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Trial Lawyer turned peacemaker, Doug Noll, has since 2009 been working with prisoners, some serving life sentences, who want to learn how to stop the prison–violence. Doug coaches them on how to become mediators and de-escalate conflicts which have had life-changing repercussions and I got him on to share some of his wisdom and methods with us. We cover: - How he got into this line of work. - The softer you are, the stronger you are. The more vulnerable you are, the more powerful you are. - What made him walk away from $10 million to pursue peacemaking.  - How to listen. - How to ignore the words to make an emotionally safe environment.   - Real life example on how to put this into practice (I’m your guinea pig with an example from my dayjob). - What a world without violent conflicts means. - Emotional invalidation and how it plays into the unhappiness of couples. - Debunking the worst tips on how to calm someone down. - Affect vs emotions (a difference between animals and humans). - How triggers can be used for self-awareness and how to rewire your brain to clear those triggers. - How to self-regulate your emotions. - What working with prisoners has taught him about life and people. - How listening to others into existence can change your life and theirs. - We round up with Doug sharing the most powerful story from his work with prisoners.  Find Doug:  https://dougnoll.co/too-old (am not an affiliate) His program is called Prison Of Peace Program.  If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact    Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online  If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations 

Abby went from being terrible at relationships to being great at them. She’s a psychologist who believes a leopard can change their spots and as a recovering heroin addict, she knows what she’s talking about. We cover: - We’re as happy as our relationship. - To be good at relationships takes skills you're not born with but you can learn those skills.  - We’re mostly competing for attention and time - turning relationship into work: “You have to pull your weight.” “You have to take this off my plate.” “You have to do your fair share.” - Being correct or effective: Which would you choose to have a more peaceful relationship? - Competing over Sex, Chores and Money, and what questions to ask your partner to help resolve it & how to reframe you perspective. - Abby’s method of: don’t S.A.C. your relationship, instead ask questions. Mentioned in this episode: The work of Timothy Wilson  Find Abby https://abbymedcalf.com/    Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit  and follow @toooldforthisshitpodcast  If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact    P.S: Back on releasing an episode twice/month now.

What led to the death of 3 individuals seeking to better their life and looking for enlightenment at a James Arthur Ray 5-day event? Ray was made famous by the movie The Secret and being featured several times on the Oprah Winfrey show. Together with Kirby Brown’s mother Ginny, a licensed clinical social worker and her sister Jean, we discuss the perfect storm that led to that tragedy, their mission to stop it from ever happening to anyone else and how self-help can be done safely.  We cover: + How strong minded people can fall victim to the self-help industry. + Tools and dirty tactics used by the self-help industry. + What may have contributed to James Ray’s situation.  + How to not collapse after grief.  + The legal system is not yet equipped to advocate for the families of [Self-help gone wrong] victims. + How to find self-help organisations that have pledged to do no harm and signed [The Promise]. + What has changed for them in how they perceive life after Kirby’s passing.  *Content note: this episode contains sensitive content, discretion is advised* You can find Seek Safely at: https://www.seeksafely.org/   The list of red flags: https://www.seeksafely.org/consumers/  The book https://www.seeksafely.org/this-sweet-life-book/  Social @seeksafely   If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact    Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online  If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations  Mentioned in this episode: Guru: The Dark Side of Enlightenment podcast  If you have been affected and need to talk to someone below are some helplines: UK: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/  Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/  USA:  American Foundation of Suicide Prevention Suicide and Depression Awareness for Student NAMI Resources on Suicide Prevention NAMI Resources on Suicide Risk National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1-800-273- 8255 Crisis Textline - Text HOME to 741741

From Venezuela to Harvard Law school, Maria left a 6 figure corporate job to work in the arts. She believes there are no starving artists and shares how that myth came about.  From starting a business to being an entrepreneur as an employee, we share our thoughts and widely different experiences on following our passions. Enjoy! Find Maria: https://www.mariabrito.com/    If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact    Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online  If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations 

