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You may not have the mother you want, but you'll always have the mother you need to become the woman you're today. And as an adult, you're responsible for yourself and therefore you can mother your inner child the way you want.

I heard this from a Chinese lecturer. He said that if you want to ruin someone, tell them they need to be perfect. 🤷‍♀️Doesn't this sound familiar?

50: Everyone else is already taken up, you can take up as much space as you want in the Universe. The Universe will make space for you therefore there's no need to compete or be a clone of someone else to become successful.

49: This is a continuation from yesterday's episode where I asked if you're a people pleasure then are you also a manipulator? If we want to put our God Given Gifts out there, we need to be strong to take criticism as well, otherwise it'll just be giving airtime to the ego!

48: If you're in the process of getting to know yourself and embarked on the personal development journey then not every feedback you get is about you. If you know what it feels like to walk on egg shells with certain people then, if you take everything personally, you too are making people feel they need to watch what they say when they're with you.

47: In today's episode, I shared the technique and tools I used to get myself out of confusion and raise my frequency to match the things I want to experience righ now.                      Connect with me here: FB : FB.com/TheWomanofInfluence  IG: Instagram.com/TheWomanofInfluence

46: One of the many reasons why we stop ourselves from pursing our dreams and become wildly success is because it requires us to get outside our comfort zone and face the "wolves of the world". By that I mean to face the reality that people may say NO to us. When we hear a NO, most of the time, we take it personally and immediately translate to "Oh I'm unlovable!" or "there's something wrong with me". As a child, we've been conditioned to behave properly and only when we do according to what our parents or caregivers want from us, do we get rewarded. So the rest of our lives, we live for these "reward" moments because it makes us feel loved. But the truth is, people don't have to like what we say or what we do. And it really has nothing to do with us because we're all given FREEWILL and we don't have similar taste right? Just like music, some people may like Lady Gaga and some don't. But it doesn't stop her from doing what she loves. Similarly, I don't listen to the same kind of music all the time. I've preferences based on the time of the day and my mood. But just because I like to Enya in the evening, JLO isn't going to get offended.

45: You cannot attract abundance from a place of lack. And it's not that affirmations don't work. They do. It's just that we don't believe them. So our job is to bridge the gap. The Universe isn't out to get us or punish us. Like Einstein said, you must first decide if you live in a hostile or friendly Universe. When you believe in a friendly Universe and that life is FOR you and not against you, half the "battle" is already won. You've done most of the heavy lifting because you're no longer in your way. Yes learning the lessons may be painful but so is giving birth. But we do it anyway right? Watch the video to find out how I healed my relationship with money and allow money to serve my mission so that I don't have worry about keeping up with the bills every month.

44: 🙋‍♀️I agree it's hard to stay focused especially when EVERYONE is at home and if you're staying at home alone, it's hard to focus when your mind is chattering non stop. So, the key is not make distraction a problem. There's a reason why you get distracted so easily. I seriously crave out time for me to be distracted and doing mindless activities like playing games or watching a rom com. The idea is to keep my mind off thinking. Of course, I meditate every morning so that keeps me grounded. There must be a reward for doing what you want to do stay on course right? You won't want to lose weight for no reason. So the reason and reward must be more alluring than your excuses. Start with doing the activities that makes you happy and don't feel guilty about enjoying whatever makes you happy. If you don't feel like like mopping the floor today, screw it! Sit down, chill and have a cup of coffee. No one is keeping tabs on you. If you don't feel like making the bed today, screw it! Just lie on your bed like a star fish and watch the time go by. Train your body to say yes to what feels good and then you'll find yourself more focused and motivated. Watch the video for more tips and let me know what's your personal tips to stay focused and motivated.⠀ ⠀ ❤ @iamelyseanne

43: If you don't decide how the day is going to be, the day will decide for you. Then you become the victim of your circumstances. The truth is, we don't know and cannot predict how the day will go but we can definitely pre decide who we're going to be no matter what happens. Life will do what life wants to do right? Being in charge of your emotions is definitely part of growing up and self responsibility. In this video, I share my personal practical tips on how I end the day right so that I set myself for success even before I wake up. Let me know what your personal tips and tricks to maintain your sanity.

42: The # 1 reason why most of fear failure isn't because we believe that we're not good enough or we're not ready. The reason is because we're ultimately afraid of rejection. If we're rejected that means we're being judged and as a result, people won't like us. So we rather stay small, fit in and dim our lights. Don't take any risks and be safe in our comfort zones. Yes although we'll be safe and we may go through life without any major upheavals, but will you be happy though? Will you be satisfied not knowing what your fullest potential and capabilities are? Aren't you slightly curious how far God can take you in life? Looking from the sidelines feeling jealous of what others have accomplished is an indication that you too are craving for that experience. You're in your own way.  Instead of being scared, be curious instead. In the space of curiosity, you cannot feel the fear. Like a child. A child is fearless because s/he is curious and everything is interesting. Perhaps you think there's too much to lose if you lose. Ok! So what do you really have to lose if you just take ONE tiny weeny step? If you don't try, the answer is always NO. Even if you tried and the answer is NO, at leas you know. Is it time to change the narrative in your head and take a leap of faith and see how far God can take you?

