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30 minutes | Jul 29, 2021
EP44: How Do You Elevate Human Connection in Your Life With Gena Cox?
At the core, people simply want to be acknowledged as being another human. Humans like to belong and to form a connection over numerous similarities: likes, quirks, or goals. Ironically, there is sometimes a gap in how humans connect when trying to empathize with the human experience. Could it be that each individual is mentally wrapped in their own world? Could it be that individual human experience varies so much that the likeness in the larger human experience is hard to see? To explore this idea of human connection, I discuss being human, showing up authentically, and tapping into empathy with Dr. Gena Cox. Dr. Gena Cox contributes to this world as an industrial psychologist, executive coach, author, and speaker. At this point, she advised corporate leaders for over two decades on creating a work culture where leaders respect, develop, and elevate all employees. She currently provides part of her Heart Value through her company Feels Human Inc. Being an organizational psychologist, Gena pays particular attention to how humans choose to interact with each other. Gena explains that the human connection is the most important factor in organizations, but also the factor that most people don’t think about. I speak with Gena to understand more about being more aware of interactions, along with being aware of the choices we make to communicate our value. I want all of us Striders to accept the mindset that it’s not just acceptable to voice your value, but it’s admirable. On the topic of embracing and advocating the value of self, Gena and I discuss shifting our mindset of fitting in a “box” for the corporate world to focusing on showing up authentically so we connect with who will appreciate us fully, quirks and all. Gena reminds everyone that someone may be waiting to connect, but they won’t know unless the authentic connection is initiated. The more you connect and empathize the easier everything else is. Listen to Gena talk through the goal of reducing misunderstood differences and bridging the gap to elevate human connection. In this episode: [00:23] - Welcome to the show! [01:56] - In this time, more than ever, realize that voicing our value is acceptable and admirable. [03:18] - Gena says employee experiences are majorly based on their managers. [05:52] - Gena tells her favorite example of a leader. [07:45] - Why did Gena name her company Feels Human Inc.? [10:03] - Gena writes this small message whenever she wants to brighten someone’s day. [12:42] - I explain the concept of Wise Walks to Gena and ask a few questions to discuss. [14:37] - Gena shares what happens in her new experiment of creating a connection with people by saying “Hello.” [17:20] - Humans have a tendency to create an “us vs. them” dynamic, and it’s normal to be different, so Gena emphasizes that there must be a mutual trust of good intention. [19:36] - Gena says she connected with a stranger over a random social media post, which brought joy to her day. [21:11] - I talk about my shift in perspective around fitting in a “box” for the corporate world. [22:19] - Gena gives her take on the skill of fitting in a “box” for the corporate world and what her shift in perspective helped her realize. [23:58] - In order to connect with authentic people, figure out how to maneuver and make choices that showcase your authentic self. [25:49] - Gena says you never know who is waiting to make a connection with you. [27:53] - Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “We have to voice our value to reclaim our value and activate appreciation, so that we get exactly what we deserve.” - Mary Tess Rooney “If you’re brave enough to celebrate your uniqueness, or what makes you different, then you have the opportunity to connect on such a more intimate level.” - Mary Tess Rooney “I want the people who come into my world, who are attracted to me, to be attracted to me in an authentic way, for everything that I am.” - Dr. Gena Cox “Sometimes, the most powerful gift that you can give to someone is to ask them for something that you need.” - Dr. Gena Cox “The one person whose life you’re going to change for the better. You probably have no idea that that person is there already waiting for you to reach out to them.” - Dr. Gena Cox “You can only meet the need if you initiate the connection.” - Dr. Gena Cox Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Gena Cox Email LinkedIn
15 minutes | Jul 22, 2021
EP43: What Signals Are You Sending As You Move Forward?
Something wonderfully coincidental happened recently. While driving my dogs to dog training, there were at least three cars that didn’t use their turn signals. Driving in that situation can be frustrating, but with being intentional about my energy, the situation worked in my favor by inspiring an insight for me that I want to share with you. I’ll tell you my inspiration of why turn signals are a reflection of how we progress in life, align with our True Stride, and share our Heart Value. Turn signals are used to notify others of a move you’d like to make and help people know which way you’re headed. In other words, they prepare the people around you to know your intentions. Turn signals in your life journey allow people around you to know how they can encourage you and support you in the direction you want to go. Simply signaling people what your intentions are becomes a useful way to give people the chance to encourage you, or even help by getting out of your way. If you send out signals, you are sending a message. I realize that communicating the choice to walk in our True Stride requires us to be comfortable with being more visible and more vocal about our authentic intentions. It makes you wonder which ways you can be more visible and vocal in your life to send the most natural message. What signals are you sending out, and how do you feel about them? How are you making yourself more visible? We should be so clear on the value we bring and be excited to share what lights us up. Think about one action you can take to voice your value, so that the people around you can encouragingly offer you their energy or get out of your way. By being mindful of the signals you’re emitting, you are practicing the skill of being intentional and strengthening the muscle of voicing your value. In this episode: [00:23] - Welcome to the show! [01:21] - I explain the connection I found between how we use turn signals to drive and how we progress in life. [02:37] - Sometimes the most important thing we can do is use our turn signals in life in ways that feel good and resonate with our True Stride. [03:51] - Here are the signals I feel I am sending out. [05:53] - My friend is in a massive career shift. She is a great example of prioritizing the signals that align with a vision. [07:28] - Sometimes I need to check-in about the choices I’m making to be more visible and vocal with the direction I’m choosing for myself. [09:51] - I’m not sure how everything will play out, but I do know I want us all to be able to voice our value and share what lights us up. [11:47] - Here’s what I’m thinking of doing when I start having guests on the True Stride podcast. [12:38] - Pay attention to and be intentional about the signals you are sending out, and be intentional [13:58] - Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “I know that you’re going to get to where you’re going, and I love being the one that’s encouraging you or empowering you to go after whatever is in your heart of hearts.” “Your notable contributions, they are your story to tell. It’s your responsibility to voice your value if you want to stand out and get the credit that you deserve; or get the support and the encouragement that you need in order to keep moving forward in the direction that you want to go.” “We’re all here to get stronger about our Heart Value and get more aligned with our True Stride, so that we can feel energized and happy with each and every step that we take.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
24 minutes | Jul 15, 2021
EP42: Appreciating Support and Paying It Forward
Who in your life makes you feel fully supported? Recently, I’m very grateful towards the relationships and connections that help me thrive in my journey. Each time I share my Heart Value through an episode or project, there’s a team of people who assist me in giving the best value to you. I’m amazed that I can freely pursue my dreams with people who genuinely care to support me in what I do. Accepting help from people who sincerely care doesn’t need to feel awkward. I find that slowing myself down to figure out where help could be more useful moves me further in my journey. Everyone needs help. Even if you are a person that prefers to not work in a team, you should recognize when you will need assistance. Then, make the choice to accept help. All of this became more clear to me after hanging out with my college friend Katie. The two of us have different dreams and goals, but we show strong support for one another. We balance each other. Support systems give people a chance to offer their unique gifts. There’s a certain balance in sharing Heart Value where we both can light up, so we end up giving and receiving. Walking in our True Stride with help from a support system connects to what we are saying “yes” to and what we are saying “no” to in everyday life. Discover what choices you can make to say “yes” to fully use and feel the help from your support system. When you do receive help, find ways to show gratitude, and pay it forward to someone else. Sharing will be natural, since you have more to give others when you are taken care of. What choices and actions are you making to move closer to what you’re dreaming of? In this episode: [00:23] - Welcome to the show! [02:28] - I’m grateful for the team of people that continue to support and offer their unique gifts in my journey. [05:19] - Since I’m not an expert on everything, having people on my team who are excited helps me provide you with great content. [07:28] - Do you have relationships that challenge you to reach your highest potential? [09:13] - Stay focused on what really matters in the present. [10:50] - Katie helped me organize my overloaded garage, and here’s why that became important. [13:18] - I appreciate that Katie knows me well enough to help take away some of the anxiety I had about the jam packed garage. [15:37] - If someone offers you support, will you make the choice to accept? [18:24] - Support and help can open opportunities, including the chance to bond. I’ll tell you about a neighborhood family that is a great example. [21:13] - How will you show gratitude for feeling fully supported? [21:51] - Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “Pay attention to the people that offer their help to you and how you can really partner with them and feed off each other’s energy to get to wherever your heart desires.” “As soon as we can release things that aren’t serving us and where we want to go, the more space we’re creating for things that we actually want.” “When you feel supported, you have more to give others.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
15 minutes | Jul 8, 2021
EP41: What Lessons Are You Discovering for Yourself?
