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The Coaching Lounge
78 minutes | Feb 7, 2019
Relationship Challenges and How to Handle Them
I’ve reached out to the Coaching Lounge’s Resident Relationship expert to get guidance on how to overcome challenges and ramp up success in dating and relationships! If you're limited for time, you can fast track through some pertinent points in the interview: 08:02 How do YOU express love?13:32 A conversation you need to have in your relationship.29:55 How to tell if you're in a relationship with a narcissist?34:25 Red flags to watch out for.52:20 Online dating tips for older women.59:13 How to date with a sense of fun. 1:00:00 Getting dating ready A special "thank you" to our sponsor Dawta of The Sun. Please check out Dawta of the Sun on Facebook to see the refreshing initiatives and heartfelt information especially for young girls and women from this Community Organisation. Episode Links: https://www.relationshipready.co/- Ivona Gordon http://satellitelifecoaching.com/ - Rebecca Gordon Life Coach https://m.facebook.com/pages/category/Community-Organization/Dawta-Of-The-Sun-535680436583586/ - Episode 77 Sponsor: Dawta of The Sun http://www.brandyoumax.com/ - Laura Gubb - Online Image and Profile Consultants https://lumenapp.com/ - Over 50s dating website: Lumen http://www.duckie.co.uk/events/the-posh-club - The Posh Club (for mature people).
103 minutes | Jan 13, 2019
Encounters of A Solo Traveller
Well-travelled world citizen Buki Hannaway, joined me on The Coaching Lounge Podcast to share her array of adventures and experiences, since leaving the UK to embark on a journey that has taken her halfway across the world! In this episode you will hear about Buki's chance meeting with an entrepreneur and record producer; how she was hijacked at gunpoint, as well as lessons learned from attracting opportunities to share the stage with global artists. Episode Highlights: 05:52 - Arrange to create a new version of your reality.11:37 - Seize opportunities to cultivate inspired conversations.25:50 - Learn lessons from challenging situations.36:09 - Things a first time solo-traveller should know. 43:22 - The importance of appreciating and cultivating good connections. 70:57 - Don’t let life get in the way80:00 - Beyond Skin - Written and performed by Buki, produced by Deci4 Episode Links: Natives - Race and Class in the Ruins of Empire - Akala: www.amazon.co.uk/Natives-Class-Em…er/dp/1473661218 You are a Badass at Making Money - Jen Sincero: www.amazon.co.uk/You-Are-Badass-M…ey/dp/0735222975 Liji Reid - Make a Decision About Your Life: Satellitelifecoaching – Make-a-decison-about-your-life-with-liji-reid Satellite Life Coaching: www.satellitelifecoaching.com/ Contact Buki Hannaway: IG: Dawtaots IG: Bukiwords FB: Dawta Of The Sun: www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=bu…y&epa=SEARCH_BOX
64 minutes | Dec 10, 2018
Validate Yourself First
In my interview with Lashawanda Becoats - Editor-in-Chief of Pride Magazine - you may hear me furiously taking notes at times to capture pearls of wisdom that were so eloquently and gracefully expressed by my inspiring guest. Little did I know that these notes would be a source of strength in the midst of a traumatic event that unfolded shortly after this interview took place. Just a few days later, I found myself on a 25-hour journey to the other side of the world, wobbling under emotions of fear, anxiety and worry all wrapped up in one. In the centre of the storm that shook up my world, Lashawnda's messages in this interview served a very crucial purpose. When you ‘Run Toward Your Life’. you face fear head-on, accept and embrace who you are without apology. This empowers you to more readily tap into the well of wisdom that lies deep within and stand in faith. In this podcast episode, Lashawnda shares the power that comes with unashamed authenticity as you Validate Yourself First and the important role that coaching plays in this. Links: Run Toward Your Life Satellite Life Coaching Re-Vibe Your Life!
