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While the Breakup Monologues team await the return of live shows, Rosie presents a few highlights from episodes recorded in 2019 at Kings Place and Port Eliot Festival. Featuring Miranda Sawyer, Carly Smallman, Nat Luurtsema, Kate Leaver and Abigail Tarttelin on sexual health misdiagnosis mishaps, friendship breakups and much more.    If you listen to The Breakup Monologues, please go to www.podcastviews.com and fill in the short survey. You could win a £50 Amazon voucher.    You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

In this bonus episode, Rosie is joined by comedian and podcaster Kate Cheka to discuss how social distancing and lockdown are affecting the dating scene in Berlin and what happens when you move in with someone you’ve only just met. If you listen to The Breakup Monologues, please go to www.podcastviews.com and fill in the short survey. You could win a £50 Amazon voucher. You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram

In the second part of a special mini season, Rosie hears your stories about the ways in which drugs we currently take (such as SSRI antidepressants, contraceptive pills and recreational drugs like alcohol) are influencing our romantic choices and asks whether you would ever take a love drug. Contributors include comedian Kate Smurthwaite, author Abigail Tarttelin and podcaster Caitlin Durante. This podcast includes content funded by the British Podcast Awards and the Wellcome Trust. You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues You can subscribe to The Breakup Monologues wherever you get your podcasts including in these places: Apple Podcasts Spotify Libsyn RSS Feed

In the first part of a special mini season, Rosie is joined by Brian D. Earp, author of Love is the Drug, to discuss the ways in which drugs we currently take (such as SSRI antidepressants, contraceptive pills and recreational drugs like alcohol) are influencing our romantic choices. How could SSRIs and MDMA be used either to help us stay in a long-term relationship or to reduce the traumatic effects of leaving one? How should these biochemical interventions work alongside actions like starting couples counselling or deleting your ex from Facebook? When will they be appropriate? What are the authentic emotions we should listen to? Could something like the memory erasure machine in the film Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind ever be a reality? Could we redirect our attraction from an unsuitable, unavailable person to someone else? Could a love potion, as depicted by Shakespeare, ever exist? Could this biotechnology be used to redirect a person’s sexual orientation? This podcast includes content funded by the British Podcast Awards and the Wellcome Trust. Keep an eye on this link regarding the status of our London events. You can subscribe to The Breakup Monologues wherever you get your podcasts including in these places: Apple Podcasts Spotify Libsyn RSS Feed You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by comedians Chris Neill and Faye Treacy to discuss glasses, exploding bras, looking for a dog after a breakup, being dumped while on a flight to New York to see your lover, dating apps, unrequited love, growing up queer and giving up drinking. Recorded at Poplar Union on Feb 13 2020.    The next London live recordings are at Kings Place on March 20 and April 24. Book tickets: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/    If you listen to The Breakup Monologues, please go to www.podcastviews.com and fill in the short survey. You could win tickets to the British Podcast Awards.    You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by comedians Lee Peart and Diane Spencer to discuss sex, open relationships, whether or not to cut off contact with an ex, whether the drama of toxic relationships can become addictive and getting breathalysed by the police while dressed in a cowboy outfit and a trench coat. Recorded at Poplar Union on Feb 13 2020.    The next London live recordings are at Kings Place on March 20 and April 24. Book tickets: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/    If you listen to The Breakup Monologues, please go to www.podcastviews.com and fill in the short survey. You could win tickets to the British Podcast Awards.    You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by comedian Matt Hoss and poet Kate Fox to discuss the role that outdoor swimming plays in our breakups, whether getting a dog ruins your sex life, the idea of liminality and the creative space that breakups open up, falling in love while going through a breakup, Richard Linklater’s Before trilogy and the bizarre experience of recording a podcast about breakups just down the road from your very recent ex’s house. Recorded at Podcast Social Club in Thirsk on Nov 23 2019.  Our next London live recordings are at Poplar Union on Feb 13. Book tickets: https://poplarunion.com/event/rosie-wilby-presents-the-break-up-monologues/ If you listen to The Breakup Monologues, please go to www.podcastviews.com and fill in the short survey. You could win tickets to the British Podcast Awards. You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by comedians Sadia Azmat, Kemah Bob and Mariana Feijó to discuss how polyamory changes the conversation around breakups, the stigma faced by divorced Asian women, sex with the ex, advising your mum to be poly, dating in a foreign language and the problems with serial monogamy. Recorded at Kings Place on Nov 8 2019. Our next live recordings are at Podcast Social Club in Thirsk on Nov 23. Book tickets: http://www.podcastsocialclub.com Our next London live recordings are at Poplar Union on Feb 13. Book tickets: https://poplarunion.com/event/rosie-wilby-presents-the-break-up-monologues/ You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by authors Helen Croydon and Luke Turner to discuss the new journeys and life adventures that we embark on in the wake of a breakup, bisexuality, forests, nature, running, extreme sports and the ex who takes all the CDs and cutlery and lands you with a speeding ticket when they borrow your car. Recorded at Kings Place on Nov 8 2019. Our next live recordings are at Podcast Social Club in Thirsk on Nov 23. Book tickets:http://www.podcastsocialclub.com You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by evolutionary anthropologist Dr Anna Machin and science communicator Charvy Narain to discuss the similarities between breakups and drug withdrawal, sniffing babies, divorce rates around the world, the increase in divorces among UK women over fifty, eating chocolate to recover from heartbreak, the ethics of love drugs and being dumped online versus face to face. Recorded at The Bullingdon as part of IF Oxford on Oct 23 2019.  The next London live recordings are at Kings Place on Nov 8. Book tickets: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/ We are also recording at Podcast Social Club in Thirsk on Nov 23. Book tickets: http://www.podcastsocialclub.com You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by academic, therapist and author Meg-John Barker, comedian and podcaster Iszi Lawrence and journalist Sharan Dhaliwal to discuss looking beyond the binary breakup scripts of needing to move rapidly from love to hate, relationship anarchy, placing a value on friendships and other types of connection outside of traditional romantic relationships, breakup language, bisexuality, biphobia, polyamory, labels, early sexologists, saving the world and much more. Recorded at Kings Place on Oct 11 2019. The next London live recordings are at Kings Place on Nov 8. Book tickets: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/ We are also recording at Podcast Social Club in Thirsk on Nov 23. Book tickets: http://www.podcastsocialclub.com You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by journalist and author Kate Spicer and comedian and podcaster Miranda Kane to discuss how dogs and cats bring levity into our relationships but disrupt our sex lives when they hog the middle of the bed, the transformative nature of breakups, how sex workers are depicted in the media and harnessing our sexual power. Recorded at Kings Place on Oct 11 2019. The next London live recordings are at Kings Place on Nov 8. Book tickets: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/ We are also recording at IF Oxford on Oct 23. Book tickets:https://if-oxford.com/event/the-breakup-monologues-with-rosie-wilby/ You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by comedian and author Katy Brand and journalist and broadcaster Miranda Sawyer to discuss how cultural influences from Dirty Dancing and Mary Poppins to James Bond books and Blondie influenced their early thoughts about love and sexuality, internet dates in the days of dial-up, how desire waxes and wanes during midlife particularly for women at perimenopause and how this can lead us to suddenly fancying someone totally inappropriate, how breakups can fuel our creativity... and a brilliant Brixton breakfast breakup story. Recorded at Port Eliot Festival on July 28 2019. The next London live recordings are at Kings Place on Oct 11 and Nov 8. Book tickets at https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/ You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues. Look out for Katy’s book I Carried A Watermelon (out on Oct 24)

