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People-pleasing isn't a character trait or, for that matter, a personality trait that we are born with. In fact, people-pleasing is a belief, a set of thoughts that we as women are socialized to. More precisely, we aren't socialized or educated to be people-pleasers… we are socialized to be "good girls". The Good Girl Syndrome is like a character we are asked to play as women and from a very young age. As people identifying as women, we are socialized to be polite, modest, quiet, not to argue, not to fight, play within the parameters, and most importantly, fit the norm… Indeed, we are socialized to believe that we are responsible for other people's perceptions of us. Other people's perception of us is more valuable than our own opinion of ourselves.  So effectively, we are taught to be people-pleasers. But I'm not a people-pleaser... really? If you are thinking right: well, this is not me, BUT you are struggling to accept your body. I'm afraid to tell you, my sister, it's you. Women's relentless pursuit of the thin ideal and unwillingness to accept their bodies is grounded in our socialization to be good girls and meet others' expectations. This is why in great part, most people identified as men aren't affected by body image. Moreover, they can't even begin to comprehend why we care so much about what other people think of our bodies. That is to say, they aren't socialized the same as we are as people identified as women. It's not built in their belief system as it is for us. So, how does being a people-pleaser show up in other parts of your life? That's what we will unpack in this podcast episode. What you'll learn listening to this episode on people-pleasing: How women are socialized to be people-pleasers Understand the link between body dissatisfaction and people-pleasing The big lie fueling the desire to please others The 4 steps for women to free themselves from people-pleasing Mentioned on the show: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive

This podcast is going to be for every woman - every woman who has been targeted by dieting ads. I have chosen this title for a reason: "Tuning out the weight loss industry" instead of "tuning out diet culture" for a reason: to reach more women. When you are at the beginning of your journey shifting out of dieting, the word diet culture doesn't mean a thing… actually, for many, it means being on a diet. Diet culture is a new term that is not part of women's vocabulary, and for a good reason. As women, when we learn about the word "diet culture", it has a massive impact. In #5, I share the definition of diet culture for all the newbies. Tuning out the dieting noise is a choice This podcast intends to help all women make a choice.  A choice in the face of all the marketing from the weight loss, fitness, and wellness industry aimed at women and our bodies.  To help women make an educated choice about their body, how they live their life, the way they eat, and the way they take care of their mind, body, and soul.  For women to free themselves from the thought "but I have to "and trade it for "I chose to". What you'll learn listening to this episode tuning out the weight loss industry: 10 thoughts to consider as women when considering dieting. 10 tips for you to process the weight loss, fitness, and wellness marketing  Mentioned on the show: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive The Good Girl Syndrome

In need of healing your relationship to exercise? We 've got you sister!   The Reset Your Exercise Mindset Workshop taught by Kim Hagle Non-Diet Fitness Expert  This workshop will help you: Overhaul your exercise mindset Transform how think and feel about exercise The motivation secret without punishment Live Event Held January 15rd. Can’t attend live? No problem we recorded it all for ya! Hosted by Kim Hagle Fitness Expert Join us before January 29th to have access to this game changing workshop: https://www.stephaniedodier.com/conquerandthrive/     

“I want to move with joy” “I want to get out of the funk of not movement” “I know exercise is good for me… just can’t bring myself to do it” “How do I motivate myself to move more without dreading it.” That you are at the beginning stage of challenging the concept of dieting or an advanced intuitive eater that now wants to work on reclaiming their relationship to exercise. Or that you have made peace with food already and now want to tackle your relationship to movement. This podcast going to help you. How to move more I know for me I’ve known that I SHOULD exercise more often for decades… and my solution for years has been to sign up for a gym membership and resorting to using discipline, punishment, and willpower to force me into the gym until, just like dieting it didn’t work. Diet culture has taught us to jump into action… without ever asking why and how we got there in the first place is the reason why we keep repeating the same patterns time after time. Find the place to start is to find the reason(s) why we resist exercise…. That’s the starting point of reclaiming the joy of movement. What you’ll learn listening to this episode: Why we resist exercise The power of changing vocabulary The simple process to create more movement action in your life My movement goals for 2021 and game plan MENTIONED ON THE SHOW: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive

