off by life right now.  Episodes mentioned: - Episode 16 The Power of Walking https://apple.co/3FuNTq0  Books: - Thinking on My Feet: The small joy of putting one foot in front of another, a book by Kate Humble https://amzn.to/3U7prPC  Resources: - Find out more about the Confidence Jump-Start here. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour - Check out my website: www.clarewalshcoaching.com

In this episode we’re exploring the power of play to light us up. It’s the beginning of November. The clocks have gone back and the nights are well and truly drawing in and I know that I’m not alone in being tempted to withdraw and hibernate as the weather worsens and the light retreats. But while I know that rest is important and I’m all for a bit of hygge, I also know that I still need to seek daily joy and things that energise and light me up if I want to feel like the best version of myself. The version of myself that has the energy and confidence to grow, thrive and enjoy life.  In this episode we’ll explore  - The benefits of play - What it means to let go and have fun and play - The different play personalities and how play looks different to each of us - The importance of making time for play Have a think about what things are playful to you. Make time to play for being playful and remember that it's okay if the things that are fun and playful to you aren't to everyone else. Get to know yourself on what you enjoy. Encourage those around you to play and have fun to in whatever way is playful for them. See it as part of your self care, giving yourself the time to be playful.  Episodes mentioned: - Episode 42 – Let’s Slow Down This Summer - The Importance and Benefits of Slowing Down https://apple.co/3SOFtxf  Books: - The Gift of Wonder, a book by Christine Aroney-Sine https://amzn.to/3RquRDz  - Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul, a book by Stuart Brown https://amzn.to/3RzgM6S  Email me at : clare@clarewalshcoaching.com Ways to work with me: www.clarewalshcoaching.com

In August I celebrated nine years of self-employment. It has been nine years since I listened to my inner wisdom and made the leap from employment to working for myself. And it was a big leap. I was sick of redundancies and layoffs and wanted to take back control. As I reflected on those nine years, I realised that I've learnt a lot of confidence lessons that are worth sharing whether you have your own business, are considering self-employment or are happily employed.  In this episode I will share my top six confidence lessons that you can apply to your own life What You’ll Learn: - Why you need to learn to trust your wise self - How to value yourself and what you offer - What you get by being comfortable talking about money - What it means to get comfortable being uncomfortable - Why to stop treating networking like a dirty word - Why it’s important to celebrate your successes big and small I know these lessons work because I applied all six of them to my new venture and it made life a lot easier than it would have been. I still had to get out of my comfort zone into the stretch zone, but these lessons stood me in good stead for a solid start to a new venture. So choose to apply some of these lessons to your own circumstances. Episodes mentioned: Episode 5 – What Would Happen if You Were Kind to Yourself? Taming Your Inner Critic! https://apple.co/3UEXCz5  Work with me:  www.clarewalshcoaching.com - Join my free Facebook group here for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility

It’s October and so it’s breast cancer awareness month and I thought it would be a good opportunity to share my learnings from being diagnosed and treated. What has this got to do with confidence? More than you would think- I promise you.  This episode we’ll talk about the importance of checking your breasts monthly and the five lessons I learnt that will help you too! One in two of us will get cancer in our lifetime which means that the majority of us will at some point have someone close to us going through cancer treatment. I hope that these five lessons will help you navigate your way through. What You’ll Learn: - How often you should be checking your breasts and where to find instructions - Why being there for the person who needs you is far more important than having the right thing to say - The importance of asking for help and accepting it - Why letting go of the guilt is a life lesson for all of us at all times - How changes that cancer treatment caused to your body can knock your confidence Know your body. Go and get anything unusual for you checked out. It could save your life. Resources mentioned in the episode: - Coppafeel https://coppafeel.org/ - Macmillan Cancer Support https://www.macmillan.org.uk/ - Breast Cancer Now https://breastcancernow.org/ - Cancer Hair Care https://www.cancerhaircare.co.uk/ - Look Good Feel Better https://lookgoodfeelbetter.co.uk/ - Ticking off Breast Cancer https://www.tickingoffbreastcancer.com/ - Victoria’s Promise https://www.victoriaspromise.org/ On Instagram: - Dr Liz O’Riordan @oriordanliz - Dr Tasha Gandamihardja @drtashag - Rad chat @rad_chat  Books: - The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to Feel Empowered and Take Control, a book by Professor Trisha Greenhalgh and Dr Liz O’Riordan https://amzn.to/3d6ITfA  - Get Your Oomph Back: A Guide to Exercise after a Cancer Diagnosis, a book by Carolyn Garritt https://amzn.to/3B6ryeP  - The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment, a book by Saskia Lightstar https://amzn.to/3RWBWfF  Contact me: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com

