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Fountain of Worth Podcast
9 minutes | Jan 9, 2021
Season 3 Episode 1: Rewriting Disappointment with Becky Squire
This episode will inspire you to fight your inner critic and discover your inherent worth. Becky is the owner and editor of Latter-Day Woman Magazine, but she didn't start that way. Her inner critic used to tell her that she was dumb. In this episode Becky will take you through her journey of transformation. Listen and learn about what she did to change that hurtful inner dialogue. Episode Transcription: Hey, everyone, I am so excited to be back with you for season three. This season is going to be dedicated to helping women discover and embrace their inherent worth. Thank you so much for joining me on this journey. And without further ado, here's episode one. The most rewarding journey you will ever take is discovering and embracing what lies within you, a fountain of worth. I'm your host, Norma Zaugg. I sat in the middle of the smart and popular girls feeling like an alien in more ways than one. I stayed quiet as much as possible to avoid getting caught, not knowing anything. But sooner or later, you always get caught. My teacher wrote an equation on the board. It was full of random letters, numbers and symbols that I knew weren't random at all. He turned to call someone up to solve it. I avoided his eyes and sunk down in my seat. It didn't work this time. He called my name. I stood up and slowly made my way to the front of the room as I walked. I stared down that equation, begging it to reveal its answer to me, but it didn't. It looked like a foreign language. My face felt warm and my heart was pounding. How long could I stall? I picked up the dry erase marker and let it dance around my fingers. The room was dead silent. Was everyone staring at me? I didn't dare turn around to check, but I could feel the popular girl sneering at me. Surely the teacher would have compassion on me. I turned to meet, his eyes magnified behind his thick old man glasses and just shrugged. He nodded in subtle surprise and said, "Oh, I thought you were a Hart." Ouch. Becky, was there a message sent to you like that inner critic? What was it saying when this was going on? It said that I was stupid, dumb and an airhead and most of all, a disappointment. Ouch. Those messages can be so upsetting. Can you tell me a little bit more about your family growing up? So I am the youngest of seven children in a very smart, talented and influential family. At least that's how I perceive my parents and siblings. We never missed family scripture, study, prayer or family home evening. We won spelling bees, reflection contests and even Sterling Scholar. And we really enjoyed singing beautiful harmonies at home and performed around our community, just like the Von Trapp Family Singers. Pretty much. What couldn't the Hart family do? Wow. I can imagine how amazing you must have been. Do you think that belonging to your family led to any feelings of inadequacy or not being able to measure up? It definitely wasn't anything that they did to make me feel that way. But like I said, it was kind of my inner critic. And so while all my siblings were getting straight A's and and succeeding in every subject and every part of their life, I would usually be found stuffing my homework into the hidden crevices of my room. My mother was out of sight, out of mind. And then I would create I would create stories with my dolls, with my stuffed animals, and sometimes just with a pencil and paper lost in my infinite imagination. I was comparing myself to my siblings and not measuring up. Yeah, it's so hard. Comparing ourselves to, yea siblings makes it really hard. Sometimes I have comparisons with my own, so I totally get that. What do you think was the defining moment when you were like, I want these feelings to shift? Like I don't want to feel this way? Well, I definitely struggled with those thoughts for a long time. But years later, after I was married and had three kids, I had a miscarriage. And during my mourning and my sorrow, the only thing that I could do was to write about it. Writing has always been my therapy, even though I didn't necessarily think I was a good writer. I just enjoyed it. And it helped me through things. I don't know what it was that made me do this, but I decided to submit an article that I wrote about my miscarriage to the Ensign and they published it. And that's kind of what started my creative flame to start burning a little bit brighter. Wow, that's amazing. That's really cool that you were able to get that validation from, you know, writing something and just maybe even. Did you feel like you were holding your breath when you submitted it? Like when I submitted it, I never in a million years thought that I would ever hear anything from them. I never I never thought it would even maybe, you know, the email would even get opened. And this is a whole other story. But what's interesting is that is that I didn't hear anything for three years. Three years later, I got an email saying that they wanted to publish the article. Wow, that's really fascinating, almost as if the right timing, you know, like they were waiting the right time. So after you get this article published, like what? What did you do next? I decided to start my own