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Narcissists crowd our world today. They are our spouses, ex-spouses, relatives, bosses, co-workers, spiritual mentors, friends. our society rewards high level narcissists handsomely with praise, adulation, celebrity, wealth, social status. The narcissist's raison d'etre is winning. As long as he/she achieves his goals, nothing else matters. Personal problems, even those of close family members, are too messy and time consuming. Individuals with this personality disorder are ethically and morally challenged.  Narcissists weave grand visions of success that are designed to lead them to stashes of wealth, power, prestige and control. Winning electrifies the narcissist; it is the engine, the fire that keeps him going. They hire bright talented people to implement their ideas. They take advantage of their assistants by underpaying them and overpromising while they carefully maintain their elite lifestyles. Above all, the high level narcissist is deceptive in all of his relationships and transactions.  Some narcissistic dreams go astray. The high level narcissist takes the blame off of himself and onto his "underlines."  Protect yourself from becoming enmeshed in the narcissist's destructive web. Learn to identify the high level narcissist in your personal and professional life. Steer clear of them if you can. Assert your grounded individuality and strong sense of self. Appreciate who you are. Get the sleep and rest that you deserve; movement and exercise; nourishing food and good hydration, a spiritual practice how you define this, experience of beauty and nature.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

High level narcissists perpetrate tremendous stress on other human beings - their spouses, ex-spouses, children through their pernicious lying, deceptions and manipulations.  High level narcissists who succeed in the world preserve their pristine images by having favored members of their tight inner circles do their dirty work.  There are extraordinary individuals who through their research, perseverance, insights and intuitions move forward along their own pathways.  I give them so much credit for their psychological strength and grit.  These are individuals of great character.   They are unique individuals of fine character.  They are tremendous people and we honor them.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

You grew up as a child of maternal deprivation. Your mother's presence was neither loving nor protective. Early on you knew that Narcissistic Mama (or Mothering Figure) couldn't stand your presence, even as a little child. Psychiatrist and researcher Dr. John Bowlby created the term Maternal Deprivation to describe a mother's lack of attachment and warmth toward her child communicated as cold dismissiveness and lack of empathy.  As adult some of these children feel guilt and shame, a deep sense of unease for being imperfect and letting mother down.  As babies they looked into their mother's eyes and discovered a void--a cold uncaring, dismissive "don't come near me" revulsion. Enter the high level nrcissist, infused with magnetic charm, command of self, energetic, self-confident, charismatic. Children of narcissistic mothers become entrance with the high level narcissist.  Marriage and partnership with the high level narcissist is exciting in the beginning. After a short period of time the narcissistic partner reveals their cruel, demanding, manipulative side. You are the object of cruel, obnoxious projections, frequently in private behind closed doors.  You feel anxious, jumpy, waiting for the next volley of insults and recriminations...Why do you tolerate this kind of treatment? You were traumatized as a small child and now you are being -re-traumatized by your narcissistic spouse.  This is your time and opportunity for awakening to the true nature of the high level narcissist.  You become clear that you will move forward along your own pathway of recovery, transformation and the continued evolution of your true self.  Along the way you learn to be self entitled, deserving of inner peace, worthy of trust and warmth, the full use of your creative gifts. Practice self care: rest, sleep, movement/exercise, food, hydration, Nature.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com   

  Quoting from my book about the rediscovery of the authentic self - Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: "Music resounds through the body/mind, awakening and expanding our human possibilities. Music takes us away from distracting conscious thoughts. and into a sensory world of relaxation and freedom." "Music transports us to other worlds. Our moods shift, our spirits lighten; we shed our emotional burdens without thinking." "Great music surprises and calms us. It is a friend that soothes us.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

Presenting the extreme psychological deprivations and abuse sustained by children of narcissistic mothers. Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: "The narcissistic mother's focus i s on acting out her primitive desires...  This callousness and extreme self involvement leave her children without any form of emotional and psychological sustenance. Mother is an empty lap with no arms for embracing, no warmth for protection, no emotional steadiness for security, no gesture of tenderness." "Some narcissistic mothers fool many with their pseudo solicitousness about their children's needs." I tell the true story of the great writer Rudyard Kipling and his sister who suffered from the horrible traumas of being abandoned for many years by their parents. This is based on a psychobiography by psychoanalyst Dr. Leonard Shengold.  Focus on your self care: rest and sleep that you need and deserve, hydration and nourishing food, movement/exercise your way, your spiritual practice as you define this.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg  

 Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life:  "On the surface the empathy of the narcissist seems to be genuine. With a mastery of social graces and his/her quick study of human nature, the high level narcissistic personality appears to care about our deepest and most intimate thoughts and feelings. He uses this ability to tap into the other person's narcissistic needs for admiration, praise, recognition and power. Behind the feigned attentiveness and apparent concern is cool calculation. " Pseudo empathy is packaged as a finely tuned performance, an ac that convinces most people.: "The narcissist always has a variety of scenarios in mind for those caught in his web of enchantment He/she wants something that each one can supply him/her: money, entree to powerful connections, a stunning woman or man at is side...Like any great predator---an eagle in the highest branch of a fir tree who sees all: a red tailed hawk figure-eighting in the open sky, a cheetah stalking in the tall golden grasses." The high level narcissist is a restless, conscience-less being, high flyer, always seeking, gratifying himself/herself.  Ultimately the high level is always an exploiter, who  will get what he wants no matter the price paid by the individuals who get caught in their golden circles or complex webs.  You have been through a series of ordeals with the high level narcissist and now you understand their true nature and know that you can no longer be a part of their inner circle entourage.  You value your true self, your individuality, your creative gifts, your fullness as a grounded, unique individual: strong, resilient, spiritual, grounded, whole.    https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: "We re born in complete dependence and vulnerability. Within us are the developmental seeds for individuation--a word that describes the growing edge of a strong solid person who will flourish, expand and deepen as he responds to the imprint that is solely his." "Separate and individuate from your narcissistic partner or spouse and narcissistic family."  Practice self care: beautiful music that puts you in the parasympathetic mode. Diaphragmatic breathing activates the parasympathetic, the calming, restorative, transformative part of the body/mind systems.     

quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life:  "Like water cascading down a falls, compliments and tributes must flow to the narcissist at all times. He/she expects and counts on this praise. He/she recounts endless stories of his triumphs and expect s others to tell him/he "how wonderful he is." The slightest interruption in this unguent tide is disconcerting and disturbing to the narcissist. Reactions can range from feelings of being slighted and hurt to uncontrollable rage...Devotees spin an elaborate web, a golden aura, around the narcissist. They fawn, they glow... There eyes glaze as their head tilt in is direction. Under a light or heavy trance, followers are hypnotized by the narcissistic lure...Living only to please and appease an imperious narcissist, combined with mounting erosions of their individual opportunities, faithful followers eventually become hate-filled enemies." You research the narcissistic personality and follow your intuition and wisdom and recognize that you have been in a non-relationship with the high level narcissist. Give yourself credit for the work that you are doing.  Practice self care: get the sleep and rest that you need, eat nourishing food, hydrate well, do movement and exercise that works for you, develop a spiritual practice in the way that you define this, spend time in Nature for restoration and calming.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "The narcissist is a master at extracting the pulp and juice of others---their time, talent, creative ideas, energies---to serve his purpose alone.  When he has distilled the best from you and all that is of value to him/her, he discards the rest and move on. All relationships with narcissistic individuals are exploitive." If you are married to or partnered wit a narcissistic personality  it is essential that you know: Narcissists don't change; rather their psychopathology worsens as time goes on. They remain severely psychologically regressed. Narcissists live in a delusional world of their making. Living with narcissists wears you down, trapping you in the sympathetic zone, crating accumulative oxidative stress.  Choose our well being and inner peace. You are a singular individual: insightful, evolved, creative.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com   https://www.mentalhealthnewsradionetwork.com/   https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg  

Lying is automatic for the high level narcissist. Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life:  "Most of us have difficulty lying, whether by omission or commission. Lying makes us feel uncomfortable, as if something is fundamentally wrong. "  This is not the case for the shameless high level narcissist who lacks conscience.  "The narcissist insists that the way must be clear for him to move ahead. If the path is smoothed through his lying, that's al right." "Lying and evasion are a way of life for the narcissist."  At a point of awakening you recognize that you will move along your own pathway of restoration, healing, transformation and the evolution of your authentic self.  Practice self care each day: get the sleep and rest you need and deserve, good hydration, nourishing food, movement and exercise, time in Nature, use of your creative gifts, a spiritual practice as you define this.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg    

Quoting from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist:  "Intuitions are moments of insight that awaken our consciousness with speed and clarity...When you re an intuitive many people label you as an eccentric. Psychological openness is a key to deepening intuition. The intuitive message is faster than thought."  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

