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In this episode we discuss the attempts to rent the rage of Black Women an example of this, is the video released by the Original founder of GrassFields calling the Black Community to to help but not providing transparency and full disclosure. We discuss the learning lessons here. This is a dilemma episode. *Point of correction in the podcast i mention the tories wanting to increase the retirement age. They are actually wanting to increase the retirement age in the UK from the age to be more than 68 yrs old and not to 68 yrs old. Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

In this episode we discuss professional resect. In the work place respect from fear is temporary one should much more prefer genuine respect for what someone brings to the table eg: experience, deliverables or someone who delivers the job. Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

Lets discuss quiet quitting defined as ' the practice of doing little or nothing while being present at ones place if employment'. - I define it as working smarter rather than harder and realigning your wants and expectations by doing the bare minimum delivering and still appearing to be working hard whilst strategically developing and then executing a strategy and exit plan to leave. All whilst appearing to be engaged and present.We then discuss the contractual landscape with regards to enforcing payment terms whilst contracting/freelancing. What are we doing with non payment/late payment of invoices? Here I give you some tips and pointers that I am currently using to get paid whist avoiding having to to go to small claims court to get what you are owed. Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

We as Black Women have a duty to ourselves to protect our self esteem, build confidence in who we are, our careers and the fundamentals of what makes us who we are. White Supremacy protects the ideology that oppresses us but how do we burst the bubble of White Supremacy and do you recognise when this ideology is being pushed in the workplace? - Let's discuss. Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

In a society that makes us conscious  of the differences we have, we as Black Women know in the work place we are like moving targets.  But the reality is we often sign a psychological contract where we subconsciously and/or  consciously at a disadvantage to make others feel comfortable. Where do we draw the line and terminate this false belief that our discomfort is the required sacrifice for the benefit of others, others who do not consider us worthy of the freedom to operate freely from the burden of considering everyone else other than ourselves. Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

This episode should have really been entitled 'A Phased Return' a slight play of words if you understand the context. What happens in politics usually finds itself in the office including the pricks and false narratives pushed for the success of the corrupt.In this episode we round up things I have missed whist I have been away. I also share my hypochondriac boss taking credit for my work and removing my signature replacing it as hers and passing it off as her own. This really speaking to her character and the need to develop the 'Art of not giving a F*ck'. This episode we discuss contract clauses risk and implications of clauses that you should be aware of for both employment and consultancy contracts Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

This is a Dilemma Episode.I will also be discussing the recent repeal of IR35 and its impact on contractors/ consultants.Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com    Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)    Snapchat: @toyawashington   Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/     Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

At the age of 96 The Queen of the United Kingdom passed away, this of course has given rise to topical discussions both on social media and within the workplace. The topic of the British empires role in colonisation is a painful one especially when people tell you how you should feel about the monarchy and how to react to the passing away of the Queen of England. One thing is for sure one cannot discuss the monarchy without being honest about their role in colonisation, slavery and the destruction and interruption of peace in Africa.Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com  Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)  Snapchat: @toyawashington  Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks  YouTube: At Home With Toya https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/ Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

Policing your self esteem is a duty YOU owe to yourself.Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com  Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)  Snapchat: @toyawashington   Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/ Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

'You have to acknowledge someones win even if it is at the expense of your losses' Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com    Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)    Snapchat: @toyawashington   Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/   Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

In this episode I will be discussing why as Black women we accept crumbs instead of an apology that consists of acceptance and accountability. Why as Black Women do we allow those outside of our community to continuously use us and our trauma to make money. Why are we all too willing to see self appointed allies as Messiahs' of social justice. What is clear is the weaponisation of 'be kind' and mental health to evade accountability. The issue isn’t  where one sticks their foot or their pursuits in the bedroom. It is about racism and the use of racism  by night and the pretence of allieship by day.We will also be discussing how to protect your job from those seeking to piggy-back on your shoulders to advance their careers.This episode also includes x2 dilemmasReferenced Podcast Episode: 'B.A.M.E - Our Racial Experiences are not the same: Defining & Clarifying Boundaries'.https://open.spotify.com/episode/408YzZFKrkIiPJS0Fa1YL8?si=MXoKov3lQiCU4vukK7EIFQEmail me:  hello@toyatalks.com    Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)    Snapchat: @toyawashington   Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/ Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

In this episode we discuss the the model minority, the acceptable minority that allows themselves to be controlled and puppeteered.  Case and point Rishi Sunak down to the final two in his bid to be Conservative Leader and the next Prime Minister. Note, what happens in government is mirrored in the work place.*This episode includes x1 dilemma Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com  Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)  Snapchat: @toyawashington  Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks  YouTube: At Home With Toya https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/ Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

In this episode we discuss a dilemma received in the mailbox. A fellow Black Queen sent an email to her line manager correcting the continued mispronunciation  of her name. Her email was ignored, after following up for a response she then received a meeting in the diary from HR labelled 'Private and Confidential'.Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com   Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)    Snapchat: @toyawashington   Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/     Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

'The more you have to protect, the weaker you become, thats why everyone and everything around you cant be a liability; - By Dencia Creating boundaries with your family especially in a culture laced in religion often creates  division and a choice, a choice between your peace and showing up in a culture that will tell you your mental health cannot be more important than your family.  The first daughter especially in the African culture i belong too  comes with a burden of responsibility that you are born into. Your identity  becomes the first born daughter and removes the person and stripes you of you individuality, you show up for your duty a duty your younger siblings then expect. As we evolve and grow into adulthood the structure of the home that becomes  the foundation is removed and adult siblings now make a choice to forge relationships and a further choice of forging healthy relationships such relationships require boundaries. In a culture that sees boundaries as disrespectful how can a first born daughter create healthy sibling relationships and remove the duty to enable her to also live in her truth and pursue her peace and what makes her happy?*This episode contains one dilemma Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com    Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)    Snapchat: @toyawashington   Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/ Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

