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Style With Intention Podcast
31 minutes | a year ago
#40 - Letting Go To Find Yourself, with Renee Carlson
The Sober Witch talks about the power of being vulnerable and all of the wonderful things that have fallen into place since she decided to share her real self.
32 minutes | a year ago
#39 - Living A Life of Travel and Adventure with Judy Hughes
You can create a life out of your passions! Listen to how my guest has built as business around doing what she loves.
16 minutes | 2 years ago
#38 - Yoga Is Not A Weapon, with Dr. Dawn Davis
Dr. Dawn Davis, author of "Mom As You Are," rants about the "bust through" approach to yoga and shares her thoughts on self-care and the method she created called M-I-N-D-F-U-L.
31 minutes | 2 years ago
#37 - Creating a Business Out Of Messy, Real Life With Rene Carlson
The Sober Witch, Rene Carlson, shares her journey from drinking into sobriety and the joy she has found building a business around her spirituality.
27 minutes | 2 years ago
#36 - Letting Go Of Control When You’re Parenting Teens with Dr. Dawn Davis
Dr. Dawn Davis shares tips for owning and weathering the changes that come with parenting teenagers and encourages us to relate to ourselves with non-judgemental, inquisitiveness.
28 minutes | 2 years ago
#35 - How Smart and Successful Women Get and Keep Relationships, with Dr. Sharon Cohen
Relationship and Love Consultant, Dr. Sharon Cohen, shares lessons and insights into the hidden roadblocks that keep smart and successful women from experiencing the love and intimacy they want.
31 minutes | 2 years ago
#34 - Creating Holistic Personal Style With Elysha Lenkin
The clothes we wear are a tool we can use to create our experiences and to feel the way we want to feel. Fashion Stylist, Elysha Lenkin, teaches us how to create our own “holistic style” so we can look amazing and be true to ourselves.
10 minutes | 2 years ago
#33 - Shifting Your Identity To Have More Of What You Want
Our choices and actions and the results we see in our lives come from the way we see ourselves. Learn how to intentionally choose the qualities you want to identify with to get more of what you want.
28 minutes | 2 years ago
#32 - How To Overcome Worried Thinking with Dr. Dawn Davis
The author of "Mom As You Areâ€ shares 3 actionable strategies to help us overcome worried thinking and get back in touch with our body's wisdom, develop self-compassion, and trust the process.
27 minutes | 2 years ago
#31 - Getting Sober With Renee Carlson
Drinking alcohol and the opportunities that giving it all up has opened up.
14 minutes | 2 years ago
#30 - USE SOCIAL MEDIA TO BRING WHAT YOU REALLY WANT INTO FOCUS
Internet browsing is actually one form of distraction that is chock full of info and today I share how to make it work for you and a strategy for managing all the info youâ€™re consuming. You can turn your social media time - or that previously mindless, wasted distracted time - into a productive mission and become an active creator in your own life.
37 minutes | 2 years ago
#29 - Feng Shui Solutions With Kerri Gray Miller
When your personal space feels right, it can make your whole life easier - but what feels "right" is sometimes hard to define. Our guest today, Kerri Gray Miller, shares about the effect of "chi" in our spaces and finding the balance that feels "right."
14 minutes | 2 years ago
#28 - How Your Environment Defines Your Personal Style
Every choice you make about how you show up in the world is an expression of your personal style, including the spaces that you surround yourself with. I'm sharing how to use your personal style as a powerful tool and how you can use it to manage your subconscious and shape the experiences that you have.
14 minutes | 2 years ago
#27 - Ways Your Home Decorating Project Gets Stuck and How To Fix Them
This is a really practical episode about the mistakes that people make when they take on a project, how to avoid them as well as what you need to do to fix them.
16 minutes | 2 years ago
#26 - Are You Playing Small?
Some big unexpected changes happened in my life recently. I'm sharing the very personal lessons I've learned and what I'm doing going forward.
