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Straight Talk for Wives Podcast Episode 027: Practical Ways to Show Honor in Your Marriage In this episode, I share three ways you can show honor in your marriage. If you are interested in learning more on this topic, go to my blog post I just published. Or, if you prefer watching a video, click here to go to my marriage video on this same topic.   The post STFW 027: Practical Ways to Show Honor in Your Marriage – Podcast Episode appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Straight Talk for Wives Podcast Episode 026: What Forgiveness Is and Isn’t Show notes: In this podcast episode, I share what genuine forgiveness is. It is so vital to get this because in marriage, we have to learn to forgive -a lot! To learn more about forgiveness in marriage; check out my blog post on this same topic: What Forgiveness Is and Isn’t – Blog Post Or, if you would like to watch a video, I have a Marriage How-to video on this topic. Go to Marriage How-to video on What Forgiveness Is and Isn’t   The post STFW 026: What Forgiveness Is and Isn’t – Podcast Episode appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Understanding Your Husband’s History – Podcast Episode 025 – Part 2 of 2 Show Notes: In this second episode, I share what your response should be now that you have learned about the pieces of yours and your husband’s past. To get more on this topic, read my blog post I just published. Or, if you prefer watching a video on this topic, click here to go to my marriage how-to videos.   The post STFW 025: Understanding Your Husband’s History – Podcast Episode Part 2 of 2 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

STFW 024: Understanding Your Husband’s History Part 1 of 2 Show Notes: In this podcast episode, I share how it’s important to understand yours and your husband’s history. Your parents, your peers, and past events are three major pieces of your past that have played a role in the person you and your husband have become today. To learn more on this topic go to my blog post I just published. Or, if you prefer to watch a video on this topic of understanding your husband’s history, click here to go to the video. In the next episode, I will share what you do now that you know where some of the conflict is coming from in your marriage. The post STFW 024: Understanding Your Husband’s History – Podcast Episode Part 1 of 2 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

STFW Podcat Episode 23: Learn to Understand Your Husband’s Personality Weaknesses is Vital to Improving Your Marriage Personality – Part 2 of 2 This episode is the live Blab feed from my live Blab broadcast.  Go to my blog post to find out more about the four personalities. I have also published a video where I explain in more detail the weaknesses and how to improve your relationship now that you know his weaknesses. If you’re new to all this and want to discover what your personality is, click here to get my free Design Discovery Worksheet. The post STFW 023 – Understand Your Husband’s Personality To Build a Stronger Marriage Podcast Part 2 of 2 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

STFW Episode 22: Understand Your Husband’s Personality Strengths To Build a Stronger Marriage Personality – Part 1 of 2 This episode is the live Blab feed from my live Blab broadcast.  Go to my blog post to find out more about the four personalities. I have also published a video where I explain in more detail the strengths of each personality. If you’re new to all this and want to discover what your personality is, click here to get my free Design Discovery Worksheet. The post STFW 022: Understand Your Husband’s Personality To Build a Stronger Marriage Part 1 of 2 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Straight Talk For Wives Podcast Episode 021 Show Notes: This podcast is an overview of this series that will last for a few weeks. I will be going into much greater detail on each of these 4 factors throughout the series so keep coming back. Also, to get an email whenever a new episode is posted, sign up for my weekly email. You can also subscribe to my podcast on i-tunes or at the bottom of this post. In order to build a strong marriage, you must consider these 4 factors: 1. You must be considerate of your husband’s uniqueness by knowing his personality Is he an introvert or an extrovert? If he always wants to leave early when you’re at a social gathering, that might be an indication he is an introvert. God has designed your husband with a unique personality. If you’re wise you will know it well. This will save you much heartache! Keep coming back as I will dive much deeper into this subject over the next few weeks! 2. You must be considerate of your husband’s history by understanding “his story” Looking back at the pieces of your husband’s past will open your eyes to […] The post Want a Strong Marriage? Consider These 4 Factors – STFW Podcast Episode 021 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Straight Talk For Wives Podcast Episode 020 Show Notes: How to Fulfill Your Marriage Commitment by Living a Balanced Life In this episode, I share the three keys to living a more balanced life. This is the third step in building a concrete marriage commitment. You cannot fulfill your commitment to your marriage unless you have a well balanced life. The Balanced Life, The Balanced Wife. This is one of my biggest weaknesses. Yep. I’m a “yes” girl. I want to do everything for everyone and that gets me into trouble with my husband.  So, if you struggle with over-commitment like me. This podcast will help – big time!!! The first key to balancing your life: Define Your Priorities I have decided to go by what the Bible teaches should be the order of our priorities.  In the book of Matthew, Jesus tells us exactly what the order should be: “Jesus replied, ‘You must love the Lord  your God with all your heart, all you soul, and all your mind.  This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself. The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these […] The post STFW 020: How To Fulfill Your Marriage Commitment by Living a Balanced Life appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

