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S2: Ep1 Navigating the Legal System with A. David Youssefyeh, Esq. Trying to understand the legal systems is overwhelming, but having to do it with a combative Narcissist is a nightmare. A. David Youssefyeh, Esq joins Maegan in the garden to talk about the different kinds of courts, what to expect when filing a lawsuit or going through the criminal justice process. David talks about how to find an attorney, where to file for a restraining order or protection order and tips and tools to protect yourself when going through the legal process with a narcissist.       David specializes in complex business, tort, real estate, employment, criminal and personal injury litigation, as well as real estate transactions, where he has directed the negotiations and closings for scores of real estate acquisitions, developments, dispositions, sales, financing and other transactions, with an aggregate value of more than $1 billion dollars. He is admitted to practice before the State Bar of California, U.S. District Court, Central District of California, U.S. Bankruptcy Court, Central District of California, U.S. District Court for the Northern District of California, U.S. Bankruptcy Court, Northern District of California, U.S. District Court for the Northern District of Texas, U.S. District Court for the Southern District of Texas, and the U.S. 9th Circuit Court of Appeals. David graduated Loyola Law School, where he was a Staff Writer and an Editor of the Entertainment Law Journal. Previous to law school, he completed his undergraduate studies in International Finance at the University of Southern California (USC). Prior to entering private practice, David was a Judicial Extern for the Honorable James M. Ideman, U.S. District Court, and clerked for the Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation (FDIC), the U.S. Attorney’s Office, and Bet Tzedek Legal Services. He is active both in the legal community and the community at large, and is, among other things, a past Chair of the Remedies Section of the Los Angeles County Bar Association, the Treasurer and member of the Judicial Evaluations Committee of the Mexican American Bar Association - Political Action Committee (MABA-PAC), member of Consumer Attorneys Association of Los Angeles, member of the Los Angeles County Bar, Member of the Indigent Defense Panel, Volunteer Coach for The North Hollywood Debate Team and a graduate of the FBI CREST Program. On several occasions, David has also been invited to speak by Bar Organizations and schools on legal issues.   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com     Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/   Resources for Survivors and Victims https://www.divine-self.com/resources.html   Suggested Reading Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing the Shame You Don’t Deserve by Beverly Engel https://www.amazon.com/Escaping-Emotional-Abuse-Healing-Deserve/dp/0806540508   The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engle https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Abusive-Relationship-Abused-Abusing/dp/150126205X   Psychopath Free by Jackson Mackenzie (great for relationships with a Narcissist) https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=psychopath+free&qid=1601758526&sr=8-2   Suggest Videos from The Divine Self Is the Narcissist “Happy” With Their NEW Supply? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QVnf3vhUiA&list=PLxuBXlo2NMFa4ZLvNvXmebNvtp8FGv7fa&index=3&t=1s The Narcissist and Their NEW Supply https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvampF-QpEM&list=PLxuBXlo2NMFa4ZLvNvXmebNvtp8FGv7fa&index=4&t=6s Why the Narcissist Wants You Back https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3w3JelXPiFk&list=PLxuBXlo2NMFa4ZLvNvXmebNvtp8FGv7fa&index=5&t=555s   The Secret Garden Podcast on ALL Major Podcast Channels (click below for a direct link) iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-garden/id1528679352 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL3RoZWRpdmluZXNlbGZzZWNyZXRnYXJkZW4vZmVlZC54bWw= Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ecc98e21-ab44-4d92-8155-d8a2d784f78c/The-Secret-Garden Pandora: https://www.pandora.com/podcast/the-secret-garden/PC:49331?part=PC:49331&corr=podcast_organic_external_site&TID=Brand:POC:PC49331:podcast_organic_external_site iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-the-secret-garden-70625598/ Podbean: https://thedivineselfsecretgarden.podbean.com Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5jrYTBblUIYKTkPs3qcLSA TuneIn Radio: http://tun.in/pj0ND Alexa: http://tun.in/pj0ND Listen Notes: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/the-secret-garden-the-divine-self-host-maegan-fzFlYgb_6Pw/ Also, on Deezer, Pocket Cast and Castbox          

