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It can be tough to heal from trauma and pain from abuse in your past. It becomes even more challenging when you’ve kept it to yourself for years, hiding it from others. Author, speaker, and coach, Jill Monaco, has lived this life story and joins Darlene Brock and Julie Bender to share her experience with sexual abuse at the hands of church leaders. She offers hope as she walks us through her road to healing. This honest discussion will help you know how to spot signs of abuse (some are clear, others more subtle) and what to say (and not say) to someone in this heartbreaking scenario. Abuse may be a part of your life story, or maybe you’re listening to better understand those around you so that you can provide them with grace. No matter what your past looks like, this episode will bring more compassion and empathy and offer hope. This is a hope-filled must-listen for so many reasons. Jill Monaco is the founder and CEO of Jill Monaco Ministries. She is a speaker, podcast host, and best-selling author who developed Freedom Coaching®, a model that blends hearing God, prayer, and coaching tools. Her first book The Freedom Coach Model® went to #1 on the Amazon best seller list. She also serves singles by publishing the online magazine, SingleMatters.com and the program From Looking To Loving: Find the Breakthrough You Need So You Can Have The Relationship You Want. Purchase her book Freedom Coach Model Get the Overcoming Audio Series and Workbook Listen to her podcast In the episode, Jill mentioned two books for healing from past abuse and trauma: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse and The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here!   Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love Overcoming Shame from Abuse in a Grit and Grace Life A Fake Smile Will Not Cure Depression, So Do This Instead Ask Dr. Zoe – How To Interact With a Narcissist Quote of the episode: “Some people see scars, and it is wounding they remember. To me they are proof of the fact that there is healing.” -Linda Hogan Check out these episodes we mentioned: What Are the Unexpected Gifts of Depression? With Melissa Maimone – 095 and The Complicated Heart – Loving When It Hurts With Sarah Mae – 149 Disclosure: This post may contain affiliate links that, at no additional cost to you, Grit and Grace Life may earn a small commission.

Are you feeling a bit lost? No longer know who you are? The demands and circumstances of your life have taken over, and you’re unsure what defines you. Is it what you do? The titles you hold? The roles you play? The opinions of another? Women go through numerous changes and seasons, some by choice, others beyond our control, bringing with them struggles to know who we are. Co-hosts Darlene Brock and Julie Bender ask pointed questions to get to that elusive answer. What defines me? Our priorities, principles, and convictions will lead us to that answer. In this episode, we want you to remember that the first thing you are is a strong woman of grit and grace! Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love How Do I Know What Defines Me? How to Live out of Your Strengths, Not Weaknesses True Beauty is Found in a Woman’s Strength What Does It Take to Be a Strong Woman of Grit and Grace? Can God Use Messy People? (Video) Quote of the episode: “Do not let a moment in time, a circumstance you find yourself in or another person’s opinion define you.” -Darlene Brock Check out these episodes we mentioned: A Strong Woman Plays Her Hand With Grit and Grace – 138, Can You Really Leave Your Past Behind You? – 028, If You Want To Grow in Faith, Try These Simple Things – 144 Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

