59 minutes | May 6, 2021

Episode #9: Service?

0:30 The sages taught that we are created for three purposes:To learn, to serve, and to perform acts of kindnessWe have to connect ourselves to something greater than ourselves, and that takes effort3:00 Service has two elements: intention and effort; each can exist independent of the other but should be integratedGood deeds have tangible and intangible benefits8:00 Not all acts of value can be measured or quantified, yet they are substantive10:00 It may be my job to serve, I may be getting paid, yet I am still providing serviceHow I do my job depends on my level of commitment, which may depend on the environment created by those around me14:00  The value of service depends on effort, either in the moment or in preparationWe should always challenge ourselves to raise the level of our service16:00 “The Love Languages”Serving others depends on responding to their wants and needs18:00 Why were Adam and Eve challenged by the prohibition not to eat?There mission was to preserve the status quo, but they wanted to be active, not passive, contributorsEGO -- Elbow God Out22:00 The status quo may be uninspiring but is essential to the foundation of our lives26:00 Should parents pay children for chores and grades, or does that undermine the precept of service?Make it funReward vs. bribery: is there a difference?Incentives for the entire family together to promote collective success: collective responsibility and rewards34:00 Responsibility first, reward secondWhen we all do our jobs, we all benefitIt’s easier to do the job yourself than oversee and cajole childrenHolding children responsible for doing jobs and teaching them to do them with joy give them a sense of self-worth, teaches them the value of work, and helps us appreciate one another40:00 Providing the opportunity to serve teaches them the rewards of successIf it’s better to give than to receive, the greatest gift is the opportunity to give“Mrs. Smith is doing very well in 4th grade.”Anything worth doing is doing well44:00 Is coerced work consistent with service?The contradiction of “juvenile delinquent”Levels of responsibility change as we grow and mature46:30  Service is the key to a happy lifeAccept apologies while asserting responsibilityBe gracious when being thankedUse language with precision to promote a mindset of service50:00 Love rebuke as an opportunity to improve53:00 Word of the day: impeach -- to chain or trappedBe become chained by the consequences of our actions and trapped by the habits we developTake risks, ask thoughtful questions, and be patient when others answer56:00 Johnny Carson broke the rules of humor by drawing attention to his failures
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