Episode 15: Relations or Relationships
#CoolNerds#15 Best Self: What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s happened to you during a date? The Shits: Relations vs. Relationships Which do you prefer? Relations that turn into relationships Relations at work….no bueno Shit will get you caught up Tell story about couple at Freedom Mortgage if enough time Sawteetie and Quavo Cardi b taking Off-Set back Admitted just to being a crazy bitch and pretty much being messy This happens way too damn much Black on The Block: Iyanla Vanzant From welfare mother to New York Times best-selling author, from the Brooklyn projects to Emmy Award winner, from broken pieces to peace, Iyanla Vanzant is one of the country’s most celebrated writers and public speakers, and she’s among the most influential, socially engaged, and acclaimed spiritual life coaches of our time. A woman of passion, vision, and purpose, Iyanla embodies a no-nonsense approach in her message and teaching style. Outspoken, fiery, transparent, truthful, and wise, she is living testament to the value in life’s valleys and the power of acts of faith. On stage, as she tours the country, Iyanla uses humor and straight talk to deliver her consistent message of love, forgiveness and living your best life. F.S.A: DONT SETTLE ! Cool Nerds Book Club: Mikes Book: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language—quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. The idea is that people express and receive love in different “love languages.” Physical touch, verbal affirmation, gift-giving, acts of service, and quality time. A lot of probl) and the other is looking for love in another language (quality time, physical touch). As a result, the person giving the love feels unappreciated and the person looking for love feels, well, unloved. FE's Book: The Question Behind the Question In John G. Miller’s book QBQ The Question Behind the Question he speaks about what to really ask yourself to eliminate blame, complaining, and procrastination. He discusses how people tend to blame others for personal and professional troubles. Miller believes in personal accountability – taking responsibility for one’s actions, problems, and feelings instead of blaming others. Miller believes in changing the questions we ask ourselves from negative (Why do we have to go through all this change? Or, Who dropped the ball?) to more solution-based “I” questions (What can I do to contribute? Or, How can I help solve the problem?) One of the chapters in QBQ! is called “I Can Only Change Me” and in this chapter Miller reminds us that when dealing lems in relationships occur because one person is giving love in one language (lots of gifts, verbal complimentswith any circumstance the only person that can change is – one’s self. Follow Us: IG: coolnerdspod Facebook: CoolNerds Twitter: coolnerdspod