Self-care. Sound good? Or do you feel guilty even thinking about it? Perhaps it’s okay for someone else, but you don’t have time to take care of yourself? Dr. Zoe Shaw joins Darlene Brock and Julie Bender to explain what self-care is (and isn’t) and how it is an essential part of your grit and grace life. Society tells women, “you can do it all, and you have to,” but at what cost? Often, Christian women wonder if self-care is biblical, feeling they must always put others first, especially if they have a husband and/or children. Is this true? In her new book, A Year of Self-Care, Dr. Zoe gives you an easily read daily how-to, and she unpacks some of what you’ll read in this episode. You don’t want to miss this conversation. We’re giving you permission to take a little time for yourself, grab your coffee or a cup of tea and tune in. Then commit to taking better care of yourself, starting today. Want to get a FREE copy of A Year of Self-Care? Enter our giveaway on social media! Just share a screenshot as you’re listening to this episode, make sure to tag @drzoeshaw AND @thisgritandgracelife (make sure you add the correct tag depending on which platform you’re sharing on). Every post counts as one entry! Giveaway ends 2/16/2021. You can follow Dr. Zoe by visiting her site, or finding her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter as well as her podcast, Redefining Your Superwoman. You can ask your question of Dr. Zoe by clicking the box! Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Disclosure: This post may contain affiliate links that at no additional cost to you, Grit and Grace Life may earn a small commission.   “Self-care is a daily exercise. One that is free but priceless. It’s a continual reckoning with your soul where you make a declaration: I am worthy to be care for.” -Dr. Zoe Shaw   Check out these episodes we mentioned: How We Can Stand With the Black Community With Dr. Zoe Shaw – 136, Are You the Proverbs 31 Woman? Should You Be? – 092, and Want to Be a Strong Woman? Set Healthy Boundaries – 103 Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

Do people still say “carpe diem” or is it merely an overused cliché? Darlene Brock and Julie Bender think it’s a relevant phrase, especially now. In this episode, they are inviting you to embrace its meaning for 2021. Who knows what tomorrow brings, today is what you have. The unexpected twists and turns from last year reminded us that life can change in an instant. It’s grit and grace that will help you seize the day; this episode will tell you how to do so while inspiring you to take hold of every moment 2021 brings. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here!   Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=7294 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=21816 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=29603 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=36733 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “Forever – is composed of Nows.” -Emily Dickinson Check out these episodes we mentioned: Now Is the Time for a Reset – 152 and If You Want To Grow in Faith, Try These Simple Things – 144 Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

The fresh start of a new year often causes us to evaluate many areas of our lives, including personal finances. With that in mind, Darlene Brock and Julie Bender brought Rachel Cruze (two-time #1 national best-selling author and financial expert) to the show to share a whole new framework we can use! She’s taking us all the way back to our childhood to consider how we were taught about money and what that says about how we use it. You’ll love how Rachel’s concepts will improve your relationships, your confidence, and your ability to know yourself and your money! We’re confident this episode will pay you back! Rachel Cruze is a two-time #1 national best-selling author, financial expert and host of The Rachel Cruze Show. Since 2010, Rachel has served at Ramsey Solutions, where she teaches people to avoid debt, save money, budget and how to win with money at any stage in life. She’s authored three best-selling books, including Love Your Life, Not Theirs and Smart Money Smart Kids, which she co-wrote with her father, Dave Ramsey. Her latest book Know Yourself, Know Your Money: Discover WHY You Handle Money the Way You Do and WHAT to Do About It will release in January 2021. Follow Rachel on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and YouTube or online at rachelcruze.com. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=10083 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=33325 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=33048 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “You can’t let fear be your financial advisor.” -Rachel Cruze   Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

There’s probably no better time for a reset than now! Closing the curtain on 2020 seems like the best idea we’ve heard. But, a grit and grace woman knows that no matter how challenging her circumstances are, she finds strength by going through them, not around them. So, this year deserves a proper send-off. And since it was such a tough one, we’re probably all due for a massive shakeup. This week, co-hosts Darlene Brock and Julie Bender offer suggestions on exactly how to do that. Do you feel stuck? Is there a relationship that is off? Are you in the right job? What a perfect time to consider what you might want to change and evaluate how you’re spending your time, energy, and influence. If you’ve felt stalled out (as most of us have), take a hard look at your priorities to figure out where you want to go. Don’t let the frustrations of this year carry you into the next. Press play and choose to start fresh. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=35724 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=14915 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=44611 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=43672 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=23636 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=31657 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=15936 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “For last year’s words belong to last year’s language. And next year’s words await another voice. And to make an end is to make a beginning.” -T.S. Eliot Check out these episodes we mentioned: The Complicated Heart – Loving When It Hurts With Sarah Mae – 149, How to Get Over the Pandemic That’s Not Over – 139, and New Year, Strong You! How to Reflect on Your Year in a Helpful Way – 114 Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