S2: Ep1 Escaping Emotional Abuse with Beverly Engle Welcome Back to Season 2 of The Secret Garden Podcast. Maegan is so excited to have all of you back in the garden with her and joining us for the lunch of this incredible season is Beverly Engle. Maegan and Beverly dive deep into emotional abuse and give amazing tips and tools to start to see the signs of abuse, learn how to ground yourself and connect to your body when disassociation happens. Beverly Engel is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and an acclaimed advocate for victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse.   The author of 23 self-help books, her latest book is entitled, Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing the Shame You Don’t Deserve. Engel is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and has been practicing psychotherapy for 35 years.   Beverly’s books have often been honored for various awards, including being a finalist in the Books for a Better Life award. Many of her books have been chosen for various book clubs, including One Spirit Book Club, Psychology Today Book Club and Behavioral Sciences Book Club. Her books have been translated into many languages, including Japanese, Spanish, Chinese, Korean, Greek, Turkish and Lithuanian.   In addition to her professional work, Beverly frequently lends her expertise to national television talk shows. She has appeared on Oprah, CNN, and Starting Over, and many other TV programs. She has a blog on the Psychology Today website as well as regularly contributing to the Psychology Today magazine, and has been featured in a number of newspapers and magazines, including: Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Marie Claire, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, The Cleveland Plain Dealer, and The Denver Post. Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing the Shame You Don’t Deserve by Beverly Engel https://www.amazon.com/Escaping-Emotional-Abuse-Healing-Deserve/dp/0806540508   The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engle https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Abusive-Relationship-Abused-Abusing/dp/150126205X The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/   Resources for Survivors and Victims https://www.divine-self.com/resources.html   Suggested Reading Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing the Shame You Don’t Deserve by Beverly Engel https://www.amazon.com/Escaping-Emotional-Abuse-Healing-Deserve/dp/0806540508   The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engle https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Abusive-Relationship-Abused-Abusing/dp/150126205X   Psychopath Free by Jackson Mackenzie (great for relationships with a Narcissist) https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=psychopath+free&qid=1601758526&sr=8-2   Suggest Videos from The Divine Self Is the Narcissist “Happy” With Their NEW Supply? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QVnf3vhUiA&list=PLxuBXlo2NMFa4ZLvNvXmebNvtp8FGv7fa&index=3&t=1s The Narcissist and Their NEW Supply https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NvampF-QpEM&list=PLxuBXlo2NMFa4ZLvNvXmebNvtp8FGv7fa&index=4&t=6s Why the Narcissist Wants You Back https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3w3JelXPiFk&list=PLxuBXlo2NMFa4ZLvNvXmebNvtp8FGv7fa&index=5&t=555s   The Secret Garden Podcast on ALL Major Podcast Channels (click below for a direct link) iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-garden/id1528679352 Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL3RoZWRpdmluZXNlbGZzZWNyZXRnYXJkZW4vZmVlZC54bWw= Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ecc98e21-ab44-4d92-8155-d8a2d784f78c/The-Secret-Garden Pandora: https://www.pandora.com/podcast/the-secret-garden/PC:49331?part=PC:49331&corr=podcast_organic_external_site&TID=Brand:POC:PC49331:podcast_organic_external_site iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-the-secret-garden-70625598/ Podbean: https://thedivineselfsecretgarden.podbean.com Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5jrYTBblUIYKTkPs3qcLSA TuneIn Radio: http://tun.in/pj0ND Alexa: http://tun.in/pj0ND Listen Notes: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/the-secret-garden-the-divine-self-host-maegan-fzFlYgb_6Pw/ Also, on Deezer, Pocket Cast and Castbox        

