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In episode 60 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Dr. Dain Heer, author of the book "Return of the Gentleman". Dain discusses his interest in questions about manhood and masculinity. He also talks about what it means to be a gentleman, what it means to honor oneself, and the elements of intimacy. All this and more on STANDcast 60. Episode 60 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Dr. Dain Heer • What does it mean to be a gentleman • How do we honor ourselves • 5 elements of intimacy • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 59 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Nashville music producer Tony Brown. Tony got his start in gospel music, was a pianist for Elvis, became president of MCA Records Nashville, and has produced over 100 number-one country songs. Tony talks about his life in music, as documented in a new book, and also discusses a life-changing experience that helped make him a better man. All this and more on STANDcast 59. Episode 59 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Tony Brown • Background in gospel music • Experience with Elvis • Accident and getting sober • Becoming a better man • Book: Elvis, Strait, to Jesus • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 58 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Dan Doty, co-founder of Evryman. Dan discusses his passion for facilitating human connection and how Evryman retreats and wilderness experiences help men to better understand their emotions and purpose. He also talks about healing his relationship with his father after his dad attended a retreat. All this and more on STANDcast 58. Episode 58 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Dan Doty, co-founder of Evryman • A sensitive boy growing up in a stoic community • Interested in facilitating human connection • Evryman created to engage men to assist one another in personal growth • Involves going into personal issues and learning to express emotions • Runs weekend retreats for men • Wilderness experiences • Local groups to men to connect in their community • One-on-one coaching • Podcast • Healing with his father after he attended a retreat • Discussion with his father on podcast • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 57 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Josh Bellish, board member at the National At-Home Dad Network. Josh discusses how he got involved in the organization, shares how they support stay-at-home dads, and encourages listeners to attend the upcoming conference in Orlando in September. All this and more on STANDcast 57. Episode 57 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Josh Bellish from the National At-Home Dad Network • Organization serves as resource for at-home dads • Provides opportunities for dads to meet up • Organizes annual conference • Advocacy, Support Education, Community • Facebook groups to connect with • Collaborates with City Dads and other groups • Conference coming up September 13-15th in Orlando • Professional training for professional dads • The organization supports all dads • Athomedad.org • speakers for HomeDadCon include Doctor Jarret Patton, Patrick Hempfing, Catherine Pearlman, and Christine Karper. • New guys at conference can seek out Josh • Convention eve hosted by US Tennis Association and Fathers Eve • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 56 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Justin Birckbichler, founder of the blog A Ballsy Sense of Tumor. Justin discusses his experience with being diagnosed with testicular cancer two years ago, maintaining a sense of humor, and how the experience has changed him. In addition, Justin talks about how to perform a self-exam, and shares the symptoms of testicular cancer to be aware of. All this and much more on STANDcast 56. Episode 56 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Justin Birckbichler, founder of A Ballsy Sense of Tumor • Former 4th grade teacher • Diagnosed with testicular cancer at age 25 in 2016 • How to do a self-exam (only 42% of men know how to do it) • Do a self-exam monthly • 10 weeks of chemotherapy • The hard part is being a cancer “survivor” • Symptoms of testicular cancer • Most common cancer in men ages 15-44 • A Ballsy Sense of Tumor • Created a resource for men’s health and cancer • Pairs humor and education • Cancer impacts everyone in the family • Encourages friends to take care of their health • Be more open about speaking about your health and emotions • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In this mini-episode of the STANDcast, Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, elaborates on the four ways that STAND magazine supports and encourages men to be better men: through permission and acceptance that you are man enough as you are, through offering tools and practices to become better men, by encouraging men to seek out and develop healthy friends and partners in their lives, and by living your purpose and passion in service to others. Episode fast facts and info: • Big thanks for all the support for our crowdfunding campaign on Kickstarter! • Permission to accept that you are man enough as you are. • Choosing the right partners and friends in life. • Developing the practices and habits to become a better man. • Understanding our purpose in life. • Thinking intentionally about who we are and what we want to accomplish in our lives. • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 55 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Andy Hill, founder of the blog and podcast Marriage, Kids and