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Are you really aware of the effect your parents had on who you have become? It seems simple enough. Whether you’ve always had a good relationship with your parents, a challenging one, or like so many; maybe didn’t even get to have a relationship with one or both, most of us will spend a lot of time thinking about how that relationship (or lack thereof) has influenced our life. Negatively or positively, it’s pretty hard to avoid carrying a lot with you from what is often the most influential of relationships we have growing up. But as we grow, shift, and change in our lives shouldn’t our relationship with our parents as well? Is it possible to really heal and move on from patterns that are still at play or wounds that have been left unhealed? Or is the safety we may have experienced in a family dynamic holding some of us back from taking risks and chances that might provide new opportunities or a fresh perspective? Its a big, broad topic and I want to acknowledge that every single family dynamic is unique in its own way and presents different opportunities and challenges. Each member of a family, big or small, is their own unique ingredient in the one of a kind flavor that is family and upbringing. On this weeks episode of the Deep Dive “An Impactful Conversation With My Mom”, I want to let you in on part of my own family dynamic and introduce you to one of the most important people in the world to me. My mother. The last few weeks have been all about being vulnerable. This week I take it up another notch as I interview my mother Vickie Roa about our dynamic as I grew up, some of our family challenges, and who we are to each other today. Enjoy this special episode, this very special guest, and as always I would love to hear your thoughts. At 18:15, I talk about what it was like expressing emotions in the Roa family, and how that influenced the way I share so openly today. At 47:22 I ask my mom whether or not it was a conscious decision to discipline through hitting, and was really surprised by something I learned from her response. At 1:03:00 Mom and I talk about the difference between our relationship growing up compared to our relationship now, and what shifted over the years. At 1:30:47 I end off the interview by asking my mom some questions about her experience of me, her reflection of me now, and open it up for her to ask me anything. Also, for a free PDF of my 4 step process to help empower you to move from a starving artist mentality to a surrendered artist, go to www.surrenderedartist.org/programs and begin to unlock your inner artist today.

“What is it about me that needs to know? Looking for certainty in a world that’s so uncertain, Lurking behind every corner there’s something that you can’t see, And yet there's this part of me that feels incomplete, Or maybe just scared, if I don’t know whats out there….” For this weeks episode of The Deep Dive, I decided to release another freestyle spoken word poem. This piece came from a place of vulnerability and honestly, heart break. It came from a need to be myself in the face of scrutiny, which is maybe a feeling that we all experience at times. Art is medicine for me, and when I feel like I’ve done as much as I can to pick myself up and commit to my self love practices, art and creation is where I usually go to next. This style of spoken word poetry is the most vulnerable for me because it’s straight from the heart and totally freestyle in the moment. This  allows what's really going on under the surface to come out, and that (in my opinion) is the healing and therapeutic part of any type of artistic expression. Do you express yourself in an artistic way? My hope is that this poem inspires you to reach in, let it out, and allow the world see the real you however you choose to release. Also, for a free PDF of my 4 step process to help empower you to move from a starving artist mentality to a surrendered artist, go to www.surrenderedartist.org/programs and begin to unlock your inner artist today.

Do you find dating difficult? Unless it’s that rare “love at first sight” story, dating is an integral process to finding partnership, romance, and ultimately love. There are thousands of books, podcasts, or movies, all stuffed full of advice on dating (not to mention your friends, family, parents) but why when it comes down to it, is finding authentic connection through dating still so hard? In this weeks podcast I’m joined by Chicago based writer, podcaster, and recording artist Case Kenny in a conversation about the dynamic world of dating and relationships. From the importance of communication to the subject of one night stands, Case and I navigate our thoughts on the whole process based on our own experiences of dating and share in some new perspectives that opened up the topic for us in a brand new way. If you desire to find the “one”, dating and exploration is pretty much inevitable. So, do you want to experience more ease and grace in the process? I hope my conversation with Case Kenny can be beneficial in moving towards more self awareness and in turn, an easier and more enjoyable experience of dating. Keep up with Case Kenny on his acclaimed podcast New Mindset, Who Dis.  For a free PDF of my 4 step process to help empower you to move from a starving artist mentality to a surrendered artist, go to www.surrenderedartist.org/programs and begin to unlock your inner artist today. Also, for more conversations like this as well as high level online coaching in a brand new way join us in CREATE Community by going to www.thecreatecommunity.com

