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If you are a father that is going to family court soon or in the near future, this week's episode is a must see. Michael Watson who is a professionally qualified social worker and author of two books, Family Court: Giving Evidence in Family Court and his second book is Represent-Yourself-Family-Court. He has over 33 years’ experience working with children and families. Michael is an expert in the family court at assessing parenting relationships and the various needs of children. He talks about how a person's emotion can hinder a person to stay objective. How to present all the evidence you have to the court. He tells us how a person should conduct themselves in court. He also talked about how important both mother and father are to the child. Michael even gives good examples as to when a parent should not be in a child’s life. Whether you have an attorney to represent you or you are doing it on your own, the information Michael Watson talks about is so important. You can reach him at familycourtcoaching@gmail.com. Learn what the hardest thing to do in court is. 

On this week episode we talked about How to Build an Intimate Relationship That Last a Lifetime with author, counselor, and a pioneer in the men’s and fatherhood movement Randell Turner, Ph.D. He has authored award-winning resources for National Center for Fathering, National Fatherhood Initiative, Prison Fellowship, and Fatherhood.gov. Randell Specializing in healthy masculine intimacy, he has dedicated over 20 years in working with men who feel broken, rejected, isolated, and lonely because of their struggles with “intimacy ignorance.” Dr. Turner says most men think of intimacy as something that leads to having sex. Intimacy is not something that men discuss or are taught. He says intimacy is who they are rather than what they do. He tells us that there are 5 different types and 5 different characteristics of intimacy that are all supposed to work together. Dr. Turner informs us that learning how to be more intimate helps with relationships with your kids, siblings, friends, and others in your circle. It allows people to bond with each other on many levels. His personal and professional experience inspired the creation of Rescuing the Rogue designed to equip men in forging intimate relationships to last a lifetime. His most recent work includes two small group study guides: Transformational Life and Relationship Foundations. We are going to have Dr. Turner back. If you have any questions about intimacy, email them to thefathershow@gmail.com and we’ll get the answers for you. 

This week’s episode we talked about How to Deal with an Untimely Death with Dr. Ron Cohen who is known as the Mindful Psychiatrist. We know how difficult it can be to lose a loved one. He tells us about the shame and guilt men associate that pain with. Men sometimes think that they did something wrong. They agonize over why he wasn’t able to protect the child. Then there is the embarrassment we sometimes feel around other men. That you are not a good father. Dr. Cohen gives us ways to navigate the hurt, shame and guilt of losing a child. Once again communication is important. However, Dr. Cohen says that even when words are not spoken, there is a lot of communication going on. He lets us know that there is no one way to go through grief.  

This week’s episode features Janet Price a divorce and co-parenting coach, the CEO of JP Coaching & Consulting, Inc and Founder of Divorce & Thriving Beyond. A child-product of divorce herself, she was caught in the middle, well into her adult years, of a high-conflict co-parent relationship. Janet understands all too well what happens to the children when they are ‘caught in the middle and how that can follow you into adulthood. When she went through her divorce she was in court 5 times in a ten year span, accuse of sexually abusing her two boys,   and received a no-contact- order from the court. She said courts, at least in her case, are not gender pacific. Janet provides her services through: One-on-one coaching • Group coaching • Educational workshops • Private Parent Membership Community. You can find out more about her at  https://jpcoachingandconsulting.com/divorce-beyond/

On this episode of The Father Show with Mike Thompson we had Gordon B. Ortiz Hamby (aka. Verve Coach Gordon), who is a professional Educator, Trainer, Coach, and Author. One of his specialties is Bullying Prevention. He himself experiences bullying from adults and other students when he returns to college at an older age. Gordon explains why people get bullied. He says that Bullying is a learned behavior so it can be unlearned. He gives us the difference in face-to-face bullying and cyberbullying. He explains how self-value is so important. We talk about his book “11 Energies of the Verve” and how it is a book everyone can all read no matter their age. Gordon is also a public Speaker and Pod Caster.

Today on the show we had Ross Nancarrow who is the Executive Director of International Mission Ministries and the organization Every Daughter Matters that focuses on stopping human trafficking in Nepal. The information he brought should be important to every parent no matter where you live. Human Trafficking is a world-wide problem. He informs us that some kids from other countries end up in Nepal as a commodity. Children as young as 5 years old are sold for body organs parts, slaves, force marriage, prostitution, force labor and more. Very few kids are able to escape. Ross is going to great links to help save as many children as he can find. So many people don’t realize how bad of a problem human trafficking is. We as men really need to be knowledgeable of this world-wide problem. We as fathers need to recognize the red flags we may see in our children. Ross gives a little insight into his life growing up. 

