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This episode we will be discussing nuance in relationships. I will be talking about the importance of nuanced discussions, negotiations and understanding when it comes to relationships, consent, sex, gender and sexuality. Very little is binary in life. Nuance embraces the non-binary nature of our human interactions and especially intimate ones.

In this episode, I am answering questions written and called in by male identifying, non-binary & gender fluid people about sex and relationships and how to create the sex life that they desire. Questions run the gamut from how to recognise when a female identifying person is aroused to what to do if you are embarrassed about the bend in your penis.

I am joined by the author of The Fifth: A Polyamorous Love Story (MP Boisvert) and the translator (Monica Meneghetti) to talk about polyamory, non-monogamy, love and relationship styles. We will talk about the book and about the issues that arise with complex love relationships. The book was critically acclaimed in the original French and is getting lots of positive attention in the English translation.

In this episode, I answer questions about kink, kinky behaviour, bdsm and fetishes submitted by you! I am joined by Lorraine Ansell who will help me gather the questions and will no doubt have some opinions of her own.

In this episode we are discussing old slang for sex, sex organs and various types of sexual activities and we are starting with the 1930's term jumblef3ck which is slang for orgy. Join us for an irreverent episode!

In this episode, I discuss all things impact play. I will cover the joys of various types of play, implements, safe places to impact, different ways to impact and share some tips and tricks that make integrating impact play into your sex life pleasurable even when you are not into BDSM.

In this episode, I talk all about oral sex - giving head in all it's forms. I cover the history of some of the terms, and what makes magnificent oral for every kind of body part. Oral pleasure is not just foreplay. Kissing is some of the best oral sex there is and talking dirty... well that can be immensely exciting.

Dr Meg-John Barker joins me to discuss all things gender and non-binary. We will cover current cutting edge ideas about gender, why life can be and should be seen as non-binary, the basics of gender pronouns, understanding ambivalence and shades of grey. We will finish off the show with some tips and tricks to increase your ability to deal with the non-binary and live in the shades of grey or the rainbow of colour.

This episode we talk all about families that are consensually non-monogamous, the impact on children, the different ways these families are constructed, the benefits for everyone and combat some of the myths about this alternative way of living.

This week on the A to Z of Sex, E is for Erotic. We will talk about everything erotic and how to become more erotic. Socrates felt that eroticism was one of the four essential qualities needed for a life worth living. Eroticism was once considered a major way of learning about the world around us. It is only in modern times that eroticism seems to be downgraded and equated with all the negative forms (but not the positive forms) of pornography. Mistress Lucille is joining Dr Lori Beth Bisbey to talk about all aspects of the erotic. Dr Lori Beth will provide some tips to new patterns, new ways to approach the world that will increase your level of eroticism.

In this episode, we will talk about dealing with mismatched desire, lack of desire and what is perceived as too much desire. The cultural myths that many couples judge their sexual relationships by are flawed. Desire is impacted by all sorts of things and thinking about it in new ways can lead to far higher satisfaction in all areas of life.

This week we are talking censorship as terms of service for all social media become more and more narrow. I am talking with Viola Johnson about what the impact of this type of censorship is and where it comes from. We talk about the patriarchy. We talk about the value of openly available sex and relationship education. We talk about the importance of safe spaces to talk about sex and learn about sex. If this resonates with you, please donate to the crowdfunder http://atozofsex.co/crowdfund

We start our new series with an episode that defines what a leather house is and why we choose to live these life choices. I am joined by DK Green and Mr and Mrs Blue (of the House of Blue) and we combine all our experience to speak to the topic of leather and authority based relationships.

This episode I share views and laughs with the co-hosts of GoodSex/BadSex podcast - Miranda Kane and Bibi Lynch about relationships and Zoom during COVID and beyond. We talk about skin hunger and sex parties and what we miss and what we love. What are you missing?

This week I am talking to people about the wide range of kinks that are out there and how important tolerance and a non-judgemental attitude is to taking part in a community that serves so many different people. We will talk about toxic shame and how that can be redressed.

This episode I am joined by Shakir Rashaan to talk about sex and the internet. We are going to talk all about pornography, sex education and censorship and how social media treats all aspects of sex from the use of songs like WAP to an educator actually teaching what that means in real life to thirst traps, sex workers, and pornography.

We talk about the rise of surgeries to beautify the vulva and also about what is involved in construction of a vagina when having sex reassignment surgery

We hate receiving unsolicited pictures of genitals and inappropriate propositions on social media. Some f the approaches are so sad they are funny so I decided to have a show to talk all about what not to do when you are on a dating app, social media or any other time you are meeting someone and trying to interest them in a relationship with you. We cover pictures, messages and talk about the impact on people who have been previously traumatised or who have significant anxiety. We highlight what makes someone a wanker and encourage people to change their behaviour. Zayna Ratty joins me for this episode.

This week we will explore how we achieve understanding around our bodies, desire, our boundaries, strengths, weaknesses. We will spend time looking at all these areas