15 minutes | 2 years ago
#25 - Blindspots In Your Home and The Subconscious Messages Your Home May Be SendingTo You
What your home is saying to you? The subconscious messages your home is sending you can affect your quality of life. Let's make sure your home is sending you positive messages!
19 minutes | 2 years ago
#24 - How To Find Your Calling
Figuring out your next chapter can feel confusing and overwhelming, so I'm sharing the tactics I've used to gain clarity about what I want to do next in my life. Many of us are looking at an empty nest and a whole second-half to figure out. You can make the rest of your life, the best of your life!
29 minutes | 2 years ago
#23 - Like She Owns The Place - with Cara Alwill Leyba
“Like She Owns The Place” - a conversation with Master Life Coach and author, Cara Alwill Letba, about her new book and how you can live with more confidence. ©2018 Annie Kip. All Rights Reserved.
16 minutes | 3 years ago
#22 - Reprogram Your Subconscious So You Can Feel Genuinely Happier
A step-by-step method for choosing the way you want to feel and accessing genuinely happier feelings. You can reprogram your subconscious in as little as 17 seconds. The biggest takeaways from this episode: Why you can't "just relax" or "calm down." A step-by-step method to experience the feelings you want to have. The control you do have over your subconscious feelings. A faster and easier to go from a low vibration to a high vibration. Hey there, Thanks for being here today! Welcome to the Style With Intention podcast. Today's episode is all about wrangling your subconscious to give you the conscious experiences you want to have. Feelings of contentment, eagerness, optimism, and joy. Listen in today as I share everything I've learned about the way our subconscious deals with emotions and how you can take control and access the better emotions you want to feel. When we understand how something works - it's easier to manage. This is the science behind our feelings! Our bonus content this week gives you the specific steps you can take to get into a better feeling state, so be sure to download the one-page worksheet which will teach you "How To Choose The Way You Want to Feel" by clicking HERE. As always, my goal is to make it quicker and easier for you to access more ease, joy, and intention in your life...because happy looks really, really good! Enjoy the show! If you’re new to podcasts, check out our “Listening To Podcasts Cheat Sheet” for everything you need to know about downloading and listening to podcasts from your iPhone. CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE If you’d rather read, than listen, here’s the FULL TRANSCRIPT OF EPISODE #22 HOW TO REPROGRAM YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS SO YOU CAN FEEL GENUINELY HAPPIER Welcome to the Style With Intention podcast, where we talk about how to use your personal style choices as a tool to create a life you love. We believe choice is empowering, complacency is boring, and happy looks really, really good! I’m your host, Annie Kip, and today I’m going to share with you a trick I discovered. It’s literally something you can do every single time you are starting to notice feelings that you don’t want to have. This it s way to literally re-program your subconscious - and it’s more than just “think your happy thoughts” and believe that everything will all be okay. That doesn’t work for me. And if you’ve been trying to just be positive, you have probably found that it doesn’t work for you either. I know how ridiculous it is to say that to someone who’s feeling down. Just saying the words doesn’t work - but I’ve found that this technique really works for me when I’m feeling down. We’ve talked on this podcast about energetic vibration - and how that is tied to what you experience in your conscious reality. When you’re in a low mood, you can get sort of stuck in that low energetic vibrational place. I know what it’s like to be in a low mood. When things are challenging with my kids, particularly, I found myself getting down and a little blue. I knew I should just get out and go for a walk to try to shake off the mood, but honestly, I didn’t feel like it. I was just sort of stuck in my blue mood and needed a way to get myself out of it that didn’t take a lot of effort. I also noticed that there were times in my life when I could feel the higher energetic vibration. Sometimes, it had to do with what was going on - like after a really great meeting with a client or spending a great weekend with the beau. But there were times when a good feeling would seem to materialize out of nowhere and I wanted more of that. I’d find myself smiling at a thought or sort of car-dancing when as Earth, Wind, and Fire song came on the radio. Yes, I’m a girl who still loves all of the 80’s R and B and disco - from Al Jerreau to Rick James to The Commodores. Yes, I love them all. And you can’t stop me from dancing if they’re playing - but we can’t always be blasting Boogie Wonderland, now can we? I was interested in figuring out how to get more of that good feeling more of the time. If it came out of nowhere and felt so real that I could feel it in my body, I thought we must be