Rosie is joined by comedians Robyn Perkins and Lynn Ruth Miller to discuss the third date rule, the evolutionary drives underpinning our relationship behaviours, lesbian divorce rates, participating in scientific sex research and online dating for the over-80s. Recorded at Kings Place on May 10 2019. The next London live recordings are at Kings Place in the Autumn (however you can also catch us at festivals in July). Book tickets at: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/ You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues 

Rosie is joined by advice columnist and author Beth McColl, presenter, writer and sex educator Alix Fox and author and comedian Viv Groskop to discuss micro-cheating, breakup ‘anniversary’ dates, fantasy celebrity shag lists, whether ghosting existed in the ‘olden days’ of fax machines and meeting in real life, what to do when love is just not enough and the hottest topic of all... lesbian polyamory in Teddington. Recorded at Kings Place on May 10 2019. The next London live recordings are at Kings Place in the Autumn (however you can also catch us at festivals in July). Book tickets at https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/ You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues 

Rosie is joined by former Labour adviser, columnist, commentator and comedian Ayesha Hazarika, Edinburgh Comedy Award nominee 2018 Olga Koch and journalist and author Kate Leaver (The Friendship Cure) to discuss friendship breakups, friendships with ex-partners, whether or not sex ruins a friendship, dating younger men, political breakups and more. Recorded at Kings Place on April 12 2019. The next live recordings are at Kings Place on May 10. Book tickets at: https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/ You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues 

Rosie is joined by comedians Debra-Jane Appelby and David Mills to discuss how divorce law has changed for trans people, 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell' non-monogamy agreements, coming out, marriage and more. Recorded at Kings Place on April 12 2019. The next live recordings are at Kings Place on May 10. Book tickets at https://www.kingsplace.co.uk/whats-on/the-breakup-monologues/ You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Ahead of more live recordings, Rosie presents some highlights from season 1: Podcaster and author Dolly Alderton and psychotherapist Liz Bentley on ghosting, comedians Sofie Hagen and Brett Goldstein on rollercoaster relationships, author Isabel Losada on enriching her sex life and comedians Kate Smurthwaite and Joe Sutherland on new relationship language.  The next live recordings are at Kings Place on April 12 and May 10. Book tickets at http://bit.ly/RosieWilby-KP You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues 

Rosie is joined by evolutionary psychologists Diana Fleischman and Geoffrey Miller who discuss their polyamorous relationship, how being poly can help you to have ‘better’ breakups, whether a primary partner can or should help you through a breakup with another lover and why men might be keener than women to stay in contact with an ex. Recorded at Kings Place on March 15 2019. The next live recordings are at Kings Place on April 12 and May 10. Book tickets at: http://bit.ly/RosieWilby-KP You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues

Rosie is joined by writers Lucy-Anne Holmes (Don’t Hold My Head Down) and Emily Hill (Bad Romance) and award-winning comedian Suzy Bennett to discuss breakup revenge stories, dating app horror stories, dick pics, sex festivals and getting a tattoo to cover up an ex-partner’s name. Recorded at Kings Place on March 15 2019. The next live recordings are at Kings Place on April 12 and May 10. Book tickets at http://bit.ly/RosieWilby-KP You can now follow The Breakup Monologues on Instagram @breakupmonologues