Are you afraid of being yourself in relationship? Being aware of who we are is so important in all aspects of our life, and its a journey of discovery. But, it’s so important when we’re in a relationship. It can be easy to lose ourselves in the idea of what we “should be” when we are trying to please someone else’s vision of partnership. We want to love fully, we want to show up for those that we care about, so where do we draw the line between ourselves and the expectation of who we should be? This week I decided to talk about what it means to be in a conscious relationship. A term that gets thrown around a lot, but has immense value in the effect it can have on romantic partnership. Are you allowing yourself to be fully seen? Furthermore, are you allowing yourself to really SEE your partner? I believe that both lead to an elevated understanding of what it means to be in relationship, especially a romantic one, and I would love for you to join me in the conversation on this weeks episode of The Deep Dive. For a free PDF of my 4 step process to help empower you to move from a starving artist mentality to a surrendered artist, go to www.surrenderedartist.org/programs and begin to unlock your inner artist today.

What is the difference between anxiety and excitement? Have you ever noticed that the reaction to both is quite similar? Our heart rate may go up, or our palms may get sweaty, and we definitely start thinking ahead. But where anxiety is mostly recognized as a negative experience, excitement is generally associated with something good coming. Though they are quite similar feelings in a lot of ways, but they are very different. This is apparent more in the effect it has on the body and the mind, and guess what? It can be shifted. In this weeks Deep Dive Musing I talk about not only the difference between anxiety and excitement, but how to actually shift your an anxious experience to a positive and exciting one. You guessed it, it all depends on your perspective. Do you want to take more control in moments of anxiety? Dive in with me in this weeks Deep Dive Musing. For a free PDF of my 4 step process to help empower you to move from a starving artist mentality to a surrendered artist, go to www.surrenderedartist.org/programs and begin to unlock your inner artist today.

Are you creating abundance? Experiencing abundance in our life comes in many different forms. Abundant relationships, experiences, and even abundance in our wealth dynamics. But are you actively creating it? It’s been interesting to me to notice the little acts of service that actually end up creating abundance in my life. I used to hold so tightly to my money, until I realized that giving to others started creating more wealth in my life. That the feeling of scarcity around my finances or my relationships actually created a wall in front of me that held me back from building more abundance in those areas, and many others. During this holiday season, especially in this interesting year of 2020, I encourage you to look at the ways you are not only creating abundance, but sharing it with others. It’s time for us to realize that giving is receiving. That sharing your experience, your time, your wealth, with others is actually something that pays back in abundance to your own life. Do you want to create more abundance in your life? Dive in with me this week as we talk about how I personally went from a scarcity mindset to an experience of abundance on this weeks Deep Dive Musing. Also, if you are looking to expand your ability to express artistically and create abundance through it check out my non-profit called Surrendered Artist at www.surrenderedartist.org

Have you felt rejected before? Rejection comes in many forms, whether it’s that job you wanted but didn’t make the cut, that audition you had that you didn’t land, or that “one that got away” that you’ll never forget. That feeling is always hard, and can trigger deeper wounds of not being enough or being unworthy that unless we deal with properly we end up carrying with us. In my musing this week, I dive in three ways that I’ve dealt with the feeling of rejection, that you can start even if you’re in the midst of it. I also talk about the importance of allowing ourselves to really FEEL, even when the feeling is sometimes unwelcome. Do you want to move through the feeling of being rejected in a healthier way? Lets talk about it in this weeks musing. Also, if you are looking to expand your ability to express artistically and create abundance through it check out my non-profit called Surrendered Artist at www.surrenderedartist.org

Have you ever thought about the reason why we fall in love? We all know the feelings and attraction associated with feeling love for another person, but why do we as humans actually desire that connection? Perhaps there is something deeper to the need for connection then just romantic connection, like an inquiry into our makeup as a person that we can learn and grow from. In my Deep Dive this week with Kute Blackson, we talk about the human dynamics of relationship and how whether it lasts one month or ten years we can still see the experience as a success if we choose to look at it in a different way. Do you desire to get more out of your experience of a relationship whether its in your past, your present, or your future? Join me in the conversation with Kute Blackson on this weeks episode of The Deep Dive. For more from Kute Blackson check out www.kuteblackson.com Also, if you are looking to expand your ability to express artistically and create abundance through it check out my non-profit called Surrendered Artist at www.surrenderedartist.org

