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Podcast #426 Never Second Guess Yourself Again You can learn how to never second guess yourself again when you learn how to manage the whirlwind of thoughts that swirl through your mind on a daily basis. In this episode of The Confidence podcast, we're talking about Mind Drama, Second-Guessing Yourself and Self-Coaching yourself out of the second-guessing spiral. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:  Why we second-guess ourselves and what it meansThe mind drama that goes on behind the scenes of the second-guessing10 ways to never second guess yourself again (and one mega bonus thought)   THANK YOU: PATRONS   Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast   REVIEW OF THE WEEK:    Highly recommend!!!! 5 Stars v.AlissaI've listened to various podcasts and Ted talks about confidence and mental strength but this is by far the best! Trish's words are encouraging, motivating, and comforting, and if you practice what she teaches you'll realize how real they are. I have become my most confident, authentic self since discovering this podcast and I can't wait to continue my mental healthy journey with Trish as my guide. Keep it up Trish, you are a God send!    SECOND GUESSING YOURSELF + MIND DRAMA   Mind drama: it will always happen, but you don’t always have to get sucked into it.  Second Guessing:Happens when we don't trust ourselves.Happens when we experience the phenomenon of mind drama  What is mind drama:Ping-pong conversations with yourself.The knot of thoughts that you unravel only to find knotted again.Needing to reset your thoughts over and over Mind drama is normal:Managing your mind is part of living a highly effective lifeYou aren't failing if you need to reset and realign your thoughtsIt's normal to need to set your mindWe'll always have resistance pushing in on us  Why We Second-Guess Ourselves in the First Place:We think the mind drama means we're out of controlWe're too attached to old identities (like we don't follow through)We have thorns of perfectionism still clinging to us (the desire for all circumstances to be just right) We care too much what people think   SPONSORSHIP NOTE: BETTERHELP   Is there something interfering with your happiness? Have you been wanting to start counseling, but not know where to look or start?  BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. You get to connect in a safe and private online environment - it's so convenient, and of course confidential. Once you sign up you can start communicating in under 24-hours. Y'all, this isn't self-help, this is professional counseling. What I love about it the most is that you can send a message to your counselor at anytime. You’ll get timely and thoughtful responses plus you can schedule weekly video or phone session.   Betterhelp makes it easy and free to change counselors if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline counseling and financial aid is available. Their licensed professional counselors specialize in depression, anxiety, stress, relationships, sleeping, trauma, anger, family conflict, grief, and self-esteem. I want you to start living a happier life today. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting www.betterhelp.com/confidencepod How to Self-Coach Yourself Through Mind Drama: Make time and create space.Use pen and paper.Talk to yourself out loud.Peel back what you're really thinking and what it meansDetermine what you are believing Create a new dialogue with yourself about being your own coach Go back to an affirmation 10 Ways to Never Second Guess Yourself Again: Rebuild your self-trust.

  PODCAST #425 Why You Never Follow Through And How To Fix It Do you find it hard to show up for yourself? Do you tired of never following through? Why is it that some people can follow through on what they say they want and some people can't? This podcast episode is going to dive into helping you understand why you never follow through and how to fix it. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:  The secret to keeping your promises to yourselfWhy you keep breaking your word and what it's doing to your confidenceHow to really keep your resolutions this year and get massive results    THANK YOU: PATRONS Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast   REVIEW OF THE WEEK Positive & Powerful. Mrs.Schlump If you're wanting to get rid of that voice in your head that's full of self doubt and self hate, start here! Trish gives you the tools to start digging a little deeper.    THE SECRET TO KEEPING YOUR PROMISES TO YOURSELF Self-respect.Self-truthMicro habitsPatience   WHY YOU KEEP BREAKING YOUR WORD: You think it doesn't matter.You think other people are more important to you.You don't believe that what you do will make a difference.You haven't prioritized properly.You aren't training your thoughts and thinking about what you think about.You are obsessed about the "how" instead of being committed to the "what"You are distracted and throwing hours of your time away watching other peoples' lives.You haven't worked your belief deeply enough.You aren't proactively practicing self-trust. You punish yourself for what you're not doing instead of taking note of what you are doing.You are hyper-focused on the finish line.You aren't willing to be bored.You are cycling in compare and despair.You haven't established solid life routines to set yourself up for success. You are putting too much pressure on yourself and have to-do guilt.You chase perfection instead of progression.You're too focused on what people think about you.  References:How to Stop Being a People Pleaser, Episode #421:www.trishblackwell.com/421 Tiny Habits: Small Change that Change Everything, by BJ Fogg https://amzn.to/35asCiyTo-Do Guilt:To reduce guilt and overwhelm, we have to decide what it is that we care about. If you stretch yourself too thin, then you are too thinly caring about too many things. Exhaustion results. The trick is to figure out what you care about and what will help you feel like you're moving forward, not being busy. How do we do this? By identifying 2-3 things daily - either in work or in what you do in your home - that feels satisfying.    HOW TO REALLY KEEP YOUR RESOLUTIONS THIS YEAR Focus on tiny habits.Really know why you want to change.Believe that change is possible.Get ready to embrace boredom.Think of yourself as your future self-concept.Put a line in the sand for who you used to be with follow through.Get a coach.Surround yourself with other committed people.Take responsibility for your results and happiness.Get serious about how you think.Use powerful affirmations.Speak life over yousrself  Bonus Resources for Affirmations:YouTube Video: Podcast Episode:Downloadable PDF and MP3:  We have a new course soon releasing the College of Confidence on how to customize and curate powerful affirmations on your own. You don't want to miss this course, which will be exclusively available to College of Confidence students. Not yet a student? Click here (www.collegefoconfidence.com) to get started.  Resources:Podcast #347 Consistency is Key and Habits that Will Change Everything for Youwww.trishblackwell.com/347   ANNOUNCEMENTS: Want more results,

