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63 minutes | 2 months ago
Life Beyond Booze with Mark Livings
Lyres founder Mark Livings is shaking up the drinks industry with his crazy accurate alcohol-free versions of all the classic spirits. He shares his views on how the COVID pandemic is completely reshaping the hospitality industry, along with insights into how excessive alcohol consumption is conflated with an outdated model of masculinity, why he thinks Australia and the UK in particular have such a problem with binge drinking, and what he sees as the future of the booze business. In this episode we discuss:-His mission to replace the “threshold moment” of having a drink at the end of the day.-The Sober Curious movement being a natural result of the global wellness trend.-Hospitality being an industry where it’s easy to hide problem drinking.-Booze-free beverages being an important development for the drinks business as a whole.-Excess alcohol consumption being conflated with an old-school view of masculinity.-Having conflicted feelings about marketing alcoholic drinks.-The impact of increased exposure to different cultural ideas about alcohol consumption.-Why Australia, the UK, and other Anglo-Centric cultures in particular have such issues with binge-drinking. -How the trend for taking extended beaks from drinking is skewing drinking stats overall.-Non-alcoholic adult drinks providing people a form of “social camouflage” to experiment with sober curiosity.-Why we’re witnessing the tip of the iceberg when it comes to changing attitudes about alcohol and its role in our lives.-The hardest spirit to replicate and why.Sample Lyres for yourself when you visit Lyres.com/sobercurious where you can sign up for a special 15% discount and follow along @lyresspiritco.Thanks also to episode partners Curious Elixirs. Get one FREE bottle on orders of $50 or more at Curiouselixirs.com with the code RUBY and follow @curiouselixirs.
57 minutes | 3 months ago
Sobriety + Success with Sophia Amoruso
Serial entrepreneur Sophia Amoruso quit drinking several years ago as an experiment - and it completely changed the way she views booze, and in particular the role of alcohol in our working lives. Like many of us, she used it as quick way to switch off and a counterbalance to overworking, as well as to feel more confident about herself and her networking abilities. In this episode we also discuss: -Drinking her way through the success of her twenties – and using booze to hide her imposter syndrome.-The role of alcohol in the workplace and when this becomes problematic.-Drinking to be the “cool boss” and the bad example this set for her team.-The role of alcohol in her relationships, and why her current partner wanted her to quit drinking.-The difference between a “concerned” partner being caring or controlling when they comment on your drinking.-Quitting drinking for a year as an experiment and her attitude to alcohol now.-How to build real confidence in business and in life.-Leaning heavily on food and TV during COVID.-How to be intentional about fostering connection in the workplace – without it revolving around booze.-What it means to have work-life balance in an always-on hustle culture.Be the first to learn more about what Sophia is doing next @sophiaamoruso and sign up for her newsletter at Sophiaamoruso.com.Big thanks to season sponsors Lyres. Visit Lyres.com/sobercurious to sign up for a special 15% discount and follow along @lyresspiritco.Thanks also to episode partners Curious Elixirs. Get one FREE bottle on orders of $50 or more at Curiouselixirs.com with the code RUBY and follow @curiouselixirs.
72 minutes | 3 months ago
Marijuana and Me with Brandon Alter
Quitting cannabis is rarely if ever addressed in sober circles. Like alcohol, cannabis use is very socially acceptable, but it’s also widely seen as pretty harmless, and is not even considered to be addictive. All of these factors make it difficult to spot when it’s become a problem – and many habitual smokers may see themselves in this very nuanced conversation with spiritual healer Brandon Alter, where we also discuss the deep healing that can happen when we really choose to show up for ourselves and for life. In this episode we discuss:-The medicinal properties of weed – and when medicinal use becomes habitual use.-The intrinsically personal nature of substance use and abuse.-Weed becoming legal making it easier for people to talk honestly about their experiences with it.-Reaching for things externally that we are not able to give ourselves on the inside.-When getting high goes from being an altered state to a person’s “normal.”-The spiritual energy of weed as plant medicine.-How, over time, seeking “instant zen” with marijuana atrophies our ambition and ability to take action in our lives.-Acceptance as an active choice you make.-Smoking as a way to survive the life he “thought” he wanted.-Quitting to step more fully onto his path as a spiritual healer.-The concept of “soul retrieval” as it relates to the process of recovery.-Working the 12-step program with a sober coach – and the most important part of the process.Discover more about Brandon and his work HERE and check out his podcast The Spiritual Gayz. Thanks to season sponsors Lyres - visit Lyres.com/sobercurious to sign up for a special 15% discount code and follow along @lyresspiritco on Instagram.Thanks also to episode partners Curious Elixirs. Visit curiouselixirs.com and use the code RUBY to get one free bottle with an order over $50.
