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Ep. 129 - Target stores nationwide have fully embraced the gender confusion mania with their new "Take Pride" apparel line. I walked into a store this week to check things out for myself. I saw female-style swimsuits which offered a "tuck option" along with an extra wide crotch for biological males. I saw graphic tees geared toward teen girls featuring large print that said, "Busy thinking about girls." But the worst products by far were the rainbow colored BABY bibs and onesies with text like "I am PROUD of you always."  How should we respond to this? How should we navigate this Biblically? As shocking as Target's bold displays are...what if this is simply the natural next step for a society that has rejected God as the Creator? Let's unpack this together. Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 128 - A prominent conservative recently made some comments about porn that got everyone talking. Many started discussing whether viewing porn was an okay substitute for actually going out and cheating on (committing adultery) your spouse. Do men  need sexual variety and therefore need porn as a way to handle their sexuality well? Is porn an okay addition if you and your spouse have a committed relationship? Should you be thankful your husband is viewing porn rather than sleeping around? Let's unpack all of this and more with Bethany's husband, David Beal. Connect with Bonny Burns: Strong Wives (Get Help with Sexual Pain and Hurt) Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 127 - Enjoy this replay. Finding purpose, worth, identity, and true joy are core desires of every woman. Sadly though, many of us are finding ourselves in a place that is void of the very things we long for. This is because we’re looking to ourselves and the world for answers about our purpose, worth, and identity as women rather than God’s Word. We need to remind ourselves that God is our loving creator and has an amazing plan for our lives as females. Our deepest desires will only be realized when we fully surrender our lives to God and get back to His timeless design for our womanhood.Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link  Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 126 - Many married women find themselves having intercourse with their husband physically, but they're a million miles away in their minds. Sexual temptation doesn't disappear when you get married. The lustful heart that was there before marriage is the same lustful heart that goes into marriage. This isn't a comfortable or easy topic. Opening up about sinfully lusting and fantasizing about other men isn't easy.Let's jump into this uncomfortable but needed conversation. God, Sex, and Your Marriage How to Deal with Intrusive Thoughts During Sex Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link  Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 125 - Growing up in a family with five sisters gave us tons of room for comparison. We're all different heights, weights, body types and just look different. We all had to work hard to appreciate and THANK God for our differences. In today's episode, the two of us open up about our own insecurities and how we've handled body image issues as christian woman through the changing seasons of life. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 124 - The content subscription platform OnlyFans exploded in popularity during the pandemic. Many college aged girls found themselves home from school, out of work and desperate for money. This new London based platform promised easy money for sexy pics. Many young women decided to jump in and give it a go. Sadly, OnlyFans takes most creators MUCH further than they ever imagined they'd go. Many promising to never post nudes found themselves needing to post x-rated content to make ends meet. Let's unpack the negative impact this has had on many modern women. Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 123 - Enjoy this replay. Gender pronouns are all the rage right now. Instagram has even updated their bio feature to include your pronouns as a feature of who you are. Youtube will kick you out if you do not refer to someone by their preferred pronouns. Commercials have resorted to actors verbally communicating their pronouns so that everyone knows who they are. Guess what? We're not a fan of this movement. We think the issue of pronouns is a big one. We need something more helpful than pronouns. Let's unpack what God's Word has to say and see if we can find lasting answers to the question "Who am I?"NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 122 - You've been here with us through our dating, to engagement, to marriage, to having babies and now to this. We've been pretty open about our marriage...but this is the MOST vulnerable we've ever been with you. We're answering these questions:  Does it bother Dav that you talk so openly about sex online?  What did you think of your age gap at first VS now? How do you resolve conflict and do you do it away from your kids?  What do you and Bethany disagree on and how do you handle the difference of opinions?  And more.We're excited to share our lives with you and hopefully encourage you in the process. Bethany's Resources: The Ultimate Sex Course for Married Women150 Questions To Strengthen Your Marriage Girl Defined Resources:  Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 121 - When it comes organizing and managing the home, most Christian women feel overwhelmed and underprepared for this daily task. As a result, we find ourselves constantly frustrated OR feeling indifferent to the piling dishes and never-ending laundry. Maybe what we all need is a little heart adjustment followed by a big dose of practical skills, tips, and training. As a self-made organizing guru, Deb VonBergen is here to help us all! Whether you're single, marriage, have kids or don't, this episode has something for every woman who desires to manage her space well. Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 120 - They met at a summer camp in the Carolina mountains at age 15 and 16 in 1978, then married four years later. Little did they know how ill-prepared they were for marriage and the first five years were horrific, with continuous disconnection and pain.It took MANY years of relational suffering for the Dr. Glenn & Phyllis to finally discover tools that worked for their marriage. They share their wisdom, expertise and hope-filled story in today's episode. CONNECT WITH DR. GLENN & PHYLLIS CODE: GIRL20FREE: Core Emotion Wheel Foundations Masterclass Late Night  Sex CourseNEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 119 - I had been planning a home birth since I found out I was pregnant with Audrey.  The birth tub was ready to go and I felt mentally and physically prepared. I woke up on December 22nd to the exciting realization that baby girl was COMING. My water was breaking and I knew that meant her arrival was going to happen one way or another. The next twelve hours went nothing like I had planned. That's because absolutely nothing happened. My water broke... but that was it. No contractions. NO progress. Nothing. I was beginning to feel stressed out. Thankfully my midwife came over and we came up with a plan. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link OTHER LINKS: My 7 Hour Labor and Home Birth StoryBethany's Story of Miscarriage and Loss Over the Past Year  RECOMMENDED BIRTH SOURCES: Ina May's Guide  to Childbirth  Pain Free Birth Christian Hypno Birthing The Business of Being BornSupport the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 118 - She has 10 kids and is only 40 years old! She homeschools, writes books, potty trains, hosts a podcast, and still goes on weekly date nights with her husband. Say whaaat?? Meet Abbie Halberstadt, the woman behind the popular Instagram account called "M is for Mama." She's a mom on a mission leading thousands of women in a rebellion against mediocre motherhood. And she wants us to join her! Let's talk all things motherhood, raising kids, prioritizing marriage, getting in the Word, managing our homes, self care vs. soul care, and more! Whether you're a mom or not, you'll find this episode super encouraging. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link  Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 117 - Have you been wrestling with a specific sexual sin and can't seem to break free? No matter how hard you pray or read your Bible, the sin persists? As a Christian woman, this can feel extremely discouraging. You might even begin to doubt if freedom is  possible. If that's you (or someone you know), then this episode is for you! Although sin is strong...Jesus is stronger! Don't give up hope. Jesus wants freedom and victory for you. His power is made perfect in our weakness. By His grace, you can walk the path of freedom from sexual sin. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 116 - Growing up in a family with 19 kids and living most of her childhood on reality TV, Jinger Duggar Vuolo has a unique life to say the least. Millions of people loved watching the 19 Kids and Counting show, but often wondered why the Duggars had such strict rules about modesty, romantic relationships, and music. Most people had never heard of a man named Bill Gothard, but behind the scenes, his teachings were the driving force behind the Duggar's ultra-conservative lifestyle.   As an adult now, Jinger has been on a journey of her own, questioning the rules and theology of her childhood. Rather than throwing out her faith altogether, she's seeking to disentangle the lies from the truth. Today, we get to chat with Jinger firsthand and ask her all about her new book, Becoming Free Indeed: My Story of Disentangling Faith From Fear. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 115 - Imagine walking into a strip club for the first time with one simple goal - to share the gospel with the women who work there. This is exactly what a woman named Rachelle Starr has been doing for years now. Her heart is burdened and broken for the thousands of women who find themselves (for one reason or another) stuck in a repetitive cycle of working in the sex industry.  You will be blown away by what God is doing through Rachelle's work as the gospel of Jesus pierces some of the darkest industries on our planet. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 114 - Let's be honest. Valentine's Day isn't always what it's cracked up to be. Regardless of what we see on the Hallmark Channel, rarely do things turn out that perfectly. In singleness, we often feel bummed because we don't have that special someone. Then in marriage, we often feel bummed because our special day isn't turning out to be as romantic as we'd imagined! We can attest to feeling both of these ways. In today's episode, we're going to spill the beans and tell you about our worst and best Valentine's Days ever. Then, we're going to get honest about how we can all benefit from pursuing a more Christ-centered "Agape love" this Valentin'e Day and ditching the shallow version of "Hallmark Love."To take a deeper dive into all things love, romance, dating and marriage, check out our book, Love Defined: Discovering God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep.  113 - *Enjoy this replay! After ministering to singles for over a decade, JP Pokluda knows what it takes to date with success as a Christian. He’s seen the pitfalls and struggles firsthand and is here to offer you a radically better way to date.  In today’s episode, JP brings powerful insight and wisdom directly to the Girl Defined Sisterhood! He covers everything from the pitfalls of modern dating, what to look for in a guy, how to know if you have the gift of singleness, how to ask your boyfriend if he struggles with porn, physical attraction, arranged marriages, and much more.  Don’t miss this incredible conversation as JP helps you date intentionally and find love that lasts.NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your StoryGirl Defined BookMUST GET BOOKS: Love Defined BookSex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookShine Bright DevotionalConnect with JP PokludaConnect with JP PokludaJP's Book: Outdated Support the showSupport the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 112 - Married women have tons of burning questions about intimacy and sex. "Where did my libido go the second I got married?" and "I've never had an orgasm. How can I overcome this?" and "How to know what's okay in bed and what's not?" The list goes on. Christian married women need help, direction and hope in this area. Google isn't cutting it. We need real advice from a real sex expert. Join us today as we ask Francie Winslow many crucial questions about married sex. To learn more about God's design for sexuality, gender, and Biblical womanhood, grab a copy of: Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girls Heart.NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link CONNECT WITH FRANCIE WINSOW Heaven in Your HomeSupport the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 111 - Today we're talking to Blake Howard, a man who was once a drag queen and living his life as an openly gay man. He shares how his homosexual relationships and drag performances provided temporary happiness and purpose, but ultimately left him feeling more alone and empty than before. Blake shares his journey of finding Jesus and ultimately leaving everything behind to pursue Biblical manhood instead.  To learn more about God's design for sexuality, gender, and Biblical womanhood, grab a copy of: Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girls Heart.Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 110 - Enjoy this replay! It often feels like having an open and honest conversation about homosexuality, transgenderism, and/or abortion, is off limits. If the thoughts don't line up with the cultural norm, you better keep them to yourself. Despite the pressure to stay silent on these issues, we're not staying silent. There is too much at stake. God's Word isn't silent on these topics and neither should we be. In today's conversation, Professor Nancy Pearcey, brings her wisdom and expertise to the conversation. She unpacks what homosexuality, transgenderism, hookup culture and abortion all have in common. She shows us why our Designers intentional plan for our body matters. She tackles this tough topic with grace and love. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the show FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest