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There are many risk factors that make the transition to parenthood difficult, even in the best of circumstances. One such risk factor is the experience of parental childhood trauma, which has the potential to affect the parent/child relationship, both in terms of attachment style parental reflective functioning. This conversation aims to expand the discussion as it’s concerned with the effects of trauma has once that child transitions into adulthood. We see parenthood by looking at the role that the experience of trauma and adult attachment has in relation to parental reflective functioning. #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

We live in crazy times now and it seems like it’s not worth being a good person anymore. Men are suppose to protect women but, shouldn’t get killed in the process. At the end of the day being good is still a good thing but, let’s make sure we being safe in certain situations. Reality tv has more of an impact on relationships then folks like to lead on especially when it comes to relationships. I can appreciate folks opinion but, shit just don’t seem real no more. Every relationship is based on the individuals and it shouldn’t be one side based on financial responsibilities. Welp I’m try something new and I hope y’all enjoy the new edition to the show! Buckle up and get ready for some grown folk talk! #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

The 10 women say that while on the job at the Metropolitan Police Department (MPD) they were treated with contempt and subjected to a male-dominated "culture of race and sex discrimination" and "intense pervasive retaliation" when they complained about it, according to the lawsuit. Nine of the women are current and former members of the force with at least 15 years of experience. The other woman served for five years and was once honored as police officer of the year, according to the suit. #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

It’s funny to me how we have the right to choose what’s best for us individually but, someone always has a negative opinion. Covid-19 has changed the landscape of how we conduct our day-to-day life but, we’ve made the necessary changes to get through these trying times. We have the right to take the vaccine or not and shouldn’t be looked at any different based on our decision. In today’s society tv and media will try to suppress the truth and push their agenda even if it means discrediting someone. In the “closer” Dave Chapelle in his own way took a look at how our misunderstanding can make a major impact on how we treat each other. I don’t speak on sports too often but, my guest gave me the idea and now I’m running with it! I appreciate Troy taking some time to share his perspective on how Covid has played a major roll for some athletes in professional sports. We also dive into a few conversation about some currents that have impacted our community! It’s an uncut non-scripted conversation which I help you enjoy! Get ready for some RealTalk! #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

I found it interesting the last couple of weeks to see posts on Facebook saying it sometimes takes years to figure out that some folks were never your friend! It was something that caught my attention and made me think to myself why it would even take years to figure out? The word Friend is used so loosely among other words but, there’s a clear difference between a friend and associate and people will show you with their actions what they are to you. We have to be paying attention in order to differentiate between the two as we navigate through life and certain situations with these individuals. I’m not saying that for some this isn’t true but, I really don’t think it should take years to figure out who’s with you and who’s not! I also wanted to acknowledge the disparity of media coverage and resources that people of color get compared to white people specifically women! It wasn’t something that I was paying attention too but, missing white girl syndrome is real and it’s definitely something to think about! #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

The District’s police chief stood Friday on one of the corners most emblematic of D.C.’s recent development boom, surrounded by a circle of more than 40 people with dozens of concerned questions. A day after a gunman opened fire outside a restaurant on 14th Street NW, leaving two people injured and forcing dozens to duck for cover, residents and business owners on the tony corridor wanted to know: What are District leaders doing about the rising tide of gun violence? Chief Robert J. Contee III spoke to the group bluntly: “It’s getting the attention that it’s getting now because it happened where it happened.” Where it happened is one of the city’s trendiest neighborhoods, a potent symbol of the city’s renaissance over the past 20 years, with condos and restaurants replacing auto shops and quality-of-life crimes in the area. D.C. Mayor Muriel E. Bowser (D) had rushed to the scene the night before, telling reporters she was “outraged” after yet another act of gun violence. But amid a surge in shootings and recent high-profile incidents across the city — such as last week’s gunfire outside of Nationals Park and the killing of a 6-year-old girl in Southeast earlier this month. There is pressure on the two-term mayor and her administration to do something. I got together with my brothers and business partners of T.Y.P.E. INC. to talk about the DMV’s gun violence problem. I thought it was a great way for us to start sharing with the public who we are and what we want to do. I appreciate the men we are today and I hope we can provide programs and services that will impact our community in a positive way. #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

Dating today can be challenging. We were all raised differently, and individuals govern their lives based on the their morals and values. Many of us are set in our ways or dealing with past traumatic unresolved issues, which frequently can hinder us from communicating and meshing with others. Dating starts with compatibility, physical appearance, and attraction. We are usually drawn to the opposite sex's appearance, physical features, and personality. Though we are attracted to the outer appearance, men and women are not always compatible. Relationships are, in fact, built on a variety of things, including trust, communication, physical attraction, preferences, and what we bring to the table. Those factors do not always equal compatibility. In the infamous words of Alicia Keys, “Some people think that the physical things define what's within.” That couldn’t be further from the truth. Relationship expert/matchmaker and founder of The Help Meet Club joined RealTalk with The6thman on Clubhouse to share some of her tools used for matchmaking and to answer questions from those looking to gain more insight into the world of matchmaking and dating based on compatibility and law of attraction. The HelpMeet Club founder, Shaneeka McCray, Certified Matchmaker & Law of Attraction Coach, provides dating services for professional singles. The HelpMeet Club offers a wealth of services to support your relationship goals. https://thehelpmeetclub.com/ The conversation was powerful and enlightening, to say the least. The Real Talk family shared personal experiences as to why they may struggle with opening up to new people and experiences. Some also shared past traumatic experiences that have been a hindrance in allowing the opposite sex into their personal space. Finding the most compatible person is not the easiest thing to do. Buckle up and enjoy the ride on this enlightening conversation that covered many areas of dating. #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

There has been a rise in carjackings and crime throughout the region the last few weeks. There’s a high profile case involving 2 female teens 13 and 15 who faces criminal charges after their carjacking incident resulted in murder. Some folks think they need to be charged as adults while others think they need help and their parents should be held accountable. It’s a lot to take in so, I wanted help to get insight and a different perspective. I appreciate the opportunity to speak with friend of the show Robbie Woodland former ANC Commissioner of Ward 8 and first time guest Mike Alston former Gang Task Force Officer with DCPS. We got together to have a conversation about what’s going on and what can be done. Enjoy! #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

The responsible gun owners of the District of Columbia only had one option to legally get their guns processed and transfer properly for years. The backlog was vicious to say the least and the entire city was trying to go through this process only being handled by one entity which was a struggle. It’s a new day and G&D is a black owned small family operated business. The owner Richard Hawkins sole purpose is to facilitate the transfer of firearms into the District of Columbia to responsible gun owners. G&D proudly partners with a United States Air Force Retired Female Combat Arms Firearms Instructor; Retired Veteran Master Police Officer; and Certified National Rifle Association Instructor Mary Pitt to help educate Washingtonians with responsible use and ownership of their newly transferred firearms. This episode is very informative for those seeking to become responsible gun owners. If you have questions feel free to reach out to G&D LLC at 202-772-1097 also check out their website https://www.ganddffl.com/ you can also follow them on IG @g_llc #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

This podcast journey has been something I never imagined. I’ve met people who have influenced and impacted my life in ways I can’t explain. That’s why I remain humble and continue to serve my community being an outlet to allow others to Be Better Than They Were Yesterday. My guest tonight falls under that same mentality. I met Tookie at an event “Up from Falling Testimonies of the Ex Offender” hosted by Minister Christopher Tate & Friendship Church Outreach Ministries. Men got the opportunity to reflect and share their life experiences it was a powerful day. Tookie and I exchange information to connect later at some point to just chop it up. That time has come and I’m extremely proud of this man and his journey. He never gave up on himself and always gave himself a fighting chance to win! I’m humbled to hear him tell me he respects what I’m doing and in the same regard I totally respect what’s he’s gone through and what he’s doing today. We all have a past but, our outcome is determined by how we respond! This is a RealTalk conversation about living, learning and beating the odds! Enjoy! #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