  How To Think Like a Happy Person   PODCAST #424   Everyone wants to know how to come alive and how to be happy, but so few people figure out how to do either. Your vibrancy, your happiness and your success are all contingent on how you think. Learn 10 ways to bring more life to your life and the foundational basis on how to think as a happy person in 2021. This is going to be the year that your confidence doubles, so let's get started!  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:  How to Choose Life in Your Life, and How Choosing Life Will Help Others Come Alive TooThe Real Way to Double Your Happiness This Year; 10 ways to be happier in 2021How to Think Like a Happy PersonAn Invitation to Double Your Confidence in the Next 100 Days   THANK YOU: PATRONS   Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast Ya'll, we hit #69 on the Top 100 iTunes Charts for Personal Development! Thank you!!!    REVIEW OF THE WEEK Amazing. 5-Stars. Syd-pink I've been listening to this podcast everyday for about a month now and it has already helped me grow so much. I started listening to Trish when I really took a look at my life and realized that I lacked the confidence and security within myself that I needed and wanted so badly. I will continue to make this podcast a part of my daily routine and I'm excited for the incredible journey that I am on.    COME ALIVE. DECIDE AND DO THESE STEPS: Take life so others take life Prenez vie, prenez vie, que les os prennent vie Prenez vie, prenez vie, que les os prennent vie Éveillez-vous À Sa lumière  Prenez vie, prenez vie  Je vais chanter aux os secs Jusqu’à ce qu’ils vivent à nouveau Et que les vallées fleurissent Comme une rose au soleil  Come alive, come alive, come alive dry bones Come alive, come alive, come alive dry bones Awake, arise Inhale the light Come alive, come alive I'm gonna sing to you dry bones Until you're covered in life And the valleys bloom Like a rosebud in the light   HOW TO COME ALIVE Be yourself.Focus your energy on good things.Build your self-concept with affirmations.Let your brain breath with effective journaling.Release yourself from perfection and pursue the processFind joy in every dayGround yourself in gratitudeSee yourself through God's eyesStop punishing yourselfThink bigger than you're comfortable doing - be courageous with your feelings   HOW TO DOUBLE YOUR HAPPINESS Happiness is a thought, not a feeling.It is free from circumstances - it starts with a decision.I choose to be happy.I am responsible for my happiness.No one else can make me happy.   HOW TO THINK LIKE A HAPPY PERSON Take responsibility for your thoughts.Know that your happiness is not connected to your circumstances.Do things that create beauty in your life.Create an atmosphere of gratitude and flexible perspective.Have purpose, know who you are and what you want Be okay with some mind dramaExpect good things to happen and trust GodLook for the good in all thingsLive a simple life - reduced input, reduced gossip, reduced worrySurround yourself with good people    THE 100 CONFIDENT DAY CHALLENGE Will you join us!?   What's the goal of the challenge? We have two goals. #1: To build your consistency and self-trust and #2: To double your confidence. The challenge will show you just how much can change when you show up daily for yourself and you train your confidence intentionally. To get in on the Challenge just enroll in the College of Confidence at www.collegeofconfidence.com   Thoughts To Journal: What does coming alive look like in your life?

    Words To Create A Beautiful Year     PODCAST #423 - BONUS EPISODE   This is a special bonus episode brought to you by the College of Confidence. We are the most encouraging place on the internet - and the joy and support just overflows. I couldn't help but give you a good Word to fill you this January first. Today is a day of possibilities. Today is a day to reconsider your self-concept. Today is a day to step into who you are becoming. It is my passion to help set people free from self-doubt, small-thinking and self-sabotage - press in this year and possess this promised land of confidence and joy, peace and goodness for yourself.     We're launching the #100ConfidentDays Challenge in the College of Confidence     Confidence is birthed and strengthened from action, not from feelings.  You won't wait to feel confident to take action - you take action and then you'll feel confident. The challenge will show you just how much can change when you show up daily for yourself and you train your confidence intentionally. The goal is that by day #100 you will see that you confidence has doubled.      Join the College of Confidence to join the #100ConfidentDays Challenge here ---> www.collegeofconfidence.com     So, my gift to you is a 5-minute meditation with me - this is what I listen to every morning, and I invite you to save the episode for yourself to do the same. Stand firm in the truth - for the fight for your faith --- which happens in the battlefield of your mind --- is the most important fight you will fight every single day. These affirmations will help. Get the meditation MP3 and full workbook at www.trishblackwell.com/meditations Watch the longer meditations video on YouTube at https://youtu.be/HdFAdZh6Nck  

  What Will "They" Say?   PODCAST #423   What will "they" say is often part of the internal self-talk that can keep you sidelined from your dreams. This podcast episode explores who "they" are and how to get their voices to quiet down and even go to "mute" so that you can get on with your life and go do big things. It's time to stop caring so much about what "they" think and this podcast pep-talk will super-fuel you to take massive action and to go be audaciously bold. Get the full show notes at ww.trishblackwell.com/423In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: What "they" voices are holding you back in life?What is it that you are so afraid they will say?What happens if you quit or if you stick to something with fierce determination? How to know which to do and how to make sure you quit the right things in 2021 and stick to the things you really want.    REVIEW OF THE WEEK   I have always struggled with my body image. Now I have a beautiful daughter I am so scared that if she grows up having a mom with poor confidence, that she may never see her own beauty. I went on a search for a positive message and found this podcast. I started from the oldest episode I could scroll back to and it took me exactly where I needed to be! I am a first time mom to a beautiful one year old baby girl, which is exactly where Trish was in 2016.  I was thrilled to find out that Trish was also a faith based woman and love that she shares her walk with Christ. Since I have started listening on my way to work everyday I have also purchased her book Insecurity Detox. I love starting and ending my day with Trish's positivity and truth. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, you are truly an inspiration. -Kim Todd God's Perfect Timing. KimBTodd.   THANK YOU: PATRONS   Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast   What "They" Say About Me?   First off, who is "they"? An elusive group of people that you can't nameA large category of people that intimate youA small group of specific friends / bullies from 10 years agoA collection of your own thoughts of self-doubt, small-thinking and shame Are they really even talking about you? Are you going to give them the right to reign in your life? And, if they even do say something - so what.  Do you want to live cautiously or courageously? Do you want to make an impact or protect yourself? Do you want to come alive or do you want to live half-heartedly? Prenez vie, prenez vie.    Feeling and Failing - The Two Things To Go After   If you're good at feeling, you'll stop self-sabotaging. If you're good at failing, you'll stop procrastinating. Feeling will give you resilience and self-awareness. Your increased awareness will give you higher quality thoughts and a better self-concept, enabling you to see yourself capable of things far beyond your previous emotional intelligence. Failing will give you courage, perseverance and a stick-to-it-ness / scrappiness that results in the confidence that there is truly nothing that can stand between you and the results you want in life.    When Quitting Is Good   -Stopping something is powerful, not always weak -Have the courage to do what is right for you - to pivot -Break up with past behaviors    How To Stick To What You Want   Increase self-trustHave a higher standard of integrity (keeping your word to yourself)Start telling a different narrative about what "they" sayPut more value on what "you" say and what you wantStop worrying about how you look doing it and just do it    ANNOUNCEMENTS:   Want more results,