66 minutes | 3 months ago
Addiction on Prescription with Chekesha Kay Ellis
Chekesha Kay Ellis is a recovery advocate and certified family recovery specialist, and New Jersey state lead for Mobilize Recovery. As she celebrates 10 years sobriety from opioid addiction, an addiction that also robber her of her hearing, she shares her experience of being a high-functioning addict, how she ultimately quit cold turkey, and the cornerstones of her subsequent self-directed recovery. In this episode we also discuss:-The commonalities between opioid abuse and alcohol abuse.-How easy it is for “legal” addictions to fly under the radar.-Chasing feeling good vs. using to self-medicate pain.-The role of both genetics and learned behavior when it comes to addiction running in families.-The physical side-effects of opioids abuse. -Habitual use of both opioids and alcohol just to feel “normal.”-The wake-up call that made Chekesha realize she had to quit—and why it took another year for her to get clean.-What she experienced in her month of going cold turkey—and what got her through.-What comes after the “pink cloud” moment of early sobriety.-The lack of access for deaf and disabled people in traditional recovery circles. -The premature birth of her son—and the challenges of being a deaf first-time mom.-Overcoming her challenges sober giving her a similar “high” to the drugs. -Why we have to change the stigma around addiction if we want to make it easier for people to get help.-How we view addiction and addicts differently through the lens of race.Follow Chekesha on Instagram @chekeshakay to learn more about her work.Thank you to podcast season sponsors Lyres—visit lyres.com/sobercurious to claim a special 15% discount code and follow along @lyresspiritco.Thanks also to Grüvi for partnering on this episode—stock up online at getgruvi.com and use the code SOBERCURIOUS for a one-time 20% discount.
65 minutes | 3 months ago
Quitting For The Kids with Clinton Schultz
Clinton Schultz, is an aboriginal psychologist and founder of the aboriginal-run alcohol-free brand, Sobah Beer. Clinton’s work sits at the intersection of sobriety, social justice, and psychology, and he and his wife Lozen created Sobah in part to raise cultural awareness and promote the Aboriginal arts, language and history. As well as his own journey to sobriety – which was sparked by his young son asking him if he would please stop drinking “silly drink” – we discuss why binge drinking and alcoholism are so prevalent in nations with a colonialist past, and how booze is often used to medicate unhealed intergenerational trauma.Other topics include: -Drinking to medicate unhealed wounds of his traumatic upbringing.-Alcohol being a way to conceal a lack of belonging that has pervaded Western society. -Why binge drinking and alcoholism are so prevalent in nations with a colonialist past—such as the UK, North America, Australia, and South Africa.-The pain of living with pent-up inter-generational trauma.-The problem with labels and how you can be a problem drinker without using the term “alcoholic.”-The need for more access to alternative healing modalities.-The aboriginal view of holistic wellbeing, and how mindfulness and meditation have their roots within indigenous cultures.-The difference between aboriginal psychology and Western psychology. -Quitting drinking as a healing path in and of itself.-The fact that life will always be stressful—the key is to find ways to manage it that work for us.-The reasons younger generations are choosing not to drink.-Clinton’s six “Principals of Law” for healing as individuals and as a society.Discover more about Clinton and his work HERE and follow @sobahbeverages on Instagram.Thanks to series sponsors Lyres. Visit lyres.com/sobercurious to get your 15% discount code and follow along @lyresspiritco for recipes and more.And Grüvi for supporting this episode. Use the code SOBERCURIOUS at getgruvi.com for a one-time 20% discount good through December 2020.
