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In This Episode, We Talk About: What questions are you asking yourself? How do we grow our capacity? What lessons can we learn from our future self? Resources + Links: Listen to Part 1 on Kara's Podcast: Episode 126: Learning from Your Past and Future Self with Brianne Hoefelmann PT1   The Guided Meditation Episode: Episode 83: A Guided Meditation - Connecting with Your Future Self & Your Why Book: “Chop Wood, Carry Water”   ………………………………….   Follow Danny on Instagram | @thegooddanny Follow Brianne on Instagram | @briannehoefelmann Check out The Good in Media | @thegoodinmedia Connect with Kara on Instagram: @kara_ayala Subscribe to Kara’s Podcast: Marriage, Money & Mayhem Check out how you can work with Kara | karaayala.com Show Notes: Are you so focused on old stories that you’re not allowing yourself to grow past them? Today is a special episode! Brianne Hoefelmann is leading today's episode and interviewing Kara Ayala! We’re diving into the questions we ask ourselves and how to grow our capacity in all areas of our lives. Whether you’re wanting to grow your relationship with your children, your spouse, or God, they all require a level of belief and take time. Ask yourself what you want for your future. Ask God who He wants to be in your life. Ask yourself why you feel the need to have it all figured out, right now!   03:40 - What is going well in your life right now? 06:05 - Why do we celebrate wins in the present? 07:40 - What questions are you asking yourself to stay present and grow? 09:30 - Enjoy the journey, the goal is over in an instant. 12:05 - Why are we in a hurry to accomplish our goals? 13:30 - How do we grow our capacity? 14:50 - What comes first, capacity or skill? 15:30 - What does it take to change our future? 18:20 - Is your old story holding you back and creating unnecessary friction? 19:30 - How would you treat yourself if you saw yourself through God’s eyes? 23:00 - How Brianne’s relationship with God has changed over the years. 25:15 - Where do you start when rebuilding a relationship with God? 29:00 - Is God okay with you questioning everything? 30:45 - What can we learn if we’re in tune with our bodies? 33:00 - What I learned losing $600,000. 37:30 - How do you check in with yourself? 41:30 - What lessons can you learn from your future self? 46:08 - How can we use breathwork as a tool? 48:50 - What would my 15 year-old self say if she saw me today?

Is it really possible to build a business while raising a family without sacrificing one or the other? Today’s guest is Kara Ayala! She is the podcast host of Marriage, Money & Mayhem, a business owner, investor, and an amazing Mom! We’re diving into how Kara and her husband have managed to keep their relationship the priority while growing and exiting their company. We dive into how to communicate with your spouse, how to grow your money mindset, and why they started a couple’s mastermind! 02:50 - Who is Kara Ayala? 05:00 - What motivated Kara and Mike to go into business for themselves? 07:00 - How Danny learned that “safe jobs” aren’t actually safe. 09:00 - What’s the difference between being an owner and a high-paid contractor? 11:00 - How do you handle disagreements in your business leadership? 13:15 - How do you create a win-win? 14:00 - How did you get into personal development? 16:00 - Why did you start mentoring women around money? 17:30 - How do you change your money mindset? 20:00 - How can people overcome their limiting beliefs around money? 22:00 - What is “the work?” 23:00 - Breathwork sessions and learning to overcome self-doubt. 28:00 - Do you know why are you doing the things that you’re doing? 29:50 - Do you operate with a chip on your shoulder or are you self-motivated? 31:20 - Why start a relationship mastermind? 33:20 - How do you set boundaries around business and family? 43:30 - Can women operate in their feminine energy and build a business? 44:40 - Why it’s not noble to be a martyr. 48:00 - What do you do for yourself to bring yourself joy? 49:00 - How do you define joy? Resources + Links: Follow Danny on Instagram | @thegooddanny Follow Brianne on Instagram | @briannehoefelmann Check out The Good in Media | @thegoodinmedia Connect with Kara on Instagram: @kara_ayala Subscribe to Kara’s Podcast: Marriage, Money & Mayhem

