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What kind of emotional, mental, and social benefits could be cultivated in a space where a black woman is dominant over a white man? Listen to hear us talk about the dominatrix who requires the men who hire her to read black feminist theory. 👠Also, The Bonnet Black Collective is filming for Cut, a video production company with over 8.9 million subscribers on Youtube and we are excited as hell! Listen to find out which lineup we are going to be a part of. It's going to be lit! 😙On episode 7, Bonnet and Ivy are back to talk about where the hell we been all this time and if we should trust Jay Z's capitalist a**, if we need to quit our day job and become a PH model, how BDSM can be a form of self-care, how excited we are to film for Cut’s (GMS?) Lineup video, how prepping for our solo shows in October is causing a bish too much anxiety, and how excited we are to "go off" in L.A. later this month. Questions or suggestions? Send an email to tensegays@bonnetblack.com.Take a quick listener survey at our website bonnetblack.com and get shouted-out on an upcoming episode.Topic Links:Search Cut on Youtube Search Meet the Dominatrix Who Requires the Men Who Hire Her to Read Black Feminist TheorySeach Phsychology Today: Angela Day - Sex Therapist for Trans and Gay FolxSupport the show (https://paypal.me/misteriouslyme?locale.x=en_US)

Bonnet and Ivy are back to release some of that tension!On episode 6, we talk about our experiences going to the clinic, how gender can affect your health, Black Mirror trying us, and our Summer resolutions. This week we shout-out LGBTQ+ Pathways to Pregnancy: Using Donor Sperm to Build Your Family. Join the Family Equality Council for this relaxed, informative event. It is August 20th from 6-8:00pm at Gay City, Seattle's LGBTQ+ Center. This event is free but registration is required. We'd love to hear from ya'll! Share your tensions, self-care practices, or simply respond to anything we talked about and we will give you a shoutout on an upcoming episode. A big THANK YOU to Bonnet for serving us this soothing track for our intro and outro music!Send us an email at tensegays@bonnetblack.com.Join our newsletter and/or take a quick listener survey on our website at www.bonnetblack.com. It really helps us serve you better!Support the show (https://paypal.me/misteriouslyme?locale.x=en_US)

Bonnet and Ivy are back with another episode of Tense Gays! This time, on camera and with surprise guests! This is the audio recording of the video. To see our beautiful faces watch us on YouTube or on our website www.bonnetblack.com.For our main segments, we talk about what public display of affection is like for us and ponder on what is sacred to Black, queer folks in a world where African American and gay culture is continuously stolen and morphed into something that no longer serves the communities in which they originate from.We'd love to hear from ya'll! Share your tensions, self-care practices, or simply respond to anything we talked about and we will give you a shoutout on an upcoming episode. Big shout-out to music producer Misteriously Me for serving us this Bey/GTDJ's mix for our first video!Email us at: tensegays@bonnetblack.comwww.bonnetblack.comSupport the show (https://paypal.me/misteriouslyme?locale.x=en_US)

On Ep4 we talk about being Black and queer and how it can sometimes feel like we are not allowed to be mad or express ourselves fully in certain spaces. We also discuss what is and not appropriate to talk about or show in academic spaces in regards to sexuality. Shoutout to @sinclaire (on IG) for joining us and talking about what she's been up to with the Bonnet Black Collective. Before closing, we play a song produced by BBC producer Misteriously Me on Soundcloud.We'd love to hear from ya'll! Share your tensions, self-care practices, or simply respond to anything we talked about and we will give you a shoutout on an upcoming episode.Send us an email at tensegays@bonnetblack.com.We also give an early bird plug to a soul-touching show that we have been anticipating and is playing one day only; Black Bois, created by Artist Dani Tirrell. He writes "This dance piece... is a ceremony to our ancestors, and a thanksgiving to our past, present, and future. It is a love letter to our bodies, our spirits, and our minds. This is the story of our fathers, brothers, lovers, and friends. A healing space, a space to process, a space to love, a space to create and be." More info here.Support the show (https://paypal.me/misteriouslyme?locale.x=en_US)

Welcome to Tense Gays! Bonnet Black and Invictus Me are back again to unapologetically let out and process feelings of anger, stress, and anxiety. In other news, the heat is rising and everybody out here tryna gets they body-ody moisturized and snatched so in the spirit of Summer love we talk about what queer romance looks/feels like to us and share our idea of a perfect date. For the end, we say something that we're doing or going to do to release some of that tension.Share your tensions, self-care practices, or simply respond to anything we talked about and we will give you a shoutout on an upcoming episode.Contact us at tensegays@bonnetblack.comSupport the show (https://paypal.me/misteriouslyme?locale.x=en_US)

Welcome to Tense Gays. We're back again to let go some of that tension!For Ep2, we add a new segment called Word of the Day, as a way to learn and share queer terminology. We also discuss language around how we identify ourselves and how that can affect our communities. This week we shoutout Queer, Mama. Crossroads. "Where do black women go when their souls have been taken too soon? At the crossroads. Explore racism, sexism, homophobia, systemic silence, and spirit in this choreo-poem-performance piece. Dismantle the American cover of denial and secrecy regarding injustices committed against queer women of color who are mothers." More info at bonnetblack.com.For the end, we say something that we're doing or going to do to release some of that tension. We'd love to hear from ya'll! Share your tensions, self-care practices, or simply respond to anything we talked about and we will give you a shoutout on an upcoming episode.Send us an email at tensegays@bonnetblack.com.Support the show (https://paypal.me/misteriouslyme?locale.x=en_US)

Welcome to Tense Gays, a podcast where Invictus Me and Bonnet Black talk about life as artists trying to navigate adulthood as black, brown and queer.On our very first episode, Invictus Me and Bonnet Black discuss the film industry's obsession with queer trauma and its desire to promote movies that dehumanize black women.As part of our segments, we give a shoutout to local black and brown queer events in the Seattle area. This week we shoutout Copious Love Productions's; "She is FIERCE's (stories from the female and genderqueer perspective)" upcoming event Secrets.Representation, Safe Space, True Stories."For the end, we say something that we're doing or going to do to release some of that tension. We'd love to hear from ya'll! Share your tensions, self-care practices, or simply respond to anything we talked about and we will give you a shoutout on an upcoming episode.Send us an email at tensegays@bonnetblack.com.Support the show (https://paypal.me/misteriouslyme?locale.x=en_US)