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On this episode, Jennifer chats with Ryan Eller, creator of the #LiveYourList project and co-host of The Live Your List Show.  Ryan and Jennifer talk about changing the paradigm in how people view "the bucket list". (The concept, not the movie.) Ryan shares: What it means to Live your List.  Why we should make bucket lists... … even if (especially if?) we will never accomplish everything on them. … even if we already have an idea in our heads of what we want to accomplish. How a bucket list can take us beyond accomplishing things for the sake of crossing them off a list and into finding our purpose in life. “Even if I’m accomplishing my goals, why am I here if I’m not impacting other people?” “Whatever your world is - a kindergarten class, your accounting firm - you have a chance to change it." Where to Start if you don't yet have a list, or aren't yet "living your list". - Write down your list. If you don’t, you have “bucket thoughts”, not a list. It’s hard to live your list without a list - Have a “wow” conversation before you have a “how” conversation - Find something you can start right now. Even the smallest accomplishment can give you the motivation and confidence you need to take on the world What it means to "find your verb". What is the difference between “purpose", “passion", “career”, “calling” and other similar buzzwords? Be sure to check out these other resources! Ryan's Ted Talk: How a Bucket List saved my Life The Live your List Project and Show (also available on iTunes, Stitcher, etc) The Live your List Facebook Community Paradigm Shift, Ryan's team-building and leadership training business

Casey Lewis is an author, speaker, and podcaster, and perhaps his favorite title: amateur adventurer. We sit down and talk about getting rid of debt, the dangers of having "enough money", how to chase adventure and prioritize your family, and why Texas is superior to Ohio when it comes to queso. Thanks for listening!

Welcome back friends, to the every-so-slightly updated Delightful Life podcast! You'll notice a few changes around here, but it's still the same show. I hope that's a good thing! :) First things first, a quick reminder that the show will be evolving just a bit over the weeks to come. My husband has great insight on life, my kids are funy, and the "normal, possibly boring moments" are where we often find great conversations and memories - so I'd like to try and bring a few of those real life things into the conversation.   We are always looking for the next big thing, but often kind of just trudge through the moments between. Life doesn't have to be that way, right? The Delightful Life is a journey for all of us - being intentional about how we spend our time, who we spend it with, finding delight in the moments that don't seem big or magical. We want to do this together. What brings you joy? What are you created to do? How are you wired to serve other people? What are the relationships that are most important? Which are toxic? How can you organize things and be productive so that you can maximize the free time you have? That may sound like a hodge podge of topics, but they all have one idea in mind: intentionally pursuing delight in our lives.   IT'S THE PICK OF THE WEEK In this new segment, someone from our family will share something we find worthwhile. It may be the lastest American Girl book, some garage cleaning product (almost certainly not), a life-changing book, a family game. You'll just have to check it out each week! :)This week, I took a quick look at The Art of Work, by Jeff Goins.   INTERVIEW with MATT HAM Find out: What is Bowtie Friday? " Can I wear a bowtie and be generous? Grateful? Humble?" What 5 words changed Matt's definition of "richness"? How do we begin to apply RICH principles? Recognize you're broken. Invest in others. Choose gratitude.  "Too often people view gratitude as a feeling, not a choice." Humble yourself with confidence. What are some practical ways we can shift to a mindset of gratitude? What is this giant pickle that interrupted Jennifer and Matt's conversation?! What is the key difference between gratitude and entitlement? What does it mean to take your thoughts captive, and why is it important? "The longing to be affirmed by someone is actually humility. How can we distinguish "chasing awards" versus simply wanting a healthy dose of affirmation? How can parents in the thick of raising little people apply the RICH principles? Why is it imperative that we do, before we can ask our kids to? "We project our best desires on our children, but we let ourselves off the hook." What is the difference between fighting for your kids, and fighting with them? What does "Whole Life Matters" mean? What does Eminem have to do with Jesus? What advice would Matt give his younger self?   RESOURCES AND MENTIONS The Delightful Life Episode 033 - "State of the Podcast Address" The In-Between by Jeff Goins The In-Between review on Delightful.Life The Art of Work by Jeff Goins MattHam.com Redefine Rich by Matt Ham Matt's closing keynote from Launch Out 2015 Shawn Smith, the Mobile Pro Fear Fears Truth from Delightful.Life Matt's Post: Do you Fight with your Children? Whole Life Matters (Matt's podcast)   Let's Get Social! Connect with Jennifer and/or the Delightful Life community on Facebook. Tweet at Jennifer. Leave a rating and/or review on iTunes or Stitcher to help spread the word about living a life of delight. Leave a comment on this episode or find other resources at Delightful.Life

