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The more familiar we get with one way of seeing things or interpreting information, the easier it is to forget that not everyone shares our perspective. This difference is perhaps no more obvious than when looking the distinction between those who identify as artists vs. those who identify as intellectuals. If the two are not actively seeking to communicate with open minds and empathy, it can be impossible to find any common ground at all. This means sacrificing the benefits beholden by the other side. This show’s guest, Luciano, shares his insights into how the creative process affects him, articulating thoughts many of us have had better that most are able to. The conversation evolves over the course of three hours and a pitifully short poker game into themes of knowing the limits of your physical body, experiencing love as a shared sense of identity, lustful attraction vs. emotional attraction, sex with friends and strangers, the difference between a want and a need, why it is essential for adults to spend time with children, talking about what you do like you have the cure for cancer, what it would take to consciously violate your own principles, the futility of meditation, predicting a person’s actions by their principles, and the sacred cows that run our lives. How do the limits of your dominion over life define you? How do you navigate the world of competing ideas and ideologies that could fill your time?

Do you know what you care about? Are you so sure in you principles, mission, and values that you are immune to interference from the chaotic events of the world around you? This show’s guest, Mariza, talks about how the aftermath of Donald Trump’s presidential election have affected her emotionally, even though no measureable difference has been made in her life. This leads into a broader discussion about how we let stories - not actual events - control our mindset and actions more than anything else. We all must take responsibility for what we care about, and not succumb to idle action for the sake of action, such as the case with those who protest or complain with no realize mechanism in place for getting what they want. Mariza will share her story of how she left her former life behind to travel the world and pursue what she really wanted after an impassioned viewing of Eat Pray Love. The ultimate goal of the person identified with a mission or principle is to become the superhuman embodiment of that idea. In ancient and modern culture alike, we have always looked up to avatars that represent something specific and extraordinary that we wish we could aspire too. Jesus is the perfect man, the representation of divine love and forgiveness. Superman is the hope we are all capable of, demonstrated through incredible physical power. Whether as myths or real people​, they give us new standards to look up to. What do you care about? What is the ultimate destination of your identity, beyond your normal human life?

Asha, the wife of guest Eddy from last show, continues the conversation about polyamorous marriage from the female side of the equation. She describes her lust for new experiences as “wanting to fuck all of life”, and it doesn’t just apply to her sexuality. She ultimately has to realize how to become confident in why she does what she does, even if it means sacrificing other options. But no matter what you choose, your time and other resources are always finite. You cannot be the best at everything, or anything at all, if you never specialize. To someone in Asha’s position, that could mean being the best at monogamy and dedication to a single partner. It could mean living in one country and devoting herself to a smaller set of passions. A person must first be mature enough to make such big decisions. What does it really choose your own goals? Do you know who you really are if you don't know what you really want?

There’s an ongoing debate around the world about the nature of homosexuality. Are you born a certain way? Is it possible to turn yourself straight or gay through willpower and open-mindedness? How does this apply to other unconventional romantic relationship structures like polyamorous marriage? Or just other forms of unconventional lifestyle exploration? This show’s guest, a young man named Eddy, talks without reservation about how the most difficult experience of his life, his father’s suicide, helped him grow more than anything else. The family anchor he lost opened new horizons. As a result, he built new standards and values for himself. He had to find out through experimentation what would make him the happier version of himself. He didn’t want to live his life for someone else. Yet, he still longed for deep love and devotion without obligation. What are the limits of self-exploration in the context of your own life? Can anyone really say they are a happy person without extending their limits and feeling their extremes?

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