Money. Andy discusses how he became interested in personal finance and what he's learned along the way to avoid "lifestyle inflation". In addition, Andy talks about ethical investing, taking a $6000 family vacation for only $300, the Big Give, and "sexy cash flow". All this and much more on STANDcast 55. Episode 55 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Andy Hill, founder of Marriage, Kids and Money blog and podcast • Fatherhood inspired Andy to be more intentional about his finances • Consistency, patience, and self-control are the keys to building wealth • Ease of automating investing, bill payment, etc. • Common problem: lifestyle inflation • “you’re not supposed to do anything other than what’s right for you” • 78% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck • Being open and honest about realities of money and what it takes to purchase toys and other items • Modeling appropriate spending habits for our kids • Monthly “budget” party with pizza, reconnecting on family goals • How to take a $6000 vacation on for $300 • Travel Miles 101 • What is Ethical Investing? • Has learned how to better communicate with his wife and to be a better listener • Need to not hold things in and always try to be a “nice guy” • “hard work equals reward” • The Big Give • Diversifying income • Paid off mortgage • One practice for handling money better: find a personal motivation, a “why?” • Sexy cash flow vs. sexy budgeting • Marriage, Kids and Money • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 54 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Glenn Ruga, Director of Social Documentary Network. Glenn discusses SDN and the platform he provides for documentary photographers around the world to tell their important stories. In addition, Glenn defines "documentary photography" and they discuss ZEKE magazine and the importance of this work in an era of "post-truth" and "fake news". All this and much more on STANDcast 54. Episode 54 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Director of Social Documentary Network (SDN) Glenn Ruga • 10th anniversary of SDN • Social Documentary Network: a web site featuring online galleries of photographer’s work • ZEKE magazine started a few years ago; heavily curated selection of photos • Last issue (Women’s issue) focused on climate change, violence against women, women and work • What is documentary photography? • It’s not about the artist and the photographer’s subjectivity • Telling a story about the world • Around 2000 photographers have exhibited work on SDN • Irish Tinkers by Janine Wiedel • Cockle Pickers by Luiz Santos • Color vs. B&W photography • Themes around masculinity in SDN • The Women’s issue came out as a response to #MeToo • Waiting to be Registered by Sheikh Rajibul Islam on the Rohingya • Breast ironing in Africa to de-sexualize girls in order to keep them safe in current issue of ZEKE • Documentary in the Era of Post-Truth • Search for exhibits at Social Documentary Network • ZEKE magazine • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 53 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by by GirlTalkHQ founder Asha Dahya. She talks about her mission to share inspiring stories about women and how men can support equality and be better allies. In addition,we discuss her important upcoming documentary series "Life at All Costs: Beyond Pro-Choice vs. Pro-Life". All this and much more on STANDcast 53. Episode 53 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Founder of GirlTalkHQ Asha Dahya • A platform for sharing women’s stories to inspire • Amazing things can come from dark times • Are younger men more interested in equality and hearing women’s voices? • Will #MeToo have a lasting impact? • Some discomfort allows us to change • “We need men as allies” • Use men’s voices to promote change and make a difference • The F-Word event: mini TEDtalks on topics related to feminism • Docuseries: Life at All Costs: Beyond Pro-Choice vs. Pro-Life • Looking at production partners for series • Listen to the voices of women when it comes to reproductive rights • Become a better listener & have vulnerable conversations • “Equality is not a threat” • Connect with Asha at GirlTalkHQ, on twitter @ashadahya, and on Facebook • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 52 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by author & men's coach Rick Belden to discuss expectations placed on boys to conform to a stereotypical view of masculinity and what it means to be a highly sensitive man. In addition, we discuss his creative work and poetry based on dreams about Iron Man, and learn about his coaching work with men. All this and much more on STANDcast 52. Episode 52 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Author and men’s coach Rick Belden • John Lee & Dan Jones • “Not handling your business” if you seek therapy, outside help • Healing through art • Dreams about Iron Man turned into poems • Austin Men’s Center • Men’s inner lives • Wanted to prove that he was a real man to family • Highly sensitive person • Dr. Elaine Aron • A trait that can be particularly problematic for men because it is “used as a club”, weakness • Felt like he needed to change • Ted Zeff article: compassionate, gentle, peacekeeper, unity with all creatures • Self-test of highly sensitive people • How do you talk to yourself? • Slow down and check in with what you’re feeling and where you’re feeling it in your body • Our body is the gateway to understanding how we’re feeling • Rick Belden Coaching: Likes to help people who are feeling “stuck” • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In this mini-episode, Dwayne Hayes, Editor in Chief of STAND magazine, discusses the state of STAND magazine, future plans, and the current crowdfunding campaign on Kickstarter. Support the campaign here: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1140512139/stand-mens-magazine#