60 minutes | Aug 10, 2018
How To Make A Love Relationship Last
Romance is dead. That’s what many people may think and say in any case! It can be considered challenging to cultivate a relationship in this digital age. We swipe left, we swipe right; we start relationships and relationships can end just as suddenly! Then we wonder what happened in between and why things just didn’t work out! Coach Sonia Thompson joined me on The Coaching Lounge Podcast to discuss relationships and how to make your love relationship last. I gathered much from her insight and know you will do too. Links: soniaannethompson.com/ www.satellitelifecoaching.com/ www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/ Win a FREE Coaching session with Rebecca Gordon from Satellite Life Coaching! To enter this FREE Prize Draw all you need to do is email email@example.com with the subject 'In2Win' and your name. Draws take on the last day of each month.
55 minutes | May 19, 2018
A Conversation with Birmingham Doula
Episode 73: A Conversation with Birmingham Doula As I delved deep into my conversation with Lorna Phillip, I learned a tremendous amount about the importance of having a Doula in your life as you prepare to extend your family. This statement might seem somewhat profound, but when you tune into this episode of The Coaching Lounge Podcast, you will understand the vital role of a Doula and how their support ensures the best start in life! Links: birmingham-doula.co.uk/ abueladoulas.com/ www.satellitelifecoaching.com/
52 minutes | Mar 13, 2018
Four Relationship Red Flags and How to Deal with Them
Are you compromising your mental and emotional wellbeing in a relationship? Sometimes, we know that something doesn't feel quite right, yet we put up with things for a myriad of reasons. Life Skills Coach, Joyce Schafers, joined me in The Coaching Lounge to discuss the signs of an unhealthy relationship and four red flags that indicate this. www.elephantjournal.com/2017/12/relat…-apologizing/ www.joyce-schafers.com/ www.satellitelifecoaching.com/
68 minutes | Feb 21, 2018
Write The Book Damn It!
If you're like a few people I know (naming no names and including me), you may have: strong imaginations of becoming a published author and are hiding behind the excuse of procrastination; streams of amazing content in various formats - that when collated could be a ready-made book - but remains hidden from the world due to an affliction called 'I'lldoittomorrowtitis'. published a jazzy covered e-Book or Kindle version and have talked yourself into believing this qualifies you to make claims of being 'a published author'. If you resonate with any of these situations then this podcast could very well be the game changer that transforms your thoughts to empowered action. My guest in The Coaching Lounge, Ms Daniella Blechner CEO of Conscious Dreams Publishing and author of Mr. Wrong and 7 Shades of Love, wowed me with her amazing knowledge and insight on what it takes to become a published author. As well as urging you to "always dedicate time to your writing" and "write what is in your heart" Daniella provides in-depth answers to questions that you may have always wanted to know about how to turn your words into an impactful book. Tune in to be privy to exciting information that will lift your spirits and get you motivated to write the book damn it! You will learn:- the difference between writer's block for fiction and non-fiction writing.- tips for creating a compelling book cover design.- how exactly to fulfill your burning desire of finally getting your book published.- partnerships to forge so that you get your book out there.Not only that, you will find out how YOU can become a participant at Daniella's sought-after workshop 'The Power of Your Story'.
