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In America, it is more common to talk about disgusting things around children than to teach them about sex. Raising children without sexual education may result in teen pregnancy, sexual diseases, or sexually frustrated adults who may or may not be a danger to society. To dive into this topic, Lisa Chatham joined us in this episode. She is a psychotherapist passionate about helping men convicted of sex crimes return to being functional men within society. Today we will talk about sex crimes, consent, taboo, and how to improve your sex life as a couple through conversations. Do you think that a person convicted of sexual crimes can change? Let's hear what she has to tell us. ABOUT LISA CHATHAM Lisa Chatham, M.A., is a faculty member in the Psychology and Yoga Studies Department at Naropa University, and a psychotherapist in private practice in Boulder, Colorado. For over ten years she has worked with young adults, adults, couples, and groups on a wide range of issues including anxiety and depression, sexuality and identity, failure to launch, intimacy and autonomy in relationships, and psycho-spiritual well being. She specializes in family systems, attachment and forensic psychology. CONNECT WITH LISA Website: www.lisachathampsychotherapy.com/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:05] Who's Lisa? [5:00] What's a sex crime? [10:00] Why is sex still viewed as taboo in America? [19:22] The influence of porn in America. [22:12] Relationship attachments. [29:37] Why are people addicted to porn? [31:54] How to tell your partner that you are addicted to porn? [34:39] Secretly consuming porn leads to eating criminal sexual activity? [40:05] Hard conversations about sex in relationships. [50:00] What is consent, and why is it so important? [55:56] Lisa's piece of advice. [57:30] Where to find Lisa? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.

There are two types of people. Those who work for money and those who work for passion. Which one are you? Today's guest Nick Onken doesn't have a typical title or career. He considers himself a creative alchemist, and you are going to know why. Nick believes life is made up of our creations – our moments, relationships, and conversations. He believes we get to choose what we are creating. In this episode, Nick and I talked about creation, alchemy, identity, expression, reorientation, and mastering. Do you want to find out what a creative alchemist is? Then don't miss this episode. You are going to love it. ABOUT NICK ONKEN Nick Onken is a photographer, podcast host, and creative entrepreneur devoted to inspiring the world to create their moments and create their life CONNECT WITH NICK Website: https://onken.co/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [3:30] Who's Nick Onken? [10:11] Deconstructing inner religion belief system. [14:16] What's the full expression? [17:32] What's identity alchemy? [23:06] Taking the inner you to the outer world. [28:26] Can we change our identity? [31:48] How to reorient ourselves? [38:27] The benefits of mastering your craft. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.

Every colonized country has a history of trauma and grief. Today's guest Bayo Akomolafe, is a Nigerian man passionate about decolonized landscapes, writing, and poems. Today, he is here to blow our minds with his philosophy, no kidding. If you press play, get ready to listen about decolonization, trauma, grief, mental health, psychotherapy, and how this influences and affects us as individuals. ABOUT BAYO AKOMOLAFE Bayo Akomolafe is a philosopher, writer, activist, professor of psychology, and executive director of the Emergence Network. CONNECT WITH BAYO Website: https://www.bayoakomolafe.net/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:43] Who's Bayo Akomolafe? [14:14] How do traumas and stories play together? [21:27] Reframing trauma in modern civilization [25:48] How to heal the past? [29:51] What's generative incapacitation? [32:31] What would Bayo currently change in society? [38:25] Reshaping the system. [45:44] Grief in America. [51:21] Where to find Bayo. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.

In this solo episode I explore the single most important sentence a man can say to himself and know about himself — I am a man. This conversation stems from the hundreds of men I’ve worked with in my life who were told that “being a man” wasn’t important or was a secondary or tertiary thought. It is not. It is primary. And when it becomes so in your life, everything changes. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course.