62 minutes | 3 months ago
The Kundalini of Sobriety with Guru Jagat
Kundalini is a form of yoga that focuses mainly on breath and sound – in the form of mantra - and is often cited as being especially helpful for people moving away from substance abuse. For one, it creates its own kind of a natural high – but it also helps to regulate and strengthen the nervous system and to cultivate resilience and self-discipline, so that we can find our growing edge and live life from this place of continual personal evolution. We go to some wild and wacky places in this episode as we take look at being Sober Curious as part of taking a wider “yogic” path in life. In this episode we discuss:-What kundalini yoga is and how it can help on the path to sobriety.-Why kundalini is so fitting for the times we are living through.-The importance of staying conscious and knowing our own minds in this era of rapid evolution.-The role of breath and sound (mantra) in changing our energetic frequency.-Protecting ourselves from social media manipulation.-Matriarchal models of leadership – and the power of “Ma” (universal mother) energy as expressed by people of all gender expressions.-How to hold fierce compassion for ourselves and for each other.-Reparenting ourselves in sobriety by learning to witness and validate our own emotional states.-The damage being done by cancel culture.-The kundalini “high” and where it comes from.-The importance and the practice of self-discipline – and how it can help us live with more meaning and purpose.-Productivity vs. addiction to busyness.Learn more about Guru Jagat and her work and try an online Kundalini yoga class HERE and follow her on Instagram @gurujagat.Thanks to series sponsors Lyres non-alcoholic spirits. Stock up online at Lyres.com and visit Lyres.com/sobercurious to get a special 15% discount code.Thanks also to Grüvi non-alcoholic craft beer and wines. Visit getgruvi.com to order online and use the code SOBERCURIOUS for a one-off 15% discount that's good through December 2020.
63 minutes | 4 months ago
How To Be Happy with Light Watkins
Light Watkins is a renowned author and meditation coach. As founder of the alcohol-free events series The Shine, he has also been a bit of a running buddy of Ruby's in terms of spearheading the “new sobriety” movement.We dive in by discussing the power and the potential of social media activism, and go on to talk about Light’s own sober journey – including how he consciously weaned himself off alcohol over a period of months, and how quitting drinking 20 years ago actually paved the way for him becoming a meditation teacher. We also discuss what it really means to be happy, and how current world events represent a collective rock bottom – offering us all the opportunity to “get sober” from toxic systems and beliefs. In this episode we also discuss:-How to respond to events versus react in ways that may inadvertently cause more harm.-The benefits of both meditation and sobriety for developing an “observer’s mind."-How to “get good” at meditation.-The different “qualities” of happiness that are available to us and how to experience them.-Light’s story of quitting drinking – and how this paved the way for his career as a yoga and meditation teacher.-The “pendulum” effect of going cold turkey – and how to wean yourself off alcohol.-A different way of thinking about moderation.-Quitting eating meat as the start of his sober journey.-Sobriety and meditation as part of the path to paving a “new normal” when it comes to our definitions of success and happiness.Discover more about Light Watkins and his work HERE and follow him on Instagram @lightwatkins.This episode is supported by Lyres non-alcoholic spirits. Visit lyres.co/sobercurious and subscribe for 15% off.Thank you also to Grüvi non-alcoholic craft brewed beer and wines. Order online at getgruvi.com and use the code SOBERCURIOUS through December 2020 for a one-time 15% discount.