Managing Expectations While Having Gratitude with Jae Day   The lovely Jae Day joins Maegan in the garden to talk about managing expectations while in a toxic relationship. Life has so many expectations already and when we have high expectations with a narcissist it is really hard to stay grounded. Narcissists are good at empty promises and saying they will deliver your dreams to then turn around and abuse you and not deliver those expectations.  Finding gratitude in those moments can help ease the pain of the letdown, keep you connected with you, and raise your vibration to begin to gain your control back of your own expectations. Staying connected to who you really are is key in dealing with a Narcissist.       The Divine Self YouTube https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf     The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/     The Secret Garden Podcast on ALL Major Podcast Channels (click below for a direct link)   iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-garden/id1528679352   Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL3RoZWRpdmluZXNlbGZzZWNyZXRnYXJkZW4vZmVlZC54bWw=   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ecc98e21-ab44-4d92-8155-d8a2d784f78c/The-Secret-Garden   iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-the-secret-garden-70625598/   Podbean: https://thedivineselfsecretgarden.podbean.com   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5jrYTBblUIYKTkPs3qcLSA   TuneIn Radio: http://tun.in/pj0ND Alexa: http://tun.in/pj0ND Listen Notes: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/the-secret-garden-the-divine-self-host-maegan-fzFlYgb_6Pw/   Also, on Deezer, Pocket Cast and Castbox  

Recovering from Toxic Relationships and Narcissistic Abuse with Meg   Today, Maegan and Megan visit in the garden to talk about the recovery process from abusive and toxic relationships. When you finally say no more with a Narcissist and find the courage to choose you it can be really hard to break the trauma bond. Having the tools to fully recover, take your power back, and regain control over your life is one of the most empowering journeys you will ever take in your life. It can feel very lonely when you leave a Narcissist, and we are here to tell you that you are not alone. Today you will hear the stories of others who have very fulfilling and loving lives once they do the work, break the trauma bond, go no contact, and empower themselves.     The Divine Self YouTube https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf     The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/     The Secret Garden Podcast on ALL Major Podcast Channels (click below for a direct link)   iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-garden/id1528679352   Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL3RoZWRpdmluZXNlbGZzZWNyZXRnYXJkZW4vZmVlZC54bWw=   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ecc98e21-ab44-4d92-8155-d8a2d784f78c/The-Secret-Garden   iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-the-secret-garden-70625598/   Podbean: https://thedivineselfsecretgarden.podbean.com   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5jrYTBblUIYKTkPs3qcLSA   TuneIn Radio: http://tun.in/pj0ND Alexa: http://tun.in/pj0ND Listen Notes: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/the-secret-garden-the-divine-self-host-maegan-fzFlYgb_6Pw/   Also, on Deezer, Pocket Cast and Castbox    

The Tragic Story of Murder and a Mothers Dedication to Breaking the Cycle with Tara Woodlee   On this very special episode Tara Woodlee joins Maegan in the garden to tell the tragic story of her daughter Asleigh Lindsey, and her unborn granddaughter Patience Lynn. Domestic Violence is an epidemic in our world today and the only way to shine a light on the horrific crimes committed against victims all around the world is to stand up tell these heroic stories of survivors. Today 70% of Domestic Violence murders happen when the victim leaves or is about to leave the relationship. This is because Domestic Violence is about Power and Control. Today Tara tells us the details of how this happened in her family and how to break the cycle of abuse.   Meet Tara Woodlee   In 2012 Tara Woodlee lost her 20-year-old daughter, Ashleigh Lindsey, and her unborn granddaughter Patience Lynn to a brutal act of domestic violence that made national news. Tara Woodlee shares the raw truth about domestic violence and gives audiences the opportunity to learn about the impact abuse has on families generationally. Tara, also a survivor, describes the journey from victim to survivor and then the impact her story made on her family finding out thru the death of her child of a 100-year-old history of this cycle of abuse within her family. This knowledge led her to found an organization in her child and grandchild’s honor called the Ashleigh’s Patience Project.   Through the pain, Tara has fought courts and is working to raise awareness and change laws not just across the nation but worldwide. Currently, she is the President of the Board of Directors for a National Domestic Violence Organization called Break the Silence Against Domestic Violence. Tara told Ashleigh’s story on Investigation’s Discovery Channel (Your Worst Nightmare) and was featured in an article in Cosmopolitan Magazine called Stop Calling It Domestic Violence It is Intimate Terrorism, in the US. The U.K. shared her tragic loss in magazines untitled Pick Me Up and Full House. Lastly, Ashleigh’s story is used in the Moving Forward resource that is to help young women identify the signs of domestic violence in their current or future relationships in Queensland Australia. Tara travels the country as a national speaker and Tara’s role in activism has been recognized through the Awarding of the President’s Award for volunteerism in 2018, 2019 & 2020.   The Ashleigh Patience Project http://www.ashleighspatienceproject.com/   Break the Silence Against Domestic Violence https://breakthesilencedv.org/     The Divine Self YouTube https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf     The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/   The Secret Garden Podcast on ALL Major Podcast Channels (click below for a direct link)   iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-garden/id1528679352   Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkLnBvZGJlYW4uY29tL3RoZWRpdmluZXNlbGZzZWNyZXRnYXJkZW4vZmVlZC54bWw=   Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/ecc98e21-ab44-4d92-8155-d8a2d784f78c/The-Secret-Garden   iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-the-secret-garden-70625598/   Podbean: https://thedivineselfsecretgarden.podbean.com   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5jrYTBblUIYKTkPs3qcLSA   TuneIn Radio: http://tun.in/pj0ND Alexa: http://tun.in/pj0ND Listen Notes: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/the-secret-garden-the-divine-self-host-maegan-fzFlYgb_6Pw/   Also, on Deezer, Pocket Cast and Castbox      