In episode 51 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by his wife, editor & poet Jessica Bomarito, to discuss healing after stillbirth or miscarriage. In September of 2011 Jessica and Dwayne experienced the stillbirths of their twin daughters Tessa and Sabine. Jessica shares how friends and family supported her following the loss, encourages women to experience their grief without putting a deadline to it, and offers suggestions for men who have experienced stillbirth or miscarriage with their partners. All this and much more on STANDcast 51. Episode 51 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Jessica Bomarito • Strategies for handling grief • Looked for books to be of support • Joan Didion: The Year of Magical Thinking • Let yourself feel whatever emotions you’re experiencing • There are not “wrong” emotions • There is no “time limit” to grief • Feelings were more “intense” with stillbirth than with experiencing miscarriage • Friends & family supported us with food and lawn care, phone calls • Jessica’s company was very supportive and gave her extended time off • Friends had stone engraved at the library with our daughter’s names • Most hurtful when people don’t say anything or try to rationalize • Just say: I’m really sorry • Friends tried to shield her from discussing the experience • Husbands tend to listen more than sharing their own feelings • Men might feel their partners experience is the most significant • She felt more interested in marking anniversaries or creating things to make memories • We could have benefitted from grief counseling • Found online groups for support • Understand there are physical & emotional issues, too, that women deal with following a loss • Many women experience guilt after loss of a pregnancy • Tell your partner you’re grieving, too • Try not to rush into “normalcy”. Things will be different but you can become closer • Discuss sex with your partner • Helpful resources: Precious Sleeping Angels on Facebook, Lambs on Facebook • Writing was helpful • Jessica’s poetry appeared in the book Three Minus One • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 50 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by by author and coach Mark LaMaster to discuss his new book "Friday Night Lights for Fathers & Daughters". Mark shares how the book came about and how it can help fathers have meaningful conversations with their daughters about important topics, such as social media, boys, and friendships, all while creating a fun experience together. All this and much more on STANDcast 50.. Episode 50 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Author and coach Mark LaMaster • Dad 2.0 • Father with a daughter & son, nurse, living in Minnesota • Flight nurse or transport nurse • Unconsciously neglecting role as father and husband • Wrote his first book in 8 months • Realized the clock was ticking and he was missing time with his kids • Biggest challenge is to avoid hypocrisy and be intentional about spending time with kids • Missed daughter’s big race • Admit mistakes and try again • Dads have a difficult time reaching out for help • How are you being a dad to your son or daughter? • The importance of men being open and vulnerable and prioritizing family over career • Friday Night Lights for Fathers & Daughters • Central theme: how can dads and daughters start talking about important issues with their daughters? • Dads need to “do” something to interact with their kids • The book helps to create memories • Unleashing the creativity • 10 themes: Researched most relevant issues for teen girls, including screen time, opposite sex, friendships • Book is planned for conversations with daughters aged 11-15 or so • Mark makes shopping fun? • Men go “hunting” for clothes • Daughter helped consult on the book and offered a brief “take” on each chapter • Upliftingdads.com: faith-based resources for dads • Offers individual & group coaching, and online courses • Friday Night Lights for Fathers & Sons set up as ten game days • Next book: Fatherhood in general to help dads at various stages • Practice for fathers to be better dads: get out your calendar and schedule one hour of time for each of your kids and follow through • The book is available at Amazon • STAND magazine Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 49 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by filmmaker Nathan Cheney to discuss his documentary film "A Fatherless Generation". In the film, Nathan explores his difficult relationship with his father after his parents divorced and he was made "man of the house" at 6-years-old. In addition, Nathan discusses how these experiences shaped his view of manhood, and talks about the interviews he did with George Lopez, Terry Crews, and others, for the film. All this, a story about Gene Simmons, and much more on STANDcast 49. Episode 49 fast facts and info: • Special guest: filmmaker Nathan Cheney • Grew up in Kansas and moved to Los Angeles to study filmmaking • Shot first documentary in high school • “always struggled with relationship with my father” • Father was like an “acquaintance” • Attempted suicide, experienced a lot of anger (took anger out on himself) • A seven-year process to make the film • Difficulty for men opening up and being vulnerable • “trying to protect my dad, too” • “man of the house” as a 6-year-old: became a “massive