    How to win Against Imposter Syndrome   PODCAST #422     Imposter Syndrome is an expression of insecurity in which we are so preoccupied by what people think of us that we feel like frauds doing what we are doing. Imposter syndrome consumes you with self-doubt, overthinking and feelings of being unqualified. Often people who struggle with this put a tremendous amount of pressure on themselves and are always looking for external affirmation or qualifications to provide internal validation. This episode explores the Imposter Syndrome internal voice and teaches you how to start evicting it from your self-talk. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/422   In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:  It's your thoughts that make you feel like an impostor, so breaking the syndrome is less about making you feel more qualified and more about thinking better quality thoughts. Why caring too much what people think is what is making you feel so insecure and struggle with all of the overthinking you're doing about impostor syndrome3 simple things I do to fight off impostor syndrome that really work      REVIEW OF THE WEEK   Invaluable Tool for your Toolbox EMJEssentials I'd heard about the podcast for a year years but it wasn't until a few weeks ago when I made time to listen. Wow- blown away! Trish almost always addresses the very things I’m wrestling with and uses the words and concepts that have made changes in my thoughts. I took time to join the College of Confidence and have been encouraged in my personal struggles and professional challenges by Trish and that community. We all need a toolbox to get through this life - this podcast is that really awesome multi-tool that addresses so many problems we contend with privately and publicly. Thanks, Trish for sharing your gifts!      THANK YOU: PATRONS   Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you.   Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast   Better Quality Thoughts, Better Quality of Confidence   Planning for the new year - your thoughts are everything. It's time to start trusting the thoughts you choose to think on. The quality of your thoughts determines the quality of your life.  Go deeper on how to change how you think by listening to episode #420, How to Change the Way You Think(www.trishblackwell.com/420) or by enrolling in my online group coaching program The College of Confidence. (www.collegeofconfidence.com)   Quotes on Thoughts   “If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” Anonymous“Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness.” Anonymous“We are a product of our thoughts.” Scottie Waves“Thoughts have energy. Make sure your thoughts are positive and powerful.” Anonymous“Thoughts become things.” Mike Dooley"Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.” Benjamin Disraeli“You only have control over three things in your life, the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.” Jack Canfield“Your life is a reflection of your thoughts.” Anonymous“You are not a helpless victim of your own thoughts, but rather a master of your mind.” Louise Hay   SPONSORSHIP NOTE: BETTERHELP   Is there something interfering with your happiness? Have you been wanting to start counseling, but not know where to look or start?  BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. You get to connect in a safe and private online environment - it's so convenient, and of course confidential. Once you sign up you can start communicating in under 24-hours. Y'all,

  27 Ways To Stop Being a People Pleaser   PODCAST #421   Trying to please others puts you on a hamster wheel of inadequacy, powerlessness and in insecurity. People pleasing makes us co-dependent and cautious with how we appear to others. It makes us addicts to caring what people think and keeps us stuck in a life of stagnant averageness - average happiness, average success, average relationships. You were made for more. This podcast episode will give you 27 ways to confidently start breaking the chains of people pleasing that is holding you back from all that God has for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/421 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: What is people pleasing, and are you doing it?Why is people pleasing toxic anyways?20 ways to stop being a people pleaser   Hello! 5-Stars, by Cocoa282133   Hey Trish! My name is Courtney. I just wanted to let you know, you've made a difference in my life. My life has been a roller coaster. I was a single mom at the age of just 16. I was married by 21. Divorced by 24. I didn't have ANY confidence in myself at that point in my life. One day I was searching podcasts and I feel like God led me to yours. When I say your podcast has CHANGED my life, I truly mean it. It's been really hard to date someone after being cheated on the whole time in my marriage. I had a lot of trust issues and just insecurities. Your podcast has helped me so much more than I could ever thank you for. God bless.      YOUTUBE, COME BE FRIENDS   Hang out with me on YouTube at www.youtube.com/trishblackwell. Recent videos released include: How to Use Radical Gratitude to Alleviate Anxiety Reduce Your Unhappiness at Work Create an Effective Journaling Habit Believing that You Actually Can How to Detox Your Mind Strengthening Your Self-Esteem Break Up with People Pleasing   THANK YOU: PATRONS   Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast   WHAT IS PEOPLE PLEASING AND ARE YOU ONE?   People pleasing goes beyond simple kindness. It's based off a low opinion of yourself.  It's a need for others to like you. It's hard for you to say no.You over-apologize, for everything.You're quick to agree and agreeability is a value. You struggle with authenticity. You're an over-giver.You don’t have any free time - because you give all of yours away.    WHY IS PEOPLE PLEASING TOXIC?   Because it's rooted in caring too much what people think. It's a belief system that thinks - if I can just make people happy, then I will be happy because I will belong, I will be important and I will be enough. It makes our happiness contingent on someone else's happiness. We become victims to other people's whims and decisions.  (Need more coaching on letting go of what people think? Check out episodes #419 and #187 of The Confidence Podcast.) Negative Emotional Results Experienced:  -frustration and resentment -feel taken advantage of  -relationships that don't satisfy -stress and burnout -identity of worthlessness or contingent on results/achievement -fear of being left out or not belonging  -past trauma Rooted in Origins Of: -self-esteem issues -fear of rejection -false control focus -damaged self-concept -misplaced belonging   SPONSORSHIP NOTE: BETTERHELP   Is there something interfering with your happiness? Have you been wanting to start counseling, but not know where to look or start?  BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. You get to connect in a safe and private online environment - it's so convenien...

  How to Change the Way You Think PODCAST #420 You don't have to think the way you have always thought. In fact, our brains are wired to change and think differently when the right neurological strategies are applied. This podcast episode will help you intentionally think about how to change the way you think. No longer will you feel stuck in old thought patterns once you know how to intentionally change the way you think and train your thoughts. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/420 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: Why we get stuck in old thinking patternsThe differences between positive thinking and powerful thinkingHow to start changing the way you think   REVIEW OF THE EPISODE: Love this podcast! 5-Stars. Willow_Lee I began listening to The Confidence Podcast earlier this year and am incredibly grateful for the joy, peace and confidence I feel after listening to each podcast. Trish, you are a rockstar of an encourager and this world is lucky to have your passion and wisdom pouring into it. The way you guide using God's Word is incredibly refreshing and uplifting. Even in the short months since I discovered your podcast, you have taught me to better love myself and to show up for myself and all that God has planned for me. Trish, thank you for leading by example, for showing up, and for using your talents and experience to lift others up with you. Hang out with me on YouTube at www.youtube.com/trishblackwell. Recent videos released include: How to Use Radical Gratitude to Alleviate Anxiety Reduce Your Unhappiness at Work Create an Effective Journaling Habit Believing that You Actually Can How to Detox Your Mind Strengthening Your Self-Esteem Break Up with People Pleasing   THANK YOU: PATRONS Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast   WHY WE GET STUCK IN OLD THINKING PATTERNS We haven't considered another way. We think changing is too hard, or won't work. We don't know other people who have transformed. We are stuck in distraction and stagnancy. We haven't been challenged to rise to living life to the fullest. We are intimidated by the emotions surrounding thinking. We have self-identified as a hot-mess or a sub-standard self-concept. We have a disorganized life, and therefore a disorganized mind.  I will have to give an account for my life - and for my stewardship of what I have been given or what has been within my control. This inspires me and challenges me.  Old thinking - and an attachment to old thinking ("this is just how I think," "this is just how I have always been," "this is just what everyone I know thinks") - is rooted in a pattern that once kept us protected.  But what once protected us temporarily can harm us long-term and keep us from our potential. These concepts grow mold and layers of dust telling us messages of >worthlessness  >lack  >overwhelm >powerlessness >averageness  To start this process, we first must come courageously face to face with our emotions and let ourselves FEEL. The Feeling Tunnel  start, middle and end of feeling.  Feel whatever it is, and then move past it - telling yourself what you are in agreement with and what you are committed to making happen.    THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN POSITIVE THINKING AND POWERFUL THINKING I don't want you to be a positive thinker, I want you to be a powerful thinker. Mindset Mantra: I am more than just a positive thinker, I am a powerful thinker. Journaling Prompts for Powerful Thinking: The more I become aware of my thoughts, the more power I have over them.

