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As a pediatrician and a mom, there are very few times that we are out of character. This week's guest embodies the mom, physician, empath, life-saver all in one. She is a neonatologist on a mission to save moms from the sometimes traumatic events that follow childbirth, that sometimes culminate in self-harm or suicide. Did you know that many moms take their own lives around 9 to 10 months postpartum? I had no idea it was a thing even though after my last baby, I myself had a health scare at exactly 10 months postpartum! Quotables: "Invest in your health, ask for that in your registry" "Expect it: the first month sucks" "Find a support system, reach out" "It's ok to include your partner in your child's care" Where to find: www.nayacare.org: for telehealth and free consults for moms and their babies. Are you a parent struggling with your child who just came out as gay? Check out our brand new website! I am so proud of it, and can't wait to share it with you, especially the resources page. Click on www.dr-lulu.com and taste what Dr. Lulu is cooking :) Ciao Bella! Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

After he went to sleep next to his wife and woke up at the kitchen window, with his wife dying within minutes...anyone else would have been thrown into a fit of depression, and worthlessness, and despair.  But not Bobby Petrocelli! Defying the odds to become a motivational and inspirational speaker, Bobby reached deep down and found the strength to take life literally one moment at a time. He has written and co-written so many books and has spoken to all places and worked with all people.  His is an incredible story of strength, tenacity, and resiliency. Quotables: "They are allowing the hurt and the pain to define them" "We not only rob ourselves, but we also rob other people of our greatness" "I came to school today to say goodbye" "You either run away from your past or you learn from it" "You don't go to the gym to find a muscle, you go to build it" "A little of something is better than all of nothing" Books: You Matter: It Doesn't  10 Seconds Will Can Change Your Life Forever Where to find: Bobby@10seconds.org --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

Derek Butler is a man after my heart! It took us so long to get together to but when we finally did, this episode was DYNAMITE!! He is a survivor, and a sur-thrivor, who has discovered that self-care, healthy connections, and positive affirmations to his inner child are the key to resiliency and success in today's world. Find out his daily affirmations, and how he gets them to work for him. Quotables: "I wrote a letter to sex" "I broke up with sex"  "I tried to muscle my way out" "I tried to motivate my way out" Find out what the acronyms: T.I.M.E and S.E.L.F stand for... Words of Advice: "You don't have to carry that invisible suitcase around" Where to find: LinkedIn @Derek Butler Find him and go support his: Adapt, Recover and Grow formula for a 10% discount off his coaching session and tell him Dr. Lulu sent you! Dr. Lulu --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

Our first guest this week is a sister, a friend, a fellow African, a coach, and a fellow mom of an LGBTQ+ kid! We met and clicked right away as was discussed in the show, and our bond and sisterhood have continued to soar! As a coach of parents of LGBTQ+ kids, I am so happy to present her episode to you! I am so proud of her and the strength she exudes during this episode. She allowed the deepest level of vulnerability and is such an inspiration! She shares about her unique position as a Black, African mother of a transwoman, and what it took for her to get to her current position being able to share with no restrictions about her child who is a trans-woman, all while living in Africa! Her story is so inspiring that she will be returning for part 2 of her interview! Where to find her: Facebook as Thobeka Yose. See you in part 2! Dr. Lulu --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

In this concluding part of her interview, Heather tells us about her second suicide attempt and how and when she decided she needed to get better and heal and leave all her troubles behind and start moving forward with her life. She touches on the death of her father, her work in the media, and her second podcast.  Find out the simple advice she gives to all or anyone who finds themselves in similar shoes as hers... Quotables: "I did what I had to do" Where to find her: Facebook, Podcast Thanks for listening... Ciao Bella Dr. L   --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

Fellow podcaster and childhood trauma survivor Heather joins us this week to tell us her story of pain and betrayal of trust as a child. As you know, I always talk about how the betrayal of children is at the top of the list of reasons why our children hurt themselves.  Listen to her story and let me know your thoughts. Quotable: "I was simply tired of being OK" Where to find: Podcast: You Should Have Asked Me First Hope you and your family are keeping safe, wearing your masks, socially distancing, and using hand sanitizers... Cheers! Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