"Nothing is easy for the unwilling."  When we set a goal or desire to change an aspect of our life or self, we often get “stuck” into inaction.  The fear of taking action in the unknown and the paralysis into stagnation is normal. It’s present for most of us women. This fear is a normal reaction from our brain to command us into staying put instead of moving ourselves into the unknown.  It’s our brain’s duty to prevent us from taking action.  To create any new result in your life: becoming an intuitive eater, accepting our body, career advancement,... ANY CHANGE.  Being willing to be willing  You have to be willing to do two things:  Feel your emotions Change your perspective on failure  And if you are unwilling to face your fears and emotions, then forward progress on improving your quality of life will not be easy.  You have to be willing to tell your brain: Hey brain, I get it, it’s your job to keep me safe and avoid the unknown & anxiety of newness, but moving forward, I’m willing to feel these emotions because I really want what’s on the other side. The new result.  That’s what we call managing your brain. First module inside Conquer and Thrive.  As women, we are socialized to be good girls. To be perfect. To obey the rules and perform them perfectly. That’s why we unconsciously chase the thin ideal. We’ve been told over and over by our mom, that is the gold standards body type as women. So as good girls we chase that perfection… relentlessly even if it makes us feel terrible.  To motivate this relentless chase of perfection, women are socialized to see failure as the most terrible thing that can happen to us. Any failure in our relentless pursuit of perfection means that we aren’t worthy and that we have failed dieting.  Questions to ask ourselves to become willing I’ll be leaving you with these thoughts to reflect on:   Are you willing to redefine failure?  Are you willing to see the fear-based thoughts your brain will offer you when thinking about the new goal and be the observer of these thoughts?  How about being willing to see it’s not your thoughts but the socialization thoughts from patriarchy and diet culture?  Are you willing to feel the fear that your brain will present to you and still take action towards your goal?  Are you willing to take a chance on yourself?  How about being willing to bet on yourself that you too can achieve THIS new goal?  Are you willing to be willing to have the intention to be willing to be willing?  Are you willing to be willing to bet on yourself?  If you are, we here for you, sister… come and join us inside Conquer and Thrive and we will support you in your journey of being willing.  What you’ll learn listening to this episode:  Why the perfect next step from podcast 266 – Goal Setting  You are not your body or your brain...   The two elements needed to create new result in your life  Why women have a faulty concept of failure  How we can start to be willing to be willing  Mentioned on the show: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive

Smart Goals are to goal setting what dieting is to Diet Culture. For years, I set goals the diet Culture way… you know, the SMART GOALS. Every year the pattern repeated itself. Give up by the 5th week. Just like diet culture, SMART goals are anchored on external results, accomplishment of actions, grounded into avoidance of failure and perfectionism. It’s archaic, sexist and builds on elitist principles. Just like dieting doesn’t work, SMART goals do not work because it disregards how humans function. It requires constant willpower, which we know to be a limited resource, so when willpower runs out, action-driven goal setting techniques stop working. In today’s episode, we are going to discover the right way of setting goals for women: the diet-culture-free way to set goals. What you’ll learn listening to this episode: Why SMART goals don’t work How I created my life against all odds  My business success in 2020 in the middle of a pandemic What is the diet-culture-free goal-setting process Mentioned on the show: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive

“It feels terrible as a mom to put yourself first... it’s easy to say self-care when you don’t have kids”. This is such a sensitive topic for moms... Me, the single woman with no kids telling them to take time for themselves. I have avoided doing a topic on this subject because let’s face it, it’s true: I don’t get it. That’s until today... I have a guest expert who can speak about this from a lived experience. She’s a mom of 3 kids under 12, with a professional career and now starting a business. Unyime gets it. Unyime Oguta is our guest today. She’s a Non-Diet Nutritionist, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor and a student of mine. She’s just about to graduate from our Non-Diet Mentorship program. What you’ll learn listening to this episode on mom's guilt: Why balance is B.S... The disease of “Shoulding yourself” The toxicity of “getting your body back”... How to no longer feel guilty around taking care of yourself The way to feed my family healthy while trusting my children’s choices How to do self-care as a mom Mentioned on the show: Free Guide from Unyime Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive Connect with our guest: Website and Free Guide Instagram Facebook