Surviving the Holiday Blues with a Narcissist with Kevin from The Royal We Joining me in the garden I have Keven from The Royal We here to talk about the Holiday Blues or the Holiday “Boohoos” with a Narcissist. One of the biggest triggers for Narcissistic injury is when you have true joy and happiness. During the Holidays, Birthdays, Anniversaries, work promotions, weddings, and all the moments of joy, the Narcissist cannot stand watching you be happy, so they must take that away from you. They will project their innermost insecurities on to you and make sure to ruin these moments of happiness for you. They start to chip away one little moment at a time. In this episode, we give examples of how they do this and tools to use to survive these moments and empower yourself to not let these moments affect you for the rest of your life.  The Royal We on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjl9RgJSokTXPR68wsrX7Zw   The Royal We Live Chat on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCslDOe-8gV49Kg_j374OJVw   The Royal We Fellowship https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOdSOLD7yyDVmDNdQa0nveA   The Royal We - www.jointheroyalwe.com Facebook and Instagram @theroyalwehost YouTube @theroyalwe   Maegan’s Information “The Divine Self” YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf  The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/  

The Narcissist is Our Soul Mate with Rebecca Dettman (aka Soul Doctor) So many people ask survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence “why don’t you just leave” not knowing the trauma bond between the abuser and survivor is very powerful. Rebecca joins Maegan in the garden today to talk about the spiritual connection the survivor and narcissist have between each other and if the survivor is willing, allowing the narcissist to be their greatest teacher. The Narcissist is so good and finding your insecurities and using that to mirror you during the honeymoon phase of the abuse cycle to then use those same insecurities to abuse you and make you feel unworthy of love and a healthy relationship creating a pattern of abuse that is almost impossible to break free from.   Meet Rebecca Dettman: Rebecca Dettman began her career working as a national print journalist for a decade, before branching into radio and podcasting. She formerly co-hosted the ACRA award-nominated Soul Sistas national radio show and the global Love-Life podcast, before launching her own Soul Doctor Show in 2016, which has been downloaded more than 100,000 times worldwide.   Since 2005 Rebecca has also worked in private practice as a psychic consultant and channel for higher wisdom. She is a fiction novelist, practicing pagan, feminist, and a modern-day priestess in spiritual service to the community. Rebecca’s website https://www.souldoctorshow.com/ The Soul Doctor Show Podcast https://www.souldoctorshow.com/soul-doctor-podcast/  Bookings and Services of Rebecca https://www.souldoctorshow.com/bookings/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/326343664400568/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Rebecca_Dettman Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wishingwell.love/  Maegan’s Information “The Divine Self” YouTube https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf    The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/    