Today we had Keith Edwards we are going to explore traditional masculine gender norms, the masks men feel they have to put on to perform, the consequences of wearing these masks, and how they can begin to transcend these external expectations to discover who they are underneath these masks and live with vulnerability, authenticity, and integrity. We discuss how masculinity can be different for a man in different states, cultural, religions, ethnic groups, and which one should I put on. Keith explains how authenticity masculinity is so important to a man’s well-being. He gives us a story of a man who wanted to mourn the loss of a friend but just couldn’t do it due to the masculinity masks he has worn for so long. He tells how to remove the mask that we have been wearing and become the man that they really are. At the end of the show Keith tells us how others can get in touch with him.

This week’s episode we had Shannon Carpenter the author of The Ultimate Stay-at-Home Dad as well as the cohost of the DadhousePod. He is a nationally-known contributor on fatherhood/parenting/and at-home parenting. Shannon is a popular weekly columnist for the Good Men Project and a premier contributor to many parenting organizations such as City Dads Group. Over 14 years ago he became a stay-at-home dad. We talk about fatherhood mentorship. He says the numbers show that more and more dads want to spend time with their kids. We talk about paid leave for fathers and how important it is. He speaks on how women can hinder a man from being a more involved father. Shannon discusses why a man’s mental health is important to take care of.  His book “The Ultimate Stay-at-Home Dad gives a lot of insight from 57 other stay-at-home dads with humor and practical advice. You can find his books wherever books are sold including Flagship Books. Go to Dad House Podcast here: https://dadhousepod.com/category/episodes/

This week’s episode is with Bill de la Cruz who is the CEO of DeLaCruz Solutions to discuss the role of men in times of challenge and how to address our families about what is happening in the world. He tells us how we as people develop biases. Bill grew up in a home with a not so kind dad and because of that he thought that was how all men were. When we hear a person say “Those People” it is from a biased viewpoint. He tells us how people were biased against him growing up. Everyone is biased in some way but we need to be self-aware. Bill tells us that to really make a real step in the right direction is dialog. Bill tells us how men need to have more dialog with each other that you have grown a bias with to help lead this world to be more peaceful. By us doing this it will show our kids to do the same. Bill gives us a little insight into his book “Finding the Origination Point” which is about finding the origination point to healing and understanding as to where a bias originated from. You can reach via email inclusiontalk@comcast.net, on Twitter or Instagram @billdelac, his website is delacruzsolutions. You can get his book by emailing him directly. Bill also has a podcast called “The Origination Point” . Go there and subscribe.

This week on The Father Show with Mike Thompson our guest was Ed Frauenheim who is the Co-Author of Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection. He is a father of two teenage kids and a writer. Ed says masculinity is not confined to what our father and grandfathers did as mainly a protector, provider, and a conqueror. Men have become more involved, such as caregivers or spiritual seekers. Liberated Masculinity has open men up to being more involved with their kids, more expressive, and more loving to name a few. These changes not only benefit the child but also the father himself. Ed opens our eyes on how important relationships are in men’s life. Ed and the co-author have developed a formula based on research and speaking with other men called the 5 “C” that they suggest in order for a man to be more liberated. He also tells us how women can help liberate a man or hinder him.

This week on the show we had Chantal Contorines of The Divorce Hub and a Certified Divorce Coach discussing high conflict divorces with narcissist and or sociopath women. She gives you great advice as to what red flags you should be aware of. Chantal even explains how narcissists and sociopaths affect you once they have been a part of your life. She gives you a good idea of what to look for. She tells us what a man should be prepared for when he is about to divorce a narcissist or sociopathic person and where you can get help. Chantal warns us that they will try to turn your child against you. She tells us how men who are abused don’t talk about it and don’t seek help when they should. Chantal tells us the weapons that narcissistic or sociopathic women will use to make you suffer.   You can reach Chantal Contorines at chantal@thedivorcehub.ca

This week’s episode guest is Neil Tift who is the Outreach Coordinator for the Native American Fatherhood & Families Association (NAFFA) in Mesa Arizona. Neil is a biological father, an adoptive father, a grandfather of fourteen and a foster father. He starts by defining what is child development, when it starts, and the difference in the development of boys and girls in different stages of their development. Neil tells us the difference between how a mother interacts with a child compared to a father. He says as parents we help mode a male child’s masculinity. He explains how we as men can help young men and young ladies to stay away from gangs, young pregnancy, and dropping out of school, just to name a few benefits. He says 89% of men in prison come from fatherless homes. Neil explains the different ways girls and boys deal with issues, pain, and or trauma. He tells us how important it is for a father to teach a child impulse control. He tells us how kids spell love, T-I-M-E.  Neil can be reached at neilt@aznaffa.org or by calling the organization at 480-833-5007. 