Do you believe in manifestation? Or that the way you show up in the world actually has an effect on your physical reality? It can be so easy for us to disregard other people’s opinions, especially if they hold values or views that you don’t agree with. But, what if we changed the way we listen? In this weeks Musing, I go deep on the effect that compassion, and especially compassionate conversation, can have on your ability to manifest and create your reality. If we choose to listen to understand, not to respond, we open ourselves up to a new world of possibilities that ultimately help to shape the way you see the world, in turn effecting the reality you live in. Manifesting anything is a deep process, with many layers and ingredients. Find out why compassion is an important one in this weeks episode of the Deep Dive. Also, if you are looking to expand your ability to express artistically and create abundance through it check out my non-profit called Surrendered Artist at www.surrenderedartist.org

What is it like to be blacklisted? With the amount of opinions, beliefs, and clashing ideals in our culture right now it can be pretty hard to know what to believe and what sources of information are reliable. It’s never been more important to know where we are getting our facts, and to be vigilant on ensuring that we are pursuing truth. But what happens when your pursuit of truth actually gets you flagged, blocked, and even blacklisted? In this episode Adam is joined by author, coach, thought leader, and podcast host Matt Belair, as they dive deep into the experience and pursuit of truth that ultimately had his podcast flagged as well as blocked from most social media platforms. The conversation varies as they move through different topics, but connects with the common theme of the state of our culture in 2020 and what effect the misuse of media and information is having. What defines a conspiracy theory these days? And what are the tangible take aways from what someone like Matt Belair has gone through that allows him to come back to a place of compassion? Find out in this weeks episode of the Deep Dive. For more from Matt Belair go check out www.mattbelair.com Also, if you are looking to expand your ability to express artistically and create abundance through it check out my non-profit called Surrendered Artist at www.surrenderedartist.org

“I hope you are there I hope that you care All the books tell me you do But sometimes I feel like that’s not true I feel like I’m alone I feel like I’m picking up that cosmic phone And no one is there”   In this episode of the Deep Dive podcast, for the first time ever, I share a piece of freestyle spoken word poetry. When recording, I dropped into a creative space and allowed the words to free flow out. What emerged was a poetic spiritual prayer.   I would love to know your thoughts on this spoken word poetry. Take a screenshot of this episode, post it up in your Instagram stories and share what lines stood out to you the most, and be sure to give me a tag!   Want more spoken word poetry from me? Check out my most popular poems here.

If you experience conflict with your partner, it means something is wrong, right? But did you know for every five positive interactions, you need to have one negative interaction? This has been shown to be a minimum requirement for a successful, happy relationship. And when you have conflict, do you believe you need to fix the problem? But did you know 69% of problems don’t actually get resolved? In long-term relationships, these problems go unsolved because they are based on the differences in who they are as a person. Believing there shouldn’t be any conflict in your relationship, and if there is conflict you need to solve it, are two of the most common relationship myths. And in this Deep Dive Musing, I debunk them both, as well as provide you with a clear understanding as to why they are myths and how to actually navigate through the two to ensure your relationship thrives. P.S. Check out my latest single, CHASE ME, now available on Spotify! Download here.

I believe art is a technology. And when we create art, it becomes a catalyst for our own evolution and growth. The process of creating forces us to face off with so much of ourselves, from our fears, our doubts, and our limitations. But this face-off presents us with two choices: Do we work through what we’re facing or do we allow it to stop us?   In this Deep Dive Musing, I've broken down the artistic process into the five D's you must venture through in order to not only emerge with art but also emerge as a higher more expanded version of who we're here to be. Ultimately, I describe how sticking to the process can become a personal development time capsule and how this process has gown through me when creating my latest single, Chase Me.    Before tuning in, I highly recommend checking out my song, Chase Me, first to give you more context as to what I’m discussing in this Deep Dive musing. Tune in now, here.

We all are climbing the mountain we think that will make us the happiest. But how do ensure we don’t get to the top of our “summit” and realize we aren’t fulfilled? How do we ensure we are living a life that is so deeply connected to ourselves, those around us, and our real purpose that we actually enjoy the journey along the way? How do we ensure once we get to the top, we feel actually feel the sense of fulfillment we have been working for?   Most of us don’t realize how disconnected we are from everything around us, including ourselves. We either live subconsciously or live purposefully in avoidance of what is. So how do we release the avoidance and live more consciously?   In this episode of the Deep Dive, I’m joined by mind and body alignment expert, Aaron Alexander, who discusses how to dive into your physical body to create a deeper connection with yourself and others. Plus, he shares tangle tips on how to experience a deeper connection in your sex life and how to become more connected with your real purpose.   Aaron is a manual therapist, movement coach, and author, as well as the host of the Align Podcast, ranked #1 in Nutrition on Apple Podcasts. He is a believer that the way we move in our body is the way we move through our life. Which means, we must align our mind, body, and movement in order to optimize our life.    What we discuss:   4:00 - Deep Dive questions 4:45 - 3 Top ways to amplify your sex life 12:02 - The power dance 17:30 - Living in a compartmentalized culture 20:00 - Connecting deeper with your body 25:00 - Finding real trust in your body 47:00 - Creating a road map for what you want with your life 52:00 - Why you need to live a life you actually enjoy   Find more from Aaron:  Website: www.alignpodcast.com Instagram: @alignpodcast   Download my latest song, Chase Me, here.

There is this idea that attachment is bad and we should let all our attachment go. But in reality, attachment is extremely important. We are designed to get attached to things for our own survival. And by learning our attachment style, we also learn so much about ourselves, how we operate and what our needs are. So what’s your attachment style?   In this Musing of The Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, I unravel attachment, specifically attachment theory. It’s a very complex theory, although I bring you a simplified version to ensure you build a basic understanding of your own style of attachment. Plus, I explain ways you can spot attachment styles in others, as well as how you can actively shift your own attachment style (yes, you can change it!).   This episode is inspired by my single, GO, because after writing it, I realize much of my attachment was woven within it.    Baby will you come back home, I’m dying. Every time you call my name, I’m there. Baby will you come back home, I’m trying. But, you go.   Be sure to check out GO here.   What you’ll learn: The four different attachment styles How to determine your personal attachment style Why attachment isn’t bad How to actively shift your attachment style How to use your attachment to get your needs met   Learn your attachment style:   Check out this free attachment style quiz here.   Learn more about attachment styles:    I highly recommend checking out the book, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love.   Download my latest single, Chase Me, here.

What is a soulmate? How do you know if someone is your soulmate? What are the characteristics of a soulmate? Is believing in a soulmate even healthy?   In this episode, instead of giving you an answer, we explored these questions. Plus, we explore how to differentiate between romantic relationships and friendships, how to know if a relationship is meant to be long-term or not, and how to slow down the pace of your relationships.   Oren is a transformational coach, spiritual teacher, and pioneer on the leading edge of human consciousness. His primary mission in life is creating Heaven on Earth, a place where people wake up to their true selves and live a limitless life of contribution and fulfillment.   What We Discuss:   [00:05:15] Why Oren thinks love is the most powerful energetic force in the universe [00:08:20] What is a soul mate?  [00:16:17] What are the unique qualities of a soul mate? [00:19:55] How do you know a relationship is intended for the long-term? [00:23:31] Discovering parts of ourselves in relationships  [00:35:16] Slowing down the pace of relationships  [00:46:15] What differentiates between romantic relationships and friendships?  [00:51:44] Harmony in love unions  [00:54:26] What makes an individual see more possibilities in the system  [01:03:55] What is devotion and how to cultivate it [01:09:44] Is it healthy to have a deep level of devotion to a partner?   Find more from Oren:   Instagram: @orenharris Website: orenharris.com

Do you know your attachment style? And more importantly, do you know how your attachment is affecting your relationships? In this episode of the Deep Dive with Adam Roa, my guest Dr. Cat Meyer and I dive into Attachment Theory and how attachment impacts relationships. Dr. Cat breaks down the four types of attachment, how each style is unique for every person, and strategies for altering our attachment to ensure our relationship remains healthy. Dr. Cat Meyer is a licensed sex and relationship therapist, yoga instructor, and international speaker dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. She is the host of podcasts Eat Play Sex and Erotically Wasted, and the founder of SexLoveYoga.com, an online platform for education and programs on relationships, sexuality, and embodiment. The number one thing that people can do to improve their relationships: 05:52 The best practices to cultivate our relationship with our body: 7:36 How the brain slows down the process of self-regulation - 10:18 What is contemplation?: 13:40 Issues Dr Meyer encounters most frequently with her patients: 16:25 What is the attachment theory?:00:19:55 The uniqueness of each individual's attachment: 22:18 Common categories of the attachment theory: 23:25 Strategies for altering your attachment style: 36:35 Our brain and trauma: 41:06 What is EMDR and it works: 42:08 Is there a point where attachment is no longer affecting our lives and relationships?: 45:30 Find more from Dr. Cat: Instagram: @sexloveyoga Website: http://sexloveyoga.com https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1499038381 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1499038381 Podcast: http://eatplaysex.com