Self-Care and Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Suzanne Falter Suzanne Falter joins Maegan in the garden in this episode to talk about self-care. What? What is self-care? Most of us in abusive and toxic relationships have no idea what boundaries are and what self-care is or to process it and become so detached from our emotions that we learn to put others before ourselves. Narcissists love to erode our boundaries and make you jump through hoops to stay focused on them, so you let yourself go little by little. In this episode, Suzanne and Maegan discuss what self-care is, how to start to take care of you, and begin to see where you need more boundaries in life.   Meet Suzanne Falter: Suzanne Falter is a writer, podcaster, and essayist whose work has been featured in SELF, O, More, Tiny Buddha, and The New York Times. She is the host of The Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women and Back to Happy podcasts, and has been heard widely on podcasts and radio including Coast to Coast AM. She’s the author of multiple self-help titles including The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care (Sourcebooks)   Suzanne Falter www.suzannefalter.com The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care Book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1492698539/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i   Self-Car for Extremely Busy Women Podcast https://suzannefalter.com/xbwpodcast/   Back to Happy Podcast https://suzannefalter.com/backtohappy/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/svfalter YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/suzflt   YouTube https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf    The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/      

Holding Resentment and Looking at Toxic Relationships with Paul Filan   Joining me in the garden is Paul Filan. We talk about looking at resentment held in the body that is left over from a toxic relationship with a Narcissist. When we hold resentment in the body we tend to attract more toxic people or even have to take a look at all the relationships in our lives to see if maybe they are no longer serving us in our values and goals. When we are gaslight, lied to, and exploited in toxic relationships we tend to lose ourselves and hold on to so much resentment for our abusers and in turn, can make us physically ill.     DivineEarthCo https://www.etsy.com/shop/divineearthco/   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/   Suggested Reading Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup https://www.amazon.com/Dodging-Energy-Vampires/dp/1401954790/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=dodging+energy+vampires+by+christiane+northrup&qid=1601757896&sr=8-2 Psychopath Free by Jackson Mackenzie (great for relationships with a Narcissist) https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=psychopath+free&qid=1601758526&sr=8-2      

In the Garden today, I have Jenn Kautsch (aka SoberSis) here to talk about our relationship with alcohol and the toxic patterns we have on our life. So many of us in toxic and abusive relationships struggle with our relationship with alcohol as it became a tool to help numb us out from experiencing the abuse or even becomes our friend to help minimize the deep sadness and loneliness we are experiencing. This can give us even more anxiety as we already struggle with our relationship with a Narcissist. Jenn is the founder of Sober Sis. Sober Sis is a wonderful community of women to begin to explore their relationship with alcohol in a judgment-free and rule-free community of like-minded women to find connection and hold the space for one another as they take the journey into exploring their drinking habits. It is truly a divine sisterhood.   Jenn’s Bio: I'm Jenn (aka SoberSis). I'm a new empty nester and people ask me all the time what I'm going to do in this next season of my life. Well, you're looking at it. I feel passionate about making it safe for women to have a conversation about alcohol without judgment, labels, or rules. I'm a retired "grey area" drinker. Around the middle of my 40's, I was tired, feeling stuck on auto-pilot, and ready for a change. I didn't want to enter the big 5-0 the way I did 40. I took a closer look at my life. My health...mental, physical, and spiritual. I began to find out ways to have more energy, better sleep, and really stay present in my own life. I began to realize wine wasn't doing me any real favors. In fact, it was undoing a lot of my hard work during the day (I call it the detox just to retox loop). It had also become like an emotional crutch to lean on during times of anxiety or even boredom!   So, I started the 21-day reset for women because I wanted to share what I have learned and experienced first hand. Currently, over 8,000 women from all over the world have participated. We're more of a sisterhood and a real community of women pursuing being present and soberminded. Each person has the opportunity and space to renegotiate their relationship with alcohol. We are not a sobriety club although many of us do choose to enjoy an alcohol free lifestyle.   I've spent time taking a break from drinking without having to use willpower or feeling deprived. In fact, I'd say it has turned into more of a mindful lifestyle. Learning the science behind what my body/mind was experiencing has empowered me to make different choices. It's like I was living a somewhat divided life, constantly feeling in conflict and stuck in an internal tug-of-war. God really brought me freedom by bringing together the mind-body-spirit connection so I could live a more wholehearted life. That's how I want to live as I get closer to my 50's and beyond.   Sober Sis Links: Sober Sis Home Page - www.sobersis.com/home Free Guide - www.sobersis.com Free Video Series - https://www.sobersis.com/new-videos 21 Day Reset Challenge - www.sobersis.com/21daychallenge Follow On Facebook   ~   Follow On IG @sobersis   The Divine Self YouTube Channel https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/  