Learning is a continuous process in life. In any given moment, we come across lessons that offer information or a mindset to guide us closer to our True Stride. When we go on a Wise Walk, we are discovering what we find to be true for ourselves. If we can be aware of this knowledge, we can apply the lessons into our daily life. Personally, I’m always learning and pushing to expand myself. I am excited to take on a journey of stepping further into teaching and empowering others, but I will continue to be a student who learns through experiences. Continuing to gain awareness and abilities allows me to amplify my service of empowering others to be their own Heart Value expert. There’s something I love about watching other people transform in their own ways. What is something that you are currently learning and gaining knowledge on, but still haven’t figured out for yourself exactly? Week to week I’m constantly gaining new knowledge, and I find awareness and consistency to be useful in finding ways to weave that knowledge into my life. As we transform, we need to be patient to incorporate the new learnings into the way we show up for ourselves and others. Integrating new knowledge creates a new foundation that influences our decisions. Experience is our greatest teacher. Each new opportunity or path leads to expanding yourself. The key is to amplify your feelings, choices, and actions that align with your heart, so that you discover your True Stride. In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [01:49] - To me, teaching is about sharing knowledge and watching transformation as it occurs. [03:32] - When we go on a wise walk, we are discovering what we find to be true for ourselves. [06:23] - I tell you what taking my dogs to dog training taught me about myself and consistency. [08:54] - We can use an end goal to keep ourselves aware of our journey and to stay aligned to an intention. [10:02] - I share with you what I considered changing about the True Stride podcast as it continues to evolve. [11:40] - The best way that we learn is by asking questions. [12:34] - As we go on wise walks together, we discover the truths that help elevate us and the ones around us. [13:40] - Experience is our greatest teacher. [14:29] - Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “Every time we go on a wise walk together we’re on this mission to discover what is true for ourselves.” “I’m constantly exposing myself to different teachers by way of asking questions. I think that the best way that we learn is to ask questions, to listen, and then to apply it in ways that make sense to us.” “The key is to amplify your feelings, choices, and actions that align with your heart, so that you discover your True Stride.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Dr. Jade Teta Next Level Human podcast Jeffrey Shaw The Self-Employed Life podcast
20 minutes | Jul 1, 2021
EP40: How Trusting Your Inner Compass Leads to Transformation
Striders, let’s remind ourselves of how far we traveled together on our weekly wise walks. Our weekly wise walks offer self-reflection to consider how we want to walk in our truth. We align ourselves with our True Stride to share the value we have with the world. Now that we’re here, Episode 40 is feeling monumental to me. The number 40 holds significance in different facets of life. A full-term pregnancy is 40 weeks. In the Bible, the number 40 appears 146 times. Something about this number stands out, and I noticed many of the references depict transformation over a period of time, and sometimes shows up as testing, trial, and triumph. In this episode, I reflect on my own transformation, and why I started this podcast. I went from a successful corporate career to authentically sharing my value in a way that made my heart happy. In between reminiscing and being grateful, I also talk about what I’m most excited for going forward. When I think about my life, my intuition around teaching and empowering those around me seems obvious. Inspired by my own transformation, I encourage you to honor your heart to rhythmically move forward in all that you do. We can all work on trusting our inner compass more. What transformation is calling you? I’m grateful to connect with you and all of our Striders collective. We can support each other and transform lives together. Each time I think of the relationships formed over these episodes through feedback and our interactions, I am reminded that the True Stride podcast is greater than any singular person. I absolutely love the conversations we have every single week, and I love empowering Striders like you. I did the calculation, and early April marks 40 weeks from now. What do you see for yourself until then? I’m excited for the world to benefit from you sharing your Heart Value. In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [01:32] - I’m excited to get into Episode 40 of True Stride! From everyday life to religious references, the number 40 seems to hold significance. [03:42] - Let’s take time to work on trusting our inner compass. [04:55] - I share what made me recognize the absence of my True Stride. [05:41] - When I think about my life, my intuition related to teaching and empowering those around me seems obvious. [07:59] - True Stride is a podcast that supports what lights you up and helps you feel appreciated in ways that matter. [09:21] - If you feel awkward about getting on your True Stride, you’ll empathize with this story. [10:23] - I’m grateful that we can find our True Stride together. [12:29] - Our Striders collective shows up for each other, and we keep building each other up. [14:09] - Since no two people are alike, only you know what’s best for you. [15:08] - I express my thoughts on where I’m headed during the next period of transformation. [17:57] - Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “I call it ‘Heart Value’ because I want you to keep offering value that makes your heart happy and that lights you up.” “Trusting your inner compass means trusting your inner voice that wisely observes the situation and that offers you emotional, energetic, or physical signs to enrich your awareness or intuition.” “Here’s what I know for sure: When I hit my true stride running, and in life, I feel invincible.” “You deserve to feel aligned with your True Stride too.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
13 minutes | Jun 24, 2021
EP39: Release to Make Space for What You Want
Do you have a practice that reminds you to set intentions or release anything holding you back? Often, you need to let go of things demanding your time and attention in order to attract the very thing that you want. It’s helpful to have gentle reminders in your life that help you pay attention to your evolution. I sometimes use the moon cycles as my reminder, and on tonight’s full moon I’m ready to let go of a few things to make space for what I really want. To help you understand, I’ll share why releasing disempowering thoughts can open you up to welcome positive possibilities. I learned about the moon cycles as a practice to nurture yourself. In each phase of the moon and life, there is a balance between what comes and what goes. Having a nurturing practice amplifies what you manifest and attract into life. Sometimes life flies by, so keeping a conscious and consistent practice allows you to be mindful of the phases in your journey. When we think of moon cycles, there are two distinct moments we can focus on. One is the full moon, and the other is the new moon. Full moons represent a time to release what’s not serving us. New moons represent a time of setting intentions. In my own eyes, I find the moon cycles to be a beautiful visual reminder of where we are in time and space. As we slow down and check our reality, we find the ebb and flow in the rhythm of our evolution. We always evolve, like the moon. For this episode, we’ll dig into moon cycles that can be a gentle reminder to us in our journey. I personally feel that engaging those cycles also reminds me of the way I intend to show up. I choose what to release and what intentions to set. Each month I make progress based on where I am in life, what I want, and where I want to go. In this episode: [00:23] - Welcome to the Show! [02:35] - How can we use moon cycles to nurture ourselves in whatever ways matter? [04:16] - I find the connection between the moon cycles and harvesting an interesting gentle reminder. [05:28] - To move forward in the way I want to show up, there are a few things I’m releasing during the full moon. [06:38] - “Let not the good suffer at the hands of the perfect.” [07:47] - By releasing negative thoughts, I’m freeing up space for positive possibilities. [08:12] - For right now, I’m setting an intention of releasing. [9:19] - Like everything else in the life cycle, we are growing to reach our full potential. [10:48] - What kind of fun routine can you have with moon cycles? [12:10] - Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “It is extremely difficult to bring anything new into our life without letting go of some stuff.” “There is a natural ebb and flow for getting clear on our intentions in order to make space for what in our heart of hearts we want.” “When I release whatever doesn’t feel supportive, the positive things will flow.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
17 minutes | Jun 17, 2021
EP38: Ways to Align Your Thoughts to Experience More Energetic Highs
The most abundant energy that you project, whether positive or negative, attracts more of the same. I notice that thoughts and feelings impact how the world around me unfolds. More than that, energy is transferable, so I stay mindful about who and where I share energy. For this episode, we’ll discuss living in better alignment with our True Stride and learn how to bring more consistent energetic highs. Last episode, I took time to acknowledge my awesome friend Ryan, who later messaged me, and his energy gave me a boost. I’ll share with you how that interaction was a good example of the way energy is exchanged. Not everyone is familiar with vibrations and frequencies, so I share a few examples to help everyone be on the same page. I share Jack Canfirlde’s description of how your thoughts and feelings act like radio signals to help you tune into the energy you want to align with. The universe pays attention to what you project the most frequently, whether negative or positive, and gives you more of where you focus your attention on. During our Wise Walk, we should be mindful of: Who and what are you inviting into your life, and how does that make you feel? What choices are you making to intentionally attract what you want? What actions support your energetic highs? What actions can you take today to share or appreciate someone else’s energy? How can we make energetic highs a consistent experience in our day? Take time in your day to make the intention for the day. Stepping into that space is worth it as you build momentum, which makes taking action much easier. Think of what ways you are projecting and aligning yourself for the universe to provide what you imagine. Let’s be intentional in the energy we are engaging and exchanging. In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the Show! [02:09] I thank Ryan for sharing his contagious good energy. [03:43] How can feelings help you to align with an intentional life? [06:07] Scary movies and the news drain my energy, and since I know this, I am mindful of how I interact with both. [08:57] I am grateful for the things that remind me to cherish the moment. [10:50] If you need insight on frequencies and vibrations, I recommend picking up The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. [12:32] When we are projecting our thoughts and feelings the universe doesn’t understand the difference between what we want and don’t want. [13:22] Affirmations and mindfulness are two ways to give evidence to the universe of what we find important. [15:23] Where can you share your energetic highs with other people? [15:58] How to find ways to make energetic highs a consistent experience in our day. [16:23] Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “We really need to protect our thoughts, and we really need to invite in more experiences that build us up instead of tear us down.” “Through my thoughts and feelings, I can control the experience, and I can control what I can attract into my life.” “The universe just picks up the signals we’re sending at the regular.” “The energy we exchange with others … it is contagious.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
19 minutes | Jun 10, 2021
EP37: Mid Year Check-In on Your Word for The Year
After the last episode about challenges, I realized that midyear is a great time to reflect on the word we set for the year to illuminate what was important and what we really wanted to accomplish by the end of 2021. As a reminder, my word for the year is Heart Vibe and our word serves as a mantra to realign and stay focused on how we want to show up for ourselves every day and month that passes in 2021. On this Wise Walk the questions on our minds are: Are you still focused and committed to the intention (word for the year) that you set for yourself in the beginning of 2021? How is it supporting you and what choices and actions are you making in order to show up with that focus and commitment every day? And if the word isn’t resonating with you any longer, can you give yourself the freedom to choose again? Some of the things that spark my Heart Vibe are the combination of physical activity, nature, and the outdoors. So for me I need to make sure I get movement and outdoor activity every single day, and that invigorates my heart. So six months into 2021, I’m pretty happy with my word choice of Heart Vibe and I’m happy with my focus and commitment to living it and being mindful of it. Spending time with Katie last week sparked my Heart Vibe because of our soulful connection and the laughter that we shared. Nothing energizes me more than that one to one quality time with an individual that I have a Heart Value relationship with. If your word for the year is not resonating any longer, give yourself the freedom to choose again. We are all working to align with our True Stride and there is no judgment here, just awareness. Whatever that something is that’s calling you give yourself permission and motivation to go after it because you are worth it. Every single day that you have with yourself and those that you love around you, you deserve to have the experience and create the life that you really want. Thank you for listening every week and supporting me as I pursue my word for the year. The accountability that I have with you has been extremely important; that I get to show up with you and have these conversations on our Wise Walks. Your emails spark my Heart Vibe. I can’t even tell you how important they are to me. So you are awesome and I thank you from the bottom of my heart! In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [02:30] I share two things that have made challenges effective in my life. [04:02] Since we are in June, I thought we could check-in and see how our focus and commitment are on that word of the year we chose. [05:48] Are you still focused and committed to the intention that you set for yourself in the beginning of 2021? [05:59] How is it supporting you and what choices and actions are you making in order to show up with that focus and commitment every day? [06:16] If the word you set isn’t resonating with you any longer, can you give yourself the freedom to choose again, and in what ways do you want to change your word? [06:46] My intention for the year is all about my Heart Vibe. [08:01] Here are some things that spark my Heart Vibe. [08:57] I’m mindful that there is an ebb and flow of everything we do. [11:37] If your word isn’t resonating any longer, give yourself the freedom to choose another one. [12:55] Getting Trooper is one of the best things that has happened to me and Cali this year. [14:03] Working on my book is another Heart Vibe high for me. [15:10] My ability to work on my relationships is another high for me in 2021. [16:44] Six months into 2021 how are you feeling? [18:40] Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “I want to take the time to center on my Heart Vibe so that I can lead with my heart.” “I am mindful that there is an ebb and flow to everything we do.” “There are so many facets to me. I can say yes to different things.” “I am always, constantly focused on this ebb and flow of keeping my Heart Vibe high.” “Setting a word for the year's intention is a little bit like a challenge.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
22 minutes | Jun 3, 2021
EP36: What Challenges Support Your Goals, Wellness, and Dreams?
