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One of the things about love is how it’s year-round, and what it looks during the differing seasons of the year and of our lives. So, too, is our feeling about which season we are at, in our lives. When Kemi was growing up, she had a plan for her life. As most people do. Yet, as we all inevitably discover, life doesn’t always go according to plan.  “Late Harvest Wine is the Sweetest” is one woman’s story of how she’s navigated dating during the decades - her twenties, thirties, and especially, her forties. Most of all, it chronicles her independence from her way of assessing the steps her life ought to take.

In this conclusion of the previous "Ask a Man" segment, we’re going over lessons to learn from men, across varied walks of life. Married, single, all that lies in-between. I sat down with Kaelo A today, a lawyer, marathoner, and avid book reader. Navigating as a single, heterosexual woman is a profoundly different experience than that navigation as a married man, with children. In this multipart series, we also spoke about the responsibilities of boundaries and consent.

In this continuation of the previous "Ask a Man" segment, we’re going over lessons to learn from men, across varied walks of life. Married, single, all that lies in-between.   I sat down with Kaelo A today, a lawyer, marathoner, and avid book reader.  Navigating as a single, heterosexual woman is a profoundly different experience than that navigation as a married man, with children.   In this multipart series, we also spoke about the responsibilities of boundaries and consent.

In this short clip, we have a narration of a dating misadventure. Inspired by and dedicated to Dating While Nigerian. These clips will come through every once in a while, just to lighten the mood. Enjoy!

So, we’re doing things a little differently today! In this "Ask a Man" segment, we’re going over lessons to learn from men across varied walks of life. Married, single, all that lies in-between. I sat down with Kaelo A today, a lawyer, marathoner, and avid book reader. Navigating as a single, heterosexual woman is a profoundly different experience than that navigation as a married man, with children. In this multipart series, we also spoke about the responsibilities of boundaries and consent.

Back with Part II! ...A different flavour, but just as awesome! I had the pleasure of sitting down with Nike Anani, one of the most phenomenal individuals I've ever come across. One of the reasons behind talking with Nike is to discuss how to be a better human being, and how much business and love use the same approach - the importance of communication, the importance of Doing the Work, and Being Intentional. We examine the ties between entrepreneurship, running a successful business, and running a successful relationship. 21st-century leadership  The importance of empathy and leadership   Glamorizing the STRUGGLE in life  The WHYs of our decision-making

Back with a different flavour, but just as awesome! I had the pleasure of sitting down with Nike Anani, one of the most phenomenal individuals I've ever come across. One of the reasons behind talking with Nike is to discuss how to be a better human being, and how much business and love use the same approach - the importance of communication, the importance of Doing the Work, and Being Intentional. We examine the ties between entrepreneurship, running a successful business, and running a successful relationship. 21st-century leadership The importance of empathy and leadership  Glamorizing the STRUGGLE in life The WHYs of our decision-making

In the final part of Dating While Divorced, we chronicle some aspects of the divorcée journey, from a young Nigerian woman's perspective. Picture this: You've fallen in love, found your **person,** and are now on the way to establishing them as the king / queen of your life.  You're seeing a Happily Ever After scenario. You have your trad, and a form of a white-dress wedding.  Now that the owambe parties have finished, you're left to navigate the wonderful world of love, as a married couple. Now, picture THIS: Despite your best efforts, the marriage, didn't last, for whatever reason. What do you do?  How do you live, in the modern African context? Most people, when getting married, dream of a number of scenarios.  Yet, sometimes, those plans don't materialize the way we wish they would have. In this three-part series, RCO takes us through her personal journey of, adjusting to life as an ex-spouse.

In the second part of Dating While Divorced, we chronicle some aspects of the divorcée journey, from a young Nigerian woman's perspective. Picture this: You've fallen in love, found your prince / princess, and are now on the way to establishing them as the king / queen of your life.  You're seeing a Happily Ever After scenario. You have your trad, and a form of a white-dress wedding.  Now that the owambe parties have finished, you're left to navigate the wonderful world of love, as a married couple. Now, picture THIS: Despite your best efforts, the marriage, didn't last, for whatever reason. What do you do?  How do you live, in the modern African context? Most people, when getting married, dream of a number of scenarios.  Yet, sometimes, those plans don't materialize the way we wish they would have. In this three-part series, RCO takes us through her personal journey of, adjusting to life as an ex-spouse..