able to summon it or conjure it up somehow. It was in listening to a recording of Abraham-Hicks in which they were simply asking a person whether they would rather feel “happy” or “sad,” Discouraged” or “encouraged,” bored” or “passionate” - and it gave me the idea to make this into a meditative process for myself. Abraham-Hicks says that it takes a minimum of 17 seconds of pure thought to activate the vibrational energy - and if you can string together several sessions of 17 seconds of pure, focused feeling and thought - you can actually make the vibration strong enough to start manifestation of those feelings and thoughts. If you can increase the time up to 68 seconds, you’re really getting into a powerful place of managing your thoughts and energetic vibration. Being down is a very low vibrational frequency - and it helps to have this process to follow without having to think. It’s a way of just “being” in the feeling you would rather be having. You know I’m not a doctor and I’m just sharing what I’m learning along the way - but if you’re feeling a little blue or stressed out or discouraged -- or if you just want to know what it feels like to actually raise your vibration - I invite you to give this a try. I am excited to share this with you because it’s something anyone can do, anytime, anywhere. And you don’t have to like 80’s R&B and you don’t have to dance. In fact, I start this exercise right where you are. In your own funky town - the blue place full of feelings you don’t really want to be having. Here’s how it works: Instead, of jumping right to the happy feeling you want, my suggestion is the create the real good feelings you want to have in baby steps. This is based on my understanding that you have to feel a feeling, really feel it in your body, for your brain to accept it. Simply saying happy things to yourself doesn’t work - as anyone who’s been told to “just relax” or “calm down” or “get happy” can tell you. That doesn’t work. To me, it feels like the feeling it just outside of my reach. When I say things like that to myself, it just doesn’t stick. (and yes, I do believe that choosing to intentionally smile instead of frown, can help your body produce the chemicals that lead to a happier feeling - but this is an even fast route to genuine good feelings.) At the end of this episode, I’m going to do this with you - right on this recording, so you can queue it up anytime you need a little boost. We’re going to do it together and I’m going to guide you so you can learn to do it for yourself. I’ve also made a one-page worksheet called "How To Choose The Way You Want To Feel" for this episode's Bonus Content to get you started on your own. You can use the words on this one-page sheet to get all the benefit I am going to describe to you now. Or you can take my example and create something that is unique for you. Usually, I do this first thing in the morning but I also do it whenever I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed. For instance, if I feel like my work is sort of a struggle. Or I’m feeling distracted or getting down about something. It only takes a few minutes and you can do it whenever and as many times it it makes sense for you. I use the Timer function on my iPhone and a list of words - first a word that identifies the feeling I don’t want, and then a word that is the opposite of that word. I think this will make more sense as I show you how it works. First I set my timer to 17 seconds - but I don’t start it yet. I start by just sitting still, closing my eyes, and letting myself feel the bad feeling just for a few seconds - for example struggle. I don’t fight it, I just sort of get into it for a few seconds, instead of resisting it - just for a few seconds. In the example of “struggle” - first, I might imagine how it feels when I’m working on a podcast and can’t get the right words to say what I want to say. I’m at my desk and staring out the window and panicking a little that I’m wasting time and I’ve got other things to do and my shoulders are hunching up and I’m getting tighter and tighter. I sit in “struggle” just until I can really feel it - and then I imagine the opposite. The opposite of struggle would feel like ease to me. At this point, I press the Start button and imagine the same scenario if ease were there instead of struggle. I close my eyes and for a full 17 seconds, I really try to get into the opposite feeling. I let this word and the feelings associated with it just wash over me, like a warm shower. In my mind, I imagine specific examples of how it would feel - how it would show up in my life, what my body would feel like if I had the opposite feeling. When there’s ease, I can’t type fast enough because the words just flow out of me. I get into this feeling and try to really feel my fingers flying across my keyboard, typing, typing typing. And I try to feel how satisfying it feels when my words come out so easily and just make sense. I’m excited about the things I want to say and new insights I come to as I write and I think and before I know it - I’ve got a podcast written and ready to go. Then I imagine myself sitting down to record it and I feel how the words just flow so naturally out of my mouth. It feels so good to get it done so easily. By now the 17-seconds have gone by and the alarm has chimed. Optimally, you move right on to the next unwanted emotion word and it’s opposite word. The more times you spend 17 seconds imagining and really getting into the positive emotion, the better and better you will feel. If you can increase the time you focus on the positive emotion from 17 to 34 and then to 51 all the way
