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“Gratitude is an attitude of the heart. It brings energy to the spirit and it does wonders for communication between people.” – Brian Buffini Gratitude is one of the cornerstones of the good life and the bedrock on which true success rests. In this episode, Brian teaches how a focus on gratitude can be transformational not only at Thanksgiving, but all year round. He provides strategies to embrace, express and receive gratitude and explains why, no matter life’s challenges, there is always something to be grateful for.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why gratitude must be expressed, not just felt. Why it’s vital to write down the things you're thankful for. Why gratitude is an attitude of the heart.   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” — Cicero “It costs nothing to say ‘please’ or ‘thank you.’” — Therese Buffini  “Gratitude and entitlement cannot exist at the same time.” — Brian Buffini “Gratitude can turn common days into Thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” — William Arthur Ward “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” —Melody Beattie   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

 “Mental toughness is a core characteristic for the mindset, motivation and methodologies of success.” – Brian Buffini You need to be mentally tough to conquer life’s many challenges. In this episode, Brian teaches how to develop the kind of mental toughness that will impact and improve every aspect of your life, set you apart from your competition and help you to live the good life. Topics discussed include: why entitlement is such a problem, why training must be ongoing and why gratitude is so important.   YOU WILL LEARN: Symptoms of our culture’s softness. Models of mental toughness in today’s world. Strategies to develop mental toughness.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Episode 066, An Interview with Brian Tracy – The Living Legend of Personal Growth The Pathway to Mastery–Essentials The Pathway to Mastery–Advanced “The Emigrant Edge,” by Brian Buffini Episode 025, The Power of a Made-Up Mind “Man's Search for Meaning,” by Viktor E. Frankl   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison “The future belongs to the competent. Get good, get better, be the best!” – Brian Tracy “When I'm training, I'm learning. And when I'm learning, I'm growing. And when I'm growing, I'm happy.” – Brian Buffini “I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” – GK Chesterton  “If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude towards it.” – Maya Angelou “A human being whose mind is made up is a force of nature in this world.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“When you succeed, you're much more capable of helping others.” – Nido Qubein In life, the choices that you make determine everything about you. In this episode, Brian interviews Nido Qubein about the life choices that have fueled his phenomenal success and his passion for helping others. Nido reflects on his journey from penniless immigrant to renowned entrepreneur and educator; advises how to help young people achieve in today’s world; and provides words of encouragement for those struggling during this challenging year.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why you must give back when you achieve success. Why energy management is more important than time management. Why you must always be hungry to learn and grow.    MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: http://www.nidoqubein.com/ “The Greatest Salesman in the World,” by Og Mandino “The Present,” by Spencer Johnson “The Aladdin Factor,” by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen “The Sound of Music,” movie Episode 201, This Too Shall Pass - An Interview with Dr. Lawrence Yun   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “How you change is how you will succeed.” – Nido Qubein “Focus is more important than intelligence.” – Nido Qubein “There are two pains we’re all going to suffer from in life. One is the pain of discipline. One is the pain of regret. Which would you rather have?” – Nido Qubein “Our beliefs lead to our behaviors; and our behaviors lead to our results.” – Nido Qubein “Whining is the opposite of thanksgiving.” – Nido Qubein   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“Focus on being the best and having the best life that you can. And then be a shining example of that.” – Brian Buffini In today’s uncertain world, it’s more important than ever to try to be positive and optimistic. In this episode, Brian teaches strategies to stay upbeat in the face of difficulty. Topics discussed include: why reading is vital, the importance of factual and unbiased information resources, and why a focus on the five circles of life helps to combat fear and negativity.   YOU WILL LEARN: How to eliminate the negative. How to accentuate the positive. How to mind your business.