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When you 'want' something, the universe is more than happy to let you keep on wanting it. Until you take action towards what you want, it will only exist in your imagination.When we’re kids and tell our parents we want something, 99.999% of the time it didn’t happen. Because of this our brains automatically recognize our ‘wanting’ something as something that’ll never happen, so instead of risking failing by going for it, we’re content to sit back and think to ourselves “well, it wasn’t going to happen anyway” or worse, “I guess I don’t deserve it”….whatever “it” is.Work to eliminate “want” from your vocabulary and build the habit of taking one simple action to make your ‘want’ reality and you’ll be amazed at how much your life will change.

Welcome to Season 2!I’m back and Unbroken is going to be bigger, better, and more impactful than ever.Life is all about changes and, whoo boy, have I gone through a lot of change in the last 3 months.In this episode learn what holds 99% of people back from making the changes they desire and how you can overcome the momentum of mediocrity.

If you were to lose your job, your family, your relationship, who would you be?Would you be you? Or would you be lost?When your identity comes from things outside you, when you lose them, you lose yourself.In this episode we talk about looking inside to determine your identity so that it's not dependent on things that can be taken away.

Anger and sadness are really two sides of the same emotional coin. When we’re sad we feel depleted, joyless, unmotivated, and helpless.When we’re angry we feel energetic, focused, motivated, and powerful.Both of these emotions are natural and necessary to experience in your healing journey. “Anger Is Sad’s Bodyguard” — Christian Salafia Unfortunately we tend to rely on anger to avoid sadness. While anger is natural, unresolved anger can mutate into rage, bitterness, fury, or vengeance. Anger doesn’t allow our wounds to heal and instead leaves them open and infected. Only sadness allows scars to form.In order to move forward and have productive, healthy relationships, you have to come to terms with anger and sadness.

On Saturday I heard the horrible news that my friend Rachel Held Evans had passed away after a very brief illness. Even though she’s gone, her voice, her impact, and her legacy will live on. Because of Rachel, my world is fuller. She taught me that having doubt and struggling with questions is the sign of a healthy faith. She introduced me to voices and thinkers, primarily women, PoC, and LGBTQ, whose stories made my life richer.There’s a reason Wisdom (Sophia) is a woman. Rachel and her gift for showing people that they weren’t broken, that they had value, and that they were loved is something you might come across once or twice in a lifetime. The world is a bit darker without her light. Yet we can all carry on her legacy by being a little kinder, by listening more than we speak, by validating the humanity of those on the margins, and by being humble enough to learn from others. “We are all living in an unfinished story...” — Rachel Held Evans If you’d like to support her family, there is a GoFundMe to help her husband Dan manage their medical bills. Just click the button below. Evans Family Go Fund Me

One year ago, I wanted to die. The consequences of all my decisions, my actions, had come crashing down in a tsunami of emotion.I raged. I cried. I broke my favorite glass.I questioned whether I had value to myself or those around me.The demons almost won. Almost. Therapy saved my life.This is a story I’ve never shared…until now.Subscribe to the Unbroken podcast on:iTunesSpotifyStitcher

Not getting what you want in life, even when you put a ton of time, energy, and effort into it, can hurt. It can make you feel like the universe is conspiring against your happiness. You may even think that if it weren’t for bad luck, you’d have no luck at all.That’s not true.Most of the time not getting what you want is a blessing in disguise.Perhaps you learned what you didn’t want in your relationship.Perhaps you gained some confidence in yourself by going for that job you thought you’d never get.Perhaps you were seeking success instead of seeking fulfillment/significance and the universe knew you’d be just as miserable as you are now in a few short years.A great book on this subject is The Trap of Success by my friend Gene Hammett.So remember to thank God for unanswered prayers…. Subscribe to the Unbroken podcast on:iTunesSpotifyStitcher

When a relationship breaks, you lose a lot. You lose friends, family, yourself, and your identity. If you focus on what you’ve lost, you’ll never find your way to healing.You may have lost those whose love was conditional. You may have lost those who only stood with you as long as you fit within their box. You may have lost those who aren’t really interested in being a conduit of healing.What you will find, however, are those who stand in your corner always, those who love you warts and all, and those who are willing to extend a little grace.You’ll also find yourself again. Not the you you once were, but a new you, who rebuilt yourself putting all the broken pieces back together in a different way.Subscribe to the Unbroken podcast on:iTunesSpotifyStitcher

Sometimes sh*t happens. If we were happy all the time, we wouldn't be people, we'd be game show hosts. Honor the negative feelings then switch your mindset by focusing on what's next rather than what happened.

In the immediate aftermath of a traumatic event, you’ll be visited by the twin sisters of shock and denial. Even if you saw this event coming a mile away, it’s inevitable that when it does happen, you’ll be an emotional wreck. In this episode I discuss:Why you shouldn’t look for answers right awayWhat not to do in the immediate aftermath and how I learned this the hard wayWhy telling others you’re not “ok” may bring you your greatest supportWhat to do immediately after to take care of yourselfSubscribe, rate, and review the Unbroken Podcast on:StitcherSpreakerGoogle PodcastsSpotify

We’ve all said them or heard them at least once in our life.“Happy wife, Happy Life””They’re my better half””I’m looking for someone to complete me””Opposites attract”The problem is all of these are a prescription for disappointment, resentment, and failed relationships.“If you never heal from what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.”In this episode I discuss these myths and why they’re bad for you and your relationships.

Option vs. Priority - How Do You Know?One of the biggest challenges, and most dangerous pitfalls, in relationships today is the confusion between being important and being a priority. But how do you know if you’re a priority or an option in your relationship?What should you do if you’re not a priority?In this episode I discuss some signs you may not be a priority and what options you have in your relationship.

Every story has power.Untold stories have power over us. As long as you don’t “name your shame” your story has power over you and others can tap into that power to manipulate you.Once you own your story, it can no longer control you nor can others use your story to manipulate you. Like in the final rap battle scene in 8 Mile, Eminem uses his own story to take its power away from his opponent, leaving him completely powerless. “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. Just change their height and hair color. No one ever once has recognized him or herself in my fiction. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should've behaved better. - Anne Lamott”

Your Mistakes Don’t Define YouIf you’ve ever made a mistake, you’ve inevitably defined yourself by that mistake.Fail a test? “I’m an idiot.”Get fired? “I’ll never hold a job.”Suffer a broken relationship? “I’ll never find love.”Mistakes are simply events. They’re things that happen. THEY ARE NOT WHO YOU ARE!In this episode, I discuss how you can flip the script on the negative events in your life so you can use them to refine you instead of letting them define you.Download the Human Experience Worksheet here to help you flip the script on your past.

What’s Next?That’s the question everyone asks themselves when their relationship, their career, their world falls apart.Any relationship breaking is a loss. And with any loss, there are stages of grief that must be passed through before you are healed and healthy enough to start another relationship.

Welcome to UnbrokenYou may think that your past mistakes define you, that all your broken relationships mean you are broken.Well you’re not. Your past doesn’t define you, it refines you.Welcome to the freedom that comes with being unbroken.New shows every Monday.