14 minutes | 3 years ago
#21 - Stories That Might Be Holding You Back
Our lives are filled with the stories we tell ourselves to make sense of our lives - but our stories might actually be creating our experiences. You can shape your experiences by managing the stories you tell yourself. The biggest takeaways from this episode: Why we tell ourselves stories. How to know if you're telling yourself a story. The 2 ways that our stories can undermine us. How to use stories for your benefit. Hey there, Welcome to the Style With Intention podcast. I'm so glad you're here! Today's episode was inspired by a real-life experience I had with a friend last week. Sometimes, it takes another person's perspective to show you something about yourself - which is what this episode is all about...seeing ourselves more clearly. Listen in today to learn about the stories we tell ourselves. Everyone does this! It's how we make sense of the world - but is can become a problem if we never stop and challenge our assumptions. As always, my goal is to use what I'm learning to help you. I wrap up this episode with some thoughts on making your stories work better for you - to help you feel happier...because happy looks really, really good! Enjoy the show! CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE If you’d rather read, than listen, here’s the FULL TRANSCRIPT OF EPISODE #21 STORIES THAT MIGHT BE HOLDING YOU BACK Welcome to the Style With Intention podcast, where we talk about how to use your personal style choices as a tool to create a life you love. We believe choice is empowering, complacency is boring, and happy looks really, really good! I’m your host, Annie Kip, and today we’re talking about stories. Not the stories you find in books and magazines or on Netflix. I do love a good story but today, we’re actually talking about the stories that we tell ourselves. These are the stories we make up - to help us make sense of our lives. You know you’re telling yourself a story when you’ve interpreted something that happened (like when you decide what someone else’s motives were) and when you’ve given something meaning, or sort of mentally declared an absolute (like “I always get sick” or “people are selfish”). I do this, you do this, we all do this. Our stories are a way for us to make sense of what goes on in our daily lives and to explain why things are the way they are. We all feel better when we understand why things happen and it makes us feel more in control when we can put our experiences into a category or give ourselves a reason for why things happen. But I believe that this is a chicken and egg sort of problem - that the stories we tell ourselves can actually be creating our conscious experiences. This was really made clear to me the other day, when I was on a walk with a friend. We had the same experience, but we came away with totally different stories about what happened. On our walk, we came upon a little boy who had set up a table in his front yard and was selling some little pieces of art that he’d made. They were these things called “God’s eyes” and I remember making them in elementary school - you wrap yarn in and around two Popsicle sticks in a cross and it makes a pretty pattern. This boy was selling them for 50 cents each and he had few set out on his table. Normally, my policy is to buy from kids who are industrious enough to set up a stand in their front yard - I want to support them so whether it’s lemonade or pet rocks or artwork or whatever - I will always buy one thing from them - but I didn’t have any money with me. My friend only had a $20 in her pocket, but she decided to give him the money in exchange for everything he had out on the table. The boy took the money, closed up his shop, and went inside. As we were walking away, she wondered aloud whether the little boy realized that she had just given him such a gift - $20 for a few God’s eyes! His reaction wasn’t over the top, the way she sort of expected it to be. She said she was hoping to make this little boy feel like he was a really great artist and she hoped that making that much money would encourage him to keep making art. She thought his parents, when they realized he had a $20 bill, would probably be really grateful that a total stranger had come by and given their son so much money for his art. Her “story” was totally different from mine. I was thinking that the little boy didn’t react because he was feeling like he was getting away with murder - he got $20 for some little God’s eyes that he didn’t even put much effort into. I was thinking about how it sort of skews kid’s expectations - when people overpay kids - sort of like when everyone gets a trophy, just for showing up. I was also thinking that the mom was probably annoyed