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “Accentuate the Positive,” by Bing Crosby and The Andrews Sisters “Crucial Conversations,” by Kerry Patterson et al Episode 161, Never Split the Difference with Chris Voss “Never Split the Difference,” by Chris Voss “Learned Optimism,” by Martin E.P. Seligman Episode 097, The Book That Made Me a Millionaire   “The Richest Man in Babylon,” by George S. Clason Buffini & Company 5 Circle Fit   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “If something gets you worked up, get it worked out.” – Brian Buffini “He who has learned to disagree without being disagreeable has discovered the most valuable secret of negotiation.” – Chris Voss “Miss a meal if you have to, but don't miss a book.” – Jim Rohn “You can make positive deposits in your own economy every day by reading and listening to powerful, positive life-changing content and by associating with people who bring hope.” – Zig Ziglar “Keep your attention focused entirely on what is truly your own concern and be clear that what belongs to others is their business, and none of yours.” – Epictetus “You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“The flexibility mindset can actually be one of the greatest gifts you get to embrace and use to change your life for the better.” – Brian Buffini If you want more freedom in your business and your life, you have to learn to be flexible. In this episode, Brian teaches how to embrace flexibility and more easily adapt to change. Topics discussed include: why homeostasis is the single biggest enemy to personal growth and development, why coaching is so effective at pulling people out of their comfort zones, why principles never change and why it’s vital to track and review progress.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why we can be so rigid in our lives. How we can adjust and pivot to become more flexible. How to live in a state of flow.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “The Shawshank Redemption,” movie “Chicken Soup for the Soul,” by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen Buffini & Company Referral Maker® CRM “One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way,” by Robert Maurer “Flow,” by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi “The Rise of Superman,” by Steven Kotler “Chariots of Fire,” movie   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Most everything that you want is just outside your comfort zone.” – Jack Canfield “Write your principles in pen. Write your plans in pencil.” – Brian Buffini “Just because you're flexible doesn't mean there's nothing you can count on. You can count on the principles.” – Brian Buffini “Plans are nothing. Planning is everything.” – Dwight D. Eisenhower “You can't use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” – Maya Angelou   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“You’re more ready for a quantum leap than you know.” – Brian Buffini If you want to make extraordinary breakthroughs and achieve higher performance levels, you must take action. In this episode, the second part of a session recorded live at MasterMind Summit, Brian takes a deep dive into how to make a quantum leap in your life. He explains why you should trust your gut, while also knowing the difference between your instincts and a whim; how your past successes can become your prison; and why you already have everything you need to make a quantum leap if you let others help you.   YOU WILL LEARN: What you have now that you didn’t have before. What a quantum leap is, and what it isn’t. What you need to do before you take the leap.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Buffini & Company MasterMind Summit “Chicken Soup for the Soul,” by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen “The Alchemist,” by Paulo Coelho The John Brockington Foundation   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “I would rather trust my gut and suffer failure than not trust my gut and have some moderate success.” – Brian Buffini “Every time you take a risk or move out of your comfort zone, you have a great opportunity to learn more about yourself and your capacity.” – Jack Canfield “Before anything else, preparation is the key to success.” – Alexander Graham Bell “Unsuccessful people make decisions based on their current situation. Successful people make their decisions based on where they want to be.” – Anonymous “Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience.” – Paulo Coelho     https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“If you keep showing up and doing the right things, opportunity comes for a quantum leap.” – Brian Buffini A quantum leap is the explosive jump that a particle of matter makes in moving from one place to another. In this episode, recorded live at MasterMind Summit, Brian teaches the steps you must take to make a quantum leap and experience extraordinary breakthroughs and higher performance levels in your life. Topics discussed include: why small additional efforts are so vital, what an expectation gap looks like, and why you must lean into who you are and where you come from if you want to grow exponentially.   YOU WILL LEARN: The obstacles to a quantum leap. How timing affects a quantum leap. The price you must pay for a quantum leap.