blog. I, I had loved blogging, but it was mostly just a family type of blog. And so I decided to start one where I would just have my own writing. And I wrote something every week and it was on different topics that I just kind of enjoyed writing about. I didn't think anybody would care to read it, but it didn't matter because it made me feel good to write. And the more that I wrote, the better it got. There's definitely been a transformation that has happened for you from feeling dumb and feeling like you weren't as smart maybe as other family members to where you are today. Can you share a tip or a tool that helped you? Something that I've come to realize over the last few years to be smart doesn't mean that you're book smart. So let me rephrase that. I believed that if you weren't book smart, that you weren't smart at all. But that's not the case. There's so many different kinds of smart and creativity is definitely one of them. I decided to start writing an article once a week and now I have not only been published in the Ensign, but I've been published on the Today Show and a lot of other media outlets, and I am now the founding editor of Latter-Day Woman magazine. Amazing. Do you still struggle? Yeah, I do for sure. I don't think that that this is something that you can just magically get over feelings of doubt and disappointment in whatever areas you might be feeling that what we need to learn is how to use tools to. You know, despite those feelings and get over them every day, yeah, so if you were to summarize your experience in six words, what would those words be? Stupid disappointment, determined writing, magazine owner. That was Becky Squire. She is the owner and founding editor of Latter Day Women magazine. Becky is an amazing example of how we do not have to let the inner critic rule our lives. If you want to know more about Becky, you can visit her website at Beckysquire.com or go over and check out the magazine Latterdaywomen.com. And as always, thank you so much for joining me today. If you could take a few moments to leave a review for this podcast. It really helps other women find this podcast. I can't tell you how important it is. And I would be really grateful if you could do so. Thank you so much. If you want to follow me on Instagram, you can follow me @Fountainofworth thank you so much. Talk to you next time.
20 minutes | Jun 19, 2020
Healing Mother-Child Bonding Deficits
In this episode we discuss how these deficits occur and what we can do about them. We can't go back to our mothers ans ask them to fix the deficits they created when we were infants, but we can heal the deficits that are within us that will pass to our children. This episode provided 4 actionable steps that you can begin taking today to make a difference and change generational patterns.
20 minutes | May 30, 2020
The Importance of Mother and Child Bonding
Have you ever felt alone in a group of people? What about when you are with your family, together yet completely isolated? One of the biggest misconceptions is that is if you are spending time together as a family you are attached. In this episode we dive into the importance of mother and child bonding. What does a home look like where there is a strong attachment? What does a home look like when there are bonding deficits? What can we do if our relationships are struggling? Listen and learn more.
18 minutes | May 22, 2020
Family Patterns Don't Have to be Extreme to be Dysfuctional
Did you know that harmful family patterns are nor always extreme? It is not always a story of a father that abuses his children, or a mother who is beaten. Sometimes family patterns are much more subtle, but still harmful. Patterns like: lack of empathy, poor communication, perfectionism, fear, and criticism can really cause a lot of pain and heartache for members in a family. This episode dives into 5 different common family structures and looks at the dysfunction of each. It is my hope that this episode is not shameful and that you don't leave discourages=d, but empowered on small changes you can make that will have a big impact. Sending Love, Norma Resources used for this episode: Psych2go- Family Dysfunction John M. Gottman: 4 Horseman of the Apocalypse
12 minutes | May 9, 2020
Growing Up With a Depressed Parent
Did you grow up in a home with a parent who struggled with depression? If so this episode may help bring understanding and hope. Depression is traumatic to children and is a form of generational trauma that passes to future generations through what is called Traumatic Response. Children who do have a caregiver that is depressed are 4x more likely to face depression themselves, and a variety of other struggles.
17 minutes | May 1, 2020
Did you know that Denial can be a generational pattern that is taught. Dive into this episode where we learn about the theory of denial. How it shows up in families and what we can do to stop it.
13 minutes | Apr 19, 2020
P-I-N-G Model for Self Management
Are you tired of feeling out of control when something unexpected happens? Do you want to be able to manage large emotions despite the pull of hard things? If so, I think you will enjoy this episode where I teach you an new tool called the P-I-N-G Model. When outside circumstances try to throw us for a loop, we can take action and do something about it.
15 minutes | Apr 10, 2020
How to Make COVID-19 Less Traumatic for You and Your Children
Are you struggling with this Pandemic? Thoughts of: homeschooling is not for me, I'm tired, I need a break, just get me out of this house, I see the danger but I am tempted to go out anyways, lonely, disconnected, sad. You are not alone. This is a trying time for all of us. In this episode I give you 4 tips on how to make Covid-19 less traumatic for you and for your children. As always, I would love to hear your feedback. Stay safe!
23 minutes | Apr 3, 2020
Happy First Birthday, Spark
Wow! I made it. There were amazing moments, and moments of struggle, but yesterday marked the 1 year anniversary and birthday of this podcast. In this episode: 1) A brief history of how this podcast came about. (3:16) 2) How the podcast has changed over the past year (3:46) 3) The fears I had to face to keep going. 4) The success that I saw. 5) Listen and find out how to get the 3 free birthday gifts (13:38) Link to free gifts I'm so excited for what the future will bring. Link to Genecia's Episode on Healing After Abortion
18 minutes | Mar 27, 2020
The Importance of Connection During Social Distancing
Are you feeling a little disconnected? Have you noticed that you have a decreased ability to handle stress? Have you noticed that you aren't as productive as usual? All of these can be linked to the lack of connection we are facing with the new rules about social distancing. In this episode: 1) Learn about the impacts of social distancing. Learn about an interesting study done on babies and connection (2:50) 2) Learn about the harm of disconnection. (5:50) 3) Learn about the 3 dimension of connection (8:52) 4) Learn about our three needs that are met by connection and ideas on how to meet those needs during this time (11:16) 5) Ah-ha Challenge (16:02) Gottman Study: Still Face Experiment Social Relationships and Health Follow Me: Instagram: Sparkpodcast Facebook: Sparkpodcasts Website: normazaugg.com
17 minutes | Mar 20, 2020
Improving Your Relationships by Removing Sarcasm
Do you use sarcasm with your friends, family or co-workers? In this episode we discuss the harm of sarcasm and how we can break this habit to improve our relationships. This episode includes: Why we use sarcasm (5:49) The harm of sarcasm (9:47) How to begin breaking the patterns of sarcasm (12:45) Ah-ha Challenge: 15:50 Follow me: Instagram @sparkpodcast Facebook: @sparkpodcasts website: Normazaugg.com
18 minutes | Mar 13, 2020
Coronoavirus: Fear vs Faith Based Parenting
Have you felt your emotions shift because of the Coronavirus Pandemic? I sure have, especially this past week as churches have been closed, public events have been shut down and universities have moved to online only. How do we stay calm as parents during times like these and parent from a place of faith instead of fear. In this episode learn about: Some characteristics of fear based parenting (1:56) What would fear based parenting look like (4:32) What children pick up (5:47) Steps parents can take to keep calm and love towards faith (7:24) Faith based parenting (14:04) Ah-ha Challenge (16:42) Instagram: @sparkpodcast Facebook: @sparkpodcasts Website: Normazaugg.com
16 minutes | Mar 6, 2020
Counteracting Fear Based Parenting
Did you grow up in a home that used fear based parenting? Does it still impact you today as an adult? In this episode learn: Three indicators that will help you determine if this was used in your home. (4:30) What unspoken messages does fear based parenting send to children. (7:55) The dangers of fear based parenting. (9:10) Actionable steps we can take to change the patterns that are left behind. (12:00) Ah-ha Challenge (14:26)
13 minutes | Feb 28, 2020
Episode 58: Finding Clues to Your Generational Healing
Have you ever wondered if your wounds are generational? This episode gives you tips on finding clues from the past that will help you to uncover your map to healing. Remember anytime we heal, generations both past, present and future benefit. It is worth taking a look.
18 minutes | Feb 21, 2020
Parents Who Need Too Much: Enmeshment with Children
Do you share too much with your children? Do you NEED them to ease your burdens? If you answered yes you may be enmeshed with your children. Enmeshment is an unhealthy family pattern that is often passed down from generation to generation unconsciously. It is where the emotions and even identity of two people get tangled. The best part about all of this is that small changes make a big difference. In this episode: 1) What is enmeshment? (3:46) 2) Questions to ask yourself to see if you might be Enmeshed. (5:34) 2) Why we become enmeshed. (7:34) 3) Why it can be harmful even though it feels safe. (11:22) 4) What we can do about it and create a healthier family. (13:46) AH-HA Challenge: So 1 thing this week that makes you happy. (15:53) Sending Buckets of Love! Thanks for helping me make this community great.
