19 minutes | Dec 6, 2022
ORGANIZE, MINIMIZE, OPTIMIZE, ANALYZE, SYNTHESIZE
What practical steps can you take to discover and uncover the man you are capable of being, and actually start living at your very best? As the year comes to a close it is time to take action, and if you are already doing that, time to step it up a gear. Let's take a deeper look at the impact that organising your environment, minimising your consumption, optimising your action, analysing your ethos or code of honor regularly and synthesising all these aspects can have on our lives if we commit to the process and remain consistent. My bet is that the impact will be so significant you won't recognise the man in the mirror before long.
45 minutes | Nov 29, 2022
ROLL WITH IT
Whether it is surfing, jiu-jitsu, mountain biking, or more importantly being a father and husband, rolling with it, as opposed to fighting against an opponent, the trail, the wave or the members of our family, and depleting our strength and damaging our connection, is the more effective way to approach most of life's challenges. Understanding that when you start stepping in and up life won't simply get easier, but you will be more prepared to meet those challenges is also essential to being consistent and to keeping on going even when results and goals seem far off. The Navy Seals have a great saying: Slow is smooth, and smooth is fast. So choose the sure and steady path towards your vision of the life you are capable of experiencing.
48 minutes | Nov 22, 2022
HOW DO YOU MEASURE SUCCESS?
Money? Status? Prestige? Attractiveness? Sex? Knowledge? Skill? Something deeper? Progress towards your goals? Towards being just that little bit better? A little more self-controlled? Disciplined. What are the yardsticks you use to measure your success in life? What emotions go along with the outward rewards? What is your thought life like? Let's delve deeper into what makes life meaningful and gives us as individuals a sense of well-being and purpose.
54 minutes | Nov 15, 2022
LIVE LIKE A LION
Using symbols can be very powerful, and although it may seem hackneyed, cliched and even cheesy, the image of a lion can inspire many things in a man and father. From the way, he languidly swaggers across the savannah, to his apparently laid-back approach to life, his ability to let his little ones nip at his ears and climb all over him, and then get up and completely savage a hyena to protect the pride when he needs to, there are many ways in which we can emulate these majestic animals. Joshua and Tom go deep on the metaphor and then delve into what we are really here on earth for and where we can find true contentment and life: in deep and meaningful connection with the people in our lives and nature, without all the noise and unnecessary things that end up weighing us down and stealing our joy...just like a lion!
42 minutes | Nov 8, 2022
STILL YELLING AT YOUR KIDS?
Today Joshua and Tom delve into a subject that is a little uncomfortable for grown men who find themselves venting at small human beings that they had a part in bringing into the world. When you think of it, it really is strange to find yourself moaning, complaining, scolding or shouting at our children. It should raise a lot of questions about ourselves. Why? What could it possibly achieve? Have we ever taught our children how to behave and function as we want them to or believe best for them and the rest of the family? Where does this anger come from? How much is down to our own neglect of our mental and emotional health? How much does tiredness and giving our energy to other less important people and pursuits result in our lack of patience? We hope to provide some answers to some of the above-mentioned questions and get you thinking about how you can stop yelling at your kids!
36 minutes | Nov 2, 2022
FINDING AND RESCUING THE COMPLETE MAN
“How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself?” In this episode, we really go deep and pull back the veil on what is really going on inside of us as men, and what could be if we are prepared to do the hard yards. We discuss how we like to hide behind a quick "I'm fine" or little catchphrases about our week or get stuck in negative thinking and talk, and how reframing is a powerful technique to turn trouble into triumph. Most importantly the conversation revolves around how we can recognise when we as the complete man show up and how to rescue ourselves from living as half the man we could be, and that is if we are lucky. Each one of us has that very best version of ourselves crying out from down in the bottomless pit for rescuing. Only we can send down the rope and pull him up. Yes, it is going to be an arduous task. But everything of true value always requires that, and there is no nobler task than finding and rescuing your complete self. Gentlemen, we only have this one shot, there is no time to spare. Get listening and then get acting with urgency.
35 minutes | Oct 26, 2022
A CALL TO MEN: FIND YOUR PATH
Today Joshua shares his personal journey and the difficult, uncomfortable but increasingly rewarding path that he has chosen to become the very best he is capable of being.
