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The Newlywed Show
74 minutes | Jun 16, 2021
Demon Dialogues ft. Dr. Scott Woolley, PhD
Grace welcomes back Dr. Scott Woolley for this week's episode to discuss negative patterns couples develop in dealing with conflict. Dr. Woolley introduces the three main patterns of fighting in marriage, "Find the Bad Guy," "The Protest Polka," and "Freeze and Flee".Grace and Dr. Woolley discuss why being able to identify the patterns in your own marriage allow you to change your perspective, and come together as a couple, or even individually start to address the patterns, to help change behaviors. They discuss how often, fights may seem to be about something surface level, but when actually addressed, can really about something much more vulnerable, such as self-worth, or feeling safe or supported in the relationship.They then discuss how to allow ourselves to become more vulnerable, by acknowledging surface emotions and defense mechanisms, to really address the true problems that cause conflict in a relationship. Dr. Woolley addresses how to ask the right questions about how to change behavior, by figuring out why the fights start, and how to address them differently. He gives ideas for battle plans for couples to work together to improve how they address conflict in their marriage, and cause less hurt during. Grace adds several ideas of conferences, classes or seminars to attend to help boost a couple's skills with these techniques:Hold Me Tight(er) Online Building a Lasting ConnectionJeremy Boden’s Newlywed Course
43 minutes | Jun 9, 2021
How's That Budget Working For Ya?
I convinced Zach to come and share how we have finally found a stable budgeting and saving system we've used for the last year and a half! To use our referral to get a Capital One credit card, click here.Also, I forgot to mention this on the episode but if you're looking for an approach to money that is NOT Dave Ramsey, I really like @deeperthanmoneyco on IG! Speaking of, my account is @gracewjensen. If you enjoyed this episode, PLEASE rate and review on Apple Podcasts! It would mean so much to me!
23 minutes | Jun 2, 2021
Summer Love Language Date Ideas
I give you some fun (mostly) free summer date ideas according to what your spouse's love language is, and I also share a little idea of how to honor Memorial Day if you're feeling a little guilty for not honoring the day more!
33 minutes | May 27, 2021
Family History Has Scientific Benefits?!
What did I do this weekend that got me thinking about family history? What can family history teach you about your spouse? How can it improve your marriage? There's research about how knowing your family history influences you?!
65 minutes | May 20, 2021
The Criticism/Defensiveness Spiral Sucks
Zach and I share our personal story of how we would get stuck in the criticism/defensiveness spiral with each other and how we got out of it, with a special emphasis on how recognizing your partner's strengths makes a big difference!IG: @gracewjensenUse code GRACE20 at www.meetjovi.com for $20 off!
57 minutes | May 12, 2021
Political Differences in Marriage
Dr. Jeremy Boden comes on to discuss how to best navigate political differences within marriage.Links mentioned:https://www.drjeremyboden.com/https://www.drjeremyboden.com/landing-pagewww.allsides.com@allsidesnow
29 minutes | May 5, 2021
I Like You Even When I Don't Love You
One of my favorite pieces of marriage advice to give young couples is, "Don't underestimate the power of liking each other even when you don't love each other!" I tell the story of why this is so important to me, and how it can help you transition out of the honeymoon phase and into mature love. I also give some tips about how to foster the friendship in your marriage!Text me at 760-280-6173 to suggest episode ideas (which I might VenMo you some $$ for!) and tell what platform you listen to the podcast on so I can send you the link to each week's episode! Follow me and the podcast on Instagram @GraceWJensen.
38 minutes | Apr 28, 2021
10 Marriage Myths
Zach and I snuggle up in an ancient armchair so I can get his live reactions to ten marriage myths and some encouraging marriage statistics! You can keep up with me @gracewjensen on Instagram or by texting me at 760-280-6174. If you text me an episode idea that I end up using I'll VenMo you some $$!The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce by Shaunti Feldhahn
27 minutes | Apr 21, 2021
Infertility and the ABC-X Stress and Coping Model
In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, I talk about some basics around what infertility is and how common it is, quotes from celebrities addressing various aspects of experiencing it, what the single most important factor is regarding how experiencing infertility will affect your marriage, and how to use the ABC-X model to influence your personal experience of infertility,The blog post I mentioned with different women's stories of having a miscarriage can be found here.Text (760) 280-6174 to give me direct comments and questions about the show and have me text you direct links to each week's episode! I also have decided to combine the podcast and my personal Instagram, so find it all @GraceWJensen!