    How to Stop Caring What People Think - 2020 Update PODCAST #419 The courage to be disliked is a mark of confidence. When you learn to stop caring what people think, you will unleash your fullest potential. Thankfully, this year has given us an unique perspective on how to stop caring what people think.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: How to leverage what 2020 has given us to help you unshackle yourself from the chains of caring too much what people thinkDangerous pitfalls of 2020 that could drive you into caring too much what people think if you aren't careful How becoming a "powerful thinker" can change everything for you in this area of personal struggle in your life.   THANK YOU: PATRONS   Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast We have 22 exclusive podcast episodes there, and more coming, just for this select group.    SPONSORSHIP NOTE: Is there something interfering with your happiness? Have you been wanting to start counseling, but not know where to look or start?  BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist. You get to connect in a safe and private online environment - it's so convenient, and of course confidential. Once you sign up you can start communicating in under 24-hours. Y'all, this isn't self-help, this is professional counseling. What I love about it the most is that you can send a message to your counselor at anytime. You’ll get timely and thoughtful responses plus you can schedule weekly video or phone session.   Betterhelp makes it easy and free to change counselors if needed. It’s more affordable than traditional offline counseling and financial aid is available.Their licensed professional counselors specialize in depression, anxiety, stress, relationships, sleeping, trauma, anger, family conflict, grief, and self-esteem. I want you to start living a happier life today. As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp dot com slash confidencepodwww.betterhelp.com/confidencepod Join over 1 million people taking charge of their mental health. Again, that’s BetterHelp (h – e – l – p) dot com slash confidencepod   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Love this podcast, 5 stars, by Nelli999 I listened to Trish about 6 years ago and loved her podcast and used a lot of what she said into my life and it changed for the better. I haven't listened to her in the past 3 years and finally came back to get confidence in myself again. A year ago I quit my high paying job because it was toxic to me and I was very happy to quit there. At that time I didn't know it would take me a year later to get a job. It's been a hard year interviewing having them tell you we like you, but you don't have a degree, or we are going to hire someone with no experience. Makes you feel like crap. Finally landed a job that I didn't think I would get because I didn't have the experience but told them I would do anything and work up in the company. I have learned so much at this job and it was a blessing that I got it. Anyways. My confidence was way down. Just listening to Trish in the past month has changed my confidence for the better. I have a lot of episodes to get caught up on but I am glad I am back. Thank you Trish.    HOW TO USE 2020 TO YOUR CONFIDENCE ADVANTAGE   2020 is a year of division, cancel-culture and polarity. If you can walk through this year and still think that you have control over what people think or that you can sway or convince people to like you, then you haven't been paying attention.  Give yourself a freedom pass to be okay not being liked.

  How to Figure Out What You Want PODCAST #418 If you don't know how to figure out what you want, then you'll find yourself drifting through life instead of designing your dream life. This podcast episode will help you figure out what you know, know how to take that idea and progress it into a dream, and then how to take that dream and turn it into a tangible, actionable goal. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/418 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: What's the difference between goals and dreams? And how about ideas? Why are we afraid to dream?How do you take your dream and turn it into a goal?    THANK YOU: PATRONS   Just some special love and deep gratitude your way for how you support the show. You are a small and mighty group and each and every one of your contributions feels like a big, warm, wiggle hug. Thank you. Want to be part of the people who help keep this show going? Consider becoming a patron. Just go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast We have 22 exclusive podcast episodes there, and more coming, just for this select group.    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:  Confidence After Abandonment, by Rachel_Noah88, 5 Stars This podcast is exactly what I needed. When my childhood "best friends" began to ignore me and exclude me from gatherings without explanation, I fell into a very dark place. I began to blame myself for the loss of the relationships and I obsessively replayed every interaction I had with them, over the 20 year period, over and over in my mind. I not only lost all my confidence, but I became very insecure. It caused me to lose all my trust in my other healthy relationships in my life and I began to hurt those that loved me most. Then, I found Trish. Trish's encouraging spirit is beyond inspiring, and I love her ability to relate life situations to the word of God. She allowed me to gain confidence in my body image, my career, and most importantly, myself and my relationships with others. I would love to hear more on "how to be confident after abandonment," because although therapy and Trish have helped me a lot, I still have a long way to go. Love you, Trish!    WHAT INSPIRED THIS ON MY HEART:    And idea is where we all start. But to take it to a dream, means we have to believe in it. Then, to next level the dream to actualization of it, goals need to be put into place. My job as a coach is to call you up to your highest self. It is to tell you the truth and show you were you aren't being specific. When we aren't specific, we will wander. When we wander, we will get mediocre results and experiences. Your Belief System matters. Do you belief that you were created for more? All Beliefs Create (ABC) something. Believe that you matter. Believe that you have purpose. Believe that you can awaken passion. Believe that you can be adventurous as you chase what you want.  If you don't know what you want, you won't know what to go after - and you'll live a life of average drabness.  You were made for more.  ---- > the number of people who come to me and simply don't know what they want or what they are passionate about is astounding. Do not be discouraged if you find yourself in this category --- culture has taught us to follow the check-boxes. It's time to stop drifting and to start taking control of what you are willing to dream and design for your life.    WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DREAMS AND GOALS?  Goals are something you are acting on. Dreams are something you are just thinking about.  Goals have deadlines. Dreams are loosy goosey.  Goals have a cost. Dreams are free. Goals produce results. Dreams don't.  Goals can change your life. Dreams can inspire you.  Goals have a focus. Dreams don't.  Dreams can inspire you, but goals can change your life. Goals do come true.  Ideas?

  How to Give Girls Confidence   PODCAST #417   Confidence opens opportunities in life. It helps potential flourish, and it enables activation of one's dreams. Being able to give confidence to others isn't found in just building people up, it happens by teaching the basics of confidence.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: How to Give Girls Confidence Teaching confidence to others, even if you don't quite feel ready yourselfThe 5 stages of confidence - and where you are in the stages3 simple ways to start giving the girls in your life the base tools to be confident   ANNOUNCEMENT:   Snap! Did you know you can now find me as a Flash Briefing on Alexa!?! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/alexa to enable the skill!    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:   Awesome Podcast! 5 Stars. Clarisse Gomez Trish, host of the Confidence Podcast, highlights all aspects of self-help and more in this can't miss podcast! The host and expert guests offer insightful advice and information that is helpful to anyone that listens!    TEACHING AND GIVING CONFIDENCE TO GIRLS (& TO OTHERS), EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL CONFIDENT ENOUGH YOURSELF   Teaching forces you to do. Remember, to teach anyone anything, you just need to be one step ahead of them.Sometimes, having to act as a leader in this area will help you connect your HEAD > HEART > HANDS Doing creates mastering.    THE 5 STAGES OF CONFIDENCE Be someone with clear priorities.Be someone who thinks powerful thoughts.Be someone who keeps their word to themselves.Be someone who is healthy and happy.Be someone growing and contributing. To learn more about The 5 Stages of Confidence, sign up for my free masterclass at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass   3 SIMPLE WAYS TO GIVE GIRLS THE BASE FOUNDATION OF CONFIDENCE Be Yourself.Be Brave.Be Vocal.  Be Yourself. -Be aware of wins (little things done well over time create confidence) Be Brave. -Take action. -Be okay not being the best (life isn't a competition) -Try new things and embrace progression not perfection -Normalize being scared or nervous Being Vocal. -Speak loudly -Seek to understand what you feel -Spend time journaling -Support others with compliments   ANNOUNCEMENTS: I can't thank you enough- please keep sharing! And, if you love the encouragement you find here, don't forget, I'm now showing up weekly on Thursdays on YouTube. And I’m just a baby-YouTuber, sooooo I need your support and your help. Click here to subscribe and encourage me on my YouTube channel  ---> www.trishblackwell.com/youtube If you want more calm in your life, you need to cultivate it and create it. As the holidays approach that's exactly what we'll be doing as a community in the College of Confidence. Come join us now and get in on all of the live coaching we're doing this month … including a no-holiday-drama anti-stress coaching session. Yep. You want in on this. To enroll just go to www.collegeofconfidence.com   LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:  Laureine90 Hi Trish, thank you for getting me through a tough week at work. Your calming voice and broken down into digestible step approach is so refreshing! I've struggled with confidence my whole life! I've gotten promoted three times in the last 7 years and constantly think I don't deserve it. I'm excited to learn and grow as I start getting more and more immersed in your podcasts. I listen to them while driving to my appointments for work. They give me the strength to get out of the car sometimes. Thank you for being incredible. -Lauren 