59 minutes | Oct 18, 2022
KYLE CARNOHAN | SUPER HUMAN FATHERS
Kyle Carnohsn is 41 years old, a father of 5. and has been married to his wife Whitney for 20 years. He is a fireman, a musician, a skateboarder, and an extremely effective body and mind transformation coach. He started Super Human Fathers as an Instagram account a few years back. He created it in order to hold himself personally accountable to stop behaving like a jerk and take ownership of his faults. Like you and I, Kyle was regularly short with my kids, sarcastic with my wife and lazy around the house. He would use excuses in order to get out of being my best self. “I'm stressed from work” “I need a break. I have anxiety and depression. I just need some relaxation and downtime. But once he really tapped into that true voice, his personal progress in every aspect of life began to skyrocket. No more excuses. No more lying to himself. I started taking full responsibility by taking massive action on the things that mattered most in my life—every minute of every day. On the show today Kyle shares some of the things that he does to keep things at their best and how you too can become a Super Human Father.
59 minutes | Oct 11, 2022
JONATHAN RIOS | PRIMAL VIRTUES
Today I am joined by Jonathan Rios of Primal Virtues on the show. Jonathan is a licensed psychotherapist, author & men’s coach who is deeply committed to remaining undomesticated. He once bungee jumped over the Nile river, dirt biked through Tanzania, trained in the mountains with a Navy Seal, played Soccer in Northern Ireland and is a military academy graduate. He and his dream girl have fostered 13 teenage boys while also successfully raising 4 daughters of their own. Jonathan's core motivation in life is to live courageously having fulfilled his purpose with excellence. In his free time, he is a blogger, author, and a self-proclaimed mediocre white belt in Jiu-jitsu. He is currently in private practice as a psychotherapist. Jonathan talks about excuses and how they shouldn't keep one from becoming the best one can be, and how surrounding yourself with high-level men. We discuss how important being a man of action and working on the fundamentals are in working against mental health issues, and delve into the virtues that characterise a man of strength and efficacy. Jonathan also lists one of the problems facing modern men is that they are given hand outs and don't work for what they have and that they don't see any growth in themselves, leading to unhappiness and a lack of well-being. We also chat about how our children are always watching us and this is enough motivation to live a life of courage, fortitude and temperance. We hope you get a lot out of this conversation.
44 minutes | Oct 4, 2022
BACK TO BASICS: DON'T COMPLICATE THE SIMPLE & SIMPLIFY THE COMPLEX
Joshua and Tom are back with a brand new adventure into the mental, physical and spiritual well-being and effectiveness of men and more specifically fathers. They share that in spite of all the reading and research and philosophising and dealing with trauma, we still need to make sure we take the practical steps to put us in the position to own all the arenas of our lives.
52 minutes | Aug 25, 2022
ALAN SMYTH | HUMAN TRAFICKING AND HOW FATHERS CAN MAKE AN IMPACT
Today we are joined on the podcast by Alan Smyth. Alan serves as the Executive Director for Saving Innocence, an anti-human trafficking, community-based organization focused on child victims of sex trafficking. Based in Los Angeles, Alan's main focus includes budgeting and resource development, strategic partnerships, staff development and client services. Alan is also the co-author of the book "Men, Fight For Me". It is an authentic and hard-hitting conversation, including the first-hand experiences of victims, about the plight of Human Trafficking in America, specifically child sex trafficking. “Fight For Me” are words he heard directly from a survivor of sex trafficking. Alan’s unique view of this tragedy has given him a backstage pass to this horrific exploitation of children. Co-authored by Jessica Midkiff, a survivor of child trafficking, this book speaks directly to the hearts of men and our responsibility to step up and take leadership in the remedy. Alan lists his greatest achievement is being married to Sharon for 37 years and being Dad to Brittany, Trevor & Daughter in law Katy! You can learn more about the work Alan is doing and how we can help serve, empower and advocate for child victims of human trafficking by getting involved with Saving Innocence at www.savinginnocence.org. Check out and get yourself a copy of "Men, Fight For Me" at https://fightforme.net/
40 minutes | Aug 17, 2022
"You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks." Winston Churchill. Be crystal clear on where you are going, and identify what things you are allowing to distract you, as well as the stones you are throwing in your own path. Put your head down, block out all the noise and prevail! To start living your best life, join us in THE COMPLETE DAD NETWORK: https://thecompletedad.mn.co/
43 minutes | Aug 5, 2022
SHARPEN THE AXE
“If I only had an hour to chop down a tree, I would spend the first 45 minutes sharpening my axe.” – Abraham Lincoln. Knowing when to push harder and when to slow down and recover so that we can show up at our optimal level as men is crucial.
