36 minutes | Feb 11, 2021
Episode #50: Cielo Canlas Teaches Empaths How To Hone Their Gifts (& Here’s What She Wants You To Know)
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: Ceilo’s gifts and how she came to start a spiritual business Tips for empaths to use their gifts Tips for honing your intuition Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Free Astrology Report: https://video.astrology.tv/ Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com The post Episode #50: Cielo Canlas Teaches Empaths How To Hone Their Gifts (& Here’s What She Wants You To Know) appeared first on Numerologist.com.
7 minutes | Jan 28, 2021
Episode #49: How The Leo Full Moon Will Give You The Confidence of Self-Expression
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined by our resident astrological expert, Kelli Fox, to discuss the Full Moon in Leo Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: The Full Moon in Capricorn on January 28 How this Full Moon will give you self-confidence Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Free Astrology Report: https://video.astrology.tv/ Read the Leo Full Moon blog now – https://numerologist.com/astrology/leo-full-moon/ Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com The post Episode #49: How The Leo Full Moon Will Give You The Confidence of Self-Expression appeared first on Numerologist.com.
7 minutes | Jan 10, 2021
Episode #48: How The Capricorn New Moon Will Help You Dominate 2021
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined by our resident astrological expert, Kelli Fox, to discuss the first New Moon of the year which is the New Moon in Capricorn. Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: The New Moon in Capricorn on January 12/13 How this New Moon will help you begin the year with the right mindset Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Free Astrology Report: https://video.astrology.tv/ Read the Sagittarius New Moon blog now- Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com The post Episode #48: How The Capricorn New Moon Will Help You Dominate 2021 appeared first on Numerologist.com.
6 minutes | Dec 26, 2020
Episode #47: How The Cancer Full Moon (Dec 29) Will Help You Let Go of 2020
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined by our resident astrological expert, Kelli Fox, to discuss the Full Moon in Cancer. Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: The Full Moon in Cancer on Dec 29 How the Cancer Full Moon will release you from 2020’s grasp Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Free Astrology Report: https://video.astrology.tv/ Read the Sagittarius New Moon blog now- Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com The post Episode #47: How The Cancer Full Moon (Dec 29) Will Help You Let Go of 2020 appeared first on Numerologist.com.
51 minutes | Dec 26, 2020
Episode #46: Everything You Need To Know About The Expression Number (Numerology 101)
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined once again by our resident numerology expert, Roy Kirkland, to discuss the Expression Number. Listen below or on your favorite platform… Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com Full Transcript Speaker 1: Welcome to the Numerologist Podcast, where we bring you a very special guest every week to help guide you on your spiritual journey, live with abundance, and inspire your soul. Rose: Hi Numerologist fans. Welcome back to another episode of the Numerologist Podcast with me, your host, Rose from numerologist.com. And we’re back once again with our favorite numerologist, Roy. Hey Roy. Roy: Hey, how are you? Rose: Very well, thank you. Now we’re actually going to go into quite a big topic today. We’re going to be talking about the expression number. So I’m really excited to learn all about the expression number, and we’ll have a few other episodes as well that go into a bit more detail about this topic. But for now, let’s look at the expression 101. So what is the expression number? Read more: The Birthday Number Explained With Roy Kirkland Roy: Well let’s talk about it like this. The expression is the numerological sum of the heart’s desire, also known as the soul urge, which is the sum of the vowels, and the personality number, which is the sum of the consonants, which means it’s actually the sum of all the letters in your name. But at the same time, it’s really a lot more than that. There’s a principle called synergy that we use a lot in modern philosophy and physics and stuff like that, that means the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. In other words, you can’t tell what an automobile does or what it’s actually for or how it works if you have every single separate part spread out on a lawn or something. It’s not until you put it together that it becomes an automobile. Otherwise, it’s just something that’s a bunch of parts. In other words, the whole idea of synergy is that a complete thing does something more and sometimes different than what the assemblage of the parts can do. Now the body is like that. The human being is a synergetic unit. If you separate the heart, the liver, the kidneys, they each have their own functions, but at the same time if you put everything together, all the nerves and electrical signals and all that stuff together, then you have a person. So in other words, everybody on a sports team will have different specialty moves and skills, and even different functions on a sports team, but the athletes’ ability to function together is what makes the team, is what wins or loses the game. You see what I mean? And so synergy explains what the all encompassing nature of number nine is like too. In the old numerology books, they used to always say it’s all-encompassing, meaning that it carries a little bit of everything from one through eight in its job. That’s why in real old numerology books, especially in the Calvian numerology, they don’t assign any letter to nine because they say that the number nine is reserved for God. And it’s a very interesting system of numerology. Even though it’s very old school, it works very well today. Rose: Yeah, okay. Hey Roy, I’m going to have to get you to maybe change your headset. It keeps clicking. It keeps going in and out. Do you have a different, whatever you were using last week? Roy: Yeah, I could do that. I don’t know why that is. It might be because the [inaudible 00:04:09] software is updating or something. So let me switch over to the [inaudible 00:04:13]. Rose: Okay cool, thank you. Roy: It will only take a minute. Rose: Roy, it’s really funny you mentioned about all the pieces to the puzzle sort of laid out on the ground there, and it all has to sort of come together. I feel like sometimes that’s my life, and I think a lot of people would also feel a bit like that as well. So let’s talk about the expression number and how it brings all that together. So what is the expression number? Roy: Okay. The expression, I like to use this phrase to describe it. It’s about you as a human doing rather than a human being. In other words, it’s about what you bring to the table. It’s about your contribution to the world around you and the way the world reflects your contribution back to you. Some people call this paramount. For instance, in other words, you give to the world and the world gives back, and that’s what the expression talks about. It contains all the little tells. You know that expression called tells that we use for people playing poker or something like that? Rose: Yeah. Roy: Little give away signs that lets others know when you’re in a mood. Rose: Absolutely. Roy: It holds all your skills and talents, and maybe some that you haven’t explored yet at hand, but when they’re needed, it’s like a monitor on a computer that turns the millions of internal electronic processes and their interactions into a YouTube video, a document you’re working on, or connects you to others through the social network. In other words, we don’t do anything with those computers that isn’t analogous to something that happens within ourselves. And the expression is sort of like the interface between you and the rest of the world by way of the internet. The expression is an action. It’s not a name for something. If you think about it, express is a verb. Sometimes we use it as a noun when we order express shipping, meaning you better hurry up and get it here, but it’s not a name for something. It’s more of a verb. It’s an action. It’s about how we express ourselves and how our expression affects other people. And consequently, they process it and it’s about how their return of that expression affects us. Rose: Right. Okay, well that’s interesting, that sort of perspective on it. It sounds like it’s more than just a combination of the heart’s desire and the personality numbers though. So can you expand on that a little bit? Roy: Yeah. Yeah. Let’s get a little more in depth about that. It’s more than just a combination of the personality and the soul urge. A more wholistic picture of a person’s individual psychological makeup is involved here. And let me explain a couple of important terms that I know and that I think in terms of. You don’t have to see it this way, but from the standpiont of Jungian psychology, the psychology of Carl Jung, the ego is what protects us from the personal and collective unconscious. In other words, all these thoughts we have in our own subconscious, some of them we’re aware of, and some of them we aren’t. It’s usually the ones that we aren’t aware of that cause problems for us in our life. Complexes and things like that. And also, there’s a collective unconscious. There’s things in the mind that we share with all human beings. Sometimes they’re just in a little cultural bubble, or in little family bubble, or a historical bubble, but nevertheless, these are collective ideas as opposed to personal thoughts. It’s the primary force that protects the self against most of our own thoughts too, that could cause us harm if we persist in them, and whether or not they are our own or come from other people or self-damaging fantasizes that exist in myths, stories, and ideas that are part of the collective mind that we share with others. An example of that is what they call a Cinderella complex. When somebody just wishes that a fairy godmother would come along and introduce them to a prince. Or when they say somebody is looking for Mr. Goodbar is a more verdant expression for that. Read more: How The Universe Is Rooting For You (& Why It Means You Won’t Fail This Week) So when people think of the ego as a person’s overinflated image of themselves, they’re talking about that person being possessed by a sense of grandiosity. In other words, they think they’re bigger and better than they actually are. That’s what we generally call the ego. Saying the person has a big ego, that’s not necessarily true. The person has an overinflated sense of grandiosity. That kind of character defect is clearly seen in the expression. But as a result of a problem at the level of the personality number, which is where psychologists, spiritual healers, and self-help guides and all that kind of stuff, they all work on the level of the personality number. So the ego shares energies and forces of both the heart’s desire and the personality, because it’s trying to protect that deepest inner level of the self from the damage that can be caused by all the stuff in the environment, sort of like the ego is the part of us that puts on the sunblock and so on before we go into the regular environment to keep ourselves from getting too many UV rays and stuff like that. So the self image is another aspect of the expression. It’s a term that a lot of meditators, especially those in Buddhist traditions and books on mindfulness call the self-image, the part of us that reviews ourselves. It forms our personalities and analyzes the world on both an emotional and rational level. It’s where the ideas about a person’s styles of behavior, including speech, appearance, and so on come from. In other words, the self-image is the you that you like to be, or that you want to be, or that you try to be. It’s also constantly analyzing possible threats and sends that information to the deepest level of the self so it can send out the defensive forces of the ego to combat that kind of stress. It also has a direct line to ego, as I just mentioned, and connects the personality and the heart’s desire numbers. It’s our inner critic, but it can also be our internal cheering squad. This is what I call in a lot of my writing the internal guidance system, or your energetic guidance system. That which leads you to, or tries to lead you to where you want to go. Sometimes we just override it because it’s like your friend, say your best friend wants to go mountain climbing or something, and you just dread the idea. It might actually be a good thing for you to do, but if you just dread the idea, you’re not going. And there might be a good reason for that. It might be that your energetic guidance system is trying to keep you from causing yourself trouble or harm. It’s through the self-image that we encounter most of our problems, but it’s also the part of us that attaches meaning to life, meaning to our experience, and lets us know what makes us feel happy and fulfilled. It’s more like an acting coach than it is like anything else. An acting coach who teaches you how to respond to a director of a play or whatever. The expression is guided by the self-image and the needs of the ego, but is partly explained by the heart’s desire and the personality numbers. That’s kind of a way of breaking down what the expression actually is into… How do I put it? Understandable chunks or pieces where there actually are no pieces in us. But it’s an easy way for us to understand what’s going on within ourselves and around us. And this is one of the things I like about numerology so much, because the chunks are so much bigger than they are in like astrology or some of the other methods of studying the personality, or even in psychology. It’s easier to understand than that because we’re looking at three big chunks here, three big pieces. And all of these things are different ways of describing facets of the human personality, but all these descriptions are in reality just one thing, the expression itself. Rose: Sorry Roy, I couldn’t get myself off mute. Well that all sounds like a lot. Roy: Yeah, well I knew this would be a little complicated, but it’s really not that complicated. If you think of the expression as the key number of the individual self and like the life path, as like the key number of the environment, then it becomes a lot easier. Okay? Rose: All right, so can you give us a brief example of how this works in personal numerology? Because I’m sure a lot of people listening to this want to know how it works for them. Roy: Yeah. Yeah. Well let’s do that by giving you an example. And I’ve wrote up a brief essay about this guy for the blog. It’s Elon Musk, who’s often called a visionary genius. We know that he is a genius, without a doubt. His car company, Tesla, is the most valuable car company in the world. As a matter of fact, last week it beat Toyota in market cap and now has a larger market cap than the next six companies below it, which are Toyota, General Motors, Ford, Chrysler, Ferrari, and somebody else who I don’t remember off hand, but anyway, it’s worth more than all of them combined. He’s building a tunnel under Los Angeles for a super fast train to run on magnetic repulsion. His rockets and space capsules are proven to lift multiple astronauts into space at like a tenth of the cost or the danger of the space shuttle. And all of that is part of his project to build a human habit on Mars. I don’t know what he’s going to do about the radiation up there, but nevertheless, this is a guy that’s taking us into outer space with a private company. And we look at his numbers, and we see his soul urge, or the heart’s desire, as being a total of five. A five is a trend setter. A trend setter is a person who is always ahead of the game, who other people are following. And this is a perfect example of a five. If you’ve ever seen him on an interview, you know he’s a really relaxed kind of guy who at least to enjoy himself, which is another aspect of five, and that he’s always one step ahead of the critics. He’s at the cutting edge of today’s technology, and waiting for the world to catch up with him. All of these attributes are normally associated with a five. His personality number is six. His vision of electrical power for the world, high-speed automatic transportation, and other projects and ideas that he’s basically described for building harmony within the environment, comfort within the home, and he’s well-known for his love of children. All of these are different attributes of six, his personality, his personality number. So we add five and six together, and what do we get? We get 11. That’s the expression. Some numerology books call this the master psychic, or the visionary, which is the name that I prefer. It’s the mark of someone who celebrates their own uniqueness, is charismatic, and finds it easy to influence others. In one interview, he even described himself as a kind of a wizard. And in my opinion, he’s living the 11 life better than almost anybody I can think of, except for maybe Tony Robbins, who also has a lot of 11 in his chart. But at any rate, I picked him because his name is short, but the numerology of it is very clear and on target about what we see of him on TV and on the web, in the news, et cetera. In other words, he’s a pure example, an excellent example of what an expression number is all about. Rose: You know Roy, I really love it when somebody is sort of that mysterious kind of person, but their numbers just reveal everything about them. It’s so good. Read more: Why Your Personality Number Will Help You Navigate Momentous Changes In You Life! Roy: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, right, exactly, and it’s the same thing for all of us. Whatever our expression number comes out to be reveals something about our character that is so central to the behavior and so on and so forth. So at any rate, yeah. Yeah, he’s a good example. Rose: Absolutely. But it just makes me ask a different question. I thought we were working with single digit numbers here. Roy: Yeah. Well I usually describe a lot of single digit numbers in my writings in blog posts and so on, even though I’ve started to work with these master numbers and karmic numbers and so on and so forth, I do that to keep beginners from getting thrown off by the fanciful descriptions of these master numbers and karmic numbers on the internet and in books on numerology, because they says all sorts of things that just aren’t realistic about these. And to me, the idea of calling them master numbers is kind of silly, because what are they masters of? They’re not prime numbers or anything. But anyway, for the expression number, like the life path, we’re kind of obligated to use the bigger numbers. Unlike the life path, however, we often see the higher master numbers like 33, 44, and others in the expression because names can be very long. And those long names, like a name that totals up, when you total up all the alphabet values, can easily total up to 44 or 55 or 33, and so on and so forth. So like in Elon’s case, even though is 11 describes what he does and his behavior, you can also see the two in some of his interviews where he appears to be an unassuming and reasonable person, but he really sticks to his guns when it comes to what he’s doing and how hard it is to influence his ideas and so on and so forth, without being stubborn like a four. But that’s the sign of a really high level two. And that often comes when that 11 is subdivided down into a two. He’s even made comments like he thought that the Tesla stock was too expensive. This was back in May of this year. And the date that he did that was on the first of May. Now five plus one equals six, which is one of the components of his personality number. And then at 8:11 in the morning, California time, was when he said this. So there’s the 11 coming back again. And then they made a five for one split, which was announced on August the 11th. So here we have 8/11 coming a couple of times, and so these kind of things are not coincidences, even though they may look like them on the surface. They’re not coincidences. I have to wonder whether it was strategic planning on his end because he knows something about this, or whether it’s just the magic of the soul urge number. I just don’t know. I can’t tell. Rose: Absolutely. Roy: That’s not important. That’s genius [inaudible 00:23:30]. Rose: And my next question is going to be a little bit of a tangent, but it’s a bit of a personal question to you, because it sounds like you really like Elon Musk, but I’m curious, do you follow him because his numerology is so fascinating? Roy: No. It’s not like I’m a fanboy or something. I read a lot of financial news though, and he’s constantly in it, and I can’t get [inaudible 00:24:03]. Rose: So let’s talk about, I know you’ve mentioned this before, but just for our listeners who are a bit confused about what it is, what is the subtotal? Roy: Okay. Now sometimes we have a name that’s much longer than Elon Musk’s name, and it comes to a very high compound number, like say 46 to 73 or something like that. And many of us numerologists like to look at that high compound number, which is the subtotal, before you finally reduce it to a single digit number, because it has something to say about the character of a person as well. For instance, if a person’s name totaled up to, say, 45, well we know that means they’re going to be a nine, but it’s a four and five nine as opposed to a seven and a two nine, which makes for kind of a difference in the character. Like the four and five would be more of a hard working kind of idealistic person who will not put that hammer down no matter how hard the foreman tries to tell him, “Hey look, the house is built. You don’t need to hold the hammer anymore.” But these things have a lot to tell us about the influences, the conflicts in the individual’s life that are more obvious to others than the expression number itself. But this will also be a topic of future posts on the expression and talks when we’re covering famous people and stuff like that. But there are a lot of ways of breaking the expression down into chunks that work well, okay? Rose: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Absolutely. Roy: Yeah, and these subtotals, just one of them. Rose: And I actually think that’s quite an important thing to note, because there’s only a finite number of numbers that we actually attribute to ourselves in our expression number, personality number, all those different things. But looking at the subtotal is, the one single digit or master number that you come to when you’ve totaled everything down is kind of the surface, and you’re just kind of scratching underneath the surface with that subtotal, aren’t you? Roy: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Mm-hmm (affirmative). Exactly. Exactly. And the subtotal comes from not even paying attention to the personality and the soul urge. It’s when you just total up all the letters straight across, all the letter values straight across, and you come to the subtotal first before you come to the whatchamacallit. So it’s more of a component of the way that the name is actually spelled and so on and so forth than either the soul urge or the personality is. Those are separating those components into two categories. So it’s specific to the expression. It doesn’t make much of a difference in the soul urge or the personality number, I’ve found in my own research, but it is specific to the expression, and it’s something that we ought to pay attention to when we’re doing readings or we’re trying to understand our own expression numbers. Rose: Absolutely. That’s a super interesting point, actually. I just want to go back a step, because usually at this point during the podcast, we would have told our listeners how to actually calculate their expression numbers. So we’ve heard about the numbers that are allocated to Elon Musk’s name, but how can our listeners figure out which numbers are allocated to the letters in their name? Roy: Oh yeah, no problem. There are a couple of ways of doing that. The first way is by breaking down the soul urge and the personality. The soul urge, you just total up all to vowels, and I believe you should include Y as a vowel in numerology, because the way we use it in the English language and the way it’s used in many other languages, it only has a vowel sound. The only time you shouldn’t use a Y is when it’s totally silent, and you don’t find that in English. But anyway, we have the vowels, we add them up and see what we get in order to know the soul urge, and then we add up the consonants, like B, D, and so on to find the personality number. And then when we get those two numbers, we add them together. Okay? Rose: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Roy: Now sometimes the soul urge and the personality might be a master number, but the sum of them changes it to not be a master number, and that has a lot to say in itself. Like say for instance a person has a soul urge number as 11, and a personality number as, say, six. That means that they’re going to be an eight. Yeah, they’re going to be a 17, eight by way of the expression number. But it also means that the soul urge has a lot more emphasis in this person’s life. In other words, the seven is kind of a quiet number, which means its personality is likely to be kind of quiet. So a person like that might be an actual genius at something, but because the eight is the expression, he may try to downplay that inventiveness and so on and so forth. It’s like a story I read just the other day about this guy and his wife who won over… Oh what was it? Something like $32 million in the Michigan State Lottery, and the way they did it was because this guy discovered a pattern in the lottery. He’s a mathematician. Rose: Oh wow. Roy: Yeah. They own a convenience store, but he went through several other jobs doing this, that, and the other, because there aren’t that many great jobs out there for a mathematician. Rose: Exactly. Roy: But that’s what his degree is in, and so on and so forth. Yeah. It’s like that. It’s like that’s the kind of thing. I wouldn’t be surprised if that turned out to be his numerology. But anyway… Rose: Yeah. Absolutely. So we’ll also put some links to a couple of blogs that our listeners can read and go and have a look at which numbers are allocated to which letters as well so they can see that in front of them, because sometimes it’s a bit difficult to listen to and try and figure out when you’re listening to a podcast. But anyway, let’s move on. So I just want to talk about the name table that you’ve talked about in the past. So what is that? Roy: Oh yeah. This is one of my favorite subjects. Well gosh, I say that so many times. I think everything is my favorite subject. But anyway, I like to call it the inclusion table. Some people call it that. Many people call it the karma table, most of the new age people, because they believe it’s something that’s carried over from previous lifetimes or something like that. But the inclusion table, I like to call it that because it has to do with how many of the nine numbers are included into your name. The way you make that is you make a grid of nine boxes, like a tic-tac-toe board, and they represent the top, the nine numbers. So across the top row, you write how many ones you have, how many twos you have, how many threes you have, and then you analyze that. This inclusion table not only gives you a lot of information about the person’s life. For instance, I know a person who has basically one five in their inclusion table and a whole bunch of ones, and about three twos and so on and so forth, and this is a person who has no… How do I put it? Struggle to be personally free of traditions and stuff like that in their lives. They’re okay with everything that’s gone on before, or the cultural stuff that they do and so on and so forth. They’re okay with it all. It doesn’t bother them. But what that one, it causes a conflict, because there’s so many ones, there’s like the strong sense of self and self-importance that goes along with this. Anyway, explaining the table as a whole is something that we don’t have time for in this podcast, but we will do it in the future. But let’s just say that having explored thousands of these tables, I want to let you know that I don’t read someone’s chart without exploring this inclusion table, because it is so important for understanding the way that their name works. It’s like the amount of each of the nine numbers in the name. Like for instance, in Elon’s chart, he has no letters with the value of seven, eight, or nine unless we count his middle name, which is Reeve, and then we get that R, which means one nine. But no sevens or eights. Now there’s so many people out there who think that no eights means a bad chart for money. Elon Musk is the fifth richest person in the world right now. He just passed Bill Gates, so I think he may have gone up a rank since he decided he was moving to Texas. But in other words, he’s not broke. He doesn’t have a bad chart for money. He had struggles when he was getting started. He and his brother used to sleep in the little office that they rented because he couldn’t afford an apartment. That was before he invented PayPal and so on, or the company that eventually became PayPal. But I don’t think that this idea that no eights means having a bad time with money makes any sense. In other words, I don’t think his prosperity consciousness is lacking. Even though there aren’t any eights there, even though he started with very little by today’s standards, he has all the passion and drive it takes to attract the billions needed to build a private space program. That’s amazing. And that’s his mindset and his attitude. He’s focused on what he does, not what he makes. As a matter of fact, I was just reading an article about him the other day in the financial news about why he’s moving to Texas from California. He at once started selling off a bunch of his properties and so on out there, and he said, “I just don’t need them.” This is a something a person who had no eights in their chart would never do, and who had a bunch of eights in their chart would never do. He’s just like, “I don’t need them. It’s too much. It’s too much for me.” So he’s moving his family and part of his business to Texas. Why? Because there’s no capital gain stacks. Rose: That’s smart. Roy: Yeah. He’s using his mind, not his… How do I put it? Self-image to make his decisions, you know? Rose: Absolutely. Roy: It also gives us a lot of hidden numbers in the name that have special significance in the life. And let’s move on, because like I said, we’ll discuss this table in future podcasts, okay? Rose: Perfect. Now okay, you made me a promise to ask about the dynamic personal alphabet. Let’s talk about that. Read more: 9 Amazing Reasons To Love Your Life Path 9 Bestie Roy: Yeah. Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. I’m going to talk about that. Now each of the letters in the expression constitutes a personal alphabet, and we read it dynamically. In other words, we read it by way of time in that the number associated with the letter marks off a number of years that each letter is active. For instance, A runs for one year when its cycle comes. The R runs for nine years when its cycle is running. And each name has its own cycle. So we consider each of them separately, as in several columns or several rows in order to make sums of the letters in the name. In other words, if you have a person who has no middle name, you just use the first name, you make a column of that, and the last name, and then sum the number in the first name and the number in the last name. Okay, let’s take a person like Alan Alda, famous actor. If we had A as the first letter of the first name, and A as the first letter of the second name, that would mean that for one year, his first year of life, that the two ones would run concurrently, meaning that his first year would have had a two as a special number, which is something we’re going to be discussing in depth when we get to it, but let’s go back to Elon’s chart. The first letter of his first name is E, which is five, which will run for five years. The first number of his last name is M, which is four, which will run for four years. So the secret identity, or what else do I call it? The moving balance number becomes E and U for the fifth year of his life, and L and U for the sixth year of life. You see, because the number is always changing in both of them. And they always change on the birthday. That’s another trick to it that another people don’t get, because there’s a whole lot of… Let’s just say I’m doing a whole podcast on the subject of this, okay? And maybe two, because there are a lot of letters in the alphabet, and I’m going to explain them all. Rose: Perfect. Roy: Every 19 years, the cycle, we count up his first name, we have 19 years. 19 is the sum of the number of digits. Of the letters, I’m sorry, values in the first name. So that means every 19 years, after 19 years have elapsed, then the cycle of the first name will begin again. I’m pretty sure I did this on him with the podcast. So it’s not just that we get these different cycles and patterns of numbers that flow from the personal years and the life path cycles and the pinnacles and so on and so forth. We get them from the name by using this method of understanding the alphabet and what these alphabet cycles are in the person’s name. That’s why I’m doing a whole podcast, and as I said before, maybe two, because it’s so important. While the life path, different cycles that are generated from the life path, while they have plenty of value, they describe what’s going on around the person. But these name cycles describe, once again, the doings of the person, what they do. In other words, this is what generates the actions that cause the feedback from the universe that we get with the life path cycles. So it becomes a complete method of prediction, a feedback loop that’s very easy to do once you get the basic ideas. That’s why I’m breaking these up into different pieces, so that the basics, the basics, the basics. I hammer that into all my astrology students, for instance, because these books that are out there, all the good books are the kind of books they used to give closed door to cycles in ancient times. Writing a book was not easy, so they didn’t spend the time to write a book that nobody could understand properly unless they had the basics hammered in over years and years and years of verbal practice. And that’s the same thing with numerology. These kind of ideas seem complicated on the surfaced, but once the basics are well-known, then they become so easy and so simple to understand. You see? Rose: Absolutely. Okay, so the expression is really something, it sounds like. Roy: Yeah. Rose: And actually, it makes me think that we talk about the life path number as being the most important number to know, but it sounds like the expression number is pretty important too. Roy: Oh yeah. Rose: So is there anything more you want to say in this podcast about the expression number? Roy: Well like with what you said a minute ago about it being pretty important too, it’s like balance in nature. If you consider that everything in life is a matter of give and take, in other words you have to give something in order to get something. If you want to grow a garden, you’ve got to give up the sweat and the money to buy the tools, and even the money to own the property and so on and so forth in order to dig up the ground, which takes more sweat, and plant the seeds, which takes patience. In other words, all of these things are what you surrender in order to have that beautiful garden grow. It’s just as important to the garden as the seeds and the weather. So everything is in balance in nature like that. And like if you consider as being like the take and you as being the give, and that these roles are constantly interchanging between the two, the expression is just as important. And both of them are supremely important to understand. From the life path, we get our time cycle, so environmental change. And when I say environment, I mean everything that’s not you yourself. And from the expression, we get all our action, and the feedback for our action that the environment gives us, it all works together in yin and yang kind of harmony due to difference. But anyway, having described the expression and gone into some depth about its power and meaning, you can see that explaining the many ways to explore the power and value of the name numbers. Now this post will give you an overview of the expression that can help you know some of the fine points of analysis that we will be discussing on a regular basis in posts like these and in celebrity profiles and other types of blog posts. So for now, just focus on the fact that expression is about choice and character, whereas the life path is about opportunity and risk. And get ready for a continuing series about the expression. I think I’ve got three of them already done, and that’s without the alphabet considered. Okay? Rose: Oh wow, absolutely. Roy: So yeah, all the information that I briefly introduced you to in this introduction to the expression number and a lot more. Rose: Wow. Okay. Well I’m excited to listen to the next few podcasts, and listeners, make sure you subscribe to the podcast to make sure you get the podcast as soon as it comes out and as soon as it’s live. And I will also link the blog post that Roy is talking about in the show notes, so you can go there to check those out. Once again, Roy, thank you so much, and we’ll speak to you next time. Roy: Yeah, I’m looking forward to it. Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to the Numerologist Podcast. If you loved it, make sure you subscribe, and don’t forget to check the show notes for an extra special free gift. The post Episode #46: Everything You Need To Know About The Expression Number (Numerology 101) appeared first on Numerologist.com.