How do we revive our libido & desires for ourselves and our partner(s)? Dr Tara, professor of relational and sexual communication & award-winning researcher went from sexually anxious to sexually confident. Today, Dr Tara shares how to get your juices flowing again & feel good sexually.  We cover: + Myths around sex. + What is sexual confidence and how to get there. + How to give sexual feedback to a defensive partner. + Being aroused and having great sex are two different things. + Guided sexual meditations. + Sexual affirmations. + Intrusive thoughts interrupting arousal. Find Tara at https://www.luvbites.co/  & social: luvbites If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact    Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online  To support the show: www.angie-s.com/donations 

From Cirque du Soleil to big corporate America, Jay has helped leaders and team members undo terrible behaviour and resolve toxic environments.   In this episode we dive into how-to speak up at work when a boss crosses a line & in return how bosses can better deal with conflicts.   From sharing great stories to how-to formulas, Jay gives us plenty to think about!  Jay Guilford is the founder Coworks Lead and can be found at: http://www.coworkslead.com Become a podcaster with me: www.learnpodcasting.online  To support the show: www.angie-s.com/donations  If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact

How do you reduce or remove alcohol if you're known as the party girl or just used to have a drink after work as a ritual to cut off your work day? Sarah’s been there, done that and now helps others change their relationship to alcohol, without shame or guilt.  She shares her thoughts on:  + National Alcohol guidelines. + Not needing to hit rock bottom to make a change. + What on earth do you order at the bar if it’s not alcohol. + How and why you don’t need to justify your choices to anyone.  Find Sarah at https://drinklesslivebetter.com  & Social @drinklesslivebetter Become a podcaster with me: www.learnpodcasting.online  To support the show: www.angie-s.com/donations  If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact   

James Preece a professional dating coach based in London shares his insights on how to lift your online profile to attract better matches not and to that end he reviews mine… We also go over: // How to avoid typical online dating traps. // A quick fiery round of yes/no answers to some more typical dating questions. // Some great conversation starters so your first date doesn’t sound like an interview. Find James at: https://www.jamespreece.com & Insta @jamespreececoach    Become a podcaster with me: www.learnpodcasting.online  To support the show: www.angie-s.com/donations  If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact   

BIG THANK YOUsssss + today, I share some more behind the scenes of producing a podcast, namely the 6 automations all podcasters need - there are more but for today, I’ll keep to 6 😉- you’d be surprised how many seasoned podcasters aren’t implementing these! You can hear it first-hand when I’m a guest on other podcasts to talk on all things production. Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/courses/podcastin6weeks + code Podcast30 at checkout for 30% off. Discount expires on 3rd of Jan. 2022. If you don’t have a podcast concept, yet, go here: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/courses/conceptandmics + code  Podcast20 at checkout for 20% off. Discount expires on 3rd of Jan. 2022. Support the show: https://www.angie-s.com/donations  If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: https://www.angie-s.com/contact    Wishing you a Happy Holiday Season!

Today, I share some behind the scenes of producing a podcast, namely the 4 common mistakes I see many podcasters make with their guests - there are more but today, I’ll keep it to 4 😉! And also, an update on what happened at work…. And a big thank you to YOU! Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/courses/podcastin6weeks + code Podcast30 at checkout for 30% off. Discount expires on 3rd of Jan. 2022. If you don’t have a podcast concept, yet, go here: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/courses/conceptandmics + code  Podcast20 at checkout for 20% off. Discount expires on 3rd of Jan. 2022. Support the show: https://www.angie-s.com/donations  If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: https://www.angie-s.com/contact   