It’s the end of the year, and we’re wondering if it’s genuinely possible to balance all the parts of our life. Especially after 2020! Are we able to do everything that demands our attention, with the hope of enjoying it, too? Heather Brown, creator of the lifestyle blog My Life Well Loved, joins Darlene Brock and Julie Bender for this very conversation. When you listen, you’ll gather tips from this inspiring lady on how to grow your faith, keep your marriage thriving, and avoid mommy guilt. Heather’s hack for getting her picky toddler to try new things truly surprised us! You’ll appreciate the ladies’ different opinions in this conversation (unique to their personalities, experiences, and generation). But they all agree that self-care cannot be the last thing on our growing lists. This podcast is the perfect listen if you need a recharge and want to be present and enjoy the holidays with those you love. Heather Brown is the creator and editor at My Life Well Loved born of her passion to empower women, inspire confidence, and elevate living a life well loved. She’s a mom to three-year-old, Leyton, and 10 month old, Finn, wife to Eric, and a healthy lifestyle advocate! She’s defined by her faith in Jesus, her Southern roots, and a deep love for people. MLWL is a destination for fitness, fashion, mom hacks, wellness tips, and most importantly, fun! Find and follow along with her on Instagram here. Get Heather’s post about the Enneagram here. Grab her meal planning eBook here. And read more about picky eaters and food therapy with tips from a dietician here. Get the Marco Polo app we talked about here! Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=24223 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=28752 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=10927 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=14503 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” -Maya Angelou Check out these episodes we mentioned: How Strong Women Can Have Healthy Friendships – 150, If You Want To Grow in Faith, Try These Simple Things – 144, and Rest Easy Moms, Here Are the Things That Matter – 102 Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

Do women really need friends? Do they need female friendships? What does it take to create a bond that flourishes? How do you know when a friendship should end because the harm outweighs the good, bringing hurt instead of joy? Can women have long-term friendships? Can they be “just friends” with men? These are just a few of the issues that co-hosts Darlene Brock and Julie Bender consider while unpacking how to deepen relationships with friends who are safe, those you can trust. Also, they’ll discuss how to cut off a bond that has turned toxic. It takes both grit and grace to have quality friendships, and we encourage those! Strong women surround themselves with other strong women—those who can inspire, love, and do this #gritandgracelife together! Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=10623 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=40] [post-content id=3630 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=40] [post-content id=23963 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=40] [post-content id=22177 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=40] [post-content id=28911 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=40] [post-content id=37342 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=40] [post-content id=24223 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=40] [post-content id=19411 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=40] [post-content id=18362 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=40] Quote of the episode: “My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.” Henry Ford Check out these episodes we mentioned: Grit, Grace & Girlfriends: How to Make Healthy Relationships – 003, Great Friends: 9 Qualities to Be One and Find One – 031 Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

Sometimes the people who are supposed to love us the most hurt us the deepest. Wounds from dysfunctional relationships left untreated can cripple us for a lifetime. Sarah Mae, author of The Complicated Heart: Loving Even When It Hurts, joins Darlene Brock and Julie Bender to talk about healing. Having learned how to break the chains of hurt, she shares the complicated relationship she had with her mom, her pain after an abortion, and steps to finding lasting hope and change. In Sarah’s words: “If you’ve struggled with a difficult relationship, if you’ve felt torn-up and crazy and confused because of it, if you just want to know how to move forward and be okay, this story is for you.“ This episode is a must-listen, and we encourage you to share it with someone you know might need it, too. Sarah Mae is a nationally known speaker, the host of The Complicated Heart Podcast, and author of several books, including The Complicated Heart: Loving Even When It Hurts. She loves to travel all over the country speaking at events and encouraging women to walk in freedom. She also has the privilege of sharing beautiful and meaningful products on QVC. She makes her home in Lancaster County Pennsylvania with her woodworker husband, three spunky kiddos, and a naughty yellow lab named Memphis. You can follow her on Instagram or visit her site, here. To learn more about the core lies Sarah talks about on the episode, click here. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.   Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=19684 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=18362 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=596 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=28625 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=15936 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “She broke me, but He found me and after He bound up my wounds He taught me to love her because she was broken too.” Sarah Mae Check out these episodes we mentioned: Want to Be a Strong Woman? Set Healthy Boundaries – 103 and This Is How to Handle a Hard Relationship With Your Mom – 089 Don’t miss this advice from Dr. Zoe! Ask Dr. Zoe – In Love with a Narcissist, Ask Dr. Zoe – How Do I Leave the Past Behind? Watch the full series of “Would You Rather” videos on our YouTube channel here! Like what you find at Grit + Grace? Support our mission here: Donate Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