61 minutes | 4 months ago
Self-Healing in Sobriety with Alexandra Roxo
Alexandra describes "self-healing" as a process of learning how to accept and integrate our deepest fears and most painful wounds. Very relevant here as unexamined, and therefore unhealed, trauma is the root of so many of our addictions, as we often develop an unhealthy relationship with substances and other numbing behaviors in an attempt to ‘fix’ these hurting parts. We go to some pretty deep places in this conversation, which also touches on the healing potential of altered states – with and without the use of various sacred plant medicines. In this episode we discuss:-Why self-healing often means sexual healing.-The trauma done to each body seen as “weaker” in the dominant patriarchal paradigm.-The lasting imprint of child abuse—and how this is behind so many addictions, self-harming behaviors and chronic diseases.-The meaning and the process of shadow work, and how this helps us process trauma.-Why healing has to happen in the body as well as the mind.-How you can use breathwork to bring about altered states to aid the healing process – without the need of substances.-How we can become addicted to fixing ourselves – and how this is different from real healing.-Accepting the hard things that happened to us as part of the healing process.-Why pain and trauma are a normal part of human life, and why it’s so hard for us to accept this.-Using tabacco to self-soothe her nervous system as a teen.-Use vs. abuse of plants as medicine.-Sitting with discomfort as a way to expand our resilience and experience of being human.-Sobriety as its own self-healing journey.Learn more about Alexandra Roxo and her work HERE, follow her on Instagram, and get your copy of F*ck Like A Goddess HERE.This episode is supported by Lyres non-alcoholic spirits. Visit lyres.co/sobercurious and subscribe for 15% off.Thanks also to Athletic Brewing non-alcoholic craft beers. Free delivery on two 6-packs or more.
61 minutes | 4 months ago
Intoxicated Masculinity with Mishka Shubaly
Mishka is 10 years sober, and while he identifies as an alcoholic he is resolutely anti-program, anti-spirituality, and anti-self-help. His approach to quitting drinking is as boiled down as it gets: you decide you want to quit, and … you quit … while making lifestyle changes to support this choice. In his case, this also meant relearning how to be a man without the excessive drinking that had come to define his masculinity—a subject I have been wanting to address on this podcast for ages. In this episode we discuss: -Using excessive alcohol consumption to define himself as a man-Men performing an exaggerated hardness to cover up their vulnerability-Getting drunk to give himself permission to cry—and learning to cry sober-Discovering running as a way to access and process his emotions-Defining his own “sobriety”—and why he still uses psychedelics-Becoming agnostic after smoking DMT-How he finally found a definition of spirituality that works for him-The concept of “head nutrition”—and being careful about the information we consume-Making stuff as a way of making sense of the world-Moving to New York just so he could carry on drinking the way he did-The thought of quitting drinking being much scarier than quitting itself-Constantly feeling like shit becoming part of his identity-Figuring out he could still have fun, flirt, tell dirty jokes, and have sex as a sober personLearn more about Mishka and his work HERE and get your copy of Cold Turkey HERE.This episode is supported by Lyres non-alcoholic spirits. Visit lyres.co/sobercurious and subscribe for 15% off.Thanks also to Athletic Brewing non-alcoholic craft beers. Free delivery on two 6-packs or more.
74 minutes | 4 months ago
Sobriety & Self-Acceptance with Vasavi Kumar
Vasavi is a real force of nature, and she shares her story about using alcohol and cocaine to be all the things she thought other people wanted her to be—and how it was after getting sober that she finally discovered how to be herself. She was also diagnosed with bipolar and ADHD at age 20, and shares how, at the time, getting high was a way to explain away her manic and often self-destructive behaviors, which opens up a wider dialogue about substance use and mental health. In this episode we discuss:-Vasavi selling her soul to cigarettes, alcohol, cocaine, and people pleasing, in her desperation to fit in-Getting clear on who you are and what you want before you decide what to do with your life-Losing touch with her inner voice - and sense of self - in the depths of her addictions-The shame we feel around having needs, and asking for them to be met-Using alcohol and other drugs to feel more attractive-The danger of looking for validation and self-worth in social media-Why cocaine became her “thing” – and how she also used it to medicate her bipolar disorder and ADHD in college-How easy it is to be influenced by the company you keep – especially when you lack connection to yourself-Why being a “high-functioning” addict can make it harder to quit-Being rejected by her traditional Indian-American family following her divorce -Not allowing yourself to treat yourself like shit-Being diagnosed with bipolar at age 20 and why she chose to get off her medication after she got soberLearn more about Vasavi Kumar and her work HERE and follow her on Instagram @mynameisvasaviThis episode is supported by Lyres non-alcoholic spirits. Visit lyres.co/sobercurious and subscribe for 15% off.Thanks also to Athletic Brewing non-alcoholic craft beers. Free delivery on two 6-packs or more.
