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Skye Harmon joins the podcast to discuss what it means to be an enneagram Five. She, Megan, and Deedra talk about the differences between Fours and Fives, what it means to visualize an Internal Family Systems (IFS) experience, and how Skye uses Seven and Eight energy to help herself. Skye is a self-leadership coach and enneagram 5w4, artist, writer, all-around beauty-seeker, lover of deep conversations and tacos. You can find Skye on her website, Etsy shop, Instagram, and Facebook. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Carolyn Candela joins Megan and Deedra as they talk about all the parts of being an enneagram Four. They really dig into the nuance of how Fours are different from Twos and Threes, and Carolyn shares some parts she's discovered through her IFS work. Carolyn Candela is a Yoga Instructor and Life Coach located in Bend, Oregon. Carolyn's mission is to help disconnected humans live full and embodied lives through connecting to the seasons and cycles of nature. Carolyn is an Enneagram 4w3. She enjoys using the Enneagram to better understand and connect with her clients. In her free time, Carolyn enjoys reading about and studying topics that interest her (The Enneagram, Human Design, psychology, and health & wellness to name a few!), exploring nature, practicing any type of movement (yoga, dance, etc.), writing, and pursuing new creative outlets. You can find Carolyn on Instagram. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Enneagram Three Lauren Vardaman joins Deedra and Megan on the podcast to talk about her journey being a Three and discovering some principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) for her own healing. Lauren's story encompasses infant loss and miscarriage, and she reveals why learning about being a Three made so much sense as she looks at her grieving process and how she uses her tasking managers to make her way forward. Lauren is a 36-year-old wife to Lars and mama to one spunky five-and-three-quarters year old boy named Beau and two children in heaven named Ellis and Aster. She currently works in compensation consulting but has a diverse job history, from running beer festivals to working the expo floor at a national cable providers conference. She lives in Fort Myers, Florida, home of the recent largest hurricane in Florida history. Her happy place is the beach, and her angry place is on any road in Southwest Florida.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Deedra's youngest daughter Lela joins the podcast today to talk about being an enneagram Two and some amazing Internal Family Systems (IFS) experiences she's had. The conversation flows from identifying parts of herself in her wings and connecting lines to how amazing God is at giving her a fairy tale glimpse of his love for her.  Lela Mager is an enneagram Two, a college student, and an artist in residence with Zion Dance Project.  Check out her previous episode, along with her sisters, on Episode 87: Enneagram & Relationships: Hope, Sav, & Lela --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Enneagram One Randi McSpadden joins Megan and Deedra to discuss the constellation of parts for her type and how she sees her wings and stress and security lines in action.  Randi and her husband Mike have been married for 25 years and have three amazing children. Randi has been in HR with Ascension Health for over 12 years and currently is the Manager of Associate Success. Her team focuses on eliminating onboarding barriers and creating growth pathways for new associates while improving retention within their first 90 days. In her free time, she loves to tuck away in her sewing room with a good podcast and work on her latest quilt project. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist and podcast host Tammy Sollenberger is back to talk about one of her favorite topics: IFS and the enneagram! Tammy, Megan, and Deedra discuss using the enneagram as a map to find parts of ourselves. Every person has a constellation of parts that begin with their core enneagram number and include their wings and connecting lines. You don't want to miss this introductory episode to this brand-new series! Concepts discussed in this episode developed by Joan Ryan and Tammy Sollenberger. You can find Tammy on Instagram and Facebook, and check out her podcast, The One Inside, wherever you listen! You can also purchase her book, The One Inside: 30 Days to Your Authentic Self. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

This week we're dropping a day early to celebrate Valentine's Day with you! But we also choose to celebrate the gal pal holiday (thanks to Park and Rec) Galentine's Day. In honor of February 13, we decide to play an on-air game of Let's Get Deep: Friends Edition by asking each other questions from the cards!  Real talk: we don't get super deep, but we do get to tell some funny friendship stories, and we answer the following:  Are any of your belongings lost right now? What movie made the biggest impression on you? What conspiracy theories do you believe in? If you had to wear an outfit every day for the rest of your life, what would it be? What is the most expensive thing you’ve broken? When was the last time you laughed so hard you cried? What reality TV or game show do you think we should do together? Plus, check out dauntlessgrace.org to see the ridiculous picture and edits we discuss in the episode. We're still laughing. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Deedra and Megan do what they do best today: talk about something they've recently discovered and how it plays with the enneagram! Today is all about attachment styles. Attachment styles are part of relationship theories about how infants receive care, attention, and affection from a caregiver. But our attachment styles play out all the time in our intimate adult relationships. In this episode, we define the four attachment styles, discuss how they relate to enneagram stances from last weekend, and offer a working theory on which numbers could identify with which attachment styles.  Do you agree? Disagree? We want to hear from you! What is your enneagram number, and what is your most prominent attachment style? You can drop a comment on our Facebook page, our website, or on Megan's Instagram. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