This is going to be a fun episode... I’m answering 25 questions our listeners have submitted. Short to the point answer on all subjects related to the non-diet approach...   You’ll get an answer for each of these 25 non-diet approach & business questions.    You keep referring to PROs... I’m a health coach so I’m not a professional right?  How do I make money as a non-diet coach? How do I  create a stable income so I have no doubt in my income?  I can’t launch my BIZ until I’m perfect in my IE and BI?  How to convince my clients this is the right approach?  How do I reassure my clients that it’s ok not to diet?  How do I figure out my ideal client and how do I speak to them?  Simple marketing process, please...  How to answer body image questions?  Because of COVID, people aren’t willing to buy anything, should I wait to launch my BIZ?  Scope of practice?  I’ve never been on a diet but I eat whole food and organic food. Or I make healthy choices normally? Can I teach intuitive eating?  How do I find a scientific way to promote IE?  How do I incorporate nutrition science in IE?  Outline a 1-1 session with a client?  How do you present a problem to a client without being insensitive?  I’m afraid they are going to think I think it’s all in their head?  How much free stuff do I need to give?  How do I use my communication to get more clients?  Quality versus quantity marketing?  How do I get myself out there?  How do I get my clients to see value in me as a coach?  Covid is making things challenging? Nothing I can do…  I have a tendency to make things complicated… how do I resist it?  I’m on social media and nothing is happening... Why?  If a client doesn’t reach her goals, what does it mean about me as a coach?   Ready? Let’s do this Non-Diet Q&A! Mentioned in the show: PRO Mentorship Program Free Intake Forms PRO Series - Free Training & Resources PRO Podcast Series - Full Listing

The end of a year in our current culture serves as a point of reflection: what went well, what didn’t go so well, for me what I’ve learned….what we accomplished and then we also use this time to set ourselves goals, objective, intention for the new year. This process of reflection and intention setting is a very powerful process for us and should be done. Dec 1 is typically the date when the real hardcore holiday marketing frenzy takes over mass media, and right now, we’re about to be hit by New year's resolutions, new year's diets… lose the COVID 19…  Our bodies and our health will not be spared in the process. We will be hard press to set weight loss goals, just like every year. Some messages will be direct: weight loss directly while others will be about our health with an undertone of “ If you focus on your health, you will lose the unhealthy weight”… I call this the politically correct way to focus on weight loss. Maybe it’s the narrative in your own mind… you don’t need marketing to get yourself to think about setting “body” goals for 2021. This podcast intends to explore both sides of the coin to make an educated decision for yourself. Although published in December, this podcast is relevant all year. Now, because a great proportion of us use the new year period to reflect on the past and future, I thought this might help many of you think thru your “body” goals for 2021. Let’s do this! What you’ll learn listening to this episode on health goal versus weight loss goal: How to define health sustainably Why we desire to lose weight What it means to chase health  Mentioned on the show: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive Feminism & Diet Culture Article Health Beyond Dieting Article Study

The Non-Diet Business Mindset discourse is vastly different from the traditional business mindset discourse you might have heard. Why? Simply because the same system of oppression that is in place to keep women stuck in diet culture is present in the business world. One of our guest expert teachers, Dr. Michelle Mazur is Ph.D. in sales psychology as an expert coined the term “Bro Marketing” to describe this phenomenon. This episode gets very heated… there are 3 solid rants that may trigger you. I want you to remember that triggers are only a sign for us to look deeper and see where we can upgrade and grow. Ready? Let’s do this! What you’ll learn listening to this episode: 9 Business Mindset Tips the non-diet way Why mindset is the most important aspect of our business as non-diet practitioners What does it mean to put our feminist hat on in our business The #1 enemy of your business growth is not what you think Mentioned in the show Conquer & Thrive Professional Limited Edition Free Intake Forms PRO Series - Free Training & Resources PRO Mentorship Program PRO Podcast Series - Full Listing

My journey with exercise has been chaotic for most of my life. Dieting really screwed up my relationship to exercise as much as it f*cked up my relationship to food. When I first entered the world of Health At Every Size and Intuitive eating the concept of Joyful Movement sent me straight into cognitive dissonance. And then I quickly realize that as much work I needed to do to change how I perceived food and my food habits I needed to do the same work with exercise. I had to make a conscious decision to heal my relationship to exercise. I stopped waiting for prince charming to come and fix it all. If I was going to find ever find joy in moving my body I had to be intentional. Diet culture might have f*cked how I see exercise but it was up to me to unf*ck it. In this episode of the podcast Kim Hagle a mom of four and non-diet fitness expert is going to help us heal our relationship to exercise. Kim hosts The Intuitive Movement Show podcast and through her signature program Right Body for Me, she helps women discover joyful movement and motivation that lasts so they can heal their relationship to exercise and feel confident in their own skin. What you’ll learn listening to this episode: ⦁ How Kim went from being picked on by other kids to being a fitness professional. ⦁ The difference between movement and exercise ⦁ Is the gym police a problem for you? ⦁ The 10 principles of Joyful Movement ⦁ How to find motivation without punishment or “no pain no gain”... Mentioned on the show: The Motivation Secret Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive Connect with our guest: The Joyful Movement Podcast Website Instagram Facebook