STFW 019 Show Notes: What To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up On Your Marriage When you feel like giving up… do step two: STEP 2: Reach out to God and RE-Commit to my husband How do you do this?? You start by making these six choices: Choice #1: Choose to Release my fears to God “Pour out your feelings to the Lord, as you would pour water out of a jug.” Lamentations 2:19 (CEV) Choice #2: Choose to Recall How God’s helped me in the past “I remember the days gone by; I think about all that you have done, I bring to mind all your deeds…. Remind me each morning of your constant love, for I put my trust in you”     Psalm 143: 5,8a (TEV) Choice #3: Choose to Remain Obedient when I don’t understand “You are my God; teach me to do your will. Be good to me, and guide me on a safe path.                                                                                                 Psalm 143: 10 (TEV) “Make me walk along the path of your commands, for that is where my happiness is found.”                                                                                Psalm 119:35 Choice #4: Choose to Remove Divorce as an option,  and tell my husband “I […] The post STFW 019: What To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up on Your Marriage Commitment appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Podcast Episode STFW 018:  The secret to a concrete commitment in your marriage is to Build it on a Solid foundation – Christ    –   Part 2 In order to have a solid foundation in Christ first you must be fully committed to Christ. Sometimes we have trouble with understanding what that really looks like. It simply means to put 100% of your trust in Christ. Here’s an easy acrostic for the word TRUST that will give you some suggestions on how to deepen your trust in Christ.  “Trust in the lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding.  But in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.”                       Proverbs 3: 5, 6 (NIV) T = Time with him in prayer (We went over the details on this one in the last podcast) R = Remember God’s purpose is bigger than my problems (This one too) 🙂 U = Unite with others for prayer and support You might be wondering how this one has anything to do with learning to trust in Christ. Well Here are three reasons uniting with other wives for prayer and support can help you build your trust in […] The post STFW 018: Concrete Marriage Commitments are Built on a Solid Foundation in Christ – Part 2 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

The secret to a concrete commitment in your marriage is to Build it on a Solid foundation – Christ In order to have a solid foundation in Christ first you must be fully committed to Christ. Sometimes we have trouble with understanding what that really looks like. It simply means to put 100% of your trust in Christ. Here’s an easy acrostic for the word TRUST that will give you some suggestions on how to deepen your trust in Christ.  “Trust in the lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding.  But in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.”                       Proverbs 3: 5, 6 (NIV) T = Time with him in prayer Find a quiet place alone Do it daily Tell Him what you need Thank Him for what he’s already done ****Journal….Journal…Journal R = Remember God’s purpose is bigger than my problems “These trials are only to test your faith, to show that it is strong and pure.  It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold—and your faith is far more precious to God than mere gold.”                1 Peter 1:7(NLT) Part 2 is episode 018 and it will […] The post STFW 017: Concrete Marriage Commitments are Built on a Solid Foundation in Christ – Part 1 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