Our decision to homeschool our kids is one we thought about for months! We knew it was something we were drawn to. More freedom as a family, and the ability to teach our kids skills we know they’ll need as adults. I (Brianne) just had these feelings of worry, and fear that were keeping me from fully committing for a while because having the kids go to school was familiar, and homeschool was not. I had fear around things the kids would lose, without honestly weighing what they would GAIN! We hope you enjoy this chat around homeschooling, and how we’re learning to let go of what is good and familiar, for what is great! For what I feel is meant for us in this season of our family’s life! Resources + Links:   Follow Danny on Instagram | @thegooddanny   Follow Brianne on Instagram | @briannehoefelmann   Check out The Good in Media | @thegoodinmedia  

How do you  want to FEEL when you wake up every morning? As we’re learning and growing, and making daily deposits towards our goals, at the end of the day it's a feeling we’re after. You  want to be happy, proud, confident…and you can tap into those feelings anytime we want because YOU create them. In this episode, Danny and I are talking about a recent conversation we heard between Lori Harder and Brendan Burchard on her podcast, Earn Your Happy, about how we are all responsible for our own energy. The energy we bring into our relationships, our work, and we live our lives in the energy that we choose to generate. So make it GOOD energy! Listen in as we talk about creating the energy we want to have, and why it’s not your spouse's responsibility to make you happy!   Resources + Links:   Follow Danny on Instagram | @thegooddanny   Follow Brianne on Instagram | @briannehoefelmann   Check out The Good in Media | @thegoodinmedia

Do you have core values for your life? We're diving into an exercise that we went through that helped us get clarity on what's most important to us and how we want to show up. If this inspires you to go through this exercise and dial in your own core values, tag us on Instagram and let us know what you came up with! Resources + Links: Follow Danny on Instagram | @thegooddanny Follow Brianne on Instagram | @briannehoefelmann Check out The Good in Media | @thegoodinmedia

This could be dangerous! It’s our very first episode together, Danny and I, on the podcast and we’re reflecting on 2022! We’re being honest about where we were complacent this past year, what we’ve learned, acknowledging the good we’ve done, and how we’ve grown this past year. We have so many exciting things coming for our family and our business together in 2023 that we tease in this episode! We’re excited to have this conversation to look back on at the end of the year, and bring you along for the journey as we get married again, chatter some glass ceilings we’ve been bumping into for a while, figure out how to homeschool, and EMBODY people who are healthy and wealthy! Couldn’t be more grateful to share the journey with Danny, and all of you who are focusing on embodying the next version of yourself. Shoulder to shoulder with us!   Resources + Links: Follow Danny on Instagram | @thegooddanny Follow Brianne on Instagram | @briannehoefelmann Check out The Good in Media | @thegoodinmedia  

In This Episode, You Will Learn: How Kyle went from being told he would never be a “trainer” to leading groups of High Performing men. How Kyle and his wife paid off 380K of debt in just over 3 years. The importance of work-life rhythm (not balance.) What can happen in your life when you surround yourself with next level performers.   Resources + Links: Follow along with Kyle on Instagram | @kyle_depiesse Learn more about upcoming Reaching Beyond experiences   Subscribe to his podcast Reaching Beyond   Connect with Danny on Instagram | @thegooddanny Follow us on Instagram for more GOOD new stories and conversations | @thegoodinmedia   Show Notes: What would it mean to you to be debt free, be surrounded by a group of people that think BIG and support you in doing the same, and being able to enjoy life and growth at the same time? Today’s podcast is with my now good friend, Kyle Depiesse. Kyle is a teacher turned entrepreneur that was able to pay off 380,000 in debt in just over 3 years. Kyle runs amazing events for men entrepreneurs by putting together bucket list experiences and reminding business owners to slow down in order to speed up. We actually recorded this episode about 7 months ago, before I had the opportunity to go to two of Kyle’s events. In this episode, you’ll quickly realize Kyle has created what he calls Work-Life Rhythm and he lives by it. Tune in to learn how to bring up money conversations with your spouse, how to create a life that intentionally makes room for growth and joy, as well as what can happen for you when you step into a room of high performance leaders.