This week, we talk with Ms. Sade Cutler. An African American woman who was treated so wrong by her former place of work to add to the list of traumatic events that piled up in her life, ranging from a pulmonary embolus to 8 miscarriages to being laid off from work and everything else in between! Ms. Sade shares her heart-wrenching story in this episode... Find out what she said that made me use some explicit choice words... Thankfully, she is "sur-thriving" today and is even helping others cope with their anxiety and depression through her own work as a mental health counselor.  Quotables:  "God just let me meet him" "Keep the faith and be encouraged" "This is a moment in time" Where to find and follow and support her: Instagram: @ M. E. Impact Website: My Empowering Impact  If you or anyone you know is feeling suicidal, call 1800-273-TALK or 1800-SUICIDE Be safe out there! Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

When we hear of pivoting and changing and rebranding, many of us do not think about what this week's guest did. At 56yr young, she found herself enrolling in medical school! Today, many moons later, she is a successful family practitioner and goes about her day saving lives. She describes suicidality as "a moment of hopelessness" which as we know can spiral into the worst-case scenario. Listen to her thoughts about female physicians and suicide, and what word she uses to describe her life before medicine. :) How did a motor vehicle accident and PTSD combine to create who she is today? Quotables: "I am a mother" "You make a lot of sacrifices to become a physician" "Life throws you good and bad curves" Books:  Healthy in the Campus.  Healthy on the Set. Where to find her: Mercy Personal Physician: Kathryn Boling, MD --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

This week's guest is an author and a speaker who came to visit us from the future! Yes, she really did! She shares about chronic suicidality from early childhood and what finally happened before she figured out that she comes first. Books: 1. Keep it Super Simple 2. The Economy of Enough 3. Beyond Aha 4. Keep it Super Simple for Busy Professional Women Questions to ask yourself: 1. What stresses you out> 2. Create values 3. What am I actually doing? 4. What are the things on your "to-do" list that are for you?  5. Embrace your to-do list. Where to find her: www.sheiqlife.com Remember if you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal ideation, call 1800273TALK or text HOME to 741741 or call yours truly @ 802-768-1180. Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

What do Betrayal, Marital Infidelity, Depression, Grief, Anguish, Abandonment, and Trauma have in common? Our second guest for the week! Ms. Beatrice shares the pain of marital infidelity and how she barely survived it.  She discusses how a 12-Step program for spouses of sex addicts, great girlfriends, and therapy helped her "see the fruit and the blessing from all the traumas". Find out the book she recommends to all of us that will help with the healing. Quotables: "Don't give up hope, keep seeking and looking for yourself" "Stay on the path" "Don't be afraid to go through difficulty" "They are more than enough" Where to find her: Eunoiatherapyar.com Eunoiatherapysd on IG and FB Eunoiatherapy and self-development Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

In the first episode of this week, Coach Benson Fox, a young Jewish coach with wisdom far beyond his age!  I am so proud of this young man and his insights. He talks candidly about the who, the why, and the what of suicide victims.  A former suicide text line volunteer, he talks about his personal experience doing this, and paints a picture of how:  Hopelessness + Emotional pain = Suicide! Find out the one thing he suggests actively suicidal victims can do to help get them out of the mindset right away... Also, find out the  4 things he says suicide hotline volunteers focus on for each call they make. And also find out why he agrees that hospitalization is NOT always the answer. Quotables "... if you could just get them to go to sleep..." "...ensure there is a psychologist..." "Safety planning must include someone who will give them hope" Where to Find www.coachbensonfox.com On Facebook and IG: @coachbensonfox Kindly leave me a review if this episode helps you any. Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