We women possess innate qualities that make us strong. But did you know that we can do things to grow the power we have within us? Co-hosts Darlene Brock and Julie Bender share seven ways to do so, whether you’re starting now or simply need a reminder. Here are just a few they discuss that we all need to master: respect yourself (and others) go with the flow trust your gut Viewing in an app? Full show notes here!   Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=10921 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=41311 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=23636 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=31406 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “You see I am neither as good as I want to be or as bad as I could be. I am still a work in progress, growing in grace.” – Darlene Brock Check out these episodes we mentioned: Darlene and Julie Chat Balancing Adulting, Barbells and Booties – 109, Get It Girl! How Self-Respect Can Change Your Life – 097, 7 Things You Can Stop Doing To Be a Strong Woman – 147, and You Are More Inspiring Than You Think – 141 Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

We know that a strong woman has a lot of things she has to do. But did you know that there are some things a woman should NOT do in order to be her strongest self? For most of us, it’s hard to identify what those actions and behaviors are, and it’s even more challenging to stop doing them. So, what are the items that you need to erase from your to-do list in life? Co-hosts Darlene Brock and Julie (Graham) Bender offer a little help by suggesting a few ways you can set your course to becoming a stronger you. Here are a few of the don’ts they discuss—things you can stop doing right now: Listening to your negative self-talk Saying yes to everything Sweating the small stuff Join us in this conversation, one for all grit and grace women. We’re here to help you erase these burdens from your list, set them aside, and feel the weight lift off of you, friend. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here. Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=21852 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=31243 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=21584 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=390 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=6251 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=18] [post-content id=18868 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=26319 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=39285 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “Things to let go at the end of the day: Perfectionism. Limiting beliefs. Toxic people. Bras and pants.” Check out these episodes we mentioned: 7 Things Women Need to Quit Right Now – 010 and Why Hasn’t Your Boyfriend Proposed or Set a Date? With Dr. Zoe Shaw – 140! Don’t miss this advice from Dr. Zoe! Ask Dr. Zoe – Is It My Fault He Hasn’t Proposed?, Ask Dr. Zoe – How Do I Progress in a Relationship From Girlfriend to Wife?, and Ask Dr. Zoe – Why Do Strong Independent Women Scare Men?! Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

Single ladies, this one is for you! It seems that a lot of the content out there is focused on finding you a man! But we know that a strong woman doesn’t need to be in a relationship to have value. A healthy relationship can be a significant part of your life, but it’s not essential to living a full and rich life. So, we invited Jessica Hutton, author of Own Your Singleness, to bring a little insight into going beyond simply surviving your singleness, but thriving in it. Jessica introduces us to the 6-single-lady typologies and explains how you can practice active contentment and avoid the pitfalls of frustration and disappointment. She will encourage you to live as a happy, healthy, and prosperous individual who may then attract a happy, healthy, prosperous relationship (if you want one). She’s single, thriving, and living into her purpose, and she will help you realize you can, too. Jessica Hutton is a Licensed Master Social Worker, Life Coach, and author who works with singles and couples to create a life they love, unlearn toxic relationship behaviors, and develop skills that will help them nurture stable, satisfying, and sustainable relationships that last a lifetime. Visit her site, Live and Love Enriched, and follow her on Facebook or Instagram. Read Don’t Become A Bitter Single Christian Woman, from Jessica’s blog, now. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=440 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=31403 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=23768 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=18868 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=38432 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “If you’re not happy being single then you’ll never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life first, then share it.” Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