70 minutes | Feb 4, 2018
Make A Better Decison About Your Life with Liji Reid
Think about this quote from Edwin Markham:“Choices are the hinges of destiny.” If at this time last year, today was once your destiny, what crucial choices did you make that have led you to here? What different choices would you have made, or different decisions would you have taken, that could have given an improved outcome? If where you are now is a direct reflection of the quality of your decision-making skills, where 1 is not quite and 10 is absolutely, how satisfied are you with your ability to make those crucial decisions that lead to your life moving in the best possible direction? Many factors influence the decision-making process, sometimes making it hard to determine the exact right thing to do. When deciding what action to take, do you focus on what others think or do you move forward with conviction through listening to your inner guide? No-one is perfect and if I knew then what I know now, there are some things I myself would have done differently if given a second chance. But life is not like that. There is a rarely a second chance to relive a moment and all we can do is reflect upon 'if only's'. At times, there is no allowance of time to ruminate and ponder. We may be forced to make a decision on something that impacts on an entire life - yours or someone else's - and trust that we have concluded the right thing. Moving into intentional thinking is to apply 'conscious thought' when deciding what to do. Download a FREE Self-coaching Tool on 'How to Make Better Decisions About Your Life' HERE. Liji Reid who is my guest in this edition of The Coaching Lounge Podcast sends a strong message to "be serious about your life". It's very rare that we get second chances, therefore, in this energy space of making an effective decision, Liji's message is one of encouragement to make yourself a priority and be the CEO of your life. When I interviewed Liji, I got a clear sense of his awareness that his success in life is fashioned through the dots - each dot being the 'conscious thinking' he has made that has led to effective decisions, not only in business but in friendship, education and other aspects of his life too. Tune in to get an insight into the type of thinking that entrepeneur does, that paves the way for success. Connect with Liji here: Connect with Liji here: https://www.nagegfx.com/
60 minutes | Dec 26, 2017
Rescue Your Relationship
Have you ever been in a relationship when things haven’t been going right and wished you could talk to someone about what was going on? You may have wanted to get another perspective on what’s happening and reached out to the listening ear of a friend for comfort and support. The only problem with that is those cosy chats with a girlfriend or boyfriend can easily turn into a bashing session, rather than remain a constructive dialogue that encourages exploration of a new way to approach what’s going on with your significant other. When it comes to relationships, we can be conditioned to struggle through our challenges alone. To seek support from a professional who can help us forge a clear way ahead through the rough patch may be the last thing we consider. I wonder just how many partnerships might be saved if support was enlisted from a professional relationship therapist. This is a vital role through which space for peaceful, meaningful communication, where both parties feel heard and can express without judgment is created. Recently, I had a lovely chat with relationship counselor, Marion Hanson, who joined me on The Coaching Lounge Podcast. As well as discussing some situations that cause problems in relationships, we delved into: What communicating with an agenda really means. Approaches to take that can cultivate a relationship. Whether a relationship can ever survive an affair. What single men and women should do if they are seeking a partner. Links: www.nujourneys.co.uk www.satellitelifecoaching.com http://www.drpatallen.com/
29 minutes | Nov 24, 2017
The Ripple Effect of Phenomenal Women
Too often, women take for granted the tremendous contribution they make to society. It can be true to say that some women make their contribution to the world through selfless acts, in which very often, they put others first and themselves last. In this podcast episode, recorded in September 2013, I discuss the ripple effect and how simple acts can result in amazing outcomes that have a tremendous impact on others. Be encouraged to reflect on your own self-less acts and the wider impact that YOUR contribution makes to the world - that can very often be taken for granted - not only by others but by yourself! You will also learn about Rebecca's experience and her recount of how 'The Ripple Effect' culminated in her delivery of a speech at the Unifero Conference in Iasi, Romania, at the invite of the President and Founder of this organization, Smaranda Livescu. Dedicated to all women everywhere, this show is to remind you of your greatness and that you are indeed Phenomenal. YOU make a difference to the lives of others. Will you stand up and be counted? Claim your FREE Giveaway from Satellite Life Coaching just for tuning into this podcast! Grab your copy of the eBook 'Living In Harmony With Who You Are' that will show you exactly what you need to do to find inner peace and have success in your relationships and in life! Click HERE download.
64 minutes | Nov 19, 2017
How to Get Relationship Ready with Ivona Gordon
London UK Relationship expert, Ivona Gordon, discusses the mindset and behaviours that help to create and cultivate a successful relationship. Hear Ivona's answer on how to: Stop attracting the same type of character Be better prepared for your next relationship Know when you are relationship ready Maintain your standards when developing a relationship Make time for a relationship Navigate the internet dating scene Claim your FREE Giveaway from Satellite Life Coaching just for tuning into this podcast! Grab your copy of the eBook 'Living In Harmony With Who You Are' that will show you exactly what you need to do to find inner peace and have success in your relationships and in life! Click HERE download.