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Buffini & Company MasterMind Summit “You ²,” by Price Pritchett “What Got You Here Won't Get You There,” by Marshall Goldsmith “The Compound Effect,” by Darren Hardy “Beware the Naked Man Who Offers You His Shirt,” by Harvey Mackay “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” by Dale Carnegie “Think and Grow Rich,” by Napoleon Hill “The Magic of Thinking Big,” by David Schwartz   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Competition is awesome. Comparison is lethal.” – Brian Buffini “You are a product of your environment. So, choose the environment that will best develop you toward your objective.” – W. Clement Stone “Build your empire on the firm foundation of the fundamentals.” – Lou Holtz “You have to elevate your associations in areas that you want to grow in.” – Brian Buffini “It is not easy to be a pioneer but, oh, it is fascinating! I would not trade one moment, even the worst moment, for all the riches in the world.” – Elizabeth Blackwell   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“I think if you want to build real wealth over your lifetime, the easiest way to do it is actually in real estate.” – David Bach Owning your own home is still one of the best ways to build wealth and achieve financial security. In this episode, Brian interviews bestselling author and financial expert David Bach about his new first-time homebuyer challenge course. David explains why his passion for homeownership inspired him to create the course and describes how each module builds a roadmap to help people go from renting to owning their own home. He also talks about his new life in Florence, Italy and shares how it is still possible to find opportunities to grow and succeed, even in uncertain times.    YOU WILL LEARN: Why there’s never been a cheaper time to buy or refinance a home. Why the fundamentals of financial success never change. How you can best serve your clients right now.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: First-Time Homebuyer Challenge https://secure.money.com/challenge/homebuyer/sign-up?v=v2 Episode 153, The Latte Factor with David Bach “The Latte Factor,” by David Bach “The Automatic Millionaire,” by David Bach The David Bach Show FinishRich David Bach on Instagram   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “When it comes to your money, boring is beautiful.” – David Bach “When everybody's telling you the world is coming to an end, you can also look for the opportunities.” – David Bach “You've got to find meaning in the mess.” – David Bach “You’ve got to work, not worry.” – David Bach “Right now, your business is to be in front of your clients, the ones you've already worked with. Love on them and check in with them.” – David Bach “Live rich now.” – David Bach   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“Young people can achieve great things. Especially when they cast off, not only the limiting beliefs of their elders, but actually the limiting beliefs they place on themselves.” – Brian Buffini Even in a challenging and sometimes negative world, young people can still do exceptional things. In this episode, Brian teaches how the youth of today can experience phenomenal success if they follow the 5 C’s of achievement. Topics discussed include why it’s important not to conform or be average and why having courage in the face of adversity can be the making of you.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why it’s vital to be curious. Why you will stand out if you’re courteous. How to build and develop your character.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Buffini & Company MasterMind Summit Episode 141, Manners Maketh Money “The Platinum Rule,” by Tony Alessandra and Michael J. O’Connor “The Wizard of Oz,” movie Episode 200, As a Man Thinketh Bryson DeChambeau   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you but yourself.” – Rita Mae Brown “Ancora imparo: I am still learning.” – Michelangelo “Courtesy is a small act, but it packs a mighty wallop.” – Lewis Carroll “Courage is nothing more than taking one step more than you think you can take.” – Brian Buffini “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired and success achieved.” – Helen Keller “Small little habits can be big changes.” – Brian Buffini     https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“It is the deepest form of courage you can have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror, learn about who you're looking back at and be willing to go and pursue who you were designed to be.” – Brian Buffini   We are all capable of achieving more in life. In this episode, recorded live at The Peak Experience, Brian teaches the formula for achievement, explaining how you can unlock your full potential and become who you’re supposed to be. Topics discussed include the symptoms of unfulfilled potential, why gratitude is a gamechanger and how you can leverage your assets.   YOU WILL LEARN: The two categories of a winning mindset. The three crucial elements of motivation. The systems, routines and methodologies of success.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Peak Experience   “Think and Grow Rich,” by Napoleon Hill “Emotional Intelligence,” by Daniel Goleman   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE:  “When you minimize what you've done, you minimize who you are.” – Brian Buffini “The world will knock you down plenty. You don't need to be doing it to yourself.” – Elizabeth Scott “Why? Why not? Why not you? Why not now?” – Jim Rohn “People often say the motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing. That's why we recommend it daily.” – Zig Ziglar “It is impossible to feel bitterness and gratitude at the same time. It is impossible to express gratitude and to feel envy. It is impossible to give somebody gratitude and at the same time feel resentment. It is impossible to live in a state of gratitude and a state of entitlement at the same time.