Today with Isabella Beham, Matchmaker and Love Recruiter, we talk about the difference between being bad and being wild. This conversation took me places I didn’t expect and I absolutely loved it. We cover:  + Disobedient men and women vs the bad rebellious ones. + The dark side of spirituality.  + Confusing people pleasing with sex positivity.  + And how there is no toxic masculinity, only an unevolved one. If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: https://www.angie-s.com/contact    Find Isabella on insta @issyliving/ & http://issyliving.co/  If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here: buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit   Become a podcaster with me: www.learnpodcasting.online/ 

Writer, body image activist and coach Marci lived a double life for many years, which led her to being consumed by shame and guilt which almost cost her her life. Her story is about how to unshackle yourself from your mind’s chains, being free and truly exploring who you are.  Feel free to share what came up for you from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you here: https://www.angie-s.com/contact  Find Marci’s book: https://amzn.to/3DAqPT0 & Social @marciwarhaft  If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here: buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit

Today with Leslie, a divorce lawyer, relationship coach and author, we discuss how to not let cynicism ruin your chances at Love, and the things you need to know when it comes to prenups, postnups and settlements.   We cover: + How come as a divorce lawyer, she is not cynical when it comes to love. + Personal accountability and growth being pivotal in relationships. + Self-fulfillment.  + Prenup, Postnup and Divorce settlements; why they’re there and how it works.   + How to protect yourself if you don’t want to get married but share a life, home and finances with your partner. + What love is. + The chances people miss that could have saved their marriages.  Find Leslie: https://asklesliethelawyer.com/  + her book: The Cult Of The Black Card Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/ If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here: buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit

You left that terrible relationship, you’ve done the work in therapy but now what? How do you recognise a healthy partner and how do you not sabotage a good thing? Tune in to hear Shannon, a Licensed Professional Counselor is back for a 4th time to tell her happy ending / new beginning story. This is about how you can put old damaging patterns to bed. We share tips on how to know on a cellular level what an emotionally healthy person is and learn to trust yourself and your gut instincts.Jon’s wedding vows are right at the end of the episode (the last 3 minutes)Find Shannon: https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & insta @shannonhigginslpc Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/ If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here: buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit

Today with Sam, the philosophical coach, we talk about how to meet our partners and ourselves with fresh eyes and not get bogged down with the baggage of our past. How we’re not fixed in who we are and how the same applies to our friends, partner(s) and loved ones.   Find Sam: thephilosophicalcoach.com & cpl.thephilosophicalcoach.com Podcast @thishumeanlife.com Social @ thephilosophicalcoach   If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit  Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/

In 2017, the NY times leaked that the Pentagon’s had an official UFO program since 2008, and it brought the conversation out of the shadows and into the mainstream.  Are we the only civilization in the universe? Are we being visited by ‘aliens’ or are there other intelligent beings already among us that we can’t see, called earth aliens? What is real and what is a hoax?    UFOs now rebranded as UAPs to stop men in suit giggling, are now part of the mainstream conversation, and one of the pivotal moments for that was when the Pentagon ‘declassified’ those 3 videos. And now that Frederik Dirks Gottlieb started a podcast called ‘Flyvende tallerken’ aka flying saucer on the biggest radio station in Denmark (called: Danmarks Radio aka DR) well the conversation is now truly out in the open! I am so excited to bring him to you and share his podcast with you all! Frederik went into his podcast ‘Flyvende tallerken’ with an open mind and it shows with the big array of guests he’s interviewed from: Luis Elizondo to Mick West without forgetting Avi Loeb and his co-host Anja C. Andersen, an astro-physicist at the Niehls Bohr institute, who’s by his side every week to help us understand the science behind it all. Frederik is a Danish podcaster, journalist, film producer, radio & TV host, creator and host of the VERY popular ‘Flyvende tallerken’, and together we discuss all things UAPs and what it means for us as humans and our reality, if we even really know what that is…. Find Frederik’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/flyvende-tallerken/id1541594955  FB @frederikdirksgottlieb Twitter & insta @frederikdirks  YouTube playlist in English of his podcast (not made by DR, this is an independent YT channel that took it upon itself to edit down the content to the English parts only - so it does not represent the production of the program but they’re worth listening to: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6JyMFx1azFHa1-0qFb7mp29El5JHI701  If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit  You can also find me: www.angie-s.com