What you'll learn listening to this episode on body image health coaching for women: Why we struggle with body image The impact of not being liberated from body image to you personally and on your business Why helping and coaching women through body image healing isn't about the how... The stages of healing body image Mentioned in the show: Conquer & Thrive Professional Limited Edition PRO Mentorship Program Free Intake Forms PRO Series - Free Training & Resources PRO Podcast Series - Full Listing

What to do when others talk about dieting when I’m trying to stop? How to not be jealous of other people's weight loss? How to handle my mom’s comment on my body? What about my family at gatherings and holidays so triggering? Can you relate? Although this episode was created around the American Thanksgiving holiday, this is applicable all-year-round. It’s good for family BBQs, friends dinners, office breakroom, or the Zoom room (2020 joke lol!), night out with girls… anytime, all the time! It’s a gem of an episode! You’ll want to replay it many times. What you’ll learn listening to this episode: Why you react when other people comment on your body How to not feel shame when other people comment on your body How to stop reacting when other people talk about diets & dieting The way you can change your core beliefs so you never again feel shame Mentioned on the show on other people's diet: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive

You have a degree or certification in hands and you are ready to get started. Or perhaps you’ve spent the last few years recovering your own relationship to food and body and you have a burning desire to share your journey with others. This podcast is for you! Our guest today is Stephanie Long, a Business Coach for Nutritionists and has helped hundreds of nutritionists start their own successful businesses. Stephanie is also the host of Next Level Nutrition Biz podcast. Her program, Launch Your Nutrition Biz, helps Nutritionists to launch their business and start bringing on clients! What you’ll learn listening to this episode on how to get started with your non-diet business Top 3 mistakes new practitioners make when starting their business The 5 things to consider when starting a new business The roadmap to starting your new practice Mentioned in the show: Stephanie's roadmap to get started PRO Mentorship Program Free Intake Forms PRO Series - Free Training & Resources PRO Podcast Series - Full Listing Connect with our Guest: Website Instagram  Facebook

I often get asked what is the difference between mindful eating and intuitive eating. While mindful eating teaches you to be present with your food experience, intuitive eating encompasses the whole relationship to food. Both are different and similar at the same time. Both are excellent and should be incorporated into one’s life. Based on your past experience with food one might be better than the other.  That's what we will discuss in today’s episode. What you’ll learn listening to this episode: The similarities between mindful eating and intuitive eating The difference between intuitive eating and mindful eating Which approach would be best for you individually. And a story about mindful eating. Mentioned on the show: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive

In the Non-Diet Mentorship, we change lives. Your life as a coach and the life of your future clients. We do it with ease, less time, and greater impact. We get success for our students and their clients. Let’s go behind the scenes of that success. Let’s hear from the current students of the Non-Diet Mentorship Program. We recorded a live session for this podcast just for you based on your questions: Did you feel scared before investing in your business? How did you overcome your fears of joining the program? Can you share your wins doing this program? Will the mentorship program help me structure my method of working with clients? I feel like a fraud…I can’t launch my BIZ until I’m perfect in my intuitive eating and body image? How do I figure my ideal client and how do I speak to them How do I use my communication to get more clients? I have a tendency to make things complicated… how do I resist it? If the clients don’t reach their goals, what does it mean about me as a coach? How do I make money as a non-diet coach? How to dismantle DC in wellness coaching? Get in touch with our guests Unyime Kim Lindsay Chanelle Amber Mentioned in the show PRO Mentorship Program Webinar & Steps to Build A Profitable Non-Diet Business Free Intake Forms PRO Series - Free Training & Resources PRO Podcast Series - Full Listing