STFW 016: The 5 Building Blocks of a Strong Marriage Overview – Show Notes: This is an overview of all of the five building blocks that build a strong marriage. The theme verse for this entire series is from the book of Matthew: “Anyone who listens to my teaching and obeys me is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won’t collapse, because it is built on rock. But anyone who hears my teaching and ignores it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will fall with a mighty crash.”                                                              Matthew 7:24-27 (NLT) First we should look at some of the common reasons marriages fail. These are like the “winds” and “flood waters” Jesus talks about in Matthew 7:24 – 27. Unreasonable  Expectations Unaccepted  Differences Unresolved  Conflict Unforgiven  Mistakes Unreliable   Commitment Strong […] The post STFW 016: 5 Building Blocks of a Strong Marriage – Podcast Overview appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Straight Talk for Wives Episode 015 –  Show Notes:     5 Tips to Re-ignite The Romance in Your Marriage If you want to re-ignite the romance in your marriage like you had back when you were dating;  you should try doing the same types of romantic things you did back when you started dating. Look what it says in the Bible: “But I have this against you: you have let go of the love you had at first. So remember the high point from which you have fallen. Change your hearts and lives and do the things you did at first.”       Rev. 2:4-5  (CEB) Here are some tips to refuel those romantic flames… Tip #1:  Forgive past failures If you’re going to rebuild a strong physical connection in your marriage, you need to forgive yourself for your past failures in this area. You also need to forgive your husband of his past failures in this area. This is a must if you want to re-ignite those romantic flames again. It says in 1 Cor. 13: 5b “Love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs that others do.” Just let it go. Tip #2:   Focus my attention back […] The post STFW 015: 5 Tips to Re-ignite The Romance in Your Marriage appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Straight Talk for Wives Podcast Episode 014 – Show Notes: How To Strengthen My Marriage Connection By Knowing My Husband’s Love Language Part 2   In this episode, I share more details that I’ve learned from the book; The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. If you don’t have this book, I recommend you buy it TODAY. 🙂 And, if you still haven’t taken the Love Language quiz, go to http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ and take the quiz before listening to this podcast. 1.Words of Affirmation Central Aspect of this love language: Unsolicited compliments mean the world to this person. And, hearing the words “I love you” are important but hearing the reasons behind that love is HUGE! If this is your husband’s love language, these are the words he would love to hear: “I love you because…” If this is your husband’s love language; insults would be extra hurtful. Here is a question you should ask yourself:  Are my words matching my tone? Am I sending mixed messages? A question you might ask your husband if this is his love language: Are my words encouraging to you or belittling? Your homework: Remember the T.H.I.N.K. principle and apply it this week: T = Truthful […] The post STFW 014: How To Strengthen My Marriage Connection By Knowing My Husband’s Love Language Part 2 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Straight Talk for Wives Podcast Episode 013 – Show Notes: How To Strengthen My Marriage Connection By Knowing My Husband’s Love Language Part 1 The Five Love Languages – Introduction This podcast is jam packed full of helpful tips I’ve learned from the book; The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. If you don’t have this book, I recommend you buy it TODAY. 🙂 Before listening to this podcast make sure you know your love language. Go to http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ and take the quiz! Then come back and listen to this podcast. 1.Words of Affirmation Central Aspect of this love language: Unsolicited compliments mean the world to this person. And, hearing the words “I love you” are important but hearing the reasons behind that love is HUGE! 2. Quality Time Central Aspect of this love language: Quality time is togetherness & focused attention! NOT proximity!! 3. Receiving Gifts Central Aspect of this love language: The receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift…NOT the price! 4. Acts of Service Central Aspect of this love language: Anything done for this person to lighten their load is paramount. 5. Physical Touch Central aspect of this love language: This language […] The post STFW 013: How To Strengthen My Marriage Connection By Knowing My Husband’s Love Language Part 1 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Straight Talk for Wives Podcast Episode 012 – Show Notes: Identifying & Repairing Unhealthy Connections in Your Marriage by Understanding Boundaries – Part 2 Understanding the Ten Laws of Boundaries from the book, Boundaries in Marriage, and how they work in marriage. The Law of Sowing and Reaping: Our actions have consequences. “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.” Gal. 6:7-8 (NIV) The Law of Responsibility: We are responsible to, not for each other.             “For each one should carry their own load.”         Gal. 6:5 (NIV) The Law of Power: Clarifies what we do and don’t have power over. “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to […] The post STFW 012: Indentifying & Repairing Unhealthy Connections in Your Marriage by Understanding Boundaries – Part 2 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Straight Talk for Wives Podcast Episode 011 – Show Notes Identifying & Repairing Unhealthy Connections in Your Marriage by Understanding Boundaries Boundaries Basics What is a Boundary? Definition: A property line that indicates ownership and responsibility Why do we need boundaries? …because they help us do four things: Boundaries help us clarify ownership of something Boundaries help us clarify who has responsibility Boundaries help us realize our freedom “Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand. Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you.”  Galatians 5:1 (MSG)   4. Boundaries help us keep in the good and keep out the bad   Ultimately, boundaries are all about “self control”. I highly recommend you buy Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud & John Townsend Also, I encourage you to check out the Boundaries website where you can take a Boundaries quiz to see how you’re doing in this area. Join me for the 2nd part of this talk on Boundaries in Marriage. It will be released on December 15, 2015. –Kristy The post STFW 011: Identifying & Repairing Unhealthy Connections by Understanding Boundaries in Your Marriage appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Podcast STFW 010 – Show Notes: How To Repair An Unhealthy Codependent Connection in Your Marriage You need to consider making these 5 choices if you want to repair an unhealthy codependent connection in your marriage. Choose to base my self-worth on God’s Love for me “You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce fruit that will last, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name.”                                                              John 15:16 (NLT) “For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. 17 God did not send his Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it.”     John 3:16,17 (NLT)  2. Choose to take responsibility for my own health and well-being. Be sure to do what you should, for then you will enjoy the personal satisfaction of having done your work well, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. […] The post STFW 010: How To Repair An Unhealthy Codependent Connection in Your Marriage appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