Not sure where my kids' introduction went at the beginning of the show, but don't worry - I'm not getting rid of it :)   I'm back after a summer hiatus, with an update on the show. I've missed you guys! Our summer was crazy with even more travel, the difficult decision to rehome our dog, and so much more. Here's what I share: - Why I need to pivot (Pivot!) - Why Social Media Marketing World (#SMMW15) was the one of the best decisions of my year, and one of the worst - What social media marketing "job" I gave up, but how loudly social media marketing calls my name   - What took me away from actually creating content that I love to create,    "I know everything about how to run an amazing business... but I have no interest in running a business at all." - The mantra and just-for-fun YouTube video that reminded me why I started sharing online (9 years ago!) in the first place "There are a lot of things we find interesting that we don't need to pursue with fervor. There is a lot that you could be great at, that isn't your calling." - How Podcast Movement (#PM15) began to challenge me about the future of this show and how I define "success" What to expect from The Delightful Life when it actually returns: see also: I just don't have enough on-demand wisdom for a weekly solo show about one topic!  - vulnerable moments from my real life as my husband and I solve the problems of the world and my children teach me important life lessons - conversations with my kids about life, learning, Disney, and whatever else they'd like to share - interviews... because the fact that our stories matter hasn't changed just because the show may   We're getting back to the root of the Delightful Life -- You can have meaningful conversations with people at work, even if what you do doesn't feel meaningful. You can create precious memories with your family in the moments that don't seem noteworthy. Those unassuming little moments in your home that don't feel like much may be the very things that change your world.   RESOURCES & MENTIONS The Delightful Life home page, where you may find even more of what you're looking for - especially if the podcast turns into something that doesn't meet your needs anymore. (No love lost!) TDL 003: Why I think everyone should get up at 5am (now that I've started trying again) Nolan at the Museum - a not-so-important video of one of my cute kiddos When Close Friends Live Far Away - a beautiful article on sharing the little moments   LET'S GET SOCIAL Find the Delightful Life on Facebook Chat with Jennifer on Twitter Watch videos (even if they aren't super meaningful) on YouTube See behind-the-scenes on Instagram

Hi friends! If you'd like to check out the video from this presentation instead (along with the other amazing speakers at Launch Out 2015), you can do so HERE   RESOURCES & MENTIONS Launch Out Conference (2015 recaps + stay tuned for info on three locations in 2016!) TDL 004: Ryan Eller on Bucket Lists and changing your world, no matter the size TDL 011: on Goal Setting TDL 016: Your Ideal Week (in greater detail)   Let's Get Social! Connect with The Delightful Life Community on Facebook Connect with other parents, Disney fans, and people who generally like kids on the For the Love of Disney Facebook Page Leave a rating and/or review on iTunes or Stitcher to help spread the world about living a life of Delight Leave a comment on this episode or find other resources and ways to connect with Jennifer at Delightful.Life

Jennifer talks with Corie Clark, author of The Simplicity Project and creator of the Purposeful Planner.   Are we doing the thing God wants us to do? How does Corie's faith impact herbusiness? Where does an overwhelmed person begin finding simplicity? -PLUS- Corie's actionable steps to finding your purpose     Resources and Mentions Corie's Site (for her writing, 6-week Declutter Challenge, updates on The Purposeful Planner, and more!)   What the heck is washi tape?   The Simplicity Project by Corie Clark The Best Yes by Lesa Teurkherust      Keep in touch during our Summer Break! ... on twitter ... on instagram ... on youtube ... on facbook (and in the Delightful Life community)  

In a break from the normal format of the show (what is normal, anyway?), Jennifer shares a chapter of her story from her blog at Delightful.Life and expounds on it. "My story is messy, and its a work in progress. But at least I know it's worth it." Your life is a gift. Do what matters.   RESOURCES AND MENTIONS My (not so) Dirty Little Secret on Delightful.Life Michael Hyatt's This is Your Life podcast   GET SOCIAL! Twitter: @jnkaufman Instagram: /jenniferkaufman Facebook: The Delightful Life Community   and   For the Love of Disney    