I had the pleasure of having the CEO of Desert Rose Counseling Group Bianca McCall, LMFT on the show to give us ways to prevent suicide. Not just for men but also with our partners and children. She starts with the definition of “What is Mental Health”. In her practice she changes the focus to Mental Fitness which changes our focus to being fit for everyday life. Bianca explains how we as humans need to be careful of the company we keep, the information we let into our heads from social media, things we watch, and listen to. All of it affects our mental health. We have to be more aware of our mental fitness. Bianca tells us about ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) which directly link trauma that we may have experienced in our childhood that affects our mental health. She gives us ways we can identify stress and how we can normalize experiences that we may have occurred. Bianca explains how we as parents have to be the model that we want our children to be. How we as parents need to better understand what our young people know but not the language to explain what they are feeling.  How we as parents have to be careful of the language we use with our kids. She tells us how our kids lose hope. Bianca tells us when a person commit suicide it is not because that what to but are willing to die for something. You can reach her at Reach In Now along with other trainers and peer support at reachinnow.com that has online courses and a mobile application.

Joan Rogliano a nationally recognized Real Estate Divorce Specialist (REDS) who has been featured on the TODAY Show. A divorcee herself, she consults with divorcing families to help them make the right decision about what to do with the marital home. She says that when a person is about to go through a divorce, they really need to be informed when making the decision to keep or sell the marital home and other properties you may have. It could end up being a very emotional and or financial decision. Joan discusses when you should inform your children about the divorce and when they should have some kind of say about it. She explains about nesting and how that works. Joan gives great options and ideals about how best to handle different situations when you are ending your marriage. She explains how she can bring a team together to help with the complexity of your divorce that works with your attorney.   She has a book that was written for her client and consumers titled “Your Keys to Moving On- A Guide to Navigating Divorce and the Marital Home”. You can find it on Amazon and there is a Kindle version as well. You can reach Joan Rogliano at joan@roglianorealestategroup.com 

Nick Willis Sr the CEO of Fatherhood Leadership Initiative to talk about Politics of Co-Parenting. He tells us the trials and tribulation he and his children went through when he separated from his wife after 11 years. Nick’s greatest pain was not being able to see his children on a daily bases and struggling to father from a distance.  Nick also struggled with his identity during this time and experienced severe depression. After going through intensive counseling and making a commitment to serve his children, his paradigm on fathering began to shift, making a transition from dictator to daddy. He tells how he and his former spouse saw that they had to make a change in their co-parenting due to the effect it was having on their kids. Nick began exhaustive research on fatherhood to help men who battle with relations with their children. Today he has custody of his kids.  You can reach Nick at info@fatherforthedistance.org Any man that would like to be a part of his Influencers call dealing with Fatherhood go to his website at  www.lovelinkilead.org  &  www.Fatherforthedistance.org which provides resources for men.

Today on The Father Show we had Jay Deitcher who is a writer and a stay-at-home dad. He talks about how he knows he has to spend time between his writing, being a dad, and a husband. He tells us how his friends and people he meets judge him in a negative way when they hear that he is a stay-at-home dad. Jay tells us how he was able to bond with his kids and he gives different examples as to how you can build a bond with your child.

Darvincia Warren, also known as The Money Chic is the owner of DW Tax Prep LLC. Darvincia tells us DW Tax Prep is a comprehensive financial services organization which focuses on leading families to financial freedom with an educational approach. They teach families how to reach the financial goal they have set for themselves. How we shouldn’t live from paycheck to paycheck. She gives us ideas in ways a person can save and what you should be saving for. Darvincia explains but debt. How to use it and what it is for. She lets us know about the financial formula of 72. She tells us how soon should a person start saving. Darvincia tells us how compounding interest works.   

On The Father Show today we have Julia Keller of Mindful Youth Institute talking about Youth Mindfulness. She explains just what mindfulness is, how it works and how it can help adults and children. Julia gives instructions on how to get kids into mindfulness and how old they should be to start practicing mindfulness. She explains how mindfulness can help kids with ADHD. She tells us that mindfulness could possibly help stop school shootings. Teaching mindfulness can help kids love themselves better. Julia gives us 5 different ways to do mindfulness practice. She informs us that a lot of us practice mindfulness already. Check out her book "Mindful Interventions in Special Education". 

Fitness Coach Montel Hardin of Hustle Fit Online Coaching explains why working out is so important for everyone. Montel tells us that working out 2 to 5 days a week or most importantly, whatever your schedule will consistently allow. He said that a person should workout at the time of the day he or she is less stressed and around their eating habits. He tells us what kind of stretching you should do before and after your workout. Montel said we need to check our ego at the gym door before you hurt yourself. 

Mark Hayes the CEO of Bridge South Investments (BSI) a real estate investment firm joined me on the show to tell us more about investing in real estate and the different forms of real estate investments. He said there are 2 sectors when it comes to real estate investing. He gives great information on ways to get started. Mark gives the kind of strategy that will help you build wealth and what kind of lender that would be better to deal with in real estate investment. He even lets us know that there is Crowdfunding for accredited investors that would like to invest. Mark will be coming out with his book that will guide those that would like to get started in real estate investment.