Knowing what success on my terms looks like helped me ground and get clear before I huddled with JT and Katie, my good friends who are also in the business of helping me launch my book Heart Value. We spent two full days brainstorming, strategizing, and talking about all the opportunities before and after launch. Today, we are talking about challenges, and I encourage you to explore and appreciate challenges in whatever form they take for you. My friend Ryan participates in the #75Hard challenge, and if you remember, my good friend Leigh and I took part in the #the100dayproject. These programs and others have been created to encourage people to try new things and have fun doing something they love in community. So as we go on our Wise Walk, the questions on our minds are: Where in our lives are we selling ourselves short because we are doing challenges that are not branded? What's a challenge that interests you right now that you can take regardless if anyone else is doing it? Where in your life can you make up your own challenge or find one on the world wide web that supports you in going after something really important to you? Another good friend, Joey, is committed to finishing his book, so he has challenged himself to write every single day at 10 a.m. Challenges can take a very broad form. Open up your mind to the possibilities and think about where you challenge yourself to see what's possible. If we would define challenges as something that makes us realize what we are capable of, we would all see that challenges happen as a part of our everyday life. Challenges in our lives can be health-related, financial, spiritual, or mental. It can be whatever your heart desires. How can we all think more expansively about how we step into our power, reclaim it, and encourage others to do these challenges. And if it's important to you, how can you share it? In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [02:46] Today, we are talking about challenges. [04:53] Where in our lives are we selling ourselves short because we are doing challenges, but they are not branded? [05:04] What's a challenge that interests you right now that you can take regardless of anyone else doing it? [05:16] Where in your life can you make up your own challenge or find one on the world wide web that supports you in going after something really important to you? [08:40] Another good friend Joey has challenged himself to write his book every day. [10:04] A book by Susie Orman, The Nine Steps to Financial Freedom, challenged me to write down every penny spent so I could see where my money was going. [11:11] Reading Mariel Hemingway's book, Healthy Living From the Inside Out, I learned the effects of caffeine on the body. [13:38] What is something you have already done that you can pat yourself on the back for? [14:20] What's a challenge that interests you right now? [15:57] When I say I'm going to give my body a break, it means being mindful, slowing down, and consuming things my body can break down and digest easily. [17:48] It's been over a year since I've been able to do yoga, so I am challenging myself to get back to yoga. [20:47] How can we all really think more expansively about how we step into our power and reclaim it? [21:34] Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “I have been doing challenges since a very young age.” “Open up your mind to the possibilities and think about where you challenge yourself, to see what’s possible.” “This Striders community means so much to me.” “There have been so many opportunities for me to see what’s possible in my own life.” “The word challenge or challenges can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people.” “We are doing challenges in our everyday life but we are not giving ourselves credit for it.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
20 minutes | May 27, 2021
EP35: Success On Your Terms
I've been listening to other authors about success goals for their books. This made me pause and think about my book goals, which aren't tied to quantity or ranking. As we go on our Wise Walk today, the questions on our minds are: What does success on your terms feel like? Have you articulated success on your terms out loud so that a loved one can support your clarity and confidence to go after what you really want? What's an action you can take to align with your heart and take one step forward to achieving success on your terms, even if it doesn't make sense to anyone? Success to me with this podcast and my book is all about making an impact on an individual's life. I look forward to hearing from humans who resonated with parts of my book and learning what feelings, choices, and actions they're taking on their journey. I just wanted to share how success on my terms is resonating with me in this present moment. Hopefully, you can use these questions to reground on what matters to you in your present moment so that you define success on your terms and move forward in a way that aligns with your True Stride. In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [02:28] My book Heart Value, which will be published this fall, is all about following your heart to unlock the value inside you. [04:30] I had to pause and reground myself on my own goals with my book. [07:01] I will try my best not to get caught up in the pressures of sales or rankings to define Heart Value's success. [08:43] What does success on your terms feel like? [09:03] Have you articulated success on your terms out loud so that a loved one can support your clarity and confidence to go after what you really want? [09:16] What's an action you can take to align with your heart and take one step forward to achieving success on your terms even if it doesn't make sense to anyone? [11:26] Hearing from you really lights me up. [12:40] On your Wise Walk, think about what you are working on. [14:09] Gaining awareness of how you define success on your terms is one thing, but having the courage to tell someone you love is where magic can occur. [16:08] I've always loved quality over quantity of time. [16:38] Success on my terms means quality connection, not quantity. [18:57] If numbers and rankings matter to you, that is great. Be true to yourself. [20:01] I look forward to next Thursday's conversation. See you then. Memorable Quotes: “I have to follow my heart and trust my inner compass and listen to myself about what’s important.” “Success on my terms feels very personal to me.” “I find that gaining awareness on how you define success on your terms is one thing, but having the courage to tell someone that you love is where magic can occur.” “Success on my terms means quality connection, not quantity.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
21 minutes | May 20, 2021
EP34: What Energizes Your Heart?
Since our last episode, I took a road trip to Miami with my parents to celebrate my nieces’ graduations. Two of my nieces, Krissy and Dana, graduated from the University of Miami with Nursing Degrees. My niece Lauren graduates from the Mayo Clinic this coming weekend as a Doctor, and she is super excited to start her residency that will ultimately lead her into the field of Neuroscience. We could not be more proud of them, and it was an amazing weekend. These three ladies are so inspiring, and it will be fun to watch them as they pursue careers that light them up. We have a special guest today on our Wise Walk, my momma C. Cullen Rooney, and the questions on our minds today are: As you lead with your heart and explore the paths or options in front of you, do you have the confidence to say “no thank you” to those opportunities that don't feel right to you? As you gain clarity on what feels right and pursue that choice, what are the other aspects of your life that you need to nurture and honor to make your heart happy? If you are in an intense period of your life, how are you prioritizing fun and carving out time to recharge and fill your energy reserves to make memories that help you go the distance? We had so much fun celebrating Lauren, Krissy, and Dana. They brought awareness to certain energies and choices that are important to us on our Wise Walks, including having the confidence to know what you want and being willing to say “yes” to the things that light you up and “no” to the ones that don't. Also, the need to mindfully prioritize fun before, during, and after the intense periods and to make and cherish memories that energetically carry with you through life. In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [03:34] All three of my nieces have chosen careers that align with their Heart Value. [05:26] As you lead with your heart and explore the paths or options in front of you, do you have the confidence to say no thank you to those opportunities that don't feel right to you? [05:42] As you gain clarity on what feels right and pursue that choice, what are the other aspects of your life that you need to nurture and honor to make your heart happy? [05:58] If you are in an intense period of your life that is demanding, how are you prioritizing fun and carving out time to recharge and fill your energy reserves? [07:34] "The key number one thing is having confidence in yourself and your abilities." [10:20] Krissy started painting again, which helped her refocus her energy while studying. [11:00] Mom shares the things she believes Striders should think about because you have to nurture all aspects of your life. [13:32] What impressed me about my niece Lauren is how she lights up when she talks about the residency program she is entering. [15:28] Mom, what should we think about when we come out of a very demanding period and come up for air and can enjoy our time off? [18:09] We all need to recharge and make memories. [20:13] Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “I really admired their clarity, confidence, and commitment to who they are and what lights them up.” Mary Tess Rooney “The key number one thing is having confidence in yourself and in your abilities.” C. Cullen Rooney “Each step that you take forward will get easier and easier.” C. Cullen Rooney “Know what lights you up on a personal level and fuels your passions.” Mary Tess Rooney “Take the time to appreciate all of your hard work; no one gets there freely.” C. Cullen Rooney “For every life that you live, don’t be afraid to take time for yourself.” C. Cullen Rooney Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
19 minutes | May 13, 2021
EP33: Happy Nurture & Grow Day!!