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“The more people we can influence, the more people we can serve and help.” – Brian Buffini From negotiating to collaborating, you need persuasion to get anything done in life. In this episode, Brian takes a deep dive into the art of persuasion, focusing on two powerful books to explain how you can become better skilled at influencing others so you can serve and help them. Topics discussed include why our need to be right means we often miss opportunity, why we all want to feel heard and why empathy is so important. Also outlined are the six principles of persuasion you can use to give customers a nudge in the right direction.   Interested in becoming highly-skilled in the area of persuasion? Check out our training programs and see how Buffini & Company can help!   LEARN MORE   YOU WILL LEARN: Why you can't win an argument. Why people argue. Why great salespeople must be skilled at persuasion.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “How to Win Friends & Influence People,” by Dale Carnegie “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion,” by Robert B. Cialdini “Acres of Diamonds,” by Russell Conwell ESPN “30 for 30” documentary series Buffini & Company Heritage Profile “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” by Stephen R. Covey Episode 222, Choosing Hope in a Racially Divided Culture with Miles McPherson Episode 226, The Magic of Owning a Home Buffini & Company The Pathway to Mastery®   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.” – Dale Carnegie “If your mind isn't open, keep your mouth shut too.” – Sue Grafton “It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you're a fool than open it and remove all doubt.” – Mark Twain “Disappointment is unmet expectations. And the more significant the expectations, the more significant that disappointment.” – Brené Brown “To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times what people need is not a brilliant mind that speaks, but a special heart that listens.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald “There is a distinct lack of empathy in our culture. The more you practice it, the more successful you'll be, the more you'll stand out, the more persuasive you’ll be, the more impactful you'll be.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“When I have an alignment of my mindset of my head, if my heart is open and my hands are taking action, it unleashes my potential.” – Joe Niego The pathway to success is never straightforward – there are always bumps and bruises along the way. In this episode, recorded live at The Peak Experience, Joe Niego teaches how you can overcome obstacles, unleash your potential and skip down the road to true success, just like the characters in “The Wizard of Oz.” Topics discussed include the three reasons people trip up, the powerful affirmations you can use to help you succeed and why you should constantly try to take a position of humility as you learn, interact and assess your mistakes.   YOU WILL LEARN: The difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. How to keep an open heart on the road to success. How to step outside your comfort zone and be courageous.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “The Wizard of Oz” movie The Peak Experience “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success,” by Carol S. Dweck “Think and Grow Rich,” by Napoleon Hill Chicago LockDown youth basketball program   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Fears aren't bad, they're normal. The problem is when they paralyze us.” – Joe Niego “There's no such thing as failure, there's only feedback.” – Joe Niego “When the mind is weak, a situation becomes a problem. When the mind is balanced, the situation becomes a challenge. But when the mind is strong, the situation becomes an opportunity.” – Anonymous “When I practice being courageous and get outside my comfort zone, I’m more apt to be vulnerable, I’m more apt to be honest, I’m more apt to be humble. It unleashes everything else. Courage is huge.” – Joe Niego “The more courage we lean into, the more we get to where we want to go.” – Joe Niego “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“Our brains and our bodies are designed to connect with other people. We are hardwired to connect.” – Joe Ehrmann Scientifically and biologically, we are created to be in relationships, but it’s not always easy. In this episode, the fifth in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann discuss what it means to love unconditionally inside a healthy relationship. Topics include the three basic things that every person needs to connect with others, the vital importance of deep friendships and the reasons why our wounds can stop us from developing the sorts of intimate connections that we are designed to have.   READ FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT   YOU WILL LEARN: The qualities that exist in a loving relationship. How to love people who are difficult to get along with. Why you must always work on yourself first.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: InSideOut Initiative Gilman School HBO Real Sports, Part 2 “Season of Life,” by Jeffrey Marx   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “If we could ever address the lack of meaningful relationships with people in this world, we could deal with most of the social problems in this society.” – Joe Ehrmann “Friendship means you get face to face. You reveal your deepest, most intimate struggles and who and what you are.” – Joe Ehrmann “All relationships in one way or the other fall into two categories: It's either a relationship built around devotion, or it's a relationship built around duty.” – Brian Buffini “Relationships are always organic. You might have had a great loving relationship three weeks ago, but you’ve got to keep working on that relationship. It takes time. It takes commitment. And it takes investment.” – Joe Ehrmann   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