  How to Stop Feeling Like You Have So Much to Do PODCAST #416 Do you always feel like you have so much to do? Are you living in a state of exhaustion, overwhelm, and feeling like you can never quite catch up? Y'all, this is the state of the world right now - and it's killing our spirits and squashing our confidence and courage without us realizing what's happening. You are doing better than you think you are, and this podcast coaching session is going to help you learn how to change what you say to yourself so that you feel empowered and unstoppable, not defeated and discouraged.  Ya'll. Can we talk about being more calm? I don't know about you, but I want to live at the pace of Jesus. I want a slow, beautiful, cultivated life. Not a chaotic, frantic, fly-by-the-seat of my pants kind of life. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about: What saying "I have so much to do" is actually doing to your heartWhat to say back to yourself when you hear yourself say "I have so much to do"What you can do now to start radically changing how you feel (10 things you can do!) Snap! Did you know you can now find me as a Flash Briefing on Alexa!?! Go to www.trishblackwell.com/alexa to enable the skill!  Thank you! Seriously! We just ranked #76 for Self-Improvement Podcasts in all of iTunes in the United States. You have helped this happen - helping more people find this free, encouraging coaching by --> Sharing with a friend --> Sharing on social media --> Writing a review --> Becoming a patron I can't thank you enough- please keep sharing! And, if you love the encouragement you find here, don't forget, I'm now showing up weekly on Thursdays on YouTube. And I’m just a baby-YouTuber, sooooo I need your support and your help. Click here to subscribe and encourage me on my YouTube channel  ---> www.trishblackwell.com/youtube   REVIEW OF THE WEEK   I listen to this podcast every morning while I get ready for work. It really sets the tone for the rest of my day and makes me feel unstoppable! Trish has inspired me with so much, most recently being my eBook I published on Amazon, The Legend of Ollie Daniels. Thank you Trish!  -Cfhved113   WHAT SAYING "I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO" IS ACTUALLY DOING TO YOUR HEART   “I have so much to do” = victim minded statement It preemptively creates defeat, and overwhelm.It talks about your mountain, instead of talking to your mountain.It creates competing demands, exhausts you mentally and emotionally and emphasizes scarcity in your life. It makes you feel stretched thin and without power.   Realize that it's not the task or the list that you're avoiding, it's the uncomfortable feelings that come from it. Or, it's the missing motivation to do what you technically want to do. Don't wait for the motivation - do the thing and the motivation will come.  Fundamentally, having too much to do crushes your spirit and makes you feel a sense of pointlessness.    WHAT TO SAY BACK TO YOURSELF WHEN YOU HEAR YOURSELF SAY: "I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO" Mountain, move. Mountain, I've got you. Trish, just do the next right thing. Trish, create a small win. I am confident, courageous and capable. I can do hard things. I will create order and take action. I am a doer and I am not intimidated by what is ahead. My job is to be faithful to what I can do, and to release what I can't.  My job today is to learn, to love, and to live well. My job is to work hard and work hard to rest well.    WHAT YOU CAN DO NOW TO START RADICALLY CHANGING HOW YOU FEEL Stop expecting yourself to be able to do it all right nowPick a high impact task to start focusing onKnow which glasses are glass and which ones are rubberWatch your wordsRemind yourself that you can do hard thingsRest in knowing that you will have the strength you need for tomorrow tomorrow - and so you can stay intentionally at peace to...

  How to Exchange Your Anxious Heart for a Peaceful Heart PODCAST #415 Anxiety, or overwhelm, can make your spirit feel crushed, and your life feel stuck. I know, I've lived that life. In this podcast episode we are going to pull back the curtain on what living with anxiety looks like and talk about some effective ways to help alleviate and manage the anxiety on a daily basis that has worked for me and for my students. God invites us into a life of peace - and He can take our anxious heart and exchange it for one that is peace-filled. Let's talk about how we can step into that together in this conversation. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/415 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: My anxiety story - something I've never really shared beforeThe differences between what anxiety says and what peace says5 effective daily habits that have helped my anxiety  REVIEW OF THE WEEK: StrengthSeeker, 5 stars Trish - I truly feel that God led me to discover your podcast and your virtual friendship! In June I was struggling in a 25-year marriage to the father of our four kids. I couldn’t find the strength to make a change that could deeply impact our whole family. I also had a boss who had started marginalizing and demeaning me daily in my already stressful career. Between work and home life I felt like I was getting beaten down 24/7. It was exhausting and it was breaking me. Even thought I have strong spiritual life and great group of Christian friends I needed a cheerleader. I needed confidence. I "randomly" discovered your coaching and it was exactly what I needed. The first episode I listened to was "How to Have Difficult Conversations" and I was hooked. I was able to work with my husband to decide that divorce was the best thing for our whole family. We're in the thick of the process now and your weekly pep talks are getting me through. I love the way you blend faith-based statements with real life relevance. I especially like the way you provide a number of tips or steps to accent your coaching message. For busy women like me I find myself replaying those tips constantly. When I wake up on Tuesdays I’m always more energized - it's Trish Day! I listen to you on my commute into work and it sets the course for the rest of the week. Thank you for cheering me on! You are amazing.   BONUS PODCAST EPISODES - EXCLUSIVELY AVAILABLE FOR OUR PATRONS.   Accessing the Power of Confidence Straighten Your Crown, Child of GodHaving Confidence Talking to God and Reading His WordGetting Rid of GrumblingTrusting God to ProvideFinding Confidence in What God Says About You Not a patron yet? You can support the show - and get 2 bonus monthly podcasts per month, for just $5.  Get started at https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast?fan_landing=true   Quotes on Anxiety: I just give myself permission to suck…I find this hugely liberating. -John Green No need to hurry. No need to sparkle. No need to be anyone but oneself. -Virginia Woolf “Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. Nothing is that important.” —Natalie Goldberg “Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength.” —Charles Spurgeon “Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.” —Arthur Somers Roche “Just when the caterpillar thought the world was ending, he turned into a butterfly.” —Anonymous proverb “Do what you can, with what you’ve got, where you are.” —Theodore Roosevelt “Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.” —Jodi Picoult “Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.” —Anonymous “People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them...