Have you been told you shouldn’t be eating X or Y food for your health? As a good responsible patient, you’ve been trying your best to do so. But in secret, you obsess about the food that is “illegal” for you? You resent the fact that you can’t have sugar as a diabetic. Sometimes end up even end up overeating that “illegal food”. You struggle with “on plan” consistently. You may even feel guilty for not being “good enough” to control your urges. Not your fault! That one restricts foods for health reasons or for esthetic weight loss purpose, there is no difference to the human brain. Any form of restriction bears the same outcome: the desire to have what is forbidden. Fear-based tactics to willpower yourself into “good complaint behaviors” do not lead to sustainable results. That’s what diets are even if they are considered health-based diets. What’s the solution then? not restricting… I can hear you say  “that wouldn’t work my numbers would be crazy and my doctor would hate me”. Well… has restriction worked? The stress imposed by health focus diets is real and damaging to one’s health as much as eating the forbidden food. In the case of diabetic cortisol, one of the stress hormones has the power to increase blood sugar as much as sugar does. What if instead of restricting, labeling certain food as “bad,” feeling guilty, ashamed, you allowed all foods. Ate any food that made your body feel great and did it mindfully, slowly looking for satisfaction and noticing how your own body responds. Claiming back your autonomy over your own body and food choices. Using your agency to make decisions about food from a place of love instead of fear. Acknowledging your own power to do what’s right for you. I know you can. I trust you. Our guest today is Lindsay Sarson, a registered holistic nutritionist, professionally trained intuitive eating coach, host of the Intuitive Diabetic Podcast, and type 1 diabetic.  Lindsay is focused on helping type 1 diabetics ditch the diets and restrictions so that they can find food freedom and thrive in their skin today. What you’ll learn listening to this episode on intuitive eating and Type 1 diabetes The importance of emphasizing a healthy relationship with food over dieting protocols for diabetes care The power of intuitive eating in supporting diabetics as a health strategy How diet culture and wellness culture have influenced diabetes care - for the worse. The “All Food Fit” approach to type 1 diabetes The mission she is on to change diabetes Mentioned on the show: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive The Intuitive Diabetic Podcast   Connect with our Guest: Website Instagram Facebook

“I’m doubting my ability as a coach...How can I increase my confidence as a coach?”  A very frequent error health coaches make is to get more certification in order to be more confident in their coaching skills.  A new certification will not give you confidence.   Being A Confident Non-Diet Coach Confidence is an emotion. Confidence is a feeling.  Coaching confidence is a feeling of trust in your ability to coach your client.  When you feel confident about your coaching abilities, you typically are more successful. Successful in your client results and successful in making money in your business.  How does a coach increase the feeling of confidence in her coaching skills?  That is what we will answer in this podcast episode.  What you’ll learn listening to this episode on being a confident non-diet coach:  The big mistake I made in feeling confident as a coach when I first started  How to increase your confidence level in your practice  The framework that will help you nurture your confidence  6 rapid-fire coaching tips to increase your confidence as a non-diet coach.  Mentioned in the show: Beyond The Food PRO Mentorship Program Webinar Registration Free Intake Forms PRO Series – Free Training & resources PRO Podcast Series - Full Listing

"If you don't love it, don't eat it and if you love it, savor it". - Evelyn Tribole Satisfaction versus Fullness The difference between satisfaction versus fullness is how you can see that diet culture has invaded your journey through intuitive eating because satisfaction with food is always left off the non-diet way of diet culture. Food can be filling without being satisfying: Think of your last diet when you ate a bowl full of salad. You felt full. Your stomach was stretch out, full, but you weren't satisfied Why? You picked out the crouton and left the fresh amazingly-smelling baked bread on the table. Food can be satisfying but not filling, aka not trigger satiety. Think chocolate, chips, candy… Food satisfaction starts in our ability to give ourselves the unconditional permission to eat and evolve in our ability to know what makes us individually satisfied and enjoy our meal. Intuitive eating is based on our ability to feel satisfied with food. That’s the cornerstone of the intuitive eating process. Why is finding satisfaction with food so important? Satisfaction turns off the drive to eat more so than fullness. What you’ll learn listening to this episode: What is the difference between being satisfied and full The role of pleasure in your eating experience Why seeking food satisfaction is so critical The role of mindset is connecting with satisfaction Mentioned on the show: Podcast Roadmap Conquer & Thrive

One of the frequent questions from health coaches who encounter my work in the non-diet approach for the first time is this: How do I make money as a non-diet coach? I get it. I had the same question 6 years ago when I first came to the world of anti-diet health coaching. If we don’t tell people what to eat when to eat and how to eat, what will they pay us for? Right? To help answer this question, I’d like to give you an inside view into my anti-diet health coaching business more precisely what I wish I knew before starting my anti-diet health coaching business. In today’s episode, I’m going to share with you what I wish I knew before starting my anti-diet health coaching business. What you’ll learn listening to this episode about my anti-diet business journey: How I started my non-diet business What I wished I knew before starting my non-diet business My top 10 lessons over the last 6 years My biggest learning in this non-diet health coaching business Mentioned in the show: Beyond The Food PRO Mentorship Program Free Intake Forms PRO Series – Free Training & resources PRO Podcast Series - Full Listing