Let’s chat about attachment and the effect it has on our energetic bandwidth. There is a level of romanticism around being so in love with someone that you will hold on through thick or thin, no matter what. It’s a beautiful Hollywood narrative, however it creates unrealistic expectations for what we are supposed to do when we are in love with someone.   To be honest with you, I used to think holding on no matter what was the healthy thing to do in a relationship. Now, I’ve learned that holding on to something that once was, prevented me from receiving what I was trying to call into my life. My attachment was taking up my energetic bandwidth and there was no space left for what I actually wanted.   In this Musing of The Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, I explain why being attached to what was, instead of what is, takes up our energetic bandwidth and what we can actively do to ensure we are creating space for new people and opportunities to enter into our life. Because, if we have the desire for something new to enter, we must create the space for it.   What you’ll learn:   How your energetic bandwidth works What is stealing your energy and taking up your energetic bandwidth? The effect attachment has on what is/isn’t entering into your life Why you need to create space before you can have more How to empty your energetic bandwidth and create more space How you are preventing yourself from experiencing new opportunities   Join the CREATE community! Sign up here.

We idolize the idea of being fearless. There is this idea that fear is bad and we should do everything we can to avoid it. But the funny thing is, it’s unavoidable because fear is the other side of the coin to love. It’s always there – it’s apart of us.   Fear is the virus and it’s already inside us, but it lies dormant as long as we keep letting love guide us. And in each moment, we have the option to live from fear or to live from love.   In this episode of the Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, I unpack a line of poetry on fear, share my thoughts on living out of fear, and give you an actionable practice for overcoming your fear and leading your life from love.   You’ll leave this episode feeling empowered to navigate through your fear to keep letting love guide you.    What You’ll Learn: Why fear is always present How to let love, not fear, guide you  A simple practice for overcoming your fear   Be sure to follow the Deep Dive on Instagram, @thedeepdive: https://www.instagram.com/thedeepdive/

Why are we so afraid to have different views and opinions than each other? And why do we feel like we need to attack one another for our different perspectives? We are all so different, so of course, we are going to view the world differently. With that in mind, why can’t we just have some real conversations to discuss and understand these differences without the need to attack another or defend ourselves?   And to dive deeper, how do we hold space for everyone’s beliefs, opinions, viewpoints, and prospectives, and not just our own? How do we fully express ourselves in the world and while simultaneously being aware of how it will make others feel? And where is the line between owning our truth and censoring ourselves for the sake of others?   In this of the Deep Dive with me, Adam Roa, guest Henry Ammar and I dive deep into answering these questions. After listening, I have full faith you will have a better understanding of how to listen and engage with opposing views in a constructive way.   Henry is an International Life Speaker, musician, and Entrepreneur who hosts the podcast, “Making It Happen with Henry Ammar.” The podcast hit #1 in the Training Category and #6 in the Education Category on the Apple Podcast Charts. Henry is passionate about leveraging his successes in music, leadership, and coaching to bring pop culture and practical empowerment together to free the world from fear and limiting beliefs and inspire confidence.   What we discuss:    7:00 - Amar’s perspective on creating art for “free” 11:00 - Wanting to be alone while feeling lonely 12:30 - The input-output perspective on creativity 14:00 - Using your strengths destructively or constructively 18:30 - Weighing other people’s input when creating art 22:00 - Defining the line between owning your truth and considering other’s feelings 24:00 - Why are we so afraid of others who have different opinions? 26:00 - Having difficult conversations coming from a place of compassion 30:00 - Discussing differences while maintaining a higher frequency  32:00 - What is actually right and wrong? 34:00 - Why uncertainty and openness allows for more compassion 34:30 - Drake quote! 36:00 - Understanding why people feel they need to defend their opinions 38:45 - Accepting what you can’t change 43:00 - Why being authentic attracts “your people” 49:00 - Why you need to take a step back and define what you really want to do with your life  52:00 - Reinforcing the person you want to be vs. the person you have been 57:00 - Removing everything that isn’t truly who you are   Find more from Amar: Website: https://henryammar.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/henryammar/ Podcast: https://henryammar.com/podcast/   Check out my new single, GO.