There is so much more to faith than religious faith. Choosing faith over fear can transform our relationships with life's challenges and make us more resilient. In This Episode You Will Learn: - That there is so much more to faith than religious faith - How choosing faith over fear can transform our relationship with life’s challenges - How having faith can make us more resilient - How having faith can increase our confidence - How to build that faith in yourself Every single one of us has many reasons we can have faith and belief in ourselves. You get to choose and rechoose every day, every hour, to choose faith over fear.  Resources: - Episode 11: Make it Work! https://apple.co/39c0mB8  - Episode 2: What is Confidence?  https://apple.co/3x8KpUw  - You've Got This!, a book by Margie Warrell https://amzn.to/3xhDolF  Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com.

This episode I’m diving straight in with a challenging question for us all – are you being truly you? Are you being the you that you really want to be or the you that you think is expected of you by family, friends, colleagues, society?  I’m asking because I realised during my many weeks of enforced convalescence that I’m not.  What You’ll Learn in This Episode: - How to spot if you’re not quite being you - A reminder of why you should let go of people pleasing and how to do it - Why your opinion of you is the one that matters the most. - How to stop worrying about what other people think and start doing what truly makes you happy! If we want to be true to ourselves, then we have to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Start moving towards who you are by picking one small thing and making that change. Resources: - Episode 032: The Dark Side of People Pleasing – How to Create Healthier Boundaries and Still Be a Caring Person! https://apple.co/3mcXUNK  Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com. 

This episode we’re exploring the benefits of slowing down. We can choose to slow down at any time of year but often the things that can be done at any time can end up being done at no time. In other words they just don’t happen. I hope that this exploration of the many benefits of slowing down will encourage you to consciously decide to take steps to slow down this summer. In This Episode You Will Learn: - What slowing down has to do with confidence and why it’s so important - The many benefits of slowing down including deepening relationships and sparking creativity - How to explore ways of slowing down especially if you are currently over-timetabled and stressed - Ways of resting and slowing down loved across the world I’m practising what I preach and will be taking the summer off but worry not, I’ll be back in September raring to go. In the meantime sign up for my newsletter so you never miss an episode http://eepurl.com/gvC0Pf Resources: - The Art of Rest by Claudia Hammond https://amzn.to/3PXK5AD  Email: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com

This episode we are dealing with overwhelm. There is so much of it around at the moment and when we are feeling overwhelmed it can be difficult to see a way out. In this episode I will share six methods you can use to deal with overwhelm today. What You Will Learn In This Episode: - Why you should let go of some of the things on your to do lists - The steps you can take during times when everything feels too much - Why being kind to yourself can make a big difference When we're feeling overwhelmed, it is important to remember that done is always better than perfect, because perfect does not exist. What we are looking to do is our best and best means the best we can do in our particular circumstances with the time, resources, skills and knowledge we have available to us.  Episodes mentioned: - Episode 6: Letting Go of Perfectionism https://apple.co/3MXwiYl  - Episode 8: Saying No With Confidence and Without the Guilt https://apple.co/3LMG4wh  - Episode 32: The Dark Side of People Pleasing – How to Create Healthier Boundaries and Still Be a Caring Person!  https://apple.co/39C3PZD   Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com. 

