Listen Now

Last episode of Season 1. Monologue

In this episode, we will continue to explore the life and times of the Black man in America. In part 2, we go into more of what the image of the Black man should be. We talk about solutions that should be implemented in the life of the Black man in order to be successful. We also discuss at length what success looks like for the Black man in America.If you enjoy this episode please share it with 10 people that you know. Thank you for helping us spread the message.Intro - 00:00Who Is Teaching Our Black Males - 1:47Masculinity - 2:10Social Conditioning - 4:14Things That Keep Us Unhealthy - 5:28Solutions To Help Advert Health Issues - 10:18The Average Lifespan Of A Black Male - 13:03Protecting The Black Man’s Image - 14:10Damien’s Story Of Being Judged For Coming From A Broken Home - 16:16What A Good Father Should Do When A Man Shows Interest In His Daughter - 19:34What Defines A Successful Black Man - 20:47What Should Every Black Male Be Taught - 27:48“You Gotta Get Up!” - 28:54“It’s Better To Raise Strong Children Than To Repair Broken Men!” - 30:11 Everyone Does Not Get A Trophy - 32:20King! - 33:44What Do Black Men Need - 35:19Failing Is A Good Teacher - 39:19What Makes A Black Man Attractive - 41:05Question Of The Day “ What Advice Would You Give Today?” - 45:30Recap - 1:11:49

In this episode we will explore the life and times of the black man in America. It is important that we understand what the black man is up against and what the needs are for the black man. This episode will be broken up into 2 parts. In this 1st part we will cover some of the obstacles the black man faces, the role of the father and the mother in the life of the black man, as well as what defines a real man. My hope is that through making plain the needs of black men, collectively we will be better able to meet those needs to begin unifying and strengthening the black community. Intro - 00:00Some Of The Strikes Against The Black Man - 1:55Emotional Men In Our Community - 6:40 A Few Reasons Why Black Fathers Are Not In The Home - 8:05When Did The Breakdown In The Black Home Begin - 9:00Understanding Of The Roles & What’s Missing In Our Homes - 9:50In These Streets - 10:45Group Mindset & Followers - 12:05The System Is Not Designed For You - 12:45Conflict In Our Culture - 13:00The Origin Of Our Issues - 13:25Starting From Scratch - 14:39Fear Of The Black Man’s Potential 17:00All Cultures See The Value Of Black People - 18:28 We Need To Focus On Guarding Our Own Black Image - 19:36The Role Of A Father - 20:08Dealing With The Police - 25:40“The Black Lottery” - 26:50The Image The World Portrays Of The Black Man & It’s Affects - 27:58Neutering The Black Man & The Real Agenda - 29:33The Role Of A Mother For The Black Male - 30:28What Is A Real Man...Manliness Is Required - 32:40Intelligence Is Required -34:18Resourcefulness Is Required - 34:37Pay It Forward - 35:20Fear & Guilt Is Holding Back The Best & Brightest Among Us - 35:57Be Responsible & Accountable - 38:10High Character Is Required - 39:20Why We Feed On Each Other - 41:50Everything Begins Within The Home - 42:46Recap - 43:49

In this episode, we will explore the different ways to effectively communicate. Learning to properly communicate with others, learning different cues and signals, will help us avoid miscommunication. Communication is more than just with my words, but also includes body language, lack of responses is also communication cues to take notice of. We have a lot of work to do within our community and if we hope to understand each other and build something amazing together, we have to communicate and communicate effectively!If you enjoyed this episode please share it with 10 people that you know. Thank you for helping us spread the message.Grievances - 0:00Email From One Of Our Listeners - 2:43Intro - 3:37Topic Of The Day “Communication” - 5:10Direct Eye Contact - 5:47Firm Handshake - 8:00Hygiene - 9:30Great Listener - 11:13A Person’s Walk - 12:40What You Do With Your Hands - 13:34The Touch - 15:24 Tonality - 17:20Sense Of Humor - 18:00Assertiveness - 19:02Easy To Talk To - 22:03Confidence - 25:00Are You A Rider? - 29:00Question Of The Day “What Should You Be Doing To Effectively Communicate Within Your Relationship?!” - 32:00Recap - 37:40