Understanding the world of the high level narcissist, quoting my hook: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life:  "The narcissist lives in an intricate world of his making, dominated by inflated illusions of self-importance. His style is grandiose, like some peacock or wild turkey with feathers in full display. His version of reality bears no resemblance to the truth. Experiencing himself as the center of life, like a sun surrounded by encircling planets, the narcissist believes that everything flows from him." "High level narcissists are highly rewarded for the very attributes that make them inconsiderate and demanding human beings: self-absorption, aggressiveness, hubris."  "We are programmed to envy their (high level narcissist) success. They are fawned over and admired despite a delusional consciousness that rides high on the winds of self-adoration, outrageous demands and excess indulgence."  "Setting himself/herself apart from all the rest, he struts across the stage of life---cocksure. His ship leans at full tilt, all sails billowing, ego fully unfurled" This is the tale of the high level narcissist, his/her delusional world of self perfection and extreme self entitlement.  Pay close attention to the messages of your intuition. It reveals the true nature of the high level narcissist and helps you focus on your authentic self with your many creative and spiritual gifts.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

Don't expect others, especially narcissistic personalities to understand you.  They are trapped in denial and delusion. You comprehend and appreciate yourself and your intuitive gifts. Accept yourself as a rare individual, an irreplaceable pearl of great price. Embrace your differentness. Follow the truths of your intuition - a perpetual sanctuary lamp.  You instincts about the true nature of the lies, ruses, baits and confabulations of the narcissistic personality. They are valid; follow them. Slow your pace. Find your rhythm. Don't let anyone hurry or confound you. Honor your rest and sleep. If you have trouble sleeping, be kind and let yourself rst. Make no judgments - be a loving presence to the small child inside of you. Listen to music that quiets your nervous system, eases your anxiety and worry, softening your self judgment, infusing you with hope and vitality. Engage with beauty wherever you find it---in Nature, great Art that speaks to and inspires you.   Honor your body/mind: gentle yoga poses, basic stretching.  Listening and telling stories of past remembering. The details and sense of place that you portray take you to another world; you travel through time and space - your reality expands; your old darkness and struggles fade; you are up for the adventure of the story. Sing to yourself -familiar tunes and melodies appreciate the uniqueness of your voice. No judgments here. You are savoring this moment.  Or you can chant, whatever is more comfortable and enjoyable to you. Singing activates the vagus nerve and in turn the parasympathetic nervous system.  Appreciate and honor your uniqueness as a precious individual, an empath. https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg  

Empaths are so unique...extraordinary. They are deeply attuned to their internal and external environments. Empaths are sensitive to loud noises, projections of rage and those who lack emotional control. Some empaths have chronic insomnia.  Empaths have difficult ordeals with narcissistic spouses, partners, family members. Empaths internalize great beauty in the form of Art, Nature, close relationships.  Spending time with Nature is a great boon to the empath. One example is the miracle of the four seasons which occur as a result of the tilt of the Earth on its axis. Empaths need more rest and sleep than others. Empaths need to slow their pace.  Listen to the music that soothes your nervous system; feel the melody move through your ears, nervous system and brain. You enter the gentle inner world of the parasympathetic nervous system.  You clearly perceived the psychological and emotional state of your parents and other family members. You were misunderstood, criticized and labelled strange.  Your perceptions of truth were denied by your family. No one understood you. You have always been a seeker. You knew the truth from the beginning. Here's to putting your well being, deep inner peace and creative gifts first each day! 

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "The narcissist is never at peace. Quiet and contentment evade him. His engines of cunning are always at work. He leads a life of restless, compulsive activity...The high level narcissist cannot just "be."... He marches relentlessly forward, doing his special life's work--demonstrating how wonderful he is.  Hour by hour and minute by minute, the narcissist seeks ways to stave off his emotional thirst. Inside, his well is always dry. He must constantly turn to the external environment to get the life-sustaining water that he needs to survive---praise, recognition, sexual conquests, power. To achieve this, he chooses dependent individuals who continually quench his psychological thirst with compliments, accolades, and blind loyalty..." You may think that the high level narcissist is miserable. Oh contraire!  The high level narcissist exists in a world of denial and delusion. He/she does not have a fully developed conscience, is subject to low frustration tolerance, no psychological boundaries.  The high level narcissist chooses dependent individuals whom he can exploit to fulfill his psychological needs for praise, adulation, loyalty and servitude.   You are the opposite of the high level narcissist. You are authentic, empathic, an individual of integrity.  There is a time of awakening when you recognize that you must separate and leave your partnership, marriage, family of the high level narcissist.  You deserve great credit for your decision, choosing your well being.  Practice self care each day: get the rest and sleep that you deserve, nourishing food, good hydration, movement and exercise, spiritual practice as you define it.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg  

