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We're Talking About: Quick review of what Cognitive Dissonance is 8 of the most common damages caused by narcissists 12 common characteristics of NPD abuse victims ... and more < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Was This Show Helpful? Please leave me a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback! Thank you! Quick Update... We're on Instagram! Let's connect on Instagram @chooseyoupodcast. I'm constantly posting show updates, important NPD facts, and plenty of motivation to guide you along your journey to recovery. I hope to see you there! Do you have questions you want answered on an upcoming "Q & A Tuesdays" episode about NPD and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources. xoxo Carmen

We're Talking About: What a narcissistic boss or coworker looks like 10 tips to help make working with a narcissist more productive and tolerable When you should call it "quits" ... and more < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Was This Show Helpful? Please leave me a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback! Thank you! Quick Update... We're on Instagram! Let's connect on Instagram @chooseyoupodcast. I'm constantly posting show updates, important NPD facts, and plenty of motivation to guide you along your journey to recovery. I hope to see you there! Do you have questions you want answered on an upcoming "Q & A Tuesdays" episode about NPD and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources. xoxo Carmen

We're Talking About: I'll be going into depth about the narcissistic mother - the scariest and most harmful of all personalities. The mother's role in shaping us as individuals and how we fit into the world. 9 ways narcissistic mothers abuse their children - with explanations and stories from survivors. NOTE: The assistance of a professional and knowledgeable therapist, counselor, or coach to help you effectively progress through your healing and recovery... especially if you are working through childhood trauma, is strongly advised. < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Quick Update... We're on Instagram! Let's connect on Instagram @chooseyoupodcast. I'm constantly posting show updates, important NPD facts, and plenty of motivation to guide you along your journey to recovery. I hope to see you there! Was this show helpful? Please leave me a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback! Thank you! Do you have questions you want answered on an upcoming "Q & A Tuesdays" episode about NPD and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources. xoxo Carmen

Was this show helpful? Please leave me a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback! Thank you! Quick Update... We're on Instagram! Let's connect on Instagram @chooseyoupodcast. I'm constantly posting show updates, important NPD facts, and plenty of motivation to guide you along your journey to recovery. I hope to see you there! We're Talking About: Can things ever go back to the way they used to be? Can You Fix a Narcissist? Can they change for the better? With therapy? Or more love? Does the narcissist miss me after the breakup? < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Do you have questions you want answered on an upcoming "Q & A Tuesdays" episode about NPD and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources. xoxo Carmen

Was this show helpful? Please leave me a quick review on iTunes. Sharing what you like about this podcast helps other survivors who are looking for validation, facts, solutions, & support find us... not to mention how much I appreciate reading your feedback! Thank you! Quick Update... We're on YouTube! You can now subscribe and listen to this podcast on YouTube at https://carmensakurai.com/youtube This will eventually become the home of “Choose You” videos because some people receive information better with visuals, so whatever I can do to contribute to this cause... I hope to see you there! We're Talking About: Why NPD Education and No Contact is NOT Enough to heal 9 Action Steps I used to help move from survival mode - to REAL recovery How to Correctly do No Contact (FREE Downloadable Guide) And more… < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. Or call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. This Week's Worksheets (You get TWO!) Covers: The 9 Action Steps to help you move from survival mode - to REAL recovery Why No Contact Is REQUIRED How To Properly Do NO Contact How To Properly Do MODIFIED Contact Begin The Healing Process Why We Break No Contact And How To Successfully Defend It ... and more. >> Get the complete show notes, worksheets, & resources. Do you have questions you want answered on an upcoming "Q & A Tuesdays" episode about NPD and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. xoxo Carmen

I'll explain how to set strong boundaries - as well as how to consistently enforce them... especially during your journey to recovery. We're discussing: What boundaries are and how they protect us Types of boundaries Why some people naturally have strong boundaries while others have none set 4-Steps to begin establishing and enforcing powerful boundaries And more… < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. This week's worksheet includes: Comprehensive 10-step boundary creation Your custom boundaries chart Strategies to turn defending your boundaries into habit >> Get the complete show notes, worksheets, & resources. Do you have questions you want answered on the show about narcissistic personality disorder and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. Find this show helpful? Please leave a review. Thank You. xoxo Carmen Sakurai