Your best you - because nothing less is acceptable, and nothing more is possible.On this episode, Jennifer chats with Clay Shaver (host of The Remodeling Clay Podcast). They discuss Clay's show and answer the following questions:- Michigan or Michigan State?- Do the one-liners write themselves?- What is "Remodeling Clay"?- What changed in Clay's life when he and his wife decided to live intentionally? (See also: how to lose 225 pounds and pay off thousands of dollars in consumer debt.)- What is paralysis by analysis? Gems:"We are constantly inundated with the idea that anything short of perfect is not acceptable.""Every day you are given the gift of opportunity. It's completely up to you what you do with it.""We owe it to the world to give the best versions of ourselves.""You haven't failed if you haven't begun... but you also haven't accomplished anything.""Your life has to be full of action words."RESOURCES AND MENTIONSRemodeling Clay podcast and website TDL 004: Live your List w/Ryan Eller Launch Out   GET SOCIAL! Connect with The Delightful Life Community on Facebook Connect with parents, Disney fans, and people who generally like kids on the For the Love of Disney Facebook page Leave a rating and/or review on itunes or stitcher to help spread the word about living a life of DELIGHT Leave a comment on this episode or find othe resources and ways to connect with Jennifer or the community at Delightful.Life

Jennifer just returned from the Disney Social Media Moms Celebration (#DisneySMMC) in Walt Disney World. One presenter stood out as she was headed home.  Donald Driver told stories from his own life (you'll have to listen to hear those!), and four profund lessons for all of us.   WHY do you do what you do? Your words can be used to bring pain and shame, or they can bring positive change. Think before you speak. "It only takes a second to say harsh words, but it can take a lifetime for someone to get over hearing them." - Donald Driver If you're not trying to inspire, encourage, or change someone's life, why are you doing it? What did I not say because I thought I'd have another chance? Find out what makes you tick, and share that.  The thing you are wired to do will come naturally to you. There may be obstacles and difficulties, but it will feel right.   TAKEAWAYS 1. Why do you do what you do? If you're not doing it to inspire people or change your world, why are you doing it? 2. How are you using your words? Are you bringing pain and shame or positive change and encouragement? 3. What have you not said because you think there is time? Call out the good when you see it. Tell someone what they mean (or what they did means) to you. 4. What do you value? What makes you you, what are you wired to do?   You can use your words and your story to change someone's life. Go out and try it.   RESOURCES & MENTIONS My Biggest Takeaway from the Disney Social Media Moms Celebration on Delightful.Life Quickie Stands up to a Bully by Donald Driver (Just one of a series of "Quickie" books!) Call Out the Good on Delightful.LifeKids on Blogs and Social Media - A Mother's Day video from #DisneySMMC 2015 The Donald Driver Story (Bryan John, youtube) The Donald Driver Foundation From Homeless to Hero: My Journeys on and off Lambeau Field by Donald Driver

Today Jennifer wraps up the series based on Steven Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. If the first three habits are personal or introspective and the second three are interpersonal, the seventh and final habit ties them all together. "Sharpen the Saw"-- Preserve and enhance the greatest asset you have: YOU. No matter what you do, you do it uniquely and have been gifted and wired to do so. The best thing you can do in order to be more effective at anything is to become the best version of you. FOUR AREAS OF GROWTH AND LEARNING (and what we can do about it) 1. Physical (exercise, eating well, stress management...) 2. Social/Emotional (learning to listen, empathize, value relationships and build into them...) 3. Spiritual (clarifying your values, finding your 'why', meditating, praying, reading...) 4. Mental (listening to podcasts, reading, taking (or teaching)! a class...)   Continuing to learn far after you're out of school, having a "lifestyle of learning", increases our effectiveness at anything.THIS WEEK: list two tasks in each area of growth (Physical, Social/Emotional, Spiritual, Mental) that you will be mindful of, that you would like to improve upon. Make yourself aware of these changes you want to make, even if you don't nail them 100% of the time.   If you don't change, the world around you probably won't change either. Whether your world is 4 people or 4 million people, you have an impact on it.    RESOURCES & MENTIONS Habit #1: Be Proactive (TDL 019) Habit #2: Begin with the End in Mind (TDL 020) Habit #3: Put First Things First (TDL 021) Habit #4: Think Win-Win (TDL 023) Habit #5: Seek first to Understand, then Be Understood (TDL 024) Habit #6: Synergize (TDL 025) TDL 010: The Company we Keep TDL026: Nobody should suffer in silence | Interview with Lindsay Ensor   Podcasts for a Lifestyle of Learning (Jennifer's and Kyle's list) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey The Best Yes by Lysa Terkeurst Crucial Conversations by Kerry Patterson Start with Why by Simon SinekFOLLOW OUR ADVENTURE AT DISNEY SOCIAL MEDIA MOMS CONFERENCE (May 5-10, 2015) on twitter on instagram on youtube on facebook GET SOCIAL! Connect with The Delightful Life Community on Facebook Connect with parents, Disney fans, and people who generally like kids on the For the Love of Disney Facebook page Leave a rating and review on itunes or stitcher to help spread the word about living a life of DELIGHT. Leave a comment on this episode or find other resources and ways to connect with Jennifer or the community at Delightful.Life