Our guest today is Denise Correll. Denise joined us to talk about who is the perfect target for the Narcissist and why we attracted them. Narcissists love to suck the Lifeforce out of Empaths and they do the Narcissistic/Empath dance while the cycle of abuse and trauma bond is formed and the intense connection between the two increases. Denise does a weekly podcast called Enlightened Empaths that is on all major podcast channels and she goes into detail about being an Empath, what it is and how to navigate the world when you take on the feeling, emotions and energies of others.   Connect with Denise Correll The Grateful Messenger https://www.thegratefulmessenger.com/   Enlightened Empaths Podcast (on all Major podcast channels) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enlightened-empaths/id1291017961   Join the Enlightened Empath Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/pages/category/Motivational-Speaker/Enlightened-Empaths-474090429627579/   The Divine Self YouTube Channel https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/   Mentioned in this Episode The Empaths Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff, MD https://www.amazon.com/s?k=empaths+guide+to+survival&gclid=Cj0KCQjwwuD7BRDBARIsAK_5YhUZO3BH4AgCjJre4XLgMlSNoCQwhaQby16e8AMiiuhYIgwCvGtiAdAaAsalEALw_wcB&hvadid=241619810580&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9061191&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=9473604287394435128&hvtargid=kwd-305181936216&hydadcr=8265_10374952&tag=googhydr-20&ref=pd_sl_8tq1dmsvvd_e      

My guest today in the garden is Elisa Gonzales the Assistant Professor of Voice and Acting and the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Elisa is trained in a technique called Fitzmaurice and we discuss how to use the voice, body, and breath to connect to your true self, find your voice and, release trauma from the body. During toxic and abusive relationships, we tend to shrink down and lose our voice and disconnect from who we truly are. It is hard to find a connection to ourselves after we leave a narcissist who has mentally and emotionally abused us or find our voice when finally deciding to put boundaries up with the Narcissist. We open you up to explore where you might need to work on finding our voice or where in the body you are holding unwanted negative energy.   Connect with Elisa to do a Fitzmaurice Workshop https://www.fitzmauriceinstitute.org/new-gallery-teachers-back-up/2017/11/30/elisa-gonzales   The Divine Self YouTube Channel https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/      

Joining Maegan in the garden is Mark Gerardot. This is a tragic story of triangulation that ends in a murder/suicide. Mark talks about this tragic love triangle and the story of how it leads to two people losing their lives. Tragically, this is a story that happens way too often when relationships get this complex.      Get the full story in Mark Gerardot's book Irreparable here on amazon (all proceeds go to the Golden Retriever Rescue of Atlanta) https://www.amazon.com/Irreparable-Three-Lives-Deaths-Story-ebook/dp/B086KXG3XL   Golden Retriever Rescue of Atlanta https://www.grra.com/   The Divine Self YouTube https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf     The Divine Self on Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/   For coachings, information and support The Divine Self website https://www.divine-self.com/            

Joining me in the Garden today Kevin from The Royal We on YouTube comes to talk about the Narcissistic family dynamic and how the abuse cycle works within the family system. Kevin has extensive knowledge on the topic of Narcissism and was one of my favorite channels to watch as I learned about the abuse cycles in the family dynamic.   Kevin's YouTube Channel The Royal We educates supports and encourages so many people to find the strength to leave their abusive dynamic and find their inner strength. So many of us are in a family dynamic that is very abusive and toxic, and we have no idea as this has been our normal throughout our whole life. We dive down the rabbit hole today to start to explore the patterns we picked up in life and discuss the family dynamic and the signs of abuse.   The Royal We on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjl9RgJSokTXPR68wsrX7Zw   The Royal We Live Chat on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCslDOe-8gV49Kg_j374OJVw   The Royal We Fellowship https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOdSOLD7yyDVmDNdQa0nveA   The Royal We - www.jointheroyalwe.com   Facebook and Instagram @theroyalwehost YouTube @theroyalwe   The Divine Self YouTube Channel https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/   YouTube @TheDivineSelf Facebook @MaeganDivine Twitter @TheDivineSelf    