I spent Mother's Day with my mom, my hero, and the aunts and sister who live nearby. Some of them are mothers in the traditional sense, meaning they birthed humans into this world, but some are like me without kids but show up in motherly ways. For example, I got to celebrate with my Aunt Caron, who, even though she doesn't have children of her own, embodies, nurtures, and grows love all around her. So it was fun to be with the traditional and non-traditional mothers in my life and take a moment to honor them and give gratitude for all that they've given me. On today's Wise Walk, we are thinking about: Where in your life do you show up in ways that matter, even if society doesn't label you in that particular light? Where can you look past labels and see someone else's ability to nurture and grow others? What's something you want to nurture and grow in yourself or others that you will make a priority this week? For the record, all mothers are amazing; I am continually in awe and impressed with the qualities they exude and what they stand for. Mothers accept their roles or choose to support others they care about because the exchange of energies that they offer is unlike any energies on this earth. All mothers, biological, adoptive, and childless moms, offer those mother-like qualities regardless of when or how they get that honorary mom title because of the sacrifices they make to nurture life. I believe that Mother's Day should be expanded to anyone who gives, nurtures, and supports life because that is the most beautiful gift that we can offer each other. Do you know what the original intent of Mother's Day was? Listen in to hear what I found out and I invite you to look past the label of motherhood to offer gratitude, and maybe we say to each other Happy Nurture & Grow Day instead of Happy Mother’s Day because it takes a village to help you and I be our best selves every day. In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [02:35] As we age, our perspective changes on motherhood. [04:41] I don't have kids, but I have the heart of a mother. [05:21] Where in your life do you show up in ways that matter, even if society doesn't label you in that particular light? [05:32] Where can you look past labels and see someone else's ability to nurture and grow others? [05:44] What's something you want to nurture and grow in yourself or others that you are going to make a priority this week? [07:17] Adoptive moms are amazing and fierce because they commit to showing up for that individual, whether good or bad. [09:10] I am a mother to my dogs, Cali and Trooper. [11:33] What becomes possible if instead of saying Happy Mother's Day we say Happy Grow and Nurture Day instead? [13:07] How do we honor the sacrifices you make day in and day out? [15:38] I am stepping into my mother-like qualities with Trooper and taking him to train. [17:40] I hope what you take away from this episode is that no one can be the sole source of the motherly love we need to reach our full potential. [18:55] I look forward to next Thursday's conversation! Memorable Quotes: “I love the idea of honoring and giving gratitude to the females in our lives.” “As we age our experiences continue to shape our perspectives on motherhood.” “I have the heart of a mother that loves and sees potential in all living things.” “I think we should expand our thinking to say that to mother means to nurture and grow any living thing.” “Motherhood is a state of being that provides any living thing with compassion, guidance, strength, and unconditional love.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
15 minutes | May 6, 2021
EP32: Create Awareness Not Judgment
The purpose of our Wise Walks is to create a self-reflection for the purposes of awareness not judgment. If you graded yourself on our last Wise Walk around Energetic Hygiene and were surprised by your answers and low scores in an area, give yourself some grace. Let's make a pact right here and now and say that this True Stride podcast is a judgment-free zone. On today's Wise Walk, we discuss what we can do to create more awareness in our life and dismiss that judgment. As we stride together, the questions on our minds are: In what ways can grading systems support or harm your mindset? When you have a judgmental thought about yourself or others, what choices can you make to shift that perspective? And if you feel your energetic self-care practices are not where you want them to be, what's one action or step you're going to take to move forward in the direction you want to go? Let's talk about dreadful grading systems that create judgment instead of awareness. I am personally not a fan of something that makes you or I feel bad about ourselves. I am sorry if the last episode caused any unnecessary negative self chatter in yourself; that was sincerely not my intention. I only used a grading system with you to illustrate that recently I had not been focused on daily practices that energize me, and I momentarily lost sight of that awareness. When I think back to where I needed more awareness, not judgment, I recall a conversation with one of my medical doctors Dr. Patel. At that time in my life, my clean eating regimen had gotten a little too hardcore, and Dr. Patel told me that a plateful of frank and beans served with love is much healthier than an organic salad served with stress and anxiety. Frank and beans, in terms of clean eating, are like a major no-no, but I had to learn to move my mindset from judgment to awareness. Judgment creates stress, which is worse for us than clean eating. So as you think about our conversation for this episode, how you feel about the choices and actions you're making, it is going to affect your whole body and energy, so where in your life can you be kind to yourself as you evaluate any recent experience and then how can you take them all in stride? In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [03:14] After my last episode on Energetic Hygiene, I heard from some Striders that could relate, and their scores weren't that great either. [04:50] In what ways can grading systems support or harm your mindset? [04:58] When you have a judgmental thought about yourself or others, what choices can you make to shift that perspective? [05:08] If you feel your energetic self-care practices are not where you want them to be, what's one action or step you will take to move forward in the direction you want to go? [05:56] I have learned the practice of focusing on awareness, not judgment, over time. [08:31] I realized I couldn't view my doctor's visits as a test or a grade. [10:02] Stress is not good for any of us, and judgment usually leads to stress. [12:03] Our thoughts and mindsets are very powerful. [14:18] What's one step you are going to take to keep a positive mindset? [15:09] I look forward to next week's conversation. Memorable Quotes: “Negative self talk or chatter is a choice.” “Stress is not good for any of us, and judgment usually leads to stress.” “Frank and beans served with love is much healthier than an organic salad served with stress and anxiety.” “The purpose of our Wise Walks is to create awareness not judgment.” “Grading systems create judgment instead of awareness.” “I take really good care of myself 80% of the time, so I have to give myself grace for the 20% of the time I don’t.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
19 minutes | Apr 29, 2021
EP31: The Importance of Energetic Hygiene
I just got back from a 1300 mile road trip with my Aunt Teeny, her three horses, and a donkey. My Aunt needed help to haul her horses from California to Florida, so I met her halfway in Oklahoma City. It was a new experience for me hauling equines any distance, and with any new experience, I learn a lot, laugh a lot, and grow. So on this episode, I thought I’d share what I learned about myself over this week-journey. While driving, I called my friend Erin because I needed to reschedule plans and while on the phone, I complimented her because she has been really looking great lately; I mean glowing. I asked her what she has been doing differently, and Erin said the only new thing in her life is that she is more consistently practicing energetic hygiene. She’s lost over 25 pounds by focusing on how she energetically cares for herself day in and day out. I know how important energetic self-care is, but lately, I haven’t been focusing on it like I should, so I was happy to be reminded of the benefits. So as we stride together, the questions on our minds are: For you, what are the benefits of energetic self-care of hygiene? In what ways do you practice energetic hygiene? And when you feel yourself in an energetic slump, how do you recharge yourself? During this last week with my aunt, I’ve had some energetic highs and lows, and I’m still feeling sluggish because it was a lot. It was fun, and I am glad I did it, but now I am having a little trouble re-acclimating myself here at home in St. Augustine. When I was thinking about how I care for myself and the energetic self-care components that are important to me, nine key factors stand out and energetically make a difference. In no particular order: food, sleep, exercise, alone time, laughter & joy, nature, meditate, contribute, and reflect. Listen, and I’ll give more content on each one, and you can see how these things apply to you or how they don’t, which is fine too. We met some really sweet people on this journey, like Mike and Joanne in Alabama, that let us use their farm as a pit stop for the horses and Isabella the donkey so they could stretch their legs. We also met the