61 minutes | 5 months ago
Codependency & Love Addiction with Nina Renata Aron
The term "codependent" was originally coined to describe the partners of active alcoholics. The thinking being that these people – usually women – were literally dependent on their alcoholic husbands for their livelihoods, and were therefore forced to endure the fallout from their addictions, be it violence and emotional abuse, or financial issues.Nina’s book shows how this dynamic has both endured and evolved over the decades, and anybody who has been in a close relationship with somebody engaged in substance abuse, will see so much of themselves in her story—a story which we don’t hear often enough. In this episode we discuss: -The ripple-effect of addiction and how it impacts our families, friendships, and other relationships.-Nina’s definition of codependency, and how we lose ourselves trying to fix or help others.-Codependency as another expression of alcoholism.-The gendering of codependency being rooted in women’s historical material dependency on men.-Sobriety as a feminist issue.-Focusing on another person’s problems as a way of bypassing your own.-How love addiction can mirror the feelings and experiences of addiction to substances.-Nina’s experiences of the 12-step program in Al-Anon.-“People pleasing” and how always being there for others stops us even knowing what WE want.-The healthiest way to help people who are struggling with substance abuse.-The meaning of the term “emotional incest” – and its role in codependent family dynamics.-Finding peace with her guilt about exposing her kids to her former partner’s drug abuse. Get your copy of Good Morning Destroyer of Men's Souls by Nina Renata Aron HERE.This episode is supported by Lyres non-alcoholic spirits. Visit lyres.co/sobercurious and subscribe for 15% off.Thanks also to Monument—personalized online support to change your drinking. Visit joinmonument.com for plans and pricing.
66 minutes | 5 months ago
Understanding Anger with Lama Rod Owens
Ruby talks to author, teacher and activist Lama Rod Owens about his new book, Love and Rage, which offers a new perspective on anger as a powerful tool for liberation—and an emotion that is deeply interwoven with the subject of substance abuse.Considering all that we have to be angry about in the world today, this subject and this book feels incredibly relevant. Especially as unprocessed anger can lead to depression and self-harm when turned inward against ourselves. In this episode we discuss: -Lama Rod’s definition of anger—and how it can be a tool for liberation-How to use anger in a constructive and restorative way-How alcohol and anger are intertwined – as we use it to numb our frustration or to express pent up anger-Practices for moving through anger to help us process it in a healthy way-Anger as a fuel for activism – and how to infuse our ongoing social justice work with the energy of love-How fear of anger prevents difficult yet necessary conversations from happening-The emotional labor of managing our own reactivity – and the violent reactions of others-Why we are living through “apocalypse” – and sobriety as its own version of this-The importance of working with complexity and understanding that the path forward lies beyond the binary-Why comfort is the antithesis of progress and positive changeGet your copy of Love and Rage HERE and visit Lamarod.com or follow @lamarodowens on Instagram for upcoming talks, events, and retreats.This episode is supported by Lyres non-alcoholic spirits. Visit lyres.co/sobercurious and subscribe for 15% off.Thanks also to Monument—personalized online support to change your drinking. Visit joinmonument.com for plans and pricing.