45 minutes | Apr 14, 2021
Can Couples Therapy Really Help With This? Part 2
Chelsea Petersen, couples therapist and owner of Cache Valley Counseling, describes how to re-ignite "pretty good" marriages, how marriages go stale, how to help a friend or family member struggling in their marriage, and different myths around couples counseling.Cache Valley Counseling WebsiteCultivating Connections Workshop10 Ways to Fire Up The Attention, Passion, & Desire In Your Lackluster PartnerSocial Media:Instagram @cachevalleycounselingFacebook facebook.com/cachevalleycounseling
48 minutes | Apr 7, 2021
Can Couples Therapy Really Help With This? Part 1
Chelsea Petersen, couples therapist and owner of Cache Valley Counseling, talks about how couples fall out of love, why she became a couples therapist, how to know when its time to go to therapy, which spouse usually reaches out first, and the role of sex in a committed relationship.Cache Valley Counseling WebsiteCultivating Connections Workshop10 Ways to Fire Up The Attention, Passion, & Desire In Your Lackluster PartnerSocial Media:Instagram @cachevalleycounselingFacebook facebook.com/cachevalleycounseling
55 minutes | Mar 31, 2021
Pregnancy Prep Real Talk
I have thought about the content of this episode for a loooong time! Zach and I discuss both practical things to talk about as a couple before deciding to try to get pregnant, and what we wish we had known ahead of time about how pregnancy would challenge our relationship.
40 minutes | Mar 24, 2021
Terrible Marriage Advice and What to Do Instead
Zach and I discuss six VERY common pieces of marriage advice-that are actually terrible! Why are they terrible? Do they have any kernels of truth in them?
11 minutes | Mar 8, 2021
Hello, I have missed you! We will back with our regularly scheduled Wednesday episodes March 24th, but in the meantime listen for a few updates!
26 minutes | Feb 26, 2020
12 Days of Valentines Report
Grace and Zach report on their 12 Days of Valentines, a tradition they introduced in Episode 40. Find out which activity they improvised and which activity they both did for each other!
57 minutes | Feb 22, 2020
Anxiety During Engagement and Moving in Together ft. Dr. Scott Woolley, PhD
Grace's husband Zach hosts the show today, interviewing Dr. Scott Woolley on a variety of marital topics. His first question is on anxiety during the engagement period—why it happens (2:00) and when to listen to your doubts (6:30). They particularly focus on the struggle of knowing whether you’re in love with your partner (13:20).Zach’s next question is on how to adjust to living together and the many differences that often appear there (21:00). In fact dealing with differences seems to be a theme, as the next topic is different communication styles (30:45), and then different money practices (39:50). Finally, Dr. Woolley advises on how to talk about having kids (47:00).Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Follow on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and Grace Jensen @gracewjensen. She would love to hear from you! You can also access the Amazon shop mentioned here.
33 minutes | Feb 13, 2020
Fast, Easy, Delicious Newlywed Cooking Tips
Today’s topic involves a relentless obligation: feeding ourselves. Grace shares her tips for making meals that are cost-effective, healthy, quick, and partner-friendly. Her method is also called batch-cooking!Grace’s first advice is to take a look at what’s in your kitchen and find out whether you have protein, carbohydrates, fruits, and/or vegetables (4:15). Having these four basics makes throwing meals together a much easier task. Our host covers how to make each category more accessible: vegetables (6:10), carbs (12:40), protein (18:40), and fruits (22:20). Lastly, she discusses tactics for the all-important breakfast (25:30).Below are some of the specific recipes and instructions Grace mentions: Roasted Veggie Formula-Preheat oven to 450 degrees Fahrenheit -Put chopped veggies in gallon Ziploc-Add a few tablespoons of olive or avocado oil, a tablespoon or two of minced garlic, and some salt-Close Ziploc and shake well-Empty veggies onto a cookie pan and put in oven-Roast for 20 minutes, a few minutes more depending on the vegetableInstant Pot grain:broth ratios:Quinoa (regular) 1:1.25, 8 minutesBasmati Rice 1:1.5, 4-8 minuteBrown Rice 1:1.25, 22-28 minuteJasmine Rice 1:1, 4-10 minuteWhite Rice 1:1.5, 8 minuteWild Rice 1:3, 25-30 minutesOrganic Chicken Better than Bouillon on Amazon herePurely Elizabeth granola on Amazon here If you found this episode helpful, help others find the podcast! It can be as quick and easy as texting it to a friend or rating the show on iTunes. Grace would LOVE to hear from you--how you found the show, how it’s helped you, and your thoughts on the ideas it shares. Connect with them on Instagram @thenewlywedshow or personally with Grace @gracewjensen. You can also find any products mentioned at www.amazon.com/shop/gracewjensen.