59 minutes | Oct 7, 2017
How to Create Interior Abundance Wherever You Are Are
I last interviewed Sherry Burton-Ways in 2015. In this podcast, it seemed that we picked up from where we left off! As we progressed through our engaging conversation, I realized just how much Sherry has been through over the past two years. In our discussion, we explored what Sherry needed to do to remain grounded and rooted throughout her transition, that was as a direct result of intentionally creating a purposeful space wherever she was. If you are going through any type of transition, this podcast will provide essential tips and strategies for ‘How to Create Interior Abundance Wherever You Are’. You will also find out how to purchase Sherry’s latest book ‘Landing on Your Feet and Putting Down Roots’ that is packed with 21 rituals for creating solace and security in your shelter. http://sherryburtonways.com/ https://satellitelifecoaching.com/
76 minutes | May 20, 2017
Your Beauty is Valid with Tahlia Gray
Self-confidence is an important requisite that can help you grow and achieve better results in your personal and professional life. Tahlia Gray is on a mission to enable women to be empowered, ooze with confidence and feel in control every day. She does this through her London-based hosiery brand - Sheer Chemistry that she founded, which caters for women of all shades of brown who want to live life on their terms and enjoy Tahlia Gray is on a mission to enable women to be empowered, ooze with confidence and feel in control every day. She does this through her London-based hosiery brand - Sheer Chemistry that she founded, which caters for women of all shades of brown who want to live life on their terms and enjoy life that much more. You will want to hear Tahlia’s inspiring and fascinating story in which she reveals secrets to her amazing success. www.sheerchemistry.com www.satellitelifecoaching.com http://www.100bml.org/ http://www.artistryyouthdance.com/
61 minutes | May 1, 2017
How to Build Emotionally Healthy Relationships
“You really can give to yourself everything important that you need.” This quote by Joyce Schafers epitomizes exactly how she helps individuals and couples get everything they need by clearing out baggage so that they can ‘fulfill their emotional cup’. In this podcast edition, Joyce provides a re-education about emotions and relationships. You will learn about: the cycle of unresolved emotional pain emotional deafness an approach to cultivating emotional healthy relationships In this podcast you will also access a FREE Coaching Tool called Permission to Rise. Joyce Schafers: http://www.joyce-schafers.com/ Rebecca Gordon: www.satellitelifecoaching.com
74 minutes | Apr 18, 2017
A Presence in the Storm
"I need them to be present with me in the storm, not just tell me what to do." Healthyplace.com We live in a time in which some topics that were once considered uncomfortable or taboo are now embraced and explored with empathy and understanding. Prince Harry’s revelation of the mental health challenge he faced at the time of his mother’s death reminds us that we are all treading on that fine line. All it takes is just one situation to create an array of emotions that can spiral into different levels of feelings such as low mood, anxiety or deep depression. No-one is immune from slipping across the line. In today’s edition of The Coaching Lounge, I spoke to a Mental Health Practitioner, Psychotherapist and Counsellor who is ‘present in the storm’ and provides a stable and enabling influence for those going through life's turmoils. In his mission to ‘co-create and collaborate to address change, Michael Opoku-Forfieh also works alongside other skilled mental health practitioners to support people with mental health issues lead fulfilling lives. As Michael shared his thoughts on issues relating to mental health, I couldn't help but feel his passion, dedication and commitment to his work. When you tune in, you will feel it too. Also, watch this short video clip that superbly gives a flavour of Michael's energy. youtu.be/4d8Q-8FvKeo You may also want to check out this article on ’23 Tips for Improving Your Mental Health’: http://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/article/tips-for-depression-and-anxiety-mental-health Links: www.together-uk.org Dr Cary Cooper (Organisational well-being) https://www.linkedin.com/in/cary-cooper-4213909/ http://www.robertsoncooper.com/ thecounsellorscafe.co.uk www.satellitelifecoaching.com healthyplace.com
54 minutes | Apr 16, 2017
Manage Your Emotions
In this podcast episode, Grant Connelly encourages us to “choose the idea of peace.” Grant is an advocate of the notion that the pathway to inner peace begins with accepting oneself. Yet that is not always easy to do. In my chat with Grant we delved into : A perfect way to approach managing emotions How to release attachments to the toxic emotions of others Scripts to cultivate inner peace The 15 characteristics of self-actualizers Links: www.acceptingself.com http://100bestwebsites.org/alt/Maslow16.htm www.satellitelifecoaching.com