    The Phrase that Confident People Use Most  PODCAST #414 There's a powerful phrase that confident people use that will open doors of opportunity, unleash your courage and up-level your resilience. The phrase sounds flippant, and simple, but that's exactly why it's so powerful. In fact, this phrase will help you stay present - not in the past and not in the future - for that is where the power for your confidence is most accessible. Let's dive into the phrase that confident people use the most. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: The Phrase that Confident People Use MostHow to use it for yourself effectivelyInner self-talk to help you take action on anything, face any fear or rejection, and to build resilience    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:   God-fidence. 5-Stars, by kjenison Trish, your podcast is one that I listen to and immediately feel peace like a good therapy session. I am inspired to show up just as I am and take chances just hearing all the struggles and thoughts you have that mirror what I feel. Your vulnerability is inspiring! Thank yo ufor going first and revealing God through your words!    THE 5 STAGES OF CONFIDENCE   Be someone with clear priorities.Be someone who thinks powerful thoughts.Be someone who keeps their word to themselves.Be someone who is healthy and happy.Be someone growing and contributing.   INVITATION: Look, if you want to like yourself, give yourself and edge of confidence by understanding where you are in the 5 Stages of Confidence. If you've never heard my coaching on this before, now's the time to jump in. I'm re-offering my 5-star rated webinar on How to Have More Confidence. In it you'll learn the 5 Stages of Confidence, the Confidence Formula, and how to get from one stage of confidence to the next. Sign up for free at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass THE PHRASE CONFIDENT PEOPLE USE MOST "Well, anyways…" As one of the most powerful statements help you move forward and just keep going.  What does it help? It helps you to…. -move on when you feel uncomfortable -accept rejection and move forward  -let go of the past  -not obsess about the future or outcome -be okay being radically yourself and not worrying about other people liking you It roots our feet to the present.  Confidence thrives when we are radically present.  Being present eliminates future self-doubt, overthinking, speculation and stories, some anxiety and fear of the unknown. It also releases control to God and puts us into a place where we trust that He's in control.  HOW TO USE THE PHRASE EFFECTIVELY In Business: -I'm supposed to pivot and be creative with new things -Failure is feedback -I'm more proud of my effort than of the outcome -You never know unless you ask In Personal Life: -I'm growing, and am supposed to have hiccups -I release myself from beating myself up -I am okay being different -I'm committed to living my life with my heart all in INNER TALK FOR SELF-COACHING Inner self-talk to help you take action on anything, face any fear or rejection and to build resilience  I can face anything, because I am okay with uncomfortable emotions.I will be able to manage and move on from anything unknown ahead.I am not the one "holding it all together" anyways - I trust that God is with me and that whatever is ahead will work out for my good. And so what if that happens / if they think that / if it doesn't work…. OTHER EPISODES YOU MIGHT ENJOY:  #411: How to Speak up For Yourself with Confidence www.trishblackwell.com/411 #413: Forgiving Yourself for Self-Destructive Behavior www.trishblackwell.com/413 YouTube Channel www.youtube.com/trishblackwell JOIN US. WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? Did you know that confidence is simple? If you follow The Confidence Formula in the way we teach in the COC, then it's as easy as (1).

    Forgiving Self-Destructive Behavior   PODCAST #413   Forgiving self-destructive behavior keeps many people stuck in confusion and conflict. If you've spent a huge portion of your life stuck in self-sabotage, self-destructive or unhealthy patterns of thought or behavior, then this episode is for you. In it we're going to explore how to forgive yourself for being so harmful, for making poor decisions and wasting time. Forgiveness is the balm that will soothe your heart and give your mind the brain space it craves to walk and think with more confidence.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: Why it's so hard to forgive ourselves when we don’t struggle as much in forgiving others13 things you can do to start letting go and forgiving yourself for harmful things you've doneThe next steps to take in rebuilding your self-trust and self-compassion Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.    INVITATION: Look, if you want to like yourself, give yourself and edge of confidence by understanding where you are in the 5 Stages of Confidence. If you've never heard my coaching on this before, now's the time to jump in. I'm re-offering my 5-star rated webinar on How to Have More Confidence. In it you'll learn the 5 Stages of Confidence, the Confidence Formula, and how to get from one stage of confidence to the next. Sign up for free at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Best confidence podcast. Hands down. Skrwzvh, 5 stars. A month or so ago my friend watched a guy strut by with a posture and confidence that made her stop and say, "If I had his confidence I could rule the world." And I stopped and thought, "That's an opportunity for me. Why the heck not me?" I strive to be an inspiration and role model to my two young children and to be the person I deserve to be to be myself. This podcast has really opened my eyes and my mind and is helping me become stronger and more confidence everyday. I am so grateful to have stumbled upon your coaching and look forward to growing with you more. Thank you so much and please keep it up!    WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FORGIVE YOURSELF? Self-forgiveness is not letting yourself off the hook, or being easy on yourself.  It's understanding that unforgiveness doesn't help, and holding onto things hurts your psyche.  Guilt is a long-term decision to feel miserable for a long time. And there are deep consequences. You'll be miserable, and you'll attract other miserable people.  Difficulty forgiving also leads to heart attacks, high blood pressure and depression.  What types of self-destructive behavior can be hard to forgive? Any type that you have wanted to be free from - some examples of which are: over eating, over drinking, binging, compulsive shopping, gambling, scrolling, cutting, compulsive exercising, control, perfectionism, procrastination, smoking, toxic relationship patterns 13 WAYS TO START FORGIVING YOURSELF FOR SELF-DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR Take ownership of your mistake.  Articulate how you feel.  Identify the hurt Understand what you want (peace)  Recognize unrealistic expectations  Stop living on replay mode Apologize to yourself or your body Put things into perspective Allow God in  Replace guilt with gratitude  Renew your mind Do a new thing (repent, change behavior, etc.) Rest and trust.  Unbelief makes it hard for us to forgive ourselves. -we believe in forgiveness for others -we believe that God forgives in theory -so why can't we forgive ourselves NEXT STEPS IN REBUILDING SELF-TRUST & COMPASSION …while also still maintaining and nurturing positive behavior change.

