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The Sandbox with Diane and Rebekka
24 minutes | 2 years ago
What is a toy, anyway? How can we use objects to deepen relationships and spark the imagination? Give a listen for playful ideas to bring into your family life on this episode of The Sandbox with Diane and Rebekka. Big shout out to Antoinette Portis's Not a Box and Not a Stick!
15 minutes | 2 years ago
Sibling Reveries: Go Away!
Now that Rebekka's 7-month-old baby has become more of a person in her own right, everyone wants to compare her to her big sister. Which one is happier? Fussier? A "better" child? On top of this, drama persists between Rebekka and her older child, who often tells her to "GO AWAY!" When family life is like juggling chainsaws, sometimes the best (and only) thing we can do is share how hard it is with a trusted confidante.
13 minutes | 2 years ago
Still Singing in the Sandbox
All that talk about singing in the last episode got Rebekka thinking about even more ways for parents and children to engage meaningfully through music. Tune in for zipper songs, lullabies as a barometer and tool for parental self-regulation, rhyming games, and more!
19 minutes | 2 years ago
Waking Up: A Call to Action
In late summer 2019, one of Rebekka's oldest friends, digital humanities professor Jo Guldi, posted a news article on her Facebook page drawing attention to the ongoing human rights quagmire at the border. Rebekka commented, "I feel sickened by what our country is doing, and sickened further by my sense of utter helplessness to stop it. I’ve given money to organizations that are strong in this fight, and will give more. I am desperate to do more myself, as an American, a mother, a Jew, and a human being. But what?" This led to a fruitful back and forth about ways we can take concrete action, culminating in a challenge for the Sandbox: "I would go *bonkers* for an episode that talked about what it's like to parent in a time when other children's lives are being treated with negligible concern for them as human beings. It would be a prelude to thinking clearly and talking about so many other concerns I have as a parent -- raising a child in a time of climate change, at a time when the basic values of democracy that I took for granted growing up seem under assault." Jo turned our entire thread into a powerful op-ed piece, "Parenting in an Age of Violence," which you can read here or at https://tinyurl.com/jguldi Jo, challenge accepted. Here's our first conversation about how, through our parenting, we can work to create a better society for everyone.
40 minutes | 2 years ago
The Truth about Motherhood: The Sandbox on Location
What is the truth about motherhood? Recorded live at Rebekka's kitchen table, this special episode peels back the curtain on family life to capture the extraordinary in the ordinary. Join Diane and Rebekka for a thoughtful investigation of how complex parent-child relationships can be, including mindful offerings about ways of relating more intentionally to both our parents and children.
23 minutes | 2 years ago
Singing in the Sandbox
Family life is full of difficult moments: transitions, non-preferred activities, bumps, bruises, and outright pain. Although we can't take those away, we can make them smoother and less painful by using songs, play, and silliness whenever possible. Find your voice - and your "hip pocket" song - and bring a little music into your family! With special shout outs to: -Music Together -They Might Be Giants -Trout Fishing in America -Zosia Boczanowski
11 minutes | 2 years ago
Sibling Reveries: The Developmental Tango
Rebekka's baby is now 6 months old and both kids have been doing "the developmental tango:" the messy journey of progress and regression that encapsulates our path to maturity. Tune in to hear how this dance has been looking for this new-ish family of four, and learn about how regression and growth go hand in hand for young children.
20 minutes | 2 years ago
Sibling Reveries: Aftershocks
The baby is now 4 months old. The initial earthquake of her birth was quite an ordeal, and the aftershocks are coming farther and farther apart. Join Diane and Rebekka for this brief check-in on how things are settling down, and a look ahead at the shocks that are still to come for Rebekka's family of four!
43 minutes | 2 years ago
Sibling Reveries: Mommy Is the Lollipop
It's been 7 weeks and the baby hasn't gone away. How is 4 year old big sister coping? Dynamics of control and cooperation loom large in this month's installment of Sibling Reveries, a yearlong accompaniment to the journey of becoming a family of four. Join Rebekka and Diane as they explore how 3-7 year olds begin to cultivate a cooperative relationship with reality - and bedtime! - and how their caregiving leadership team can help them. Listen in for some mindful offerings on navigating the power and control dynamics older siblings of newborns tend to show us. Play with our ideas at home and see what works in your family, whether it's a family of two, three, four, five, or more!