41: It's an insane world because there're so many expectations for women. We've to look a certain way, dress a certain way, talk a certain way, behave a certain way and even think a certain way. Trying to achieve all these unrealistic goals is obviously driving us up the wall. We can choose to ditch the crazy expectations and come up with a more humane way of doing things. We don't have to drive ourselves crazy. Stress is the # 1 killer in our modern times.⠀ ⠀ So, ask yourself if the situation is really worth stressing over. Is it worth another white hair or wrinkle? No one is responsible for our happiness and mental health. No one is watching you and keeping tabs of what you've done and what you haven't done. As a mother in lockdown mode, my main focus isn't the laundry. My focus is mainly making sure my children are fed. As a result, my laundry room is still in a mess and may not do my laundry everyday. It's raining most of the time in Singapore anyway. It's ok if I don't mop the floor everyday, I no longer have toddlers crawling all over the house. I may wash the toilets at 8pm before I take my shower.⠀ ⠀ 🤷‍♀️Who's to say that I'm washing and cleaning at the wrong time?⠀ ⠀ I'm doing what's most convenient for me so that I don't go crazy. We cannot control what's going on in the outer world. But if and when we lose control over our inner worlds, of course, everything is going to be topsy turvy.⠀ ⠀ I truly believe happy mom = happy children = happy life. I don't enjoy myself when I have those crazy burst of emotions and I start yelling at my children because I'm feeling frustrated. So, I need to learn to pace myself. Do what the video for more tips and tricks on how to stay sane in the insane world. Your happiness is your responsibility.  💗 Elyse-Anne P.S. Join our Instagram Soul Family www.Instagram.com/TheWomanofInfluence.

40: I believe it's more important now than ever that we take time out to connect with our Soul and Creator to find out why we're here at this specific time. I also believe that if you're part of @thewomanofinfluence community and is reading this right now, you're called for a life bigger than what your ego has planned out for you. You're here to hold the light and help raise the frequency of Mother Earth.⠀ ⠀ Your Soul has volunteered to be part of the change and witness the shift that has never happened before in recorded human history. You and I and all of us are the chosen ones and have been chosen to clean and cleanse the dense energies.⠀ ⠀ 💁‍♀️Are you ready for the Divine Call? What I've learned is that God isn't a stingy God. S/he has many more gifts for us. There's more than ONE gift for us to receive. But we need to "proof" that we're worthy to receive the Gift and use it responsibly. What God can give, God can take back. If you're clueless, the first thing to do is to be OK with the fact that you don't know. And then be patient. The Universe always leaves us clue. I wish It can be more direct but I suppose It likes giving us riddles to solve. It's more exciting that way right?! I also realised that once you overcome a challenge, you'll be given a gift as a reward. Gifts from the Universe are always precious and amazing. Watch the video as I share more ways to discover your God Given Gifts. And then leave me a comment to let me know where you are at right now.

39: When I started my Spiritual Healing practice 10 years ago, I blamed God for trying to make my life so difficult when all I wanted was to help people. And I couldn't understand why He was making my life so difficult!  He wasn't. I was in such a victim state. Eventually I realised that no one was coming to save me and I can't help anyone but myself at that point in time. Now I know that God is waiting for me. It was me that was in my own way. Many times, we want others to change and the world to change so that we don't have to change. Change is hard. It's not easy but yet it's the only thing we can do to improve our lives. If we keep waiting, then we'll always have to depend on the external circumstances to be right before we can be happy. I hate rules and some laws are just simply ridiculous. If you're like me, have you ever wondered why do we need laws to govern us? Well we don't when we each take personal responsibility for ourselves and our surrounding. You don't need a rocket scientist to tell you why you shouldn't drink and drive. You also need a degree to tell you why you shouldn't drive like a mad person on the over speed limit on the road. We don't need the government to tell us why we need to pay income tax to help the lower income when we all do our part to lift each other up. Doing charity and being charitable is another topic that I'll cover another day but we need to teach people how to fish and not just give people the fish. Otherwise we create a community of needy people who just wait for people to donate. It definitely makes us feel good but we're actually robbing people of the chance to discover their own potential. I truly feel that we can only change the world by our actions and not just talk. We need more conscious role models to rise up, take charge and lead. Stop waiting for permission or people to appoint you. You're already the chosen one so it's time to step up. Love, Elyse-Anne P.S. Have you joined the 280,000++ The Woman of Influence members on Instagram?  👉 https://bit.ly/2M6n94f