69 minutes | 5 months ago
Racists Anonymous with Rev. Ron Buford
Pastor Ron Buford is the founder of Racists Anonymous, which is a 12-step program for "recovering" from internalized racism. Like COVID-19, Pastor Ron sees racism as a sickness which has infected society – which impacts each of us as individuals – and which must be fully eradicated for the overall wellbeing of society. He believes that the first step to creating systemic change lies in taking personal accountability by admitting that we are powerless over racism, followed by us humbly submitting ourselves to the kind of conscious, engaged, and sustained effort provided by the 12-step process.In this episode we discuss: -Pastor Ron’s definition of racism, which extends to any discrimination based on a person’s external identity-Why racism is a “disease” that can infect anybody – including people of color -Why admitting we are “powerless” over racism is the first step to healing from it-How the 12-step program can provide a safe framework for confronting racist thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors -How the Buddhist practice of mindfulness can help us to interrogate painful truths -Racism being a virus (like COVID-19) like that must be fully eradicated for the overall health of our society-How the Black Lives Matter movement has been the backdrop to a collective—and ongoing—“Step 4” around racism, as we take our personal moral inventories around race-Why change must happen on a personal level before it can happen on a systemic level-Why an ability to own one’s own racism shows a willingness to change it-Anti-racism work as part of our human evolution in the continuum of creationRacists Anonymous aim to get 250 meetings started globally this year. If you’re interested in attending you can visit rainternational.org for more details. This episode is supported by Lyres non-alcoholic spirits. Visit lyres.com/sobercurious and subscribe for 15% off.Thanks also to Monument—personalized online support to change your drinking. Visit joinmonument.com for plans and pricing.
58 minutes | 7 months ago
Changing How We Drink with Ben Branson
Seedlip founder Ben Branson created a whole new category when he launched the world's first distilled non-alcoholic spirits in 2015—one that not only provided those abstaining with something new to drink, but which has also done so much to normalize the choice not to drink. Regardless of your reasons for going alcohol free.Since then, the "no-and-low" category has exploded, with so many alcohol-free options on the market helping people make the conscious choice not to drink. In this episode we discuss:-The Sober Curious movement taking root thanks to the information age.-What it means to be a conscious consumer – and how to make responsible choices in all areas of our lives.-Why alcohol is not a match for life in the modern world, where our time and energy are our most valuable resources. -Why the goal is to make it “normal” not to drink – as opposed to sexy, aspirational, or cool.-The radical position of identifying as a normal drinker … with a drinking problem.-How to live in the discomfort of being “in between” two truths.-What informs Ben’s drinking choices now, as a figurehead in the alcohol-free space.-The best places in the world to get an alcohol-free cocktail.-Valuing the whole experience of a social event and the art of connection.-The advent of “rage rooms” – and other ways to process difficult feelings in the Now Age.-What Ben sees as the future of booze.Learn more about Seedlip at seedlipdrinks.com where you can get 20% off your online order with the code SOBERCURIOUS. You can also follow @seedlipsocial on Instagram for recipes, events, and more.
0 minutes | 7 months ago
Veganism and Food Addiction with Victoria Moran
Changing how you drink can shine a light on how you eat. This week's guest is Victoria Moran, an author, activist, podcaster, and producer, who has been a pioneer of veganism since her first book on the subject was published in 1985—and I invited her on the show to talk about what she sees as the common ground between being sober curious and veg-curious.With a history of compulsive eating, which she got sober from with Over Eaters Anonymous, Victoria is also a non-drinker—having decided at age 19 she didn’t want to risk becoming addicted to alcohol. In this episode we discuss: -The power of having an accountability buddy when making or breaking a habit.-Being a vegan pioneer for 37 years – and the similarities between the meat-free and alcohol-free movements.-Veganism as a celebration of life – and the role of animals in our ecosystem.-Victoria’s history as a compulsive eater – and her recovery with Over Eaters Anonymous.-Her decision aged 18 never to start smoking or drinking.-How to host a sober vegan party (for meat-eating drinkers).-Emotional conditioning versus rational thinking when it comes to our addictions to food and drink.-Thinking about veganism as a “good karma” diet.-The science that makes cheese as addictive as cocaine – and what makes some foods more addictive than others.-Living a life of integrity and “spiritual fitness” - and her definition of both.-The long-term health impact of our lifestyle choices.Discover more about Victoria and her work HERE follow her on Instagram HERE and check out her Main Street Vegan podcast.This episode is supported by Seedlip. Visit Seedlipdrinks.com and use the code SOBERCURIOUS for 20% off your online order and follow @seedlipsocial on Instagram.