51 minutes | Jan 15, 2017
Why Networking Is the New Dating with Andrew McDonald
Think back to your very first date. How did you prepare for it? I bet that you didn’t just turn up with the expectation that everything would just fall into place. Way before the moment of that super important event, I reckon there would have been some conscious and unconscious application of thought and energy on what needed to happen to present your super self and leave, knowing that you did your very best to make your interaction go smoothly, maybe even to get to the next date. Your practical and mental game-plan might have included something choosing an amazing outfit that made you feel special, comfortable and confident; thinking of interesting snippets of fascinating things you could share, or thought-provoking questions to ask that would ensure an enthralling conversation. Then, there’s the emotional stuff that we all get caught up in when we think of going on that first date. On one hand, we think that we’re playing it cool: “Everything will go ok… it will be a breeze.” Or we may be consumed with thoughts of self-doubt: “OMG! Supposing the conversation runs dry? What do I do?” “What if I get flustered!!” A first date can generate dual emotions. The sense of excited anticipation and positive expectations can intermingle with great internal pressure to ‘get it right’, so much so, that the mere thought of going on a date becomes daunting at the same time. Replace ‘dating’ with the word ‘networking’. Does this portrayal of dating feel very much like your networking experience? Does it feel like a pressure to mingle with a crowd of strangers hoping that somebody you meet there will be 'The One'? Andrew McDonald, Founder and CEO of Possess Your Success, LLC, and an expert on networking asserts: “Most times people approach networking almost like a transaction. However, it is about making a connection, like a friendship. You must connect with people, learn about their interests, and care about them. You must also provide them with value; something they desire. When both of your interests are aligned and each person values each other, a relationship is formed and you can use that to fulfill each others needs.” Andrew McDonald I think that’s an awesome way to view networking – or even dating come to think of it! MAKE A CONNECTION and SEEK TO LEARN SOMETHING ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON. Sorry for using capitalization that seems to ‘shout at you’, but I think the message in Andrew’s interview needs to come across loud and clear. If you want to hear more of Andrew’s tips on how to establish fruitful and beneficial relationships, then tune into the podcast. If you don’t tune in today, you might miss an important strategy that could be useful to implement at your next networking event. But I understand your time may be limited, so I’ve made it easy for you to fast forward to some specific gems of interest from Andrew: 05:32 - Focus for success 14:44 - Networking tips for introverts 18:20 - Elements to include in your pitch 27:55 - What to do immediately after a networking event. Reach Andrew here: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, or Periscope http://bit.ly/PYS-MasteringSuccess You can also e-mail Andrew at firstname.lastname@example.org Download your first two chapters of Andrew’s informative book here: www.possessyoursuccess.com/freechapters and get the book here: http://bit.ly/PYS-MasteringSuccess Find out more about Rebecca Gordon's coaching here: https://satellitelifecoaching.com/ Find out more about Hal Elrod’s ‘Miracle Morning’ here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U0uRp7BoPVY Learn about Inroads here: https://inroads.org/ Enjoy! Rebecca
76 minutes | Aug 22, 2016
Living and Working Abroad Made Easy
As I emerged from the airport into the overwhelming heat and vibrancy of my new environment I remember feeling a sense of awe and disbelief to know that I was now in the process of fulfilling a part of my life’s purpose. Eleven hours earlier, I was in balmy Birmingham, boarding the National Express coach to Gatwick and wondering what I could expect on my visit to Tanzania and Kenya. It was incredible to believe that since wanting to visit Tanzania from the age of 14, I was now on my way! It was even more incredible to know that this 2 week experience had become possible because I had acted upon a thought just a few months earlier. Quite simply, I had an idea that is as crystal clear today as it was then. Some may call it the voice of a higher power or an internal satellite that comes into focus when we are still and recognise the magnetic pull that