  How to Actually Like Yourself PODCAST #412 To learn how to actually like yourself, you have to first figure out who you are and spend time with yourself. This podcast episode peers into how to go deep in self-identity and how to trust who God created you to be. When you know that the Maker made you the way you are and that what He makes is good, then you can trust that He wants you to actually like yourself. The best part is that when you like yourself, you are more effective at everything you do in the world - from achievements to relationships, to just living life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/412 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: Some of the reasons why we don't like ourselves (and what that is doing to us)3 ways to start liking yourself - all of which you can do right nowWhat happens when you actually like yourself  Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.    INVITATION: Look, if you want to like yourself, give yourself and edge of confidence by understanding where you are in the 5 Stages of Confidence. If you've never heard my coaching on this before, now's the time to jump in. I'm re-offering my 5-star rated webinar on How to Have More Confidence. In it you'll learn the 5 Stages of Confidence, the Confidence Formula, and how to get from one stage of confidence to the next. Sign up for free at www.trishblackwell.com/freeclass   REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Heart of Gratitude, kbdaffy, 5 stars The confidence podcast was recommended to me from a friend and since my first listen, I've been all in! Living most of my life convinced I was a victim had me suffocating because of self-criticism, isolation, anxiety and depression. My own mind had been my most limiting factor - I just didn't know how to do anything about it. I wanted to believe I knew God didn't want these thoughts and feelings to rule my life but I had no idea how deeply rooted a lot of my limiting beliefs were. I never would have believed that listening to one podcast episode could impact my life so greatly. I'm now part of the COC and doing coaching sessions with Trish. I can honestly say I have never thought about the power of my own thinking as intentionally as I am now. I've never experienced true peace in God's love until this year. Trish, you are one incredible human and God knows I'm so grateful for you and the work you do. Keep on encouraging and being you! God bless.    WHY WE DON'T LIKE OURSELVES -We're stuck in toxic comparison -We think we'll like ourselves when…. (Conditional liking) -We are so stuck on "there" that we don’t live in our "here" -We don’t know ourselves - we are too busy to have a relationship  -We still believe toxic words from other people about who we are -We put our identity in what we do, not who we are   Not actually liking yourself is a handicap in life. It prevents you from showing up as your real self, as fully alive and as capable to play the role in the world that you were created to play. It positions you with a victim mindset - whoa is me, everything is hard, if only I were different - and it makes us passive to being able to embrace and control what we can. It poisons our mental wellbeing, driving us into more anxiety-driven behaviors, fear, hiding and self-sabotage.    HOW TO START LIKING YOURSELF #1: GET TO KNOW YOURSELF  BY ASKING GOOD QUESTIONS         -Question what you have taken for granted and assumed -Question those around you -Question yourself, take personality tests -Question what God has you on Earth for -Question who you are supposed to help -Question why you reject yourself  #2 SPEND TIME WITH YOURSELF -Through journaling

  How to Speak Up for Yourself with Confidence PODCAST #411 You have a voice, it's time to use it. When we don't use our voices, and don't speak up for ourselves or for what is right, the world suffers, as do we. It's time to start speaking with confidence, even if you have never done so before. This podcast episode will hold your hand and then give you the push you need to start speaking up and rising up with confidence. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/411 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: How we have lost our voice, and the desperate need for it in the worldHow to have a voice and to start using itHow to Speak up to Others (who intimidate you, who manipulate you, who look past you)How to Speak up for Yourself (to yourself, to your past and to your future)  Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.  Ready to stop caring what people think? Join us for our free online masterclass -we have live sessions this week. Don't you think it's time to be free from being held back because of the stories you tell yourself about what others think of you?  Get your free seat at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring   REVIEW OF THE WEEK:  Just started listening … wow. Emma aaa This podcast is 11/10. She goes above and beyond in each topic she talks about. I take her advice and run with it in everyday life. Success is ALWAYS guaranteed. Love you, love your word, love the show.    WHY HAVE WE LOST OUR VOICE? Don't let what someone said steal your destiny from you. It's time to stop aligning yourself with what people have said about you and instead identify yourself by what God says about you. (And He says that you have purpose, you are unique, you are his masterpiece, you are his child, you have specific talent, you are loved, and you are never alone.)  Typically, there is a moment in our past that we felt unsafe after using our voice.  -you got made fun of; told that there was something wrong with you -you said something awkward -you didn't have parents or role models who built you up -you heard more prohibitory language than affirmative language in your house -you felt overshadowed by another personality you grew up around -you learned that the people around you weren't listening, so you felt like it didn't matter -you spoke up, but an abuser in your life didn't listen Speaking up and using your voice doesn't feel safe. But it is less safe to stay silent and to sulk in the shadows of life.   What got me started? I knew I had a moral obligation to start speaking up - through writing first, and then speaking. I felt the pull on my soul and in my desire, but it was too hard to do. I was tremendously uncomfortable and resistant with it - the thought filled me with shame.I saw someone else be brave and it inspired me. (after I spent years hiding the book)I wanted to be someone who did brave things, and I knew how much Roth had helped me, I knew I couldn't with good conscious stay silent and "safe" anymore.  Geneen Roth's Book:  Breaking Free From Emotional Eating: https://amzn.to/30iX7QW   HOW TO HAVE A VOICE AND START USING IT You'll feel the itch.  But you'll question your right to itch it. Go on, itch it, it will relieve something deep in your soul. We speak up and use our voice, not just for ourselves, but for those like us who still feel stuck and silenced.  Recognize that what you have to say matters. Realize that your voice can help others. Remember that words give life - and bringing yours to the surface births life.  Start practicing. Know it will be awkward. You will feel emotionally exposed and hungover.

    HOW TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP PODCAST #410 Beating yourself up? Pull back the curtain of your heart and let's have a conversation about the pressure you put on yourself.  In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: How to recognize when you are beating yourself upThe 4 primary fears the drive the self-flagellation and guilt 4 strategies that are proven effective to help break the cycle10 ways to practice self-kindness if you struggle with beating yourself up  Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.  WHAT ARE THE FEARS BEHIND BEATING OURSELVES UP Beating yourself up seems like the most common way to tackle our problems but instead, it hinders your growth. Here are some reasons (aka fears) why you are beating yourself up. Fear of not being enough.-over-attachment to affirmation and culturally defined success (Lack and fixed mindset!)  Fear of being discovered as defective.-speak about beauty, makeup, shame, etc, i just wasn't taught and wasn't built up in this way (Inadequacy and shame!)  Fear of not actually being motivated-what if you need the pressure and the inner-bully? lack of self-trust (Laziness!) Fear of not being able to change.-I engaged in this behavior for years because I felt like I was letting God down, and then I felt overlooked by God because He wasn't healing me from my struggle in the way I wanted or expected; I was afraid I was broken and unable to change or be changed. (Guilt!)    STRATEGIES THAT HAVE BEEN EFFECTIVE IN MY COACHING   Use these strategies to stop beating yourself up today.   So What Strategy -So what, everything will work out just fine and now I get to pivot and learn   Even If, I Will Statements -Even if this is botched and I'm behind, I will still be loved, etc.    Journaling -21-Day Toxic Thought Freedom Journal, get yours free at www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal   Becoming a Student of Life -Growth mindset, learning in everything, trusting God with your transformation, celebrating growth, letting Jesus be my teacher and learning to surrender    HOW TO PRACTICE SELF-KINDNESS AND STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP 1. Be a friend to yourself - slow down, be present, be nice.  2. Put a higher value on kindness 3. Remember that being mean doesn't work  4. Focus on more positive self-talk 5. Write out a daily truth or verse 6. Practice patience with yourself and others 7. Accept your challenges as opportunities 8. Get an aerial view - there's no right way to do anything, there's always a pivot 9. Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed10. Do a distraction detox    OTHER EPISODES OF THE CONFIDENCE PODCAST YOU WILL LIKE How to Stop Being So Self-Critical, Episode #345 www.trishblackwell.com/345   Why Beating Yourself Up Doesn't Work, Episode #277 www.trishblackwell.com/277      ANNOUNCEMENTS: Did you know that confidence is simple? If you follow The Confidence Formula in the way we teach in the COC, then it's as easy as (1). slowing down, (2). simplifying and (3) strategizing ... all of which we do right alongside you in the COC. We're thick into the Back-to-Basics Challenge, implementing the Confidence Formula in the College of Confidence and it's not too late to join us. It's back to school, back to basics ... something we all need.  I’ll be coaching you through the following categories, for a full week at a time. Overthinking Weight loss Self-Sabotage Stress Comparison  Being Yourself This is exclusively for students in the College of Confidence. It’s time for you to join us. Click here to become official so that you don’t miss out on these next 6-weeks of the transformational coaching, community, and challenge.  