33 minutes | 2 years ago
Sibling Reveries: And Baby Makes Four
When you already have one kid, somehow the math of adding another one doesn't make sense. Family life becomes exponentially more complex, as do the emotions that accompany it. Join Diane and Rebekka for the first in a series of brutally honest boots-on-the-ground conversations about navigating this change - introducing our first special guest, Rebekka's baby girl Poppy at not quite one month old.
28 minutes | 2 years ago
You say it's your birthday?
Fun fact: Diane and Rebekka share the same birthday! That explains a lot. Join us for a free-wheeling discussion of all things birthday: what do we really need and want on ours? What about little kids? And what about the original birthday, the one where someone actually gets born? On this very special episode of The Sandbox, we consider expectations, overwhelm, the agony, and the ecstasy that make up the birthday experience.
34 minutes | 2 years ago
Whether young or old, no one is a stranger to tantrums. A constant source of frustration and consternation for parents, tantrums can actually be fairly predictable and--if you're engaging in good self care--straightforward to navigate. Here's the acronym from the show - remember, tantrums are MUCH more likely to emerge in a child or adult when that person is: Hungry Angry Lonely Tired Sick Growing, or going through a Transition Anyone who can update the original HALT acronym to include Rebekka's added S, G, and T gets the first ever Sandbox tote bag! Links to resources mentioned in this episode: Diane's simplified Child Centered Activity protocol (adapted from Gloria De Gangi's original work) Circle of Security International's fantastic handout on secure attachment, including the motto: Always be stronger, wiser, & kind Whenever possible, follow my child's lead Whenever necessary, take charge
8 minutes | 3 years ago
TANTRUM bonus mini-episode: Tantrum Theater!
Out of sheer desperation, Rebekka relied on her love of improv to respond flexibly and playfully to her 3 year old's breakfast table tantrum, leading to the development of...Tantrum Theater! Big shout out to Keren Guderman of Improv Parenting, who reminds us that "Anything can be a puppet!"
0 minutes | 3 years ago
Child Centered Activity
Use this handout to bring the mindful magic of the Child Centered Activity into your relationship with your child today!
14 minutes | 3 years ago
TANTRUM bonus mini-episode: Child Centered Activity
What if we told you there was a simple way you could connect deeply with your child that would help decrease their irritability and increase their attention span, that it was free, and would take less than 30 minutes a day? You're in luck. Sandbox listeners, meet the Child Centered Activity. Download a handout on how to do this at home here. Big shout-out to the Acorn Store in Santa Monica!
26 minutes | 3 years ago
Relationships are challenging - it says so right in our theme song. That means conflict and ruptures are inevitable parts of parenting, friendship, and partnership. But how do we make things right again afterwards? Join us as we consider how to build the all important muscle of repair in all our most important relationships.
5 minutes | 3 years ago
Mini episode: The story of what's going to happen
In "Tell Me A Story," we thought about using storytelling to digest past events and changes. In this bonus mini-episode, Rebekka shares a technique for navigating future transitions: the story of what's going to happen. Join us as we consider the importance of helping others think about, plan, and prepare for bumps in the road of relating. Got a minute? Give us your feedback on the show here!
28 minutes | 3 years ago
Tell Me a Story
Human beings are natural storytellers - we can harness the compelling power of story to help each other navigate the uncertainty and discomfort of transitions and changes both big and small. Join Diane and Rebekka as they add three powerful storytelling toys to the sandbox: the mini life review, the story of what happened (also known as the concrete narrative), and the story of the day. Got a minute? Give us your feedback on the show here!
4 minutes | 3 years ago
Teaser 3: Mr. Rogers - "Won't You Be My Neighbor?"
Diane recently saw the fantastic Mr. Rogers documentary, Won't You Be My Neighbor. In honor of the legendary Fred Rogers and his missionary zeal for radical kindness, we take a few moments to consider his legacy and its relationship to our time in the Sandbox. The Atlantic article on Fred Rogers' specific way of speaking to children can be found here. Got a minute? Give us your feedback on the show here!
4 minutes | 3 years ago
Teaser 2: Chad asks, "What's in the Sandbox?"
Rebekka's friend Chad was really excited when he listened to The Sandbox's first trailer, but had an important question: "What's in the Sandbox?" Take a listen as Diane and Rebekka give a quick preview of what kinds of fun relational "toys" we hope to offer all podcast listeners. Got a minute? Give us your feedback on the show here!
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