Juan J. Johnson the founder of Lone Wolf Firearms Training is a National Certified NRA Instructor who is certified to teach firearms training in any state. Juan served the Metropolitan Police Department for almost 3 decades patrolling the streets of the District of Columbia and assigned to the Civil Disturbance Unit (CDU) where he learned how to shoot handguns, shotguns and handle ASP batons. Juan is a expert Marksman in handguns and is currently a licensed Firearm Instructor in the state of Maryland. Juan saw the need for more black men and women to become responsible firearm owners. I wanted to talk with him and get his thoughts on gun safety, education and gun ownership in the black community. This is an ongoing discussion but, I’m glad I had the opportunity to hear from him on this topic. #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

As we all know 2020 was on for the record books. 2021 has already shown us different it will look from last year. For the first time since the memorable 1st annual RealTalk with The6thman group award show, the gang gets together to reflect on the tumultuous year that was 2020; how it effected us individually and collectively. In addition, we take a look back at 2021's explosive start via the attack on the U.S. Capitol and what it really says about America. It's a New Year RealTalk Nation...buckle up!!! #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

I appreciate the opportunity to have great dialog with members of my Facebook group and I welcome them to hit me up so, we can talk about things on their mind. In 2020 dating looks a lot different with having to wear a mask and being socially distant because of Covid-19. I can understand wanting companionship but, there’s a benefit in being by yourself while you take time to heal from your past relationship. This is a real conversation with a group member about divorce and dating in 2020. I understand everyone’s opinion will vary but, check out this authentic conversation that happen today off the humble! #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

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In an unequivocal discussion with Karon Yarborough, The6thman provides an inside look at his divorce journey, the lessons learned and how to approach relationships moving forward. The importance of a man’s rib is very important and vital when picking his helpmate. We taking it to church tonight and I hope this is an informative conversation that changes the perspective with men as they lock down their helpmate! #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

This is a RealTalk with The6thman Podcast Community Spotlight! It was my pleasure to have the opportunity to chop it up with a black entrepreneur @sucoy_hvac right from around the way making major moves and impacting his community in a unique way. He has taken his HVAC business in a new direction and creating a community based school to teach students the fundamentals of this industry with 20% book work and 80% hands on experience. I appreciate him taking some time out of his busy to be a guest on the show to share what Su’Coy HVAC Community Learning Center is all about! He understands the impact of building up the community and allowing his HVAC experience be the driving force! Skill and Wealth Building gotta love that! If you need more information or have questions in regards to the first class please visit their website: http://Sucoyclc.com #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

I just wanted to take a moment to get a few things off my chest and let folks know what I’m feeling and why it’s best for me to say what I need to and move on. I’m learning that It’s best for me to talk about the things that bother me rather than hold onto my thoughts and negatively blow up later. 2020 has been one for the record books but, I’m still optimistic that we can still be better than we were yesterday! Love Ya’ll #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

I would like to believe that being a Black Female Entrepreneur is impactful and encourages other women to do the same! I was granted the opportunity to speak with 3 powerful women doing their thing in the community! Until recently black women have largely been left out of the narrative of dream chasing. Thankfully, over the past decade, things have shifted. From 2007 to 2018, the number of black women-owned businesses increased by 164%, more than 3x the rate of women-owned businesses. As often heralded, today black women are the fastest-growing group of entrepreneurs in the US. Unfortunately, wealth gaps and lack of funding available for minorities continue to contribute to the inability of so many black folks to audaciously dream. On average, White Americans have seven times the wealth of Black Americans. Since 2009, black female founders have received only .0006% of the $424.7 billion in tech venture capital funding. And yet, when I look around, even with the chips stacked against us, black women are thriving like never before. Taking a page from the black power movement that swept the country in the 60s, today black dream chasers have stopped depending solely on the validation or patronage of the majority. Instead, black people have found ways to inspire, financially support and provide access and education to one another. The fact is: black women are still playing a rather wearisome game of catch-up in the entrepreneurial space. Let’s she what these ladies have to say about it! #blackgirlmagic #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