  “If you pay attention to a distraction, it is a very high price you pay.” – Brian Buffini It’s very easy to become distracted and lose focus in today’s fast-paced world. In this episode, Brian teaches how to avoid distractions, develop laser focus and become an on-purpose person who will win the day. Topics include how distraction dilutes concentration and energy, why multitasking isn’t necessarily positive, how to get back on task quickly if you get distracted and why a power hour can help you to complete short-term immediate action steps and gain momentum.      Click below for your Free Power Hour Sign! DOWNLOAD FREE RESOURCE   YOU WILL LEARN: The three enemies of focus. The three benefits of focus. Action steps to become more focused.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Episode 14, An Interview with Daniel Goleman The Peak Experience “Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence,” by Daniel Goleman Marilyn vos Savant Joe Niego “Flow,” by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi Buffini & Company Heritage Profile “For Want of a Nail,” poem “Invictus,” by William Ernest Henley   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Distraction means you miss out on life.” – Brian Buffini  “Focus is intentional; drift is passive.” – Brian Buffini “To be in hell is to drift: to be in heaven is to steer.” – George Bernard Shaw “Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun's rays do not burn until brought to a focus.” – Alexander Graham Bell “It is those who concentrate on but one thing at a time who advance in this world.” – Og Mandino  “It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go.” –  Jim Rohn   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“Our brains and our bodies are designed to connect with other people. We are hardwired to connect.” – Joe Ehrmann Scientifically and biologically, we are created to be in relationships, but it’s not always easy. In this episode, the fifth in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann discuss what it means to love unconditionally inside a healthy relationship. Topics include the three basic things that every person needs to connect with others, the vital importance of deep friendships and the reasons why our wounds can stop us from developing the sorts of intimate connections that we are designed to have.   READ FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT   YOU WILL LEARN: The qualities that exist in a loving relationship. How to love people who are difficult to get along with. Why you must always work on yourself first.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: InSideOut Initiative Gilman School HBO Real Sports, Part 2 “Season of Life,” by Jeffrey Marx   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “If we could ever address the lack of meaningful relationships with people in this world, we could deal with most of the social problems in this society.” – Joe Ehrmann “Friendship means you get face to face. You reveal your deepest, most intimate struggles and who and what you are.” – Joe Ehrmann “All relationships in one way or the other fall into two categories: It's either a relationship built around devotion, or it's a relationship built around duty.” – Brian Buffini “Relationships are always organic. You might have had a great loving relationship three weeks ago, but you’ve got to keep working on that relationship. It takes time. It takes commitment. And it takes investment.” – Joe Ehrmann   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“There is a joy and a fulfillment that you get every day in the pursuit of fulfilling your own potential.” – Brian Buffini  We all know we’re capable of achieving more in life, but how can we fulfill our untapped potential? In this episode, recorded in front of a live studio audience, Brian explains how you can use the gifts and talents you have in order to go farther than you ever imagined. Topics discussed include the symptoms of unfulfilled potential, why challenges and difficulties can bring out the best in you and the critical importance of written goals.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why your best is yet to come. What holds you back. How to get to where you want to go.   Free Business Consultation   If you feel like you’re not where you want to be right now and want to get to the next level, Buffini & Company can help! At Buffini & Company, we’ve been keeping the momentum going for years with thousands of small business owners across North America who benefit from our business coaching. Click the button above to schedule your free business consultation.