I opened up the "Q&A submission form" recently and one of the most asked question is: I think I'm a narc magnet! How do I stop it? - so I wanted to dedicate an entire episode to answer this question. We're discussing: What types of people do narcissists target? The lesser known, scientific phenomena that draws the narc and victims towards each other What you can do now to protect yourself - regardless of where you are in your healing journey And more... < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Do you have questions you want answered on the show about narcissistic personality disorder and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. Find this show helpful? Please leave a review. Thank You. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources.   xoxo Carmen Sakurai

In this episode, I want to delve deeper in what exactly narcissistic personality disorder is, discuss the cause, and how the narc's distorted logic shapes their behavior. We're discussing: Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a very real illness. In the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, NPD is categorized as a cluster B personality disorder - along with psychopathy and sociopathy. Narcissistic Traits vs Narcissistic Personality Disorder (refresher) The cause of this disorder How this disorder affects the narc's logic and behavior And more... < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Do you have questions you want answered on the show about narcissistic personality disorder and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. Find this show helpful? Please leave a review. Thank You. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources.   xoxo Carmen Sakurai

I added another segment titled, "Q&A Tuesday" where I dedicate the entire episode answering listener questions. We're discussing: Can narcissists love? Can they love their children? Should I warn the new victim? The narcissistic ex was active in their church and charitable causes. Does this mean s/he has the ability to care about others? < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Do you have questions you want answered on the show about narcissistic personality disorder and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. Find this show helpful? Please leave a review. Thank You. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources.   xoxo Carmen Sakurai

The Holidays are here! I'm sharing ideas I personally used to survive the Holidays post-breakup. --- Resources from this episode: Grab my deliciously nutritious simple recipes on my foodie Instagram account @thegirlplusfood --- < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Do you have questions you want answered on the show about narcissistic personality disorder and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. Find this show helpful? Please leave a review. Thank You. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources.   xoxo Carmen Sakurai

We're discussing: I decided to create a segment titled, "Myth Busting" because there's an overwhelming amount of false information posted all over the internet... causing unnecessary grief to survivors who need solid information to help support their healing. The myth we will be busting today is: Narcissists Do Not Have Empathy. < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Do you have questions you want answered on the show about narcissistic personality disorder and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. Find this show helpful? Please leave a review. Thank You. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources.   xoxo Carmen Sakurai  

We're discussing: How narcissists are able to move on so quickly after the breakup of even a serious, long term relationship What it means to be loved by a narcissist What it means when the narcissist flaunts your “replacement.” And more… < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. Do you have questions you want answered on the show about narcissistic personality disorder and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. Find this show helpful? Please leave a review. Thank You. >> Click here for complete show notes and resources.   xoxo Carmen Sakurai  

My goal for this episode is to give you the validation you need during this frightening and confusing time... as well as the basic understanding of what narcissistic personality disorder is, and the damages they cause. We're discussing: Narcissistic Manipulation Tactics Narcissistic Traits vs. Narcissistic Personality Disorder Why Narcissists Do What They Do Emotional Empathy vs. Cognitive Empathy Post NPD Breakup: Disbelief and Denial Types of Narcissistic Abusers And more… < ! > If you are in a life-threatening situation, call the 24-hr National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1.800.273.8255 or the 24-hr Crisis Text Line by texting “HELP” to 741-741. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. This week's worksheet includes: List of Damages Caused by Narcissists Common Characteristics of Victims of Narcissistic Abuse A Printout to Remind You that YOU are the Source of Your Love, Strength, and Identity… not the narc.   >> Get the complete show notes, worksheets, & resources. Do you have questions you want answered on the show about narcissistic personality disorder and recovering from narcissistic abuse? Send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com. Find this show helpful? Please leave a review. Thank You.   xoxo Carmen Sakurai  

Welcome to the Choose You Podcast. A weekly audio coaching program to provide survivors of narcissistic abuse with validation, solid answers, and real-life solutions to help heal and break free from this dangerous cycle. Hosted by Certified Life Strategist and advocate for victims of narcissistic abuse, Carmen Sakurai If you have questions you want answered on the show about narcissistic personality disorder and recovering from narcissistic abuse, send me a message at dearcarmen@carmensakurai.com.