Quoting from my book: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life: "The future partner of the narcissist was often the child of an arrogant, demanding, narcissistic parent. From his/her earliest days, he was conditioned to respond to his parent's arbitrary rules and whims. The narcissistic mother or father conducted himself as a dictator, without a conscience, immune to any outside authority   From the time they are little, these children become experts at catering to the idiosyncratic needs of the narcissistic parent. In other instances those who end up in the shadows are raised by neglectful emotionally absent parents. When children have been treated without affection and care, they are incapable of creating intimate attachments. Beneath the psychological wounding lie feelings of helplessness, depression and rage. These  negative emotions are hidden because the psychological pain that they wreak is unbearable. They are forgotten, left in the cold storage of the unconscious. Often the child who has felt unloved, desperately seeks satisfaction by turning to a person who promises to satisfy his needs for attention and validation. Those who cast themselves in shadow are psychologically hungry."        They are ripe for attaching themselves to a charming, irresistible narcissistic personality who is gifted at the arts of seduction and manipulation, combined with exciting empty promises.    There is a time of reckoning when you recognize that you must separate from the high level narcissist and move along your pathways of restoration, transformation, creativity and spiritual practice the way you define. Remember self care each day: rest, sleep, good nutrition, hydration, movement and exercise, listening to beautiful music.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              

I hope that these words are comforting, restorative and inspiring to you.  The following are quotes from my book: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist:  "The outward universe of billions of galaxies thrills us...We have access to both the external and internal universe."  "Within us is the vastness which inhabits our inner space. This is the dwelling of the true self and the soul." "There is an endless flow that moves effortlessly when we are working with the universe within our true selves."

The psychic structure of the narcissistic personality is not built on the foundations of a real self. Rather the narcissist is rewarded early on for the characterlogical qualities of the false self.  This inauthentic self develops as a result of the parent's inability to resonate psychologically and emotionally with the individuality of their child. Rather the parent, often narcissistic, rewards his/her child of ego supplies - praise, acceptance, adulation for responding to the demands of this parent. The core true self is left in a state of psychological damage: hollow, bleak and empty. As the budding narcissist grows, the false selves gain greater power over the personality along with steel strong defenses of denial, projection, regression and splitting. The false self persona of the high level narcissist can be very charming and compelling.  The high level narcissist operates in a state of regression back to the age of two years of age.  Those who are partnered with or married to a high level narcissist  are subjected to the constant vile projections of their high level narcissistic spouses.   You are the opposite of the high level narcissist.  You  are authentic, activating the real authentic self. Give yourself great credit for your unique individuality, insights, empathy and perseverance.  You are traveling along your own pathways of transformation, creativity and restoration. Wishing you the fullness of your talents, creative gifts and  your spiritual journey as you define this for yourself.  https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

In a roiling sea of high level narcissists you are often in a state of anxiety, worry, self doubt, uncertainty, confusion.  Infused with mesmerizing charm, gifts of seduction and persuasion it is very difficult not to become entranced with the high level. They possess a kind of magic presence that is drawn from one of their enchanting personas.  The high level narcissist searches out those whom he wants to become part of his coterie, his golden circle, that place of honor that the high level bestows on special people in his intimate enclave. The narcissist is immune to the suffering that he causes others, even his spouses, ex-spouses and children. His search for self aggrandizement has no bounds. Above it all the high level narcissist is ultimately an exploiter, usurping the talents, creative energies and sometimes the morality and decency of others.  You come to a time of awakening to the true nature of the high level narcissist. Remember who you are---the exact opposite of these individuals.  You can and will prevail and recover and restore your true original self. Be reminded of the gifts which are unique to you. You are strong, sensitive, kind, intelligent, empathic, resolute, of fine character, creative and holy within. 

Take time to rest each day, practice healing breathing techniques that move you into the parasympathetic body/mind systems.  Great art is a tremendous source of beauty and restoration. Sister Wendy Beckett's, The Story of Paining series through PBS is a magnificent series that steeps us in the greatest works of art.  This includes a treasure trove of art from the Mists of Time first in the series where Sister Wendy visits and describes the prehistoric art of the caves of Lascaux. The series includes great art of Giotto, Fra Angelica, Rembrandt, Vermeer, Da Vinci, Michael Angelo, Cezanne, Renoir, Pissaro, Monet, Manet.  Develop routines and practices that are calming and restorative will help you each day to heal and evolve, especially from narcissistic abuse.