33 minutes | Dec 21, 2020
EPISODE #45: How Magick Ended Shawn Engel’s Decade of Self-Destruction
Welcome back to the Numerologist podcast. I hope you’re all enjoying the festive period in the lead up to Christmas. I’m in Australia, so it’s always a hot Christmas for me but being from the Uk, I’m used to a cold one, so, if it’s chilly where you are, embrace that for me even it feels a little bit miserable for you. This episode of the Numerologist podcast is a magickal one indeed. Shawn Engel is the brand strategist and spiritual mentor behind, Witchy Wisdoms. She is the author of Cosmopolitan’s Love Spells (Sterling), Power of Hex (Chicago Review Press), the upcoming Witches Brew (Sterling), and the matriarch of The Boss Mystic Podcast Network. She has successfully leveraged social media and currently has over 50k followers in her social community under the handle @witchywisdoms. But the Shawn before the followers that we’ll explore today. Her story of how she embraced her magickal side to liberate her from a life of drugs and partying is one that you have to hear. So, without further ado, let’s welcome Shawn to the show. Related Podcast: A NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCE MADE JOHN HOLLAND REALIZE HIS TRUE CALLING Related Podcast: How To Be Fine With Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg Here’s what we discuss: How Shawn became a witch; what her childhood was life The shocking reason Shawn turned her life around The way Shawn helps her magickal community Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.php Shawn’s website: https://witchywisdoms.com Shawn’s Mastermind: https://witchywisdoms.com/new-year-new-you-mastermind Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Speaker 1: Welcome to the Numerologist Podcast, where we bring you a very special guest every single week to help guide you on your spiritual journey, live with abundance and inspire your soul. Speaker 2: Welcome back to the Numerologist podcast. I hope you’re all enjoying the festive period in the lead up to Christmas. I’m in Australia, so it’s always a hot Christmas for me but being from the Uk, I’m used to a cold one, so, if it’s chilly where you are, embrace that for me even it feels a little bit miserable for you. This episode of the Numerologist podcast is a magickal one indeed. Shawn Engel is the brand strategist and spiritual mentor behind, Witchy Wisdoms. She is the author of Cosmopolitan’s Love Spells (Sterling), Power of Hex (Chicago Review Press), the upcoming Witches Brew (Sterling), and the matriarch of The Boss Mystic Podcast Network. She has successfully leveraged social media and currently has over 50k followers in her social community under the handle @witchywisdoms. But the Shawn before the followers that we’ll explore today. Her story of how she embraced her magickal side to liberate her from a life of drugs and partying is one that you have to hear. So, without further ado, let’s welcome Shawn to the show. Hey, Shawn. Thanks for joining us. Shawn: Thank you so much for having me. Speaker 2: I want to really explore your magical world because magic is always something that fascinates me so much. Before we get to what you do now, let’s take a look at your journey to actually getting there. How did it all start for you? Shawn: Oh, it’s a long story, long and arduous story with so many different evolutions. I’m a triple Scorpio, so it was definitely true to the brand but in terms of the magical beginnings, I was always a spooky kid. Speaker 2: I love that. Shawn: [inaudible 00:00:55]. Right, making potions in the backyard with flowers and mud and going on those … You remember those old websites that had red font and bad like gifs and looking up spells and sitting on the floor in Barnes & Noble and looking up palmistry books and astrology books. My magical journey started there and just dabbling, not necessarily taking it seriously, I was however old I was 12, 13. What do you really take seriously then? Speaker 2: Yeah. Shawn: It was always part of me but after that, at a very young age, I got into lots of trouble. It was the era of sex and drugs. It was a really devastating decade of just way too much self-destruction. Again, quite Scorpio. Speaker 2: Yeah. Shawn: Right and so I did lose touch just a little bit with the magical side. And also, if you’re in that much self destruction and self harm, it’s really hard to reach for things that can benefit you. Speaker 2: Absolutely. Shawn: Right, it’s more of an ego attachment. Lost touch with it a little bit. And then fast forward over to, let’s say, I think I was 24 years old, so quite a few years ago. I got into therapy and got my tarot deck back out and the rest is history. Speaker 2: Right. I’m interested to explore that 13, 14 year old you. Did you ever … Because I’ve spoken to a few witches before but they feel like they’ve actually come out as a witch. Did you talk to people about it then? Did you tell people you were interested in that kind of thing or was it just one of those side things that was in the back of your mind? Shawn: I was never officially in the broom closet. It was always part of me but it was always … Again, I prided myself on being strange. Yeah, I did a spell or I was the one that introduced it to my friends who always gave a side eye but reluctantly did them with me. Speaker 2: That’s always the case, isn’t it? They think it’s weird but they actually get into it themselves. Shawn: Exactly. And my birthday is October 29th, so it’s always right by Halloween. Every birthday party we were doing seances. It was definitely part of my brand from a very [inaudible 00:03:13] age. Speaker 2: Yeah. What did your parents think of it? Shawn: They were like, it’s Shawn being Shawn. Speaker 2: Well, that was good. Shawn: I was really fortunate. My mother is of Jewish faith. My father is a German Catholic and they asked me and my sister when we were really young, what we wanted to study religiously, if we wanted to do either. And I was like, “I’m going to be a witch.” And my sister was like, “I’m an Aquarius. I don’t care.” Speaker 2: And that’s really refreshing because a lot of people you talk to, their parents would not be as … Especially if they have their own faith, they would not be as open to things like that. That’s quite refreshing that you were able to explore what you wanted to explore. Shawn: I think I was super, super lucky that my parents were 80s punk rockers. My dad was had pink hair and was a drummer in a punk band and my mom was a groupie. They were always way more open but yeah, I’m absolutely so fortunate to have had that upbringing. Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely. You said … Okay, when you were about 24, you brought your tarot deck out again. What happened then? What was the big change? Shawn: My big Tower moment, it was the catalyst for Witchy Wisdoms but at the very tail end of my sex and drugs escapade, I got involved with … Who I didn’t realize at the time, I was in a lot of naive denial but he was a heroin addict. And I moved from Manhattan to New Jersey to basically support him, with the promise that he would eventually pay me back but we moved in together. And then two days after we moved in, he said, “Hey, I have a heroin addiction and I need to go to Florida to rehab.” And my whole world crumbled. And just previously from that, I think the reason why I even got into that relationship in the first place is because I buried so much trauma from a sexual assault in the previous year. There was a lot to unpack and a lot of the reasons why I was brought to that Tower moment because these faded events that happen, it’s like you veered so far off course that something drastic has to take place. And I’m not saying it was … Oh, I found out. And then the next thing I know, I’m Witchy Wisdoms. It took a very, very long time for me to get into therapy, work through things, work through my worth and see that he was no longer a part of that life, to break up, to realize what boundaries were. I’d never even heard that word before therapy. Speaker 2: Yeah. Shawn: And then once I was in that mode of self-discovery, marrying the things that I was learning in therapy, like boundaries, big queen of swords energy with the taro, was so cathartic. That was the basis for all of my magic going forward. Speaker 2: Was it a difficult transition? Obviously, going from your old life to transitioning through that therapy period, how did it take its toll on you? Shawn: Oh, my gosh. Well, I have to say, I’m lucky in that I’m a very Mars ruled person. Determination was never … That was never an issue for me but I went through a thousand deaths in that period. Not to be dramatic but I was taking a train., I was taking three trains from Jersey city to Bay Ridge, Brooklyn, twice a week to see my very stoic German therapist who was in my network that I found on Zocdoc and was sliding scale. And it was so painful to revisit. I was so triggered by everything. We’re going deeper and unpacking so many things. That saying where it’s always darkest before the dawn … Speaker 2: Absolutely. Shawn: That was what it was. Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. And I think a lot of people when they have their moment, whatever it is. Whether they’ve come through a really dark period or they’ve just been living a life that isn’t necessarily who they are and they have that aha moment, like you said, it’s never a, “Aha. Oh, now everything’s all good.” It’s an aha of , “I’ve got to go through all of this crap before I get to the good stuff.” Right. Shawn: Absolutely. And that’s the thing with manifestation too. It’s like yeah, you can get it but then you have to implement it. It’s like, “What?” Speaker 2: Let’s start talking about … Okay, what was the moment that you started to go back into this witchy side of you and explore that? What did that look like? Shawn: It happened pretty organically. I’ll be honest. I’m a really big believer in signs or just things popping up in your periphery when they need to happen. Whether I was scrolling Instagram or looking through magazines or talking to people, the notion of magic just kept popping up, whether it was astrology or tarot or whatever. And it was just that dinging thing in the back of my head that was like, “Remember how helpful this was to you. And remember how this was a part of your personality.” And I was just like, “Man, I think this is something … It’s calling to me.” And it fit like a puzzle piece because yeah, therapy is great but it’s hard work, right. And it doesn’t feel as enlightening and fulfilling for me without the magical aspect of just that integration. That was just something that I needed. It works really well for some people on its own but I needed them in tandem and it worked so well for me. Speaker 2: And I think that’s an important point to note as well, isn’t it? Therapy isn’t for everyone. Therapy plus something might work for somebody else. And there’s so many different combinations of self-care, self-development and professional … Sorry, personal growth that people can go through. And I think that’s a really good point you highlighted. For anybody who’s out there going through therapy and thinking, “This isn’t working the way I want it to.” There’s something out there that might be for you instead, right. Shawn: Yeah, absolutely. Speaker 2: Yeah. When did it go from magical Shawn for Shawn to magical Shawn for the collective and for clients and that kind of thing? Shawn: That again, was pretty organic and I want to say slow moving but now that I look back at it in the years that it’s taken me to culminate my brand, it was not slow. It was pretty fast. When I got to a point of like, “I have internalized this work. I’ve gotten to a point where I can at least see the other side of it.” No one’s ever really on the other side of trauma but I felt that I was able to share it and I don’t know, just talk about it. And I was always a writer. Again, going back to that spooky kid version of myself, I was writing horror stories when I was in fifth grade and scaring my teachers. Writing was just always that tool that I used. I decided to write a blog because again, at the time … Now, I had lost so many jobs during the breakup because I was just unable to focus and also just was not meant for the line of work I was in. I was in the service industry and working as a GM. I got back into bartending and held the job for a while because I was more mentally well and able to perform but I was unfulfilled and I was like, “I need something in my life that’s going to help me move forward and give me purpose.” I wrote the blog, Witchy Wisdoms. And married the tarot with therapy. And so every blog post was a card and was like, “Here are the practical applications for the magical nuances, used to be occult symbols.” And it resonated with people. They were like, “Oh, this is really helpful.” Then that turned into an Instagram. And when I realized I had a knack for social media, I was like, “I can get exposure doing this.” And when I reached enough people, I was like, “I could be a life coach.” I got certified. And that was I think, maybe three or four years after my therapy journey but then now that I do business coaching, it’s because the life coaching business took off so well. Those were the evolutions of it but yeah. Speaker 2: I do find that really interesting, how the magic and the business intertwined because there’s so many business coaches that they don’t niche down into anything specific but tell me, how have people responded to the magical element of your business coaching? Is it just spiritual people or people who are interested in the occult or the magical side of things? Or is it businesses as a whole, who they don’t necessarily have a magical leader at the helm if you will? Shawn: Well, it’s definitely taken all kinds. I’ve worked with everybody from non-profits for women in Guyana to artists, to tarot readers, to beauty brands. It’s run the gamut but what I’ve noticed, is it’s generally just who gravitates towards me, are women that struggle with empathy and worth. And I think that’s where the magical aspect ties in because again, being so good at the boundaries that I practiced, I can tell people that are healers by nature, whether it’s through beauty branding or helping women in Guyana or whatever the case may be, I help them heal but with integrity and from a standpoint that also supports them and helps them strategically keep scaling so that they can heal the masses versus being stuck in that loop of where you think you can only do the one thing and you can only help these certain people and it should all be for free and then nobody’s getting any value. Speaker 2: Absolutely. And that’s something that a lot of people struggle with, isn’t it? Actually taking money and not doing something for free and that kind of thing. And it seems like a bit of a guilty thing. I know from personal experience, I started a business blog, since somebody private messaged me and said, “Where are the profits going for this?” I’m like, “It’s a business. Why do people make people feel guilty about taking money?” Shawn: Honestly, I think that’s just full projection. And I actually, I’ve had that happen to me quite a few times. When people back out on contracts where the parameters are clearly stated, what is expected. And then they feel like I should have given them things for free. I’m like, “Well, my time and my energy isn’t free and you can take it or leave it. No one is making you pay this price but if you don’t value yourself, I’m pretty certain you’re not going to value me either.” Speaker 2: Absolutely. Shawn: Right and there’s a lot to unpack there and many different reasons because money is a sore spot for a lot of people but that’s generally the biggest culprit. Speaker 2: Let’s talk about what a session or what a … Work with with you looks like. If I came to you as a business, what would we do? What would a session look like? Shawn: It depends on … And this is if I’m doing business coaching, it depends on where you’re at but generally if I’m starting with mid level accounts, let’s say there’s maybe 5 to 10K followers, what we do through the course of two months, we’ll have 30 minute check-in calls but over the course of two months, we set up a content strategy that feels really easy but it also gets engagement and gets conversions. We at least set up that strategy so that it feels like a well-oiled machine. Once a week you can sit down, create content, boom. And then that part of the marketing side is down. And then it also has to do with product development, right. What kind of courses are you releasing? What kind of services are you offering to your community? But the overarching real work that I do and where it comes to be more spiritual is in the branding. Those are the ABC strategies but we do a lot of shadow work around the brand because again, there’s a million tarot readers. There’s a million astrologers but what is it that you focus on? How are you adding your own flavor? For example, I worked with Astro Forecast, who’s on TikTok. I love her so much but we helped develop her brand to be a newscaster. That was how she delivered her astrology. And it resonated so well that she got over a hundred thousand followers on TikTok. Speaker 2: Wow. Shawn: It’s really because she felt into that character and felt akin to it. And it was part of her. And so it didn’t really feel inauthentic and she was struggling with visibility and then she just took off. That I think, is the real magical work that I do within it. And then everything else falls into place. Speaker 2: And I think what you just said there about authenticity, it’s something that we say so often but it’s something people find so difficult to actually find their authentic self. And it’s another one of those aha moments, when they do step into alignment with who they are and the path they’re supposed to be on, then everything moves in the way it should. Shawn: Well, yes. And I love that idea of authenticity being so elusive, right because I had to break down my own barriers with my authenticity in therapy because what we’re doing as adults, is collecting beliefs and we believe things about ourselves. We try to fit into a mold that other people will like. And especially faced with this slew of social media options to be a part of, we want to fit into a cookie cutter mold that not only will people resonate with but will also sell. It’s just so much compacting onto you. And just so much pressure, that when you have somebody that can guide you through it, just an objective observer, it becomes so much more helpful. Speaker 2: Absolutely. And you don’t just work one-on-one, do you? You have courses and masterminds and those kinds of things. Can you tell me a bit more about those? Shawn: Yeah. Well, I’ve been doing this a while and I used to crank out so many courses. 2020 took a toll on me, I will say, so not as many new courses are out but I have so many different branding courses. I have Instagram courses, marketing courses, podcasting courses, branding courses. All of those are self study essentially. And I put them in a cool little portal, so you can find them all there. And you just work through the, module by module. They’re generally six modules long. You get homework but again, they’re self study. If that’s something that … You’re just looking to get either a refresh drawn or you’re brand new too, it’s a great first step to get in there. I find that the most magic that happens is the one-on-one stuff. And then I will launch group containers because I find too … Especially people that are beginning to create their Instagram profiles or something, they all need to hit specific milestones. Grouping them together is generally just … It makes sense but the next thing that I’m doing, which I’m actually really, really excited for, is a six month long mastermind. And it’s not on business. It’s actually on personal development and growth. That I’m really excited for. Speaker 2: When are you starting that? Shawn: That’s actually coming up really soon. I called it the New Year New You Mastermind. I’m so excited and it’s starting January 18th but it’s a going back to basics. As I told you my story about learning boundaries and therapy and all that, I’m almost re-imagining that in this mastermind. Through the course of six months, we’re setting goals, we’re understanding, revisiting and re-appropriating boundaries. We are crushing shadow work. It’s just going to be deep, lots of real soul excavation and implementation, action steps, learning how to manifest but in the real way, not in the windfall of cash manifesting. Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely. Shawn: Not to say it’s a farce, I’ve seen it happen before but I think people chase that in a way that’s unhealthy. And real manifesting is setting up boundaries, sticking by them, setting more and sticking by them. And really setting a clear trajectory for you to continuously get the things you want. It’s hard work. Speaker 2: Absolutely. Absolutely. And it’s funny you talk about that chasing money because I’ve heard before, when you chase money, you’re not chasing happiness. At the end of the day, you need to be happy within yourself, set those boundaries, do all the things within yourself. And then if money is what needs to come to you, then it’ll come to you, right. Shawn: Absolutely. And I don’t want to come from a very privileged standpoint and say that money doesn’t provide comfort because it absolutely does, especially in the pandemic world of 2020. If you’ve lost your job, then you’re not going to be happy simply because you can’t meet your basic human needs. I don’t want to negate that fact at all but you’re right, if you’re sitting in a comfortable level and you just think more and more and more is going to make you happier, you’re missing a really integral part of what true happiness or true peace rather, really is. Speaker 2: Absolutely. Now, I want to go back to you as a witch because I’m really interested to find out, do you label yourself as a certain kind of witch? Are you a kitchen witch or garden witch? What are you, if you’re anything? Shawn: Honestly, I think I’m more of an eclectic witch. I like a grab bag of things. Yeah, I’ve always … Again, my parents were punk rockers, so I’ve never really liked to be labeled. Being eclectic was just a lot more comfortable for me. As far as occult scholar studies go, I do look into the Kabbalah and the Kabbalistic tree of life. Again, I have Jewish ancestry, so that always just felt really akin to me. Any type of high magic, I do dabble in but I don’t do ceremonial magic. It’s just something that I use as a meditative guide. And then I don’t know. I love candles and incense and the moon and astrology and … Speaker 2: Yes, I love candles too. Is there a candle witch because I think I might be one of those? Shawn: [inaudible 00:22:22] be candle witches. Speaker 2: Yeah, deal. What does your spell work look like? Shawn: Generally … I haven’t worked magic in a while, especially since it’s been eclipse season. I’m already getting a headache from this passing eclipse and I’m just like, “Oh, it’s been a rough one.” … but I’ll do money spells and better business spells pretty frequently. And again, it’ll look like a seven day candle with my own particular ritual. I also love … Again, triple water sign. I love baths. Meditating in a bath and working magic in a bath is really important to me as well. I’ll marry the two sometimes but also, a lot of the time, as I’m a person suffers with mental health issues, sometimes I don’t have the energy and a lot of my spell work and magic has to do with honoring that as well. Speaker 2: Yeah. Shawn: It’s really just a gentleness. Speaker 2: And that’s really … Again, another powerful thing, is to think about who you are and what works for you. At the end of the day, you don’t have to say, “I’m a witch. I have to do a spell every single day.” Right. Shawn: Right, exactly. Or even on every luminary, I know there are so many people that put so much pressure on themselves to make manifestations every single new moon. And it’s like, “Maybe your body’s not calling for you to do that right now. And you just need to be still.” Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. And it’s all about listening to your body at the end of the day. I want to talk about your community and the spells you teach them. Is there a single spell that you start off your community with and say, “Okay, this is the one that everybody should do?” Shawn: Oh, okay. I love this question because simple answer no because I truly believe, especially as a person that prides themselves on autonomy and building businesses and all of that, I truly believe in DIY. Whether it’s in my books, whether it’s in my co-creation coven or whether I’m feeling fancy and want to do one in my Instagram, which I do very rarely or even … When have I done it before? I have a course called Spellbound Academia. All of these show you the pieces that you need to create a spell that is 100% yours and that will work with you because I’m a true believer, especially when it’s in business, that if you do something that doesn’t feel right to you, you will not do it and it won’t be successful. And that is the same with magic. It’s the same with spell work. Some people are really uncomfortable doing something ceremonial or singing out loud and that nervous energy isn’t going to translate well on your spell work. I always teach people like, “Hey, these are correlations of crystals, herbs, whatever, whatever. These are certain things that will amplify whatever your intention is. This moon is good for that.” … but it’s more of an educational and empowerment platform, rather than like, “You need to do X, Y, Z. And that’s it.” Speaker 2: I think the theme of this podcast is very much been there’s no one size fits all. There’s no cookie cutter solution. For you personally, did you go through a lot of different explorations to find out what worked for you? Shawn: Yeah. And even in my life, right. If you’re thinking about just that entire journey of drugs and boys, you keep trying different things. My whole life has just been an experiment. Even the business, it has gone through so many evolutions in a short time. And I think that’s why I encourage it so much because I want people to trust the process and love the evolution because as an authentic branding coach, your yesterday may not be authentic to you today. Speaker 2: Absolutely. Shawn: Yeah. Things change, they fluctuate. And I think it’s honoring that that’s really the crux of it. Speaker 2: Absolutely. And that is again, something so important to note, to remember, is that we’re not the same person today as we were yesterday or will be tomorrow. And that’s okay. I think in our parents’ generations, it was very much … If we look at the jobs they had and their careers, it was pretty much get into one career, stay in that career. That’s who you are but it’s just not the case anymore, is it? Shawn: Well until you look at your parents and the boomer era, right and you see how much divorce happened when we were children and you see how many people that left their jobs and now had no idea what to do. And so I feel like unlearning that … And I guess it is technically ancestral trauma, to where you can really pave your own way and then love every iteration of your life because life is long. And to just settle down at 20 with a clear path, it’s just not practical. And I think probably that’s where it comes from for me too. Speaker 2: Absolutely. What would you say to people who are potentially scared or embarrassed to explore the witchy side of them? Shawn: I would say that you can keep secrets. This is coming from a triple Scorpio. Have a secret, secrets are fun. Google things. If you’re afraid or embarrassed, do things in your own little private way and just start reading. Witchcraft is all about reading and studying. If you’re reading, you don’t really have to own anything yet. It’s the best thing to just dip a toe in. You also don’t need to share it with everyone. You certainly don’t need to share it on social media. You’re allowed to have secrets. Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely. And I actually think that’s quite empowering because a lot of religions say to you, “If you don’t talk openly about your religion, then you’re denouncing it and you’re not a real whatever.” … but with this, it’s quite empowering to know that you can be a witch and you don’t need to share that with everybody. Shawn: Yeah. Not everybody needs to know everything. And I think when living in the digital age, there’s this underlying notion that they do, they don’t. Have secrets. Speaker 2: Absolutely. Now, we’re coming to the end of the podcast but I do want to just go on a bit of a tangent and talk about something else. I noticed that you’ve got quite a few tattoos and I’d love to understand whether they came before the witchiness, after the witchiness, as a result of the witchiness? What do they represent? Do each one of them represent something different? Shawn: Oh, I love that. They definitely came after the witchiness and I think that’s why they’re so good. I had the privilege of waiting until I was a little older to get tattoos. I have quite a few friends that still have a butterfly tramp stamp. I did well but this one is my Scorpio constellation and yeah. Generally, a lot of them are Scorpio related. I don’t think I know any Scorpio that doesn’t have at least two Scorpio tattoos. Speaker 2: Absolutely. I think you’re so right. Shawn: [inaudible 00:29:45]. And then yeah, I have this moon on my bicep that I got in Berlin. I like to travel and collect tattoos. They were my momentos but yeah, now I have so many but they’re definitely a result of me embracing my full witchiness because it’s out there. It’s no secret. Speaker 2: Absolutely. And I actually … It makes me want to see our community’s tattoos. If you’ve got tattoos, especially if you’re a Scorpio, now I think about it. If you’ve got tattoos that are spiritual or symbolic to you in some way, tag us on Instagram and tag Shawn and we will share them because I’d really be interested to see what tattoos you guys have because it’s always quite interesting, isn’t it? We actually did a blog the other day on top moon tattoos for your sign. Shawn, I’ll send that to you and you could have a look to see what your Scorpio one is. Shawn: I love that. Oh, my gosh. And yes, I would love to see all of your tattoos. Let’s do a gallery. Speaker 2: Excellent. Thank you so much, Shawn, for joining me today. It’s been really interesting to talk to you. What we’re going to do, is we’re going to put the link to your mastermind in our show notes. If anybody wants to check that out, they can do. Shawn: Fabulous. Thank you for having me. Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to the Numerologist Podcast. If you loved it, make sure you subscribe and don’t forget to check the show notes for an extra special free gift. 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8 minutes | Dec 12, 2020
Episode #44: Sagittarius New Moon and Solar Eclipse Forecast
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined by our resident astrological expert, Kelli Fox, to discuss the Solar Eclipse and New Moon In Saggitarius! Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: The significance of this New Moon The traits of this specific New Moon and why it’s unique Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Free Astrology Report: https://video.astrology.tv/ Read the Sagittarius New Moon blog now- Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com The post Episode #44: Sagittarius New Moon and Solar Eclipse Forecast appeared first on Numerologist.com.
51 minutes | Dec 12, 2020
Episode #43: Your Personality Number Reveals The Secrets of What Other People Think About You with Roy Kirkland
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined once again by our resident numerology expert, Roy Kirkland, to discuss the Personality Number and its connection with our heart’s desires! Listen below or on your favorite platform… Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com Full Transcript Speaker 1: Welcome to the Numerologist podcast, where we bring you a very special guest every single week to help guide you on your spiritual journey, live with abundance and inspire your soul. Rose: Hi, numerologist community, and welcome back to another episode of the Numerologist podcast. Thank you so much for joining me once again, my name is Rose, and today I am here with our favorite numerologist Roy. Hey, Roy. Roy: Hey, how are you? Rose: Really well, thank you. Today we’re talking about the personality number. Let’s get right to it, what is the personality number all about? Roy: Well, first, let me start by saying that the personality number is definitely not the kind of thing that tells you about what clothes are best, or what kind of car you, quote should, unquote drive. Things like that are okay, but that’s superstition, that’s not really diving into the depth of numerology. Because this number explores the interaction between your highest goals, and your highest ideals, and your psychic and physical environment. I was just doing some research the other day and was reading from Einstein, and he said that “Everything that’s not me is my environment.” In other words, he was carefully identifying himself as being his psychic-self, about being his mind and his emotions. Everything that was not them was the environment. It’s important to think of it like that in terms of the personality, because the personality number is made up of, or the way it works within a human being is that, we tend to make up our own ideas about life, and our ideas about who we are and what we do, from our responses, from the environment. Life path numbers have to do with our environment, and the name numbers have to do with our relationship with the environment. That’s exactly what the personality number does. It’s the central thing that brings to you into a response, a call and response relationship with the world around you. Now, in psychology, the personality is basically considered to be long standing, repeated behaviors of the body, speech, and mind, more or less your physical and emotional habits. Now, there are psychologists who don’t agree with that view, but that’s the standing one nowadays, because it’s easier to treat with behavioral therapy and drugs. Than it is to deal with the [inaudible 00:03:12] type of perception of what a personality is. I tend to think of it as being how you’re doing one thing and thinking about another. Well, the part of you that’s thinking about other things, or deciding which shirt to put on in the morning, or whether or not you need more salt in the food, that’s the personality number in action. We tend to look at the personality number as the channel through which the heart’s desire reaches out to the world, and through which the sense impressions of the world reach the deepest level of the cell. I’m sorry about that, I forgot to put my phone in airplane mode. But anyway, would reach the deepest level of the self and feed its power. The personality number and the heart’s desire are really inseparable, but at the same time, they’re sometimes at odds with one another. In other words … but it’s easier to work with if we’re using this sort of model of saying that the heart’s desire and the personality number are two different things. Let me give you a quick example of that here before we move forward. In other words, if a person is say, really into manifesting their goals, or their dreams, or something like that, first they get clear about them, which is clarifying the heart’s desire. Creating an open channel [inaudible 00:04:59] to operate. Then everything else involves the work of the personality number, in other words, sorting out your thoughts about this particular goal you want to reach, and making sense of it. Then even the doubts that come up about it, about your ability to achieve such a thing, are coming from out of the personality number, because this is stuff you’ve learned from life, not stuff that’s part of the creative aspect of the mind. Which is where the heart’s desire has control, you see what I mean? In other words, there are no obstacles to the creative mind, only to the personality, because it’s found them, it knows they’re there. You see? Rose: Got you. Is this the level at which you can read about the result of someone’s decisions? Roy: Well, not quite. Because the personality number is the part of you that expresses both complicated and simple decisions in the world. It’s also the facet of the self that is most easily influenced by peers, by the culture, by the environment a person lives in. By thoughts and ideas of others. Now, this isn’t a bad thing, because nobody wants to be a total oddball alone. We have to get along with other people, that is human nature, we’re not, how do I put it? Solitary creatures. It’s sometimes called the quiet self, or the part of self that remains hidden from others, but does all the work when it comes to creating happiness, and making choices in everyday life. Or expressing your personal power, your instinctual power, and so on, and so forth. This is why all existing self-help and psychological growth literature is designed to work with the personality number. In other words, the goal of most of this work, including the work of psychotherapy is designed to connect the personality number with the heart’s desire, in a fluid and uplifting way. Now, there can be glimpses of it, and so on, and so forth. People may even view the heart’s desire negatively. Like people who say to themselves, “Oh, it’s impossible. I’ll never be a millionaire,” or, “I’ll never have a sailboat,” or something like that. That’s stuff that’s in the heart’s desire, that a person has decided that they can’t have on the basis of what other people tell them, their experience in the environment or in the world. Of course, it’s not when desire is something totally at odds with reality. In other words, a person who’s 80 years old and has a bad ankle is not going to win the Boston Marathon. You see what I mean? No matter how much they want it. It’s something they’re not going to manifest, unless they make a special category for 80 year old people with bad ankle. Now, it is the key to manifesting and healing in a most important way. All other miracles that people strive for in this day and age, in a very specific way. The personality number is the key to making these things manifest. In our day-to-day lives, we usually depend on our personality numbers to help us make decisions. Things like decisions about our personal style, food choices, as I mentioned before, are almost always built along the lines of the personality number. The likes and dislikes, as I mentioned before, as to whether there’s enough salt in this soup, this is a personal like and dislike. I personally don’t think that has anything to do with the heart’s desire. I think that’s a matter of what you’ve adopted to and part of you that’s changed. When I was a kid, I hated asparagus, now I eat it every week. Because of just changes, I guess, in understanding things, and then educating your senses and so on, and so forth. But the decisions that we need to make about our future, and the fulfillment of our deepest desires need to be illumined. Or, I guess I could say empowered by the heart’s desire, and this is where the problems can arise. Because our personality number includes the interactive, I guess you could call it, mind. The facet of the subconscious mind that builds values, beliefs, and so forth. Those drive the majority of our activities. It’s through this area of consciousness, where the personality and heart’s desire connect. But at the same time, we take up many of these plans and thoughts from our culture, and from other people, because we usually have similar needs, desires and goals. What that ends up doing is building a wall between the personality, and the heart’s desire, and making it very difficult for anyone to find what it is they truly want out of life. Rose: I guess that it has a lot to do with communication then? Roy: Yeah, it does. It’s not only connection or communication with other people, it’s also communication with the deepest layers of the self. Because all forms of communication are bi-directional, in other words, they go both ways. Talking to you doesn’t do any good if you’re just not there, as we sometimes get on phone calls that don’t connect. At the same time, thinking to yourself about things that you’ve already got objections toward, really doesn’t produce an effect. It’s a kind of a shared mentality that language creates for us. But in our inner self, this has to do with symbols, ideas, signs, things that we’re not even aware of in our daily thoughts. That means we can have a conflict between motivations, and aims, and our ability to follow through on those motivations, and aims. It’s kind of what some psychologists used to call a complex or something of that nature. Plus, they’re all these thoughts that are driven by peer pressure, and fads, and necessities of, and how you’ve been taught to respond to immediate situations. Can cloud up the connection between the personality and the heart’s desire, especially when these thoughts conflict with the deeper innovation. Rose: I can see that. I guess that’s what it means when people say they’re not quite on the same page, right? Roy: Yeah. Well, that’s absolutely what it means when people are talking to each other. But when you’re dealing with the interaction between the heart’s desire and the personality number, you can’t see that as being two different versions of yourself. It’s all one version of yourself, but it’s like part of that version of yourself that connects the two. It’s more like having a kind of a problem, like an illness that’s very hard to get rid of, “Good God, I want to get rid of this cold. I hate having my nose stuffed up.” Things like that. These are the same kind of things that, how do I put it? That non-positive thinking does to you. It creates that blockage. But the thing of it is, is that between two people, this not being on the same page is not that hard to fix. At the core of most self-improvement methods, even meditation, the problem between the being on the same page between the heart’s desire and personality numbers, it’s not that hard to fix either. You see what I mean? Rose: Yeah. I guess that’s the change your mind, change your life kind of philosophy, right? Roy: Yeah. Exactly, exactly. You nailed it. The best thing about it, is that this is a totally scientific thing. This is something that we have proven. Although they don’t talk about it much, usually, all they talk about is the stuff having to do with cosmetics, and so on, and so forth. But there’s a reason for that, the medical industry and the, at least in America, the medical industry went through a big thing to do their best to outlaw any of the mind science that existed at the end of the 19th century. When people were really interested in exploring this. But according to recent scientific studies in neurophysiology and biochemistry, and so on and so forth, we’ve come up with this thing called neuroplasticity. That the thoughts literally change the brain, physically alter the way the brain works throughout your life. This affects your ambitions, your drives, your efficiency, your sensitivity, and your relationships with others, and even more. Now, the brain is not a self-ceiling tire, it doesn’t automatically repair its wounds, which is the way they like to think in a lot of science nowadays. That there’s no such thing as consciousness, there’s just the brain, which is a very sophisticated computer. That’s baloney. The thing about neuroplasticity is that this is a fact that you can look up on the internet or anywhere. It’s been tested and proven in laboratory conditions. Of course, you’re going to run across skeptics, but if the person’s a skeptic, that’s just a person that likes to talk and thinks too much of themselves. But this is also vulnerability, because thoughts based on the influence of others can change the brain as well. We know this, for instance from hypnosis, all right. That’s what it does. It’s common to all people, and it’s what self-help literature, metaphysics, spiritual pursuits, [inaudible 00:16:47] therapy, and other practices try to help us overcome. It’s freedom from that influence of others without having to blow them off, or become an isolated loner for the rest of your life, or anything like that. But that’s what all these teachings that we have, that connect body and soul, and spirit, and so on, and so forth, that’s what they all are trying to help us overcome. This vulnerability, because of neuroplasticity. They’ve known about this since long time before this stuff was even discovered. All right. Now, jump back to that, personality number is also where the decision to make a radical change in one’s life can take place. Sometimes it’s a change that’s prompted by one’s higher consciousness or the heart’s desire, and manifests as events. Like opening a business [inaudible 00:17:52], or entry onto a spiritual path, or creating a major change in professional career. Or maybe moving far away from one’s current place of residence. These kinds of things usually have to do with the heart’s desire, especially if they come on suddenly, in a person. All right. In other words, one of the cycles, pinnacles or personal years that syncs up with the personality number, and the heart’s desire, is usually a sign that these major changes might be happening. You can tell when a dramatic change comes from this way, because the person becomes really passionate about making that change happen. But you can also tell when an important change in one’s life was not prompted by the heart’s desire. That’s usually when a person acts out of fear, resentment, emotional pain, or loneliness. The change they make usually throws them into a situation they regret later. When somebody gets into a relationship with a person that’s really not good for them, and they know it. But they think it’s going to be a better choice than being by themselves. You see what I mean? It usually ends up being a much worse choice, but that’s when it’s only the personality number in action. As opposed to being the heart’s desire in action. Now, sometimes the personality number shows its power while one is young, and others, these changes happen later in life. That value usually depends on its agreement with life path cycles, or pinnacles, and so on, and so forth. It’s especially true if the personality number, and the heart’s desire work well together, are asynchronous or … oh, man, I hate using the word, are harmonic in their relationship. In other words, I hate using the word compatibility, because that doesn’t have anything to do with anything. I’ve known several people in my life, and I’ve had many, many clients who say, “Oh, you’re compatible with so and so,” and they end up having the worst fights and arguments. End up leaving each other after a while, and come back and ask me, “Well, somebody told me, we were compatible.” I have to explain to them that that doesn’t mean anything. Anybody can get along with anybody, unless there’s a really difficult personality problem between them. But nature’s kind in this way, in that there are many ways that you can tune the personality number, and the heart’s desire to one another, and thereby harmonize your life. This tuning can also give you the push you need to achieve your goals. That’s what all the self-help and new thought literature is about. Tuning the personality to the heart’s desire. Rose: I guess this is what people want to change their name for, right? Roy: Yeah, right. We’re going to talk about that a bit, when we get to the expression. But let me say this, a name change is nothing to fool around with. Sometimes they’re done involuntarily or even forced upon us by others. Well, for instance, what was her name? Norma Jeane, something, or rather that changed the name to Marilyn Monroe. That was heart’s desire working. But it didn’t do a whole lot for her personal life. But as far as her stardom, and her fame, and so on is concerned, it did a miraculous amount of change. But we look at Lindsay Lohan, originally, her name was Lindsay Dee Lohan, and she changed it to Lindsay Morgan Lohan. That’s when her career completely was torn apart. I think the main reason is that she lost that Dee, and she lost the extra Es, which made her perfectly compatible numerologically with Disney. You could extract this need from her name, and when she changed it, she lost that ability. It wasn’t long before she lost the contract with them. It’s nothing to experiment with. Never change your name, unless the issue is a marriage, or divorce, or something like that. Without the help of a reliable expert. I wanted to emphasize that before I went off. Think about it like this, if you change your name, you’ll change your personality number, your heart’s desire, or both. You’ll also change the challenges that go with them, the personality number challenge, and the heart’s desire challenge. This is giving you a pretty steep learning curve, caused by the friction between the old and the new you. You may be pushed into a completely new experience of yourself. If you look at the change of making practices of our past and present, self-help gurus, the work always begins within. The outer life catches up with you, as you make changes in your environment or lifestyle to support the change, you see what I mean? In other words, the change that the teachers preach is to change something within, change your attitude, and everything else will begin to catch up with you. That’s basically what this is about. In other words, sure, name changes can be done, they can be done effectively, but you don’t want to depend on that as being your key to success, or happiness, or anything like that. Rose: Got you. How do we find the personality number and its challenge? Roy: Well, it’s easy enough. Let’s take a person named Dave Jones. Now, the heart’s desire is the sum of the vowels, is the sum of all the vowels in the name. The vowels as we explained before are like the soul of a word. The personality is like the form that soul takes. We take the personality number as being the consonants. You change one consonant in a word, the difference between dog and dot, [inaudible 00:25:16] only two different things. But one’s a concept, and the other one is a living thing. A person named Dave Jones would have these numbers, four, four, four, one, five, one, that’s equal to 19, and one plus nine equals one. Personality challenge is the difference between the first and last consonants in the name. If we’re looking at this Dave Jones, we’ve got a personality number of, four is the D, and S is a one. We subtract one from four, and that’s equal to three. The personality challenge is going to be three. Now, if both the first and last consonants in the, say are the same number, then let’s count it as nine instead of zero. Because for instance, if his name was something like Steve Jones, then both would be one, and one minus one, is zero. If you get a zero when you’re working on your own, count it as nine, instead. It’s easier to read that way and think about. Let’s take a look at what these personality challenges might mean. One, our personality numbers and their challenges might mean. Personality one, is one with a healthy self-esteem. It’s usually tempered by respect and compassion for others. That’s the goal of the one personality number. A person with a one personality number should never, ever be afraid to stand out from the crowd. Number two, has a goal of supporting others without giving up your own dreams and ideals. A personality two should never avoid standing up for their own dreams, just like in any other variation of two. Because the two is the most cooperative number, and people with that as a personality, or a soul urge, or a pinnacle, or whatever. This is always a period in which the default action will probably be to give up on your own dreams in favor of someone else’s. Or to fall into a belief that your dreams cannot be attained. All right. Number three, is artistry and communication. Using your own talents for the benefit of others. This is the goal of three. Three should never have stage fright, so to speak or writer’s block. Never be afraid to show off your talents if you have a personality of three. Personality of four, being reliable, and dependable, while building structure and stability is the goal of a four. They should never avoid expressing their determination. Bringing the benefits of adventure and freedom in a positive way to others is the goal of five. But a five should never avoid their responsibilities. For the number six, bringing the benefits of harmony and balance to others in a positive way, is the absolute, unalterable goal of the six. I say unalterable because they’ll try this even when the person is clearly not acting in their favor, or clearly not supportive of their own activities. Six always has to be willing to counsel or teach other people. A lot of the times they’ll get people who just don’t want to hear it, like in that song by The killers, I got nothing to learn, I’m sorry. This is the way some of those people are who have this personality, six. But being willing to try is the main thing, because there’s so many other people for every one like that, a six is going to meet 100, at least. Who will benefit from the advice, or friendship, or whatever it is that they give them to help them out. Let’s see, the seven is about bridging the gap between knowledge and faith for the benefit of others. Now, there are some people whose entire body of knowledge is based on faith. In other words, they believe some teacher of theirs, or some conspiracy radio show, or something like that. That’s the entire breadth of their [inaudible 00:30:49]. That’s not what seven is trying to do. Seven is trying to bridge the gap between information and reason, between your knowledge of the world and your faith in humanity, or God, or whatever it is you consider as the higher power in the world. Things like that. Even in law, it takes a tremendous amount of knowledge to deal with legal problems. But the person who’s the lawyer is the one who has faith in the law itself. Faith in fairness, and so on, and so. In other words, with seven, there’s a very specific trouble that can come to people who have seven personality numbers. But it will only come if they isolate themselves from other people. Never, ever isolate yourself from others if you’re a seven. Eight, using the gifts of perseverance and discipline for the benefit of others, is the goal for eight. If you ever saw My Fair Lady, no, not My Fair Lady, I’m thinking of Sound of Music, The Sound of Music, musical play that was made into a movie. It’s like the portrayal of the father in that movie was a perfect example of an eight. He still sticks in my mind, and it’s been at least 30 years since I’ve seen that movie. But anyway, it’s about being tolerant and accepting of other people. Nine, for that one was using the abilities for achievement and completion, for the benefit of others, is the goal. Always look for the opportunity to be a part of mutual or shared success. Now, these are very basic statements. But as we’re moving forward in the future, we’ll explore them a bit more fully. Now, the personality challenge is a little bit different in terms of reading the number of the challenge, because it has to do with things that can block your connection with the heart’s desire. With the one, the personality challenge is to never fear doing things differently from others. In other words, conformity is what the personality challenge will bring if it happens to be a one. For number two, the personality challenge is never give up on your dreams, from a fear of loneliness. If you have this great dream, and it’s realizable, and other people know it, and you tell them about it, and they’ll tell you, “Hey, it’s lonely at the top.” Just tell them, “No, it’s just more crowded at the bottom.” This is a hard thing for a two personality challenge to do. Personality challenge for three may even be harder, because it’s about never getting involved in passing gossip, or supporting rumors, and so on, and so forth. That is absolutely the worst thing that a person with the personality challenge three can do. In other words, once they’re involved in that thing, it takes up a whole little space in the mind. It’s a new member of the community that thinks negative thoughts, and those negative thoughts bleed over into thinking negatively about yourself. All right. Unless the people that you’re gossiping about hear about it and start passing gossip about you. Then we could have the influence of a mind to mind communication, [inaudible 00:35:03] that sort of thing. Never, ever, if you have three as a personality challenge, and everybody in general should do the best they can to avoid gossip and rumors. With four, never holding on to resentments or anger, if four is the personality challenge, you’ll have the tendency to hold on to them, and build your future on the basis of resentment or anger. There must be at least 100 action movies both in the West, and in Asia, that have to do [inaudible 00:35:44] about a person whose only driving force in life is vengeance. To get back at somebody, because of some hurt they caused them or something like that. In other words, this might be the hardest thing for a person with a four personality challenge to do. Is to be able to let go of that kind of resentment before it also become a grudge. You know what they can do, you’ve probably seen the movie. The five, is to never get involved in anything that can limit your freedom. Now, this is often hard in today’s world, because we all need money, we all need jobs, we all need work, we all like having somebody around us to share life with. But very often, a five will think in those terms, and come to find out that now their freedom is so limited, they’re miserable all the time, and don’t know why. This is what the key is, always think ahead and make sure that what you’re doing will not limit your freedom to the point that you can’t explore your own sense of adventure, and so on, and so forth. In other words, even as only a personality challenge, it can do this to a person. But again, this kind of personality challenge can only happen if the person say has a four as the first letter in the name, first consonant in the name. And say a nine as the last consonant in the name. This is a kind of a condition, or they could be reversed, one to the other. This is to avoid anything that limits freedom. The six is to never compromise your best interest out of sympathy. In other words, this is like the situation where you might be feeling terribly sympathetic to someone, and so on, and so forth. You decide that you’re going to change your whole life in order to, or change your lifestyle, or your work, or relationship with family or something like, because you feel sorry for somebody. Forget about it. That will do you no good whatsoever, because six is the number of responsibility, and doing this breaks your responsibility to your own self-interest, your own best interest, your own prime directive. Your own top priorities. For the seven, you should never avoid social life or refuse an offer of friendship. Now, this might happen in the case of a person who has, say for instance nine is the first letter, and a two is the last letter, last consonant. They might have this tendency to avoid a social interaction or avoid an offer of friendship. Because that last letter in the name, we’ll be talking about this when we get to the personal alphabet. But that last letter in the last name is a sign of the way you leave things with people. You may leave with people the fact that you want to be a friend or you want to get together with them in some way or another, but then you don’t follow up. If someone offers you friendship, you should go ahead and accept it. But trust yourself, while trusting yourself to find out really quickly, whether that person is acting in your interests, or whether they are acting in their own interest and motivations. And have the ability to throw you off of your path in life, your personal path in life. For the eight, the challenge is to never think that you have to do everything yourself. Because with eight, I think it was an eight that invented that saying that, “If you want anything done right, you have to do it yourself.” That’s kind of a natural philosophy for eight. But never, ever do that if eight is the challenge number. If nine is the personality challenge, it’s similar to eight, but somewhat different. Never think that you have to do everything your own way, all right? Nine, as a number tends to be very individualistic and very creative, and wants to do things their own way, almost all the time. But you don’t have to do everything like that. There’s even a famous story about that in Chinese, about a guy putting feet on a snake, and losing the contest. Because he was [inaudible 00:41:30] first, and he didn’t get the big barrel of wine that was the prize. But there’s some hints about the personality number that I want to cover [inaudible 00:41:43]. One thing to think about when exploring the personality number is that people will tend to default to a certain lifestyle. This doesn’t only have to do with the culture that they’re in the society that they live in, but it can be boiled down into simple categories. These default behaviors in lifestyle can be either problematic or very, very positive for a person. Now one, is a personality number of one will tend to express themselves and their opinions of themselves through their clothing, style of speech, and appearance. If you see a person who has a personality number of one, and they’re dressed very properly and elegantly in some way or another, then they probably think pretty well of themselves. On the other hand, if you find somebody who dresses in a particularly aggressive way, and they have a personality number of one, they probably think a little bit too highly of themselves. They’re tough guys or they’re bad. This is what I’m getting at, this is easy to tell with a one, because they’ll express themselves in that way. Two tends to conform to the peer group in business or private life, in their choices regarding personal style. In other words, they do everything, they’ll default to doing everything pretty much the way everybody else does them. But this can leak into the creative mind, into the creativity and cause them to bend easily when it comes to making their own decisions about what they want in life. All right. The three tends to be expressive or attention-getting in their personal style of dress and behavior. I was talking about this jacket I bought with a friend of mine, and he said, “Well, why don’t you have one like that?” and pointed at a guy who was wearing one of these jackets, that’s a hoodie with somebody his name, and pictures, and whatnot on it. I said, “Because I’m not in the advertising business. They could pay me for wearing one of those, but I’m not going to do it by my own choice.” But that’s the way threes are. When three is a personality number, they tend to be expressive in this way, in their style of dressing and behavior. In other words, there’s something about something they’re wearing that’s going to make a person ask, “Where did you get that?” Or, “How did you get that?” Or, “Did you make that yourself?” Or something to show that it grabbed your attention. All right. The four tends to like a homey look, flannel shirts and jeans and so on, and so forth. They often address as if they were at work, even when they relax. In other words, if somebody who’s a business person, who’s a office worker, they’re more likely to dress as, with a suit, or whatever that’s required by the job, even when they come home. On the other hand, somebody who works in industry or carpentry or something like that, will tend to dress like the guys on the job, even when they’re relaxing, and so on, and so forth. Will tend to try to dress up this informal kind of utilitarian clothing that they wear. People on five. Now, they’re interesting because they tend to stay on the cutting edge of style and fashion. Even when they don’t want to. They’ll do things unconsciously, like throw out a bunch of pants or something like that, because all of a sudden, they’re not short enough for their taste, and find out that before people have noticed, they have started a new trend. The fives tend to be the trendsetters. Six likes comfort and elegance in their personal style. They tend to like a lot of jewelry too. But they like comfort and elegance in their personal style, but always wants others to feel comfortable around them. They might have a four carat diamond ring on, and wear sweat pants. All right. This is a six. The seven tends to look professional or style themselves as an extreme nonconformist. In other words, it goes one way or the other with seven. You’ll have one seven who will wear one of those three piece [inaudible 00:47:18] suits, and his brother who’s also a seven may walk around in a ragged jeans and a hoodie all the time, and sit in the corner by themselves. It all depends on their activities in life, but they’re a little hard to tell, because either they look very professional or they do everything they can to say to people, “I’m not like you.” The eight tends to look official or authoritative no matter what they have on, and what their lifestyle or occupation is. In other words, an eight could be wearing a T shirt, a sweater and jeans, and they look like they mean business. It’s just something about that vibration that does that. The nine tends to look daring or accomplished, no matter what they do. In other words, if a nine puts on a military jacket, or sweater, or something, then they look like a soldier. If they grab a formal shirt and put it on, then you wonder if this person is a maitre d’, or is a musician in an orchestra, orchestral musician by way of profession. In other words, the nines look accomplished no matter what it is they do. They look like they’re supposed to be doing it, or that they’ve mastered it in some way or another. Now, here’s something interesting that I remembered when I was working on what I’m going to talk about [inaudible 00:49:08]. Is that Cheiro, the man who wrote the first numerology book that I ever read, I think he had another name of Count Louis Hamon. He was British. He wrote in that book on numerology that a nine should avoid wearing black. I found that very interesting, because it would seem to me like the black would absorb some of that energy, but I don’t know where he got it from. I think he got it from India, because it sounds like one of their ideas. But, I have a lot of nines in my chart, and I don’t avoid it at all, and I don’t think it’s creating a problem for me. I think it’s mostly because nines are kind of sensitive, and need to avoid wearing black to avoid people mistaking their ideas and intentions. But I don’t think it matters once, if it’s a professional, if there’s a professional reason why they should be wearing it. You’re going to tell that to a nine person who’s an undertaker. But anyway, that’s about it for this introduction to the personality numbers. Next time, we’re going to explore the expression and why it’s such an important fundamental element of a numerology chart. As a matter of fact, I think I’ve broken that down into two or three different talks, because there’s so much to cover when we talk about the expression. Rose: Excellent. All right, Roy, it’s been a pleasure talking to you today. We always have such good fun and learn so much when we talk to you, so thank you. I can’t wait until next time when we talk about the expression number. Roy: We’re going to get started at least. Rose: Awesome. All right. Speak to you soon, bye. Roy: Alrighty. Bye-bye. Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to the Numerologist podcast. 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51 minutes | Nov 27, 2020