58 minutes | 8 months ago
The Demon Drink with Yrsa Daley-Ward
Writer, actor, and model Yrsa Daley-Ward is best known for her emotionally raw poems about mental health, sexuality, love, grief ... and addiction. Having used alcohol and other substances to make life feel "larger," she talks to Ruby about finding an even fuller sense of self in her subsequent sobriety. In this episode we discuss: -Using alcohol and other substances to make life feel larger.-The British drinking culture as an escape from tradition and repression.-Being brought up in a strict religious family by her grandparents – and learning that her birth father had died of liver cancer.-Discovering alcohol aged 14 and using it to feel more confident as the only black girl in a white, working class town.-Storytelling as a way to explore the darker parts of ourselves and to feel less alone.-The role of substance abuse in the archetype of the tortured artist.-Saving the feelings you’re trying to manage with alcohol up for the next day.-Quitting drinking to prove to herself that she didn’t need alcohol to be confidence, funny, and creative.-Different theories about what happens when we “black out" from booze.-Seeing our drinking histories as all part of a process of self-discovery.-Finding community and togetherness in the 12-step program – and all the things that make up her sobriety tool kit.Discover more about Yrsa and her work HERE and follow her on Instagram @yrsadaleyward.This episode was created in partnership with Seedlip. Use the code SOBERCURIOUS at Seedlipdrinks.com for 20% off your online order and follow @seedlipsocial for recipes and more.
62 minutes | 8 months ago
The Power of Optimism with Aaron Rose
Aaron Rose is an activist, coach and spiritual guide, who's mission is to help create a world "where we all thrive as ourselves." Positioning optimism as a key component of meaningful and progressive social change, Aaron credits his sobriety with helping him hone this message.Originally recorded as the US goes into week 3 of lockdown in response to the coronavirus pandemic, Aaron's work has never felt more relevant or needed. In this episode we discuss:-How to re-train yourself to expect the best.-Why like attracts like, making optimism an essential part of bringing about positive change.-Aaron’s background as a Facebook “comment crusader” – and what made him change his approach to social justice.-The subconscious programing that only knows how to feel hurt, hopeless, or under attack – and how we can begin to re-write this.-How to separate our feelings from the story we are telling ourselves and what we believe about the world.-Learning to feel and process painful feelings so that they are no longer running the show.-His sobriety as part of an overall awakening and raising of consciousness.-The meaning and practice of “shadow work” and its role in healing our wounded parts.-Rediscovering prayer on his own terms – having rejected his repressive Catholic up-bringing.-Cultivating your own authentic frequency so you’re less susceptible to external influences and agendas.Learn more about Aaron Rose and his work HERE and follow him on Instagram @aaronxrose. You can also access his "Future World" meditation HERE.Ruby also mention's Charles Eisenstein's must-read essay on the pandemic —you can find that HERE.This episode was created in partnership with Seedlip, the world's first non-alcoholic spirit. Visit seedlipdrinks.com/us and use the code SOBERCURIOUS for 20% off your online order.