It is with a heavy heart that I write this knowing full well that at this very moment, the United States Congress is voting to impeach a president that has caused so much pain and trauma to people that look like me, to people from countries like mine, to people that have children like mine. I am simply sharing how and why we need to practice self-care in the current uncertain political, financial, racial, and socioeconomic landscape.  There are so much anxiety and vicarious trauma going around. So much suffering and so much pain and anguish in our world today. What are you doing to stay afloat? What are you doing to not sink? If you are like me, you have a brand new resolution and are fighting to keep it. Listen to this episode and tell me your thoughts... I also mention my upcoming free class on parenting an LGBTQ+ kid, as well as my coaching of physicians who are overwhelmed and stressed out. Let me know your thoughts on these, and stay tuned for my class. Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

Our first guest this week tells such a powerful story of survival! She talks about trauma from a tender age, and generational trauma and pain and suffering and substance abuse, and maternal domestic abuse and parental separation, and sexual abuse by a family member, and absent parent and abuse by her own spouse! How many points are those on the ACEs scale? She is a certified domestic violence counselor who is out on a mission to help others, but who first had to reconcile with all the hurt that was inflicted upon her as a child! Find out what happened that made me call a hard STOP to the interview! Quotables: "My mom and dad would fight all the time" "I felt hopeless because I was so small" "I felt so worthless" "I started smoking and drinking to numb the pain" "Suicide is usually very subtle" Where to find: YouTube: GloryBe2THEMOSTHIGH Forever Email: thinkpositively2day@outlook.com PS: Our book is off to a great start! If you are reading this and are on social media. Kindly use the hashtag #thewarriorwomenproject to find us and stay tuned for updates on the book! Ciao! Dr. Lulu --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

In this very first episode of Suicide Pages for the Year 2021, we are continuing with what I am dubbing our "trauma series". We have been interviewing social workers, therapists, and the likes in the past several episodes, and so is this one. Today, Stephanie, our guest talks about the effects of a parent AND a sibling suicide. What that is like. Who these people are. What their lives were like. She also sheds much-needed light on the "Life of a Suicide-Loss Survivor".  Find out how she has somehow found a way to turn her pain and sorrow into a passion to help others. What did she do, and more importantly, how is she doing it? What were her own struggles if any with suicidal behavior? And how is her family currently dealing with all that hurt? Quotables: "I was always talked around" "Find a safe space...whatever that looks like" "I really love solitude" Where to find: In Missouri, and online @ www.SpectrumofHealingllc.com On IG; @mohealing2020 We are off to a great start this year.! After a year like 2020 with so much loss and sadness, here is hoping for a fantastic new year for all listeners! Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

This is an ultrashort episode where I am simply celebrating a fantastic end of the year of a very weird year! 2020 has been that kind of year, what with a new strain of Covid?? I didn't even mention it! I am simply celebrating life. I smiled throughout the recording! Hope you enjoy it. I talk about my new found treatment for my body aches and how my fibromyalgia pains have completely disappeared! Yes! Find out how. Also touched on my 3As and my 3Rs and of course, my new Anthology featuring immigrant women. Know any that wants to share their story? Send them my way! Otherwise, kindly listen to my brand new TEDx talk and spread the word! We just crossed over 1K views in under 2 weeks! Yay!!! Aaight, al see you all next week, oops, I mean, next year! Ciao Bella! Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

Gelisa Lewis thought she had it all. After enduring sexual abuse as a child, she thought trauma was behind her. She thought having a child would close the loop on what was otherwise an extraordinary life. But she was wrong. She was also wrong about thinking child-loss was the worst thing that could happen to her. Listen to find out what other surprises life had for her, but more importantly, what she has done to plant her feet firmly on the ground and even give back through a non-profit. And find out why "a heart of gold" is the phrase that I choose to describe her today. Quotables: "The therapists I had were terrible" "I blame the therapist in me" "...my life was in reset" Words of advice:  "You must make decisions that make you happy" Where to find: Facebook: Gelisa Lewis IG: @Naturalbeauty_lis Webby: kamillescabinet.org --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

