37 minutes | Apr 12th 2018

The STANDcast 45: The Emotional Lives of Men with Justin Lioi

In episode 45 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by guest Justin Lioi, a men's therapist in Brooklyn, to discuss the emotional lives of men, why we tend to stuff our emotions down, and the consequences for doing so. In addition, Justin describes ways to help men understand their emotions better and encourages us to become curious about the things that make us defensive. All this and much more on STANDcast 45. Episode 45 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Justin Lioi • Justin studied singing and dancing • Bringing families together through music • The “entrance” to therapy is different for men and women: women seek out a therapist for a man in their life • Works with “new dads, unassertive men, and angry guys” • Shaming boys out of sharing their emotions & feelings • “Shame almost makes you feel like you are worthless as a person” • “crying is not okay” • “I’m not letting people see me vulnerable anymore” • Terrence Real: we get “halved” • Physical symptoms & trouble in relationships as a result of stuffing down emotions • “I’m not emotional”: learning to recognize our emotions • Identify where you “feel” that emotion in your body • Mindfulness practice • Thich Nhat Hahn book Anger • You can be strong and rugged AND more aware of your emotions • Vulnerability is strength • Having other men share an experience can help reduce the shame • We’re so isolated now we need to pursue deeper friendships with men and women • Using male comradery and friendship to stand up • Contact Justin at Parkslopetherapist.com, @JLioiLCSW on twitter • Become curious about defensiveness • Three Surprising Signs of Depression in New Dads • STAND magazine: www.stand-magazine.com Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0
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