71 minutes | 8 months ago
Practicing Belonging with Toko-pa Turner
What makes us feel like we belong? Ruby talks to author and mystic Toko-pa Turner about "belonging" as a skill that we practice when we are able to welcome home parts of ourselves that we have cut off in order to "fit in." Given than many of us drink to feel a sense of belonging in our intimate relationships, our careers, and our wider social lives, Toko-pa's teachings are extremely relevant to the Sober Curious path—especially a at time when a period of self-isolation in response to the coronavirus epidemic has many of us questioning what really matters, and who we even are without the distractions of our everyday lives. In this episode we discuss: -Our lack of belonging as a part of our core collective wounding.-The meaning of belonging, why we feel outside of it, and why so few of us feel like we belong.-What’s behind the epidemic of loneliness and alienation in our culture.-The competencies of belonging – and how we can relearn this skill.-Exile from the self as the root of our addictions.-Drinking to fit in – when we feel like parts of ourselves won’t be accepted.-Recovery as a journey of recovering and re-integrating the lost parts of ourselves.-The “difficult and harrowing project” of welcoming all of our pain and wounding back.-Quitting drinking as one of the “initiations by exiles” that can re-claim an authentic sense of self.-The power we gain back when we sacrifice, or “give up,” alcohol and the false belonging of the drinking culture.-Dreamwork as a way to give context to the troubling events and emotions we experience in our waking lives.-Toko-pa's own journey addressing her problem drinking in her 20s.Learn more about Toko-pa and her work HERE and download her Dream Drops digital course HERE. You can get your copy of Belonging HERE.This episode was created in partnership with Seedlip. Use the code SOBERCURIOUS for 20% off your online order at seedlipdrinks.com and follow @seedlipsocial on Instagram.
68 minutes | 8 months ago
Addiction Expert Q&A with Peter Grayson
Peter Grayson is Executive Director of BIGVISION NYC, a community that supports young adults in their recovery with free events online and throughout New York City. I invited him on the pod to get into the nitty-gritty of some questions relating to addiction, recovery, and being Sober Curious that come up consistently—and which I don't always feel qualified to answer myself. Pete has also been a pioneering voice in the field of holistic recovery, and has over 10 years experience working in out-patient rehab centers and one-to-one with individuals navigating their recovery. in this episode we discuss:-The difference between addiction, dependency, and substance abuse.-Why the most important thing is to consider the “why” beneath the “what” – the reasons somebody is using a substance the way they do.-What predisposes a person to problematic substance use.-Why the future of addressing addiction lies in prevention and early intervention.-The role of stigma in how we talk about and treat addiction.-Why simply asking yourself: “Is something off in my life?” is the first step to identifying if your drinking has become a problem.-How to talk to loved ones about their substance use.-The role of substance abuse in relationships.-Why 12-step programs work for some people and not for others.-The cornerstone of a sustainable shift in all maladaptive behaviors.Learn more about BIGVISION and their work at BigVision.nyc and check out their online offerings and meet-ups you can access from anywhere HERE. You can also follow them in Instagram @bigvisionnycThis episode was created in partnership with Seedlip. Follow them on Instagram @seedlipsocial and get 20% of your online order at Seedliipdrinks.com with the code SOBERCURIOUS.
57 minutes | 9 months ago
Microdosing and Mental Health with Will Siu, MD
Psychiatrist Will Siu is a leading voice in the realm of psychedelic therapies, said to be especially effective in addressing addictions of all kinds. In this interview, he responds to the question about whether these substances are appropriate for somebody who is living a “sober” life, as well as discussing the trending topic of microdosing—the practice of imbibing minute amounts of psychedelics, and which is said to help with everything from social anxiety, to productivity, and creativity.In this episode we discuss:-The definition of microdosing.-Why the term mainly applies to psychedelics—and not necessarily substances like cannabis and MDMA.-The intention behind using substances this way; whether for healing, for creativity, or to improve focus and productivity.-The potential for microdosing to replace alcohol as a social lubricant.-Why it’s very difficult to become “addicted” to psychedelics or microdosing.-Whether this practice is compatible with living a sober curious life.-The legalities of microdosing in different parts of the world and how this is changing.-The value of peer-to-peer therapy and how to be vulnerable and authentic with one another.-How guided psychedelic experiences can help people heal from addiction.-The risks of drinking versus the risks of psychedelics.-The importance of community and interdependence for our mental health.Learn more about Will Siu and his work HERE and follow him on Instagram @will.siu.md. You can also listen to our previous podcast on Psychedelics and Sobriety HERE. Will's portrait: @noamekhausThis episode was created in partnership with Seedlip. Discover more at Seedlipdrinks.com/us and follow along @seedlipsocial.
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