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Schedule your free business consultation “The Best Is Yet to Come,” by Frank Sinatra “I Hate Christian Laettner” ESPN documentary Coach John Wooden Coach Lou Holtz   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “We've seen ourselves at our best. We've seen ourselves at our worst. And then we see ourselves, a lot of the time, kind of every day, kind of vacillating between the two. And the truth of the matter is, we know we're capable of more. We know we have some untapped potential.” – Brian Buffini “You were designed, you were built and you were created as a unique person with a unique set of potential and gifts and talents inside of you.” – Brian Buffini “There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” – Nelson Mandela “If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse.” – Jim Rohn “Envy is the ulcer of the soul.” – Socrates “Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they're afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, it carries a responsibility with it, it's much easier to procrastinate and live on the ‘someday I'll’ philosophy.” – Denis Waitley “It's impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you fail by default.” – J.K. Rowling “Success is almost totally dependent on drive. The extra energy required to make another effort or try another approach is the secret of winning.” – Denis Waitley “People often say motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing. That's why we recommend it daily.” – Zig Ziglar “Most people want to change their circumstances but don't want to change themselves. But changing yourself is where the magic is. That's where the value is.” – Brian Buffini   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“Healing is a lifestyle. It's a lifelong journey to process this.” – Joe Ehrmann Healing is a continual journey, with many ups and downs along the way. In this episode, the fourth in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann teach the process of healing and explain why it will help you experience fuller relationships and ultimately find your transcendent cause and purpose. Topics discussed include why it’s vital to verbalize your wounds and share them with someone you trust, why you must question the beliefs behind your emotions and why the discipline of journaling is so helpful in digging for truth.     READ FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT   YOU WILL LEARN: Six steps to heal from the wounds of your past. Why pain is a part of healing. Why healing yourself positively impacts others.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: InSideOut Initiative   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “There's a certain reality that whatever we resist is going to persist in our life. The more we avoid, or deny or suppress the wounds of our life, the more they continually show up.” – Joe Ehrmann “The mind or our subconscious doesn't hide things from itself. They continually stay there. They keep playing. Those old wounds and the messages that came from those wounds continue to play.” – Joe Ehrmann “We need someone in our lives that we can share this journey with, this healing process with. Someone with whom we can share our most intimate and deepest secrets.” – Joe Ehrmann “Life really is about digging for the deeper truth and the meanings of life.” – Joe Ehrmann “You've got to give yourself permission to really feel what you feel. Emotion is energy.” – Joe Ehrmann “You've got to keep digging deeper into the truth, into belief systems, and see whether they're true or whether they're false. Don't let emotional discomfort determine for you whether something is true or false.” – Joe Ehrmann   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“If you try to build intimacy with another person before you've done the difficult work of getting whole on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself.” – Dr. Les Parrott Your relationships with other people are only as strong as you are. In this episode, Brian talks to best-selling author and relationship expert Dr. Les Parrott about his new book, “Healthy Me, Healthy Us,” and discovers why the single most important thing you can do to improve your relationships is to become a whole and healthy individual yourself. Topics discussed include how Les and his wife Leslie have worked together for decades to help improve people’s relationships, including cofounding the dating website eharmony.com; the importance of humility and getting feedback from others; and the value of conflict and fighting fair.   YOU WILL LEARN: Why profound significance is so vital. How you can lean into unswerving authenticity. Why you must nurture self-giving love.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: www.lesandleslie.com “Healthy Me, Healthy Us,” by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts,” by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott “Love Talk,” by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott “The Parent You Want to Be,” by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself,” by Shad Helmstetter “The Purpose Driven Life,” by Rick Warren “Learned Optimism,” by Martin E.P. Seligman “The Shawshank Redemption” movie “Good Will Hunting” movie “Dead Poets Society” movie www.eharmony.com   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “Relationships are the hub of the wheel.” – Dr. Les Parrott “No one was designed to complete you. That's the work that you have to do.” – Dr. Les Parrott “Awareness is curative. Once you become aware, then you can do something about it.” – Dr. Les Parrott “Unswerving authenticity is all about knowing your purpose, following that path and not just walking down that path, but running down that path.” – Dr. Les Parrott “Just being yourself is good enough to be great.” – Brian Buffini “We have opportunities to walk the extra mile in big ways and little ways.” – Dr. Les Parrott “The happiest homes are the homes that are filled with an abundance of mutual empathy.” – Dr. Les Parrott “Conflict is the price we pay for deeper intimacy.” – Dr. Les Parrott   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“Empathy is part of our human nature. It's the capacity to feel what other people are feeling. It's what separates animals from human beings. It's part of our nature; but it also has to be nurtured.” – Joe Ehrmann If we don't address the wounds that we experience in life, we will go on to similarly wound others. In this episode, the third in a special series of six, Brian and Joe Ehrmann discuss why developing empathy for ourselves and others is a crucial step in helping us to understand and move forward from the hurts of the past. Topics discussed include why we often build rigid defense mechanisms and destructive life patterns to cover our wounds, how we can transform these patterns and become wounded healers and what role faith takes in this journey.   