Lindsey Schwartz is a best-selling author, entrepreneur, speaker, and the founder of Powerhouse Women! Lindsey has two huge messages that I believe are super important for everyone; we’re not meant to do this alone (life) and we are way more powerful than we think when we’re motivated by serving others! Show Notes: 1:00 - Who is Lindsey Schwartz? 3:15 - Do you have to have it all together to get started? 5:00 - Why Lindsey is partially responsible for The Good In Today Podcast 6:35 - Did she always know that she was going to be an entrepreneur? 7:10 - What were some of Lindsey’s first personal development books? 8:40 - How do you change your mindset? What examples shaped her? 9:50 - “How to Win Friends and Influence People” 10:30 - What happens when you start to believe that life is working for you? 11:20 - “The Magic of Thinking Big” and How it Impacted Me ( Danny Hoefelmann ) 13:00 - Why do people demonize “self-help” books? 14:00 - How do find your purpose? 15:10 - “Choose Your Own Adventure” Books - An Analogy for Life 16:00 - Why It’s Harder to Stay Comfortable Than to Do The Thing You Feel Called to Do 17:30 - How do people develop passions? 20:00 - What are my three most important connections in life? 21:00 - The Power in Serving Others and Taking Our Own Egos Out of It 23:00 - It’s Not About You, It’s About Who You’re Going to Serve 24:20 - Why You Shouldn’t Put People on Pedestals 25:45 - What comes first; confidence or action? 26:40 - How do learn to like yourself? 28:00 - What are fear and self-doubt telling us? 29:00 - Is it possible to not care what people think? How to Stop Being a People Pleaser. 31:00 - What is the power in honoring your feelings? 33:10 - How far have I come in public speaking? 34:10 - That one time I had to talk in church and cried while almost broke the pulpit. 35:45 - What Happens When You Into the Struggle? ( Finding Finding Your Purpose ) 38:00 - How do you find a supportive community? 40:15 - Instagram Friends & Connecting Across the Globe 41:50 - Do you still hold onto stories from your past? 43:40 - When is the last time you checked if things that were true for you in the past are still true? 45:20 - Should you cut out people that are no longer serving your growth? 46:00 - You’re Attracting People to You Who Are Like YOU! What do you see in the mirror? 49:00 - What was “The Secret” Missing? 50:00 - Where is the best place to find Lindsey Schwarts online? 51:30 - Is it possible to choose to be happy? 52:35 - Should you allow yourself to be pissed for any period of time? Don’t forget to “like” and subscribe if you got any value out of this episode! Make sure to go and follow Lindsey to thank her for being a part of The Good In Today! Follow her on Instagram: @llindseyschwartz https://www.instagram.com/llindseyschwartz/ Follow along with everything Powerhouse Women: @powerhouse_women https://www.instagram.com/powerhouse_women/ Find upcoming Powerhouse Women events at: https://www.powerhousewomen.co/ https://www.lindseyschwartz.com/ Connect with me on Instagram: @thegoodhoff https://www.instagram.com/thegoodhoff/