Young, Gifted, and Black - and Divorced?!?! Examining the Divorcée journey, from a young Nigerian woman's perspective Picture this: You've fallen in love, found your prince / princess, and are now on the way to establishing them as the king / queen of your life.  You're seeing a Happily Ever After scenario. You have your trad, and a form of a white-dress wedding.  Now that the owambe parties have finished, you're left to navigate the wonderful world of love, as a married couple.  Now, picture THIS: Despite your best efforts, the marriage, didn't last, for whatever reason.   What do you do?  How do you live, in the modern African context? Most people, when getting married, dream of a number of scenarios.  Yet, sometimes, those plans don't materialize the way we wish they would have. In this three-part series, RCO takes us through her personal journey of, adjusting to life as an ex-Mrs. 

As most people may know by now, the Nigeria we love so much, is going through some changes. The recent protests, aimed at ending brutality, are an important cultural turning point, meant to address the way that we treat one another. To give this protest its due respect, I am deferring the much-anticipated "Dating While Divorced" episode, until next week. Much love, and speak with you soon.  Stay safe, everyone.

In this conclusion to the topic on how to be Queer in Nigeria, Xeenarh takes us through the remainder of some of her multi-layered perspective on LGBTQ+ culture in Nigeria. As one of the most topical nations in a continent that continually thrives despite its complexities (both inherited, innate, and indoctrinated), this examination of Nigerian attitudes towards non-mainstream gender and sexual identity culture is markedly symbolic of many nations within Africa.  This speaks symbolic volumes and connotations, into the way that Nigerians (and, to some extent, many Africans at large) regard LGBTQ+ issues. The hope and prayer, here, for those listening, is that we've all gotten some insight into the ways people differ from one another. Save for one key aspect of note: we are all human - and deserve to be treated with kindness, dignity, and respect.

Hello lovelies! I’m so excited to be bringing you part 2 of the discussion on how to be Queer in Nigeria. In this, we focused on the cultural impact and implications. It’s important for understanding the implications of marginalization in this community.  In this segment, Xeenarh touches on the aspects of marginalization that 🏳️‍🌈 people face in Nigeria- from dating, to employment opportunities and prospects - to housing and shelter options. The third and final part will be up on Wednesday. Then, on to the next topic! Which will be a surprise ☺️☺️ 💙💚💛❤️🧡💜

What exactly is “queerness?”  What does this look like, in a country like Nigeria? How much of what we think, is actually what *we* think?  Our own thoughts? The beauty of deciding to do this podcast, is that we all get to find out, and enrich our insight on what it feels like, to be queer in Nigeria. I sat on the loveseat with Xeenarh Mohammed, the Executive Director of the TIERS initiative.  Xeenarh details some of what @Tiersnigeria is doing in this space, and some insight into what life looks like, being queer in Nigeria. Do you have any opinions on queerness in Nigeria? What does it look like to you? If you're curious about what this looks like, listen to someone who's got experience in this wheel-house. 💙💚💛🧡💜❤️

In this continuation of the conversation about Intercultural relations, Sydney gives some insight into what it's been like for her, being thrust into the Nigerian community, while being a Black American in Africa. We see some of what life looks like, from a different vantage point.

In this episode, we explore an interesting topic: Intercultural Relationships. What is Intercultural dating, you ask?   Great question! To answer this, we examine some unusual aspects of falling for / dating someone from a different cultural background.  And how it's different when, looks-wise, you have more in common than you do apart. What factor is race, when it comes to marriages between different cultures?  What are some of the expectations societal conditioning impacts our understanding or experience of love? We delve into the complexities of race relations, how can do better - and foster a better understanding.

In this part of the episode, we discuss attitudes towards cultural norms on: Dating apps, and dating app culture Ways to avoid catfishing on dem apps Polyamory and religious representation How much of our modern dating rules are actually ours, and not hangovers from other cultures?  This is Part II, of a Part III series.

Have we changed how we date?  What's different? What are the general dating trends experienced across the continent? Everyone talks about African love, but what is it? Our first foray, exploring African dating in a modern context. We talk about issues like - what's the dating equivalent of Jollof rice? What is sexual tourism? We also ask ourselves a question: How much of our modern dating rules are actually ours, and not hangovers from other cultures? This is Part I of II.  Part II will be uploaded next week.