Back in the garden, Tom Murry and Maegan discuss Narcissist Victims Syndrome and the pressure-cooker of a toxic and abusive relationship. When your soul is slowly being chipped away at and your values destroyed you start to be under so much pressure that you feel like you're going to die. The stress can be so bad from being in these relationships that they physically make you ill and you eventually get angry.   What is healthy anger and how do the people in your life support you with this anger so you can release the trauma and let go of the patterns in life so you can have a happy and healthy relationship.    The Divine Self YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf/featured   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com   Quoted in this episode:   Abraham and Esther Hicks https://www.abraham-hicks.com/   Dr. David Hawkins on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZOPIbidfIQ   Les Brown https://lesbrown.com/  

Joining me today the fierce Mayhem Miller discusses connecting to your true self. Mayhem Miller is a fearless drag queen. Mayhem has brought so much to the drag world, showing that being true to who you really are and staying connected to your own inner divine will get you further in life. Mayhem has been seen on RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 10 and Season 5 of All-Stars. She is the perfect example of being fearless and not being afraid to live your best life.   Mayhem Miller Twitter, Instagram and Facebook @theonlyMayhem The Divine Self YouTube Channel https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com Social Media Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDivineSelf Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MaeganDivine/

When we think of toxic and abusive relationships, we mostly think about women. In this episode, Maegan dives deep into a discussion with Thomas Murry and how men are abused, manipulated, and exploited all the time just like women. Men tend to not walk to talk about their experiences as our society tells them to “be a man” or “it's not that bad” and they suffer in silence. Maegan realized this was a hot topic when doing her coaching from her YouTube channel and more men than a woman reached out devastated from being in the wake with a Narcissist. Tom Murry was Maegan’s neighbor in New York City, and they were close friends for many years. As Maegan fell down the rabbit hole with her Narcissist, Tom was there to coach her through the tough times as he had been down the rabbit hole years before. Both Tom and Maegan discusses in this episode how important it is to have grounding people in your life when in an abusive and toxic relationship and that those people will save your life.   Maegan’s YouTube Channel The Divine Self https://www.youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf/featured The Divine Self Website www.divine-self.com  

Come join me this week in my secret garden and hear the incredible survival story of Anne Marie Hochhalter. Anne Marie was eating lunch on April 20, 1999, when she was shot multiple times in the back and paralyzed. Anne Marie joins us in the garden to talk about her survival story and her life filled with Narcissistic abuse and gives us a deep dive into the challenges of growing up in a Narcissist family dynamic and her recovery from such trauma in her life.   The Divine Self YouTube Channel https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com

On this first visit to The Secret Garden, Jane Donovan comes to visit and talks with Maegan about seeing and acknowledging our shadow sides. Looking deep with-in and exploring the weeds that need plucking so a beautiful new you can grow. We tend to get stuck in our life patterns, but never realize they no longer or never have served us.  Jane Donovan comes to us from Adelaide Australia. She is a love coach, radio host, presenter, author, columnist, and matchmaker.  Radio stations call me her Love Doctor and the Love Guru. Jane has written the books, ‘Thoughts on Love, Life and all that Jazz’ and ‘Tough Love, Getting the Date’. She is the host of the  5 star rated i-tunes podcast Love-Life,    Connect with Jane Donovan https://www.janedonovan.com.au Love Life Podcast https://www.lovelifeshow.com/ The Divine Self YouTube Channel https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com          

This is the introduction to The Secret Garden Podcast presented by The Divine Self and hosted by Maegan. Maegan has a successful YouTube channel (The Divine Self) with a focus on narcissism, narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, and trauma. This podcast is focused on empowering yourself to break free from these relationships and focus on your inner true self, your divine self.   The Divine Self YouTube Channel https://youtube.com/c/TheDivineSelf   The Divine Self www.divine-self.com