  Podcast – STFW 009 Show Notes:   Some symptoms that I may have a codependent connection with my husband….     These are just some of the symptoms that may indicate the connection in your marriage is unhealthy in a “Codependent” kind of way.  🙂  I read Melody Beattie’s book called Codependent No More and learned so much about Codependency and how it can cause lots of unwanted problems in marriage. If you’re struggling in your marriage and can’t quite put your finger on what’s causing all the turmoil; read through this list below and see if anything sounds familiar in your relationship: I may be in an unhealthy codependent relationship; if I always … … Attach a higher value to his opinions and feelings over my own … Put his _needs and desires before my own…always … Assume responsibility for his feelings and behaviors … Am afraid of how he may respond to my feelings, opinions, and behavior … Have difficulty making decisions independent of my husband … Minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel … Am afraid to express differing opinions or feelings from his …Am extremely loyal, allowing harmful behavior to go on for too long … Am […] The post STFW 009: Some Symptoms That You Might Be In a Codependent Relationship Part 1 of 2 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.

Show Notes: Six Choices to Help Prevent an Affair Part 2 of 2   In this episode, I share the 2nd three choices you need to make to help prevent an affair in your marriage. Choice #4: Choose to Control My Media Intake Check these areas and see what changes you should make: Movies or movie channels you subscribe to TV shows Social media – Facebook Internet Choice #5: Choose to Combat Temptation Relationships with co-workers – are they appropriate? Am I causing other husbands to be tempted by how I dress? Am I careful not to engage in sharing personal marriage issues with other men Choice #6: Choose to Count the HIGH Cost Realize that it is a very high cost to pay if you’re entangled in an inappropriate relationship with someone other than your husband. You can choose to change today. Our God is an awesome God and He can take our mistakes and make miracles! Choose today to prevent an affair by making the six choices I’ve shared. Share this with your husband and both of you will be one step closer to a better marriage TODAY!   The post STFW 008: Six Choices to Help Prevent an Affair Part 2 of 2 appeared first on Straight Talk for Women.