I’m sitting down with Dennis Gable, a graphic designer, podcast host, and Father. Dennis is the host of “Self To Society.” He was one of the inspirations for this podcast with his core belief that one our greatest human desires is to know that we are not alone. Show Notes: 0:00 - Disclaimer; If you don’t want to hear about religion, feel free to skip this one. 2:36 - Start of Podcast 4:10 - Who is Dennis Gable? 6:00 - How did I meet Dennis? 7:30 - How did traditional religion shape Dennis’ upbringing? 9:15 - Does the journey of personal growth ever end? 10:15 - How do you treat your servers at restaurants? 11:20 - Where am I, Danny Hoefelmann, at in my current spirituality? 12:50 - Telling my wife I wasn’t sure if I wanted to stay a part of my religion. 14:55 - Why you NEED to take your time with religious decisions 15:50 - What was Dennis’ role in his church and where did he think it would take him? 17:00 - What was the biggest mistake from Dennis the way his marriage ended? 18:05 - Do you have to lose everything when deconstruction your beliefs? 19:40 - What did his kids think of his beliefs changing? How early was he open with his kids? 21:45 - How did I (Danny) start to look at faith in other ways? 23:30 - Why communication with my wife is the most important part of my journey so far! 25:05 - Why I still participate in my religion even when I don’t fully believe in it? 27:15 - Dennis, the typical patriarchy role of the man in the home 30:30 - Can you have spiritual experiences outside of religion? 32:20 - Do you believe in the ”Ultimate Sin?” 33:00 - What I wish more religious people celebrated! 33:30 - What is the opposite of faith? 36:00 - Is it possible to just take the best of things you like in all religions? 39:00 - Why it’s okay to just say, “I don’t know.” 41:00 - What was the positive role of faith in Dennis’ life? 43:38 - What does he currently believe? 45:30 - What to be aware of with “I don’t know” 47:10 - “Desire is the most honest human experience.” 48:30 - How do you balance selfish personal desires and the need for self-care? 51:10 - What do affirmations look like and what does he do for self-care? 55:00 - Why do you have to lose part of yourself to grow? 58:30 - Start of Danny’s religious journey 59:45 - The two mindsets of my beliefs 1:00:56 - Can someone hold the same values and standards once they leave a religion? 1:02:10 - How to hold onto some beliefs while no longer believing in the foundation 1:03:05 - Why I feel obligated to help people who are going through hard times 1:04:55 - What makes Dennis want to run his podcast, “Self To Society” 1:06:15 - How to make sure you’re showing up in the world with Empathy 1:07:44 - What qualities do we admire most about Jesus? 1:09:40 - What I love about religion and spirituality! 1:11:30 - Why I don’t believe it’s my place to impact the testimony of others 1:12:20 - Why do humans doubt? 1:13:00 - Where does shame come from? 1:14:30 - What is the power in acknowledging guilt? 1:15:40 - Why it’s important not to demonize religion after you’ve left it! 1:18:05 - Where can you connect with Dennis Gable? 1:18:20 - What does he do everyday to make himself happy? Don’t forget to “Like” and subscribe to get notified each time a new episode is released! Connect with Dennis Gable: Instagram: @DennisGable https://www.instagram.com/dennisgable/ Or on his Website: https://www.dennisgable.com/ Connect with Danny Hoefelmann on Instagram: @TheGoodHoff https://www.instagram.com/thegoodhoff/ Join “The Good In Today” Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thegoodintoday/

We're all familiar with the "Golden Rule," treat others how you want to be treated. But do we treat ourselves like that? Do you treat yourself the way you wish others would treat you or the way you wish others would treat someone you love? Sometimes we can be really hard on ourselves. On this episode, I'm talking about a lesson I learned from my wife on how to talk to yourself in a way that actually builds you up! How would you talk to a loved one if they were struggling? What would you say to your daughter if she was telling herself she didn't like the way she looked? What would you say to your best friend if they told you they sucked at literally everything? More than likely, you'd make sure they knew that those things weren't actually true. You'd remind them where they are in their journey and to keep going. It's easy for most of us to see the "awesome" in other people. This week, I challenge you to look for it in yourself! Thank you so much for listening! Don't forget to "like" and subscribe if you got any value out of this! Connect with me on Instagram: @TheGoodHoff https://www.instagram.com/thegoodhoff/  

