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#63 - What is swinging? Yes we can look it up in the dictionary, but we also wanted to talk about what is behind the scenes of swinging and not just the physical activity of it. Let's talk about the foundation of swinging and what it takes to truly "swing." To learn more about open relationships and the lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#62 - A couple asked us if it's bad to fantasize about someone else while being intimate with your partner. Is that wrong? Is it cheating? Is it bad? Let's dive into this rabbit hole of fantasy talk and where it could go! To learn more about the open relationship swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com

#61 - You're into what?!? You know what you're doing is wrong, RIGHT? Yes, that could be one of the knee jerk responses you could face if you come out as being in open relationships. Thus, it's understandable if it's scary to not tell anyone about your lifestyle preference. Today, John and Jackie talk about their rather different stories on how each of them came out and the consequences of what happened next. To learn more about the open relationship swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com

#60 - Today we will be talking about the difference between lifestyle dating apps and their mainstream counterparts, if we consider a message non-reply as ghosting, and whether social media makes being in the lifestyle easier or more difficult. We dive into the reasons why being open and honest is vital, and how that can help you to live out the life you want, on all fronts. Finally, we explore some of the cities, states, countries, and continents that are more open to the lifestyle and freedom of sexual expression before John and Jackie share their favorite lifestyle party themes and events with us! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#58 - One of the fun things you can do with your partner is play a little question game that sparks conversation. It's a free and simple thing you can do anytime - during a long car ride, over the dinner table, or just lounging on a lazy Sunday afternoon. What was your first impression about your partner? Have you started to do something because of each other's influence? Do you trust each other? These are just a handful examples and we'll hear a few more from Jackie! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#57 - In most committed relationships, open and honest communication is hard to come by. Men struggle to be vulnerable in an attempt to preserve their testosterone-driven manhood, while women choose not to share because of fears of being dismissed or, worse, misunderstood. Our guest, Alexandra Stockwell, understood the power of possibilities that lay within relationship coaching when she became a marriage and intimacy expert, making the switch from medicine. She found that helping couples through their relationship troubles also paved the way for her own self-healing. It all comes down to understanding your desires and, after you’ve fully accepted them for yourself, communicating them with your partner with unencumbered emotional expression. These difficult conversations may lead to moments of conflict, and our guest explains why that scenario is actually an opportunity for you and your partner to forge a stronger emotional bond. Alexandra truly believes that compromise does more harm than good and that if you can learn the skill of being in a great relationship, with the understanding that communication is a state of mind which allows you to be vulnerable and share your emotional experiences, then you will be able to use your relationship as a vehicle for personal growth. Learn Alexandra’s six keys to communicating in an uncompromising way, and so much more! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#56 - Ok so you're interested in this consensual non-monogamy thing, but how do you tell your partner about it? How do you approach the topic and introduce them to CNM without freaking them out?! Listen to this (perhaps together) and discover how! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#55 - David and Alex of Desirous Party and Dirty Vibes join us to answer questions about unicorns, why being sexually open is not the same as being in the lifestyle, why it's unfair to be restricted from playing with a certain gender, if size matters, and how toys can affect your relationship and the stigma around it. To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#54 - David and Alex of Desirous Party and Dirty Vibes share how they started their lifestyle events company and how you can best prepare for an event. They give their advice for first-time lifestyle partygoers and how to avoid jealousy and other uncomfortable situations. To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#53 - Lots of Q&A answered today with our guests J and Angie of Average Swingers: 1) how do you handle the intense roller coaster of emotions in the lifestyle? The high highs and low lows. 2) My gf and I wanted to know if the lifestyle can help with a low sex drive due to a medical procedure? 3) Do you have any inside jokes with your swinger friends that "normal people" don't get? 4) What are your thoughts on connecting (emotions) with people you swing beyond just sex? 5) My wife is concerned about going to the club being 6 months pregnant because of fear of judgment. 6) I heard big lifestyle events aren't enjoyable because there's too much happening. Got advice for big event first timers? To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#52 - The definitions of monogamy and non-monogamy might be straightforward, but how people interpret them isn’t. What counts as cheating? Are there grey areas? J and Angie from Average Swingers join us to discuss Tracey Cox’s recent Daily Mail article about what she calls 'accidental' cheating and how she believes woke culture is changing the rules on infidelity. We share our perspective on what counts as infidelity and highlight the importance of open, honest communication when it comes to deciding on the rules and parameters of your unique relationship. While Tracey Cox’s article refers to a common rulebook, we believe that it’s ultimately up to you and your partner what constitutes cheating, regardless of what relationship model you’re in. Tune in today to hear our take on strip clubs, eggplant emojis, and more! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#51 - Today's Q&A talk will be covering why you don’t have to have an emotional partner to embrace open love, advice on how to overcome your reluctance to swap partners if you’re a newbie, and how you can get past jealousy issues if they arise. We also hear the story of a couple who wants to visit a swingers club but each with a different intention. To find out where you can find other women to swing with if you are a lesbian couple, the age of the oldest swingers John and Jackie have ever met, and their thoughts on the increase in open love lifestyle couples and moments in series and films, tune in today! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://openlove101.com