How is compromising bad for your romantic relationship? Sounds like it goes against everything we’ve been taught but Jáchym, a relationship coach, married to the mother of his child and business partner, knows what he’s talking about when it comes to overcoming relationship challenges. You may remember him from episode #058: Love Isn’t Enough’, where he & his wife discussed their journey of how they went from mistrust, bickering, passive aggressive, snarky remarks to being in a respectful and loving relationship. Today with Jáchym we cover: + How compromising does not make for a healthy relationship. + Real life examples on how to apply the 3rd way.  + Looking into why you expect certains things from your partner. + How to be of service to your partner and respecting your boundaries at the same time.  + Moving away from offering poisoned chalices, followed by emotional blackmail to a place of giving with no expectations. + Is there ever a good reason to instantly walk out from a relationship?  + Build a culture in your relationship that allows for dialogue. Resources mentioned in the episode: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse by Dr John Gottman Find Jáchym: www.yourexceptionalrelationship.com   If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit  You can also find me: www.angie-s.com

Ever wondered what a Daddy Dom is? Do you think a Dominant man is domineering? Are Dom/Sub couples all about leather, ropes and chains? Do some of the Dom/Sub quirks remind you of the traditional marriage rules? If so, you’ll want to hear Sir InQ’s refreshingly honest take on love and what it takes to be a Man, whether you’re into the vanilla or kinky lifestyle!  A Barber & Stylist by trade, Sir InQ has been a lifestyle Dom for over 11 years.  We cover:  // Dominant vs domineering.  // Suggestion vs manipulation. // Caring vs selfish commands.  // Being of service to your Sub. // Lifestyle vs kink.    // Vanilla vs BDSM lifestyles.  // Communication made easy/  // Different types of Subs and how they match certain Doms.  // What a Dom needs from a Sub.  // What a Sub needs from a Dom. Find Sir InQ: www.Sirinq.com & Insta @sir_inq & FB @sir.inq.the.experience His Podcast: The Experience Podcast & for mentorship contact him on sirinq09*at*gmail.com Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

What happens if you like someone at work? Did the metoo movement make that more complicated or even impossible?
 • We discuss how to go about it in a respectful way and how to protect yourself if you’re ready to make your move... • Also, have parts of the metoo movement, as necessary and about time for it to happen, made it more difficult for women to advance in the workplace….sounds weird, right? • We discuss the unforeseen adverse effects of the #metoo movement for women in the workplace, based on Bobbi’s research.

 Bobbi Bidochka is the author of the Sexual Intelligence in Business, co-chair of the academic conference Love and Sex with Robots and owner of Imagine Ideation. Together we cover the post-metoo paradigm: the good, the bad and the ugly based on Bobbi’s research. 

 Find Bobbi: sexualintelligenceinbusiness.com & lovewithrobots.com/registration & Social: @bobbibidochka
 Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Today with CJ Grace, former BBC broadcaster and infidelity author of: The Adulterer's Wife, we discuss infidelity and how to overcome it whether we choose to stay or not. We discuss:  • Her husband had an affair with a woman half his age. • The 6-part plan she created to get through it.  • Being happier after the affair.  • Celibacy in marriage. • Pelvic pain contributes to sexless marriages.  • If you had an affair in the past, how to bring it up when dating. • How to learn to trust again.   • Being careful not to demonise the unfaithful partner and mistress/mister. • Not staying in the anger stage and why revenge is not the way to go. • What can happen when you revenge-cheat on your once-cheating partner. 
 Reference mentioned: Esther Perel’s work on infidelity. 
 Find CJ here:  https://cjauthor.com & IG, TW, FB @cjgraceauthor Clubhouse @cjgrace Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com