  How to Stop Being Jealous of Others Podcast #409 Jealousy rots the bones, but it doesn't have to rot yours anymore. This podcast episode dives into how to stop being jealous of others so that you can get on with your own life and thrive where God has planted and placed you. Too often we don't call ourselves out on jealousy, envy or comparison, and it tarnishes our spirit, our joy and our confidence from the inside it. It's time to get serious about cleaning out our hearts so that we have space to live with joy, not jealousy. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/409 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're chit-chatting about: The sneaky ways that jealousy shows up in our lives - and why we never call ourselves out for it - it's time to be honest, y'all!10 ways how you can start eliminating the impact of jealousy in your life right nowThe 2 ways jealousy can destroy a relationship: and how to make sure it doesn't hurt yours FREE COACHING: One of the things that drive us deeper into jealousy is our obsession and distraction over what people think of us. You've heard me coach on this topic on podcasts before, but I want to go deeper than that with you - I want to invite you into my Masterclass on How to Stop Caring What People Think. We're re-launched it and I don't want you to miss out on it.    There are classes being offered today and tomorrow ---- come on, I know you want to come to hang out with me beyond the podcast. Now's your chance!    Sign up for FREE here >>>> How to Stop Caring What People Think: www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Life Changing!! By LizKU124 Trish and her podcast have changed my life. Her positivity, fresh perspectives, insight, knowledge and experiences have helped me to grow as a person and become less anxious and more confident. She adds in the perfect amount of spiritual content to supplement her teachings, and I know that whenever I start my day with The Confidence Podcast, it's going to be a great day. Thank you Trish for your ongoing encouragement that you share and for helping me to become a better, more confident version of myself!    HOW DOES JEALOUSY SHOW UP? Comparison Inadequacy Dieting Relationships Low self-esteem Feelings of insecurity  Uncertainty Worth issues Different statements that express jealousy that you might not expect: I just feel behind ... I should be doing more .... They seem to have it all together ... They know what they're doing .... I wish I had it as easy as .... Must be nice ...  They're so lucky ... Jealousy turns our eyes outward - and sets our hearts up for a state of constant comparison. Comparison detracts us from being able to be present, engaged and confident. Bottom line: If you want to be confident, you have to ruthlessly eliminate jealousy from your heart     HOW TO ELIMINATE JEALOUSY 1. Pay attention to where it pops up in your life. 2. Call it what it is .... don't flower it up. 3. Surrender your heart and pray for cleansing. 4. Guard your thoughts - and parent your phone!  5. Proactively give praise for all that you have and all that you are  6. Understand that you have an isolated narrative 7. Everyone has a story - honor yours and honor theirs 8. Ask yourself, do you want to live with a heart of abundant joy, or of anxious lack?  Ultimately, jealousy can be minimized if you follow the tenants of The Confidence Formula -Slow down -Simplify -Strategize    JEALOUSY IN RELATIONSHIPS 1. Lack of Trust   Problem of communication Problem of transparency Problem of confidence    2. Lack of Teamwork   Problem of perspective Problem of communication Problem of collaboration     ANNOUNCEMENTS: COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE CHALLENGEIt's back to school, back to basics ... something we all need.  I’ll be coaching you through the following categories, for a full week at a time.

  How to Appear More Confident than You Actually Are Podcast #408 Appearing more confident than you are is a decision, and there are a few small tricks you can do to hack this habit for yourself. Confidence is not a destination, but rather a journey - so it's natural for your confidence to ebb and flow. Thankfully, you don't have to always feel confident to be confident. This podcast episode will teach you how to do just that. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/408 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: How to appear more confident than you actually are or feel like you areThe secret to being confident, but not arrogant Building a confidence bank for your brain Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.    REVIEW OF THE WEEK:   Amazing Podcast, 5 Stars by Shelby Eichstadt This lady has CHANGED MY LIFE. I have been listening to this podcast for the past two years and I cannot emphasize how much Trish has helped me in my personal growth/mental health/eating disorder recovery journeys. I have done YEARS of therapy and was in inpatient treatment for an eating disorder and I can honestly say this podcast has helped me in probably more ways than those other things. Trish speaks to me in a way that I feel like no one else can relate. Like half of the time I am like, are we like the same person lol. If you haven't listened, you NEED to. This lady knows what she's talking about and can give you PRACTICAL ways to deal with life challenges. I cannot say enough good things about this podcast. Thank you Trish for all that you do. You are making an impact in this world.    QUICK BONUS COACHING MOMENT: We're going to go back to the basics here, and we're going to have a conversation around how to get your neurons firing together so that your brain and thoughts get wired in the way we want --- with a powerful, victorious mindset. It starts with a base layer: belief. I believe I can do hard things. Next, up the pyramid ...I will not avoid doing hard things, because I understand that hard things are part of life. Then, the next ascending layer...I am good at doing hard things. Finally... I like to do hard things.  Get the full coaching hour immediately when you join the College of Confidence.Also - our newest course, Turning Your Trials into Triumphs is getting rave reviews, like what Amber recently said: "Your trials to triumph course is phenomenal. Like wow. In all my therapy never have I have had anyone speak with such conviction while embodying Christ. So grateful for my rock bottom(s!) ... it led me here!" Enroll today at www.collegeofconfidence.com   HOW TO APPEAR MORE CONFIDENT THAN YOU ACTUALLY ARE Do people that appear extremely confident really feel that way? Is it an act? Do they ever feel what I feel?  You don't have to be the best. You don't have to know what you're doing. You just have to be yourself. You will appear most confident when you are most yourself and most relaxed. How, so, how do you do that? Smile. Reassure yourself. Get to know yourself. Stand comfortably. Have open posture and body language.  Do things and take action.  How do I do this? As a confidence coach, you might think I have mastered confidence, but I haven't. Confidence is a relationship - a spiritual practice almost - that I will be exploring and expanding my entire life. I aspire to have a thick skin and tender heart. I aspire to be the friendliest person in a room. I aspire to smile more than anyone else I know. I aspire to be consistently, openly and unapologetically myself. I aspire to do the things that scare, intimidate or overwhelm me.