keeps us on track with our life’s intention. Needless to say, this powerful thought compelled me to make real an idea that I wanted to deliver training in Tanzania and enabled me to realise the wonderful opportunity of making a meaningful contribution to enhancing the lives of others. On 16th July 2009, I arrived in Dar es Salaam, Tanzania. The sights and sounds of Africa resonated deep within as if stirring a distant memory from centuries gone by. During my two weeks in Tanzania, I recall feeling that the country was strange, yet familiar; the language confounding, yet nostalgic; my hosts strangers, yet like a long lost family. I was truly at home. During my 10 days voluntary work, I encountered groups of teenagers who aspired to greater things and who wanted to break free of the restrictions of poverty. They had dreams to fulfill and ambitions not only for themselves, but for their families. Most of all, they were naturally talented, determined and totally focused on creating a better life. “People are people. The similarities we have are much more powerful than the differences.” Mbeke Waseme The young people I met were in danger of succumbing (quite easily) to Aids and HIV infection, teenage pregnancy, prostitution, drugs and crime – not due to any lack of ambition, but due to a lack of support, care and guidance from wider society and from those who should know better. It was a harsh realization to see how a lack of positive intervention can quite easily set into motion a chain of events that leaves a legacy of poverty that impacts upon generations. Needless to say, I learned a valuable lesson from the young people in Tanzania. It is that we should have a vision and do one thing every day to work towards this. I encountered young people who lived their dreams – perhaps not on the scale that we in the West may determine as significant, yet the smallest achievement towards a goal for some of the youngsters I met were against the odds for many in Tanzania. Transferring my thoughts, knowledge and awareness of ‘life goal mapping’ was empowering for the young people. Amongst some of the positive outcomes was that from 24 year old Mponda. He asserted that as a direct result of the workshops, a new goal he implemented was to open a bank account and to save a set amount of money each week. His learning from goal mapping was to stop taking money out with him every day and to become accountable for his daily expenditure. Rachel wants to be a dancer. From the workshops, she learned that creating a Vision Board would help her to keep her goals focused and real. Juliette wants to be a journalist. She agreed to keep a journal and write something every day in order to sharpen her skills in writing. How many of us here would be as excited at carrying out (what may seem) small steps that serve a vital purpose of massively shifting the current reality? In my recent podcast interview with Mbeke Waseme, I learned more about her specialist coaching that helps people experience profound benefits of living and working overseas. Mbeke explains some of the practical, emotional, mental and physical considerations, that when taken into account, can make the journey so much more of a heightened and invaluable experience. She shares why living and working abroad not only reconnects you with yourself, reframes your mind but enriches your life in a myriad of ways. If you have ever wondered about the practicalities of immersing yourself in another culture and environment you will gain much from this podcast. You will be ready to take the next step in your life journey of self-exploration and self-growth that comes hand in hand with working and living overseas. © Adapted from a blog written by Rebecca Gordon in 2009. Rebecca Gordon is the Self-Actualization Coach at Satellite Life Coaching in Birmingham, UK. Visit www.satellitelifecoaching for free coaching tools and access Self-Actualization Coaching. Links https://www.linkedin.com/in/mbekewaseme www.satellitelifecoaching.com http://www.sethgodin.com/sg/
61 minutes | Jul 10, 2016
9 Ways to Prioritize Your Well-being
9 Simple Ways to Prioritize Your Well-being Simple things can motivate and inspire us to feel better. When we feel better, we do better and so have better life experiences. Here are 9 activities that are doable, yet simple, and will make a massive difference in your achievement of a balanced life. 1. Give gratitude: If you are reading this, you can breathe! You have use of your senses! You are able to comprehend! Think of what you have around you - the things you possess, a roof over your head, a bed to lie in,clothes to wear. By acknowledging and giving gratitude, this creates the energy for more good things to flow into your life. What do you give gratitude for? 2. Smile! Try this - SMILE. That's right: SMILE! Don't you feel better already?! Think of a wonderful experience, a happy moment,holidays, fun time spent with family or friends. Too often, we dwell on thoughts that are non-supportive to our positive well-being. Smiling stimulates the manufacture of serotonin in the brain. This 'happy chemical' controls moods and makes us feel better, less anxious and less stressed. Make an effort to smile when you feel down. Notice how your outlook on a situation changes as a result. 