Jennifer talks to Lindsay Ensor, author of "The Girl Inside: Silent No More", about mental health awareness, stigma, and advocacy. If you suffer from any kind of mental illness, know someone who does, or think you may ever know someone who might :) .... this is an episode you should hear.RESOURCES MENTIONEDThe Girl Inside: Silent No More by Lindsay Ensor Lindsay's Site: Healing and SurvivingMy (Not-So-) Dirty Little Secret#EmptyShelfChallenge Book Review: The Girl Inside GET SOCIAL!Connect with The Delightful Life on FacebookConnect with Parents, Disney fans, and people who generally like kids on the For the Love of Disney Facebook pageLeave a rating and review on itunes or stitcher to help spread the word about living a life of DELIGHT.Leave a comment on this episode or find other resources and ways to connet with Jennifer or the community at Delightful.Life

As the kids say in Episode 14, "together is better"! Valuing one another's differences is the key to achieving synergy - and it's usually where we fail. Even if we are "tolerant" of differences, that's where it ends. We don't always use them to enhance the experience or enhance communication. "The Gen Y Guy" gives plenty of examples to demonstrate how multi-generational teams can be efficient because of the members' differences, not in spite of them. A man or woman lives, at most, about a hudnred years. Together, people have lived centuries, left legacies. A person along can sing - maybe even wonderfully; adding tools and instruments may even enhance that outcome. But a group of people and instruments can make a choir, orchestra, band. A writer can write, but he needs readers in order to make an impact. Most great achievements come from synergy. (Paraphrasing Sid Kemp) Three types of Communication: 1. Defensive (low trust, assumption that things will probably go wrong) 2. Respectful (honest, authenticity, respect) 3. Synergistic (communication is respectful but also values the different experiences parties bring to the table)   Activity: Make a list of the people that annoy you. Or maybe don't make a list, we dont want you to get in trouble ;)  But think about why they rub you the wrong way. Is there something they offer - perhaps even the thing that annoys you - that could benefit you or your mutual situation, if you chose to see it as valuable?     RESOURCES MENTIONED TDL014: Leadership from the Kids' Perspective TDL000: Welcome to The Delightful Life! Gen Y Guy (Jason Dorsey) on Multigenerational Teams The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey   GET SOCIAL! Connect with The Delightful Life on Facebook Connect with Parents, Disney fans, and people who generally like kids on the For the Love of Disney Facebook page Leave a rating and review on itunes or stitcher to help spread the word about living a life of DELIGHT. Leave a comment on this episode or find other resources and ways to connect with Jennifer or the community, at Delightful.Life

Jennifer continues to conversation about The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People with Habit #5: Seek First to Understand, then Be Understood. "Before I can walk in somebody else's shoes, I must first remove my own." We cannot show empathy until we understand where someone is coming from, and what has shaped the way they think. Many times if we try to listen to others we are only half listening, or listening poorly: sort of listening, but mostly ignoring pretending to listen selective hearing attentive but self-centered (toppers, offering solutions and "me toos", but without really listening) listen while judging "word listening" - vs - empathetic listening The vast majority of what we communicate comes from what we don't say. Seeking first to understand then be understood requires a balance between courage and consideration. This habit - whether verbalized or not - is probably the foundation for any relationship with good communication. Does the person you're talking to know your heart for them, and for the situation?    RESOURCES AND MENTIONS The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey   GET SOCIAL Connect with The Delightful Life on Facebook Connect with Parents, Disney fans, and people who generally like Kids stuff on the For the Love of Disney Facebook Page Leave a rating and review on iTunes or Stitcher to help spread the word about living a life of DELIGHT. Leave a comment on this episode or find other resources and ways to connect with jennifer or the community at Delightful.Life