This one gets personal. Co-host Julie Graham has already shared a bit of her story—a difficult childhood, married at 21, widowed at 33, and spending the last three years as a single, working mom to her spunky little boy. Back in the dating world, she discovered a gap. There wasn’t much for single Christian women wanting to date online, much less for moms. It seemed like the message was that it was wrong or unsafe, to be avoided at all costs. But, she found her way, employing the advice of a friend of the show and Licensed Therapist, Dr. Zoe Shaw. Now, she’s preparing to become Mrs. Julie Bender, marrying the newly found love of her life during a pandemic in front of their closest family and friends. In this episode, she shares this part of her story, how she met “D” and when she knew he was “the one.” Darlene explores the pitfalls she faced while dating and how they’ve grown as a couple as they become not just husband and wife, but also a family of three. Whether you’ve experienced divorce or widowhood, you’ll find nuggets of truth in this episode—a testimony of how our very own Julie Graham found redemptive love. It just might be there for you, too. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here!   Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=24748 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=31251 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=38432 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=21852 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=22819 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=38521 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “I don’t know exactly what the future holds, but I’m stepping forward with grit, anchored in grace.” -Julie Graham Check out the episode we mentioned: Can You Really Leave Your Past Behind You? – 028, What Today’s Dating Scene is Really Like – 094, Julie Graham’s Untold Story of Heartbreak, Healing and Hope – 101 and Single? How to Thrive in the Online Dating World with Kristin Fry – 037! Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

Our faith guides us in all that we do. It is what enables us to manage This Grit and Grace Life. Since we believe we serve a personal God who cares about every aspect of our life, we realize that getting to know him better makes a huge difference. Faith helps us navigate all the challenges we face with the assurance that there are answers to our problems. In this episode, we’re bringing it back to the basics. What does it mean to be a Christian? How do you begin and grow in faith? Are there ways to learn more about God and the bible? Even what do Darlene and Julie find helpful in their own lives? This and more from two imperfect, still-growing Christian women who want to encourage you wherever you are today. Grab your coffee (maybe your bible) and tune in to this heartfelt discussion. Perhaps even share it with a friend. Looking to start studying the bible more? Try the 3 P’s method Julie mentioned. As you read a passage of scripture look for God’s power, presence and/or promises. You might also want to look for a reading plan on the You Version bible app or find one at She Reads Truth. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! These are the verses we mentioned on the episode. “All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper), and to prayer.” Acts 2:42 “And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.” Hebrews 10:25 Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=21816 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=24616 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=17525 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=42254 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=5050 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=8105 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=41386 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=29603 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=38050 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him.” -Romans 12:1 MSG Check out these episodes we mentioned: How Do I Know What Defines Me? – 078, Are You the Proverbs 31 Woman? Should You Be? – 092, and An Intimate Look at Your Sex Life With Dr. Miller OB-GYN – 135 Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

You’ve probably thought about investing in your family’s future. Perhaps you’ve already created plans and budgets, but you may not have considered what your family’s real priorities should be. This episode’s guest, Deborah Meyer, CPA/PFS, CFP®, and Amazon bestselling author of Redefining Family Wealth, brings a fresh look at creating a plan unique to your family. She tells Darlene and Julie that building real wealth is about so much more than money. If the word “budget” makes you break into a cold sweat and a five-year plan (in any area of your life) feels overwhelming, this episode is for you. You’ll discover the intersection of money/finance and your family’s dreams, which should be part of your budget—offering the steps needed to realize them. Don’t stress your bank account or procrastinate these plans any further, just press play. Deborah L. Meyer, CPA/PFS, CFP® and AFCPE® Member, is the Amazon bestselling author of Redefining Family Wealth: A Parent’s Guide to Purposeful Living. Deborah owns Worthy Nest®, a virtual fee-only financial planning and investment advisory firm that helps parents build wealth, and SV CPA Services, an accounting and tax firm for impact-oriented small business owners. You can follow Deb on Facebook and learn more in her article 5 Steps To Build Wealth Without Comprising Your Values. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here!   Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=33325 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=29618 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=28034 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=22221 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=15] [post-content id=40680 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “Don’t tell me where your priorities are. Show me where you spend your money and I’ll tell you what they are.” -James W. Frick Check out the episode we mentioned: Darlene and Julie Chat Balancing Adulting, Barbells and Booties – 109! Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