Venus and Mars repeat their cycles and patterns and this one will echo back to 1985, in which many of us were still playing with our Barbies and G.I. Joes happily oblivious to any sort of relationship drama. But the question for us to ask is: Even as children, were we already becoming conditioned for a specific pattern of relationships? For many of us, we need to work through certain lessons and areas of relationships in order to actually move ahead into a more healthy and balanced partnership. Basically, we have to walk through the darkness in order to get to the light. If we doubt our worthiness when it comes to unconditional love and acceptance then we will continually attract those people who challenge us to love ourselves deeper. Yet, likewise, once we finally step into a place of clearer focus about who we are and the goals that surround us, we will be able to welcome that conscious healthy love into our lives. Mars likes to do, preferably now, and is very action-orientated. Venus, on the other hand, is more subtle and discriminates about what she does or doesn’t like. Their polarity is what actually achieves their balance. No one wants to be with someone that is just like us and it’s this energy that Mars and Venus remind us of. A man doesn’t fall for a woman because of how masculine she is; rather, he falls for her shining sense of femininity, and the same is true for women. Our expectations can get the better of us when we expect more than what is realistic in a given situation. We might expect our partners to live up to what we see in romance films, our jobs to be idealized versions we had as children, or even our lives to match up to what we see on Instagram. Our expectations can create significant stress when they don't match up to reality. Also consider how social media can greatly contribute to this: we compare our own worst moments (those not deemed to be shareable online) to others' best moments, which very often are filtered to seem perfect. We may not even realize this mismatched comparison. It's important to take a deeper look into how your expectations stack up to reality (and how your mood is affected because of this). #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message

2020 has started off as a deadly year in the District of Columbia, with nearly 30 homicides in the first three months alone. Wards 5 and 6 have seen the bulk of the year's violence to-date, with seven homicides apiece. Ward 8 had seen five homicides to-date, including, as of March 3, the city's two most recent homicides. One of those was the murder of 13-year-old Malachi Lukes, which was caught on a nearby home's doorbell camera. As of the beginning of March, D.C.'s homicide rate was running on par with 2019, and well ahead of 2018 and 2017, which ended February with 17 and 14 homicides, respectively. As of March 3, only seven of the city's 29 homicides had resulted in arrests. Metropolitan Police Department Chief of Police Peter Newsham said the city is on pace to have the same number of murders in 2020 as in 2019. Last year there were 166, which marks a 10-year high. Of that total, 58 of the victims were under the age of 24, 153 were black and 154 were men. “We’re unnecessarily losing people to gun violence,” Newsham said. So far this year, there have been 68 gunshot victims. Last year there was a total of 690. As for the suspects of the crimes, 92% had prior arrests. The average number of arrests they had was 10. Half were gun-related and 59% were for violent crimes. “We want to ensure that small group of repeat violent offenders are held accountable. I think we’ll be able to impact that homicide number we’re seeing,” Newsham said. In a city convulsed by Black Lives Matter protests and experiencing a surge of deadly violence, the Fourth of July cookout was supposed to be a small step forward. The family-focused event was organized by Crystal McNeal, whose job as a city “violence interrupter” means she spends her days with some of the District’s most hardened criminals, mediating disputes and trying to persuade them to put down their firearms. Davon McNeal 11-year-old was fatally shot after the anti-violence cookout. Christopher Brown 17 years old and father of 2 (1 child otw) was killed in the mass shooting in the early hours of Sunday morning. 20 others wounded after mass shooting at cookout in Southeast DC including an off duty police officer who’s still in critical condition fighting for her life. It’s the state of violence in the pandemic! #therealtalkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the6thman/message