EPISODE #42: A NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCE MADE JOHN HOLLAND REALIZE HIS TRUE CALLING
Welcome to the Numerologist podcast! Today’s guest is international psychic medium, author and spiritual teacher, John Holland. As the author of six books, creator of four oracle decks and the founder of mysoulcommunity.com, John embarked on his spiritual journey to help and heal people globally. And through his many channels, he is doing just that. He’s been featured on the History Channel, the Biography Channel, in the Boston Globe and many others. And I’m so delighted he’s agreed to talk to me at Numerologist.com today. Here’s what we discuss: John’s journey to becoming one of the world’s leading psychic mediums. How you can hone your innate psychic abilities. How parents can identify and embrace their child’s skills. Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.php John’s website: JOHNHOLLAND.COM/ Koda Funf Event: https://conta.cc/393U5oP Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.php Full Transcript Speaker 1: Welcome to the Numerologist Podcast, where we bring you a very special guest every single week to help guide you on your spiritual journey, live with abundance and inspire your soul. Rose: Welcome back to the Numerologist Podcast. Thank you for joining me once again. I’m Rose, I’m your host. Now, we’ve been running this new revamped version of the Cosmic Current for nearly a year now. And I can’t believe how fast it’s gone. I should probably actually stop calling it the new version. But I’ve just been reflecting on how many amazing people I’ve spoken to this year. Rose: And getting a little bit deeper into that, it really makes me realize that it’s so important to be grateful for the incredible things that have happened during not such an incredible year. So, I think that’s a mini homework task for this week’s episode. Rose: I’d love for you to identify the things that have been amazing this year, even if they’re just small things, even if you have to squint to find the good in any given situation. And it’s probably a pretty timely time to do that, especially if you’re in the US since this episode will be live the day after Thanksgiving and on Black Friday of all days. So, if you do that little homework task, I want to share your gratitude with the world. Tell us any Instagram stories, and we’ll share that with our community as well. Rose: So, in the spirit of giving thanks, I just did want to say a huge thank you to everyone who has listened to the Numerologist Podcast over this past year. Whether you’ve listened to one or all of our episodes, I am so glad you’re joining us on this journey. Rose: If you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast. And just a reminder that in the show notes for each episode, there’s a link to our free numerology video report, which reveals some of the most telling numbers in your numerology charts. And make sure you head over there and grab yours. Rose: But back to this episode. Today’s guest is international psychic medium, author and spiritual teacher, John Holland. As the author of six books, creator of four oracle decks and the founder of mysoulcommunity.com, John embarked on his spiritual journey to help and heal people globally. And through his many channels, he is doing just that. He’s been featured on the History Channel, the Biography Channel, in the Boston Globe and many others. And I’m so delighted he’s agreed to talk to me at Numerologist.com today. Please join me in welcoming John Holland. Hi, John. Thanks for joining me. John Holland: Hi, Rose. How are you? Rose: I’m very well. Thank you. How are you? John Holland: I’m great. Thank you. Rose: Excellent. So, I just want to jump straight into this and get to know John Holland. Let’s look at how John Holland as he is today came to be. So, let’s look at your childhood first. What was your childhood like as a gifted child? John Holland: Well, it’s the same story I tell. I was raised in a Catholic family, one of five kids. Three boys, two girls. And I was always the different one in the family, like many of your listeners probably too. What does that mean, Rose? I was very sensitive as a kid. I was a colicky baby. I was very sensitive. I spent a lot of time by myself. I basically was born drawing too. I never took a class, so I was very creative. John Holland: I knew things that I couldn’t possibly have known either. I was always fascinated by subjects like anything that had to do with spirits, religion, ghost, psychic powers. Or back then in my day, it was called ESP. So, I was excited about those things. I was excited about religious movies. John Holland: I’m not your average thing for a little boy. I wasn’t outdoors playing sports with my brothers. I was either drawing or reading. I was fascinated by chemistry. So, it seemed like science, religion, spirituality. I was always the different one in the family, and I was born with a highly tuned sense of intuition or psychic ability. I knew things I couldn’t even possibly have known. Who was going to come to the house unexpectedly. Who was sick in another state. So, things would come out of me. My dad would say to me, or to my mother, “Something is wrong with him.” John Holland: With society too, if you’re even then … If a kid is different, made to feel different, we hide it, Rose. We hide the ability. I didn’t want to be different. Not only was I different that way, I was skinny, big ears, a patch on my eye. Yeah, I was really different. I hid the ability or I pushed it down. Only my friends knew that I could do this as I grew up. They knew I was fascinated by the subject. They say, “Do that thing that you do.” And I will just tell them about something that just happened in their life, and then an automobile accident years later. John Holland: So, I still kept it a secret or pushed it down, and I didn’t just come out and tell people. An automobile accident made those abilities even stronger. And Rose, I have to change it. The accident didn’t make me psychic. The accident was a wake up call for me, and I got my life together. When I got my life together, I think I became aligned. Like Kundalini awakening, and that’s when all this ability started to just … It was really, really heightened. I felt this energy inside me. John Holland: I could see things, feel things. I didn’t know what was happening. Luckily, I had some education about psychic ability. So, I am a big advocate of … I have no problem being psychic. How do I shut it off? I studied everything I can on the mechanics of how this works. Chakras, auras, meditation, breath. I had to know that. Then I started getting into Reiki, into healing. John Holland: So little by little, I didn’t quit my day job. I kept it for years. I started reading tarot cards at an aromatherapy shop. I started to do pretty well at it. People started to get to know me there and I start to get the name. Still kept my day job. John Holland: What happened was two years into doing psychic work … Now, Rose, most of your audience, I assume, knows there’s a difference between psychic and mediums. There’s a difference. Every medium is psychic, but not every psychic is a medium. People are like, “Well, what do you mean?” John Holland: When you’re linking with people on the other side, they are using the … The transmission or the reception comes through my psychic senses whether you’re clairsentient, clairaudient, or clairvoyant. So, you have to be psychic. We all are, first of all. Some have a high potential. John Holland: Two years into doing reading, something different happen. I am reading cards and this woman I’m reading for, her name is Mari. I still remember. It’s in my first book, Born Knowing. She wanted to know about her career, her art, where was it going. It wasn’t really just a prediction thing. Just a little help on her schoolwork and her art where I saw what was developing. John Holland: And while I was reading for her, in my mind’s eye, Rose, or beside this client … She was a young girl. I saw an elderly woman. And her clothes didn’t match. Now, it’s not like the movies. It’s not like a mist happened. It was like I knew she was there, but she wasn’t there. It’s kind of hard to explain. John Holland: Her clothes didn’t match, and she was just pointing to her diamond. Just this older woman. And I’m looking at the woman, I’m looking at the client. I’m looking at the woman, I said, “Mari, there’s a lady beside you. Her clothes don’t match. I don’t know why I noticed that.” I said, “Her clothes don’t match, and she showed me a diamond ring.” John Holland: Well, she screamed, I screamed. She got up and hugged me. I hugged her and I said, “What was that?” And she said, “My great Aunt Ada who helped raise me was colorblind.” There’s the clothes and she said, “The diamond I’m wearing right here, John, is the ring she gave me that I inherited when she passed away.” So I said, “Okay, wait a minute. So, what is this?” John Holland: And then it started to happen more and more. Every time I went to do a reading for someone and would come their relatives. And I didn’t just take that, Rose. But think about it. If my first book came out in 2000, this happened about 2020, over 20 years ago. There wasn’t a lot of mediums. There wasn’t a lot of books. John Holland: So, I believe in synchronicity, Rose. I believe that when you follow … I’m all about the soul and all the abilities. When you follow what your soul is trying to tell you, doors open. So, I read every book I could on mediumship in Los Angeles. All the books that I could find were old books from England, the spiritualist in England. John Holland: Even though spiritualism started in the States, when I went to England, it stayed there and it went big. And I said, “Gee.” There were these old books of mediums’ lives from days gone by and I said, “Wow.” And I wasn’t really reading how to. I wanted to know why is this happening, how do these people live their lives, how do they deal with this. John Holland: So, two weeks into reading the books, I’m at a party, I step on a person’s foot. Remember, I did say, “If I could only go to England and study with these people.” Two weeks into reading these books, I’m at a party, I step on a person’s foot. Where are they from? From England. I stepped on this guy’s foot and he’s like, “Hello.” And I said, “Oh, are you Australian? Are you Irish?” And he’s like, “Oh, I’m British.” And I said, “Okay.” John Holland: I started talking and I got invited over. He had a space and one thing led to another and that’s when it all started. I went over there and studied for two and a half years with a spiritualist developing in a meditation. I went to the Arthur Findlay School, which is Stansted where they train mediums. I went to all the churches. I didn’t go to England to go look at the castles in London to go see the Queen. I knew I had a mission, and that’s how it started. One thing led to another and there you have it. John Holland: One thing led to another and a book. I mean six books, television, radio show. I never set out to do this work, but usually people who have ability of that strong, you’re going to see it as a kid. There’s some type of sign that something was happening there. But some people are born with a high potential for this work, and some people aren’t. John Holland: And by the way, I did say, let me just help you out. I did say psychic and mediumship. Let me just finish that sentence. So, a psychic, Rose, as I’m looking at you, I’m reading you, your past, your present, your potential future. I don’t think it’s all set in stone. John Holland: So, as I’m looking at you, I start just seeing some colors. So, I’m reading your aura. I’m not getting the information on the other side. When mediumship happens, I’m not with you anymore. People on the other side have to come through. So, psychics perceive, mediums receive. There is a difference. Rose: Absolutely. John Holland: And I had to learn the difference between both and I teach my students the difference, because it can be kind of hard to say, “Is this psychic, or is this mediumship?” But luckily, I got that education. When I went to England, they’re all about evidence. Evidence. You can’t give that foo-foo. “Oh, your mother is here. Your grandmother is here, she brushed …” They are very evidential mediums to prove the continuity of life, and that resonated with me, and that helped me so much. Rose: Absolutely. I think we need to set that. That sort of is testament to the number of … I don’t want to necessarily go down the frauds kind of path, but that is sort of rife in your industry, right? There’s a lot of people claiming that they have these abilities when they don’t. So, how would you … For our listeners, how would you suggest that they go into a reading? You don’t want to go in skeptical, but you also don’t want to go in … John Holland: Yeah. A couple of years ago, Hay House, my publisher called me. Everyone knows them usually. They said, “So, do you think you have another book in you?” I thought I was done. Because how many times can you say the dead or alive? How many times can you say it? So, I said, “Okay.” So, that was Hay House’s way of saying, “You really need to write a book.” John Holland: I said, “Well, what are people asking for right now?” If you notice, a lot of … There’s two words. There’s mediums popping up everywhere. The word empath is huge now, and the word soul. I said, “Okay.” I wrote the first part of Bridging Two Realms: Learn to Communicate with Your Loved Ones on the Other-Side. Four people who have about to lose someone, who have lost someone. John Holland: And from my 20 years of doing this work, I wrote about what happens before somebody passes away, during the process, and after. And then I go into … So, you are looking for a medium, and I always tell people, always word of mouth. And I break it down for the reader, and I also break it down, if you want to be a medium, this is what … With my education, this is what you should be doing. John Holland: I always tell people, Rose, go by word of mouth. The medium shouldn’t be asking you questions.Not like this. Sometimes I’ll ask a question, but it’s really a statement. If I said to you, Rose, “Did you lose a grandmother? Yes, I did. Oh, she’s right here.” John Holland: You just told me she passed away. The medium should be saying, “I feel a grandmother figure. I feel like she’s making me aware that she’s on your mother’s side. She’s talking about she has three daughters and your mother is one of them. A sibling of your mother’s that has passed, that’s with her.” Evidential. It’s okay to work with a medium, but it’s usually, “Yes, no, I don’t understand.” John Holland: And the medium may get something that they don’t understand. It’s okay, because people are afraid to talk sometimes. They’re like, “Can I say something?” I said, “Yes. As long as I gave you the evidence first.” It should be evidential. There’s all kinds of mediums. Some are very heart centered, some are in your face, and it shouldn’t be general. It shouldn’t be something like this. “I’m picking up someone who passed from cancer, who’s that?” I don’t know. You’re the medium. You tell me who it is. Do you see what I mean? John Holland: So, I can be a tough teacher. I can have fun with my students, and I can play with my audience only to keep the energy up, but it should be evidential. All right? Evidential. And not everyone is going to be the same in their work, but they should give who the person they’re linking with, what’s the relationship, how did they pass, and maybe what was the age that they pass, how long ago. And then more information should be coming. John Holland: If you are talking to someone’s mother, if you are really linking with someone’s mother, you should be getting information that, that child would understand. It’s some stuff should come through, Rose, that only the mother and the daughter could possibly have known. Do you understand? Rose: Yeah, absolutely. You mentioned your students then. So, I just want to talk about your teachings and your courses and those kinds of things. Let’s look at being a medium or honing your psychic abilities. So, if you’re not born with the gift, the medium gift, can you get that? John Holland: I mean, you all know who John Edward is obviously down in Australia. You know the man. And he’s a good colleague of mine. He says that, and I like his word. I always give credit where credit is due. These are his words. John Holland: He doesn’t like to call it a gift. I will say it in my soulwork, empower the soul. We all have gifts, talents and abilities. He says that he doesn’t like to call it a gift, because it means that he has something that somebody else doesn’t. We all have the potential for this. I was born with the high potential for it, meaning it was already there. Whether it was in the past life, or I was born this way. John Holland: They feel like this is supposed to be a medium or get into it. They have a lower potential. Meaning, they have to just work hard. I used to say too, Rose, in England. I was trained by the mediums. I heard them say mediums aren’t made, they’re born. And I went, “Wow. Mediums aren’t made, they’re born.” And I started to believe that. John Holland: But then, as time went on, I saw that people who weren’t born with it or have a low potential for it just had to work harder, and they can be just as good. It just takes a little more studying, a little more work. Yeah, but we all have it. We’re all born intuitive, Rose. We all are. How old is your son that you said? How old is he? Rose: He’s one. John Holland: Oh, bless. Okay. All right. So, kids, as they go around four or five, they’re playing, they’re coloring, they’re running, they’re laughing. I think they have one foot still on the other side and one foot here. Everything is joyful for them hopefully. And then they start school. Kids are born with that right side, the creative side, the drawing. And kids see the world as it really is. John Holland: So, if your kid is saying something, listen to your kid, because it’s probably the truth. So, when kids go to school, they’re about five, six, however old, they start … The left side of the brain comes in, because we have to listen to the teacher, understand math, spelling. So, that creative, beautiful right side gets pushed aside. And we forget about that side. It gets so pushed aside, and life has a way of doing it too. Because as you get older, you also have to trust logic. Logic, not that intuitive stuff. John Holland: And it’s funny. Isn’t it funny, Rose? You could say the word psychic. People are like, “Oh, mumbo jumbo.” When you say intuition, they’re like, “Oh, yes, I have that.” See, it’s just the word. Everyone is born with it. And I think it’s a calling, Rose. John Holland: I believe that a lot of people are touching the realms on the other side lately. I think the consciousness of man is changing. Some people said, “John, is it changing? Or is the veil on the other side is getting thinner?” I think our consciousness is … We’re changing as a race. John Holland: Look at the world. I mean, we’re very sensitive creatures now. Some people don’t even know that they’re intuitive. They just think that, “Why am I uncomfortable around people?” Because you’re empathic. Do you understand? So, I think that people are … Sometimes, you can be with a friend, Rose, right? And somebody could say … Say there are two friends, and one friend is gone. I keep hearing the name Jake, Jake, Jake. And their friend goes, “That’s my dad. He passed away.” John Holland: So, the person who says that starts to see. Maybe they’re touching the other side. Does that mean you’re going to be a medium? Does that mean you should go be a medium? If you’re good at plumbing, does that mean you’re going to go be a plumber? Maybe the ability is getting heightened in us. Maybe it’s for your own sake or for those around you. It doesn’t mean always to go be a medium. And if you’re going to be a medium, it’s a life of service. John Holland: People forget that. It’s a life of service. Not to be a star. I never set out just to be like, “Look at me.” You have to feel the calling for. And if you feel like, “No, I really want to help people,” that’s the number one answer when I ask my students. “Why are you taking the class? Why do you want to be a medium?” It should be to serve. To help as many people as I can. Yeah. Rose: Absolutely. So, for those people who do feel that calling, do you have any quick … I know you’ve got a whole course on this, but do you have any quick tips that you can give people just starting out? John Holland: Understand why it’s happening. You are the vessel. You’re one big psychic antenna. Whether you call yourself an intuitive, we can’t help it. Everyone can walk into a room, they know if something happened in the room. You know when you meet somebody for the first time, Rose, you like them or you don’t. John Holland: So, understand how is that happening. Oh, it’s intuition. How is it happening? It’s happening because your aura is expanding. Their aura is blending with yours and it hits that certain psychic reception area. Understand the mechanics of how it works, because doing this work, it makes you very sensitive. The price of sensitivity is sensitivity. Do you like that? John Holland: Some students are like, “I’m so sensitive with this work.” Well, welcome to doing this work. All right. I say learn the mechanics of how it works and try to get ahold of quieting your mind with some type of meditation. It doesn’t mean ringing a bell, or a gong, or lighting incense singing. (singing) It’s just quieting your mind. And if you can’t sit and do one, do a walking meditation. Look at a candle. Do one with the breath. Look at a mandala. There’s many. You got to still your mind. John Holland: How can any intuitive information, nevermind the other side, come into your mental space if there’s so much noise in there? And isn’t there a lot of noise in our heads lately between what’s going on in the world, technology, emails, bells, whistles? So, yeah, understand the mechanics of how this works. Understand your psychic faculties first. John Holland: And then at the mediumship, then you’ll understand how to turn it on and how to turn it off. You should be the master of your abilities. It should not be the master of you. So, if the student say, “I can’t sleep at night. The dead people are here. I see them everywhere.” Then they’re untrained. I do not walk around seeing the dead. It only happens because I trained myself when I’m supposed to do this work. Or a strong spirit is trying to get my attention to do something give a message. Yeah. Rose: I think that’s an interesting point as well, because a lot of people do assume mediums just walk around bumping into dead people wherever they go. So, that’s a really good point. Now, I just want to go back to what we were talking about, about children having one foot in and one foot at the other side. It sort of goes back to what you said about your childhood being psychic or a bit spiritual. It wasn’t really accepted, but I actually think as we move forward in what you’re talking about, our consciousness is opening and our awareness and all those kinds of things. John Holland: Sure. Rose: What would you go about saying to parents who have identified … John Holland: God, I love you. Good interview, girl. Yes, you are. In my book, I think it is the Spirit Whisperer. There’s a whole section for teachers and parents for the kid who’s sensitive, for the kid who’s saying, “Mommy, there’s an old man in my room. Mommy, I’m seeing lights.” Or the kid is waking up because they’re seeing something. John Holland: I’m not talking about night terrors. That’s a whole nother thing. I always tell parents and teachers, “You get an education first on how it works, so you can teach it to your child.” If a parent understands, “Okay, there’s three abilities, clairsentient, clairvoyant, clairaudient. To hear, feel and see or cognitive.” Just to know. John Holland: If they get an education of the mechanics, it’s going to be easier to tell the kid. You know how they have pageant mothers? The pageant mothers. I guess you have that in Australia too. Rose: Yeah, absolutely. John Holland: Yeah. They push their kid and it’s just a little girl. Let your kid be a kid. One time I met a couple of parents. This happened some time ago. The kid was very psychic. The kid had to be about 10, 11. Eight, nine, 10, 11, something like that. And the mother was like saying, “Show them what you do.” It’s like, “Let the kid be a kid. And tell the kid that it’s nothing to be afraid of, that it’s a natural ability like playing music, art.” John Holland: They can’t. They don’t have to tell everybody that they’re sensitive, but it’s a gift actually. That kid can use that ability in school, life, whatever and play some games with them. What I think it is too. Rose, do you have any other kids? Rose: No. John Holland: Okay. Rose: Just one. John Holland: All right. Say you have a five, six, seven, eight, it doesn’t matter. A little kid. All right. Say you have two kids or a friend. A good intuitive game, because you don’t want to tell the kid to shut it off, but you can show them that it’s not scary. You have two kids sit back to back. So, someone is sitting behind the … John Holland: Say I’m a kid and their back is to mine. You have three crystals, or three marbles, or three crayons in front of all the same color. Tell one kid, “Pick one, hold it and see if you can send what you’re holding to the kid whose back is against you, and see if they can start matching up the crystal.” John Holland: You see, that’s telepathy. Yep. And if you have a child, and this is a good tip for you, Rose, when your kid gets around four or five. If your kid is very sensitive, which they all are, you can teach a kid to turn down their lights. What do I mean by that? So, we have energy centers. It’s the spiritual batteries. We’re physical beings and spiritual beings. John Holland: So, you know Rose about the third eye. You know about the throat center, the heart center. So, if you teach a kid that we have these special buttons, and you could … Before the kid goes to bed, if the kid is young enough, because some kids don’t touch. You tell the kid to turn down their lights. Their fore headlight, the throat, the heart. Not shut off or close down. You never want to tell someone to close down their throat. See? Because I’m also a hypnotherapist too. It’s the way you word it. John Holland: Tell them to turn down their light or to close the flowers if it’s a girl. It’s going to make the kid less sensitive. And they might not even understand it, but by them just imagining a color getting smaller in a location, I think it’s actually going to help them be less receptive. You can never shut down an energy center, but you certainly can dim it or heighten it when you need to. Or it happens on its own, actually. Yeah. Rose: Absolutely. I think on the flip side of that, we’re talking about parents who are supportive and maybe too supportive, over supported. But what about the children whose parents are devout Catholic? Obviously, you spoke about your parents being Catholic, so I’m not sure how they embraced it. But what about the parents who are definitely not on the spiritual side, and the kid always feels like they have to come out or hide their abilities and those kinds of things? What would you say to those kids? And these are probably older kids, teenagers and those kinds of things. John Holland: Because I was made fun of, I just kept it a secret. I really believe, Rose, what you put out, you get back. I really believe in what you put out and you get back. And it’s hard if a parent, especially if there’s a religion, or religious faith that goes with that. John Holland: I think that the kid could do his own research, but the parents find it … It’s hard, Rose. It’s a balancing thing. There are other places where kids could look. Now, every kid is on the internet now too, though, but you got to be careful. Because you don’t if what group you’re joining is something. John Holland: I think if that kid puts it out there, I think there’s going to be … I think there’s going to be more kids. Say you have a 16 year old, a 14 year old, I think there are more kids around him or her that is into this more so than you think. All right? John Holland: What you put out, you attract. So, it’s okay to share it with your friends that you can trust. Share with your friends, and they’ll be like, “Oh my god, I felt the same way. I didn’t want to say anything.” Stick to people that you can trust. Yeah, close friends. I only could tell close friends. So, yeah, that’s a good one. I mean, I don’t get often that, Rose. That’s why you are number one on numerology. Rose: There you go. John Holland: Yep. But I would tell the kid or the teenager that if they have no one around them, if they can read something, or as they get older, they’ll be able to find their path to where they’re supposed to go. The soul even knows where that child is supposed to go. It will try to lead it to the people and situations in their life for its highest good. Rose: And that actually links back to what you were talking about before about synchronicity and things happening to lead you on this path. So, let’s talk about you, again, about was there really any other path for you? John Holland: Was there what? Rose: Was there really any other path for you, career wise? John Holland: Do you mean how it came to be or how I followed it? Rose: Yeah. I suppose I mean, could you have ever seen yourself in any other industry or career or anything? John Holland: No. I always was like this in the accident, and I believe that your soul, the real you, your true essence, pure consciousness, not the person you look in the mirror and see that’s just your body. You are a soul. You’re a soul that comes with the body, not a body that comes with a soul. You’re a soul that comes with the body, not a body that comes with a soul. You are a soul long before you came here. You’re going to be a soul long after you leave here. John Holland: I believe that your soul tries to get your attention in this life through dreams, intuition, synchronistic events, but we don’t pay attention to them. I was living in LA. I was a young man. Not doing I was supposed to. I had those signs come to me. John Holland: Living a life in my late ’20s. You know what it’s like, living in LA. And then I had the automobile accident. It was raining that night. That was my wake up call. I didn’t complain. I walked away from a car race that was crushed, the whole front of it, and I walked away without a scratch. John Holland: Now, I could have just said, “Oh, lucky about that.” And then went right back to the kind of life that I had. I knew. I looked up to the sky, God, the universe, he, she, the source, and I just said, “Thank you.” Never complained. Never complained. John Holland: There was a relationship that I was in for six years that should have ended a long time ago. I got my life together and I got my own place, the relationship. That’s when all the abilities started to happen. And I started to follow the signs. The ability happened, and then I was invited to England. How could I go to England if I was still working? Who’s going to pay my rent? John Holland: I worked for a flagship hotel. The flagship closed at the time now. And I said, “How am I going to go to LA? How am I going to afford my apartment?” Even though it was small, a friend of mine from … I lived in LA and she called me from Boston. She said, “Johnny, Debbie said that you want to move to England. I want to be a writer and move to California. If you go to England, can I rent your apartment and pay your rent while you’re gone? And I went, “Oh my god.” John Holland: So, it’s like stepped on the foot, met Simon, got invited over, my work ended. She took over my apartment. I got to go to England. And here’s something now. And someone would be like, “It’s a coincidence.” No, I don’t believe in coincidences. John Holland: Now, you know Rose. You’ve traveled outside Australia. You have to get a visa sometimes, right? So, in the States, we let people stay here for six months. No, if you go to England, they let you stay there for six months, you get to leave the country, stay out for three months, then come back in. John Holland: After doing that a couple of times, I said, “I don’t want to keep doing this.” I wish I could stay. My friend, Simon’s colleague said, “John, apply for a student visa in my company, and you get a year visa.” I applied, and I get a letter in England, and it says, “Dear, John.” It said, “We cannot give you this visa because the US is not one of the countries that we honor for this type of student visa.” And I said, “Oh, okay.” John Holland: So, there it is, the letter, now saying no, I can’t have it. But in the envelope was the visa. A full visa for a year with my name, and it was embossed. So, I had a letter saying no, but in the letter, but in the envelope was the visa. Now, come on. So, do you think that I called immigration and said, “Oh, did you make a mistake?” I got that visa, and I got to stay there. John Holland: And then I was on the show Unsolved Mysteries got a hold of me. I went to Boston. I started to get a name. Then Hay House found me and I was signed with them in a month. I mean, writers hate when I say that. It was all meant to be one thing after another, after another, because I was following the signs, Rose. I followed what I was supposed to. John Holland: Now, your soul tries to show you a lot of things. Lots of times, we turn away from it, don’t listen to it, or don’t even know it’s our soul trying to get your attention. Your soul might be saying, “Here you go.” And you give it a kick in the ass and say, “You know what? No.” John Holland: So, I followed, I trusted and things just not to happen. And if it doesn’t happen for you, it just means that it’s not happening for you right now. Then there’s another door that’s going to open. So, one thing, Rose. It was just I could never see this. John Holland: I started doing readings one on one, and then I said to someone, “I want to start doing readings of 10, small groups. Well, that didn’t happen. I went to a bookstore. I started doing people of 30. Then I was signed for Hay House. I went from doing one on ones, to 30, to 800, to 2,000, to over 3,000 people with the Hay House audiences. John Holland: And I had to learn. And the people on the other side, “You can’t be in front of an audience of 3,000 people and say I have a father here who passed from … You’ve got to be so accurate to think about that one person out of 3,000 people.” So, I feel like those on the other side were training me. So, I can go to an audience on a good day and just go to somebody with some outrageous evidence. John Holland: I was in Arizona, and the audience was 2,100 people and I said, “I’m coming to somebody here. I have a grandfather who’s coming to his grandson, and he’s talking about in his casket, you put the chess piece in his pocket and in his casket.” And in my head, I’m like, “Oh, damn. Oh my god.” John Holland: And sure enough, a kid raised his hand. I always make sure I said, “So, let me get this right. You have a grandfather who passed and you put a chess piece in his pocket in the casket?” He’s like, “Absolutely.” I said, “Can I ask why?” He said, “Because he taught me chess.” Now, I don’t know chess. And I said, “Well, what was the chess piece? And I guess it was the highest one. Is it the queen or the king? I don’t know.” And then it went into the message. John Holland: So, there’s not too many people in an audience of 2,100 that put a chess piece in their grandfather’s pocket. So, that’s how I work with bigger audiences. Yeah. Rose: Yeah. I was going to say that, that’s really interesting. You mentioned on a good day. So, do you have bad days? And what does that feel like? John Holland: I never beat myself up. After doing this work, sometimes they’re stellar, sometimes it’s good. I can walk away and say, “That’s the best that I can do. It’s not just up to me.” I’m always fascinated by this. I never say, I told him I got the chess piece. I know. Was it me? Or was the information given? I give those on the other side the credit. They’re the ones that are giving me the information. I’m just the vessel. John Holland: So, when I hear people say, “Well, I did this. I got that.” And I say to them, “Did you get it? Or was it given?” You see? So, it’s a three way link. It’s me, the people in front of me, or the client, or the recipient, and those on the other side. It’s a three-way link. All right? John Holland: So, I know you can see me here on YouTube, but on the radio, from spirit, the people on the other side, through spirit, me, my own spirit, to spirit. From spirit, through spirit, to spirit. And when everything is in sync, if the audience is in good form, I’m in good form, they’re in good form on the other side. There’s all kinds of audiences, Rose. John Holland: I walked into some audiences, and I might be in a conference hotel where there’s cement cylinders, no energy whatsoever. It’s up to me. I got to get that energy up in the audience, because the way it works is I raise my energy, those on the other side lower theirs. Then there’s a blending process. You see? John Holland: So, I tell people, “If you’re going to be a medium, you have to be the maestro and conductor of every sitting you do, or every demonstration you do.” And of course, I’m nervous. When I was in Australia twice, I love you people. Fine people, and I miss Australia. I did Sydney, Brisbane and Melbourne twice. I was down to a Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Robert Holden, Denise Linn, I love it. I was with Hay House, Leon. John Holland: It was my first time going to Australia. I was in the States. Of course, I was nervous. Different country, different people, different history, different ways, different references. So, I just imagined that I was in the audience, I was on stage in Australia, because I believe in affirmations and visualizing as if it was happening now. John Holland: So, I saw myself on stage, I saw the messages flowing, I saw the audience clapping. That’s exactly what happened. I walked out there with a couple thousand people. I said, “Hello, Australia.” And it was just beautiful. John Holland: Yeah, so if the audience is in good form, the medium is in good form, and those on the other side, it’s like a perfect cocktail, and it’s beautiful. But think about it, does the audience influence it? Yes. If you’ve got an audience that all arms folded, or people brought people they didn’t really want to be, that’s kind of hard to work with, bu I just do my best roles. I don’t beat myself up. I have an education. I know what I’m giving, and I know how to work with someone who says, “No, no, no.” Yeah. Rose: Yeah. How do you manage people’s expectations? Because I imagine a lot of people come there with the expectation that this specific loved one is going to come through to them. And it doesn’t always happen, does it? John Holland: No, I have my speech. After years of doing this, I have my speech. I always tell people, if I … Now, you do it on Zoom, or I’ll do it in front of an audience when we go back to that, I’ll say to people. Remember, I use a little humor. I know, Rose, losing someone is not funny, but it raises the energy of the room. John Holland: To see a mother smile for the first time in months since her child passed, and sometimes people feel guilty laughing or smiling. People on the other side, they want us to go on. They want us to be happy until they see us again. We’re the ones that are still here. So, I’ll tell the audiences and I’ll say, “How many are here you’re hoping to hear from that one person? You want that one person to come through.” Of course, all the hands go up. I said, “Okay, let that go.” John Holland: I said, “Because I am not in control of it. It’s not 1-800 dial your daddy. Usually, they get who they want to hear from, but if you’re focused on your mother who’s passed, but you have an uncle that wants to come through or a grandmother, or if you’re married, that mother-in-law may come through. And people are like, “But I paid my money from my people.” John Holland: I am not in control of it. They are. You never know who’s going to come through. So, I say, “Just be open. Know who your people are on the other side as best as you can.” And all I say is expectation is listen to what I’m trying to say. That’s why when someone says, “No, too fast.” I’ll be like, “Let me help you with that.” John Holland: And then on a good day, I’ll say, “You know your husband’s side, he’s lost his mother, correct? And Rita is his mother’s sister.” How could you? So, if the medium just stops and gives in breeze and doesn’t get nervous. If you are talking to in spirit on the other side, you should be able to go back and say, “They don’t understand. Give it to me in another way.” And you got the answer. John Holland: So, I just say be open. I know they have expectations, and I’ll say Just relax. And I always say too, Rose, if it’s a one on one or a small group, if it’s not working 10 minutes in, I end it. Fluff it. No charge, no worries. I’d rather be respected that way, and then try it, and then have them come back and try it again, because it’s not always going to work. It usually does, but every once in a while, it might not be the right time for reading for somebody. Rose: Absolutely. Is there a reason that one person would show up over another person? Say for example, I was coming to you and I will say, “Okay, I want to hear from my grandfather.” And then my uncle showed up. Is there a reason? John Holland: Some come through, and if you listen as opposed to just the evidence, I used to be very evidential based. I still am as best as I can, but there’s more of a message there. Why is this person coming? Why? John Holland: If a grandmother comes through, say your grandmother comes through on your mother’s side and your mother’s brother is here. That grandmother may come through to you to tell the mother to keep an eye on the brother. There’s always usually a reason. I was doing a small group of eight once. Some people get, and I tell the audience this, sometimes you may get someone who you don’t want to hear from. John Holland: If it’s so emotional, I tell the people, “Look, if it’s too hard for you, I can just drop the phone, cut the link.” I was with this group, and I gave the evidence. I forget what the woman’s … I’ll just say Helen. I said, “I have a woman here named Helen. She’s talking about esophageal cancer. So, would anyone … I feel like there’s a mother connection.” I said to this woman I was drawn to, I said, “Would you understand that?” She goes, “Yeah, I know who she is. What does she want?” And I went, “Oh.” I said, “Is this like a mother?” She goes, “It’s my mother-in-law.” John Holland: The mother-in-law was not nice to her the whole time she was here. She was still married to her son, the woman Helen, and she just didn’t get along with the daughter-in-law. That mother-in-law came through to apologize. To apologize how she treated her, and that’s all she wanted. But who opened the door for the rest of the night for her? The mother-in-law. The mother-in-law was the one that stepped forward who started off the reading. John Holland: I always play and say … Maybe the mother-in-law is on the other side saying, “Can I go first? I have to apologize.” Then I’ll open the door and let you all in. The mother is the one who started off the reading, who set the tone for the rest of it. And she started crying because the mother never apologized or the mother-in-law never apologized to her, so that’s special. Rose: That is special. It’s so funny. As we’re talking, John, we spoke at the start about why you got into this and why other people should get into it. It’s to help people. And every story you’ve told, it’s showing that, that is just the theme that runs through everything. John Holland: Yeah. Before I moved to LA, I was on that show. I started getting really known fast. I still kept the day job. I keep saying that, because I don’t want people to quit their job until they’re established. I was tired emotionally, physically. It was a lot spiritually. I was just exhausted. And I said, “Can I keep doing this?” I questioned it. I questioned it. Every time I question it, a parent who would needed help who had lost someone would step in front of me or come to me somehow some way. John Holland: When the reading is over, it’s just a little slap in the head from them to say, with the greatest respect, to say … When that reading happens or a reading like that, I say, “Okay, that’s why I’m doing this.” So, here it is. Let’s see. Okay. 20, 25 years now, over two decades. And somebody said to me the other day in an interview. “So John, how do you feel about being a pioneer in this work?” And I went, “Oh, what? Pioneer in this work? It made me feel old.” Okay, I don’t say old, I say older. I’m like, “Really?” He goes, “John, don’t you consider yourself a pioneer in this industry? You’ve been going since …” John Holland: And I thought about it, I said, “Well, I guess I am. If my first book came out in 2003 17 years later, which is freaking me out.” So, I’m honored to do this work. And there’s a lot of work too that people don’t realize too, Rose, that I do for free. I do a lot of animal charity work where they get the money, and I got one coming up to help raise $145,000 for animals to have surgeries for the local law animal shelter. Yeah. Rose: Oh, wow. That’s wonderful. Do you get people to donate to that? Because we can put some links in the show notes. John Holland: Yep. What they’re doing is … I don’t know when this is going to play, but the event is in December in a couple of weeks. There’s a raffle. I’m going to do a Zoom live. I usually do something every year in front of people for them, but they’re going to do a Zoom where I’ll do an afternoon of clairvoyance. When you come on, I’ll get to see you. And they’re selling raffle tickets for five bucks or 10 bucks for a chance to have a private reading with me. If the timing works before it is, then that’s great. Rose: Absolutely. We’ll be publishing this Friday, so I’ll definitely put those links in for you. John Holland: You have to give back, Rose. You know what I mean? You have to give back. I am so blessed by spirit that I can do this for them, that I can have a life doing, a teaching and writing, and doing this work. You have to give back. I am a big believer in what you put out, you receive. I don’t give to get. The universe will take care of you anyway. When your company, it’s Numerologist.com. Rose: Yes. John Holland: I was flattered because I tapped into numerology years ago and I always say to students too. Once you understand the way numbers work, you will never look at the numbers the same way again. I keep a number eight in my wallet. I do, for funding. Rose: It’s really funny, because before we came on, I was just talking about my nonspiritual husband who this morning woke up feeling very anxious about work. And he asked me to pull a card for him and I actually used your card deck, and I pulled … John Holland: Psychic tarot. Rose: I pulled the number eight for him, which is crazy. I didn’t know that you … So, let’s quickly talk about numbers. We don’t have much time left, but how do you use numbers in your practice? John Holland: I use them personally. I’ll look at numbers and my favorite number is 149. I see that number everywhere. Everywhere. Numerology, you can add them up. You could take the one before the nine, you can reverse them. I thought it meant to play that number in the lottery. John Holland: So, after spending so much and I’m like, “Okay.” I noticed that, that number comes up when I’m about to do something, either psychic or mediumship work. Now, I’m not superstitious where I have to see that number before I do it, but I notice that number. John Holland: And you could add it up to nine and 10, 15, six. I try to focus on what was I’m just thinking before I saw that number. A lot of people say, “John, what does 11-11 mean?” Well, it breaks down to four, which is foundation, or they call it the angel number. And I try to tell people too, “What were you thinking just before you saw that number?” John Holland: I use numerology. I’ll say it like this to somebody, Rose. I’ll tell people it’s a great way to jump into a reading. You could give me a color, or I could give three numbers. Just really quickly, Rose. Give me three numbers at the top of your head. Rose: Three, six, nine. John Holland: Three, six, nine. So, three meaning family, unity, trinity. Six is like schooling to me. Nine. Would you say nine? Rose: Yeah. John Holland: Nine is endings. Okay. For the new beginning. I could look at it as here too. You got the three, the family, you got the middle. Five and six, for me numerology wise, is always a weird number. I can do one, two, three, four, the eight, nines and 10. I always look at five and six as a balancing number. Like it’s right there in the middle. Yep. So, you’re balancing your work, that’s the nine. John Holland: I would take that nine not in a bad way. Some things may go away. I don’t know what other job you work, Rose. Or is this your main job? Or is this something else? I feel two jobs. Luckily guys, she’s staying right where she is, but there’s going to be something else here. John Holland: So, family is important, the learning. So, it’s either a balancing family and work right now because you got that little kid. You said he’s one. So, it’s balancing work. And I think the nine, I think something is going to be ending to make room for something else. So, that’s how I’ll jump into a reading on the radio. John Holland: I just love looking at them when I see addresses. I look at it. I look at certain dates, and I’m not so superstitious sometimes. But if I’m doing a special event or something, I will see what the day, the month and the year comes to. I’m like, “Oh, perfect.” I have a site, My Soul Community that I launched. The membership was closed. It launched on a one. And I said, “Okay, great.” I didn’t even plan it that way. I said, “Oh, I didn’t even do the numbers on it.” John Holland: But Glynis McCants, she’s a numerologist. She used to be a stand up comic. She was on my radio show at Hay House for a number of years. She can do numbers front and back and so fast, where you’re headed, your soul number, where you’re going. So, I love numerology and you will never … And I have never looked at numbers the same way again. They’re not just numbers to me, neither are colors. Rose: You are so right there. I think once you know how to do the numerology and add them and make the sermon and all those kinds of things, you will do it everywhere. So, anybody listening to this who hasn’t sort of looked at their own numbers and those kinds of things, I’m going to put a link in the show notes to find out about that. John Holland: Can I say one more thing? Rose: Absolutely. John Holland: I’m a 22. Okay? A master number. So, 11, 22 and 33. Rose: Yeah. John Holland: Now, think about this. For the people who are listening, you know numbers. So, the master number is 22. I can’t elevate or go there until my four. I have a solid foundation. And I say that. If my life is solid, my work is solid, I’m solid, I can resonate to that master number, that teacher number. Do you understand? John Holland: I don’t think anyone ever told me that. It just makes sense. It makes sense. And my friend, Simon who I stepped on his foot, not only is he a four, he’s a Virgo. So, he’s all about structure, bullet points, Excel spreadsheets, and he’s a Virgo. So, talk about details. Luckily, he’s not … Isn’t it funny, Rose? The gentleman who I stepped on his foot over 20 years ago is my manager. Rose: That’s crazy, isn’t it? John Holland: Yeah, you know it, because you [crosstalk 00:50:06]. Rose: Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. John Holland: Yeah. The guy, I stepped on his foot, he’s my manager all these years later. Yeah. Rose: Wow. All right. Well, John, it has been so nice to speak to you. I could literally speak to you all day. John Holland: I could talk to you forever. Thank you so much. I’ll give you the link about The Koda Fund, anything you want. Just go to johnholland.com. And there’s a lot of resource, Rose, there. The site tells you where I’m at. It’s not just about me, though. If you need help, there’s bereavement sites, stuff for children. A lot of organizations, therapists, it’s all there for you. John Holland: So, go to my frequently asked questions, and a lot of people can benefit. But Rose, you’re in love, so thank you so much. And I’m honored to be part of this. So, thank you. Rose: Thank you. Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to the Numerologist Podcast. If you loved it, make sure you subscribe and don’t forget to check the show notes for an extra special, free gift. The post EPISODE #42: A NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCE MADE JOHN HOLLAND REALIZE HIS TRUE CALLING appeared first on Numerologist.com.