burden” • Worked at Access Hollywood • Attempted to get Gene Simmons in the film • Always have a business card! • Interviewed Terry Crews, Aisha Tyler • One of the last interviews with Alan Thicke • George Lopez • Importance of reflecting on our relationship with parents & taking responsibility for the relationship • Nathan was able to come to forgive his father • “He said yes because I was changing” • “old-school rugged cowboy from Kansas” • What parent wants to have their flaws shown to the world?” • My relationships have become better • Better at communicating • Become more emotionally available • “I don’t have to prove myself” • “Every man walks a different path” • Work on yourself rather than “pointing fingers” • Make a practice of reaching out daily/weekly to one person and saying something you’re afraid to say • See afgeneration.com for more information about the film • STAND magazine: www.stand-magazine.com Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 48 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Jeff Wenzel and Mitch Nobis to discuss sports and kids. They talk about how their kids got involved in sports, what they hope they gain from the experience, and concerns about the importance society places on athletic achievement along with equating athleticism with masculinity. In addition, they envision a new basketball league, discuss hotdogging and taunting opponents, and mention the best collegiate fight song in the country. All this and more on STANDcast 48. Episode 48 fast facts and info: • Jeff “Maverick” Wenzel & Mitch Nobis • How did your kids get started in sports? • Sports family, encouraged participation in sports • Basketball “league” for three-year-olds • New 50+ basketball league with 7-foot rims at Costick Center • Three suburban dads = no soccer • What do you hope your children gain from their involvement in sports? • Collaboration, team work, importance of practice & hard work • Learning the fundamentals of the sport • What did I do good? What do I have to get better at? • Learning to handle failure and disappointment • Understand the mental aspect • What concerns do you have about your child’s involvement in sports? • Not handling disappointment well • Miguel Cabrera • Fuzzy rant • The Emoji Movie • How do you balance it all? • Atticus is obsessed with Matthew Stafford but has a Tom Brady jersey • How to deal with over-emphasis on athletic achievement & equating athleticism with masculinity • Jeff is in a trophy case • Hotdogging vs alpha-dogging • Can you recognize the success of your opponent? • Ultimately, competition is with yourself • Do you take your kids to live sporting events? • Michigan tickets too expensive for families • Jim Harbaugh, are you listening? • Who know math? This guy! • Toledo Mud Hens • “Flying you-know-whats” • Ida football games • What’s your favorite sports experience with your children? • Charlie gets thrown a towel by Piston player Anthony Tolliver • “Nerf dunks” • Big run from Atticus • Hugs from Logan in the middle of a baseball game • Lions game with Logan • Best fight song in the land • Jeff still has four years of eligibility left • STAND magazine: www.stand-magazine.com Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In this mini-episode, Dwayne Hayes, Editor in Chief of STAND magazine, discusses the need to support our boys to develop partners & friends who inspire good and who aspire to live lives of fullness, joy, and integrity. Notes: We need others Getting in the huddle with like-minded guys Friendships with others who aspire to live lives of fullness, joy, and integrity

In episode 47 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by guest John Francis to discuss Fathers Eve, an event John started several years ago to celebrate dads and fatherhood. John discusses how Fathers Eve got its start, shares the 5 rules of Fathers Eve, and shares how listeners can join an event this June. All this and much more on STANDcast 47. Episode 47 fast facts and info: • Guest: John Francis • From St. Paul, Minnesota, husband & father of two daughters • Fathers Eve started in a new garage • Fathers Eve is an event for dads on the night before Father’s Day • An opportunity for dads to connect in person • The 5 Rules of Fathers Eve • Raised $10,000 for charity • Dad 2.0 • City Dads Group • National At-Home Dad Network • “a lot of guys don’t stay in touch with their buddies anymore” • Fathers Eve events are now in over 40 cities • “Learn to stay calm” • “Parent the child you have, not the child you wish you had” • Learn more about Fathers Eve • STAND magazine: www.stand-magazine.com Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 46 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by guest Christian Paasch, founder of the Virginia chapter of the National Parents Organization, to discuss shared parenting or shared custody, his experience with the courts, and what states are doing to ensure children have more time with each parent following a separation or divorce. In addition, Christian talks about the work of the National Parents Organization and shares some advice for parents going through the process of ending a relationship. All this and much more on STANDcast 46. Episode 46 fast facts and info: • Guest: Christian Paasch • “How much you can afford and how long you can fight” • Depends on the judge and where you live • National Parents Organization • This is an arena with a winner and a loser: and the children lose • Spent multiple “Harvard educations” on court costs • Shared parenting or sharing custody is flexible • A minimum of 35% of time should be spent with each parent to ensure a significant relationship • Maximize the time a child gets with each parent • Laws vary by state • Child support laws incentivize parent to spend less amount of time with child to have lower child support payments • Laws have not changed significantly over the last 50 years • Values and politics of a state impact that state’s family law • Shared parenting does NOT mandate a 50/50 split • Shared parenting does address cases of domestic violence, abuse and neglect • Many states have some form of shared custody legislation or are considering shared custody laws • Dad 2.0 • Financial incentives to attorneys for these cases to draw out • When dealing with custody battle and stresses, Christian used his training in the military: deep breathing, staying healthy and active, surrounding with positive people • Focus on what matters and what you can control • “You don’t have to run to the courts” • Don’t accept a mediocre attorney if you hire one • You want an attorney who personally knows the judges • @christianpaasch on twitter, email at christianpaasch@nationalparentsorganization.org • Petra Maxwell, National Executive Director, National Parents Organization • “get up” and always try to find a way to improve your own life a little every day • STAND magazine: www.stand-magazine.com Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 45 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by guest Justin Lioi, a men's therapist in Brooklyn, to discuss the emotional lives of men, why we tend to stuff our emotions down, and the consequences for doing so. In addition, Justin describes ways to help men understand their emotions better and encourages us to become curious about the things that make us defensive. All this and much more on STANDcast 45. Episode 45 fast facts and info: • Special guest: Justin Lioi • Justin studied singing and dancing • Bringing families together through music • The “entrance” to therapy is different for men and women: women seek out a therapist for a man in their life • Works with “new dads, unassertive men, and angry guys” • Shaming boys out of sharing their emotions & feelings • “Shame almost makes you feel like you are worthless as a person” • “crying is not okay” • “I’m not letting people see me vulnerable anymore” • Terrence Real: we get “halved” • Physical symptoms & trouble in relationships as a result of stuffing down emotions • “I’m not emotional”: learning to recognize our emotions • Identify where you “feel” that emotion in your body • Mindfulness practice • Thich Nhat Hahn book Anger • You can be strong and rugged AND more aware of your emotions • Vulnerability is strength • Having other men share an experience can help reduce the shame • We’re so isolated now we need to pursue deeper friendships with men and women • Using male comradery and friendship to stand up • Contact Justin at Parkslopetherapist.com, @JLioiLCSW on twitter • Become curious about defensiveness • Three Surprising Signs of Depression in New Dads • STAND magazine: www.stand-magazine.com Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0

In episode 44 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Jeff Wenzel and Mitch Nobis to discuss adoption. Mitch shares his story of adopting two black boys and leads us through the adoptive process, while also sharing some tips for those considering adoption. In addition, Mitch discusses the differences between domestic and international adoption, shares the story of a "disrupted" adoption, and references Chuck D, Bob Mould, and the Avengers. All this and much more on STANDcast 44. Episode 44 fast facts and info: • Jeff “Fuzzy” Wenzel derails from the moment go • Always wear pants • The saga of adoption • Going into marriage with the knowledge that you will be adoptive parents • Process typically takes a year or two • Domestic adoption vs. international adoption • Think global, act local: planned to adopt from Michigan • Adopting • Paperwork: “you might have some stuff in your system” and “An order form for a baby” • Lawyer, small private agency, or mega-corp adoption agencies • Interviewed half-dozen agencies • Religious motivations for adoption • White people should save the children • “You’re doing God’s work” • “A lot of people mark white-only” so it’s easier to adopt a child of color • In some places it is cheaper to adopt a Black baby • Fees range around the cost of a car • Family dynamics and reactions to adoption • Culture: silence about adoption, closed adoption, Avengers, Loki • Life book, photo album: like an audition • “Putting up for adoption” v. “placing for adoption” • “Two of the most loving, strongest women I will meet in my life” • How much information do you receive about the birth parents/family? • “Our boys know they are adopted” • When should kids get cell phones? • The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Adoption • Bob Mould • Recessions lead to fewer adoptions • “Disrupted” adoption: you have a match and then the adoption falls through • You can “use the system” to pay some medical bills • Transracial adoption and multi-racial families • “we are not color blind” • Chuck D and Public Enemy • “from cute to Mike Brown real fast” • They adore Abraham Lincoln • Read kids books with brown people • “my kids both know what a uterus is” • “a broader, richer definition of family” • Adoption and marriage • Mitch still hoping to take a honeymoon after nearly ten years of marriage • Adoptive families magazine • Read about race in America: it’s our story • Seeking out communities of other adoptive parents • STAND magazine: www.stand-magazine.com Music: Get Up Stand Up (Featuring Brother Ali) by Public Enemy, licensed under Creative Commons 4.0