In this episode, we will explore a very critical subject essential to building vibrant black communities and that is the subject of "Friendships". We explore what real friends are, what friends should never be. We also explore the boundaries that should be established when you or your friend is in a relationship.My hope is with this episode we each examine ourselves and do a personal assessment. “Do I measure up?” “Am I a good friend?” “Am I a bad friend?” “How can I be a better friend?” If we all ask these questions of ourselves this can help us be better people to one another.If you enjoyed this episode please share it with 10 people that you know. Thank you for helping us spread the message.Grievances - 0:00Intro - 2:17Topic Of The Day “Friendship” 3:57Words From Ian’s Father 4:37Our Take On What A Real Friend Should Be Like 5:45How Are Friendships Established - 9:40A Story Of Betrayal - 10:55Lack Of Trust & Loyalty In Our Community - 14:05Proper Etiquette In A Friendship When Your Man Is In A Relationship - 14:29What Signs To Look For When You Need To Question Your “Friendship” - 16:50How We Should Interact With Each Other Within The Community 17:59What It Takes For Someone To Become A Friend - 19:25Mom Dukes Is Right “Brothers Be Flaking Sometimes” - 22:36Respect & Similar Viewpoints - 24:19Either You Going To Be Jealous Of A Man Or You Will Respect Him - 24:35The Ultimate Betrayal - 25:01FB Friends - 25:39A Message From The O’Jays - 26:58Are You Genuinely There For Your Friend? - 28:08Married With Single Friends - 30:00Compromising Situations - 31:44No Interference. You Can’t Get Involved 33:35We Must Be Genuine In Our Dealings With One Another - 36:43What’s The Scenario….Question Of The Day “Can Men & Women Be Friends?!”37:23Friendzone - 47:05

In this episode, we each discuss what we were taught about “Dating” when we were young. We also talk about what we ultimately discovered through our own experiences once we started dating on our own terms. Our personal experiences have helped to shape the viewpoints and stances we have on dating today. We each share what we teach our own children in regards to dating that may be different from what we were taught and may also be different from some of the mainstream approaches to dating today.If you enjoyed this episode please share it with 10 people that you know. Thank you for helping us spread the message.Grievances “Tights” – 0:00Intro & What We Will Explore In This Episode – 3:26What Jason Was Taught About Dating – 5:30What Dame Was Taught About Dating – 6:25What Ian Was Taught About Dating – 7:39What Jason Learned As He Started Dating – 8:39What Dame Learned As He Started Dating – 13:11What Ian Learned As He Started Dating – 14:45The Honeymoon Phase – 16:49How To Ensure You Are Not Wasting Your Time – 18:11What Advice Would Jason Give His Children – 20:10What Advice Would Ian Give His Children – 21:23Unicorns Only Breakdown – 23:10What Advice Would Dame Give – 26:26“What’s The Scenario?!” Question Of The Day “When Is The Right Age To Allow Your Child To Date?” – 27:32Seek Only The One For You – 34:30 Jason’s Advice For The Single Mothers- 37:09The Recap & Closing Thoughts – 38:40Bonus Dating Commentary From Damien – 44:10

In this episode, we explore the topic of “Love” all while testing out our new microphones and recording equipment. The episode is a freeform discussion with no structure at all. Meant for testing and is full of mistakes and bloopers. There are a lot of post-edit soundbites we used in our testing to exam various approaches we may want to take in future episodes.We sent this pilot episode out to about 100 people and got wonderful feedback. We thank all who responded and gave us constructed criticism. Moving forward, beginning with episode 1, you will see that we listened and made necessary adjustments. If you enjoy the content please remember to share it with at least 10 people you know. Happy Listening and Enjoy this classic archival episode. “Welcome To The Show!” – 3:25Dame’s Background And How He Came To Experience Love – 4:10Jason’s Background And How He Came To Experience Love – 5:50What’s Not Love According To Jason – 7:25Jason’s Shaquille O’Neal Analogistic Breakdown Of His Real Love Relationships – 9:05Ian’s Background And How He Came To Experience Love – 13:03Dame’s Background Continued – 16:36Step Daddies – 20:46What Our Generation Saw – 23:03Emotional Impact – 24:15We Are Still Learning – 26:33Dame’s Take On What Is Wrong With Some Women Today – 27:18What Makes A Woman Wife Material & Submissiveness – 27:49Understanding The Roles Of Men And Women – 30:00War On Love – 32:40People Aren’t Looking For Love Anymore – 33:33Manipulation Time – 33:50Men Are Simple – 34:25How Jason Realized He Was Experiencing Real Love – 35:00Dame’s Epiphany “It’s So Basic Ladies!” – 35:43Ladies Don’t Fall For The Lie – 38:39Love Is The Solution – 39:55

Welcome to the Understanding Love Podcast. I’m your host, Ian Cobb. In this trailer, I convey why I felt like there was a need for a podcast like this one. With so much content out there today to choose from already, what will distinguish this one from all others. Well, I assure you there is nothing out there like this. Hopefully, you will give this podcast a weekly listen. Explore the Code bLLaCk site and hopefully, you will get the mission. We appreciate any support we can get. We ask that you help spread the message. If you like the content please share it with 10 people you know. Subscribe to our feed and never miss an episode. Thank you again and enjoy the podcast!Why Should You Listen?! – 00:19Enough Is Enough! – 1:47We Are In Bad Shape As A People – 3:23What Will Save Us?! – 4:31Love Is The Solution – 5:10Cancer Culture – 6:40I Waited My Whole Life For This – 8:18My Co-Hosts – 9:00Moment Of Truth – 10:00