8 minutes | Nov 27, 2020
Episode #41: Gemini Full Moon Lunar Eclipse Forecast
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined by our resident astrological expert, Kelli Fox, to discuss the Lunar Eclipse and Full Moon In Gemini! Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: The significance of this Full Moon The traits of this specific Full Moon and why it’s unique Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Free Astrology Report: https://video.astrology.tv/ Read the Libra New Moon blog now- https://numerologist.com/astrology/aries-full-moon-forecast/ Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com The post Episode #41: Gemini Full Moon Lunar Eclipse Forecast appeared first on Numerologist.com.
49 minutes | Nov 6, 2020
Episode #40: The Secrets of the Soul Urge with Roy Kirkland
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined once again by our resident numerology expert, Roy Kirkland, to discuss the Secrets of the Soul Urge! Listen below or on your favorite platform… Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com Full Transcript Speaker 1: Welcome to the numerologist podcast, where we bring you a very special guest every single week to help guide you on your spiritual journey. Live with abundance and inspire your soul Rose: Hi numerologists community, Rose here from numerologist.com. Thank you so much for joining me once again on the numerologist podcast. We always love it when you join us here. Now, today, I am joined once again by the fabulous numerologist, Roy. Hey Roy, how are you? Roy: I’m doing okay, how about yourself? Rose: I’m really good. Thank you. Now, today, we’re going to be talking about the heart’s desire number or it’s sometimes called the soul urge number. So let’s dive straight in, what is the heart’s desire number? Roy: Okay, well, a lot of people call it the soul urge, but I actually think the heart desire is more descriptive. And as we go on through the talk, you’ll see why I see it that way. I think that concerns of modern people, today’s concerns and the situations that we’re in, the heart desire is a better description for it, because you think about it, it’s like a strong, powerful, inner creator aspect of the mind, okay? And this creative aspect is what actually brings things to us. It’s what actually pushes things away from us. It’s about what we want on a very deep and personal level. So whatever, they can say soul urge all they want, as far as I’m concerned, but it really is a person’s heart desire. This number isn’t about you imagining some kind of luminous spear of yourself sitting above you and trying to connect it with radiation or something. It’s just about knowing what you want. It’s becoming in tune with what it is you really want out of life. Because according to a lot of the metaphysics, that’s exactly what it means. But before we get started, let’s start talking about the name numbers in general, because this is the first of our name number podcasts, okay? Rose: There are lots of questions about the name numbers, right? Roy: Yeah. Oh, boy, people ask about them all the time. And, see it’s one of the most controversial topics in modern numerology, probably because there’s so many different ways of approaching it, there are two different western systems that are quite popular and even disagreements among the practitioners about exactly how to do those two. We use the one that goes straight in order with the alphabet and repeats every nine letters. But a lot of people, especially like when I started learning, the first book I had was a [inaudible 00:03:10] book, and he was a very famous numerologist and palmist and so on and so forth back in England, around the turn of the last century. And he used the Chaldean system, which is where I learned numerology. And it’s a little bit different, because it copies basically the Greek alphabet. But, so the letters are out of water compared to ours, but I’m not going to get into that in any, in any depth today. See the main question that most people ask is, what names should be used when having a numerology chart [inaudible 00:03:52], okay? That’s a deeply personal thing. So let’s look at some of the possibilities here. First. There’s the name given at birth, then There’s the name you’re most known by, there’s a married name, and sometimes more than one name that a person uses, more than one married name that a person uses. Sometimes they are adopted names that the person adopts themselves, like stage names or other legal pseudonyms in the case of writers and so on and so forth. And a lot of these, like we look at actors like Marilyn Monroe and Kirk Douglas, and if you mentioned them by their birth names people wouldn’t even know who they were. They’ve become so identified with them, so why not? So the name that a person uses, it’s really a matter of personal choice. It’s like all name numbers are about choice. As a matter of fact, all newborns are identified by their parents by choice. When we change our names, we do that by a choice. Sometimes it might seem like they’re forced upon us, but it’s actually something that we’ve chosen to do somewhere along the line. In other words, we go through a long period of life feeling like this name doesn’t suit me, or this name doesn’t fit me. And it’s a natural power of all human beings, of course the power of choice, but this is the first choice that we’re blessed with when we’re born. In other words, our parents in choosing a name for us actually transfer that power of choice to us. And that’s why the name numbers are so important, okay? Now, the Life Path numbers, like the personal years and so on and so forth, the Life Path cycles, all those things are fixed by the date of birth. You can’t change that, okay? You can do whatever you want and like or dislike, whatever you want about the numbers, but these are numbers that you can’t change. So they represent the circumstances you encounter and your default responses to them. In other words, you can say there’s two main factors in life. There’s what you put out and what you take in. Well, the Life Path numbers are what you take in. The name numbers drive the way you express your decisions and your choices. And so when you think about the Life Path numbers, well, the name numbers give you the power to choose your focus and your attitude towards things in the world. And these choices can change the circumstances and situations that you get back from the Life Path, okay? So this is the basic idea, and this is the name numbers of four, and what they’re all about is making the right choice. So you get the right feedback. Rose: Yeah, I think that’s really interesting. So what you saying here is that it’s really true that the outcomes of your decisions change your personal circumstances? Roy: 100% true. Rose: Wow. Roy: There’s a whole school of thought that actually came about, Oh gosh, at least 200 years ago, I’m thinking maybe 300 years ago, and which people started realizing develop this philosophy, that thoughts of things. And how you think and what you think about, changes your whole world, okay? Somebody who complains about having bad luck and blames your misfortune on the stars, numbers, family curses or whatever, is operating on a superstition-based cognitive bias, as they call it nowadays, and not self knowledge. This is not self knowledge. This is conditioned information, okay? That they’re processing over and over again. And they create the majority of their own misfortune due to unconscious beliefs about life and illogical self-talk with themselves. They’re probably victims of the positive power of thought, because numbers don’t give misfortune or good fortune. They just act within the context of the mind that they’re working with. In other words, this is where the soul urge operates it, it doesn’t care what the number is, but if you’ve got all these filters on it surrounding that part of yourself that have to do with all these illogical statements and beliefs that you’ve been conditioned to, or have adopted from the collective unconscious and all that kind of stuff, the psychological States actually you’re in control, whether the fortune that comes from the numbers is good fortune or bad fortune. You see what I mean? And it might be unfair to say that people create their own problems when every day we’re affected by war, natural disasters, disease, troubles in the society and all that kind of thing. But I’m not blaming the victim, because whatever we experience was created by us, but it was also co-created by the minds of millions and [inaudible 00:09:44] mind of nature, okay? And so most people live in a cloud of thought that’s formed by the influences around them are willing to accept whatever happens is normal or even good, or the right thing, will of God, et cetera. But there’s plenty of real down to earth Scientifics, statistical information about this. And we can look at it in a different way too. It’s like a few study architecture and art, music and drama. All of these things were created by the minds of someone a long time ago, the whole idea of city planning and everything we live in, politics, all of that were created by the collaboration between minds for a certain purpose. And we deal with this so much. There’s so much of that, that influences us in our daily life, not to mention stuff like advertising, marketing, the media and all that sort of thing, which is another collaboration of minds and minds and minds. And with millions of people thinking about it, that’s a lot of stuff going on in the thought world. So, I’m not blaming the victim when people are creating their own problems. I’m just saying that we do, to some degree or another. And here’s a question for you, don’t you feel better when things are going well for you? What would happen if you had the power to make your everyday experience totally your own. Have you ever been able to maintain a positive emotional state when something unexpected happens and causes stuff to go wrong? Rose: Yeah, I supposed to say, yeah. Roy: Yeah. Well, see, this is what happens when the heart’s desire shines through all those thoughts by rallying your emotions to your personal agenda, your cause, okay? Because the heart’s desire is the causative factor. It’s not like you can make all moment to moment experience just glowingly, miraculous and happy and so on, but even a little progress in that direction brings a degree of fulfillment. And that’s the work of the heart’s desire, okay? When you look at a lot of the Eastern metaphysics, they believed that the purpose of the soul is to live and experience life, so it can grow, and you grow until you get to the point that you’re so soulful that you don’t need to reincarnate anymore. And they borrowed a lot of these ideas in more modern new thought, which comes from America, by the way, reading people like Ralph Waldo Emerson or Napoleon Hill or Neville, will give you an idea of what I mean by this new thought or self-help and inspirational literature. You’ll see that they all promote the same idea, the thought directed by your deepest desires, not just thought directed at something like saying, “I want this a matchstick to rise up into the air.” But when you have thought that’s directed by your deepest desires, this is the basis of creating success and happiness in your life. Not following other rules about what’s good or bad. You see what I mean? In other words, it’s like Napoleon Hill, Roy Herbert Jarrett, James Allen. These are all very explicit about how focusing on what you want creates thoughts that somehow have the power to make things happen, okay? We don’t know what this power is, but we have some ideas about it through things like modern discoveries, like quantum physics and neuroplasticity and things of that nature, that we may be working with the placebo effect to produce in ourselves the kind of focus on ways to obtain what we want and so on and so forth, we don’t know, okay? There was guy named Neville Goddard, who lived here in America, and he taught that out picturing our desires in a very precise way will cause them to solidify into a real experience. And a lot of people have had very serious experiences with doing the kind of work he teaches. These methods, they all have the same thing and that’s knowing what your true desires are and wanting to fulfill them with a burning passion. That’s what the heart’s desire is. And that’s how, what a lot of people call manifesting works, okay? You can’t just think about something and then do nothing and watch it happen. It just doesn’t work like that. Okay. Neville, for instance, he explains the creative power in the most mystical way. He teaches people how to shift your identity and sensations to the creative power within you, instead of being lost in the distractions of daily life. Hill and the others give us practical exercises that help us know and concentrate on the deepest desires until we find them, discover them and fulfilling it becomes something that you’re willing to do, no matter what it takes. Once the mind is focused in this way, your thoughts become a channel through which the inner creative power flows, you see? Rose: Right. Okay. So let me get this right. The soul urge is really the heart’s desire? Roy: Yeah, Absolutely. It’s like some religions and mystical teachings, like I said, believe that the souls incarnate on earth in order to grow and evolve, but numerology is secular and universal. So I like to call the souls urge to have, do, and experience things of this world the heart’s desire, you see? Because that’s really what it is. And sometimes it’s funny too, because when you deny your heart’s desire, you lead a life of wandering in the whatever, leaving your own psychic energies to stay asleep instead of becoming alive and active and energetic. This is what a lot of therapy is about. Honestly, a lot of people are so anxious and depressed and so on, because they never allowed themselves to do what it was they really wanted to do. And chances are good that it was suppressed in them ever since they were children by their parents, “Oh, you’re going to be a doctor when you grow up.” Sort of thing. And they never really got to think about anything else, especially if they had the type of personality in which they’re driven to please the adults around them, because they know the easiest way to escape pain or something. So striving for the fulfillment of the heart’s desire awakens this power from its slumber and sets you free, firmly on a path of truth. That is your truth that’s truly yours, you see? Rose: Right. Okay. So let’s just change up the direction a little bit and ask, why vowels? Roy: Oh, well, let’s put it like this, when you calculate the soul urge, you do it by separating all the vowels from the letters in your name and adding up their numerical values. Now that’s because in the ancient writings of many mystical traditions, they’ve left the vowels out of written words, so that uninitiated people would not be able to understand or pronounce the sacred names that they used in magic or the hidden secrets of the tradition, you see? They did this because the vowels are, if you get into it, are the soul or the essence of the names and words, you can put out all the consonants in the world and people won’t know what it is until they see what the vowels are in those words. Like for instance, dog and dig, they are two completely different things, even completely different part of speech, unless the vowel defines that word, you see? Now the ancient Hebrews and Greeks had nearly identical letter number conversion methods. In other words, the way they convert letters to numbers in Kabbalah is very similar to the way that the Greeks did it. And the Greeks wrote speeches and plays to have a maximum effect on their audiences. In other words, when they wrote a speech to give to their constituents and the government or something like that, they designed it by way of numerology. That was their version of numerology. And they did it specifically to bring forth these powers that they believed the numbers possess. The keywords found in the spells, for instance, in the summoning of the Greek and Egyptian magical [inaudible 00:20:22], they were largely made up of vowels since they believed that their sounds had power over the spirits who would carry out their magic for them, you see? This is how important the vowel sounds are in languages. The Hebrews, for instance, remove vowels in their written messages to prevent their enemies or foolish children from invoking the secret names of God by accident. They also kept important business matters and spiritual teachings from those who did not need to know. They usually did this by using words or phrases that seemed like everyday language, but were coded so that their numeric values were the same as words and phrases from the deeper aspects of the hidden teaching. They did the same thing in Sanskrit and other languages as well. So the whole idea of using these vowels is really important, and that’s because the vowels bring the causative factors into the words and consequently affect the words by way of numerology so that they become causative, as opposed to just being curiosity that you use for encryption. Rose: Okay. So that’s interesting. So you’re saying that numbers don’t cause anything? Roy: Yeah, well, that’s where I was at before you asked about the vowels, but that is what I’m saying. They borrow from these older traditions, even though we use a modern system of transforming the English alphabet into numbers, from what we can trace back in writings and historical records, what we call the Pythagorean system today, gained its popularity from its use by the American dentist, Dr. [inaudible 00:22:27], in Atlantic City in the early 20th century, there was a big boom of mystical teaching back in those days in America. And it was one of her disciples who first called the number science as she called it numerology, okay? Before then there was a late renaissance scholar named Heinrich Cornelius Agrippa, who used the same numbering method that we use, but in Latin, and as you know, Latin’s quite a bit different from English but has a very similar alphabetical order. Now, a student of his transposed it to the English alphabet about a century later, but he was using old English alphabet, which is different from ours. So it could be a work of his or Agrippa’s, in which Dr. [inaudible 00:23:23] found the idea of numbering the alphabet from one to nine in the common order, she attributed it to [inaudible 00:23:29], because of the lack of historical knowledge they had in the day or because of a personal mystical experience. Because back in those days, spiritualism was quite popular in her time, a woman who was a spiritualist at one time ran for president. But anyway what’s important is that the system we use today to convert the alphabet into number equivalents and it works pretty well. So, I know what you’re going to ask next? Rose: So what do numbers do? Roy: Okay. All right. Okay. Millions of actions, things, and even intangible objects can be represented by numbers, we assign numbers to them. For instance, the four directions are stable, no matter where you are on earth, unless you’re at the exact North or South pole, in which case there every direction is whatever you want it to be, which is why qualities like stability, persistence, and reliability are assigned to the number four, okay? The difference between a perfect cube sitting on the ground and like a wheel that you can roll around, that cube is not easy to move, all right? The numbers themselves do not have powers, not by themselves. They’re only one way of recognizing categories of things that have similar qualities. They don’t cause actions, but the purpose of an action or its effects can be seen by the number that the action thing or effect is most closely related to. In other words they describe but they don’t cause, all right? Rose: Okay. Roy: Now I was going to say that all of this is to say that numbers are not causative in themselves. It’s the creative power within you. It’s the power of your thoughts, words, and deeds through which you express screed of power, that’s the cause. And the things that you gain or lose by the expressions of this creative power are the effects. But at the same time, we can categorize these things by number, you see? By one number or another everything in the world. Rose: Absolutely. So, I want to go back to the big question. Roy: Yeah. Okay. That was which name should you use, right? Rose: Yeah. Roy: Okay. Well, in my own practice and in my own studies, I’ve found that when a name has been changed, refused the shortened version of your original name, that using the full name at birth will reveal. I’m sorry. The full given name at birth will reveal hidden talents, abilities or qualities that you may ignore, have forgotten or might not know of. But this doesn’t necessarily have a whole lot to do with your everyday life. So it doesn’t mean that you need to start over using your full name at birth again, but it’s well worth studying the heart’s desire from that perspective, because the heart desire in most of us in this modern era is hidden from us. You might guess like if some kid in the middle ages, some boy growing up in the middle ages was born of a rich family and he wanted to be a knight, and he was the first born or the second born or something born. The second born, yeah. And the parents made him… the King or queen made him go to the church to become a monk. Churches are good he’d ended up being a warrior monk, because there wasn’t that much in the world in those days to distract us with this desire to swing a sword or whatever it is you want to do when you were a kid. As a matter of fact, a lot of the self-help teachers tell you that one of the first things you should do when you’re trying to find your deepest desire is to go back to when you were a child back to your earliest memories and try to remember what it was you like to do the most back in those days, and it’ll start bringing you toward what you truly wanted then should be what you truly want now, you see? And if not, it’s like how that old desire of yours, that childhood desire of yours has a role in helping you reach your definite chief aim, your current chief aim in life. If your current chief aim is different, I should qualify that because it’s also crucial that you take account of the soul urge challenge. Now I like this name better for the challenge. So I like soul urge for the challenge, okay? since, by simple symbolism, it has to do with the obstacles that limit the expression of the heart’s desire. And when I say limit the best way you can imagine it, is like if you have a flashlight and if you have a piece of colored gel and you keep putting the different color gels in front of the flashlight, it colors for light in a different way. In other words, you get a spot that’s red on the wall or spot that’s blue on the wall, instead of just playing a very light ivory colored spot or whatever it is, depending on what the color of the wall is, okay? These are the obstacles that limit the expression of the true heart’s desire. In other words, you can’t get what you don’t ask for is the logic behind this concept. And the challenge to the soul urge is a fear, a false idea or misunderstanding that closes the mouth of the heart and inhibits the ability to know what your true desire actually is, okay? Rose: I feel like I’ve missed my calling in life. Roy. I think warrior monk sounds like a great [inaudible 00:30:13]. Roy: Well, you would have been a warrior nun. Rose: Yes, I guess. Okay. So how do we find the heart’s desire and the soul urge challenge? Roy: Well, let’s put it this way. You don’t have to go to India and live on the top of a mountain with an old man, all right? The heart’s desire is found, first of all, by creating a list of the vowels in your names. Now we should always include Y as a vowel. And I’ll tell you why, because first of all, because Y is always used as a vowel sound or to modify another vowel sound. You’ll never see Y used as a consonant in anything. In places where it looks like it’s going to be a consonant, it ends up being an [inaudible 00:31:11] sound or an I sound, you see what I mean? In other words, Y is a vowel. It’s a vowel that’s used conveniently sometimes in order to let you know how to sound that word or how to bring the soul out of the word, okay? In other words, the numerical values of the vowels are A equals one, E equals five. I equals nine, O equal six and Y equals seven, all right? And I always found it interesting when I looked at this and saw that none of these vowels have even numbers as a value, because the even numbers are numbers that are more stable and generally have two different ways they can go in their lives here like peers of things. But anyway, we’ll go to, for the name, Mary James, okay? We sum up one plus seven plus one plus five for Mary. And that equals eight plus six, which is equal to 14 and one plus four equals five, okay? When you studying soul urge is best to work with the numbers one through nine in the beginning. In other words, we could say that 14 is a karmic number and so on and so forth, but I think the soul urge and the heart’s desire are so fundamental to a person’s character and in life, that you don’t need to go into the fancy explanation of the karmic numbers and so on and so forth. Of course, sometimes we get soul urges that are master numbers, and that’s usually significant, because it gives a person a special quality that’s way outside the mean, and plus, when we talk about the karmic numbers, these have more to do with daily life as opposed to master numbers, which have more to do with the inner life, okay? The private life. Now, I just don’t like to see beginning students get led astray by all the hoopla around the karmic and master numbers, because that keeps them from thinking in terms of the way these things actually function. Karmic and master numbers are pretty new things in the way of transforming letters into numbers. So anyway, the soul urge challenge is found by taking the difference between the first and the last vowel, okay? So you always subtract the smaller value from the larger value, if they’re the same, the difference should be counted as nine instead of zero. In other words, in Mary’s case, we have five minus one, and well, five minus one that… Oh, James, yeah, okay. We have five minus one, the five is the last vowel E, and the one is the first vowel A. So we always subtract the smaller from the larger, in order not to be doing algebra. We’re doing [inaudible 00:34:42] here, not algebra, so okay, algebra, and see, I don’t know if [inaudible 00:34:47]. But in the test above, so, this is the challenge, okay? you think of the challenges being the first minus the last it’s about the difference from how you get from the beginning to the completion of the vowels. You see? Rose: Yeah. Roy: Yeah. So this is the way the heart’s desire’s found. Rose: Okay. Roy: Yeah. Rose: So, so can you give us some examples of how to read the heart’s desire and the soul urge challenge? Roy: Well, I could give thorough examples, but I’m not sure that we have the time. But for instance, if you’re trying to find your true heart’s desire, you’re probably being driven by a need for one of the things associated with the numbers. For instance, in the case of one leadership recognition, individuality, these are usually the driving forces behind one, okay? For two, cooperation, fairness, self-respect, okay? For three, self-expression, influence creativity, other things that three craves. Stability, consistency and management is what four is after, okay? For five, it’s variety, freedom and adventure. And although I’m using these in the context of five wants this, four wants that when it’s the soul urge, I’m not trying to personify these numbers, because remember it’s not the numbers, it’s the ideas of what the numbers really want that classify them, okay? It’s these things that make them fall into the category of one number or another. Comfort, balance and service are all associated with six, all right? Knowledge, faith, and trust, are all associated with seven. Control, certainty and results are all associated with eight. Completion, success and independence are all associated with nine. And we could easily explain this a little bit more clearly by saying that, for instance, if you know somebody who’s always got a book in their hands or actually goes to church or something like that, and they might mumble and grumble like, “Well, you know, it’s where I met my girlfriend and she likes to go here. So I’m gonna go too.” They’re just saying that because it means that there’s some kind of deep desire for that mystical experience that our religion promises, you see what I mean? And trust too, like a lawyer, for instance, lawyers are one of the categories of people who fall in that step in group. And they have tremendous amounts of knowledge, but their knowledge is based on trust in the principles of the law and legal precedents and so on and so forth in the way the system works. This is a seven thing, as much as religion is the seven thing. And as much as science is a seven thing, that’s why so many scientists won’t even look at what several others explain is [inaudible 00:38:52] evidence for psychic phenomena and astrology and things like that. Not only physical evidence that can be explained, in terms of information that we have, but there are a bunch of others who say, “Oh, no, it’s something we don’t look at, something we’re not interested in. And if we don’t believe it, it doesn’t exist.” That’s dogma. That’s not science. They have faith in what they were taught when they were growing up. So this is the way you can help identify it. You might say, “Well, I like consistency, but I like to have a lot of freedom. And at the same time, I like to go out on adventures, go hiking or mountain climbing or whatever. But at the same time, I want a really stable life with a lot of consistency.” You’re not having a fight in your soul about four or five. You have to look at your habits, a person who’s more five, we’ll do things that brand them. Whereas a person who’s like a four will do everything by the book. He will put that clip on his rope by the book when he’s climbing. And so if these are the kinds of things you have to look at when you are… But it’s easier when you have numerology, because the number will define the characteristics of the person. It won’t control the characteristics of the person, but it defines it. So it can be used in our virtual system of handling reality. Now, as far as the soul urge challenges, concern, it’s about overcoming a fear of something, okay? In other words, that fear is what clouds the mind. I don’t know if you ever saw the science fiction story, [inaudible 00:40:57], they’ve made two versions of it and there’s new one coming out this December took from the previous, it looks absolutely fabulous. But, at any rate they had this thing in there where this boy, his mother was one of the female leaders of their religious science in those days. And he had learned from her this, what they call the litany, which is in other words from the [inaudible 00:41:30], and it was like, I will not fear. Fear is the mind killer, okay? And that’s what I mean by fear here. In other words, you can fear anything. I don’t mean being afraid of mice or bugs or something. I’m talking about a fear of this thing that’s most able to cripple your soul urge, okay? And, for instance, with one, it’s the fear of being ignored, that nobody’s paying attention to you. For two, it’s the fear of loneliness, that nobody cares about you, nobody wants to be around you or with you. For three, it’s the fear of criticism, three is… Well, I’ll explain that from time in the future, when we’re dealing with this in a more useful context, like describing a person or something. Four it’s the fear of being limited. In other words, for a person with a soul urge challenges four feels like there’s always something blocking them or the walls are closing in on them, or like there is a fence around them that keeps them from moving free. For five, it’s the fear of conformity. The one thing a person with the soul urge challenge of five is afraid of, it’s mediocrity. They don’t want to be like everybody else, and even if they have a very conservative heart’s desire, like a four heart’s desire, if they’ve got a five soul urge challenge, this idea of being like everybody else will usually drive them to open their own business and be successful about it. You see what I mean? They just don’t want to do what everybody else does. Okay. Six, it’s being unappreciated. The six is on the positive side when the six is on the positive side, the six loves being helpful and doing things for people, but on the negative side to six, hates it when they’re unappreciated, when nobody wants them to do anything for them and so on and so forth, when it’s like, “Get out of my face, I’ll wash my own dishes.” And so on and so forth. This is the fear of six, when it comes to a soul urge challenge. The seven is being overcrowded. I’ve mentioned, I don’t know how many times that seven is the most private of the numbers, okay? And this is when it turns into a fear, it’s a fear of being in crowds. It’s fear of… I forgot what the name is for that, because that is a phobia, but it’s just the fear of having so many people around you. You can’t tell how the energy is flowing between all of you. The eight is being dependent. A person with the soul urge challenge of eight does not want to be dependent on anyone, okay? And for the nine, it’s the fear of failure. Well, the only way you can get a nine as a soul urge challenge is that that number actually shows up as zero, but we convert it to nine for convenience, okay? Because they basically mean the same thing in this type of context. There are times when we use zero, in which it doesn’t mean the same thing, but when we’re counting the cycles of numbers and we have like say someone’s name is Albert Alan, and he spells his last name, A-L-A-N, okay? It’s like one minus one equals zero. We count that as soul urge challenge nine this person would have a fear of failure. That prevents them from… And it’s not like these are fears or phobias that outwardly express. Sometimes it takes years of therapy to uncover that, that’s what the essential fear is that standing in their way or causing some kind of a complex of psychic energy or constellation of psychic energy that’s making them do things that they don’t want to do or do things that are driving them nuts, so to speak. But anyway, all these brief definitions require a lot more explanation. And these explanations will be given as we explore the name numbers in depth and as time permits. So I just wanted to give you a overall view of what the soul urge is about. And as a matter of fact, when we go into explaining the personality number and the expression, we’ll be explaining all these ideas in more depth, because the personality number is sort of the connection between this deep inner soul urge and your daily life, all the thinking and thoughts. I talk about the thoughts that can cloud up the soul urge and filter it and keep you from being able to express and ask for your heart’s desire, you see? But all of that goes on in the personality, not in the soul urge itself, you see? In other words, like in Plato’s Cave, the famous story about these people lived in the cave. And the only thing they were able to see in the world were the shadows on the wall that came from the fire, right? Until somebody went outside and came back and said, “Hey, wait a minute, this whole world out there.” And that was completely against everything they believed in. But in other words, the personality number is that, how do I put it, describes that part of user interacts with the world at large, and that’s going to be the topic of our next discussion.And in other words, this is the soul urge has to pass through, the heart’s desire has to make it through the personality number. And that’s the place where the therapists and the health self-help experts and all of us who do numerology and astrology and [inaudible 00:48:18] readings and all that kind of stuff. We all work with that personality level, because that’s something we can touch, though soul urges just out there, it’s too deep. Rose: Yeah. I get that. All right. Well, thank you so much, Roy. I always love chatting to you. It’s always a very informative chat. What I will say to our listeners, I’m going to put some links in the show notes, so you can get more information and you can follow along and continue on your numerology learning journey. And I’ll also put a link too and so you can get your free numerology video report in there, too. Okay. Well until next week. Thank you so much, Roy. And we’ll speak to you then. Roy: Alrighty. I’ll look forward to it. Speaker 1: Thank you for listening to the numerologist podcast. If you loved it, make sure you subscribe, and don’t forget to check the show notes for an extra special free gift. The post Episode #40: The Secrets of the Soul Urge with Roy Kirkland appeared first on Numerologist.com.
8 minutes | Oct 31, 2020
Episode #39: Halloween Taurus Full Moon Forecast
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined by our resident astrological expert, Kelli Fox, to discuss the Full Moon In Taurus! Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: The significance of this Full Moon The traits of this specific Full Moon and why it’s unique Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Free Astrology Report: https://video.astrology.tv/ Read the Libra New Moon blog now- https://numerologist.com/astrology/aries-full-moon-forecast/ Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com The post Episode #39: Halloween Taurus Full Moon Forecast appeared first on Numerologist.com.