that she had thought their son was all set with an activity that would occupy him for a few hours, outside on a sunny day, but now that he sold all his goods, he was probably back inside playing video games or bored and looking for something to do. It was so funny to us to realize that we saw it so differently. We each interpreted the events based on our own experiences and hopes and worries. We came away with totally different “stories” that seemed completely true and real to each of us. It’s so interesting, but it also show how our stories can be limiting and that they can get in our way. There are 2 ways that our stories can undermine us: #1 We don’t even realize that we are telling ourselves a story. We are completely unaware - that the way we interpret the world is really just our unique perspective. My friend is an artist and she wants kids to be more creative and feel good about making art. She also wanted to give the kid a memorable experience, thinking how she would feel if she were that little kid. She thought the parents would see her generosity - the same way she saw the situation. My belief is that we should encourage and support kids who set up stands and sell things - but that we shouldn’t give extravagant rewards and skew their expectations. I think that kids will benefit more from the experience of working for what they get and that giving them too much money too easily, sets them up for disappointment and frustration later, when they see that the real world doesn’t work this way. My friend and I were amazed at how different our stories were around this one same experience. We assumed that we saw it the same way, until we started talking about it. Most of the time, it doesn’t even occur to us to second-guess our stories - we assume that there is no other way to see the situation, than the way we see it. Not stopping to notice whether we are telling ourselves a story can really undermine our ability to work together with other people and develop relationships. Seeing another person’s point of view is essential to understanding each other, to finding new ways to solve problems, negotiating win-win solutions, and just having compassion for each others experience of the world. We don’t have to all see things the same way, but the more we can be aware that we tell ourselves stories and allow for other people’s different interpretations of same events, the more we can understand each other. The second way that “stories” can undermine us, is: #2 We believe our stories are absolutely true. Not only do we not realize we are telling ourselves stories and creating meaning and context around an experience, but we just believe it’s the truth. We feel this way, so we believe it is so. As we’ve discussed on this podcast many times - Feelings are powerful, but they are not fact. For example, you can feel and therefore believe you are totally safe when you are actually in grave danger - and the opposite is true as well. Just because we feel something, does not make it true. We feel so many things all day long and those feelings become thoughts - and if we don’t check in and challenge our assumptions, they become the stories we tell ourselves. Our daily lives are filled with the stories we tell ourselves and those stories are creating our experiences. For example, I have a really grumpy neighbor. We’ll call him Mr. Grumpypants. He is super obsessed with the property line between our houses. He’s gotten it into his head that the neighbors who abutt his land are trying to infringe on his property. Now, our neighborhood is sort of open - the yards sort of flow into each other and we have a lot of those little rock walls that you see all over New England, showing approximately where the property lines are, but not a lot of fences. People are generally relaxed about the “line” and seem able to work it out if it seems like someone has made a mistake. Mr. Grumpypants has told himself a story that is creating his experience. He believes that he has to be on guard and is constantly looking for evidence that people are moving into his space. This frames how he spends his time - measuring and carefully staking the line and putting up strings to show where the line is. Going out in his yard, anytime I’m outside to check on what I’m doing. We have a really friendly neighborhood and we look out for each other - bringing food when people are sick, picking up packages and shoveling each other’s driveway when it snows if people are away. But Mr. Grumpypants is not friendly and the story he has told himself is making him more and more paranoid and isolated. I’ve actually put up a hedge to give myself some privacy and to minimize my exposure to his negativity. The hedge has now grow tall and is blocking the sun in his backyard, so the story he has told himself has created a real life situation where he has more and more reasons to be grumpy. Mr. Grumpypants believes his story that people are out to get him and so he looks for proof that this is true. He misinterprets and makes assumptions about other people’s motivations, and his conscious experience is filled with evidence that his story is true.
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