18 minutes | Feb 13, 2020
Episode #56 Unhealthy Friendships: Enmeshment in Teens
Do you ever worry about some of your teenagers friendships? Do they seem to have a friend that is always in crisis? Do they have a friend that they feel they can't live without? Do their friendships seem 1 sided? If so they may be involved in an enmeshed relationship. On this episode we discuss: 1) The 2 parts of an enmeshed relationship. 2) Signs to watch for as parents. 3) Ideas for healing if you find your teen in this kind of friendship. Jump in at any time to learn more.... 4:06 (Description of the 2 roles of enmeshment) 6:50 (What signs should parents be watching for) 10:08 (Why we should be concerned) 11:58 (Ideas for Healing) Ah-ha Challenge: Analyze your own relationships. Are any of them enmeshed? My favorite Book on Boundaries Boundaries with Teens
20 minutes | Feb 6, 2020
Episode 55: Are you Enmeshed With Your Spouse or your Children?
Do you struggle with separating your thoughts and your feelings from those of another family member? Enmeshment is something that many families struggle with and it is a behavior that can harm our families. Learn more, join me on the journey of awareness, healing, hope and awakening. In this episode we... 1) Discuss how enmeshment may have surfaced in your family. 2) We discuss why it is harmful. 3) We untangle what we can do about it. Free Worksheet: Same/Different Enmeshment Activity Ah-ha Challenge: Recognize what relationships in your life might suffer from enmeshment. Don't worry this episode is filled with tips on how to recognize it. Amazon: Boundaries Book: How to Say Yes, When to Say No Article on Enmeshment
20 minutes | Jan 28, 2020
Episode 54: Are You Enmeshed With Your Parents?
Can you tell the difference between your emotions and the emotions of others? Do you feel like you need to rescue others from their emotions? Join me on the journey of awareness, hope, healing, and awakening in this episode on the family pattern of enmeshment. Enmeshment is always unintentional. It is a pattern passed down from generation to generation. Truth: Many families think that enmeshment is the way they should be because they have never experienced something different, but these patterns can harm your family. Listen and... ...find out if enmeshment was a part of your family growing up. ...learn what enmeshment looks like. ...participate in the Ah-ha Challenge for personal growth. Follow me on: Instagram @sparkpodcast Facebook: @sparkpodcasts Website: normazaugg.com
16 minutes | Jan 23, 2020
Episode 53: What Generational Healing Will Do For You
Are you tired of blaming your parents for pain that you carry? Are you afraid that you might pass your suffering forward to your children? Do you want to find a deep internal peace? If so you have found the right place. Generational Healing is some of the most powerful work that you will ever do because it not only clears pain and heartache from our own lives, but it reaches generations in both the past and the future. When we do 'the work' we unlock suffering for our entire family line. Pretty cool huh! In this episode we discuss three reasons to do the work. 1) It will free you from pain that is not yours. 2) It will shift your perception of your parents and others that came before you. 3) You will change the trajectory for your kids because you won't continue passing pain forward. Need a Speaker, I'm your gal: https://normazaugg.com/sharing-my-heart/ Instagram: @sparkpodcast Facebook: @sparkpodcasts Website: normazaugg.com
16 minutes | Jan 15, 2020
What is Generational Trauma and Why I Do This Work
Were you the one chosen in your family line to break generational patterns? Join me on the journey of Awareness, Healing and Awakening Are you unintentionally passing generational trauma to your children? In this episode we untangle what generational trauma is and the importance of becoming informed about it. I share with you why I am so passionate about this work. I have seen the lives of my family members change as I have healed my own pain and shame that was passed to me from my parents. I help individuals recognize and break unhealthy family patterns. This work is life changing. Follow Me: website: normazaugg.com Instagram: @sparkpodcast Need a speaker: https://normazaugg.com/sharing-my-heart/ Show Notes: Article about Holocaust Trauma Trans generational Trauma- Holocaust Survivors
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