So often we feel (and behave like) in every situation there is a winner and a loser. Some people have even developed personalities based on these Win-Lose or Lose-Win concepts: the high-profile business person who claws his/her way to the top, always winning the doormat, always losing   The idea of a Win-Win situation seeks greater benefit for the family, business, community, cause at large. A person who wants to work for Win-Win situations must have three characteristics: Integrity Maturity Abundance Mentality Fighting for Win-Win is a balancing act between being confident and empathetic, couragoues and considerate.   Win-Win situations allow for synergy and symbiosis (ask Jennifer's 2 year olds what that means, if you don't know. And yes, there's a story there). It doesn't mean that occasionally we don't sacrific for the good of others - or win a competition - it means that in moments of choice we begin to think, "Is there a third, better alternative where everyone wins?"   In this episode Jennifer discusses all of the above, plus how Habit #4 builds on the first three - but how it is also vastly different.   RESOURCES AND MENTIONS: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey TDL010: The Company we Keep TDL014: Leadership from the Kids' Perspective TDL019: Habit #1 (Be Proactive) TDL020: Habit #2 (Begin with the End in Mind) TDL021: Habit #3 (Put First Things First)     Connect with The Delightful Life on Facebook Connect with Parents, Disney fans, and people who generally like Kids stuff ;) at the For the Love of Disney Facebook Page Leave a rating and review on iTunes or Stitcher to help spread the word about living a life of DELIGHT. Leave a comment on this episode or find other resources and ways to connect with Jennifer or the community at Delightful.Life   Thanks for tuning in! :)Parenting | Leadership | Relationships | Story

On this episode, Jennifer's family joins her to find the champion of all Magic Kingdom rides. For their family, in 2015, that is. :)We tried something new for a more comfortable recording for the kids, but the audio isn't up to my standards. I think it's quite listenable though, and the kids make it fun.   Who do YOU think will reign as this year's MK attraction champion?     Join the discussion in the Delightful Life FB group or on the For the Love of Disney page.

RESOURCES Remodeling Clay Podcast TDL 011 - Goal-Setting and New Years Resolutions The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey Getting Things Done by David Allen   The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst

"Begin with the end in mind" is a full sentence. It's not "figure out your goal, where you want to end up." It's not "just do it!". It's the idea of both figuring out your "end", and how you might get there. Begin each day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, then continue by practicing Habit #1 (Be Proactive!).  What is a "Personal Mission Statement" and why should we consider one? RESOURCES MENTIONED The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (the book) The Delightful Life Facebook Community TDL 019 - Be Proactive TDL 014 - Leadership from the Kids' Perspective TDL 018 - A moment of Gratitude TDL 011 - Goal-Setting and New Years Resolutions

{Leadership | 7 Habits | Parenting | Relationships | Proactive}Inspired by Elise and Avery in Episode 14, Jennifer begins to chat about Steven Covey's best-seller, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. This isn't a replacement for the book by any stretch of the imagination, but join in the conversation about Habit #1: Be Proactive, and how doing so can help in your home, your business, and pretty much anywhere else you do life.   "Your life doesn't just 'happen'. The choices are yours. You choose happiness. You choose sadness. You choose decisiveness. You choose ambivalence. You choose success. You choose failure. You choose courage. You choose fear. Just remember that every moment, every situation, provides a new choice. And in doing so, it gives you a perfect opportunity to do things differenty to produce more positive results." Steven Covey   Is being proactive a biblical concept? Where does grace come into play? "We are what we repeatedly do." Aristotle Can someone who is well-practiced in being reactive establish a habit to become proactive?   Action steps: Intentionally consider everything you do today as a choice, keeping in mind that sometimes the most proactive thing doesn't look like "work". Choose your words wisely. Consider if something is in your "Circle of Influence". If it is, do something about it. If it isn't, Let it Go. Then belt it out like Elsa.   RESOURCES The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People book  TDL 014: Leadership from the Kids' Perspective TDL 003: Why Everone Could Benefit from Getting up at 5am 1 Peter 1:13-14 Titus 3:1-3     Join the Conversation! Tweet at Jennifer, or using the hashtag #DelightfulLife Become a part of the growing Facebook Community Leave a rating or review on iTunes