On today’s episode, Deedra and Megan discuss enneagram stances in a new way. In episodes past, they’ve taught stances as grouping enneagram numbers by which center of intelligence is repressed. While that’s still a true part of stances, they now also agree that stances can be defined by our relational energy. Also, as part of the discussion, they consider how stance energy can also be used in our relationship to God and how sin is still more a part of the diSINtegration of our beings rather than simply a behavior we need to stop. For more information on the enneagram, visit https://dauntlessgrace.org. Graphics for stances can be found at Megan's Instagram. Check out Episode 13: Enneagram Structure Overview for an introduction to enneagram stances. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Last year we offered an episode straight from Highway 44--a road trip recap for our listeners! But today we have for you a recap of our recent cruise to the Bahamas. But don't worry; we aren't here just to talk about paradise islands and having fun on the cruise deck. Instead, we're offering a vulnerable look into how each of us prepared ourselves mentally and emotionally, with IFS and enneagram work, for a week's vacation and the return to real life.  Episode 58: Road Trip Edition For more information on the enneagram, visit dauntlessgrace.org. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Megan and Deedra dive back into the roots of Dauntless Grace: discovering the narrative we script for ourselves to protect ourselves from pain. In this conversation, they unpack: what shame means according to Dr. Curt Thompson; Father Richard Rohr's description of "the cult of innocence" and repentance; how we stay asleep to our ego selves; and how we all strive to hide, not heal, our shadow selves. For more information on the enneagram, go to https://dauntlessgrace.org.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

We are continuing the words of the year discussion with some voicemails and messages from our listeners! Words of the year aren't magical; as Deedra and Megan have talked about each year, words simply provide a focal point as we move through our years. It's a way to focus on the Lord and on showing ourselves more compassion and growth despite the circumstances that come our way. Take a listen to what some of our listeners have to say about it! As always, check out https://dauntlessgrace.org for more information. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Megan and Deedra discuss their words of the year (dance and play, respectively) for 2022 and what they looked like for them. They also reveal their new words for 2023! Do you have a word of the year chosen? What is it? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Instead of the normally heavy Christmas episode you've come to expect from us, we decided to have some laughs this year! Deedra and Megan discuss their favorite Christmas movies--and which ones rank at the bottom of the list. Will you be surprised by what they each choose? Which obscure movies have you heard of? And most importantly, what's YOUR favorite Christmas movie? Let us know at dauntlessgrace.org! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

We're back with the finale of our subtype conversation. As we discussed in the introduction, there are three subtypes for every enneagram number, based on the three instincts (self-preservation, social, and sexual). In this episode, we talk through the subtypes and countertypes for Enneagram Fives, Fours, Threes, Twos, and Ones. Plus, Deedra and Megan process on air about their own subtype stacking and how it's changed for them as they've learned more. If you haven't listened yet, start with Episode 103: Intro to Subtypes --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

We're back with a continuation of our subtype conversation. As we discussed in the introduction, there are three subtypes for every enneagram number, based on the three instincts (self-preservation, social, and sexual). We talk through the subtypes and countertypes for Enneagram Nines, Eights, Sevens, and Sixes. For more information (and the graphics Megan created), go to dauntlessgrace.org.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

It's finally that time--we are ready to talk about enneagram subtypes! Subtypes are formed around three instincts we all have: self-preservation, social, and sexual (or one-to-one). Listen as Megan and Deedra explore the following: What does each instinct mean? How do instincts stack? How do you know your subtype? Why is important (or not) to understand subtypes? As always, check out dauntlessgrace.org for more information. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Approaching the holiday season can be difficult, but it's important not to gloss over those moments of grief with spiritual bypassing. Deedra and Megan discuss how important it is to hold the tension of the both/and in life, how shadows make the light seem brighter (chiaroscuro), and sitting with all the parts of ourselves in those moments.  In this episode, they referenced  Episode 25: Enneagram and Harmony Triads. As always, visit dauntlessgrace.org for more information. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Deedra and Megan work through happiness: what is it, how do we get it, and why do we need to be aware of it? Like any emotion, happiness is neutral. It’s an indication of what is going on beneath the surface. Happiness by definition is the feeling of pleasure or contentment as the result of favorable circumstances. Happiness can be found when our Spirit-led Self experiences moments of pleasure from a whole and free existence. Happiness can also be found when our overworked managers are keeping us from pain and securing the things we think we need to survive. Listen as they run through each enneagram type and discuss what might make each type happy. Plus: they both admit which three fictional characters they relate to most! As always, visit dauntlessgrace.org for more information. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message

Dr. Alison Cook joins Deedra and Megan on the 100th episode of the podcast today! One of our favorite guests, Alison is an IFS therapist and author who just released her new book, The Best of You: Break Free from Painful Patterns, Mend Your Past, and Discover Your True Self in God. Listen as they discuss: the differences between selfishness, selflessness, and selfhood; how spiritual codependence makes us bypass ourselves; using boundaries in a healthy way; determining what it is we want; shepherding the parts of ourselves. As always, visit dauntlessgrace.org for more information. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dauntless-grace-exchange/message