I want to share 4 books that have enriched my life and made me think about what it takes to be happy and content. Since there are lots of little gems on my blog to help you to grow confidence, clarity and courage in very concrete ways, I'll also point you to some of my own writing. My Blogs: - It’s the little transformations that make a massive difference “It’s not all about massive transformations, little transformations make a massive difference!”One of my clients said this and it really got me thinking. My client hit the nail on the head. It is those little transformations – the changes in your thinking, behaviour and understanding of yourself - that added together make a massive difference to life.https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/its-the-little-transformations-that-make-a-massive-difference - Worrying about what other people think. There are lots of things that hold us back from doing what we really want to do but the one that comes up so often in coaching sessions is worrying about what other people think.   https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/worrying-about-what-other-people-think-1 - September - Lets’s take action – it doesn’t matter what time of year it is – in the words of one reader “it’s like a free coaching session”! https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/september-lets-take-action - Why do we procrastinate? Lots of people think that procrastination is a form of laziness but in fact when we keep putting off the thing we want or need to do it’s rarely because we’re lazy.https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/why-do-we-procrastinate Books: - The Comfort Book by Matt Haig https://amzn.to/3OwGBEl  - How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention by Rosie Green https://amzn.to/3MwKyXX  - The Joy of Simple Things by Hannah Jane Parkinson https://amzn.to/3MuXNrQ  - The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse by Charlie Mackesy https://amzn.to/3rN0Xzo  Thank you if you've listened to every episode of the 40 we've done so far. If you have book recommendations or ideas for future episode topics, feel free to drop me an email at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com.

This episode is all about letting go of the limiting beliefs we all carry around with us, and replacing them with empowering ones. We carry around beliefs like: - I’m shy - I never finish anything - I’m not clever - I’m boring - I’m not creative - I’m really bad at public speaking - I’m no good in a crisis And they disempower us. They hold us back.So today I share my own experience in changing a limiting belief I carried around as my truth for decades, and I also share the experience of one of my clients, taking you through the same method we both used to shift our thinking and beliefs and create real change in our lives.In this episode you will learn: - how to recognise these beliefs  - how to question your "evidence" of their truth - how to formulate an empowering alternative belief - how to recognise that this is your truth and to start to believe and live it on a daily basis Resources: - Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com

This episode is all about the importance of forgiving yourself. The theme was prompted by a Guardian headline. It quoted the journalist John Simpson saying, “Like most men, I am amazingly good at forgiving myself.” And that really got me thinking about myself and the women in my life. Are we amazingly good at forgiving ourselves? Are you? In This Episode You Will Learn:- What self-forgiveness is and its benefits - Why we find it hard to forgive ourselves - The limitations of self-forgiveness - The four-step process to self-forgiveness It's time women too can say we are good at self-forgiveness. And if you find this episode helpful, please rate and review the podcast and help other listeners find it! Resources: - Article The benefits of self-forgiveness https://scopeblog.stanford.edu/2019/08/02/the-benefits-of-self-forgiveness/# - Article Taking the Steps to Forgive Yourself https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-forgive-yourself-4583819# - Email me at: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com 

This is the second part of the episode about cultivating self-esteem. In Part 1 we learnt: - What self-esteem is - The signs of low self-esteem - How to tackle negative self-talk - The importance of speaking about yourself positively - The power of compliments and the importance of accepting themI hope that you've begun to put these things into practice. This episode you will learn:- How to detach yourself from the criticism and praise of others and start measuring your self-worth by your opinion of yourself – and the measure of that is your best in your unique circumstances - How to stop clinging to perfectionism and believe that you are enough - How to accept that failure is a normal part of daily life even for successful, super-confident people - The importance of stopping blaming yourself when things go wrong. Previous episodes mentioned during this episode: - Episode 22 – Dealing with Criticism and Praise! Detaching ourselves from what other people think. https://apple.co/3HTrHn2  - Episode 6 – Letting go of perfectionism https://apple.co/3MB3yFm  - Episode 14 – The power of believing “I am enough”! https://apple.co/3vP11Bz  - Episode 31 – Is it time to stop saying sorry? https://apple.co/3MwpEZN  Resources: - The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance - What Women Should Know  https://amzn.to/3w6hIsz, a book  by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman   - Email me at: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com

This episode we're tackling how to cultivate self-esteem. This is such a big topic that I've split it in two parts. But don't worry, you'll end this episode with concrete ways you can begin to grow your self-esteem now - you don't have to wait for Part 2 to get started!In this episode you will learn: - What self-esteem is - The signs of low self-esteem - How to tackle negative self-talk - The importance of speaking about yourself positively - The power of compliments and the importance of accepting them Previous episodes mentioned in today’s episode: - Episode 5 – What would happen if you were kind to yourself? Taming your inner critic. https://apple.co/3tZIIr1  - Episode 12 – How good are you at accepting compliments? https://apple.co/3vKi0oG  Emal me at: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com