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Todays episode features a guest so many of you will be familiar with. Prominent Charismatic golden-child turned Atheist who most of you will know as @eve_wasframed over on TikTok and Instagram. If for some reason you aren't following her (and you should!) you can check her out over at: https://www.instagram.com/eve_wasframed Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Daphne McGee helps people who are in unhealthy and toxic relationships find freedom on the other side. You can follow Daphne here: https://www.instagram.com/goldendaph You can find more of Daphne's content and how to work with her as a coach here: https://linktr.ee/GoldenDaph Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Andrew is a religious trauma survivor who has made it his goal to bring awareness to religious trauma and spritual abuse. To connect with Andrew and check out his website/podcast etc you can click here: https://www.liinks.co/4ndrewpledger Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Scott is one of the founders of Affirming Youth Ministries. We talk about his deconstruction and how it led him to create a ministry for LGBTQ+ youth who are processing the tricky waters of what it means to be LGBTQ, teenager and spiritual. If you want to connect with what Scott is doing you can find their instagram here: https:/www.instagram.com/affirmingyouthministries They are also presently doing a fundraiser for the organisation which you can find out about here - https://affirmingyouthministries.org/campaign Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

You can read the article Janice wrote which we discussed in the show here: https://godhasnotgiven.com/my-kind-of-trauma/ And of course get following Janice on Instagram here: https://instagram.com/godhasnotgiven Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Follow Benjamin on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/heytherebenji Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Apologies for the sound on this one... I had reinstalled my OS and didn't notice the gain on the mic was way too high. It does get better after the first 10mins or so. David Hayward who many of you will know as @NakedPastor returns for another chat, we talk about his prolific work, his upcoming book, healing from trauma, navigating deconstruction when your partner isn't and so much more. Follow David on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nakedpastor Buy his latest book: https://nakedpastor.com/pages/flip-it-like-this Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

In this episode I talk with business consultant Jack Bergstrand about his new book Christianity Without Dogma. Jack puts forth the argument that it is domga which has turnd Christianity into a business... and a failing business at that! We talk about what a saved Christianity might look like if it returned to its core values of Love, Connection and Service. You can order Christianity Without Dogma at https://amzn.to/3n718mX You can follow Jack on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/christianconsciousnessorg Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

In this episode, I talk to Derek Myers (from Your Favorite Heretics) about religious OCD/Scrupulosity as well as mental health in general. You can follow Derek on Twitter here: https://www.twitter.com/derektheheretic You can follow Your Favourite Heretics here: https://www.instagram.com/yourfavoriteheretics Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

In today's episode, I talk to the one and only "Deconstruction Girl" from Instagram. We talk about her deconstruction from megachurch life and all the craziness that is Christianity and Deconstruction. Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

More Q&A today we look at: 01:11 - How to respond to: “Your only deconstructing because of abuse / the church hurt you / trauma” etc. 07:25 - Is it normal to feel this much grief? 11:46 - How to navigate deconstruction when all you’ve known is ministry / pastoring / missions etc.? 30:11 - Is it OK that my views on marriage have changed now? 37:56 - How can I be more intentional in my deconstruction - I feel like I’m going nowhere? 45:31 - Is it important to tell your church you are leaving - how should I go about leaving church? Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

More Q&A today we have: 04:26 Is deconstruction just a slow road to becoming an atheist? 13:31 Navigating guilt/shame around sex. 23:37 I want the church to burn to the ground… is that wrong? 35:43 What would a healthy church look like? 47:43 Was it all a waste of time? Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Jen Kiaba is an artist and writer who covers the topic of cults and being a cult survivor regularly in her work. You can check out her work at - https://www.jenkiaba.com And her Instagram at - https://www.instagram.com/jenkiaba Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

This is the second episode in our series where I work through your most commonly submitted questions about deconstruction and the difficult process of going through deconstruction. In this episode we talk about: 2:46 - 1: How to navigate friends and family that just don't get it 12:53 - 2: How to draw boundaries or even cut ties with friends and family 23:35 - 3: How to reassure friends and family who are so worried about us 32:55 - 4: Do I have to tell my friends and family about my deconstruction? 38:15 - 5: Is it OK to remain in church for the community even though you don't agree with them? 42:00 - How to start building community/friendships post-deconstruction Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

This episode is the first of a series where I work through your most commonly submitted questions about deconstruction and the difficult process of going through deconstruction. In this episode we talk about: 4:51 - 1: Navigating a fear of hell 17:22 - 2: Worrying about being wrong and my old beliefs I've left behind being right 26:48 - 3: Navigating anger 32:48 - 4: Navigating shame, regret, and guilt 45:05 - 5: Dealing with mental health issues that emerge after deconstructing Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Deconstruction is hard. I can't change that unfortunately... there is no silver bullet for it. But I have in my own journey and in helping thousands of others navigate the journey picked up some things along the way that make it a bit less hard. And honestly, I'd have taken any help I could get at the beginning. No matter where you are at on your journey of deconstruction if you are finding the process hard I'd encourage you to give this a listen and see if there is anything that can make life a bit easier for you. Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

2021 has been a tough year for me... uncovering trauma, dodgy health and the tail end of a pandemic to boot. Here's an update on what's going on with me for those who care :) Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Julie is the amazing human behind But Why Do You Believe That. You can follow her here: https://www.instagram.com/butwhydoyoubelievethat https://www.twitter.com/butwhydoyoubt Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Kate Stockly is the co-author of the book Spirit Tech: The Brave New World of Consciousness Hacking and Enlightenment Engineering. In this episode, we talk about all kinds of fascinating technologies that are changing the spiritual world. Can religion keep up? What does the future hold as people's spirituality evolves? How can technology enhance people's experience of spirituality? Follow Kate on Twitter here: https://www.twitter.com/katejstockly Check out the book here: https://amzn.to/34kOVkP Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com

Today I talk with Lauren Scott an ecotherapist focusing on sex and pleasure about her deconstruction and work in helping those who are deconstructing. You can follow Lauren here: https://www.instagram.com/laurenhscott You can find her websites here: https://www.havenwholeness.com & https://www.gracespringscounseling.com Support my work and join our private online community: ╰►Via my site: https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner ╰►Via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/phildrysdale ╰►Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale ╰►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/phildrysdale ╰►Find others deconstructing locally: https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com ╰►More about me: https://www.phildrysdale.com