11 minutes | Jul 28, 2022
FIND OPPORTUNITIES, NOT EXCUSES
“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” ― Benjamin Franklin Instead of making excuses for why you can't do what you know is best for you and that you are committed to doing, look for opportunities to get them done and keep your promises to yourself and others. Look for the gaps, look for "dead time" and those things keeping you where you are or worse, dragging you down. Start doing those things that serve you and your family. Stop making excuses.
33 minutes | Jul 20, 2022
THE VISION, THE WORK & THE ACCOUNTABILITY
Today we are fortunate to have a new voice on the podcast! One of the members of The Complete Dad Network, Mitesh Khatri joins us to discuss his journey as a father and how being clear and his vision and values and being accountable to a group of men with a common mission has helped him become a more present, intentional and effective father and husband. Often we think men's groups are exclusively for the down and out, men that are broken or have hit rock bottom, and that they aren't "for us". This is not the case, and Mitesh shares how, even though he was, by most people's standards very successful and performing well in the various arenas of his life, he sensed there was more to his life and experience as a father and husband. This led him to sign up for The Complete Dad Foundation Builder Course and the Network, and he has gone from strength to strength, setting his sights on what really matters, doing the work, having the courage to be vulnerable and committing to accountability. If you would like to know more about The Complete Dad Network, check it out at https://thecompletedad.mn.co/. A new foundation builder course kicks off on September 1st 2022.
41 minutes | Jul 13, 2022
STOP DOING THINGS THAT MAKE YOU WEAK
“Stop saying those things that make you weak and ashamed. Say only those things that make you strong. Do only those things that you could speak of with honour.” - Jordan Peterson
35 minutes | Jun 29, 2022
THE ''US'' PERSPECTIVE
"You said "us" and in that moment I knew that words were magic." - K. Towne Jr. How often do you see life from the perspective of your children or partner? When do you take a breathe, take a step back and think, "How are they seeing this right now? How are they feeling? And how much do you take these individual perspectives and lives into account in creating a true sense of belonging in your home? How are you working on developing an "us" perspective, where each part does its part to create unity, warmth and support growth? You play a massive role in leading your family to become an "us" instead of merely individuals just looking out for themselves. Creating an "us" is magic.
49 minutes | Jun 10, 2022
YOU NEED TO EMBRACE THE STRUGGLE ON THE ROAD TO CONTENTMENT
“It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” ― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People It is possible to be content in spite of the myriad challenges life throws at us. Yes, each of us has our own unique struggles, but folding our arms, frowning and saying, that's alright for you, but you don't know how it feels to be me, gets us nowhere. Instead, it takes us further into the darkness and makes digging ourselves out even more difficult. It isn't easy. But we signed up to be fathers and I am certain each of us made that decision hoping we would be up to the challenge. Are you? Have you decided to be a strong and reliable leader? When life gets tough and trouble arises, do you react emotionally, or do you respond by making the choice to stand up straight with your shoulders back and see the good in life? “May you live every day of your life.” - Jonathan Swift
33 minutes | Jun 3, 2022
THE BAR IS SET FAR TOO LOW
Joshua and Tom return to confront the fathers out there who call themselves "Dad" but are unwilling to face the discomfort that comes from confronting the way they are failing to show up, and perpetuate the negative and foolish image of fathers in society. We can all take a good look in the mirror and choose not to take the easy way out and cruise through life, but rather live an extraordinary life as extraordinary Dads. And the mere fact that we see really showing up as extraordinary is in and of itself an indictment on the current view of fathers.
42 minutes | May 19, 2022
When you stop trying to control things outside, you have a better chance of controlling things inside
"You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside." Wayne Dyer Letting go of the need to control things is one of the biggest steps to living a more fullfilled, tranquil and contented life. And doing it is also one of the biggest contributors to being a loving father and husband. Control less. Let go more. Enjoy life. "We can have peace if we let go of wanting to change the past and wanting to control the future." Lester Levenson