agricultural police when we got pulled over because I didn’t see the sign in Florida that you have to stop with animals. He was really great as well. I always enjoy our Wise Walk together because you always help me reflect and look at the experiences I have and what I’m missing or what I want more of, or what has been meaningful and important to me. So I’m going to keep having these Wise Walks together and thank you all for that. In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [01:55] My friend Erin is consistently practicing energetic hygiene. [03:15] We need to be mindful of everything we do and the people, places, and things we expose ourselves to. [03:47] For you, what are the benefits of energetic self-care or hygiene? [03:57] What ways do you practice energetic hygiene? [04:04] When you feel yourself in an energetic slump, how do you recharge yourself? [05:01] Nine key energetic self-care components stand out to me. [06:07] Food is really important to me and that I eat cleanly. [08:50] I am an eight hours a night girl, and my immune system breaks down if I don’t sleep for extended periods. [10:06] Exercise is something I need, and while we were away, I only ran once. [10:40] Space and alone time were very sparse on this trip. [11:45] Much laughter and joy were abundant on this trip with my aunt. [13:09] Nature is so important to me, and I appreciate all the beauty that is in the world. [13:42] Meditation was something I wasn’t able to do on the road. [14:03] Contribution is another need of mine, and I was able to contribute by helping my aunt, who wouldn’t have been able to do this on her own. [14:33] I like time to reflect, and I was able to reflect some in the car. [17:29] What are your top energetic hygiene practices? [18:08] Thank you so much for listening! Memorable Quotes: “Everything is made up of energy and has the power to either light us up or drain us or deplete us.” “Think about the things that energetically light you up.” “Whenever I talk about frequency or vibration, I’m talking about that energy exchange.” “The exchange of energy that is important to us and that we need to pay attention to.” “With any new experience, I tend to learn a lot and laugh a lot.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
16 minutes | Apr 22, 2021
EP30: Honoring What Is Visible To You
As I reflected on last week's episode and took a Wise Walk with myself, I realized that at this moment in time, I feel seen and understood by most people in my life, but I've worked really hard for this moment in time. I've had to make some tough decisions along the way to stay aligned with feeling seen, heard, and understood. As we Stride together, the questions on our minds are: Where do you take pride in being visible to yourself, for yourself, without needing anyone else to praise or recognize you? Is there a way to increase your visibility to stay motivated, accountable, or get encouragement? Where in your life do you want to take a quality that already exists inside you and make it more visible? Those conversations where you feel invisible or realize whoever you are talking to or hanging out with are too consumed by their reality to understand what you are trying to accomplish can be very disappointing. But it would be more disappointing if you gave into their limited thinking of what was possible and what was visible in our hearts. For me, it's about observing and appreciating my internal visibility for myself first and foremost. My good friend Katie is a fellow Strider, and she posts these great Instagram stories about her daily runs. Her simple and consistent posts are a way that she shows up for herself to be visible for herself and others that matter, like her three amazing boys. Katie’s act of self-care and willingness to share motivates others to get their stride on too. I've learned that it is so important to tie your need for visibility back to your feeling goals and what lights you up. As this podcast airs, my Aunt Teeny and I will be in a massive white truck hauling a six-horse trailer from Oklahoma to northern Florida. We are relocating my Aunt Teeny's three horses and donkey from California to Florida. My Aunt made the brave choice to relocate herself and her animals to St. Augustine, Florida, to be closer to family, and I agreed to help her because I know it will be an adventure. I am thankful to my sister Heather, who is taking care of Trooper and Cali, so that I am free to support my Aunt. I am very excited to have this topic of what is visible to me front and center as I make the drive across the country. I want to see the countryside complete with the horse accommodations with fresh eyes. I'm going to be present with my feelings that influence my choices and my actions, and I'm going to look forward to telling you about it. In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [02:01] Where do you take pride in being visible to yourself, for yourself, without needing anyone else to praise or recognize you? [02:19] Is there a way to increase your visibility to stay motivated, accountable, or get encouragement? [02:35] Where in your life do you want to take a quality that already exists inside you and make it more visible? [02:59] I dated a guy who thought writing my book was a hobby, and his thoughts came out in many ways. [04:43] I am so proud of myself for not letting his undermining comments change my course. [06:36] Being an author is way hard, but I feel led to do it. [07:40] You can recognize and be visible for yourself. [08:03] Where in your life are you doing something people don't get, but it doesn't matter? [09:53] What I've learned is that it is so important to tie your need for visibility back to your goals and what lights you up. [10:44] Honor what is visible to you, and don't worry about what others think. [12:01] As this podcast airs, I will be in a big white truck hauling horses and a donkey from Oklahoma to Florida. [14:10] As you observe and appreciate your visibility, where are you infusing external visibility to support you? [15:37] Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “Honor what is visible to you and don’t worry about what others think.” “Tie your need for visibility back to your feeling goals and what lights you up.” “It was visible to myself and that was enough.” “I don’t let negative nitwits who don’t get me or take an interest in my dreams derail my progress.” “Your energy is too valuable to waste on trying to persuade anyone of what you already know to be true for you.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
30 minutes | Apr 15, 2021
EP29: Ways To Increase Your Visibility
I am delighted to tell you that I have hit another major milestone in my life that I want to celebrate with you. As you recall, from an earlier episode, I invited a small group of advanced readers to read my book Heart Value, and I got tremendous feedback. I incorporated some of their suggestions, and then I just sent my completed manuscript off to my developmental editor for one more final pass. The other thing that has been so wonderful for me is meeting so many amazing authors in this space. My guest on today's Wise Walk is one of those phenomenal authors Susan M. Barber, and together we are going to talk about ways to increase your visibility. Susan M. Barber, I'm going to call her Sue because we are buds, is a certified executive coach, a consultant, and an author. Her love for people's development and her passion for helping companies solve business challenges is what lights her up; this is her Heart Value. She transforms clients to stand out, receive recognition, and reach their ultimate career goals. Her decision to stop playing small in her life led her to write her book, The Visibility Factor, which will be out in the fall. As we walk together, the questions on our minds are: Where in your life do you feel invisible? What are some choices that you can make right now or down the road to become more visible in the areas that are most important to you? What's one action you are going to take this week to get whatever you want on someone else's radar, or maybe just your own radar? Sue shares how her lack of visibility inspired her to write a book and why helping others step into their power became a passion for her. She believes people discount the importance of being recognized and visible. She shares an example of what happened with a client who decided he wanted to be bold and gain confidence. Sue also discusses different client experiences on her blog. Sue shares some things Striders can do to be in a more visible space. For example, take time to understand your work culture, observe others, and learn how to stand out as the person to solve the problem. Get help from people you trust in the organization, people who are willing to give you feedback, because those are the people who are in meetings with you, the people who can help you see what you are doing and how you can shift it. Because you can also feel invisible at home, Sue wants everyone to use their voices and share what they feel and what they think about. Keeping that stuff in is just a lot of negative energy, and eventually, it will come out somehow, whether you react to something or physically by getting sick. Once she started talking about what was going on, she says her relationship with her children and husband changed dramatically. Sue, thank you for sharing the stories and your perspective on how visibility has impacted you and all the clients you work with. In this episode: [00:23] Welcome to the show! [02:47] Where in your life do you feel invisible? [02:54] What are