2020—the year none of us expected. The fear, isolation, and division created have left us feeling lost and even hopeless. But we don’t have to stay here. At Grit and Grace Life, we believe in community, we believe in us. In this episode, Julie and Darlene step back to revisit the things that will sustain us—rebuilding a community of women who value one another and believe in unity, removing fear, and replacing it with hope. If we could look you in the eyes (over your mask), we would encourage you to remove yourself from the news of today, embracing hope for the future. We’d also remind you that to make that future bright, it takes every one of us. You are the one who can change the world; you can be a light in these dark times. Your life matters. Be part of a community of women who can turn the tide, even in the waves that feel insurmountable. We are stronger together as we choose not only to live this 2020 Grit and Grace Life but also to make it count. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=39795 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=41311 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=41142 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=20817 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=41708 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “Living a life of grace takes an enormous amount of strength and a boatload of tenacity.” Darlene Brock Check out these episodes we mentioned: 4 Realistic Ways to Shift Your Mindset in 2020 – 115, You Are More Inspiring Than You Think – 141, and How to Get Over the Pandemic That’s Not Over – 139 Want to help us grow our community? Share this show, (and/or the articles from Grit and Grace Life that you love) with your community! As more women lock arms with us, we will change the world together. Stay tuned for more tangible ways you can help us expand our reach! Get a preview of this episode, here! Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

Every woman has a story. You may not think so but, whether you’re a stay-at-home mom or have all the letters behind your name, your journey can always impact someone else. We need each other. When we share life by telling our story, we’re offering our hard-earned wisdom to uplift each other. It is in these moments when our grit radiates grace. Your past struggles are precisely what another woman is going through today. It is you she can look to right now in the difficulty; it is your journey that will help her believe she can and will get to the other side, stronger. But before you can inspire someone else, you need to know this is true! Darlene Brock and Julie Graham discuss this life reality, stressing the importance of self-love, and share how you can start believing in yourself. This episode will unpack why these tenants of grit and grace allow every woman’s life to inspire others. Don’t miss Julie’s video on self-love: Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=41328 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=22707 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=39457 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=38521 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “Tell the story of the mountain you climbed. Your words could become a page in someone else’s survival guide.”-Morgan Harper Nichols Check out these episodes we mentioned: About Us – 000 and Women and Judgment: Why We Do It and How to Stop – 057 Watch this short preview for this episode, now: Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

You’ve been dating your boyfriend forever, and it doesn’t look like he’s ever going to propose. You’re ready to take the next step, but what if he’s not? He may tell you there’s no rush, you love each other, and everything is good just like it is. Or, that your relationship doesn’t need that piece of paper to be a real commitment. Maybe you are engaged, but that wedding date remains in the elusive distant future. You’re not alone! So, how long should you wait? Dr. Zoe Shaw joins co-hosts, Darlene Brock and Julie Graham, to answer these questions and more. She offers us six signs that he’s not ready to take the next step and advice on how to make an ultimatum (and walk away if that time comes). You have every right to want to be married. We hope that this episode will give you the encouragement and confidence you or someone you know needs to leave the never-fiancée or forever-fiancée status behind. You can follow Dr. Zoe by visiting her site, or finding her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter as well as her podcast, Redefining Your Superwoman. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! You can also watch her discuss this further in this video! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=38432 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=38521 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=40491 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=9596 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “Love is no good reason to get married. Lack of love is no good reason to get divorced.” -Dr. Zoe Shaw Check out these episodes we mentioned: How to Embrace Love in Every Season With Debra Fileta – 123 and 3 Real Struggles Women Face With Dr. Zoe Shaw – 107! Don’t miss this advice from Dr. Zoe! Ask Dr. Zoe – How Do I Progress in a Relationship From Girlfriend to Wife? and Ask Dr. Zoe – Is It My Fault He Hasn’t Proposed? Watch this short episode preview, now! Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