Our Second Episode for this week takes a peek at suicide grief in one Black family's life.  Samantha has so bravely shared her family's story of trying to deal with multiple counts of grief in a very short time. With a year like the one we have had, it is hard to imagine that one family could be dealt with so much grief and death in addition. However, as a Licensed Practical Counselor, Samantha shares how she is dealing with it in an unmatched vulnerability I have seen in my days of podcasting.  This episode also sheds a tiny light on "the immigrant's story".   Many times we are unaware of the very hard road immigrants travel, and what it takes to face a day as a Black person in America. Find out how she and her family are truly handling it all, and what she said that literally left me speechless! Quotables: "Pain is not shameful" "I continue to work on it, and not judge myself for it" Where to Find Her: IG: @Iamsamantha.a Webby: www.movingbeyondyou.org I would like to take this opportunity to wish you and yours a very safe, happy, and memorable holidays! **CALL FOR AUTHORS! I am publishing an anthology for immigrant women! If you or someone you know is an immigrant and would like to share their story, kindly email me @ askdoctorlulu@gmail.com Ciao! Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

My first guest this week was such a hoot! Coach Lolita Walker and I hit it off right off the bat! She is as energetic and charismatic and witty as I am, and we probably said the word "yaaaaaassssss" fifty-eleven times! She shares about how she felt unheard and unseen and as not adding value at various stages of her life, but she is happy to reflect on the constant affirmations she received from her parents as a child and credits that to her resilience today.  She also shares how she was exposed to a suicidal friend in the not so distant past, and how she has essentially learned to hold space for people in need. Find out what she does now that has truly aligned her with her purpose, and what she said that literally made me hush for the first time in my podcast life... Quotables: "Believe in your strengths..."  Book: (Amazon) The Intersection Of You and Change Webby: www.lolitawalker.com Email: change@lolitawalker.com Stuck? People like my guest Lolita and I are coaches.  We help you literally get unstuck! Stuck? are wondering what coaching is all about, give us a try. Check her out or check me out www.calendly.com/drlulu MY TEDx TALK IS OUT! YAAAASSSSS!!! Check it out!  My dream come true!  Yaaaassss!!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0NfxItBPd1I&fbclid=IwAR10OZCBDGuE6JerPZsUh2JM1hcg4uPq0BuF7F_tmoik-dBw62RzDJ4lYP4&ab_channel=TEDxTalks Now, share, leave a comment, and let me know what you think! Dr. L --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

Dr. Madhuri is an infectious disease physician who literally won my heart with her youth and her vision. This episode deals with something I experienced myself. Burnout! Like me, she was also suicidal and one day, she found herself on a road, in a car, and... Find out what she did that is sooooo cool for other residents. Qoutables: "I was scared to get help because I wanted to be the best doctor" "I was kind of in a daze all day" "I started doing things that are pleasurable to me" Where to find her: @madhuri99 on IG, and madhuri.tirumandas@gmail.com Do you have a story about trauma?  Would you like to be a guest on my podcast? Simply send an email to askdoctorlulu@gmail.com or go to calendly.com/drlulu Dr. L PS: Interested in a pair of TRIBAL EYES glasses?  Visit www.tribaleyesshop.com, mention DRLULUTRIBE for a 20% off discount or $100 off your first $500 purchase.  Tell them you first heard about it on this podcast, or Dr. Lulu sent you! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

After her own suicide attempt, this week's guest found her calling. She decided to make the necessary changes to begin her healing and helping journey. A 15-yr veteran Licenced Practical Counselor, Chantel shares about her own trials and survival of "overwhelmness". Find out what she did and why.  Quotables: "It's not you if your environment is not enriching you, change jobs" "We all have light in us, we all have greatness" "Trust the process" "Be comfortable reaching out and asking for help" Where to find her: Shaping Minds Therapeutic Services in Delaware, USA: ShapingMindsTherapy.com. Podcast: Gems To Shape The Mind WHAT'S UP DOC? Are you stressed out and/or overwhelmed? Having a hard time connecting with the honey? Workplace stress got you down? Trouble passing your boards? Lost and all alone for the holidays? Feeling stagnant and not motivated? Not the same "go-getter" you used to be? Feeling unheard, unappreciated, even unloved? You love medicine, but not so sure about your WHY anymore? Let's talk. Let me help you figure out how to move forward, and "find yourself again" www.calendly.com/drlulu (802) 768-1180 See you soon! Dr. Lulu --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support