38: The only reason why we suffer mentally and emotionally is because we resist the current situation.⠀ ⠀ 🗣We're comparing our current reality to the past of future because we hope it had turned out another way. Well, if you can't accept it, then you'll suffer. Your mind will always be spinning and you end up with a whole bunch of negative thoughts.⠀ ⠀ 💁‍♀️Negative thoughts are from the ego. Past believe systems and old paradigms. Clearly it's not serving. You know that because you can feel it in your gut. When you're in alignment with the Truth, you feel good.⠀ ⠀ 💪So learn to take "negative" emotions as feedback. It is what it is until we give it a story. What I've learned is that basically the negative comments in your head comes from an unhealed and wounded self.⠀ ⠀ 🙏If you can accept it and give it the attention it wants, it'll subside and eventually go away. When you're calm and collected, this is the time to go into enquiry mode.⠀ ⠀ 👉Find out what's the root case of this anger or feeling. Once you know, you set yourself free from the effect. This is all part of the journey to getting to know who you truly are and live life on your own terms. No one said life is easy. But it's rewarding when you do the work.⠀ ⠀ ❤ Elyse-Anne P.S. Have you joined the 280,000++ The Woman of Influence members on Instagram?  👉 https://bit.ly/2M6n94f

37: 🌈God put the vision and desire in you and only can see it. ⠀ 🛑Stop asking irrelevant people for advice and permission.⠀ ⠀ 🛑Stop giving your personal power away to people who don't deserve your love and attention. If you think God can only help you pay your rent and make it through the day, then you've underestimated God. In the Bible it said that you have not because you ask not.⠀ ⠀ 🤷‍♀️Are you asking for the small stuff because you ultimately think you don't deserve them? Then it's your problem. It has nothing to with God forsaken you.⠀ ⠀ 🙅‍♀️What is it that you truly desire to have and to experience? Be honest and fearless demand that it shows up in your life. You deserve to take up space in the world and just be you.⠀ ⠀ ❤ Elyse-Anne P.S. Have you joined the 280,000++ The Woman of Influence members on Instagram?  👉 https://bit.ly/2M6n94f

36: I believe many people are praying part time.⠀ ⠀ 😅Meaning the only talk to God when shit hits the fan and when that happens, they beg God for help. The truth is - God already knows what you need. The problem is, we don't.⠀ ⠀ 😫Very often we wait till the very last minute and beg for help in a needy and desperate way. If you do that, that means you're saying God doesn't know what He's doing and you need to tell Him what you need him to do.⠀ ⠀ 💪Whenever shit hits the fan and I find it unbearable I would remind myself that God will not give me something I can't handle. There's a lesson for me to learn and a wounded self wanting to be healed.⠀ ⠀ 🙅‍♀️There's really no point worrying and begging because the desperate vibe will cause the Law of Attraction to me more of the situations I don't want. Since God already knows what I need, then all I can do is wait patiently for the sign to take the next step.⠀ ⠀ 🌈And be grateful for all the blessings coming my way. It's a mindset shift and a change of habits. From worrying to trusting. If worrying didn't make your life any better than why not try going the other way and see what happens.⠀ ⠀ 🤷‍♀️What's the worst that can happen? You can always go back to where you were.⠀ ⠀ 🧘‍♀️God is in the silence. You can't hear Him when your mind is clouded and noisy. Have a great weekend.⠀ ⠀ ❤ Elyse-Anne P.S. Have you joined the 280,000++ The Woman of Influence members on Instagram?  👉 https://bit.ly/2M6n94f

35 : 👩‍👧‍👧Now that all my girls are out of diapers and are fully functional mini adults, I find myself spending more time in the bathroom. I don't need to rush out of the bathroom because a child is screaming for me at the top of her lungs.⠀ ⠀ 🧖‍♀️I'm back to my beauty routine and I absolutely love it. It's so important for us women to take time out to take care of ourselves. At the end of the day, we really don't want to become cracky bitches. It's not fun being one and it's definitely not fun being around one.⠀ ⠀ 🤳If you think you don't have time then schedule it in your phone. Once it's scheduled then there're no more excuses. If you don't enjoy spending time with you then why would others?⠀ ⠀ 🙏Self care isn't just and all about beautifying yourself. it's also about clearing your mind and reconnect with your soul. Finding time to rejuvenate your body, mind and soul. Going with the flow means be one with the flow.⠀ ⠀ 🧘‍♀️So if you're out of alignment and out of sync, then of course life becomes topsy turvy. It's paramount that you carve out time for you and you alone.⠀ ⠀ You deserve it.  ❤ Elyse-Anne P.S. Have you joined the 280,000++ The Woman of Influence members on Instagram?  👉 https://bit.ly/2M6n94f