#50 - Monogamy is the relationship model that is drilled into most people from a young age, and while it may work for some, there are other models that work better for others. In today’s episode, we discuss the origins of our open relationship and what we love about being consensual non-monogamists. All relationships, including ours, have their issues, but for us, being intimate with other people has enhanced our relationship with ourselves and with each other in so many ways. Dismantling a lifetime of messages that promote being intimate with one person, and practicing self-acceptance is a journey that we have been on for many years. If you’re ready to take the leap, we’ll be right here to help guide you! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://openlove101.com

#49 - More and more people are talking about attachment theory these days, but many of those conversations focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if you’re looking to create secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Today’s guest is Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, trauma and relationship expert, and the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas. In this episode, Jessica offers listeners some insight into her book, a practical guide that can help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. We also take a look at the different attachment styles, how they manifest in relationships, and what you can do to begin to deconstruct your monogamous conditioning, as well as some of the pros and cons of abundance, plus so much more. To learn more about embodying new possibilities in life and love, tune in today! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#48 - We dive deep into two questions we got asked by our viewers: 1) What's the biggest challenge of being in an open relationship? 2) How do you navigate an open relationship? Boy, did that open a can of worms to talk about it! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com

#47 - Q&A 1) I’m looking for a friends with benefits as a single swinger without getting into a relationship or being a third wheel. Advice? 1) I’m very inexperienced in the lifestyle and accidentally became a unicorn who was invited to a private pool party at a couple's home. Tips? To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com  

#46 - Tiffany Anton is a sex and relationships therapist from New Orleans and we first interviewed her as a part of the World Love Summit. Last month, we bumped into her again at Naughty N'awlins where she gave a talk on erectile dysfunction (ED) or as she likes to call it, erectile disappointment. ED is very common amongst adult males, with many shutting down with disappointment when they cannot achieve an erection. While it’s important to validate the importance of the erection, there is also a debate about whether we rely too heavily on hard penises for pleasure. Tiffany reflects on the potential for pleasure and orgasm without an erect penis, emphasizes the importance of open communication, reassurance, and affirmation, and shares some non-medical advice on how to combat ED. We take a closer look at how your diet can affect your sexual health, why sex toys are always a great addition, and why it is problematic to disassociate your sexual, physical, and mental health from one another. We also talk about the importance of changing the sex narrative and how we should all understand the clitoris and its importance for female pleasure and she also believes that women should start speaking up on behalf of their own pleasure. Sexual experiences can be enhanced through open communication and it’s about time we change our views about the end of sex! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com

#45 - It's Q&A time and here are the questions we answer: 1) What tips do you have for getting started in the lifestyle? 2) How do we swing sober? 3) How do you ask if they have an STD or something? 4) Is it a good idea to surprise my partner with an clothing optional trip to Tulum? To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com

#44 - Beth Darling, the creator of Sexy Ed School, was a divorce attorney for 15 years before she decided to make a different impact. Rather than make the journey of separation an amicable one, she wanted to help couples stay together and see love not only survive, but thrive! Beth outlines the 5 kinds of intimacy that she believes are necessary to create happy, loving, lasting relationships: physical, emotional, sexual, romantic, and spiritual. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and knowing your partner, as well the value of using very specific language when talking about intimacy, and we dive into some of the differences between the various kinds of intimacy and why people often confuse them, plus we debunk some misconceptions along the way! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com

#43 - Bella and Jase from 4OURPLAY are with us to answer your questions on morals, communicating and recognizing interest from other couples, how they use "veto cards", and working through jealousy with your partner. To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com