32 minutes | Oct 23, 2020
Episode #38: Brenden Durell Created A Spiritual Space For Men To Heal
Welcome back to another episode of the Numerologist Podcast with me Rose. Now, today I’m talking with Brenden Durell. He’s a former professional athlete turned life aficionado. It brings him joy to gently nudge people with laughter and inspiration so they can understand Nirvana lives in every moment of breath. Brenden is a dedicated cacao and breathwork ceremonialist and an avid white tantric student. His motto is peace is the ultimate pleasure. And with that amazing introduction, Hey Brenden, how are you? Here’s what we discuss: Men and Spirituality Energy Orgasm and what they are Cocao Ceremonies Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.phporg Brenden’s website: https://brendendurell.com/ Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.php Full Transcript Announcer: Welcome to the Numerologist Podcast, where we bring you a very special guest every single week to help guide you on your spiritual journey, live with abundance and inspire your soul. Rose: Hey, Numerologist community. Welcome back to another episode of the Numerologist Podcast with me Rose. Now, today I’m talking with Brenden Durell. He’s a former professional athlete turned life aficionado. It brings him joy to gently nudge people with laughter and inspiration so they can understand Nirvana lives in every moment of breath. Brenden is a dedicated cacao and breathwork ceremonialist and an avid white tantric student. His motto is peace is the ultimate pleasure. And with that amazing introduction, Hey Brenden, how are you? Brenden Durell: I’m doing well, Rose. Thank you for having me on here. I’m really excited to be a part of the Numerologist community. Rose: Absolutely. Thank you so much. Now we’ll get to the whole of cacao and breathwork ceremonial side of things in a bit, because that sounds super interesting and I definitely want to discuss that, but before we get there, could you just tell our community who you are and what you do? Brenden Durell: Yes. First off, hello everybody. My name is Brenden Durell, as Rose said, thank you for having me and who I am. That’s a loaded question. What I am right now, I’m a man supporting other men, supporting women via just understanding that we all can attain peace and pleasure in every moment. And depending on the situation that’s thrown at us, because life does do that. We have a choice, whether we subscribe to it or we don’t subscribe to it. And that’s pretty much who I am and what I do right now, but all in all, I’m from New Jersey in the States, I’m a former professional athlete and now I’m just living my life and enjoying every moment as I can. Rose: So Brenden, I’m really interested to see how you went from professional athlete to where you are now, because that could be seen as quite a big jump. So what’s the story, how did you get there? Brenden Durell: Yeah, I always had this heart of let’s say adventure staring at the moon, I always had these kinds of things. I grew up in inner city, New York, New Jersey, and even at a young age, full moons, Egyptian culture, different things, always intrigued me. And that was always in me, just wanted to see that in there because that’s been me. As I became an adult and I went to uni far away from home, I played professional baseball. And then after I played international baseball and I was able to travel to different cultures and different places. And I just began seeing how we’re all the same in so many different ways, if that makes any sense. And it just intrigued me more and more to be like, wow, like hard work, hard work, hard work love on people. Let them love on you. And I went from being in sports, brotherhood, locker room talk, all of these things, but having a community, even if it was around the sport to wanting to build that in my life around support, accountability and underlining love. Rose: Yeah, that pretty beautiful. So I think it’s interesting that you’ve gone from that team environment to creating your own tribe and team, which is super cool. And I do want to talk a bit about how you work with men because we’ve discussed this before the call, but I really think men are so underrepresented in the world of spirituality. And you have some sacred masculinity, I think it’s called course or session. Could you tell us a bit more about that and why you chose to help men into this world? Brenden Durell: Yeah. First and foremost, I chose to help men, because I am a man in this life and I was like, well, I want to hang out somewhere too. So let me create these spaces. But you’re right, where a lot of us are underrepresented in a lot of these spaces, healing spaces, personal development, spirituality spaces, for many reasons. And the ones that I like to go into and think about and talk about are the emotional aspects of it. Why culturally, why men aren’t, let’s say in this work, why it isn’t trending as much as it is with women in this space. And we can see in culture with emotional vulnerability, isn’t sexy in the men’s community. Being messy, seeing tears come down, letting loose, trust falling emotionally. These aren’t cool things, these aren’t “macho things.” And I say this because that has been my experience. It’s been like, you stop crying, you fall down and scrape your knee. Nobody’s going to come and rub your back. You got to get up and go. And that’s not very sustainable if we want to build a future for our kids to thrive in, neighborhoods, I envision a future where your kids, their kids, our kids can literally walk in the neighborhood and you know that they’re taken care of, that there are safe men out there. They’re safe women out there. You don’t have to worry, Oh, the streetlights are on. Let me get my kid inside before something bad happens. So for me, men’s work is a space where we’re setting the tone for having a safe community all around. And that starts internally first. Rose: Sorry to cut you off there, Brenden. Have you found it difficult to infiltrate that group, because like you said, there is that air of vulnerability is not sexy. So how have you found actually being able to get into that group and get those people coming to you to take part in this? Brenden Durell: That’s a beautiful question. For me I don’t infiltrate, I don’t go in. I just literally attract them because just my background alone in sports and being a larger man frame and I’m still myself. That’s the biggest thing I’m very relatable. If you see what I do on social media, it’s I’ll do the meditation, I’ll do the breathwork. I’ll do the cacao. I’ll do the heart expanding exercises practices, but then I’ll go and lift weights with my trainer. I’ll go and yell some FU’s and this thing, the rave that I live my spiritual journey, it’s not like white feathers and flower men dollars all the time. I’m all about… And I don’t say balanced. I’m just all about experiencing the full spectrum of what life has to offer. And so when it comes to these men, they look at me like, I’m not just a regular Yogi, just sitting in Lotus, I’m out there. I’m in the street, I’m doing these things. So it becomes very digestible as well. And I grew up with hip hop, R&B, pop music, all these things. I can speak, I love the NBA, I love some sports. So when guys see me are like, wait, you lead meditation, but you’re also watching LeBron James on Sports Center, what is this? So it’s normalizing that you don’t have to be one way to be one way. Rose: Absolutely. And I think that is such an important message because spirituality comes to different people in different ways, and there’s no one right way. Right. The end goal it doesn’t matter really how you reach it as long as you sort of making progress towards it. Brenden Durell: Absolutely, and we see this from just the example that metaphor is that life’s gives us, and my truth it’s once the sperm hits the egg in the reproductive process, this is the spiritual existence. It’s not, Oh, he’s spiritual or she’s spiritual. First of all, do you know the odds it takes for you to actually be here? Second off, it’s like, we live on a planet with a fireball in the sky. That’s up every morning. And we also have a moon and we have these things. We have all of this. Everything is spiritual. A lot of us have been in this space where it’s like, Oh, that’s religious, that’s spiritual and that’s not, that’s not. The fact that we’re alive, this is a spiritual journey. And that’s why just my existence is normalizing that for people. It doesn’t have to be this whole big straight on, full on ceremony. It’s just being here and having an open heart. That’s the journey. Rose: Absolutely. Now I just want to understand the process that you go through in one of your sacred masculinity sessions, what does a group look like? What do you do? Brenden Durell: Yeah. It’s the same work through and through, varies whether it’s virtual or in person, but the basis of it is just emotional vulnerability. And we go through deep… You could say shadow processes, as we hear a lot of people talking about shadow work, talking about catharsis. We go through these processes where we allow men to be in that space and not be judged, which is the secret sauce. It’s you can be how you want to be, you can feel how you want to feel. And we’re not going to judge you because we all have experienced what you have experienced in some form of another and vice versa. So in these experiences, it’s literally hanging out with other dudes knowing that, Oh, we experienced the same stuff. We experienced sexual shame. A lot of men were sexually molested. A lot of men experienced all these things. They got their hearts broken by women as well, we hear more culturally about the flip side of it, of about a lot of penetrative energy, which has been the case with, we can say what the patriarchy and things, been a lot of penetrative energy, a very unsafe for the feminine. I get that. But the men who come into this space, a lot of them that just don’t know how to act in this world with so many mixed messages, what do I approach this beautiful woman? But if I do, she might think I’m trying to come onto her, but this and that. So we just normalize a space of, Hey, just whatever you do, you do with grounded feet and open heart and express yourself. Rose: Absolutely. Absolutely. Now I just want to move away from what we were just talking about then to talk about your cacao and breathwork ceremonies. What is that all about? Tell me. Brenden Durell: Yeah. A lot of people I get is like, I love cacao so much, and just warning you, I can speak for two and a half weeks on this straight without taking a breath. So- Rose: All right. Well, let’s condense that just a little bit. Brenden Durell: Yeah. So cacao it’s the tree. It’s a beautiful tree and has grown in all over the world and notably, very indigenous tribes have used it. It goes back to most famous it’s the Mayas and the Incas they use cacao as an elixir. It was part of their diet, excuse me. And it goes back to even 5,000 years ago with a tribe in Ecuador called the Olmecs. And they found a compound that’s in actual cacao in clay pots, that date to about 5,000 years old. And cacao, let’s get this straight for your listeners as well, because I know you probably hear a lot about, I went to a cacao ceremony or dark chocolate, 80%, 90%, 82.6%, whatever this is. Cacao is just chocolate, the beans from the cacao pod and they’re roasted grounded up and made into a paste block. And then you have it like that and you drink it. It’s very bitter, very nutritionist. And also it’s not a psychedelic, although it has psychoactive properties. So when people drink it, they experienced this nirvanic euphoria type of feeling. And it’s not like a big trip. When people hear chocolate is an aphrodisiac, at the root chocolate is an aphrodisiac when it’s in its purest form. Now the store-bought stuff, this is not cacao. It starts off as cacao but highly, highly processed, I’m talking like Cadbury’s, all the Halloween, Valentine’s chocolates, it’s all highly processed. And most of all of them have had the naturally occurring cacao butter stripped out of it. A lot of stuff just taken out of it. So what I do with cacao it’s made for expansiveness. So with men in particular, we drink this beautiful drink and we’ll go through meditations. We’ll go through inner child work. We’ll go through breathwork. It’s amazing with breathwork. It’s amazing with yoga. It’s amazing with a lot of these things, it’s very introspective. So like I say, with everything cacao is not end all be all as nothing is, but it’s a beautiful tool for the shed. Rose: Yeah, absolutely. So can people do this cacao ceremony alone? Or is it something they have to go and see someone for? Can they even buy cacao in this form? Brenden Durell: I have resources on my page where you can buy sustainable cacao. I’m very, very, very pro buying from direct trade. We hear a lot about, Oh, it’s fair trade, so it’s good. To be honest, a lot of child labor is intertwined with fair trade stuff. And a lot of people don’t know this. With cacao, it literally comes from a family, whether it be the one that I work with the most is from Guatemala. It’s women’s collectives. It comes right from their family farm, their family forest if you want to say, and Google search, you find it. But I highly recommend direct trade. And as far as the cacao ceremony in itself, yes, it could be done on its own. Somebody first-timers looking for it, I always recommend you go find a cacao ceremony or you do some research or you find out just what it’s about because we also live in a day of appropriation. And we want to make sure that we’re very, very, very careful on how we represent these plant allies, because they’re very sacred. So yes, it can be done on its own because it’s… I drink it every day. Some days I don’t drink it, some days I’ll put it in my oats usually, and I’ll just eat it like that. Because it’s very nutritionist, high in magnesium, iron, it’s amazing. So yes, the whole process of a cacao ceremony can be done solo with meditation. You just add it into what you’re already doing and it’s a beautiful practice. Rose: Absolutely. That’s interesting, you say that you add it to other things in your life, the oats and all those kinds of things. From talking to you, I feel like you’re a very intentional person with what you do anyway, but do you do anything special when you’re just adding it to other things? Do you take in that ritual and that practice when you’re doing that? Brenden Durell: Yeah. Whether I’m lighting a candle or lighting a little bit of palo santo or rubbing frankincense in my hands, I’m only speaking into the cacao as if it’s my partner. It’s my life partner. It’s a lover. This is what I’m doing. I’m putting the intention into it. Just how you speak, somebody would speak life into their child. You speak life into a plant. It’s like you’re growing these things. So when I’m preparing cacao no matter what it is, I’m putting my intention into it. And I also do this with any meal that I eat as well. I put my hands over it. I shoot up my shock, the energy. I’ll get a little woo there. I shoot that into my food, because it’s all about intention. And so, yes, I do that with cacao, it’s like I know you’re going to do what you’re going to do with me, whether I eat you or I drink you. Rose: And then don’t worry about the woo, we love the woo here. So I want to move on to some community questions that we got, because we put it out to our community to ask you some questions. And quite a few of them are about breathwork, this kind of bleeds us nicely on. But one, is actually about reaching that state of Nirvana and it links to what we were just talking about with the cacao. So this question is, can we enter a state of Nirvana without psychedelics using just breathwork? Brenden Durell: Absolutely, absolutely. The first time I ever experienced an energy orgasm was through breathwork and an energy orgasm for you first time listeners is actually what it sounds like. It’s an orgasm through chill energy in your body without the physical aspects to it after. And I reached that state by breath because breath put me in this very expansive state, one biologic to the body. Anytime we pump this much oxygen, our bodies are just going to be like, what the hell? This is amazing, but also, wow. So it’s going to put us in this state, but yes, anytime we’re doing intentional breathing, we can reach that state. You don’t have to take plant medicines. You don’t have to drink cacao. You don’t have to do psychedelics. You don’t have to. Those are beautiful tools that as I said, [inaudible 00:18:42] but breath is a thing that’s literally the most ancient technology. If we didn’t have breath we’re done, right now, we can go without water, you die and food two weeks, but breath, you can’t go longer than a few minutes and your job down. So yes, you can attain that type of feeling with intentional breathing. Rose: So let’s just think about, what is Nirvana then? Because we’ve thrown that word about, and a few times during this podcast. So is the energy orgasm your indicator that you have reached Nirvana? Or what does it feel like? Brenden Durell: My Nirvana is peace. And however that looks, that’s my personal Nirvana and it looks different for everybody else. And I can feel that from putting my toes in the ocean right outside, I can feel that at the end of a workout, I can feel that from drinking cacao, I can feel that from a beautiful conversation with somebody. I see Nirvana, not as a destination, but as an experience, as something that I’m experiencing right now. And I feel this is the same for everybody. And we all get to have what our version of Nirvana is or what it might be, but it’s not an end all be all. It’s not like this seeking enlightenment thing, because I feel once somebody is seeking enlightenment, you never going to find it. You just can’t, you got to be enlightenment, you can’t seek it. So it’s this catch-22 kind of thing. But Nirvana, I feel it’s what you feel it is, because say for you, it could be you hanging out with your family. That’s Nirvana for you, you love it so much, you love them. Somebody else is different. Rose: Absolutely. And I love this because I was actually just… This is a random story, but I was actually just reading a book called How to Be Fine. And for anybody listening, this is the book number one on our book club so get reading it. So I was reading How to Be Fine, and this book is all about how the authors read 50 self-help books, and this book is all about what they saw that helped them. But they also acknowledged the fact that these things help them, but they’re not necessarily going to help other people. So what I’m trying to get at is there’s no one size fits all. There’s no, this is the right way, this is the wrong way. This is what it looks like. This is what it feels like. So with that, I’m quite interested to talk about how would I know that I’d reached Nirvana? Is it something that you’re like, okay, now it’s clicked or is it something that you have a realization of Oh, wow. That was Nirvana. All right? Do you know what I mean? Brenden Durell: Yeah, for me in my experience it’s contentment. I have a really full schedule with work commitments, with podcasts, Instagram Lives, collaborating with different people, but yet it’s this thing that when I experience it, it’s like those moments, let’s say you go on a camping trip with your family on a Friday, and then you take a nap for 10 minutes, and it’s already Sunday arvo and you’re leaving. It’s like, where did this time go? Ultimate presence to me is Nirvana. That’s a Nirvana. That’s a Nirvana. And I’m always going to say, peace is pleasure. Peace is the ultimate pleasure, peace is Nirvana. And however that manifests in your life, as long as it’s not hurting anybody else, putting anybody else at a detriment, you get to create what Nirvana is for you. But there is no end all be all. Like, I always say, you have tools for your tool shed and same thing with experiences with Nirvana. Rose: Now, the next question we’ve got is about your cacao, and I know we’ve spoken a bit about this, but it’s about the origins about, and we were actually talking before we started the podcast about the fact that you were in Guatemala, because you’re currently in Mexico, you were in Guatemala before. So were you there because you were at the farms or you were visiting these families who produced it? Brenden Durell: Yes. I first went to Guatemala several years ago for cacao and that’s where my journey began with it, where I was drinking it almost every day for the last five years, six years. And this past trip, I went down there. There’s an amazing brand called Keith’s Cacao and they’re situated on Lago de Atitlan, Lake Atitlan in Guatemala, up in the mountains. And in that area, it’s around volcanoes. The cacao is grown there, their trees. And these cacaos they’re not farms either, it’s amazing. It’s literally like somebody’s backyard. You walk out and it’s just wild trees everywhere. They don’t add fertilizer. They don’t add any kind of chemicals. It’s just the season, cacao, pick it. Boom here it is. It’s very special, very special. And I was in Guatemala because Keith’s Cacao invited me out to lead a breathwork and cacao ceremony for their cacao retreat. And it just so happened that the whole world situation happened. And I just stayed there for four months, which I wasn’t complaining because [inaudible 00:24:04] that energy of that place. You know what’s odd? It’s not odd. It’s actually really even, is that I didn’t drink cacao that much when I was there. But when I’m not there, I crave it more. Rose: [inaudible 00:24:15]. Brenden Durell: It’s cool isn’t it? And- Rose: Do you feel like it’s because you were around the energy of it? Brenden Durell: Absolutely. Rose: Yeah. Brenden Durell: Absolutely. It’s the [foreign language 00:24:23], as they say. The [foreign language 00:24:24], the energy of the place, it was fulfilling me. That’s why I’m very intentional with this drink. And also that’s why I don’t feel every cacao is the same, even though a spirit doesn’t discriminate, nobody can own a spirit ever. However, I just feel like from the land energetic properties, the volcanoes, the rich culture, I feel different cacaos, have a different energy imprint on things. And it’s definitely true to me from Guatemalan cacao. Rose: It’s such an interesting concept because I haven’t really come across anybody who does this sort of cacao ceremony before. I’m definitely going to look into it for myself. I feel like every time I have a podcast, our listeners are like, Oh, Rose, you’re going to do another thing. But honestly you pick up so many different things. And I think that’s the important thing about spirituality. You can try different things until we find something that works for you. Brenden Durell: Spirituality is a buffet and you just pick what you want to put it on your plate, whatever you want, want trimmings, you want dessert first, go have dessert first. You don’t want it. Okay. Rose: I love that. I feel like I need that quote on my wall. Spirituality is a buffet. Brenden Durell: But don’t indulge though because that’s the opposite of spiritual. Rose: Okay, cool. So the next question is, is there an easy hack for incorporating mindfulness into my daily busy routine? Brenden Durell: Yeah. Super easy. I love this one. Any time throughout your day, you touch a doorknob or a handle. You take a deep breath, a deep belly breath, not from your nose where you just lift up your diaphragm, you breathe into your lungs. I’m talking umbilical cord type of breath, where you’re expanding your belly out to receive nutrients from the ethos. Anytime we touch a coffee pot handle, you touch a door knob, your car handle, that’s your cue to take a deep breath. And you’re always touching things. So let’s say by the end of the day, you touch 50 things. That’s 50 deep mindfulness breaths a day, and that’s at a minimum. You touch way more things than that. So that’s my biggest hack, simple hack that I give most people. Rose: I love that. Brenden Durell: Time yourself to touch something and then take a breath. Rose: Yeah. That’s so powerful because it’s a tangible thing, right?It’s almost a reaction. And is that something you do every day? Brenden Durell: Yes. All the time anywhere I take deep breaths. I also have… It’s another one, I have alarms on my phone that randomly go off that say, okay, it’s time to breathe. And I’m like, Oh crap. I’ve been working for two hours. I’ve been taking short breaths. Okay. I’m back. Check my posture, check all that. I’m good to go. So reminding myself, we’ve got a program, let’s just face it. We’re robots. We thrive on programs that’s just who we are. I know it feels funny, but we are this organic AI that we get to program all the time. Rose: Yeah. I’ve got two more questions. I’m going to ask you this one question. I feel like it’s going to open a huge can of worms. So let’s just see how it go. And then I’ll finish on a question that brings us back to men and spirituality. So this question is what is tantra? And then they’ve put a cheeky LOL, because I feel like they’ve got a little bit of a clue. She said, I have no clue. It sounds so interesting and mysterious. And what exactly is it? And what does it help us with? Brenden Durell: Yes. So what tantra is not, it’s not sex-based. Tantra is the deepest introspection you might face in your life without taking any type of plant medicines or anything. Tantra is a lifestyle. Tantra is nervous system nurturing. Tantra is not looking at both sides of a story, it’s looking at all 10. This is what tantra is and it’s an active practice. Yes, there are sex practices you do with yourself, with a partner. That’s where the white tantra comes in, and then the red tantra all the differences is, white tantra is you’re practicing with yourself, a dormant practices intimacy. And then red tantra is the same thing. White tantra, white tantra you come together, you make red tantra and you’re doing sacred practices. So yes, tantra, it’s a lot of things, but what it’s not, it’s not just about sex. And I feel that’s where modern day society thinks that it is and it isn’t. It’s a state of being, it’s a lifestyle. It’s you think about the thoughts behind the thought behind the thought and you stay neutral to it. Rose: That’s a beautiful explanation. And you’re so right in that society has taken this word and added the sexual connotations to it, which is why I think this person’s like LOL, I have no clue. Cheeky. Brenden Durell: Cheeky. Rose: Yeah. So with tantra then, is it all about the breathwork? Brenden Durell: Breath is to me, not the most important, but it’s the most important. Because it’s moving energy in your body and it’s keeping your equilibrium in a state where you can actually be responsive and not reactive. Rose: Yeah. Okay. Cool. All right. So one final question, and this is my question. It’s a short question, but I’m going to put some explanation behind it. What would you say to men? And when I say this, I mean what would you say to men who are thinking they need something in their life, but they’re not necessarily sure what? What would you say to the people who are thinking about edging into spirituality, but are embarrassed? What would you say to men who were lost in life? Big question. Brenden Durell: For men, I would ask them a question. I would say, what are you waiting for? And how do you want to feel? Those are the two questions I would ask them, because for me, a lot of men were generally we’re on this path of seeking, seeking purpose, seeking meaning. We see allow when men let’s say they lose their jobs. It’s like, Oh, they go in this downward spiral. A lot of these things happen. So I would just pose those two questions. How do you want to feel? Because once you are clear on how do you want to feel any kind of shame, embarrassment, vulnerability starts to melt away because you’re so committed to feeling a certain way and allowing this grace to come into your life. Rose: I think that’s so powerful. That was such an awesome way to answer such a huge question and on that Brenden, thank you so much for being on the Numerologist Podcast. It’s been an absolute delight to speak to you. Brenden Durell: You’re welcome. Thank you for having me. I love you all. Thank you for listening to this as well. I really appreciate it. Rose: Bye, Brenden. Announcer: Thank you for listening to the Numerologist Podcast. If you loved it, make sure you subscribe and don’t forget to check the show notes for an extra special free gift. The post Episode #38: Brenden Durell Created A Spiritual Space For Men To Heal appeared first on Numerologist.com.
47 minutes | Oct 17, 2020
Episode #37: How To Be Fine With Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg
Welcome to the first episode in Numerologist’s Book Club series! This month, we read “How To Be Fine: What We Learned From Living By The Rules Of 50 Self Help Books” by Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg. In this episode, Rose speaks with these two incredible authors to discuss how they came to write this funny and insightful commentary on the world of self-help. If you’ve not yet read the book, you can grab it here. The audiobook is only 5 hours long so you can listen to it before you listen to the podcast if you like. Note: next month, we’re reading Dear Universe, by Sarah Prout. Click here to get October’s read now. Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.php Announcer: Welcome to the Numerologist Podcast where we bring you a very special guest every single week to help guide you on your spiritual journey, live with abundance and inspire your soul. Rose: Hey, Numerologist community. Rose here. Welcome to another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. Welcome to the first episode in our book club series. Now, if you don’t yet know about the Numerologist book club, let me just give you a little bit of a rundown. Each week, we’re picking a book from the world of self-improvement, self-love, self-help, spirituality, that kind of thing, inviting you our Numerologist community to read it and then I’ll be interviewing the book’s author and asking them your questions. If you’re not following [inaudible 00:00:44] already on Instagram, you can head over there for more information, book announcements and the opportunity to pose your questions. Or if you subscribe to the Numerologist newsletter, you will get updates and opportunities over there, too. Now, I’ll put the link to sign up and our Instagram link in the show notes for this episode so you can go check them out there. In our first episode, I am so excited to talk to Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg, the two incredible authors of How to Be Fine: What We Learned from Living by the Rules of 50 Self-Help Books. These two friends and colleagues were successful in their own rights before they came together to collaborate on their hugely popular podcast By the Book, which is now in its seventh season. Comedian and self-proclaimed reality TV historian, Jolenta is a Moth StorySLAM winner and has held a comedic residency at Pete’s Candy Store in Brooklyn. Plus, she’s been featured in NPR and BBC. Kristen is a long-time audio producer and host and head of nonfiction programming at Panopoly. She served as a culture producer for WNYC, launch producer of The Sporkful, a development producer for CBS News Productions as well as many other accolades. In her spare time, and I don’t know how she’s got any, Kristen gives guest lectures on pop culture, public history and audio production at the Brooklyn Historical Society and local universities. But in spite of their successes in their career, it’s perhaps the vulnerability they show each week in their podcast By the Book for which they have gained the most notoriety and global recognition, and it’s this podcast which really gave the framework to their now popular, insightful and incredibly funny book How to Be Fine. Without further ado, please join me in welcoming Kristen and Jolenta. Hey, Kristen, Jolenta. How are you? Kristen Meinzer: Hey. Jolenta Greenberg: Hi. Kristen Meinzer: Thank you so much for having us. Jolenta Greenberg: Yeah, we’re well. Rose: Thank you for being here. Excellent, excellent. Now, I just want to jump straight into it. This is our first book club podcast. I’m hoping that most people who are actually listening to this will have already read the book but like I said, it is one of our first ventures into a book club. For those people who haven’t necessarily read the book, could you just give me a short introduction to the book, the How to Be Fine elevator pitch, if you will? Kristen Meinzer: Well, Jolenta and I have hosted a show for seven seasons now, a podcast called By the Book. In each episode of the show, we choose a different self-help book. We follow every single rule in the book down to the letter. We record ourselves at work, at home, in the world… Well, not at work anymore since we’re all trapped at home… and in our marriages so that the listeners can hear how each book enhances or destroys our lives. Our listeners have asked us for years now, “Please write a book that is all about what actually works, what doesn’t. If you can compile everything that you’ve learned, if you can tell us stuff that you haven’t told us yet… Are there things that are not in the final episodes of the show that actually happened? Are there things that happened in your earlier years that inform how you react to the books now?” We were asked over and over and over again and eventually, Jolenta and I said, “You know what? Let’s do this. We’ve lived by enough books. We’ve lived by 50 books,” at the time we wrote the book it was 50 books, “and let’s just get it all in one place for people,” and so that’s what we did. We like to think it’s a great book for people who are already fans of the show, but a huge number of people have discovered the show because of the book. People have read the book because they thought it looked interesting and didn’t even need to be fans of our show to enjoy it. We hope that everybody picks up the book. Whether or not you’ve heard of us or not, it really does have a lot of fun, a lot of embarrassment, a lot of disclosure about the good and the bad of ourselves and these books we live by. Rose: Absolutely and I’ve got to say, I actually listened to the audiobook. I’m an audiobook girl. Jolenta Greenberg: Yay. Rose: I haven’t listened to the podcast before and I definitely got so much out of the book. It was hilarious. It was great. It’s definitely one of those things where I’m like, “Well, I’ll check out the podcast,” because it almost felt like a conversational sort of podcast itself within the book. Was that conscious? Was that intentional? Jolenta Greenberg: Yeah. Yeah, it was. I’ll backtrack it a bit. The book, we broke up into three sections where it’s advice that we’ve come across that’s really worked and helped, advice that’s just we find to be detrimental, like maybe put in there to help keep selling self-help stuff and not necessarily help people, and then also a sectio of things we wish more books would include, wellness practices, things we do in our lives to help keep them going smoothly or maybe get a little happier that books tend to overlook. And so then, we each took a subject or a piece of advice that we vibed with and just sort of broke it up from there. And then once we’d all written our chapters and pieces, we sort of had to go back through in order and make sure the first mention of this book is here, so when Kristen brings it up there, she should do a nod to “As Jolenta said a few chapters ago or in this section, blah, blah, blah.” We try to sort of draw that thread through where we know what the other has talked about in the previous stories and chapters. Rose: Yeah, that makes total sense. One question I’ve got is, was there anything you disagreed on? Did you ever come together and think, “Well, I’ve chosen this”? Jolenta Greenberg: Oh, yeah. Oh, we disagree on so many things. That’s partially why some of the things we took are the ones we took. I love decluttering and swear by it, and Kristen hates it. I mention it in the book where it’s like, “These things… Again, nothing is universal as stuff like, what, breathing, eating.” But you know what I mean. Advice isn’t universal and it’s like I share my experience with how I feel like it really helped me, and I share how it really stressed Kristen out, too. Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, and one thing we really try to make clear in the book is we’re not trying to tell everybody else how to live their lives. Jolenta Greenberg: Right. Kristen Meinzer: We’re just trying to tell people how each of these… Essentially, they’re recipe books for how to live. How did it work in the test kitchen for somebody like Jolenta? Somebody like me? Jolenta Greenberg: Of our lives. Kristen Meinzer: Jolenta and I, despite being good friends and working in the same field and living in the same neighborhood, we are different people who bring different things to the table and different interests and different beliefs. That means a book- Jolenta Greenberg: From ages, races, [inaudible 00:07:42]. Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, yeah. All of that. Something that is going to make Jolenta go, “Yes. This is the thing,” might very well make me angry or vice versa. Jolenta Greenberg: Like might cause a big rift between Kristen and her husband. Kristen Meinzer: Yes. Yes, this was [crosstalk 00:07:57]- Jolenta Greenberg: Something I’d be like, “This was so fun and innocuous,” and then Kristen’s like, “We’ve had the biggest fight ever.” Rose: Oh, no. Kristen Meinzer: Yes, yes. Don’t make us declutter together. My husband and I, we’re not fighters- Jolenta Greenberg: It don’t work for them. Kristen Meinzer: … except when we’re decluttering. Rose: It’s such a peaceful activity. Jolenta Greenberg: I don’t know if maybe… I don’t know if it’s a New Zealand… Or I feel like a commonwealth politeness thing but when Dean fights, he gets just quieter and quieter, which I really enjoyed. I feel like I could see my British friends doing that as well where it’s like they don’t yell, but it’s like, “Why would I put the rice cooker away when I’m using it?” It’s just the cutest. Rose: I could definitely resonate with that. I’m English and my husband’s Australian and we just have massive passive aggressive fights where neither of us really talk about things. Jolenta Greenberg: Yes. Beautiful. That’s so different from me. I’m fascinated with this. Sorry to digress into fighting habits. Rose: No, absolutely. I think that what you just mentioned about there’s not a one size fits all kind of method when it comes to self-help, I think that’s so powerful and you can definitely see that as a theme throughout the book. Do you feel like more sort of self-help authors should be more open with the fact that this might not necessarily help everybody? Kristen Meinzer: Oh, gosh yes. Absolutely. Jolenta Greenberg: Kristen, yeah. Kristen Meinzer: Oh my gosh. I mean obviously, they don’t want to because they want their audience to be everybody, everybody who has ever- Jolenta Greenberg: Yeah, they want that advice to be universal. Kristen Meinzer: … walked up and down a self-help aisle. Yes. They want to be able to speak universal truths, but that’s ignoring the fact that we’re all different. Gosh, I wish they would just hone in a little bit tighter and I also wish that frankly, it wasn’t all men telling women what to do. Two-thirds of self-help books are written by men. Two-thirds of readers are women. This is a problem. We don’t need all the men telling all the women what to do. Rose: Have you had any feedback from authors? From the authors that you’ve put in the book specifically? Jolenta Greenberg: Yes. Yes, yes we have. My favorite feedback we got was… God, was this a first or second season book? Kristen Meinzer: Season one with Steve and Annette Economides? Jolenta Greenberg: Yeah, the Economides. It was America’s Cheapest Family Gets You Right on the Money. Is that the title of the book? Kristen Meinzer: Yes. Yup. Rose: Best names ever for authors, by the way. Jolenta Greenberg: I mean, Economides. That is their real last name. Could not write that in a film better. They got in touch and said Kristen, who also loved their book, had done a few things wrong, and then were totally so nice and so game and did an interview with us where we’re like, “So, where did Kristen mess up?” They explained how they thought what she did differed from their advice. It was just the most fun conversation. Kristen Meinzer: They were a delight. Rose: Oh, that’s good. Kristen Meinzer: They were great. Rose: Well, that’s probably a positive side of feedback that you could’ve got because some of the books, you didn’t really like at all, did you? Kristen Meinzer: Oh, so many. Jolenta Greenberg: Oh, no. Kristen Meinzer: So many of them. I mean, but even the ones that we don’t like, we frequently get a little nugget of something useful out of. For example, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, The 4-Hour Workweek, these are all- Jolenta Greenberg: Totally. Kristen Meinzer: … books written by kind of very privileged white men who- Jolenta Greenberg: I would say your typical self-help bro like the ones where it’s like, “I know you came from the pickup artist community, but did you also? Because you all have the same vibe.” Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, and these are guys who are essentially born on third base and saying, “If I can hit a home run, so can you,” but the rest of us are still sitting in the dugout. We don’t even have access to bats or gloves or anything. There are a lot of self-help authors like that who are telling us what to do, “If I can do it, you can do it too,” but not keeping in mind all of the advantages they have that would go into that success story that maybe not everybody has. Rose: Yeah, absolutely. I like that mindset that you just kind of put out there. Even the ones that you didn’t necessarily like, you still gleamed something from them. Kristen Meinzer: Totally. Rose: I always kind of talk about how mindset really sort of helps people, especially in the self-help world. Do you think that you went into this with a mindset that “This is going to work,” or… How did you go into it? Jolenta Greenberg: Well, I guess the gimmick is we went into it like polar opposites. This show was my idea, By the Book. Kristen and I met a hundred years ago. No, we didn’t meet a hundred years ago but a while ago now. We were working at a news radio show and Kristen was the culture producer. She was the only person who could talk to me about what was on TV or what was in the movie theaters as opposed to just what was happening in politics. I was just the assistant and I was in charge of getting mail. We would get sent just so many books. So many publishers and authors send news organizations their books. They want to get it covered on the radio. I would end up taking all the self-help books because no one wanted them in the news. I would have hoards of them and I decided I was sort of a mess. I’m a comedian, I was teaching theater, I was working this assistant job. I felt like I was a mess. I wanted to get my shit together and I was like, “All of these books are going to help.” Because I’m an exhibitionist and a performer at heart, obviously I’m going to record myself doing it. To make sure I don’t end up joining a cult or something, I should bring along a friend who’s a responsible adult and that is Kristen. Kristen is my friend where it’s like she’s recommended my real estate lawyer because what even is that? I don’t know, but Kristen will tell you where to get a good one. She’s the one telling me what to do with my finances, or just she knows that you should go to the dentist twice a year. That kind of adult friend. She is very skeptical and, I believe, came in from a very different perspective, especially at the beginning. Kristen Meinzer: Oh, yeah. Absolutely, absolutely. I mean, when Jolenta and I met, part of my job is being the culture producer for that radio show we worked for was I was also the film and TV critic. My job for years has been to look for the problems in things, to poke holes in things, to see what’s not working. I was going in with that mindset and Jolenta was going in with a lot of catastrophes on her recent life horizon like an apartment that burned down. I mean, she’d had a lot of bad stuff happen and looking for things that might help her to get through that tough time is a very different perspective than mine, which is based on what is wrong with this. Jolenta Greenberg: Yeah, let’s take this apart. Kristen Meinzer: Yes, exactly. Rose: Kristen, from that critical point of view, do you feel like you gleamed as much from it as Jolenta or do you feel like that made you sort of more… Well, obviously more skeptical, but how did it affect what you got from it? Rose: I think that’s a really great message, and I hope anybody listening to this who is reading a self-help book or going down that path understands that… A lot of people sort of going down this path already are looking for something to help them. They don’t want to end up thinking that they’re a failure because they couldn’t get through the book, right? Jolenta Greenberg: Exactly. Kristen Meinzer: No, you’re not a failure. Sometimes, the book’s a failure. Jolenta Greenberg: Right, and some books kind of do that. That’s because they want to sell you more of their shit. It’s a total plan and lots of people who have big sort of self-help empires thrive off of the end of their books sort of leaving you being like… and needing a bit more. It’s on purpose. You’re not dumb for not having gotten it the first time, or you didn’t do the book wrong or get the advice wrong. It’s to sell more books. Rose: Yeah, absolutely. Do you consider yourself self-help authors? Jolenta Greenberg: No. Kristen Meinzer: No. Rose: No? Kristen Meinzer: I don’t think- Jolenta Greenberg: I feel like we write about our experiences with self-help. Kristen Meinzer: Yes. Exactly. Jolenta, bingo. That’s exactly how I would describe us, too. Rose: Perfect. All right, I’m going to go on to some of the questions that we got from our community. Jolenta Greenberg: Nice. Rose: Because we put this out to our audience who have read the book and they wanted to ask you some questions. The first question is, how did you choose the books in the first place? Kristen Meinzer: Oh, it varies. Jolenta Greenberg: It’s a mix. Kristen Meinzer: First season, we really wanted to… Our debut episode, our pilot episode was The Secret because we kind of saw that as the mother of all self-help books. We chose a lot of books in the first season that we knew had brand name recognition like The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up- Jolenta Greenberg: The heavy hitters. Kristen Meinzer: … the heavy hitters and also ones that I guess some people would call them stunt books, books that really require something extreme out of us, throwing out half of everything we own for The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up or the finale- Jolenta Greenberg: Fasting for French Women Don’t Get Fat. Kristen Meinzer: Yep, and the finale episode for season one which was How to Write An Ebook in Less Than 7-14 Days That Will Make You Money Forever. We each had to write a novel in less than two weeks as the finale episode of season one. Season one was really about those big stunts, those heavy hitters and so on. And then subsequent seasons, a lot of the books are nominated by the listeners or we’ll choose themes for different seasons. Right now, season seven, all the books are about hearth and home. That’s everything from cooking and raising plants to feeling a sense of home wherever we live at a time where we can’t leave our homes right now. Jolenta Greenberg: Or discussing race in the home. Kristen Meinzer: Yes, exactly. Jolenta Greenberg: All sorts of homey home home stuff. Rose: The next question is, what kept you going? We’ve talked about what kept you going through the individual books, but let’s talk about what kept you going to the next book and the next season of the podcast. Jolenta Greenberg: I think for me, once I sort of stopped thinking of it as purely my own experience, which sounds so selfish, but once I sort of got a bit of a head on my shoulders and this started feeling like a job rather than an experiment on myself, the idea that Kristen sort of came up with about us being the test kitchen is really what kept me going because there are such big communities devoted to these people and specific authors. They take on sort of like a guru vibe and we want to see if we apply this to our everyday lives, does it actually work or are some people sort of conning us? Kristen Meinzer: And I got to say also, I think what keeps Jolenta and I going is we have such an amazing, robust community of listeners. Jolenta Greenberg: Right. Kristen Meinzer: They’re constantly in communication with us, with each other. Our Facebook community has about 15,000 people, some of who log on many, many times a day to talk to each other to ask each other for advice, to share resources, who email us… They email us constantly… who respond to our tweets, who follow us on Instagram. These listeners are, I just got to say, so unusual because my understanding is most Facebook communities, by the time they’re our size, tend to get pretty toxic and implode, but our people are pretty fantastic. I got to give it to them. Jolenta Greenberg: It’s the nicest Facebook group I’ve ever been in and it’s wild. No, and I was saying just sort of the- Rose: [crosstalk 00:24:46] I’m about to join it. Jolenta Greenberg: The discussion that keeps going and sort of watching these listeners have their own discoveries and stuff makes us want to be like, “Wait, we want to keep doing that.” Rose: Yeah, absolutely, and I think that’s actually brings me back to the question about do you consider yourself self-help authors because perhaps you’re not self-help authors per se, but the community that you’ve built around this book and the podcast is a sort of self self-help type community, which is pretty cool. Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, but it’s a little bit different in that self-help tends to be so lonely and navel-gazing. In some ways, it’s really an individual journey. It’s just you and the book. I like to think that what we’ve done, based on what I observe on the Facebook community, is it’s not so individual. It becomes more collective. It becomes about people helping people. It becomes less people having cyclical anxiety thoughts about… Staying up at night, “Did I do something wrong? Did I do something wrong? Did I do something wrong? I’m going to read this book that talks about everything that I do wrong and then [crosstalk 00:25:50].” Jolenta Greenberg: And more discussions on the moral implications on either side of a certain self-help book. Kristen Meinzer: Yes, yes. And so moving it beyond just the damaging self-centered anxiety of an individual and moving it beyond that, it’s something that we really are grateful for that that’s happened with our listeners, and it’s something that on our show we try to make sure we’re doing that, too. We don’t want it just to be our own insecurities every single episode all the time. Absolutely. Jolenta Greenberg: Hopefully not. I’m sorry, I can’t always deliver that. Kristen Meinzer: That’s [crosstalk 00:26:20]- Jolenta Greenberg: And it goes the other way, too. There are some times where I live by a book I’ve heard about forever and I feel like such a failure because I’m like, “This is going horribly,” and then the listeners are like, “Oh, this book. We all think it sucks.” I’m like, “Oh. I thought the general consensus is that this book was life-changing. Oh my God.” It goes both ways, too. Rose: Do you announce the book whilst you’re doing it so your community can follow along too? Jolenta Greenberg: We announce- Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, so… The week before. The way our show works is every two weeks, we release a full episode of the show where we are fully living by the book. That episode is usually around 50 minutes, between 45 and 50 minutes. And then in between those weeks, we release a minisode where we follow up and say what we’ve been up to, we answer listener mail because we get so much listener mail and we announce the next- Jolenta Greenberg: Read opinions about what we messed up. Kristen Meinzer: Lots of those. And then during that mini episode, we announce what the next week’s book is. A number of listeners have written to us and say, “We’re so glad you tell us the week before what the book is,” because then the minute they hear the book, they start reading it at home, too, so that they can- Jolenta Greenberg: Some read it along, some just research a bit. Some know, “Oh, I hate that book so much, I don’t even know if I’ll listen.” Some get really excited and post on the Facebook group, “I hope you don’t hate my favorite book of all time. Please, oh my gosh, don’t hate it.” [inaudible 00:27:51]. Kristen Meinzer: We get a lot of that. Rose: Does that give you added pressure? Jolenta Greenberg: Yeah, yes. It’s hard. It’s hard to sort of experiment with things that people hold dear. But it’s also fun and I think necessary. Rose: Well, it brings us back to that whole point about there’s no one size fits all, right? Jolenta Greenberg: Right. Rose: It might’ve been your life-changing book but for you guys, it might’ve been… Jolenta Greenberg: For some people, it’s meditating. For other people, throwing out half their belongings or hopefully donating them somewhere. Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, you never know. Very recently, we lived by Jamie Oliver’s 5 Ingredients and somebody essentially wrote in saying, “The fact that you would even say anything bad about this book made me turn off your show.” You never know. People feel very strong relationships with their self-help authors. Jolenta Greenberg: With authors, with methods of self soothing. Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, all of that. Jolenta Greenberg: It’s a very personal experience so it’s interesting and sort of scary to dissect sometimes. Rose: I bet. All right. The next question is, are there things in the things that work section that you’ve implemented into your lives moving forward? And also, I suppose the things that you wished were recommended by more books, are they implemented in your life too? Kristen Meinzer: Oh, yeah. Both of those. Jolenta Greenberg: Totally. Kristen Meinzer: I mean, one thing that Jolenta and I talk about that… One thing we wish more self-help books would talk about… Very few talk about… are seeking out mental health professionals, whether those are therapists, psychiatrists, what have you. Jolenta and I have both sought out mental health professionals at various points in our lives for all sorts of- Jolenta Greenberg: I literally had therapy right before this call in this chair right here. Kristen Meinzer: Sometimes, your therapist is not a good fit and you can find another therapist who is a good fit. Just like a self-help book, it’s not one size fits all. Rose: Absolutely. All right, so the next question is, what did you think about the spirituality-based books you read? Were they more or less helpful than the others? Jolenta Greenberg: I feel like I love them, and I think it’s just truly how I was raised. I was raised in Portland, Oregon in the ’80s and ’90s so I went to lots of crystal shops. My mom’s always been into tarot so I feel just a connection to that kind of stuff. For me, it’s almost like a way to distract you into actually doing some self-reflection, like the tarot cards say what you need to work on that’s clearly on your mind and it’s sort of a… Or they give you a nice daily affirmation without you getting it from a list in a self-help book. That’s my feeling about it. I do not know how Kristen feels. Kristen Meinzer: Oh you know, Jolenta. You know really well. Jolenta Greenberg: I know how she feels. I just will not speak for her. How’s that? Kristen Meinzer: I just feel a lot of times, these spiritual books are… For me, I feel like they’re decontextualizing and appropriating somebody else’s culture and then repackaging it and trying to sell it back to, frankly, white women who are looking for some version of identity or uniqueness, something that can put them in a certain category, whether it’s astrology or some other spiritual type. I understand a lot of people feel more comfortable in the world with things being neat and categorized. They feel more in touch with their own feelings or with other people if they can use those categories, if they can have certain rules, much like any other religion gives them, but they don’t like other kinds of organized religion. But I think a lot of the spiritual books are just… They’re problematic for all of those reasons because they are trying to turn something that’s very messy, which is love and feelings and humanity and humans, and try to overly simplify it and then oftentimes in the process, appropriating other people’s culture at the same time. I tend to feel very icky when we live by those books. I feel itchy. I feel like we shouldn’t for comedy pretend to be- Jolenta Greenberg: She gets the same sort of feeling every time. Kristen Meinzer: I always feel like I’m taking someone else’s religion that was repackaged in a bad way and sold at Urban Outfitters, and now I’m living by it for comedy and it feels weird. I don’t really like it. A lot of our listeners love those episodes the most, though. When we lived by our astrology book, I don’t know if we’ve ever gotten so much feedback in our lives about “Oh, but I’m this sign and Kristen, the reason you don’t like the book is because you’re that sign,” and then “Jolenta, obviously you’re-” Jolenta Greenberg: I mean, it’s true. Kristen Meinzer: “…[inaudible 00:34:35] with me because we’re the same sign.” We got so much feedback from people who genuinely felt that astrology made their lives better and it didn’t matter that science wasn’t on their side, didn’t matter that a lot of the book that we lived by, the particular astrology book we lived by had a lot of problems. People- Jolenta Greenberg: It was a bit general. Kristen Meinzer: … still defended it. I don’t want to bemoan anybody else getting something out of those spiritual books we live by, but they generally don’t sit very well with me. Rose: Now, this question, we kind of answered in the previous section but it’s, do you think self-help books should come with a disclaimer? Jolenta Greenberg: Yes. Here’s my theory. I came up with a compromise in my mind, which is when we read… What’s Dan’s Harris’ book? Shoot. Kristen Meinzer: Oh, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics? Jolenta Greenberg: Yes. When we read Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics, what I loved is it did not… Kristen and I both do not like meditating very much, but what I loved about the book is Dan Harris just in black in white writes about how he knows he is privileged to the time to even experiment with this. He writes in the book he was born on third base. That sort of three paragraphs of self-awareness made me so much more open to the advice, and I think made the advice seem much more about “It’s about what I want to do with it. Here’s what a guy in his position did with it,” without sort of spelling it out like, “This advice isn’t for everyone.” If you can contextualize it with enough self-awareness to be like, “Not everyone comes from my walk of life or is aiming for my station in life who picks up this book.” I feel like that awareness is missing a lot. Just popping in that would be a hug difference for me as a reader. Rose: This is the next question. Since you wrote the book, is there anything you feel you’d change or any learnings from other books you’d like to add? Kristen Meinzer: Yeah. We wrote the book when we were only in the very early stages of living by what we call our history season. We lived by historical self-help books starting from the 1930s to the 2000s and we chose self-help bestseller from each of those decades and we had a historian come on and contextualize the books for us. Because we were only in the early stages of production on that season, we didn’t really go into those books very much in How to Be Fine. If he had timed things differently, I would have loved to have talked about some of that history and I would have loved to have talked about- Jolenta Greenberg: Yeah, I love that kind of history stuff. Kristen Meinzer: Yes, yes. Absolutely. Some of the things that were even being written about in the 1930s that you see over and over again in books from 2020. Jolenta Greenberg: The amount of times you see the stuff in How to Make Friends and Influence People- Kristen Meinzer: Influence people. Jolenta Greenberg: … those repetitive- Kristen Meinzer: How to Win Friends and Influence… Yeah, all of that. Jolenta Greenberg: You guys, The Secret did not come up with think it and it will come. Rose: With that in mind, would that have changed what you had in the sections or do you think that it still would’ve been the same but just with a bit more context about the historical type of things? Kristen Meinzer: I think I would’ve- Jolenta Greenberg: I would say about the same. Kristen Meinzer: I think a lot of it would be the same, but I think I would maybe tweak some of it a little bit. I sometimes think I would’ve had a chapter in the book called Be Like a Dog because in How to Win Friends and Influence People, that’s one of the things- Jolenta Greenberg: Oh my gosh, yes. Kristen Meinzer: … that Dale Carnegie says all the time is, “Be like a dog. Dogs are always excited to see you. Dogs are forgiving. Dogs don’t hold grudges.” Jolenta Greenberg: They aren’t tainted by all their memories. Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, and treat the people you love the way a dog would treat you. I think about that all the time. I should be thrilled when somebody I love walks in the door, not mad and like, “You’re two minutes late.” I can talk about this- Jolenta Greenberg: On why we didn’t get that job. Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, exactly. All of those things. I feel that that’s what we do already so much of the time. There’s a book that we lived by called What to Say When You Talk to Your Self by Dr. Shad Helmstetter. He has some stat in there like, “We say 10,000 bad things to ourselves every day.” It’s some sort of insanely high number of things. I do think that we would benefit if maybe we spend a little bit less time talking about how bad we have it and how horrible we are and how useless we are. If maybe we spent a little more time being thankful for the things that actually are fine, the things that… I mean, I’m so grateful that I get to talk with you today. What a gift is this that we have technology where you’re on the other side of the planet and that you chose to wake up a five in the morning- Jolenta Greenberg: Thank you. Kristen Meinzer: … your time to talk to us. This is such a gift. If I wanted to, I could have a different mindset like, “Oh god, I can’t believe-” Jolenta Greenberg: “I got to do another thing today. What if my internet doesn’t work? It didn’t work last time. [inaudible 00:43:47] worry about that.” Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, exactly. Exactly. I’m not saying to deny the things that are tough in life, but I think that the world frequently wants us to focus more on the bad stuff than is helpful or than is productive. There’s so much we all have to be grateful for. When we focus more on what to be grateful for, I also think we are able to focus more on preserving those things and cherishing and taking care of those things. Whether it’s the beautiful flowers outside my apartment, it’s like, “Of course I want to take care of the world. I don’t want that to go away.” Or beautiful friendship that I have. I want to cherish that. Jolenta, I want to tell you I love you and I’m grateful for you. Jolenta Greenberg: I love you. Kristen Meinzer: I don’t want that to just evaporate. Yeah, so I do think that’s probably helped my mindset. If other people did that more, maybe it would help their mindset. Again, don’t want to be totally prescriptive, though. Everyone do what they need to, but you’re beautiful and you’re lovable. You don’t need to beat yourself up. Rose: I think it’s even number… The third one in the things that worked is practice gratitude so it’s definitely a big part of this whole book in any way. Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, I mean it helps me. I have been told by some people that focusing on gratitude makes them feel lousy. Jolenta, when we lived by the gratitude book, at certain points- Jolenta Greenberg: I teetered back and forth. But there’s also no denying that sometimes being grateful, it literally enhances my mood even when I don’t want it to. Rose: Now, we’re running out of time so just to wrap up, I’m going to ask you one more question. This is, how would someone go and choose a self-help book? Would they have to read 50 books to discover what works for them? Jolenta Greenberg: Ooh, that’s so hard. Part of me wants to say especially when it comes to self-help book, judge it by its cover. Marketers know what they’re doing. If you’re like, “Ooh, I’m really drawn to this,” try it. Thumb through it. Also, maybe if you’re drawn to something, I would read author bios and see who you like because sort of picking a self-help book is like saying “Who do I want to look up to?” because self-help authors are just saying, “Here’s this one part of life that I obsessed over and theorized over and think I’ve hacked to make us happier.” It’s like, “Who do you want to go on that journey with?” Kristen Meinzer: I really like that advice. Whatever book you’re picking up, feel free as you’re paging through books in the bookstore to put it down after five pages if you want to then go to the next book that jumps out at you. You don’t have to throw your whole self into every book, even if other people you know love it, even if other people- Jolenta Greenberg: Even if Oprah’s telling you to read it. Kristen Meinzer: Yeah, even if Oprah tells you to read. You don’t have to read every bestseller. You don’t have to read every book or like every book. What jumps out at you, what speaks to you, who actually might seem like a charlatan, keep your ears perked up for that, too. There are definitely lots of charlatans out there. You don’t have to listen to the charlatans. Rose: Excellent. Thank you so much, ladies, for joining me today. Jolenta Greenberg: Thank you. Rose: It’s been a great podcast. Kristen Meinzer: Thank you so much, Rose. This has been so much fun. Jolenta Greenberg: Rose, this has been lovely. Thank you. Announcer: Thank you for listening to the Numerologist Podcast. If you loved it, make sure you subscribe. Don’t forget to check the show notes for an extra special free gift. The post Episode #37: How To Be Fine With Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg appeared first on Numerologist.com.
9 minutes | Oct 16, 2020
Episode #36: Libra New Moon Forecast ???? Sweet But Intense Vibes ????
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined by our resident astrological expert, Kelli Fox, to discuss the New Moon in Libra! Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: The significance of this New Moon The traits of this specific New Moon and why it’s unique Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Free Astrology Report: https://video.astrology.tv/ Read the Libra New Moon blog now- https://numerologist.com/astrology/aries-full-moon-forecast/ Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com The post Episode #36: Libra New Moon Forecast ???? Sweet But Intense Vibes ???? appeared first on Numerologist.com.
42 minutes | Oct 9, 2020
Episode #35: Proof The Law of Attraction Really Works With Leeor Alexandra
Here’s what we discuss: The Law of Attraction How you can use the Law Of Atrraction in your life Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.php Leeor’s Youtube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/c/LeeorAlexandra/featured Leeor’s Jewelry Line – https://www.alchemybyla.com/ Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.php Full Transcript Announcer: Welcome to the Numerologist podcast, where we bring you a very special guest every single week to help guide you on your spiritual journey, live with abundance, and inspire your soul. Rose: Hey, Numerologist community, and welcome back to another episode of the Numerologist podcast with me, Rose, from numerologist.com. Now, our guest today is Leeor Alexandra. On her hugely popular YouTube channel, Leeor talks about spirituality, law of attraction, self-development, even aliens, and much more. She’s also the driving force behind Alchemy by Leeor Alexandra, a brand which creates high vibrational jewelry with meaning. Hey, Leeor. How are you? Leeor: I’m doing so well, Rose. Thank you so much for the introduction. Rose: Thank you for being here with us. Now, I want to get straight down to it and ask you a few questions about you. Tell us, who are you? What do you do? And what is your story? Leeor: Okay. I have been the little odd, spiritual, curious girl my entire life. I’ve always been really into spirituality. I grew up in Israel. I moved over here to Los Angeles when I was eight years old. At the time, spirituality books and other realities, other perspectives on the world, those were my friends. That’s how I learned English, through different books, through creating these make-believe games for me and my brothers about ancient Egypt and ancient Greece and all this stuff. Just really curious about all ancient, sacred knowledge. When I was 14, I discovered the law of attraction. I started through, I was in Barnes & Noble here in Calabasas. I was walking through this section and I’ll always remember this moment because it’s what changed my life forever. Right? It’s when I found the teachings of Abraham by Esther and Jerry Hicks. This purple book stood out to me, I don’t know what made me grab it. It was in the self development and spirituality section, which at the time I didn’t spend much time in, but it was there and I was interested. I opened that book and at the time, I didn’t understand the contents of it as deeply, of course, as I do now, 13 years later, but it changed my life. I started to practice the law of attraction now, 13 years ago, teaching it to my best friends. So we were on AOL AIM back then when you had messenger, you know? Rose: Yeah. Leeor: We would go back and forth doing these law of attraction exercises together. I, basically at just 14, began to coach people through using their words and using the law of attraction to manifest things that they want, and to change their reality. So I was doing it from all the way back then. And then that led up to all the way to 2016 when I started doing YouTube. Originally, I was really into spreading the message about veganism. But I remember that I was watching these other YouTubers who talked about the law of attraction and I was so … I would watch them every morning before going to school. I was going to USC at the time, and it would just change my day. It would change my frequency, and I was so excited. I did so well in school at that time. I was manifesting all these internships, all these really cool internships, and all this stuff. In 2016, after putting up a few videos about veganism and some interviews I was doing at the time, I realized I have something to teach, something that I’m obsessed with, that I think about and live my life through. Maybe I should do this. So I did my first law of attraction video, which is Law of Attraction 101 on YouTube. It blew up. I was like, wow, there are people who are interested in this. And then that’s how I started this, just teaching what I know and my whole goal, one of the things I was manifesting at that time, I have a vision board from 2016 was to be able to make money and create a career around being myself. Law of attraction and spirituality, that is who I am, that’s who I’ve always been. So I was able to manifest that in a couple of years, which is awesome. Rose: That’s super cool. Now, one thing you said in there that interests me, you said you were originally born in Israel. So, correct me if I’m wrong, but that would make you Jewish. How does your religion coincide with your spirituality? Leeor: That’s a really good question. It’s a question that a lot of people have because there’s a lot of people who are very religious and they still want to manifest their best life, and all these things, all these external things that they desire. From my studies, from my research, I think that manifesting in law of attraction goes hand in hand with every religion out there, with every culture out there. We find that knowledge across the board, in indigenous cultures, in all the big Abrahamic religions, and everything, and in Islam, and in Buddhism, Hinduism, Taoism, and all of them. Across the board, law of attraction goes hand in hand with everything. So it doesn’t go against Judaism. And then there’s these other sects of these religions, and these cultures, which are like the mysticism teachings, right? So there’s like narcissism in Christianity. There’s Kabbalah in Judaism. There’s Sufism, Sufism. I never knew how to say that. Also, English is my second language, so I’m doing my best. In these mystical teachings, it’s explicitly said, the law of attraction is explicitly taught in these. So I’ve always found that it goes hand in hand with it, that it doesn’t contradict. Rose: That’s really lovely when something actually one works with the other and they’re not sort of mutually exclusive. So it’s a nice thing that you’re actually able to weave that in as well. So when it comes to the law of attraction, can you just tell us a bit more about what the concept is there? Leeor: So the law of attraction is basically that which is like unto itself is drawn. So in a very simple way, it’s that you … There’s all these different ways to explain it and different methods of manifesting, but it’s basically that what you are, where you vibrate, what frequency you vibrate at, you’re going to attract to you experiences, people, situations, resources, and everything else. Reality is going to assemble for you at the level of your vibration, what you are, you attract. There’s a new way that I’m kind of playing with this lately that’s more than just calling to you things. It’s more that you are bringing ideas into physicality. So, these things start as thought forms, right? These ideas, these things that we want, like I want to get into, for example, when I was manifesting getting into USC University of Southern California, I wanted to get there. Something starts as a thought, and then it has to come down somehow into the physical reality. So the law of attraction and also the law of polarity, these are the ways that you bring a thought into physical form, into materiality. So, in the most simple thing, like attracts like. Rose: That makes total sense. One question that that brought up for me is thinking about the person who is attracting these things as a passenger in this sort of law of attraction. What would you say about that? Do I just have to think something and it will be, or do I have to be proactive about getting out there? How does that work? Leeor: I think that it works for different people in different ways, because everything goes back to our belief systems. So somebody thinks, manifesting and using the law of attraction consciously because we’re always manifesting everything that we’re experiencing, right? Rose, we’re manifesting. I manifested this, we’re manifesting where we are. Everything has been manifested, everything begins with thought. And so for each person, when they come into the realization that this law exists, that there’s kind of like this intelligence in the universe that likes to work with you and play with you to reassemble reality, to be more like what you are envisioning. For each person that’s going to seem either really, really hard and unattainable or easy. So I think that I’ve always looked at it as something that is easy. And because of that, because I built this belief over a decade now of manifesting being easy, manifesting for me is instantaneous, right? For somebody else who thinks, “Oh, I have to focus on it every single day in order for it to manifest,” that’s their belief system. That’s their reality. The universe gives us evidence for our belief systems. Does that make sense? Rose: It does. And what’s really funny there is your belief system about the law of attraction itself, that sort of defines how the law of attraction will work for you. Leeor: Exactly. Rose: That’s crazy. Leeor: It’s not exempt for me. Rose: Yeah, it’s so crazy to think about that. It’s one of those things you would think that’s the exception. That’s the thing. Leeor: It’s the universal law, but no, it all goes hand in hand in our beliefs. The universe gives us evidence for all of our belief systems, including about how the universe works. Rose: So my next question was going to be about whether the law of attraction works for everybody, but sort of given what you’ve just said then, I’m sort of more thinking, well, it could work for everybody if they believe in it. Is that what you would think? Leeor: Totally. It’s not necessarily believing in it. You could use it without believing in it. So it works all the time, ubiquitously across the board with everybody because we’re always constantly manifesting. So for example, I just spoke on Twitter with this person who said to me, we were in a little, not an argument, but we were having a conversation and we had differing opinions. And they said no matter how much you wish to not be poor, unless you do something physically, you’re going to stay poor, something like that. I said, yeah, because that is your belief system, so 100%. But we have stories. We have thousands, if not millions of stories of people in horrible circumstances, completely rising from their situation, not knowing about the law of attraction, but knowing this is what I want for myself. This is what I want for my life, and this is what I’m going to have and writing something down. And then their entire life changes. There was that story of it was a woman, she was on Oprah. She was on Oprah a few times. And she was from Zimbabwe, I believe. Her name starts with a T, I don’t remember it. It’s at the top of my head, but she was from this town in Africa, in Zimbabwe, in absolute dire circumstances, just really, really living and growing up in poverty. And she wrote one day, somebody from America came and taught them like to write their intention or something like that. She wrote this intention that she’s going to be a doctor in America and she wrote it down and she hid it under a rock. Leeor: She went on to get her master’s, PhD, everything. She’s a doctor now in America, her whole family’s here, moved everybody over here, total American dream. It’s like, how can you tell, how can anybody argue that it could work for anyone? When, of course this woman’s clearly intelligent, clearly talented, but if it could work for her and her circumstances that for anybody to judge them would say that it’s hard to get out of poverty, right? And she was able to do that. She set her intention, put it under a rock, let it go. And then the universe reassembled to give her the opportunities to study. She went and studied and she made this all happen. Rose: I love that. So I hate going down the more negative route, but what about things that happen that are not very nice to people, have they manifested that? Leeor Alexandra: Great. So that’s such a good question. This is something that I think there are other universal laws and this goes into the more esoteric. I think anybody listening to the Numerologist podcast is into that, so it’s easy to talk about. But from my perspective, so there’s many different ways to look at this. Some like Abraham, the teachings of Abraham will say that there are certain things when you’re a child that your parents actually manifest for you because your will isn’t as strong then. And that can happen for you. Leeor: So a parent who’s really worried about their child getting really sick, might manifest sickness to their child. I think that we could take that even one step further. My belief, my own experience I had what’s called a non-abiding awakening in my early twenties. It was kind of like this peek behind the curtain. We could talk about that if you’d like, it’s a whole other thing. But I learned a lot from that. My solid belief is that everything happens exactly the way that it’s supposed to. And before this lifetime, we create certain contracts with certain people, and it’s kind of like paying off karma, kind of like, I want to learn this lesson. You want to learn this lesson, let’s do this to each other in this lifetime. We make these decisions before we come into physicality because this physical experience, and quantum physics tells us this already, physics says this. This physical experience, it’s not even real. It’s not everything. It’s not who we are. We’re not just matter. We’re not just this physical body. We’re so much more than this. So for me to think that things happen to us in the universe rather than for us, it doesn’t resonate. I’ve had bad things happen to me. I’ve gone through really dark things in my life. I think that without my faith, without my … I’m so sorry. Without my belief, let me put that on, it would have been so much more difficult. It would have been so much more difficult to go through those things thinking, oh, life is happening to me. Like all these different things are happening to me and deep traumas. There’s this thing in the Bible that I really like this overall, this encompassing message in the Old Testament, it’s when the Jews keep having their temple knocked down, they build the temple and it’s knocked down, right. Every time that happens, they don’t shake their fists at the sky and say, “Why is God doing this to us?” They say, “Well, I must have done something. What did we do? What did we do?” That’s, of course, not like to victim blame and not to … Anybody who’s been through something traumatic, it’s not their fault, but it is still meaningful. There’s meaning to everything. And again, I’ve been through dark things, and without that faith, without that belief of knowing, there was a reason and look where I ended up at the life of my dreams, for sure, because I knew that these dark things happening to me or these challenges that I’ve gone through, that my family has gone through have formed me and shaped me to be who I am. On that note, a lot of times when we want to manifest something and we’re not totally in the frequency to receive it. We’re over here, in order to get over here where we are capable of receiving over from point A to point B where we are capable of receiving, often life takes us on a journey that’s up and down and up and down, right? It’s not linear. So we go through these dark times and these high times, because humanity in general experiences that the nature of universe is just like a woman giving birth. We have contractions, right, in order to birth something new. In order to birth something new, you have to experience contraction. And the human experience is a series of contraction and expansion. In the contraction, things seem scary and dark and challenging, but then the expansion comes and you’re like, “Oh, this is why it happened. It’s all natural.” Rose: It’s really funny that we’re talking about this right now because I live by the mantra as well, that everything happens for a reason. I truly believe that. But sometimes when you are going through those dark times, you can’t see that. It’s not a piece of advice that people would want to hear during those times either. I’ve got a friend and she had a baby last week and he’s very sick. He’s in the ICU, and it’s one of those things but he’s on the mend. So, it’s getting better, but it’s one of those things I can’t say everything happens for a reason. But having gone through nearly the same thing this time last year, myself, I know that she’ll come out of this a stronger person. So yeah, it’s a funny thing that we’re talking about it now. Leeor: Yeah. It’s an interesting, I mean, synchronicity, right? It all happens for a reason. I also think that it’s interesting when friends go through similar things and one friend goes through it a long time before the other person does, it’s almost like you’re meant to be that lighthouse for her, because you persevered through something so challenging. And yeah, just telling that person, “Oh, it’s happening for a reason.” We always want to be compassionate. We always want to be empathic. But to steer them to, we’re going to figure out why this is happening and we’re going to get through this together. I’m not telling you that you’re responsible for this, but this is happening, ultimately everything’s happening for a reason. It really is. Rose: Absolutely. Absolutely. All right. Well, I do actually want to segue back to what we just talked about, about your peek behind the curtain. So let’s talk about that for a minute. Leeor: I’d love to. I love talking about this more than anything lately, because the more I talk about it, the more I remember it and the more I can live my life according to what happened to me. Because a lot of people experience something like this or something super mystical, and they’re changed for a little bit. And then they go on to living their life normally. So it’s always important to talk about these really amazing paradigm shifting, life-altering experiences so that we can continuously remember to live by these things. So when I was 20 or 21, so I was always spiritual for sure, but I wasn’t tapped in. I wasn’t that conscious, at that age. I was drinking a lot. I was on antidepressants, which you should not do together. I was on anti-anxieties. I was eating a really bad diet and I was in a really bad relationship, with my longest relationship, my demons loved his demons, and I was just in a very closed place. Right? So the fact that this thing happened to me at the time where I’m not meditating, I’m not taking care of myself. I’m not doing anything. I look at it as grace. Grace is when the divine gifts you something. So it was a gift and it didn’t take right away, but it planted a seed in my consciousness that flourished and blossomed years later. I’m so thankful for this. Like, thank God, thank the universe, thank everything. So what happened was, I didn’t have a word for this for many years too. I was 20 or 21 and I had these two split seconds of enlightenment. So in that moment, once was when I woke up from my sleep into it. It happened while I was asleep and I woke up either crying or laughing. I can’t remember if I was crying that time or the other time, but a very emotional reaction. The other time I was walking out of the door of my house, pulling the door knob open, and I had this split second. And now this second felt like years. What I saw was a scoped out picture of the universe. I felt this loving, unconditionally loving presence, kind of behind me, kind of watching me, kind of like looking at me, like, look at this, let me show you something. I wasn’t religious. I was just conceptually spiritual, but not practicing spiritual at the time. So I wasn’t looking for this. I wasn’t looking for enlightenment or anything like that. This energy showed me all these images. I got answers for everything. I saw an answer for everything, answer to every mathematical problem you could think of, any scientific problem you could think of, cure to cancer, cure to this, cure to all these things in a split second rushed flooded into my mind. I saw how every single person is connected, how we’re all the same thing. We’re the same as trees, we’re the same as all the animals, all the plants, everything. We’re the same thing. We’re love being expressed through different vessels, through different bodies, through materiality. Okay. So I saw that we are all connected. I saw that everything is going according to plan and it showed me wars, poverty, violence, everything. I know it’s hard to understand when we’re not in that place. It’s hard for me to understand what I’m seeing, especially in this year in 2020. And I keep saying, I keep having to bring myself to, okay. I know it looks bad, but everything’s perfect. I saw everything is going according to plan. It’s perfect. The last thing that I learned was that love is everything. It sounds cheesy, but there is no other way to explain what I experienced. And I realized that all those songs from the Beatles, and all these songs that we’ve heard from these artists and gurus and enlightened people that are all saying love is everything. Love is the only thing. They’re saying that that’s the truth. That’s the simple, ultimate, bottom line truth. We are love. We come from love. We return to love. The only thing that matters is love and the best way to deal with anything in life, with everything from sickness to any challenge, to any conflict is through unconditional love. All of this came in a split second. It was unreal and it happened twice. So one time I burst out crying after, and then I went on about my day, and the other time I just started laughing. I think that’s when I woke up from it in my sleep. And I was just laughing because I was like, “Oh my God, how did I forget? How did I forget? I didn’t know what this was, and I spent years, Rose, years looking for somebody who understood what I went through. I found nothing. I read books. I looked it up. I went on Google and typed in exactly the situation. Like I found out everything is love and it’s all connected. What happened? What is this? Nothing. No resources at all. Until, probably a couple of years ago where I started … So I found out when I read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, he kind of briefly explains this situation, this experience, but it didn’t click yet. It didn’t give me the name for it. Then I found this author and this teacher Adyashanti, and Adyashanti has this book that’s called, I can look it up. Right now I’m not sure exactly what it was called. Something like The End of Your World. It’s called The End of Your World. And in The End of Your World, he explains what I went through word for word. He even says that it’s a split second, but it feels like a long time, right? This is called non-binding awakening, because I’m not enlightened. It didn’t stay with me. Right. I just got a peek. I got a peek through what these enlightened people in India and all over the world, this is how they see life all the time. This is how they feel always. And it’s just like this truth that when I bring myself back to it, everything’s okay again. Rose: That’s incredible. I really love that story. Do you look back on your non-abiding awakening, how do you use that now? Leeor: Right. When the world is dark, like it is right now, I have to keep bringing myself to that because I just tell myself, there’s a plan here. It’s not our plan. It’s this divine intelligence plan. It wants to experience exactly what we’re going through right now. And I am this intelligence, right? And you are this intelligence. We all are a part of it. We’re a spark of it. It exists in us. We’re just limited by our human bodies in our human experience. So we’ve forgotten all of it. We’ve forgotten all of this. So I see the violence, and I see the sickness, and I see all this and it hurts being an empathic person. This year has been really hard, hearing sad stories, things like what your friend is going through and it hurts, but I keep bringing myself back to, but we’re never born and we never die. We’re going to continue forever. We’re just having this, it’s just an experience. And it feels really real. And it’s important. It’s not, not important because it’s not as real as we think it is. It’s really important. We want it to be here. There’s a reason why we’re here. But it’s going back to that everything happens for reason thing. It’s like, for some reason, consciousness wants to experience this right now. If I’m having a bad day, I guess consciousness wanted to experience this. Rose: Absolutely. That’s a really great mechanism, I think, to go back to and think about when you are having a bad day and when the world is rough and dark and all those kinds of things. It’s one of those things that I think is probably easier said than done. You want to go back to it and think everything does happen for a reason, but in practice, it’s probably pretty hard, right? Leeor: A hundred percent. And there are moments where I remember it and I’m like, okay, but I don’t care. I feel like crap right now. I feel horrible. I’m going to take a nap. I’m going to turn everything off. I’m not going to talk to anybody. How dare that guy cut me off? Does he not know everything is perfect? At least having that in the background, that underlying truth, that knowing that we’re going to go through challenging things in this life, because that’s why we’re here. If we wanted to stay in perfection, we would have stayed in perfection. We wanted to go through the depredation process that exists when you are a spirit coming into matter. Okay. So, we kind of dim our light and we come into a physical matter, into our physical vessels that we use to navigate this world. We wanted to experience all this. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t be here. So just having that in the background to just go back to, and sometimes it works. Sometimes my energy changes right away and I’m like, yes, I am spirit experiencing this challenge. It’s great. I’m going to get through this and I’m going to be expanded. This is just the contraction, right? Again, there’s contraction and expansion. And then sometimes I’m just like, okay, I’m in the contraction. Let me be in my bubble. I hate everything. Rose: This is probably a funny segue, but how did you start your jewelry line? Leeor: Oh, yeah. It’s actually perfect segue because so, okay. So, again, I am of the big belief, I first learned about this in Elizabeth Gilbert’s book, Big Magic, where she talks about thought forms as ideas. This is huge in the esoteric community, thought forms exist in the astral realm, the fourth dimension, and they’re conscious beings that want to come into physicality. They want to become material. So they want to come into the human world. And in order to do that, they have to degrade again, just like we do into matter, becoming denser into matter. So I’m completely of the belief that alchemy, that these amulets wanted to become a tool again for humanity, because they’re not the original one, the balancing amulet that I made, I’ll explain what amulets are. The original one was found in Tiberias in the Middle East. So they have been around, we don’t even know how long, and they were tools. They were tools of creation of manifestation. I’ve truly believed that there was this thought form that was like, you’re going to create this, and you’re going to distribute our tool worldwide for people to heal with, to manifest with, to find their soulmate with, to find balance with it, to activate their fertility, all these different things that these amulets are able to do. I never wanted to do jewelry. I wasn’t interested. My dad is a jeweler and he always wanted me to start a jewelry line. And I was never interested. I had all the resources and everything. I had no desire. But it was like a situation, a synchronicity after synchronicity led me to being like, “Oh, I’m going to make 50 of these and see if people want to buy them.” I didn’t know the meaning behind what I was doing. I didn’t know anything at the time. I only went on later on when I started to actually produce them and ship them worldwide. That’s when I found out the power behind these things. So I started on the floor of my childhood bedroom, listening to Abraham Hicks while wrapping each one, packaging each week, sending them out with high vibrations. And like I said, it was probably six months into doing that when I finally made it like Alchemy by Leeor Alexandra. I really did the deep diving, the deep research onto what these letters, these codes are. The original one that I found my dad was wearing it. He brought it back from Israel. His sister-in-law found it for him from Tiberias. I told him I was sitting with, and I was like, “Abba, I’ve been looking for a necklace like that.” He takes it off his neck and puts it on me. I’ll never forget these little moments that change your life, you know? So I started wearing it in my videos and people started commenting about it. I was like, “Oh, people are interested in this.” And one thing led to the other, and it’s this idea of this thought form, the power behind these amulets wanting to be available to more people. So it took me to the right place at the right time to the right resource, and little by little it became what it is today. Rose: Absolutely. I think that’s the best start a business story I’ve ever heard. Most people, I have this idea and I’m going to start selling it. And you’re like, I just knew I needed to do it. Leeor: It was not my idea. Something else wanted to come through me. It’s like a channeling kind of. Rose: I love that. We’ll actually put the link to people to check out your jewelry in the show notes for this podcast. Now, we are running out time, but I do want to ask you some questions that we had from our community. So let’s have a look. Okay. So the first question we got was, how long does it take for the law of … Sorry, excuse me. How long does it take for the law of attraction to work? Leeor: Okay. So thankfully, we’re blessed with something called the buffer of time. Okay. So we’re blessed with this because imagine if every thought you had manifested, imagine if you’re cursing somebody that you love out, and you’re like, “Oh, I wish something bad happened to them.” And it happened right away. So thankfully, we have a buffer of time. For different people, things are going to manifest at different times. Like I said, if you live in this world like I do, live in it and have for over a decade, things are going to manifest a lot faster because your belief system is there. If you don’t believe in it so much, you’re going to need a little bit more time and it’s going to be really individual to you. One thing I will say is that spirit, God, the universe is never too late. If you can just take that belief system, that God is never too late, everything’s going to happen for you in divine timing. Because the universe, God, source, whatever it is that you resonate with that you want to … I don’t want to say God and turn off anybody who’s not religious because you are god, you know? This energy, this consciousness works outside of space and time. It’s not limited like we are by the fourth dimension and by the third dimension, right. It works outside of that. So a really good example of this that I like to share is let’s say you wanted to manifest an orange. Okay. So you set your intention and you say, I want to manifest an orange. And then you can go to work that day and the communal space where the kitchen, where the employees eat is filled with oranges, right? You’re having a party and somebody just brought a bunch of oranges. So rationally you think, well, somebody made this decision to buy oranges, had nothing to do with me. It probably was made before I even asked for oranges, but that’s not how it works because the universe operates outside of time and space. So you ask for something and it can be that instantaneous that it shows up the very next place that you go, right? So it’s going to be different for different people, but it’s all about belief system and hammering in that belief system that you’re working outside of time and space. Rose: Cool. So this question here about beginners. So how can beginners start to take steps to use the law of attraction? Leeor: That’s really good. So when you’re just beginning, first of all, you’re not a beginner, right? Like we were saying, you’ve been manifesting your whole life, you’ve been manifesting. You’ve manifested your situation just unconsciously. So what you’re doing, don’t look at yourself as a beginner. Look at yourself as now a conscious creator, you’re consciously creating now. So I would start small and build up your belief system. So start to manifest little things like somebody reaching out to you or a text from somebody that you want, a free cup of coffee, parking space, an email, little things that you don’t put on a pedestal, that you’re not desperate for them to happen. So that that way you can get your energy and your belief system to a good place of building that foundation little by little. Does that make sense? Rose: Yeah, absolutely. So, what would I do? So for example, I want this person to email me back today. Would I just sit there and think this person is going to email me today? Leeor: Okay. That’s a good one. So what I would do in that situation, especially as a beginner, is I would sit and I would kind of get into a meditation and I would focus on my breath for a little bit and slow everything down, become very present. And then I would visualize receiving an email from somebody. Another good thing to do is to focus on the emotion you’re going to get when you receive that email, or focusing on the emotion that the other person is going to feel as they send that email. So kind of pulling this person up into your mind and seeing them thinking about you. Manifest from their perspective, outer intention. So see them thinking about you, see them feel what they’re feeling like, “Oh, I’m excited to email Rose today. I’m going to email Rose today,” and see them sitting down at their computer and going through the process. Visualize that and then feel how you would feel receiving that email. Visualize yourself receiving that email. And then just go back to your breath and then cultivate emotions of gratitude. We didn’t even get to talk about gratitude in this one, but gratitude is really important. And just saying thank you. It’s the most powerful and most simple prayer you can possibly do. Saying thank you for that, if that’s what you want, but thank you. I’m so grateful I received this email. I’m so grateful in the present tense. I’m so grateful. And then I would go about my day. I would drop it. I wouldn’t think about it. I wouldn’t check my phone. I would just let reality do its thing. I would let the world reassembled. With practice, for some people, this is going to be instant. For other people, it’s going to take a little bit of practice. Somebody might get in a couple of days or a few days or a month even, right. It just depends on each person’s level of belief and level of certainty and faith that this is going to happen. Rose: Well, that was very helpful because that is an actual example that I’ll be using today. Leeor: Yes, will you update me on it? Rose: I will, I will. Okay. So just a couple more questions. How do I use the law of attraction to find the one? Leeor: Okay. That’s a good one. I have many programs on that if anybody wants to check those out. Manifesting the one is actually super simple, because you don’t have to do anything that has to do with the other person at all. It’s all about you. Can you manifest the life of your dreams, feeling the best in your body, feeling the best about yourself? There’s a saying. It goes, “I found you when I went looking for me.” I think that that is the most important. It’s like you go on this self-love journey where you start to love yourself and you start to align with this frequency of self-love, self worthiness, self-confidence, and then other people start seeing you like that and you become a magnet. So what we want to do is we’re calling, we’re attracting to us. We’re not chasing anything or anybody, because things come to us. We create this spider web, right? And we let things get stuck in it, because basically what we’re doing is we’re working on ourselves. Just like a spider works on her web to catch her food, we’re working on ourselves. And when we work on ourselves, things just come to us. We can be the tastiest, greatest spider web ever. Rose: I love that. Finally, last question. What if the law of attraction fails? Leeor: Okay. So, this is a good question. I think that it never truly fails. Everything goes back to our limiting beliefs and our self-limiting beliefs. How we perceive the world, our belief system is going to make something manifest or not manifest. I think that when people say like it fails, they’re assuming that it can fail. And it can’t. It’s just about learning how to get your energy right to align with that thing that you want. So I say that you’re not failing at something, you’re repelling it. It’s just not in your frequency right now. You might be at such a high level and you’re at … For example, a girl would want to manifest a partner, and she has her eye on a specific person, but they’re on a lower frequency and she can’t manifest them because they’re not in alignment. So it’s not that you’re not manifesting. It’s not that it’s not happening. You just have to align. If you want to lower your frequency to match with this person, you can. You have free will, it’s up to you. Or maybe you want to raise your frequency and see who exists on that high frequency right there, right? So you might be asking for something that’s going to knock you out of your frequency and it’s going to happen. It’s going to happen. But it takes a degradation of that frequency, a lowering of that frequency to make it happen. So it’s just that your belief system, your limiting beliefs, how you see the world working on that and knowing that you are manifesting at all times, but maybe your signal is just a little bit off. Rose: I really like the way you described that, because it kind of links into what you were just talking about, about how long does it work. It’s not really like that. Even going in with the thought that it could fail, sets you up for that- Leeor: It sets that possibility. Rose: Exactly. All right, Leeor, thank you so much for joining us today. I personally have learned a lot about the law of attraction, and I will be implementing some things into my daily practice. Thank you once again. Leeor: Thank you so much. You’re such a pleasure to talk to. That was really, really fun. Announcer: Thank you for listening to the Numerologist podcast. If you loved it, make sure you subscribe and don’t forget to check the show notes for an extra special free gift. 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41 minutes | Oct 2, 2020
Episode #34: How Reiki Really Works With Reiki Master Lourdes Lerbron
In this week’s Podcast I’m speaking with Reiki Master, crystal healer, intuitive, writer, and spiritual advisor Lourdes Lebron. Lourdes founded Rest, Relaxation, and Reiki to help people heal their past, find peace in the present, and gain hope for the future. She has a worldwide following and enjoys sharing Reiki with humans and animals alike. Her Rest, Relaxation, and Reiki YouTube channel currently has over 1,000 videos that introduce people to the transformational effects of reiki and energy work. Her other social media platforms showcase reiki infused photos, card readings, and crystal grids. Please join me in welcoming Lourdes Lebron to the Podcast. Here’s what we discuss: What reiki is and how to you can use it in your daily life The different types of reiki and how you can use them to help in each area of life Lourdes’ story Your reiki questions answered Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.php Lourdes YouTube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/user/RestRelaxationReiki Lourdes Website – https://reikifromlourdes.com/ Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: https://video.numerologist.com/mesl_v1.5/blog-mb.php Full Transcript Hey Lourdes, thanks for joining me! Lourdes: Hi Rose, how are you doing? Rose: I’m really well, thank you. Now you are a Reiki Master. I’ve been on your website and you have so many different attunement and qualifications and certificates and things like that. So can you just tell us a bit about who you are, what you do, and your story? Lourdes: Well as you mentioned, I am a Reiki Master. I’ve been doing this for more years than I want to think about. My goal with reiki is to introduce the world to it and how it can help improve people’s lives. I do this through my YouTube channel; which right now has over 1,000 videos, I think it’s close to 1,100 videos of physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual challenges people have that can help them with whatever they’re going through. That’s my biggest source of work, is that. My website then offers, like my social media, reiki infused photos. People don’t realize that photos can carry energy. So I usually offer them on my YouTube community page, Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, whatever., and that carries because a lot of times people may not have access to videos. I do a lot of different types of reiki because for me, what I have found, is that although reiki is general, sometimes people need a more specific frequency. That means that there’s a special type of reiki. For example, people with heartache, I find [inaudible] reiki assists them with that. People who need grounding may use [inaudible] reiki. Or people who are working with prosperity need money reiki. So each one of them has a frequency. My whole purpose has kept evolving. You do numerology and it’s so funny because there was a period of time where I did numerology reports because that was what was needed from the people I was working with at the time. So it evolves and is constantly changing depending on the needs of the society at the time. Rose: Yeah so it’s actually … it’s really interesting that you talk about all of the different kinds of reiki. My next question was actually going to be what is reiki? So let’s talk about reiki as a whole. Then let’s break it down a little bit into the different kinds of reiki. Lourdes: Okay. Reiki loosely translates into universal energy. It’s really the energy around us. People think that it’s my energy; it’s not. I channeled the energy. I find that it is a combination of the energy of spirit, whatever you want to call spirit. God, goddess, universe, whatever, and the earth energy and the two combine together. I just think of it, you have some coming from above, some coming from below, they meet up and you’re able to transmute it through your hands, through your eyes, through your body in whatever shape or form. So you’re just a channel for it, just as if you were a wire. And that’s what you are. You conduct the energy. It’s not something that I say, “I am going to go out there and I’m going to do it.” I may just put my hand on somebody and I just let it flow. It’s not something you can force and that’s something most people don’t understand. It’s not. It just flows through you naturally once you are attune to it. Rose: Yeah, okay. So what about the different kinds of reiki then? How do they differ in what you do, I suppose? Lourdes: All right think of reiki as an umbrella and all of the different types of reiki fall underneath it. So if you want to think of it as the different spokes holding up the umbrella, that’s another way of doing it. Each one has a different purpose and/or a different frequency. Just like numbers have a different frequency, so does each form of reiki and there’s hundreds of forms of reiki. Because everyone … a lot of people have channeled them and what’s great about them is they all fulfill a different need. Not everybody needs the same time. Most people, you don’t need all of them, and people do very well without them. I personally like variety. So for me, it’s very important to have all of these to go through. It’s like having your black dress. You have that one black dress that fits everything, but you may also want a red dress, a blue dress, a purple dress, whatever. So for me, it’s like that. Rose: Yeah and I like the way you talk about that because here at Numerologist we are all about making sure things are super personalized and sort of working with that one person. And it sounds like these … whilst you can learn about numerology, I’m just using this as an analogy, whilst you can use numerology as a whole to help heal yourself and understand yourself, knowing your exact numerology chart and things like that helps get to the core of your life and those kinds of things. So it sounds like reiki a little bit similar? Lourdes: It is similar because it is a frequency. For me it’s … I know my life number. I’ve known my life number since I was a child. I’m a six. That’s my life number. I remember being eight years old and going to the … a fair where they spin the wheel and you have to guess the number? I knew it was 15. 15 and that was it and that number has stuck with me my entire life. So the other number that has stuck with me is 18 and for me, nine is what I call the Dali Lama number. It’s what I am hoping to reach or attain. That type of energy. So those two numbers have always been with me and I’ve always felt them. You could always feel them around you. Rose: Yeah and that actually says a lot that you’re a six because it’s that natural humanitarian, want to help people, those kind of things. That’s actually very telling, which is good. Now I just want to talk about your YouTube channel a bit because what you do on there … I found your videos really interesting. Although you don’t really speak during them, there’s not really any music or anything like that, but they are so powerful. Can you tell me a bit about what you’re doing in your YouTube videos? Lourdes: I love my YouTube videos, okay? I have to admit I am definitely … that’s part of my life and I enjoy it so much. The YouTube videos, is where I am able to channel the energy through space and time to a specific intention. You don’t need sound. People think that you need to have music or you need to have sound. In fact, that’s the number one question I get asked, there’s no sound? I go, “You don’t need sound. You just need to relax to receive it.” Another question that I get asked a lot is, “What are you thinking?” All I do when … I know. I usually set the intention and let the reiki flow. Sometimes I’m very out of it where I don’t realize I’m even sending and my husband keeps track of time for me, or my daughter, or even my son when they were doing it, and they would have to tell me, “Stop,” because I would just continue. It would just flow. Other times I’m very aware of what’s going on around me. But in any case, all I do is raise my hand, I set the intention that the reiki flow to whoever wishes to receive it, wherever it’s playing, whenever it’s playing because my videos from 2009 are just as relevant today and just as powerful as they were then. So it’s a concept many people have a hard time wrapping their head around. That you can go through time with energy. You can go through space. I can do it here in New Jersey and it could reach someone in China five years from now, six years from now. But that’s all I do. I set the intention. That’s the most important thing with reiki or with any energy work. Whether you’re manifesting money or love in your life, it’s to set the intention and know that it’s going to happen. Rose: Yeah and that is what I was going to ask you actually, because a lot of your videos are a reiki for anxiety or a reiki for something else. Lourdes: Yes. Rose: So, is it all about thinking about people’s specific struggles and then setting an intention to help them heal those problems? Is that what you do? Lourdes: Well what I do is, I set the intention and the intention is for it to help people in whatever way it can. So for some people, the energy is immediately. The results, they get it that one session. That reiki video will do it or a distance session. And for others, it may take time depending on the blockages. I don’t say that it works in a specific way. I leave it open ended so that the universe finds the best way. For many people it may come across in a secondary manner. So for example, if someone is using one of my videos for a challenge. Let’s … I don’t know, for their lungs? Something’s going on wit their lungs. They play the videos and they may feel a little better, but all of a sudden they may be referred to a doctor that can help them even more. Or they may read an article about something. Or they may see something on TV. It may work in a secondary manner. It may not work immediately. It may work a couple weeks, months, for some people it may take years. But using it a long with other tools, like numerology, essential oils, colors, crystals, all that can work together to help a person. Rose: Absolutely. I notice in pretty much all of your videos you do have crystals there with you, how do you use the crystals? Are they based on the intention you’re setting? Or is it just, do you pick what you like at the time? Lourdes: It’s really the ones that pick me. Rose: Okay! Lourdes: I don’t pick them. I ask which ones want to help and those are the ones that come with me on videos. If it were up to me, I’d have a whole table full of them, but that’s not how it works. Only specific ones want to help. Some of them have a need to be a universal energy supplement. I call it a supplement because they want to supplement whatever the reiki is doing. And other ones are just friendly. They just want to say hi and so I was like, “Okay.” Rose: Well I love that. I think that’s a great way to pick crystals! I bet you’ve got a whole room full of them haven’t you, to choose from? Lourdes: Several. Rose: I thought so. Lourdes: Yes. Rose: Now with your YouTube videos, I think when I first watched them … and you’re right, I was one of those people that thought, “Oh, there’s no sound. Have I not put the sound on or what’s going on?” Is there a way that … is there a better way for people to consume those videos? To open themselves up to receiving the energy? Because I feel like that there could be a lot of skeptics or a lot of people who are thinking, “Well she’s not saying anything to me, so I can’t receive what she’s giving me.” How do you work with that? Lourdes: For me the best way to receive the energy is either when you’re resting. That means sleeping or taking a nap or doing meditation. Rose: Okay. Lourdes: People can also play music during the videos. I don’t play music because I’m very picky about music and I can just see myself playing something that won’t appeal to the mass majority of people. I happen to like Disney music. I don’t think everybody wants to hear Step In Time. It’s not going to work. Even without a copyright infringement, it’s just not going to work. So I let the person choose the music, but really when we’re sleeping, napping, or meditating, the energy has the best chance to work because then our conscious mind takes a nap. It takes a break, it goes to rest, and our subconscious absorbs the energy better. Rose: And one thing that I thought was really interesting when I was looking at your YouTube channel and your website and those things, you call it a reiki. I’m going to … it’s almost like you can give somebody a reiki. I don’t know if I’ve got that terminology right, but if feels like more than if you were going for an acupuncture session or something like that? It feels like a physical think that you can give to somebody. What would you say to that? Lourdes: I say I share reiki. Rose: Okay. Lourdes: That’s my best way of putting it, because I’m sharing the energy that’s coming through me with someone else, or a group of people, or a space, or a situation. It’s not mine to give. It’s mine to share. Rose: Okay, I like that. Now do you find there’s a difference in sharing reiki via a distance platform like YouTube or Zoom or Skype or whatever and doing it in person? Lourdes: It’s so funny because for some people, actually a lot of my students who have taken reiki in person from other Reiki Masters, have told me that the reiki I share is stronger than any they’ve experienced. Not having a person in front of you makes it easier. Whether it’s on YouTube or when I’m doing a distance sessions, because there’s no blockage. No preconceived notions of what I should be doing or shouldn’t be doing. So when I send reiki out there, I just send it and let it flow. I don’t … I set the intention, let it go, and it’s so much easier. It takes the pressure off of me and it lets the person receive whatever amount they need to receive. When I was doing reiki in person, a lot of times the attunement were too strong. I had to learn to do different things so that I wasn’t knocking people out and they were on my sofa for a while. That was a challenge. Or even now with distance sessions, I let people know what they may feel because they may be energetically knocked out for a day or two. So they need to be home and be able to rest, to absorb the energy, and preferably at night. Rose: Wow! Okay, so one thing I’m interested to learn is, how do you hone that energy? How do you learn to take this energy, pass it through you, and share it with whoever you are sharing it with? How does that work? Lourdes: Well that works through … First of all, for a person to become attune to reiki, you need to have a Reiki Master attune you. So I would attune my students. To be able to do it through space and time it requires a level two and above. Level two allows you to go back in time or into the future. And a level three, of course, can do the same. It is something that is taught. For example, my classes I have videos and I have a handout. I also recommend a book because the book doesn’t follow reiki the way I do. I realize I’m more creative with reiki than most people, but I like to give my students the traditional type of background too. Not just my background, because you need to be well rounded to be able to understand reiki in its whole. You cannot just have one persons view. Many Reiki Masters say, “It’s my view or nothing at all.” And that is so wrong because there’s so much out there. Or, combining reiki with numbers, crystals, colors, essential oil, many people don’t do that. They’re saying that’s not being pure. I go, “You know, vanilla ice cream is pure, but put something else like strawberries in it, it’s wonderful.” You can combine things with other things and it turns out well. Rose: Absolutely. So lets talk about that combination then. And I’d love to explore the concept of numbers. I’m sorry, I’m getting a [inaudible] situation here. Lourdes: That’s okay, I totally get it. Rose: Yeah, so let’s talk about numbers and healing. Do you work with numbers in your practice? Lourdes Lebron: Yes. Rose: Okay. Lourdes: Depending on the person and the session, I may give them a healing code. A number specific for them that will work with their goal and their intention. Numbers are frequency and a tool just like crystals and everything else. Some people have numbers all throughout their aura, where you just pick up that number and you just know it’s their number and it’s a number they should carry with them in their pocket. It’s a number that they should place under their pillow at night. Some are a combination of numbers because … It’s so funny, I’m six. So one five is my specific frequency. It’s not just the number six. For me it’s the combination of the one and the five that work best for me. Same thing with other people. They may have a six, but it maybe two, two, two that is their best number. So what I will do is I will receive the information about a number and then I’ll use a pendulum to check to see what combination of that number would be the best vibration for them. It doesn’t happen with every reiki session. It happens with some reiki sessions where it’s such a strong message that that number comes in so loudly that I let them know. Rose: All right so I just want to touch on what you were talking about there, which is it’s really important for people to understand the combination of the numbers too. Because in numerology we always said, “Okay you reduce down to one digit, unless it’s a master number, in which case you keep it.” Lourdes: Yes. Rose: But then the people who do have … they are a six, but they are a combination of the one and the five, those two numbers, those frequencies of those two numbers are so … they’re very different numbers and sort of having those and understanding the combination and then how it reflects into the six, it’s a really sort of different perspective of actually looking at things. And looking at your various challenges and where you’re going in life and all of those kinds of things. Lourdes: Yes. Rose: So I love that you actually do that in your practice too. Lourdes: Well it’s like when you’re making pumpkin pie. It’s a combination of spices, but not everyone’s going to like the same spices in their pumpkin pie. Rose: I see. Lourdes Lebron: So you have to really work to see which is the best one. And I think having a background in numerology made it easier for me to understand that concept. Rose: Absolutely. Now, I just want to talk about reiki sessions in general. When somebody comes for a reiki session, do they need a specific goal in mind? Or do they just need something? They need some healing in some way, but they don’t necessarily know where or what. How does that work? Lourdes: Well when a person purchases a reiki session from me, they can tell me if they have a specific intention. Or they may pick a specific type of reiki that I offer. But generally, just being open to receiving whatever information comes through is the best. Setting an intention is good in a way, but it also locks people out from a lot of other things. If you’re going for a session, for example, for the hearth chakra. Let’s say you’re saying, “I have heartbreak. I want the love session.” But I can do the love session, but there may be another message coming through even more important. There may be a challenge that is effecting the love session that you aren’t aware of the love. So being open is so much easier. Now a lot of people take reiki with me understand that, all right they take the general regular session and then they receive guidance or they are aware or something. So they may just say after the distance session, say, “I really need the love session,” because the guides may have spoken to them. Something may have opened up where then they acknowledge what they need. And that’s fine. In fact, that’s how I like it the best. When people start general and then move into more specific. Rose: So now I’m going to go into some questions from our audience because we did have a few community questions. Lourdes: Sure. Rose: So these are about reiki, but there’s some about dream interpretation as well; which I know you have done before. So I’m going to ask you those too. The first question is about reiki and it’s, “I would like to know how to tap into the abilities inside me. Do I need any kind of psychic ability to do reiki?” Lourdes: You don’t need psychic ability to do reiki. Most of the practitioners I work with just work on themselves. They do not work on other people. At least, most of my students don’t. With reiki all you have to do is have that willingness, that openness, and that calling because it is a calling. It’s not something … everybody can do it. It’s like baseball. I like baseball, so that’s the best analogy for me. Anybody and everybody can play baseball, but not everyone is going to be a superstar. It’s not because superstars not only have the innate ability, but they practice and practice and practice. So for reiki, practicing is the best way to get stronger and to improve your abilities. That’s something most people don’t realize. Most people think, okay I do it, I get the attunement, and that’s it. I’m constantly reading books, trying new things. I don’t stop learning. If I stopped learning, then I wouldn’t be as good at what I do as I am now. Rose: Yeah, okay that’s a great perspective. I love your perspective on things as is. It’s very refreshing. So the next question is, “I have dreams about death and nasty stuff. What’s that supposed to mean?” Lourdes Lebron: For me, death is always about transformation. That person may be going through a transformation and doesn’t realize it. There may be a fear of going through that transformation and that’s why death is coming up. So I definitely think that nasty stuff may be the fears about it. About this change, because they may be afraid of change. Rose: Yeah, and fear of change is a big fear in a lot of people isn’t it? Lourdes: I go through that. I totally understand it. I totally get it. Rose: It’s definitely a funny one, isn’t it? Because I think a lot of us can be scared of change and we acknowledge that fear and we’re still scared of it, do you know what I mean? Lourdes: Yes, I totally get it. Just this past week I changed scheduling systems. I can’t even tell you the amount of screaming and yelling and ranting and raving it took for one whole day before I finally capitulated and said, “It’s done. I’m doing it.” And then I did it and now I’m happy. But it took me, I think two months and then it finally had a culmination of the ranting and raving and then it was done. Rose: Well there you go. Lourdes: Yeah. Exactly. Rose: I like how you can approach [inaudible 00:26:06]. So the next question is, excuse me, “Can reiki help me with my physical ailments?” Lourdes: Because I am in the U.S., I make it very clear that reiki doesn’t “heal.” In the U.S., unless you are a doctor, a medical practitioner certified by the state or the country, you cannot say reiki heals. What I say is, reiki helps release energy blockages that are contributing to a challenge. So, if there is an emotional blockage that is contributing to your physical challenge, reiki may assist you with energetic healing or improvement. I cannot say it’s going to cure anything. People will [inaudible 00:26:52], “Will reiki cure this?” And I am very specific about that. Reiki does not cure. Reiki releases energy blockages and depending on your souls journey, it may improve to the point where you don’t have that challenge. Or it may improv where you just feel better. But I cannot say “cure.” Rose: Yeah, okay. Fair enough. Now the next question is about some quick and practical tips to implement reiki into somebody’s life. So this person works with their chakras already. Are there any quick and practical tips you can give them to implement any kind of reiki practice into their life? Lourdes Lebron: Yes. If they’re working with chakras, it depends. If they’re doing yoga, I recommend playing my reiki playlist on the chakras, because that will assist them with that. If they’re just using crystals with their chakras, they can use my crystal videos to amplify that. If they’re just working with plain chakras, they can use my videos to clear them, to strengthen them. I have videos just specifically for that. Reiki for the aura. Reiki for the meridians. Most people don’t realize that the meridians, the energy channels, are just as important as the chakras. So reiki will definitely work with any of them. I suggest if you’re taking time to work on your chakras, play a reiki video to help amplify the work that you’re doing. Rose: And that’s an interesting thing, isn’t it, working on yourself? Because we’re talking a lot about you working with other people and doing that energy work with other people. So, how do people actually do reiki on themselves? Is that a thing? If they’re not listening to a specific playlist or receiving a specific video or session or something like that, can they hone into their own energies and that kind of thing? Lourdes: People can hone into their own energies, but it’s not reiki unless you’re a reiki practitioner. If you’re a reiki practitioner, yes you can do it. One of the things I do teach is using your hands to give yourself reiki. I give myself reiki every night. That’s something I do every single night. Or I work on my family members. Just even if we’re watching TV, I’ll have one hand on one person and one hand on the other person and I’ll work on them. But if you’re working on yourself energetically and you’re not a Reiki Master, it’s not reiki. It’s not saying it’s wrong, it’s just a different frequency. It’s not what we’re doing. And if you’re by yourself, you could use the reiki videos to compliment that. Rose: Yeah, that makes total sense. And I’ve got a question for you about doing reiki on your family. Well, it’s probably a two part question. Do they know you’re doing it? And are they open to it? Lourdes: All the members of my immediate family are reiki practitioners. My husband, daughter, and son are Reiki Masters. My parents are reiki level two. My nieces and nephews are all Reiki Masters and I have my sister’s a reiki practitioner and my sister in law’s a reiki practitioner. Rose: Wow! Lourdes: So they’re all open to it. And in fact, my aunt and uncle are as well. If they … usually when I ask … when they sit down I just tell them, “Give me … let me put my hand on your body parts here. Your leg, your head, and the reiki flows.” They’re open to it. They’re always happy and they share it with me. For example, if I’m having stress in a part of my body, my husband will place his hand there. Or my daughter will place her hand on my knees if she thinks they need it. So it works really well with all of us being able to do it. Rose: Wow that’s incredible. I don’t think I’ve ever met anybody who’s had such a huge family involvement in one kind of thing, which is awesome. Lourdes Lebron: It is! Rose: My question is, who was first? Lourdes Lebron: I was the first. Rose: Yeah? Lourdes: I attuned everybody else, because they all showed an interest in it. It’s so funny because the ones who are older, some of them are still doing it, some are not, but one of the ones who is older has gone into the medical field. So it’s so funny, they’ve gone into the medical field and they are aware of yoga and the chakras and stuff. They’re not … they know that reiki is real, they’ve done different things, but they’re just … they’ve absorbed it like it’s part of them. It’s so funny, the older ones, my parents and my aunt and uncle, they know it and they have it, but they forget it. So I always have to constantly say, “Did you do reiki on yourself?” And they’re like, “Oh, I forgot.” I assume it’s age. I assume it’s age. They’re all past 80, so I’m like, “Okay.” But they will do it on themselves. So my parents will share reiki with each other. And my aunt and uncle, they’re a lot older still so what I will do is I’ll just send reiki to them. They’ll call me and tell me, “Can you send me reiki?” Rose: Yeah, wow. Lourdes: Which is fine. The kids used on it their tests, which is great. When my kids were in high school and college, they would use reiki to do well on their tests, and they did! Both kids graduated with honors, so I can’t complain. Rose: I actually think it’s super cool that the person you’re talking about who went into the medical field, I think actually opened up another question about misconceptions of reiki versus traditional healthcare and those kinds of things. What kind of misconceptions do you get about reiki? And do you get any skepticism? Lourdes: It’s so funny because I’m very lucky where I have a gastroenterologist; he is aware of reiki. He goes and tells people about it, so he’s very aware of it. My gynecologist is like, “Do meditation, do yoga, do everything else to help you with your challenges.” But when I’ve been at the hospital for different things and if somebody asks me what I do, from a medical point of view doctors, they’re skeptical. Nurses are more open to it. And I’m not saying not every doctor, because of course like I said, my gastroenterologist and my gynecologist are open to it. But in the hospital setting it’s so very funny how some of them just look at me like, “You really believe in that?” It’s like, “You believe in air. Can you see it? You can’t, so why not?” Rose: Yeah. And that’s a good point, isn’t it? It’s a non tangible thing. It’s an energy flow that people can’t see and a lot of people … a lot of times people have a hard time actually believing in “something they can’t actually see.” Lourdes: It’s so funny. I used to work at a place with a lot of people and some of the gentlemen that were engineers … I remember one gentleman, he had elbow pain, and he goes, “I have elbow pain.” I go, “Let me put my hands on you just for a few minutes to see if it helps.” And wouldn’t you know, after that session … it was only like 10, 15 minutes. And that was how many years ago? It had to be at least eight, nine years ago? I run into the gentleman, he goes, “I still don’t have pain after that.” And these are guys who do not believe in airy, fairy stuff if you want to call it that. Some people call it that. And they’re like, “We don’t know what you did, but it works.” And I was like, “That’s all you need to know, that it works.” And as long as you’re open to it … I’ve had that happen a lot. I’ve had a mechanic who had wrist pain. I would put my hands on him for a few minutes, he never had got it back. And these are not, you know, people who are studying meditation and yoga and energy work. They’re regular guys who didn’t believe and now they’re more open. Rose: See that’s interesting then, isn’t it, because if they didn’t necessarily believe before you did it. So it’s one of those things where you’re like, “Okay well, you don’t necessarily have to be open to it for it to work for you,” which is refreshing for any kind of energy work. Because usually you have to kind of be open to receiving what you’re being given. Lourdes: Yes and I think if you’re open, you receive more. But I think when you get to a certain level of pain or a certain level of discomfort, whether it’s physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual, there’s a cry for help to the universe and that does open you up to energy. And that’s what I find; that there’s a beacon being sent out. You know, the bat signal? It gets sent out for reiki or for any other form of energy to come through to help that person. I always feel that you’re at the right place at the right time for a reason. And for all of these people, I knew I was at the right place and at the right time. Rose: Excellent. All right, let me ask a couple more questions and then we’ll end the session. So this person asks, “My sister has just become a Reiki Master. What’s the best gift I can guy her?” Oh that’s a nice question. Lourdes: That is lovely! Well, it depends on her. For me, I happen to love candles, crystals, and essential oils. Even Oracle cards. Oracle cards, some of them are specifically meant for healing. And that’s another thing. There are a number of … they’re cards; numerology decks, that have the frequency of a number and that helps a person. Because even if you’re not a Reiki Master, you can take that card, it has that vibration, and can use that energy work. So for them, I also like tuning forks. That’s something most people don’t realize. They have a numerical frequency. Use tuning forks and that may be something she may get into. When I work on people physically, like my family, I love using tuning forks. Oh my gosh because not only do they get it, but I get it too! Of if you want the singing bowls. So it would depend on her. Or if she has … doesn’t have a massage table, that’s always great. Rose: Yeah, it depends on how much she wants to spend as well doesn’t it? Lourdes: Exactly! But you could even get used ones, at least here in the U.S., very economically. So there’s so many different things that she may want if she’s doing reiki in a room specifically. A crystal to help purify the space. Incense for energy work. Sage. [inaudible 00:37:40] There is so much that’s open. If I could, I would get one of everything and that’s it. Rose: That’s good advice. Lourdes Lebron: Yes. Rose: I think she would very much like one of everything. Lourdes: I definitely would. Rose: All right, one more question and then we’ll go. So this is about dreams again. “So I’ve been having intense dreams for a while. I’d love to do about how the scenarios in our dreams and how we interact with people in our dream has a correlation to real life.” Lourdes: It’s so funny because I am going to be doing … for my reiki students I usually do private livestream and one of the things is reiki in dreams and symbolism for houses, for cars, and how it relates to us. Dreams are really the way our subconscious mind goes and interprets or analyzes or absorbs the energy of what’s happened during the day. But it’s not only that, they help also channel the energy from our guides in the universe. So some dreams are purely, if you had a rough day and you find yourself climbing a rocky mountain? That could have been your day. That’s simple. But if you have a dream where you’re talking to a loved one whose past and it’s so real that it’s still with you the next day, there’s a very good chance that loved one did come through the dream because that was the easiest way for that person to communicate with you. So it really depends on the type of dream you’re having and is it a reoccurring dreaming and what’s happening in your life? So if you’re constantly running in dreams, are you stressed at work? Do you feel like you’re on a wheel like a rat or a mouse? You’re constantly going through the “rat race?” That’s an interpretation of it. Or if in your dreams you’re carrying this heavy weight, well do you have stress from a specific situation in your life? Are you caring for your parents and your kids more? Is that weight on your shoulders? So it always gives a message. And the messages are so varied depending on the person and their situation. Rose: Absolutely. All right Lourdes, thank you so much for joining us today. It’s been a super insightful journey into reiki. And I hope a lot of our listeners got a lot from that too. What I’m going to do is, I’m going to put some links to your website and your sessions and things like that in the show notes. And I’m going to put a link to your YouTube channel, because people should definitely check that out. There is definitely a video for them on there. Like you said, there’s over 1,000 videos on there. So that is super cool. All right, Lourdes, thank you once again. Lourdes: Thank you. Bye, bye! Announcer: Thank you for listening to the Numerologist podcast. If you loved it, make sure you subscribe and don’t forget to check the show notes for an extra special free gift. The post Episode #34: How Reiki Really Works With Reiki Master Lourdes Lerbron appeared first on Numerologist.com.
9 minutes | Sep 28, 2020
Episode #33: Why The Fire-Fueled Aries Full Moon Will Ignite Your Inner Flame! with Kelli Fox
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined by our resident astrological expert, Kelli Fox, to discuss the Full Moon in Aries! This particularly fire-powered Full Moon is sure to send a wave of intense cosmic energy your way…can you handle it? Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: The significance of this Full Moon The traits of this specific Full Moon and why it’s unique How the Aries Full Moon will ignite the fire within you and urge you to fight for what you want. Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Free Astrology Report: https://video.astrology.tv/ Read the Aries Full Moon blog now- https://numerologist.com/astrology/aries-full-moon-forecast/ Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com The post Episode #33: Why The Fire-Fueled Aries Full Moon Will Ignite Your Inner Flame! with Kelli Fox appeared first on Numerologist.com.