some choices that you can make right now or down the road to become more visible in the areas that are important to you? [03:08] What's one action you are going to take this week to get whatever you want on someone else's radar, or maybe just your own radar? [04:51] Thank you for being on the show, Sue! [05:22] What was it about visibility that inspired you to write a book and help others step into their power? [08:10] Sue discounted the importance of being recognized for what she did and feeling visible. [09:25] Sue gives an example from one of her coaching clients. How he wanted to show up made him more confident and changed how people saw him. [12:13] "Ultimately, it's about visibility, creating a different kind of visibility." [12:58] Sue discusses the other emotions or experiences that bring people to her to help them with visibility. [14:29] Sue speaks about a client that gained visibility by getting more involved. [16:07] Sue talks about some questions she asks clients to find out where they want to go next. [17:59] Sue discusses some things that the Striders can do to help them step into a more visible space in their world. [20:49] Sue speaks about adding value and showing up the way you want to be seen. [21:37] Listen as Sue shares how some people can feel like they aren't visible at home, just like they do at work. [24:04] Sue talks about how her ah-ha moment and using her voice changed her life at home and in her marriage. [26:21] What is your why, and why do you want to increase visibility? [28:29] Sue, thank you for being on the show! Memorable Quotes: “I discovered that I was being invisible myself in my corporate job.” Susan M. Barber “It’s much easier to get visibility than you realize.” Susan M. Barber “Ultimately, it’s about visibility, creating a different kind of visibility.” Susan M. Barber “Use your voice; please say what you think about, share what you feel.” Susan M. Barber “If we feel like something is missing, the answers are inside of us; we just have to take the time to dig deeper.” Mary Tess Rooney “If we’re encountering a struggle or opportunity at work, it mirrors our home life too.” Mary Tess Rooney “By being vocal you give the people that really need to hear what you have to say the opportunity to get to know you.” Mary Tess Rooney Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Susan M Barber Coaching & Consulting LLC
12 minutes | Apr 8, 2021
EP28: Celebrate Your Progress and Milestones
Can you believe six months have passed since we started going on Wise Walks together? I am blown away, and surprised that I didn’t naturally take a moment to appreciate our milestone and think about all that I've learned, discovered, and grown as a result of our interaction once a week. Today, we are going to take a Wise Walk on what in our life is worth celebrating and how we can be more mindful about taking time to honor our milestones, whatever they are, and whenever they are. As we stride together, the questions on our minds are: What is something you said yes to that is requiring your energy, attention, and effort, and what is your plan to celebrate your progress for that something? What are the ways you like to celebrate your milestones, and can you share that excitement and accomplishment with others? Are you conscious of how your ability to celebrate your life's wins affects others? The episodes that have really stuck with me are the ones where I get feedback from you. I love hearing what stories resonate with you and how you applied them in your life. Like when one Strider was struggling to make a tough career decision, our wise walk questions brought to the surface a clear answer for him, and he took steps to move in the direction that he wanted to go. I've also heard some great stories about how conversations are impacting individuals outside of our Strider’s collective. My friend and fellow strider Shandra shared the exercise at the beginning of 2021, what's your word for the year, with one of her co-workers, and then that co-worker challenged members of his team to think about their word for the year. Our conversations are expanding far outside of this Strider’s collective and impacting others. I am deeply grateful for you helping me show up and gain momentum in my True Stride. Your support, encouragement, and appreciation for our Wise Walks and time together means more than you know. I am planning to celebrate you, us, and our Strider’s collective with my family and friends this coming weekend because they are always around helping me and cheering me on. In this episode: [00:24] Welcome to the show! [02:03] What is something you said yes to that requires your energy, attention, and effort, and what is your plan to celebrate your progress for that something? [02:18] What are the ways you like to celebrate your milestones, and can you share that excitement and accomplishment with others? [02:36] Are you conscious of how your ability to celebrate your life's wins impacts others? [04:47] You have helped me continue to use my voice and explore the things that align with my Heart Value. [05:41] One of my big takeaways from six months of wise walks is that we are all learning and looking for ways to expand as we design our epic adventure. [06:13] What have you gained from spending time with us? [07:41] You warmed my heart by wanting to know how trooper, my new puppy, is doing. [09:08] I'm excited to see where we go from here! [09:47] With four months into 2021, are you focused on the things that light you up and are important to you? [10:09] How are you celebrating your ability to show up and do your best every day. [11:59] As always, I would love to hear what you took away from today's show. [11:17] Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “The best thing we can do for ourselves is take time for ourselves.” “I can exercise my ability to lead with my heart to self reflect.” “I am deeply grateful to you for helping me show up and gain momentum in my True Stride.” “What in our life is worth celebrating?” “Showing up for me and the Strider’s collective week after week has been huge and so inspirational.” “We are all learning and looking for ways to expand as we design our EPIC adventure.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
35 minutes | Apr 1, 2021
EP27: Use Challenges to Spark Your Heart
So on today’s wise walk, we are talking about how to honor your made-up rules when you say yes, and as we stride together, the questions on your minds are: When you say yes, are you really clear on your why, and do you hold space to accomplish your why and see what is possible? As you progress, do you pay attention to your feelings, what’s working and what’s not, and do you check in with yourself regularly to celebrate your milestones or pivot if something feels off? In what ways do you use challenges in your life to grow, expand, create some lessons and muscle memory with every yes you take? In this episode, my good friend Leigh P. Farrow is my guest. Leigh is a talented individual in so many ways and the creator of #piecefulpath. She has had an amazing career that has spanned many different industries and businesses. Still, her main thing in life is empowering individuals to lead their lives with creativity, innovation, transformation, and results. Leigh is a great wife, fur mom, author, and speaker, and she runs a series called Animated Wisdom; and she is driven to inform, inspire, and ignite people’s passion on their leadership journey. Leigh and I are talking about our experience with the #100dayproject and talking with our striders about how we put ourselves out there, say yes to things, and take some challenges to see what we are capable of. Listen as Leigh shares why she committed to the 100 day project by doing mosaic bricks and what she has gained from the experience so far. Leigh has decided to use her mosaic bricks to build a wall around her garden so it will appear as a vertical mural for everyone to enjoy. At the end of the project, Leigh will have 100 amazing compilations representing so many different parts of her and intentionally represent things that are a passion for her. Leigh is a woman that always sparks my Heart Vibe, she and I energize and support each other every day, and I feel so blessed to call her my friend, and I’m thrilled that I got to share her with you. Challenges are all about holding space and honoring you; your made-up rules however you see fit that fuels what’s inside of you. So whether you do that privately or publicly on Instagram, just honor the artist within you and honor what’s sparking and speaking to you. Whether you do challenges for one day or a hundred days, there is growth and expansion happening each time you say yes. In this episode: [00:24] Welcome to the show! [03:02] My word for 2021 is Heart Vibe, which means feeling the vibration in your heart to guide your inner compass. [04:41] When you say yes, are you clear on your why, and do you hold space to accomplish your why and see what is possible? [04:54] As you progress, do you pay attention to your feelings, what’s working and what’s not? [05:08] In what ways do you use any types of challenges in your life to grow, expand, create some lessons, and muscle memory with every yes that you take? [06:34] Welcome to the show, Leigh!. [07:24] Leigh shares why she committed to the 100day project. [09:01] Leigh’s project was mosaic bricks, and she explains why. [10:17] Did thinking about doing the project for 100 days overwhelm you? [12:12] Leigh speaks about photographing her mosaic bricks so that she can post on Instagram. [13:52] At the end of the