3. Get Perspective: In a challenging situation, ask yourself: 'What's the worst that can happen?' In a year's time what will I think about this? What's another way to look at this?' Make the effort to see your difficult issue from the opposing viewpoint. By challenging surface thinking you will immediately develop an empowering perspective. Life is amazingly good when it's simple and amazingly simple when it's good. Terri Guillemets 4. Get Moving! Play an upbeat song and do a wild and exaggerated dance around the bedroom; have a regular workout at the gym; go for a walk. Do whatever it takes to raise your flow of chi. Chi is the universal force of energy that is vital to life. Keep this flowing and feel the difference in your motivation and energy levels. 5. Say Hi and Listen! Did you know that the Custard Factory in Digbeth, Birmingham, is named after Alfred Bird who invented custard in the1800s? Bird was a pharmacist who also invented baking powder. These interesting facts emerged in a random conversation I struck up with someone whilst having a random chat with a random stranger whilst enjoying a ‘reward sauna’ after a perfect workout. Today, talk to someone you don't know. Show interest in them,ask questions and focus on this objective: "I will learn something from this person today." 6. Do Nothing – Pareto’s 80/20 Rule stipulates that 20% of input leads to 80% of output or results. Why not input 10 minutes of devoted 'do nothing' time into your daily routine. Find a comfortable, quiet place. Sit upright. Close your eyes. Practice and enjoy silencing the mind. This might be difficult to do at first as random fleeting thoughts may come and go.With practice you will improve your ability to meditate in this 'do nothing' state. Set an alarm to sound after 10 minutes. In allowing time for inner peace, calm and tranquility,you will feel much more energised to accomplish tasks on your daily agenda and do so with renewed vigour. 7. Enjoy something: What activity takes you into that state of being so totally absorbed that nothing else matters? What do you focus on that challenges you, yet gives a total sense of satisfaction when completed? Create a list of 5 things you enjoy doing - whatever it is that makes time not matter. This could be painting, playing a musical instrument, writing a short story, or a poem, for example. For me it's immersing myself in a good book or playing Solitaire. Once you've decided on the tasks, choose one and 'make it happen'. Build this activity into your weekly routine. 8. Be Different: Do something out of the ordinary. Perhaps change your style of clothing; take a different route to work; have a conversation about something you wouldn't usually talk about; go to the gym at a different time. Shake up your routine in some way. As you shift into the zone of new experiences, treat this as a ‘Field Experiment on Self’. Record your observations. What did you enjoy about doing things differently? What interesting things happened? How can you create more 'differences’ that bring you a greater sense of balanced well-being? Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way thingsare. When you realizethere is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you. Lao Tzu These simple, yetpowerful ways to find balance will help you maintain equanimity so that yourwell-being remains your priority. 9. Discover the ‘Nurturing Journey’: Tune into my insightful and inspirational conversation with Monica Douglas-Clark. AsI engaged with Monica, I felt serene, calm and peaceful. In our discussion, we touched on the role and importance of self-compassion and self-care. In my podcast you will learn about Monica’s passion for her initiative ‘The Nurturing Journey’, why she is known as The ‘Rebel Rev’ and how you can be a part of her journey. Links: satellitelifecoaching.com rebelrev.net self-compassion.org/ © Written by Rebecca Gordon. Rebecca is the CEO of Satellite Life Coaching,an Educator, Podcaster and a Lover of Life! If you would like to let people know aboutyour passion, initiative or have an interesting life story to share with theworld send me a message and I will send you info on how to be on the show. www.satellitelifecoaching.com
77 minutes | Mar 28, 2016
How to Be An Observer of Your Thoughts