READ FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT   YOU WILL LEARN: How a lack of empathy manifests in society. The differences between positive and negative empathy. Why journaling helps to make sense of the journey to healing.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: InSideOut Initiative   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “If we don't enter into the woundedness of ourselves; if we don't identify and name our own life patterns; if we don't see the destructive behaviors that come out of that woundedness, we become the wounders.” – Joe Ehrmann “We take the people we love, the people we want to be invested in and that we care about, and we can't help but wound them because we haven't addressed our own woundedness.” – Joe Ehrmann “You have to take that first step of entering those wounds with a sense of empathy.” – Joe Ehrmann “One of the missing pieces in America is a lack of empathy. We do victim blaming, we have apathy and indifference. But we've got to learn how to develop positive empathy for people, their situations and, particularly, for ourselves.” – Joe Ehrmann “They always say the most competitive sport in America is parenting.” – Joe Ehrmann “You've got to take those wounds from your past and heal them so you can move forward.” – Joe Ehrmann   https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave

“No matter what you've lost, you can rebound.” – Brian Buffini We all experience loss in life, but getting back up after a fall is the most powerful thing we can do. In this episode, Brian shares timeless principles for recovering after loss. He describes how he experienced failure on his own journey to success, how he rebounded and came back stronger than ever and how it’s possible for everyone to do the same. Click below for your copy of The 10 Ancient Scrolls for Success. DOWNLOAD FREE RESOURCE   YOU WILL LEARN: The value of the ‘I did it before, I can do it again’ mindset. The power of reserves. The importance of investing in the future.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: “The Greatest Salesman in the World,” by Og Mandino “Miracle” movie President Jimmy Carter’s speech “Man's Search for Meaning,” by Viktor E. Frankl “The Richest Man in Babylon,” by George S. Clason   INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE: “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor Frankl “Do you have to experience a loss to learn? No, it just turns out that failure is the greatest teacher of all.” – Brian Buffini “I never lose. I either win or learn.” – Nelson Mandela “I'm the only person I know that's lost a quarter of a billion dollars in one year. It's very character-building.” – Steve Jobs “Mostly it is loss which teaches us about the worth of things.” – Arthur Schopenhauer “The lessons we learn in sadness and from loss are those that abide. Sorrow clarifies the mind, steadies it and forces it to weigh things correctly. The soil moist with tears best feeds the seeds of truth.” – Theodore T. Munger “Blaming others and shaming yourself is going to do nothing for you; but you can learn from loss.” – Brian Buffini “If you neglect to recharge your battery, it dies. And if you run full speed ahead without stopping for water, you'll lose momentum to finish the race.” – Oprah Winfrey “We must always change, renew, rejuvenate ourselves; otherwise, we harden.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe “And that's what I'm going to tell you the biggest lesson is about loss. It either makes you better, or it makes you bitter.” – Brian Buffini “Worry is a waste of an emotional reserve.” – Ayn Rand “You have the power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius “The first copper you save is the seed for which your tree of wealth shall grow.” – George S. Clason “Only buy something that you'd be perfectly happy to hold if the entire market shut down for 10 years.” – Warren Buffett   “The single greatest edge an investor can have is a long-term orientation.” – Seth Klarman “It was never my thinking that made the big money for me. It was always my sitting.” – Jesse Livermore “Never invest in a business you can't understand.”  – Warren Buffet “No stock, no bond, no business has ever produced bigger results than myself.” – Brian Buffini “You gotta know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em.” – Kenny Rogers “It's not how hard you fall. It's how high you bounce.” – Tom Kelly     https://www.TheBrianBuffiniShow.com http://www.brianbuffini.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_buffini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brianbuffini Twitter: https://twitter.com/brianbuffini Theme Music:  “The Cliffs of Moher” by Brogue Wave