project, Leigh is going to use the bricks to build a wall around her garden so that it is a vertical mural. [15:45] Leigh believes we should be open to the signs. [17:35] Mary says that she has gotten everything she wanted to from the 100 day project and is living out the intention. [20:09] Leigh discusses what she has learned from this project and what she will take with her going forward. [24:02] Mary talks about posting her Heart Vibe sparks on Instagram. [25:08] Leigh thinks it’s important that everyone recognizes that the way we approach things is different. [26:21] Leigh shares with the listener something she would encourage them to do and figure out why you are saying yes. [29:03] Leigh speaks about what her bricks represent and how they let her inner self come out. [31:10] Thank you for being on the show! [34:06] Thank you for listening to the show! Memorable Quotes: “Every day I notice my Heart Vibe highs like a treasure hunt.” Mary Tess Rooney “I need to enjoy what I am crafting and creating and value it for what it is.” Leigh P. Farrow “Life is very much like an adventure.” Mary Tess Rooney “We all have the ability to play by our own rules.” Mary Tess Rooney “There is no rule, and that’s the amazing thing about it.” Leigh P Farrow “Get playful with it.” Mary Tess Rooney “Whatever you decide to do or not do, the key is to get clear on your why.” Mary Tess Rooney “Every human is unique and we all approach things differently.” Mary Tess Rooney Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Leigh P. Farrow's Book: Leadership Nuts #piecefulpath
19 minutes | Mar 25, 2021
EP26: Channel Courage to Say YES
On the last episode, I talked about getting a new German Shepherd puppy and if it was the right time to bring one into the family. Well, Cali now has a new little brother named Trooper, and it looks like they are going to be best buds. When I said yes to this pup, I knew it would be a lot of work, but I am thrilled to see them bond. Their playfulness and curiosity have been super fun to watch, and that lights me up. I had two monumental events in the span of five days; we got Trooper, and I sent the unedited manuscript version of my book Heart Value to a small group of advanced readers to get their feedback. So on today's wise walk, we think about where we can celebrate our yes milestones that we had the courage to take in our lives. As we stride together, the questions on our minds are: What are you thinking about saying yes to that requires courage? As you commit to your slightly scary yes, did you take time to admire your bravery? And who are the people in your life that challenge and support you no matter if your brave yes goes right or wrong? As a first-time author, I didn't realize what went into writing or publishing a book. A book isn't just about a big idea; it's about crafting your thoughts in a way that meets readers where they are so that you can take them on this personal journey. I worked with a developmental editor, AJ Harper, who is fabulous, and she kept me honest about the structure and flow to benefit readers. AJ's favorite thing to say is that a book isn't about something; it is for someone. She challenges her authors to put the readers first and write a book that will change lives, including my own. Writing my book Heart Value has changed my life, and the ways it has changed will be a topic for a different episode, so stay tuned. Oh, the waiting place. My mom loved the book Oh, The Places You'll Go by Dr. Seuss, and she gave it to us all as kids, and she still pulls it out to read from time to time. I will never be too old for Dr. Seuss. My friend Deanna just bought a house in St. Augustine, but she made several offers on different houses before she got a final yes in return. So many times we say yes and we have to wait for the next steps because the ball is in someone else's court. I feel like I've done my best to communicate what's in my heart, then I have to trust my inner compass to manage the outcome, whatever it is. Depending on the circumstance, I manage my waiting place by faith, surrounding myself with lots of support and self-praise. Because whether I get what I think I want or not, I will be one step closer to what is right in my heart, and I will not second guess my yes. When I am in this waiting place of getting responses to my manuscript, I have learned to relax, breathe, be present, trust the process and stay focused on my end goal of improving my reader's experience. In this episode: [00:24] Welcome to the show! [01:00] Welcome to the family, Trooper! [02:59] What are you thinking about saying yes to that requires courage? [03:19] As you commit to your slightly scary yes, whatever that is, did you take time to admire your bravery? [03:31] And who are the people in your life that challenge and support you no matter if your brave yes goes right or wrong? [04:21] As a first-time author, I had no idea what went into writing or publishing a book. [06:16] Waiting to get feedback from the advanced readers isn't easy. [08:00] I am so grateful to the advanced readers that wanted to read my book. [08:30] What's a yes milestone you made recently that took courage? [08:41] How can you channel your courage to see what's possible instead of what might go wrong. [10:41] I can't control the outcome; I can only control my response to it. [11:58] I see my life as an adventure. [14:11] I gave my readers two weeks to read my manuscript and send back their responses. [16:58] After taking your bold and daring step, how are you handling your mind chatter? [18:31] Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “A book isn’t about just a big idea, it’s about crafting your thoughts in a way that meets readers where they are.” “As AJ Harper, founder of Top Three Workshop, states, a “book isn’t about something, it’s for someone.” “I want to empower others to become their own Heart Value experts.” “I know I can’t control the outcomes; I can only control my response to them.” “Holding on to negative thoughts is not helpful.” “The choice to do nothing is an action.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Find AJ Harper
13 minutes | Mar 18, 2021
EP25: If Not Now, When?
In today’s wise walk, we are talking about where in our life we can ask critical questions of ourselves to reveal more meaningful, heartfelt answers. As we stride together, the questions on our minds are: Do you have a default question that surfaces when you face a new opportunity? Are you aware of trigger questions, those questions that come up as a knee-jerk reaction? After you accept your initial response or trigger, can you get curious and ask different questions? My Aunt Teeny recently called and asked me if I was interested in a new German Shepherd puppy. Apparently, a friend’s German Shepherd had an unexpected pregnancy, and she ended up with seven puppies. My default response to this question was, oh, puppies are so cute, followed by my default question: Is this the right time to get a puppy? So I decided to take myself on a wise walk to see what other questions I avoided or overlooked by asking this simplified resistance question. I knew I needed to go on this wise walk to tap into what my heart was saying and think about whether Cali, my seven-year-old German Shepherd, and I had enough love to give another puppy, and the answer was yes. Then there is the issue of my van. Was it big enough for two hairy, full-sized dogs? I can see the benefit of having two large companions, especially when I venture into unknown areas. While reflecting on why I should consider this new addition, two thoughts surfaced. Cali would love to have a companion, and I have always wanted to do nose or scent work with a dog. Cali was my first pup, and I never made time to do nose work with her, so could this be my chance? Stay tuned to see if Cali and I get a new friend. We all have default questions and triggers that surface when faced with something new; it’s just a natural tendency in all of us. We all have these blanket triggers that can hold us back if we let them. So the key is to get curious and ask different questions to explore what is possible. In this episode: [00:24] Welcome to the show! [01:55] Do you have a default question that surfaces in your life when you face a new opportunity? [02:05] Are you aware of trigger questions? [02:19] After you accept your initial response or that trigger question that surfaces for you, can you get curious and ask different questions? [04:17] I took myself on a wise walk to see what other questions I might be avoiding or overlooking. [06:07] There are benefits to having two dogs, especially when I venture into unknown areas. [06:53] What’s your default response to new opportunities? [08:23] The best part of this exercise is that I am training myself to adopt a new default question. If not now, when? [09:41] Once you ask yourself open-minded questions and self-reflect, are you surprised by your answers? [10:43] What is in your heart doesn’t have to be logical or make sense to anyone. [11:58] Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “Where in our lives can we ask critical questions of ourselves?” “We all have default questions and triggers that surface when we are faced with something new.” “If not now, when?” “We all have blanket triggers that will hold us back if we let them.” “The key is to get curious and ask different questions to explore what is possible.” “What is in your heart doesn’t have to be logical or make sense to anyone.” Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram
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