49 minutes | Sep 25, 2020
Episode #32: Your Achievement Number Unlocked! with Roy Kirkland
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. In this episode, we’re joined once again by our resident numerology expert, Roy Kirkland, to discuss the Achievement Number! What will this number reveal about your scared identity? Let’s find out! Listen below or on your favorite platform… Here’s what we discuss: What is the Achievement Number? How the Achievement Number is calculated What the Achievement Number shapes your identity! You personalized Achievement Number reading Show Links Your Free Numerology Report – video.numerologist.com Your Special Podcast Gift: As a thank you for joining us here on the Numerologist Podcast, we’re giving you access to a very special video report which delves into the deepest levels of your numerology chart to help you understand who you are. Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com Full Transcript Announcer: Welcome to the Numerologist podcast, where we bring you a very special guest every single week to help guide you on your spiritual journey, live with abundance, and inspire your soul. Rose: Hi, numerologist community, and welcome back to another episode of The Numerologist Podcast, with me Rose. Today, I’m here again with our favorite numerologist, Roy. Hey, Roy. Roy: Hey, how are you? Rose: Very well, thank you. How are you? Roy: I’m doing okay. Rose: Awesome. We’re talking about the achievement number today, so why don’t we start out by explaining what the achievement number actually is? Roy: Well, first, before we start talking about what it is, I want to preface it by saying that this is one of my favorite elements in numerology chart, because it has so many uses, and it’s so handy. Everybody should know their achievement number, has a lot to do with the personality, and the character, mostly about our early life and how we respond to things. How we’ve learned to respond to things, our habitual ways of dealing with situations. It also controls the personal years. In other words, if you know your … how do I put it? If you know your achievement number, then you can know exactly what the personal years, months, and days are for you at any given time, and it takes less than a minute to do that. I use it a lot in quick readings when I or the person I’m doing a reading for don’t have the time to go through all the details of the full chart. There’re some things that are easy to see with the achievement number, and there’re some things that can only be found by an expert in numerology. But beginners almost always miss the most important and relevant things in the chart, because of not realizing the importance of this achievement number. That’s because popular astrology pretty much ignores everything, except the basic definitions of the sun and moon, if they go that far, leaving you with nothing that’s useful, and usually not even entertaining. The majority of people trying to learn numerology have less than that to extract some [inaudible] from to impress people. That’s because most of them spend most of their time trying to memorize set meanings for the nine basic numbers, and make up definitions and metaphysics for whatever they were saying, that really don’t make any sense, whatsoever. What I’m going to try to do is to give you some personal experience and tips about this achievement number, and some things you can do with it in order to help improve your knowledge of numerology. So that you can actually make sense of some of the most basic principles of numerology, and learn some simple ways to help you direct your own future, help you create your own future. I think it’s the most practical starting point for anyone trying to understand numerology, and as a matter of fact, if I was writing a book on this subject, it would be my first chapter. Rose: Wow. That’s so interesting. Let me get this right, so this sounds like a crash course in being a great numerologist. Is that what we’re doing here? Roy: Yeah, I guess we could call it that. We’re calling it an introduction in being a great numerologist. I don’t have a problem with that. Mostly, it’s about the basics of what the achievement number can, and will do for you, once you learn how to use it properly. It’s like one of those kind of things in a science-fiction movie when they say, “What if this knowledge fell into the wrong hands? [inaudible]. It’s almost like a magic trick. Once you know how it’s done, you can do it and amaze people, by talking them as far down the rabbit hole as they want to go. Rose: Got it. Cool. With that in mind, where do we start? Roy: With the calculation, nothing could be easier. The achievement number is the sum of the month and day of birth. When you ask people their birthday, that’s usually what they say. A lot of people, young and old, don’t like revealing their age, you don’t need their age, and I’m going to tell you why in a few minutes. Even if they do give you all three pieces of the life path, which is the month, day and year. This is enough to start a good reading for them, or for yourself without even having to memorize what the life path numbers mean, all right? Let’s see, when you have the month and day, you’re looking for the numerological sum, which means that you’re reducing it to a number between one and nine. Or you’re saving it as one of the four karmic numbers, 13, 14, 16 and 19. Or one of the master numbers 11, 22, and 33. In fact, this is the only place in all the life path numbers, the way you work the life path numbers, that you’ll find a 33. In name numbers, it’s quite common. But the 33 shows up in the achievement number, and does not show up in the life path or in the, whatever, the birthday number. There’s no 33rd day of the month. Rose: That makes sense, because I do remember as talking about there was no 33 in those life path numbers. How come it shows up here and not in the life path number? Roy: Well, it’s because it’s the, in every month of the year, except for January and February, there’s a sum of the month and day that equals 33. In January, the month number is one, and the last day of the month is 31. That’s only 32, that’s a five and February, even during a leap year when they’re 29 days in February, the month number is two, and that only leaves us with 31. March is a different story, of course, because March is the third month of the year. March the 30th is a 33, April the 29th is a 33, all the way through December the 21st, which is a 33, and so on. Rose: Well, can you tell us a little bit about the master numbers and the karmic numbers as well. Why we should be concerned with them. Roy: It’s important not to miss them, and the reason that it’s so important not to miss them, because the numbers ring too many bells that can distract you from what’s important. See, we analyze most compound numbers by considering the two digits of the compound number in combination, 12 is one and three put together. The karmic numbers is special, because they have meanings that are special, and are outside of the individual digits meanings. When we’re analyzing the achievement numbers, we start by looking at the core issues that a person’s going to experience in their life. These are a little different from the challenges of life paths, and the challenge of the birthday, and the challenges we find in the name numbers. Because there’s special characteristics of the achievement that might stand in the way of a person making the best of that number. With the master numbers, the same thing is true. Despite what they are called, the person who has them in significant positions, still has issues like any other human being. When they are identified as being the achievement number, these issues are usually quite pronounced in their life. Let me give you some details on those. Rose: Awesome. Roy: Let’s start with 11. 11’s very positive and intuitive number. 11 is a clever thinker, as well as being a good organizer and negotiator. But the core issue is that their visionary and intuitive powers show them how things should be the way they think they should be anyway. They tend to be frustrated when they’re not able to bring them into line with their ideals. This causes a lot of the mental tension and high-strung nature of 11s, all right? It also shows their tendency to pursue any means they find, to learn how to do or make things different than the way they are. Once they stop beating up on themselves. This can enable them their uniqueness, the uniqueness of their character, can give them very amazing ways to vent the frustration they feel. You can see this in many, many, many characters who have 11 as the birthday. Or let’s see, 11 or, 11’s usually the only one that pops up as a birthday number. We can see it in even more pronounced in people who have 11 as their achievement number. In fact, it’s even more pronounced as an achievement number than it is as life path. I’ll tell you why in a little bit. 13 can be innovative and somewhat visionary as well, but 13 is more experimental. The core issue usually has to do with their problem of accepting people’s advice. The 13 is the kind of person who doesn’t pay attention to the beware of dog sign, or the wet paint sign, and touches it to go, “Yeah, they’re right.” In other words, it’s a person who will test the reality around them. But at the same time, people with this number are often good at science or law. Where finding proof is the main thrust of their occupation. When they don’t, they try to prove things a lot. When they’re not involved in one of these kinds of professions. They like to prove it. 14. Now, 14 has the more is better issue. These are the kind of people you find driving around in cars with the mufflers removed, so they make more noise, you know what I mean? They tend to be excessive, and more addiction-prone than any of the other numbers that [inaudible]. Because five has that problem, all the five numbers have that problem, but in 14, it’s pronounced. It’s like someone who tells you, “I only drink on occasion.” “Well, what’s the occasion?” “Well, I happen to have some alcohol around.” It’s like 14s are the fives who get upset when their favorite TV show gets canceled or their favorite snack is out of stock at the store. “What? No Cheetos today. Oh, my, I’m never coming here again!” That’s 14. But at the same time, they’re very flexible and bent on enjoying themselves. They’re good at finding or creating new things. In the past, I’ve called this the rockstar number, because of these rockstars who just start playing these long guitar solos or drum solos, and they just keep going, and going. On top of that, the rockstars have that 14 problem that I’ve spoken up before. Being too loud, liking the party too hard, and doing things over and over again, and getting same results. The 16, now, this one has a core issue that’s kind of complicated. You wouldn’t think about this if you’re just thinking about one and six. But it’s an issue about following your head instead of your heart. It seems to me like people with 16 have strong instincts and intuition, and gut feelings, but they tend to ignore them. Because they believe that just what you see is what you get, or something like that. They’ll have these gut feelings, but they’ll tend to ignore them. When shopping, and ends up having to throw it away, because they find out that it doesn’t live up to its promise. Then they’ll find that they couldn’t get a refund, things like that. You’d go out, you see these shoes, “I love these shoes, these shoes look great,” and the salesman is the perfect salesman for you. In other words, they sell you the shoes, and by the time you’ve worn them the second time, they start coming apart, they hurt your feet, and so on and so forth. This is the 16 issue, people with 16 have to follow their gut feelings. The other issue with 16 is that they feel hurt, they feel really hurt, when other people don’t appreciate their advice, don’t follow it, ignore it completely, and so on and so forth. But, again, they’re very insightful, and have a lot of faith in other people. Even the universe in general, which includes their personal higher powers. But at the same time, latter part of this, being, feeling frustrated when other people don’t appreciate or ignore their advice. The reason I always use that one on 16, is because it’s one and six, which makes a seven. This feeling of frustration, when other people don’t pay attention to them, is something that’s common to both six and seven, and also common to one. They’re all encapsulated in this 16, in this karmic number. The 19 is an interesting one, it’s the tensest core issue. Because of the number itself, you figure one is the beginning, nine is the end, when we’re dealing with the numbers. This is like stretching a rubber band out to its limit, and going, “Oh, crap, what do I do now? Do I let it go? Or which hand do I let go of first? Because it’s going to snap me, whatever I do.” So on and so forth. It’s either going to break or it’s going to snap back. In a stressful situation, people with this achievement number will usually choose the most extreme action that comes to mind. The first thing that comes to mind, and it’s probably going to be the most extreme thing. In other words, the only way to release this tension is to let it go and think it through. Otherwise, it’s going to snap, the rubber band will snap to one end or the other, or cause one to override the balance in thinking that the solution, where the solution of the situation really exists. In other words it’s like where you, if you imagine a sort of a courtroom scene, and there’s somebody there who’s done something bad, not that bad, but just bad. There’s one side of the courtroom yelling, “Kill him! kill him!” The other one is going, “Mercy, let him go, he’ll learn.” This is the dilemma that goes on inside the head of a person with a 19. One teacher I know uses the example of a person who can flip from one minute to the next, from Mother Teresa to Genghis Khan or Hitler. In other words, they want a final solution, but they’re just not sure how to find that balance in making that final solution. It shows up in their everyday lives. A lot of 19’s biggest problem is procrastinating, or trying to figure things out in order to work the best. Because they’re stuck with these two, first thing in the mind solutions, and never get a chance to work their way to the middle. Especially if it’s something that happens fast, like whether or not you sign a contract or something of that nature. Now, the next master number is 22. This number, believe it or not, has an issue with the need for approval. It’s often a problem, more so in their relationships, because they’ve come to expect a positive response to whatever they do. That’s because of the strong sense of mission that comes along with the number, and the sense of charisma. How do I put it? The validation of their own personal influence, and their ability to influence others. When something interferes with that, they get upset. They don’t like to waste time explaining their plans in detail or proving that it’ll work. Because they have an inner sense that it will. A 22 is not a person that you ask, “Well, how’re we going to do that?” A person with the 22 achievement number. This can sometimes be a problem, because they don’t feel like explaining it, and will end up storming out of the door of the business meeting and saying, “Don’t worry about it, I’ll show you how to do it.” Let’s see, it’s like the basic number four that it comes from, they can’t stand the idea of needing the approval of others to do their thing. This can cause a lot of tension, especially during their first pinnacle. Because the first pinnacle is the same thing as the achievement number, gets the same number as the achievement number. It means that this happens a lot. You’ll find a lot of kids with an achievement number of 22, who are sometimes seem like terrors to their parents, simply because they really resent being told what to do. Let’s see, and sometimes they’ll, because of being forced to do something that they don’t want to do, or not being able to do what they want to do. It could bring a lot of procrastination, or it could even abandon some plan of theirs for the future that could bring in all the positive results of the master number 22. You see what I mean? Like a person who runs a major enterprise, or is a tremendous worker for the disadvantaged around the world, or a master politician who people really enjoy and like. Or the owner of dozens of movie theaters, a film director who’s successful. These things are all the kinds of things that 22s can do, because the 22, whatever they do, will affect a lot of people. Now, it also brings us I mentioned charisma, and trustworthiness, people tend to trust people with a 22 achievement number, and persistence. In other words, they won’t give up ever for any reason. They’ll use these abilities to overcome that need for approval and accomplish whatever they want to do. That’s why it’s often called the mastermind. But in the old books, you’ll find something interesting about 22. That’s that they say this person should never get involved in anything like sorcery or black magic, because the 22 was the number that invented that phrase, by any means necessary. [inaudible] achieve their objectives. Just as a person’s a mastermind, I think I’ve even mentioned before on the podcast, they can also be a criminal mastermind, all right? Now 33, its issue is being too sympathetic to others. It usually involves them becoming over involved emotionally with other people’s lives, at the expense of their own happiness and wellbeing. Great spiritual teachers, shining examples of what this achievement number can do. But so are tyrants and warlords, and so on and so forth. In other words, they might for a while, do some great things for their soldiers and their people. But at the same time, because of the rest of the world around them, they’re going to go down in a terrible way. Everything they did ends up being reversed. People with this achievement often get involved in other problems or causes in order to distract themselves from their own inner pain. Which is usually caused by the impossible expectations that they have for people, and for the future, and so on and so forth. It can also be caused by the expectations they have for the way that they’re emotionally entangled with others. In other words, they’re always trying to reach that ideal perfect state. There’s no such thing as perfect. Even more so than the 16, they hate it when their advice is not followed. But at the same time, they’re usually extremely good at teaching, or having the right thing to say at the right time. In other words, this is the number for a person who’s a natural counselor, teacher. It’s very good for doctors, because they have the best bedside manner. In other words, this is a person who always says the right thing to change the mood, uplift it or otherwise, bring things back to where they should be, instead of letting them go off the deep end. Because, see, the unconscious drive of the 33 is the spiritual principle of compassion. In other words, it’s the understanding of the value of life. Most people will interpret that as being, everybody should be happy. It’s everybody should just live, but that’s usually not enough for us in this day and age. So on and so forth. Rose: You’re so right. Now, we’ve heard about the karmic numbers and the master numbers. What about the core issues of the numbers one to nine? Roy: Well, they’re very similar to the ones found in life path or birthday numbers such as, number one, their core issue is self-esteem, either too little or too much. Number two, is usually over-sensitivity, either they’re so oversensitive they can barely talk to people, or completely insensitive, in which way, they just seem to be crude or brutish in their manner. With the three, it’s insecurity, it’s that need for approval is so strong in the three. They always think they could do better or be better, and so on and so. In four, it’s the fear of being over-dependent on other people. This is why fours are so good at figuring out practical things and things to do. Because they don’t want to have to depend on somebody else when the situation gets difficult, and so on. They want to know what to do, as opposed to the three, who wants to know how to be. You see? With the five, the issue is flexibility versus being too rigid or too set in their ways. Either side of that can make for a big problem for them, and they can both make for a big problem for five achievement numbers at the same time. In other words, there’s something that, they get a call at work and find out that there’s something that their friends are doing that they really, really want to do. But then they’ll hold on to this idea that, “No, I have to sit here and finish this job. I’d be failing myself and failing my fellow employees, if I didn’t finish this job.” Then when the time comes, they’ll get up and leave anyway, and they get the problems from both ends. They feel guilty all the way through the party. Then they come into work the next day and find out that there’s a big problem, because they didn’t finish what they were supposed to do. You see what I mean? This is five life. The six, their big issue has to do with responsibility. Either avoiding it, or carrying the responsibilities and duties out at the expense of their happiness and wellbeing. The seven is an issue of a lack of or too much faith. Sometimes it’s an issue about being different. In other words, sometimes the seven is like someone who’s a musician, who spends most of their time at home practicing. Then when they do go out to have a social life, if it’s not among people who pretty much do the same thing that they do, they’ll just feel so different. It’s hard for them to meet new people, and so on and so forth. These are people who bring their work home with them, and carry their work to parties and meetings, and so on and so forth. This is the seven issue. It may also have to do with faith. Person who’s a seven achievement number can often be very, very religious. I don’t just mean a traditional religion, I can also mean spiritual, to the point where it’s overwhelmed their life. On the other hand, a seven could be a total atheist, who doesn’t want anything to do with any new edgy or fluffy stuff, or you believe in what kind of stuff. Seven, as you see, as the numbers get bigger, the issues get better, bigger. The eight, their issue usually has to do with too much focus on things like money, authority, personal power. In other words, there’s either too much focus on the lack of it, or too much focus on protecting it, or too much focus on acquiring the things, these material things. One way or the other, the focus is too strong on one of these issues, or there can be too much focus on one of these aspects of material life. This has to do with their need for security, the eight has a basic need for security and consistency in the things that are going on around them. Nobody gets more upset when their investments drop a little bit than an eight, let’s put it that way. Nobody gets more excited and starts thinking about taking greater risks, when their investments are all going up. It brings up those kinds of issues. The nine has an issue with absorbing the emotional pain of other people. Now, this is important, because what happens with nines is that they tend to be protective by nature. But the way they tend to protect is by either being so compassionate that they are willing to do anything for the person, or by absorbing their own pain and taking it on, internalizing it and start feeling like it’s their problem. They create their own problems, in other words by assuming that, “Oh, yeah, that sounds like me. It must be me.” Plus the nine can take on any of the other eight core issues at any given time. Because nine is supposed to be containing them all. I’ll be talking about this more in the future, because we want to move on and talk about the other interesting aspects of the achievement numbers. Rose: Yes. What else can you tell us about the achievement number, Roy? Roy: Well, this is where it really gets interesting, because of how many ways it functions in a numerology chart. Rose: In what way? Roy: Well, first, the achievement number is the same number of the first pinnacle. In other words, with the four pinnacles, the way you calculate them, the first pinnacle or the pinnacle of attainment is the numerological sum of the month and day. We reduce the achievement number to do this [inaudible]. If it’s one of those 13s or 14s or something like that, we generally reduce it in order to find out what the number is. You add up the month and day, and this is the way you get the number of the first pinnacle, it’s also the way you get the achievement number. The common way to calculate the pinnacles is by reducing first, but if you add together the month and day, it’s easy for the subtotal to come out as one of the karmic or master numbers. This is something that will really give you a lot of juice in the reading. Because say, the first pinnacle is seven, but the achievement number actually turns out to be 16. You can look at that whole area of their life, that whole first portion of their life as being under the number of 16, as opposed to being under the number of the first pinnacle. In other words, by learning to read the achievement number, you’re learning to read what happens during the first pinnacle. Now, the first pinnacle can last anywhere from 27 to 35 years of age. This basically tells the story of the first person, first portion of life. When we get the numbers one through nine through for the pinnacle, that tells us some things. We can see the achievement, its one of the karmic or master numbers, and that’ll tell us more. From there, we can see that by studying the pinnacle and the achievement number together, we can often tell the story of how the experiences of youth develop into the core issues that one will tend to face in life, you see? This is especially true when we look at the formative life path cycle number, because you can compare it to that achievement number or first pinnacle. Or you can use this to be the background of the circumstances in which the productive cycle number, the pinnacle number, and the achievement number experience life. You see, what I mean, in other words, the formative life path cycle, the month number of the birthday, is sort of like the stage, and the pinnacle and the achievement number are sort of like the plot. The plot of the play. This is real numerology by the way, it’s not something that you can easily memorize, and I’ll say that again, it’s not something that you can easily memorize. But once you have the basic principles, you have a lot to say about this. Because it will be easy for you mentally, to say to yourself, “Well, we’ve got the stage, we’ve got the plot, and let’s see what they need for their personal growth and development. What they experienced in their early lives, and where that’s going.” Then you’ve got a little 10 page book out of just the month and day of birth. If you know the whole life path, then you know when the pinnacles change comes. Because the pinnacle, the first pinnacle lasts from, you take 36 and then you subtract the life path number from 36. That’s the year in which the first pinnacle ends. You see. Rose: What … sorry, go on, Roy. Roy: No, no. Really, it’s like a developmental counseling session. Basically [inaudible] becomes, it’s a little book in itself. Rose: I like [inaudible] analogy. What I will say to our listeners, if you are a bit unsure about the pinnacles, Roy and I did a podcast about that, a couple of podcasts ago. I will link that in the show notes here if you want to go and find out a little bit more about the pinnacle numbers. But moving over the achievement number though, what is the second example? Roy: Now, the achievement number is funny, because it has its own response to any sort of challenge, either with its positive traits or through the issues one is working through in life. In other words, if you know the major life challenge, which is operating throughout life, the achievement numbers gives you a powerful way to take it on and grab that challenge bonus. That challenge bonus, as I call it elevates the entire chart, all the numbers in the chart are brought into more positive aspects of their own nature, by when you work with the challenges. Especially when it turns out to be the reduced version of the achievement number. Say someone has an achievement number of 33, and their major life challenges is six. This is an example of that, of how the challenge becomes more important than the life path number itself [inaudible]. The birthday challenge and its gift is pretty much along the same lines, because it’s really powerful for achieving your goals, especially if one of them matches the achievement number. I know one author who read any of the parts of the achievement number in this way to identify this sort of issue. Also, the main challenges, especially the hearts desire and the soul urge challenge, or one of the lesson numbers, the numbers that aren’t strongly represented in the name when it’s converted numerologically. We’ll be covering this subject in depth in the second podcast coming about the expression number. Matching the achievement can have a lot to say of great importance to the person who’s being read that dives into numerology. In other words, outside of all the challenges numbers in the chart, such as life path, the expression, and others, have their own interactions with each achievement number, whether they’re the same or not. In other words, say a person has an achievement number of four, and they have an expression number of three, there’s a certain interaction there that’s unique to the achievement number. Which will have to do with finding the easiest path or solution to any sort of problem that they may be having. As far as self-expression or advancing their own cause is concerned. It’s a very useful number for understanding challenges. Like I said, we’re going to be doing a lot about this in the podcast and in the blog post. Showing number comparisons and how they work, and so on and so forth. The achievement number is basically going to be the star of that particular post. Rose: Absolutely. Sounds like a very interesting number. What about the third and final way, then? Roy: This one’s very easy for beginners to pick up, it’s the best way to start learning the achievement number. Because this is one of the most powerful, quick reading tools in numerology. The focus of this little talk is that the achievement number controls the personal year cycle. This is extremely important to know. If you take any year and add it to your achievement number, the numerological sum is your personal year. We use this all the time, we use it in our … what do we call the report that I write every year? Rose: The prosperity planner? Roy: Prosperity planner, yes, that’s exactly how I do it. I look at the achievement number, and then I can see what the universal year is. This year is 2020, so it’s a universal year four. Compare it to the achievement number and boom, I know what’s going on. Now … excuse me. Now, if a person has an achievement number, a one, it’s a personal year five, because the achievement number plus the universal year number equals the personal year number. Once I know the person’s achievement number, I can talk to them about this year or last year or the year in the future, what they’re planning for next year. “Oh, next year, you’re thinking about moving, aren’t you?” “Oh, my God, yes.” I get that all the time just from comparing the calendar year number to the achievement number. “Oh, last year must have been pretty tough as far as financial matters were concerned.” “Oh, yeah, we had a problem with this and that, and the other.” It’s automatic, it’s almost like cold reading people. But with cold reading, you have to learn a whole bunch of stuff, with the achievement number you don’t. Let’s see, so I can also see the core powers and issues, and whether they’re coming out as they should, under the influence of these other numbers. Now, not only that, not only with the year number, but the month number, which is standardized as one through twelve. In other words, if August is the month that you’re looking at, you add an eight to the year number, which in the case of 2020, would be twelve or three. Then you add the achievement number to it, and you know what the personal month is. You can do the same thing with the day. You add up the day, month and year that you’re looking at, and the numerological sum of that number plus the achievement number gives you the personal day. What could be simpler? Sometimes I’ll take it down to the day, but I rarely do that. I only want to do that when I want to find a day on which something is most likely to happen. In other words, I’ve been talking about to somebody, “Well, so how is your job hunt going?” Or something like that. They tell me, “Well, I’ve got three interviews, I’ve got one on the fifth, one on the ninth, and one on the 17th.” I notice that the month number is extremely good. I’ll say, “The one on the ninth should be good for you.” Usually, I’m right, 99% of the time, I’m right. When I’m wrong, it’s because there’s something I’m not overlooking, I mean, I’m not looking at in your chart. Something having to do with [inaudible]. This is exactly the way we work with this achievement number. Not only that, when we get to the intensity table, we’ll see the intensity of different numbers in the name. We can use those to determine the strength of how accurate this little prediction is going to be. There’s a lot more in the advanced study of numerology that can go into the study of the achievement number. Because anything, anything has a resonance with the achievement number, and it always has an explanation that makes sense. In other words, the achievement number ties together the entire chart from both the predictive and the psychological viewpoint. It ties together the name numbers, and the life path numbers. It may be the most important number to study whenever you’re studying personal numerology. Rose: Wow, now that’s a lot. I’m sure that everyone here in this will want to find out how they can learn more about the achievement number, and what it has to say in their own charts. Have you got any suggestions about how people can learn a bit more? Roy: Yeah, well, there’s some great information about the achievement number in the reports that we currently produce. Especially the prosperity planner, which covers all 12 months of each personal year. From the angle of financial wellbeing mostly. But there’re going to be more ebooks and articles on the achievement number coming from me as we move forward. The various cycles in name numbers are also going to be available as they are put together. As long as you stay tuned to the site, you’ll learn everything there is to know about this achievement number, and you won’t get any numerology like this anywhere else on the planet. Rose: Awesome. What I will say to anybody listening to this, if you are interested in that prosperity planner, it normally comes out every November, but you can only usually get it if you’re on our mailing list. I’m going to put a link in this, in the show notes, so you can get on that mailing list, so you can get the exclusive access to the prosperity planner when it comes out. But until then, thank you, Roy, and we’ll see you next time. Roy: I’ll be glad to be here next time, because let’s see, what’s our next subject [crosstalk]? Rose: I think we’re going to talk about the birthday numbers next time. Roy: Love those. I love those guys. The birthday numbers are a lot of fun because they’re very helpful in understanding the second life path cycle. The cycle of productivity. I’ll look forward to it, and we’re going to have a lot of fun with that. Rose: Absolutely. I can’t wait. All right, Roy, I will speak to you soon. Thank you. Roy: Bye-bye. 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30 minutes | Sep 18, 2020
Episode #31: How To Embrace The Best Version of You! with Amy Ballantyne
Hi Numerologist community, thank you once again for joining me for another episode of the Numerologist Podcast. Today, we’re joined by holistic health and wellness coach, Amy Ballantyne. Amy’s mission is to help busy women reconnect with their joy and adopt a healthier body and mind. Amy wants you to think of her as your health cheerleader and is here to arm you with the tools to empower yourself and live a more balanced and fulfilling life. Now please join me in welcoming, Amy. 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Get Your FREE Numerology Video Report Here: http:/video.numerologist.com Full Transcript Announcer: Welcome to the Numerologist podcast, where we bring you a very special guest every single week to help guide you on your spiritual journey, live with abundance, and inspire your soul. Rose: Welcome, Amy. How are you? Amy: Oh, I’m great. Thank you, Rose. Thanks for having me today. Rose: Thank you so much for joining us. Let’s dive right into it. And who are you and what do you do? Amy: Thank you, Rose. I am a holistic health coach. I call myself your health cheerleader because I believe that all of us need someone in our corner from time to time or all the time sometimes, some might think, but it is important to have those people in our life who can guide us and mentor us and coach us to come up with those things in ourselves. That’s what I am for, individuals who want to take a holistic approach to health. I do have some knowledge and expertise in nutrition, supplementation, but one of the areas that I help my clients a lot actually is around accountability. We know that for longterm sustainable health habits to be created, accountability is a really crucial part of that, and so that’s something that I do for my clients. Additionally, I would say that I do bring in things like meditation, EFT, Reiki, there are so many different ways to help people tap into and work on their limiting beliefs, their mindset. This is all a piece of the puzzle when it comes to our health, right? I really take the personalized approach when it comes to individuals. There are lots of amazing programs out there for people who want a very specific thing like keto or using great programs like Weight Watchers or [nume 00:01:53]. Some people want a little bit more of a personalized approach. They want more accountability, they want that one-on-one connection, and that’s why I’m I do what I do, to help people like that. Rose: Absolutely. Now I noticed on your website, the first thing you come to, it says, “You deserve to feel amazing.” I love that. I think that is so powerful. Can you tell me what that means for you and what that means for your clients? Amy: I deeply believe that every single one of us has this desire from the moment that we come to be here on this earth, that we feel in our body, we feel good, we feel energized, we feel healthy, and that we deserve to have all of those experiences as well. A lot of the women that I work with, mostly women but I have worked with men as well, but some of the women I work with feel that they don’t deserve good health. They don’t deserve that time to themselves. I’m generalizing in a big way, but many women put themselves last. That’s what I was really trying to get across in that message is that every single one of us, every single one of us deserve to feel truly awesome every single day. It may require some shifts in how we live to get to that feeling. It may require some shifts around our mindset and how we speak to ourselves and the way we connect to our own inner beings, but I really, really believe that. I’ve had some really good feedback from clients as well that they also resonate deeply with this concept of deserving, wanting to come to a place of connection with themselves that is more deep. They do feel all the way through themselves that they deserve the time or the energy or whatever the thing is that they’re after, so I’m really happy that you brought that up. Thank you. Rose: I think that word, “deserve,” is so powerful because so many of us think, whether it’s conscious or subconscious, a lot of us put that on ourselves that we don’t deserve things and we don’t deserve to be happy, to be beautiful, to be loved, all of those things. So when clients come to you to actually start feeling amazing and realizing they deserve to feel amazing, do you find that some people have a block to sort of change their mindset, to realize they deserve it before they get there? Amy: Yes, very much. I had one client … man, you just brought this memory up for me, with her. She really, really struggled with that word and I think lots of people do. With coaching … I’m not a therapist, so I don’t go down the path of like what happened in your past. Those kinds of things are meant to be dealt with with therapists and counselors, but if someone decides that they want to make a change in that behavior around this mindset of feeling that they do deserve, understanding they do deserve that, there are some things that we can do. One of the things that I would encourage anyone listening to try is to really become aware of the words that you say in your head or the words you say out loud around that word, “deserve,” and being super aware again and even potentially journaling about what is coming up when you say that word or hear that word, because there is a lot of information in that, that we can use to create a stronger habit around feeling that way. Rose: It’s funny you mentioned awareness because this morning, I was just reading something about the connotations and the vibrations you put into yourself when you either say certain words or think certain things or … words are so powerful, right? Amy: Yes. Yes. Well, even you’re just giving me goosebumps saying that. We do bring so much energy into our own body and out into the world and what are we putting out there with what we’re saying. It does matter. Rose: Absolutely. I’m interested to see why you went down this path. What’s your story? Amy: Well, my story really starts as a young, young child. My mom lost both of her parents when she was a little girl, and when I was growing up, I had my dad’s parents around but I didn’t know these people that she lost. There was this desire to want to be healthy enough, from a young, young age, to be healthy enough that I could know my grandkids and great grandkids because I didn’t have that experience. Even now as I watch my own children with my parents and my husband’s family, there’s such a richness, a deepness to their lives because these people are in their lives. I really do believe that this desire to want to be healthy longterm started with this experience. Yes, like everyone, I’ve made mistakes and I’ve had different ups and downs in my own health, of course, but it’s this longterm deep desire. I’ve had this crazy desire, honestly, to be a rockin’ great-grandma bowling at 90. I want to be that person. I deeply feel, yes, we have genetic predispositions, but the science is showing that how we live right now, the way that we live, the food we put in our body, the way we move our body, the way we think, the way that we treat ourselves, impacts our health longterm. The stress that we’re under, the way that we sleep, how we sleep, it impacts us longterm. Am I perfect? No. Do I still eat chocolate? Absolutely. But I believe deeply in this concept that 80% of the time, I’m going to try my absolute best to be as healthy as possible and the rest of the time, I am focused on not beating myself up around those choices that I am going to have the chocolate, I’m not going to beat myself up over it though. So that’s really where it started. I have come to realize over time that one of the gifts that I have to give others is a deep ability to empathize with the challenges or struggles that they have faced and to bring that loving energy to them when they’re being vulnerable and when they’re sharing the frustrations and challenges that they’ve had. But I also have the energy … I was a cheerleader … the energy to be able to be that accountability partner in a loving, uplifting way, not where the person has another thing beating them up, but they have somebody in their corner truly and that’s really why I do this. Rose: It sounds like you’ve had this calling since, well, like you say, from a such a young age. It’s so powerful to hear you talk about that because it’s almost like this was the path that you were on from minute one and this is, it’s so nice to hear you talk like that. What’s also nice is to hear you kind of practice what you preach because you’re talking about, “I want to be that person. I want to be that person.” You know, you’re not saying, “I want to have this and I want to have that.” There’s nothing wrong with that, but going towards being somebody and that thing, I think that’s really powerful. Is that sort of embodiment of a person or a character somebody wants to be, a character that somebody would want to be, is that something you teach in your practice as well? Amy: Well, I think that it’s a part of it, for sure. Like, who do you want to be longterm? I talk a lot about becoming the best version of yourself. What does that look like? That we are constantly learning, we’re constantly evolving, what are the core values that a person has to start with? And looking at, do those align with who you want to be? If they currently aren’t on your daily agenda … if I wasn’t moving my body and I wasn’t trying to eat pretty healthy and I wasn’t taking supplements and all of these pieces, would I be really able to be that rockin’ great-granny over here many years from now? I don’t know, right? So I think it really is looking at what does that person want to become? Who do they want to live out? Sometimes I think honestly, Rose, that we start off as young people really visioning the life that we want to have. We have these desires to want to go to school, perhaps, or get married or have this life. Then somewhere along the line, we get a little bit sidetracked by all of the chaos of life and for some people, we stop creating that vision. I think that’s one of the things that I’ve done my whole life, is had this vision of who I want to be. I want to do whatever I can to stay as healthy as possible to know my grandchildren and great grandchildren. I desperately want that. I would encourage people to really take a moment and think, what is it that you really want longterm? Sure, it can be a cottage. Sure, it can be a car. Sure, it can be things. But what do you want to be as a human? How do you want these days on this earth to work out? Rose: I think what you said there about … it’s kind of brought them into me. You said when you’re a kid, okay, you go to school, you go to college, you get married, you buy a house. Then what? It’s like these societal norms of they’ve put these steps in for you. So the first part of your life, you’re like, “Okay, well, these are the things I have to do. These are the things I need to be.” Then once you get to the next step, it’s like, “Okay.” Amy: [inaudible 00:12:35]. Rose: Yeah, actually, one thing that was interesting, I noticed on your website, you work with busy mums. So it seems like the societal endpoint, almost, if you will, is how is having children. And then what? Is that sort of, what the mums who come to you, is that how they feel? Amy: Well, lots of moms that I’ve worked with anyways, feel a bit lost. I know that’s part of what helped me kind of move into this work as well, around the coaching, is that we get so focused in on these new humans in our lives that we lose a bit of ourselves. That’s something that I’ve heard from a lot of clients is that they no longer do any of the things that they used to do, that they used to love to do. They feel disconnected from themselves. They take little time for themselves because every ounce of their energy is spent nurturing these new little people in their lives. So we do spend quite a bit of time on connecting with their own person. Separate from their spouse or partner, separate from their children, what did they use to love? What brought them joy? And what new things again do they want to be? What other visions do they have for their life and continuing to try new things, expanding their … Rose: Absolutely. Just a quick tip for any mums or any new mums kind of listening, have you got any tips so they can actually start to take a step forward to becoming the person they want to be? Amy: Well, one of the things, if I was speaking directly to the new mum who’s up in the middle of the night with that baby, either feeding bottle breastfeeding, however that looks, you’re up in the middle of the night, a gift for that new mom is to use that time to actually say something nice to yourself. As you’re sitting in that chair, rocking your little sweetheart and looking at that baby thinking, “Oh my gosh, you’re the most amazing little thing I’ve ever seen in my whole entire world,” so much … the miraculousness of this is incredible … actually take a moment and realize that you are that miraculous being as well, that you were once this small, you once needed this nurturing and love, and you still do. That that’s not over. Rose: Absolutely. That’s so powerful because those moments, and I’m speaking from experience, I’ve got a 10-month-old so … Amy: Oh, you know! Rose: So I know. It’s so powerful because you do get wrapped … you either get wrapped up in love or you get wrapped up in exhaustion or you get, there’s so many emotions that you do. Whatever you’re feeling at that time, you don’t really take the time for yourself. So I think that’s really powerful. And what I like is practical and powerful and simple tips, and that is definitely one. Amy: Yes, yes. Honestly, one of the things that I manifested in my business and in a part of my business happened, truly, I believe because while I was nursing my third baby and I was in there at night, I was visualizing the thing I wanted to create. I was seeing it in my mind so clearly while laying … I had my eyes closed and I was rocking and nursing and I was there, present with maybe, but I was also using that time, if I wasn’t asleep, I was using the time to visualize the, what I wanted to create. The person I wanted to be, the life I wanted to have, the steps that I wanted to take next. There is that opportunity while you’re laying in the chair. Rose: Yeah. The words you just used there, being present. I think that there’s a difference between your mind wandering off and being intentional about visualizing what you want, right? Amy: Yes. Very much. Very, very much. The key, when we’re talking about manifesting or using visualization, I think, is being intentional at saying, “Okay, I’m going to take this time right now and I’m going to really breathe and feel,” into that thing that you’re trying to create. What is the energy, what is the … painting the picture so deeply in your mind. I think that there is an opportunity and I’ve encouraged other mums as well, when they’re in that state where you’re just like, you got to sit there, there’s not much else to do. I’m not bringing my cell phone in to feed the baby in the middle of the night and having a light being bright. I’m going to use this time to … or meditate. A meditation app plugging in during that time, another great option as well. Rose: Actually, let’s talk about meditation because I know you use meditation in your practice too. Can you tell me a bit about that? Amy: If you can’t tell, for the listeners, I’m quite high energy. A couple of years ago, I was encouraged to start doing some meditation practice. So it really started from me needing to be a bit more grounded and have a way to almost balance out my energy, to come back down here. It really, really was very, very important and I think has helped me to grow. I wanted to share this with other people because it made such a difference for me. I had some positive feedback that my energy was really soothing when I’m in that state and my voice was really soothing when I’m in that meditative meditation state. Part of what I offer for my clients is a creation of a custom meditation for them. It looks like very, very specific to the type of visualized place, I bring them into a place that they love so they share with me the words of the place that they love and I create a very, very specific recording around that place that they want to be in in their mind, helping them to get into that picture. But then also, so for an example, like a cottage, let’s just say, a cottage with a blue rocking chair and what is the landscape and I’m painting the picture so they really can get into that place of feeling and being in that moment. They also are sharing with me the words that let’s just say, somebody is working on confidence, for example, and they want to feel more empowered and they want to feel like they can walk into a room and not be afraid. They design the words that they want to have basically spoken to them in that meditation. I can also design the meditation where there’s more quiet space as well, so it can be very, very customed to what they want to listen to during that time. Rose: I think that’s really incredible. It’s all because that personalized approach, there’s no one size fits all when it comes to becoming the person you want to be. Right? So that personalized approach is so powerful. How do you find that people respond to that meditation? Does it really help them on their journey? Amy: Yeah, the clients that have committed to doing it every single day have asked me for another one. That’s how much they like it. And because they’ve had such big shifts in their health, their mindset, their … honestly, overall lifestyle, because when you start to improve your health, you have more energy to do other things and it’s like this beautiful spiral effect. But for these clients, they’re like, “That really made a difference. Can you make me another one, but with these words, because I want to work on this thing next.” Right? For some people, there can be a couple of things that they want to focus on and I like to take the content and make it very focused on one specific area and then we can just create another meditation for that next thing, if needed. Rose: Yeah, and it’s funny you say that as well because I think, and this is under that personal experience thing. Sometimes we want too much, right? Amy: Yes. Rose: Well, when I say too much, I mean too many different things at once. Getting there, and I found in myself, only when I focus on the one thing at one time do I get anywhere. Amy: Yes. [inaudible 00:21:17] create a meditation that says, “You are this, that the other,” but it wouldn’t, I don’t think it would be as effective as honing really deeply on that, you know, if it’s confidence or if it’s weight loss, around loving their body, that kind of thing. Rose: And again, and I say this quite often in podcasts, it’s the small steps, right? Amy: Yes. Rose: Ticking off small parts of that person I want to be, tick, tick, tick, tick, and with whichever characteristic or thinking about that future person you want to tick off at any one time, right? Amy: Yes. I very much love that you said that because I am all about moving the needle forward gradually, small steps. I learned pretty quickly when I started my coaching business that … for the first couple of clients, I made these giant plans. Okay? Like so many things of like, “This is all the stuff we’re going to work on,” and then level of overwhelm was immense. I quickly realized, okay, we really, really need to just focus on one or two things each week. So if somebody wanted to spend more time in meditation saying, okay, this week, the only extra thing on top of all the millions of things you have on your plate is a five-minute meditation or a 10-minute, you choose, but designing it in your life so that you can have a win. So you can have a win instead of a loss, right? A win where you know that you can get that done. So instead of saying, “I’m going to do it five times,” do you really think you can get five times done? Do you really think? Or can you absolutely guarantee 90% certainty that you can get three times in, it’s far more powerful to set that and make sure you have that win on it. Rose: Absolutely. I would say that’s one of the reasons a lot of people don’t actually start on their journey. They get overwhelmed. They think it’s too much to do when realistically, it could just be five minutes a day or half an hour or a week or something like that, right? Amy: Yes. Yes. Starting with one thing. Absolutely. Rose: Absolutely. Now, I just want to move on to the spirituality side of your business. Obviously, with this being a numerology podcast, we’d like to hear about all things spiritual and divination. How do you incorporate spirituality into your practice, if at all? Amy: Yes. Thank you. I grew up learning about spirituality. It’s a place that I feel comfortable. I’ve grown in my practices over the years for my own self. What I would share is I, in my intake with clients, I want to hear from them where they’re at in spirituality. Because for example, I had one client when I asked, “Tell me about your, how spirituality impacts you in your life or how it plays out in your life,” this person, very, very faith-based; goes to church; believes in God; reads the Bible; practices very, very in-depth with that part of her life. And another client when asked the same question was like, “Nope, I’m not interested in talking about that.” So when I, because I create a personalized approach and the conversation, the coaching conversation is tailored to that person, for the client who is very connected to her spirituality and wants to go there, I can be very specific in my question to say, “How did you,” and because she believes in God, I can say, “How did you connect with God this week? What was your,” how did I ask it? “What was your intention? Did you,” she prays, “Did you do your prayers?” Those kinds of conversations, I can hold her accountable to things that are important for her, but I would not say those same kind of things to the other client, because I respect that she, wasn’t interested in talking about that so I don’t even have that as a part of our conversation. Right? I think the key is being with a person where they’re at and helping them move forward. It’s not about me, it’s about that person and how I can serve them best. Rose: Absolutely. I think that’s really important to know. For some people, spirituality is a huge, huge part of their life. Some people it’s not, and that’s okay. Amy: Yes. Yes. It’s interesting too, even talking about meditation, some people feel that is deeply connected to spirituality and some people don’t feel that way. There’s lots of interesting aspects to that as well. Rose: It is so funny you said that because when we were talking about meditation, my segue was almost going to be, “Well, now we’re talking about spirituality,” but you are so right. It’s not spiritual for everybody. For some people it’s that meditative state where they can connect with source or spirit or whatever, for some people it’s that relaxation, and that is the beauty of meditation as well. Right? It’s so many things for so many people. Amy: Yes. It can be so helpful. It’s so great for lowering the cortisol in our bodies. So great. Yes. Rose: Absolutely. Absolutely. Now you also do sort of health checks, free self health test. I got a bit of a tongue twister. I didn’t think that would be. Anyway, can you tell me a bit more about those 30-minute sessions that you run? Amy: Yes. I love that. I call them a discovery call. Much easier. Rose: Much easier to say. Amy: Yes. I love that. So in the discovery call, I offer an opportunity for people to connect with me free for 30 minutes, where we can talk about your health, your health goals, the behaviors that you are interested in changing, and I will share a couple of tips in there. It’s an opportunity for you to get a sense of, am I a person that could be your cheerleader? Could I be a part of your health journey, your mindset journey, creating that healthy lifestyle. It is an opportunity to get some free guidance and support if that’s what people are looking for. Rose: Absolutely. All right. Well, thank you so much for joining me, Amy. It’s been really nice to talk to you. Anybody listening, I will put in the show notes links to Amy’s website so you can check out that discovery call. I’ll call in. And there was one other thing that we were talking … oh, the meditations. I love that. I love the idea of a custom-made meditation. I’ll put all the links in the show notes. Remember, if you want your free numerology report, you can get that in the show notes as well. Bye, Amy. Thank you. Amy: Thank you so much. Announcer: Thank you for listening to the Numerologist podcast. If you loved it, make sure you subscribe and don’t forget to check the show notes for an extra special free gift. The post Episode #31: How To Embrace The Best Version of You! with Amy Ballantyne appeared first on Numerologist.com.