2020 has not gone as hoped. We anticipated “clear vision” and big revelations…not fear, isolation, and a complete disruption of life as we know it. Even though we have to stay stuck in this rut a little longer, there is a way to let this modern-day plague propel us forward. Taking with us the lessons we can learn and blessings to gleaned from this unprecedented time in history. If we look to the bright side, the quarantine did give us all a forced fresh-start. Perhaps through deepened relationships, or finally having time to recognize what part of life was draining. You’ve come to realize the importance of what you miss the most, as well as recognize those things that this season freed you from. It’s time to reset, deciding how to fill our lives and schedules going forward. We can even say “no” to what wasn’t serving our family or us well. But to do that, resist the temptation to feel guilty for not going back to everything you did before. Darlene and Julie offer simple tools to help adjust to the new “almost post-pandemic” normal, even if it’s not over yet. Let’s take this slow ramp-up to feel the losses we’ve experienced while embracing our new balanced grit and grace life when we reach the other side of Covid19. Listen in, get ready to release some of the stress, and find joy again. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=34461 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=23636 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=35566 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=28119 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=39457 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=39213 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=41190 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=22767 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=12324 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=19684 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=25945 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “The toughest chapters shape the strongest characters.” -S.R.W poetry Check out these episodes we mentioned: How to Feel Your Emotions in a Healthy Way With Dr. Zoe Shaw – 075, Is the Coronavirus Pandemic Causing Fear? How to Find Hope – 126, and Get It Girl! How Self-Respect Can Change Your Life – 097 Don’t miss this advice from Dr. Zoe! Ask Dr. Zoe – In Love with a Narcissist, Ask Dr. Zoe – How Do I Leave the Past Behind? Get a preview of this episode in this video! Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife

We don’t often choose the cards life deals us, but we always get to play the hand. At some point, every woman finds herself in a place she didn’t plan to be. Youthful dreams and expectations are often interrupted by challenging circumstances, blindsiding you with realities you never saw coming. Inspired by International Widows Day, co-hosts Julie Graham (widowed boy mom from a very dysfunctional childhood) and Darlene Brock (having already played a lot of life’s hands) talk about how they’ve learned to take what life gives you. They discuss how tough hands build strong women and the necessity of applying grit and grace to every experience, because each one prepares you for the next. You’ll be encouraged as they confess that yes, unexpected life changes can be painful, but they are not always bad. Sometimes, they open up doors and opportunities that never would have come any other way. So, whatever hand you’re holding, we are here to say it will not defeat or define you. Instead, get your game face on, because this is going to make you a strong woman of grit and grace. Viewing in an app? Full show notes here! Articles We Mentioned or Know You’ll Love [post-content id=15517 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=37553 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=39104 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=31251 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=2632 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=39795 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=602 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] [post-content id=7646 show_title=true show_image=true image_width=120 image_height=120 link_image=true show_excerpt=true excerpt_length=20] Quote of the episode: “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” Joseph Campbell Check out these episodes we mentioned: Julie Graham’s Untold Story of Heartbreak, Healing and Hope – 101 Want to Be a Strong Woman? Set Healthy Boundaries – 103 Are You the Proverbs 31 Woman? Should You Be? – 092 How to Be a Grace-Filled Friend in Hard Times – 096 The Benefits of Optimism in the Grit and Grace Life – 025 Don’t miss this advice from Dr. Zoe! Ask Dr. Zoe – How Do I Progress in a Relationship From Girlfriend to Wife? Be sure to follow us on social media! Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest #gritandgracelife