50 minutes | Feb 6, 2020
The Genius of Brene Brown
Grace and Zach sit down to share the definitions of Brené Brown’s most important concepts. They would not be married without the work of researcher Brené Brown PhD LMSW, so listen up! Zach celebrates that the show hit 10,000 listens this week (5:20), and they share their “We’re In It With Ya!” story about accessibility (7:30). PSA: Every definition discussed in today’s episode can be found at https://brenebrown.com/definitions/.The first words are the foundations of Brown’s work: “vulnerability” (17:20) and “shame” (19:00). Grace and Zach review them in the particular context of marriage. Next is “integrity,” which closely relates to “value” (23:40). Grace emphasizes the importance of practicing your values as a spouse, bringing you integrity. Brown has also defined “connection,” interestingly enough (28:10). One of Grace’s favorite concepts is “true belonging” (31:40). She and Zach spend some time picking it apart and discussing how it looks in marriage. They then discuss Brown’s controversial definition of “love” (38:40), something Grace is also passionate about. Lastly, the créme de la créme, is “wholehearted living” (45:00).If you found this episode helpful, help others find the podcast! It can be as quick and easy as texting it to a friend or rating the show on iTunes. Grace and Zach would LOVE to hear from you--how you found the show, how it’s helped you, and your thoughts on the ideas it shares. Connect with them on Instagram @thenewlywedshow or personally with Grace @gracewjensen.
49 minutes | Jan 28, 2020
Seven Essential Principles to Building Your Forever Together ft. Dr. Jeremy Boden, PhD LMFT
Dr. Jeremy Boden PhD, LMFT joins the show to share “The Most Comprehensive Online Marriage Preparation Program for Christian and LDS Couples.” The practical help his classes give students at Utah Valley University inspired him to make the concepts widely accessible (4:45). Dr. Boden explains why he is passionate about this timeframe for couples (9:45) and how he created the course (12:00). He emphasizes its goal of unifying couples (13:30).His course offers eight modules with videos and “worksheets” (7:20). Grace clarifies what the worksheets are (18:30). The first module after the introductory one is about nurturing your faith as a couple (16:20). The second focuses on the importance of becoming your best self, (since happy and healthy individuals generally make happy and healthy couples) (22:45). The third principle is building and nurturing couple connections, which is more multifaceted than many people think (24:55). The next module covers the six foundational concepts of disconnection and repair—a critical skillset (27:40). Dr. Boden says, “Happy marriages are not about the lack of conflict, but the presence of consistent repair and positive connections.” Module 6 (and Principle 5) is this therapist’s speciality: how to start an amazing sex life after a life of abstinence (30:00). The second to last principle is managing finances as a team (33:30). The final principle focuses on stretching the principles and practices you’ve learned in the course throughout marriage (35:40).The worth of this course and its cost are stunningly different (41:00). You can access the entire course forever for only $49 at https://marriageandfamilysolutions.teachable.com/. Dr. Boden will continue to create courses so keep up with him at https://www.drjeremyboden.com/. Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—your small actions help spread the word and keep this show going. Feel free to follow on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and Grace Jensen @gracewjensen. She would love to hear your responses, questions, and ideas!
35 minutes | Jan 22, 2020
12 Days of Valentines Inspiration
Grace and Zach bring you a Valentine’s Day episode! (Yes, already! You’ll hear why.) Grace tells the story of their first Valentine’s Day together (2:15) and what they like to do now (4:30). The present tradition includes secrecy, so we won’t write down what Grace and Zach are giving each other this year. Grace does share what she gave last year though (5:30) and lists lots of other ideas (9:55). Zach then shares what he gave last year (21:30) and his ideas for the future (26:30). This episode includes a great variety of ways to surprise and show appreciation for a loved one—you’re welcome to come back to it for any special occasion. Thank you for listening to this podcast! Sharing it with a friend or leaving a quick review on iTunes would be deeply appreciated—it spreads the word and keeps this show going. Follow on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and Grace Jensen @gracewjensen. She would love to hear from you!
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