More often than not we talk to others in a loving and kind way because we are mindful not to hurt their feelings. Yet how much care do we take to monitor our own self-talk that comes in the form of thoughts? Some time ago I attended a conference where John Kehoe explained this using the concept of Mind Power. Amongst the statements he made that day are: ‘thoughts are things’and ‘your thoughts know you, oh so well’. John raised awareness of how the mind can hold onto thoughts as absolute truths, even though they may be unhelpful or unconstructive. There are times when I have caught myself entertaining non-supportive mind chatter. Disempowering thoughts that start as a whisper, gradually turn into nagging, disapproving judgements such as: “I’m so stupid...!” “I can’t do this...!” “Life is hard...!” “I’llnever be any good at this....” “I’m an idiot...” Without disassociation that comes by consciously being an observer of the mind such conclusions remain unchallenged. Thoughts are allowed to weave their way deep into the psyche as their validity and accuracy is unquestioned. Thoughts that are repeated enough become beliefs that quickly translate into reality. Beliefs canthen be likened to magnets that attract conditions and situations into your life as the energy of the belief becomes an entity in the guise of a thought form. ‘Thoughts are things.’ Being an observer of your thoughts is to take responsibility for filtering unhelpful self-generated opinions that do not contribute to creating the vision of a satisfying life. The author of The Biology of Belief, Bruce Lipton expresses this poignant observation superbly: ‘atoms absorb the thoughts that we have, which when reflected in sound waves through the words that we utter, resonate within our bodies and are immersed within the chemical structure. This eventually leads to a manifestation of your reality, through the signals that your cells transmit.’ ‘I believe that 99.999 percent of the cells in my brain and body want me to be happy, healthy and successful.” Dr Jill Bolte-Taylor The focus then is on cultivating the 99.999 percent instead of feeding the 0.1 percent. Here are three tools that can help you shift the focus from the 0.1 percent onto the thoughts that matter the most. Tool#1 Sit upright or lay down on your back and place your palms up in the ‘open to receive’ position. Breathe in and out deeply several times. Raise this thought: “I AM open to receive all that serves my highest good that is coming my way. And it is so.” Repeat this aloud several times. Each time, feel the vibration resonate through your physical structure, your cells, your energy field. In your mind’s eye, imagine this vibration rippling out into the atmosphere and into the energy field of the Universe. Spend as much time that you need in this moment. Allow the Universe to send the assistance you need. Be open to what is presented, whether this be flashes of insights or synchronicities.The ripple effect of your positive thought will shift your perception and allowa new way to open up. By taking conscious steps to re-direct thinking life outcomes can radically shift. Tool#2 Make it your business to check in on your thoughts and challenge any beliefs that do not serve your highest good. Whenever you find your thought pattern getting comfortable in a negative feedback loop, be reminded that ‘your thoughts know you so well’. Your role is to present the challenge to interrupt the pattern. Ask yourself: What am I thinking about this? Is this thought helping me right now?What’s an alternative thought that I can choose? What are all the reasons that make this new thought absolutely true? Through this process of metacognition, in which you objectively think about your thinking, you become the observer. In this position you are better able to positively influence your reaction and actions that again will shift the energy and make a difference to the outcome. Tool#3 Thinking about something in an abstract way encourages creative ideas to spring forward. This is because the mind is stretched to discover new meaning beyond the obvious. In this way, new perspectives are uncovered with inspirational thoughts on how to resolve a problem or surpass a challenge. Use this Abstract Thinking Tool to stimulate your thinking when you are not sure what to do and need fresh ideas. Get your FREE Abstract ThinkingSelf-Coaching Tool here: bit.ly/1qbJLS2 How powerful it is to take a moment to challengeand change the internal script! I discussed this very thought with Emotional Re-set Coach and CBT Therapist, Joy Langley, founder of Catch A Thought who joined me in The Coaching Lounge. Joy provides practical strategies that help her clients feel more confident about relationships, inspires them to make dreams a reality and gives them a longer lasting sense of peace. Tune in to hear our thoughts on conscious mind management and how this can help you reach your full potential. Written by Rebecca Gordon, CEO of www.satellitelifecoaching.com.
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