In this episode, Jennifer takes a quick look at what gratitude can do for us.   "Fear fears truth". Battling one negative emotion with a positive one is not new, and is incredibly powerful.    Taking two minutes to really consider the things for which you are grateful can change your attitude almost instantly. Maybe you can't come up with something amazing to be thankful for... but if you have a roof over your head, healthcare, and clean water, that's a good place to start. Instilling an attitude of gratitude in kids at a young age (and sharing with them what other people around the world may not have) may not make an immediate change, but the consistent "attitude of gratitude" can change their outlook on life, your mood, and the culture of a household. It's difficult to remember how blessed we are when we compare ourselves to what others have, what we could have. It's easy then to feel relatively unhappy with your life. Moments of gratitude help us refocus.   Share what you're grateful for in the Delightful Life FB Community! If you're feeling extra motivated, please consider leaving a rating and review on iTunes.    RESOURCES MENTIONED "Fear fears Truth", originally on JenniferKaufman.net Lightphoria 10,000LUX Energy Light Lamp Young Living essential oils (I am enjoying Citrus Fresh for energy/motivation and we have been cranking out Lavender + Peppermint in the diffuser this week while everyone has a GI bug)

In which Jennifer says "duh" twice, even though she is 31 and it is 2015...   Our story contemplating whether postive parenting is the same as permissive parenting, or if it's a legitimate option - and what it might mean for your family. Permissive parenting raises entitled kids who push boundaries as a way of habit - and still aren't happy, because they don't have boundaries. Positive parenting seeks to change the motivation for good behavior to something within the child, versus the choice to do what is right because of fear or guilt. It focuses on the positive things happening in a situation rather than always the negative. The more we call out the good in others - kids and adults - the more they will want to continue doing those things. *Insert conversation about spanking children here, that needs the entire context to be fair. Gotta listen to the show for that one ;) * WHY? Provides a hedge around the lines we never want to cross when disciplining in anger It seems to work. People on both sides of every mommy war are beginning to agree on this one thing. Discipline comes from the same word as "disciple", which means "to teach". If our goal is to teach a child the best choice in a given situation as opposed to simply stopping the behavior temporarily, the the focus should be on teaching instead of punishment. "I've come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It's my daily mood that makes the weather. As a parent or teacher, I possess a tremendous power to make a child's life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or de-humanized." Dr. Haim Ginott "Ultimately, love is the only leverage we have with our children. Even if they worked, fear and "Because I said so!" only last for as long as they can be physically enforced. Every parent knows how fast children grow; fear works for a very short time if it works at all. Love, on the other hand, becomes a more effective motivator over time; it raises kids who want to behave." Dr. Laura Markham As much as it breaks our heart, our job is to prepare our children to leave us and become their own people. Some of our "first steps" on this journey, that have produced positive results: Start discipline with an affirmation of feelings. People need to know they are heard and understood. Remember that your children will see themselves how they think you see them. Time "ins" are a great alternative to Time Outs. Use them as constructive tools - both to the behavior at hand and to your relationship. Invest in one-on-one time. Consider "family contributions" in place of (or in addition to) a chore/reward system. Help your kids talk through problems instead of just solving them quickly. Our "Anger Rules": I am allowed to be angry, but in my anger I may not: Hurt myself, hurt others, or hurt someone's things.   RESOURCES AND MENTIONS National Center for Biblical Parenting takes a "heart-based" approach to parenting, which is essentially positive parenting with scriptural context. Also includes practical tools and conversations around personal responsibility, character training, anger, communication, etc. TDL 008: Temperament and Parenting (and Leading) with Grace CDC site with tips by age Why Positive Parenting? by Laura Markham (If it's too long, skip down to where the cute little boy is grumpy about something.... start there :))4 Simple Steps to Stop the Yelling by Amy McCready (Also a calendar of upcoming free webinars. These come highly recommended by someone I respect)10 Tips for Better Behavior by Amy McCready (A great place to start!)   BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS FROM THE CENTER FOR BIBLICAL PARENTINGThe Christian Parenting Handbook: 50 Heart-Based Strategies for All the Stages of Your Child's LifeBubbles, Balloons, & Chocolate (Family Time Activities)Seeing is Believing (Family Time Activities) Wiggles, Giggles & Popcorn (Family Time Activities)Playing for Keeps (Family Time Activities)Motivate Your Child: A Christian Parent's Guide to Raising Kids who do what they Need to Do Without Being Told