ACAS gives employees and employers free impartial advice and mediation on workplace disputes, employment rights, and best practices. ACAS must be used before approaching an employment tribunal. The view is that an employment tribunal must be used as the last resort and therefore ACAS provides a service of mediation to find a compromise in a workplace disputes. In the event that a compromise cannot be found and a Claimant has exhausted a grievance process and therefore not found a resolution through ACAS, a Claimant can take an employment matter to an Employment Tribunal.In this episode I will be discussing my friend's case which we took to ACAS I managed to negotiate an out-of-court settlement for her of nearly £50k and renegotiated the terms of that settlement which included: Payment within 7 days A tax-Free settlement with all tax liability to be fully paid by her employer to HMRC Payment of 10 therapy sessions Agreed wording for an employment reference  Letter of retraction and an apology in writing for a false accusation made during the course of her employment. Payment in lieu of notice to enable her to leave this employment on full pay for 3 months. We will be using her employment dispute as a case study for this episode.https://www.acas.org.uk/*This episode also includes x2 dilemmas Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com   Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)   Snapchat: @toyawashington  Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks  YouTube: At Home With Toya https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/     Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

The passive-aggressive inverted commas in emails create the tension the author intended. The use of inverted commas as a microaggression is used to reinforce one's position and to provoke a response from you. In this episode, we also discuss my most recent boss reapplying for a role she has been doing for almost 2 years *This Episode also includes x2 dilemmasApologise for the disruption to the audio. We are replacing our Apple Mac for a greater podcast listing experience. - Back to regular programming next week.Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com    Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)    Snapchat: @toyawashington    Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/   Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

As children, we were often not encouraged to use our voice, or have an opinion the old saying of 'Children should be seen but not heard.' This then evolves into being easily manipulated as we second guess ourselves or question the decisions we initially decisively make. In the working world, we become susceptible to career manipulation this is demonstrated by displaced loyalty to a company that no longer serves you or being talked out of resigning, etc I am labeling this a Code Black!This episode includes x2 dilemmas and a follow-up to a previous dilemma.Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com  Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)   Snapchat: @toyawashington  Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/  Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

In the workplace, I have long accepted that there is no such thing as a perfect job or workplace. Workplaces often thrive in toxicity breeding fear and control. I will always seek balance and peace because no workplace is perfect.In this episode, I discuss and conclude Florence who decided to attempt to discredit me and called into question my integrity her sole motivation was to abuse her position because she does not like consultants. After a Letter Before Action.....The organisation has agreed on an out-of-court settlement. Our greatest superpower is being underestimated.Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com    Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)    Snapchat: @toyawashington    Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/ Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

In this episode, I challenge you to have agency over your career it requires you to accept that the work structure is created to ensure you rely on your organisations and managers to validate you through promotions and/or bonuses. Having agency over your life and career means you operate and see the world of work as transactional and when a workplace has served in achieving your objectives you move on and build on your career. You do not require permission to do so or operate in guilt via a form of displaced loyalty to an organisation or manager who is committed to keeping you stagnant in a position that only serves them and therefore oppresses your ability to grow and attain success and the financial benefits of that success. Understanding the work hustle requires you to first understand that the work Hustle Is Sold Separately. We will also be discussing the Fawcett Report into 'Women of Colour' experiencing racism in the workplace.Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)  Snapchat: @toyawashington  Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks YouTube: At Home With Toya https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/ Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/

London Boys applies to those who think it's acceptable to be debating who pays for dates and think they should piggyback on the hard work and sacrifice of women who are building. Such limiting and elementary thinking is relative to the limited dating pool in London. Ladies, it is time to pivot and consider international dating. Open up the location and widen your dating pool.The only way you can consider your dating options is to consider your dating pool you need to diversify and expand your options which also includes considering dating outside of the UK. In this episode, we also discuss women who sacrifice their careers, hard work, and business for a relationship or for a man. You can have your own thing without needing to have a man jump on what you have. Remaining independent from a man or relationship is healthy it creates respect, boundaries, and independence. This should be celebrated. Male fragility is loaded with ego and patriarchy. Women often trade in what they have built for a man/relationship disguised as love, when in fact it's a co-dependency rooted in low self-esteem and lack of respect for the sacrifices you have made to build yourself up.  Black  Women Work twice as hard and navigate work and careers uniquely from our non-Black and white counterparts we know the racist and oppressive structures we as women exist in and navigate through therefore why do some of us forget this in pursuit of love?  Why must love come with the sacrificing of self?  Whilst on the topic we also discuss SteffLonDon and Burna Boy and other celebrities eg Mary J Blige who blurred the lines between work/business and relationships.Email me:  hello@toyatalks.com    Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast)    Snapchat: @toyawashington    Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks   YouTube: At Home With Toya https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbXlRNLSYLuA9GbPB8cUYvQ  www.toyatalks.com https://toyatalks.com/ Email me: hello@toyatalks.com Twitter: @toya_w (#ToyaTalksPodcast) Snapchat: @toyawashington Instagram: @toya_washington & @toya_talks www.toyatalks.comhttps://toyatalks.com/