To say David Skudneski is fortunate to be alive is a massive understatement. In this episode we will dive into the events of that February evening in 2019, his experience of feeling this life altering cycling accident occur in real-time, and how he navigated the internal journey, physical injuries and used meditation practices to fuel his powerful recovery. It is your life; no one else's; live it to the best of your abilities and then even better! ABOUT DAVID SKUDNESKI Avid cyclist and longtime meditator suffered a life altering bicycling accident internally decapitating his head from his spine, shattering the C1 vertebrae, breaking C2 and dislocating C3. David is a daily reminder that staying present through it all using the power of mediation will not only guide you in your most challenging times, it will also help you find meaning through it all. CONNECT WITH DAVID Website: www.askadeadguy.com WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [13:01] The accident unfolds with notable awareness and clarity. [18:07] Experiencing the places our mind go in severe accidents. [23:12] Consciousness on death’s door. [27:30] Crucial decisions on the path to healing [38:27] How David uses the power of meditation to re-heart himself, live with gratitude and love through life’s greatest. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course. Join The UNcivilized Nation, registration is only open through Jan 3rd, 2023

This one is so popular, I made swag that says "Fight Hurt" on it. The world is going to knock you down over and over again. Your mission is to get up and keep fighting every single time. Keep fighting, hurt or not. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course. Join The UNcivilized Nation, registration is only open through Jan 3rd, 2023

This ethos says everything you need to know right in it. You can be a victim, you can be a power-hungry dick, or you can learn how to use both your strength and your love. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course. Join The UNcivilized Nation, registration is only open through Jan 3rd, 2023

You'll be devastated and ruined when your heart is broken. Still, love fully and fiercely. A life lived any other way is dull by comparison. How do you do it? You place your hand on your chest and you leave it there for the rest of your life. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

Whatever you want to do, with very little exception - you can do it. That being said, karma and responsibility are real. The UNcivilized man has figured out how to live a life outside the rules with respect, intention, and discipline. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

You must know all three, independently and intimately, and you cannot fear them. They are your allies in your quest for growth, actualization, and individualization. They hold the power. The question is, are you avoiding one of them? The next question is...why? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

Honor and reverence remind us that our time here is limited. The start and conclusion of each breath holds everything that came before you, is with you, and will be after you're gone. Learn to feel it. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

Combine both your primal and your divine in every area of your life. Try starting in the bedroom. You'll need your determined, competitive nature to make friends with the part of you that feels a rush of emotion when you ride the perfect wave, hit the buck in a silent forest, or reach out your hand to a brother in need. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

Let your heart break for the life you wish you had. Let your heart break for the love you want to give. Let your heart break for the unexpressed gifts you have inside of you. Let it break. Until then, you aren't going anywhere. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

The civilized man is a slave to his mind and a pimp to his body. Take charge of both, and you're running your own damn life. Learn to meditate. Get physically stronger than you've ever been. Own your duality. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

The more dangerous you are, the less of a danger you will be. The man who is civilized, who has something to prove, who walks around with a chip on his shoulder, who is in denial of his true nature is where the danger lies. Do you make those you walk among safer? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

Many men, perhaps you or men you know, are facing the number one killer of men: isolation. You may be surrounded by people and still alone. Who can you confide in? Who confides in you? If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

Men who know who they are, why they are here, and are focused on penetrating the world with their deep purpose, these men are not raping, abusing or murdering anyone. (Hurt men are.) Find out why there's no reason to be ashamed of being unapologetically male in this episode. I hope it makes you think about your own masculinity differently. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