I had the pleasure of sitting down with Nicole Myden, the founder of The PR Concierge! Nicole is an entrepreneur who built her “perfect life” in LA over a 10-year career in PR only to have it fall apart after a 6-month marriage at 35. Today we’re talking about why you need to stop worrying about everything you “should have” accomplished by this point in your life and start focusing on what you can do today! Episode Notes: - Who is Nicole Myden? - What brought her to Phoenix? - How has she rebuilt since her divorce? - Should you always be a positive person? - Why do people stay in abusive relationships? - What’s the best investment you can make in yourself? - What is self-worth? - How do you set healthy boundaries? - How do you define meditation? - How do you overcome feeling like things are woo-woo? - How do we get rid of the stigma of therapy? - How do you take ownership of your own problems? - Should divorces be taboo? - How did Nicole’s father passing change her outlook on life? - How does Nicole start her day on the right foot? - Should you set long term goals? - How do you move through life without attachment to an outcome? - “Wouldn’t it be cool if…” - Learning to keep promises to yourself! Thank you so much for listening! Don’t forget to “like” and subscribe if you got any value out of this conversation! Connect with Nicole Myden on Instagram on Instagram: @NicoleMyden https://www.instagram.com/nicolemyden/ Get PR help from Nicole: https://theprconcierge.com/ Instagram: @ThePRConcierge https://www.instagram.com/theprconcierge/ If you'd like to be a part of The Good In Today Facebook group, join here: http://bit.ly/TheGoodInToday Catch up with me on Instagram: @TheGoodHoff https://www.instagram.com/thegoodhoff/

Today I’m diving into how to change the story you tell yourself and why that’s so important. I brought on Mitchell Hancock; a husband, father, entrepreneur, and all around good guy. Mitch has not only lived a lot of the experiences that we talk about but he also helps coach people through their problems with the companies that he’s a part of. We dove into: 1:57 - Who is Mitchell Hancock? 2:45 - When did he first realize that he had depressive habits? 4:54 - What are habits to avoid that brought on negative feelings? 7:10 - What I learned from attending an event for the American Foundation For Suicide Prevention 9:05 - When did Mitch learn about personal development and coaching? 10:05 - What happens when you identify as a “depressed” person? 12:19 - Do you believe in affirmations? 14:00 - Can affirmations help you rewire your brain? 15:00 - What questions do you ask yourself daily? Are they quality questions? 18:00 - How much did faith and spirituality play a role in Mitch’s turn around? 22:48 - When should you tell your partner about your hard times in your past? Or should you? 25:30 - Why there’s power in helping others when you’re at your lowest points! 27:11 - Why people who have been through hard things are uniquely qualified to help other people through the same situations 29:27 - What drove Mitch to a career change? 31:13 - How do you communicate your goals with your spouse? 35:05 - Are in person events necessary for personal growth? 37:24 - What can people expect if they attend, “Master Your Power Within?” 39:44 - How to integrate new skills and habits 44:10 - What is the difference between a ritual and a habit? 46:26 - What happens when you change the story that you tell yourself? Thank you so much for listening! Don’t forget to “like” and subscribe if you got any value out of this conversation! Make sure to follow Mitchell Hancock on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=mitchell%20hancock&epa=SEARCH_BOX Instagram: @mitchhancock https://www.instagram.com/mitchhancock/ Mentioned in this episode: Companies Mitch Works For: https://www.masteryourpowerwithin.com/ https://healthsyncglobal.com/ “The Ultimate Sales Machine” - Chet Holmes https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Sales-Machine-Turbocharge-Relentless/dp/1591842158/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+ultimate+sales+machine&qid=1555196874&s=gateway&sr=8-1 Mitch’s Questions that He Asks himself: http://healthsyncglobal.com/zona/ Mitch’s Daily Audio Questions: http://healthsyncglobal.com/greatness2/?fbclid=IwAR2-0CSZJpCW1BOY97qUyxFHxxKEHP2Ush082t23Qq0qj4v1g2RrIbaMQ9M

Today I'm talking about why I believe we'd all be better off if we would acknowledge that we aren't in control. There are things that we can control but we never know what life is going to throw at us. I go into what life was like when I got laid off and the lessons that it taught me: - We are capable of more than we think if we don't fight it and embrace being out of our comfort zones. - What we tie our identities to can make us or break us. If you'd like to be a part of The Good In Today Facebook group, join here: http://bit.ly/TheGoodInToday Catch up with me on Instagram: @TheGoodHoff https://www.instagram.com/thegoodhoff/