Never before had I met a man so interested in ending the suffering of men and the suffering caused by men like Stephen Jenkinson. As you may know, it is one of the many times that we have had Stephen as our guest, and it is because this man speaks with such wisdom that it is impossible not to learn something from him. In this episode, Stephen and I will be talking about the 60's revolution, the pandemic, freedom, grief, and suffering. He will also tell us about his tour, Nights of Grief and Mystery. I promise you will love this episode. Stephen spoke in such a poetic way that it will make you feel like you are having a piece of his tour. Can't miss it. ABOUT STEPHEN Culture activist, worker, author ~ Stephen teaches internationally and is the creator and principal instructor of the Orphan Wisdom School, co-founded the school with his wife Nathalie Roy in 2010, convening semi-annually in Deacon, Ontario, and in northern Europe.  Apprenticed to a master storyteller when a young man, he has worked extensively with dying people and their families, is former programme director in a major Canadian hospital, former assistant professor in a prominent Canadian medical school. He is also a sculptor, traditional canoe builder whose house won a Governor General’s Award for architecture. Since co-founding the Nights of Grief and Mystery project with singer/ songwriter Gregory Hoskins in 2015, he has toured this musical/ tent show revival/ storytelling/ ceremony of a show across North America, U.K. and Europe and Australia and New Zealand. They released their Nights of Grief & Mystery album in 2017 and at the end of 2020, they released two new records; Dark Roads and Rough Gods. CONNECT WITH STEPHEN Website: https://orphanwisdom.com/ Stephen’s tour: https://orphanwisdom.com/nights-of-grief-and-mystery/ WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [3:28] The hardest challenges of being on tour. [7:18] What's Stephen calling? [14:14] Where did Stephen get the relationship he has with words? [18:10] The 60's revolution [21:23] The 2020 pandemic. [33:54] Nights of Grief and Mystery tour. [39:55] What's suffering? [48:02] Where to find Stephen. If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise Click here to sign up for the Kill the Nice Guy course. Join The UNcivilized Nation, registration is only open through Jan 3rd, 2023

No matter how many times you feel stagnant or hit bottom, remember that even in the desert, the flowers blossom. I'm not trying to sound poetic, but today's guest story reminds me of desert flowers blossoming amid the drought, in isolation, and under brutal circumstances. For this episode, Saora Love will join the conversation. She is a men's coach and what I find most fascinating about her is not only her desire to help others but her story of self-improvement. To put you in context, Saora experienced many difficult moments in her life from a young age, but none of them were as tough as the time she spent three years in prison in India for cannabis possession, leading her to miss her sister's wedding — the moment she understood the seriousness of her imprisonment. In this episode, you will hear not only Saora's story but also about healing, meditation, embodiment, and how we can start to be more present and aware of our bodies as men. ABOUT SAORA LOVE Saora Love is a mentor and guide for people who want more intimacy, cohesion and harmony in their lives. She is mostly focused on helping us all understand each other more, particularly from a standpoint of radical self responsibility. Saora often says she's been blessed to live a life of a lot of suffering. This has given her a lot of street cred and she has learnt to be able to navigate life with a lot of awareness. Because of this she is able to support others on their journey to wholeness, and is able to really see and understand the intricacies of what's really going on in people's lives. She works with women to help them understand themselves, and to specifically understand men more. She works with men to help them understand more of what's needed for embodiment and wholeness and to understand what women want. She gives powerful reflections from a deeply attuned feminine system. CONNECT WITH SAORA Instagram: @saoralove  WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [3:17] Who's Saora Love? [4:35] What's embodiment? [5:34] Why do men have a hard time being one with their bodies? [8:55] "Pain and suffering don't have to hurt." [10:30] Three years in India. [15:29] First days in jail. [20:22] The power of meditation. [22:01] Life outside prison. [32:31] What does "praying" mean? [36:49] How to get out of toxic situations? [41:11] How she became a men's coach. [48:52] Why do women have a hard time understanding men? [51:11] How the embodiment can lead to healing. [57:04] Where to find Saora.  If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise

In the final part of this 7 part solo podcast series on the Civilized vs the UNcivilized view of the Seven Deadly Sins, I’m taking WRATH and breaking it down for you. I’m looking at how you can make it work for you and how it can upend your life. These are short, hard hitting solo podcasts as a thank you for all of your support throughout the year. Enjoy, Traver If you look at the civilized world and think, "no thank you," then you should subscribe to our podcast, so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, YouTube, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more. Join us for The Awakening, a seven day retreat Dec 27, 2022 - Jan 3, 2023 that will change your life forever Join The UNcivilized Body, take your body back, take your life back Take a look Behind the Mask as we dive into elements of masculinity with Anger, Relationship, and Sex. Get a copy of one of my books, Man UNcivilized and Today I Rise