I sat down with Ashley Law, the founder of Speak Up Buttercup! Ashley is a public speaker and mental health advocate specializing in encouraging women to have self confidence through learning to love themselves the way they are RIGHT NOW! We dive into her story of competing at the highest level and being an NFL Cheerleader and then having to give it all up to handle her eating disorder that almost took her life. Here’s what we dove into: 1:05 - Who is Ashley Law? 2:51 - What is my goal for The Good In Today Podcast? 5:07 - How did Ashley become the host for the Why Arizona Podcast, Season 2? 6:30 - Why does Ashley talk about hard things publicly? 10:06 - My background (Danny Hoefelmann) dealing with suicidal thoughts 11:04 - How a Facebook live changed my outlook and showed me that I can impact people. 12:25 - What happens when you’re open about your trials? 14:50 - How did I get out of my biggest depression funk? 16:30 - Why do we block out a lot of the moments of our hardest trials? 19:01 - How writing a book has helped Ashley see parts of her past in a new perspective. 21:40 - What causes eating disorders? 22:54 - How to identify an eating disorder? 26:05 - Having the “it could be worse” mentality 27:35 - Are you an optimist or a realist? How do you know? 31:32 - Why do people compete for who has the hardest life? 33:23 - How do you share hard things and not sound like you’re asking for sympathy? 34:49 - How do you keep yourself from becoming known for your problems? 36:57 - When should you tell your partner about your trials? 42:00 - How do you find the vocabulary to communicate better with your partner? 42:28 - How do you identify emotions and how to communicate them? 44:36 - How do you tell your partner that you just want them to listen, not solve your problem? 47:00 - Are you ever really “recovered” from an eating disorder? 50:50 - Why I disagree with the 12 Step Programs 53:05 - What are ways to focus on loving yourself? 57:00 - How to reframe thoughts into gratitude. 58:00 - Why you can’t make lasting change until you learn to love yourself the way you are, NOW! 58:45 - “You’re either growing or you’re dying. There ain’t no third direction.” - Big Tom Callahan 1:00:00 - How Ashley is dealing with infertility and feelings of things being unfair. 1:02:28 - What are daily habits that promote good mental health? 1:03:37 - How do you strengthen your self confidence? 1:05:12 - What does Ashley do daily to learn to have better mental health? 1:07:05 - Why I’m grateful for Ashley Law 1:09:22 - How listening to Nicki Minaj and Cardi B can change your life. ;) Thank you so much for listening! Don’t forget to “like” and subscribe if you got any value out of this conversation! You can follow along with Ashley on her blog: https://speakconfident.org/ Follow along with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/speakupbuttercup_/ Catch up with me, Danny Hoefelmann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegoodhoff/  

There are a lot of things out there in the world today that claim they'll bring you happiness. Most of them are complete B.S.  Today I want to talk about what happiness even is and how we all try to get it. I have a personal belief that happiness is a skill. There are certain things that we can each do every single day that are proven to increase your level of happiness. Most of them are so simple that a lot of us overlook them. I read a book a few years ago that changed the way I looked at the subject. It is partially what inspired this podcast. That book was "The Happiness Advantage" by Shawn Achor. In it, he talks about some of the different steps that we can each take every day and things that we can easily implement to improve our lives. We can obviously improve on our ability to complete those tasks. Hence, I believe happiness is a skill. Let me know what your feeling are on the subject and if you have anything to add to the conversation! Find me on Instagram: @TheGoodHoff https://www.instagram.com/thegoodhoff    

This is "The Good In Today" podcast! My name is Danny Hoefelmann. (Hay-Full-Man)   No matter how bad a person's day is, I believe there is always some good in it. This is my place to highlight positive stories happening in the world today and to talk about taboo conversations that I wish more people were willing to open up about. As someone who has struggled with mental health for most of his life, this is the next step in my journey to help better understand how to overcome my struggles. I'll do this by bringing on guest who can give their expertise and use their own stories to help other people through the process.   I'll talk to you soon!