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Dating as an anxious-attached single mum be like... let’s talk casual relationships, the BIG qUESTIOnS (“like, what are we?”) and how to get past the fishing profile pics on Tinder.

Today’s episode features our very first guest to the show, my 2 year old daughter. With no new content to share, SMILF decided to record the beautiful yet unremarkable interactions with her daughter - perhaps a moment in time to remember as we flit through lockdown, trying our best to keep our heads afloat, but realising there’s wonder in the littlest things. ❤️

Recently separated? Having your kid sleep over at the other parents for the first time? Kid sleeps like an angel at yours but a dementor at other parents? Armed with solid advice (not her own as she knows sweet FA), Smilf looks in to philosophies and helpful hints on how to calm your child when they’re away from primary carer. There’s nothing that eats away at you more than thought of you kid in discomfort (and perhaps pass ag communication from other tired parent), so let’s all try out these tips and pray to Daria Morgondorfer transitions can be smoother, bub can settle, and you won’t get 4am FaceTimes (happened to a friend of a friend...) with some practical ideas on how to make two homes feel just as cosy.

Smilf goes Tony Robbins on your ass and speaks on the damaging notion of ‘broken homes’ (it ain’t a thing! A home is a home!), the patriarchal construct that tries to make single parenting a stinky bad thing, moving on past trauma, diving into dating and being your own ‘woo girl’ by stepping in, empowered, to owning the space that is Single Parent (we need medals. And a marching band. And popcorn).

Smilf’s birth story! Wholesome, bland content ahead! ❤️

Smilf tackles the #bodypositivity movement, how damaging the #bounceback postpartum photos really are, why being pregnant is the only time in a woman’s life she can be liberated to gain weight (kos patriarchy) and attempts to deprogram 30 years of absorbed messaging that thin is the only way. ALL BODIES WONT MATTER UNTIL LARGER BODIES CAN! Follow @thebodzilla @thebirdspapaya @raffela_mancusa @Kenziebrenna @jessraeking for articulate queens in this space of body-positivity and neutrality

Call the (tone) police! SMILF on why influencers need to be held to account, why being a ‘nice’ person shouldn’t be conflated with toxic positivity and the intricacies of ‘calling someone out’

Basic bitch advice on how to navigate the public health system and get your mental health needs met, the revelation of cognitive behavioural therapy (and some shit analogies explaining it) and SMILF’s foray into Lexapro antidepressant! Self-care can be bath, a face mask, a candle, a crystal dildo - but also making your mental health a priority, fam! SIDE NOTE - stop using ableist terms like ‘crazy’ or ‘unwell’ as a negative - your bigotry is showing X

Single, pregnant, 27 and with no job prospects or maternity leave past childbirth. SMILF’s basic bitch take on budgeting (clue: read Barefoot Investor), being Frugal As FuckTM and how to milk everyone into buying you baby shit (jokes). Sage advice from an idiot with no expertise, who names her bank accounts things like Bitch of Living & Treat Yoself, but is somehow savvy enough to live a little bit more than week to week. 

You’ve probably seen some scary statistics surfing around social media about missing children. Child trafficking statistics are being seen everywhere, and it’s eating into our worst fears as parents. ‘We need to talk about this more!’ ‘The media is hiding this from us’!. Let’s debunk some of the myths around child trafficking and sex abuse inflicted on minors, stranger danger, what trafficking really is (hot take: The mumfluencers crying ‘CHILD TRAFFICKING” aren’t cognisant that the cheap produce they/re flogging made in poor countries actually ties into child labour/trafficking itself). Let’s look at the history behind the laws of trafficking itself, why it’s tied deeply to immigration and race relations, and why mumfluencers sharing these stats, even though they appear to be helping, are actually advocating far-right pro-Trump sentiments (just because Epstein is a nasty child abuser, doesn’t mean all of Hollywood is #pizzagate). Ultimately, if you’re not for absolving systems effecting victims of DV, poverty, asylum seeking, immigration, minorities and POC, fair work trades across the board and forced marriage, then you’re not for truly wanting to #SaveTheChildren. Performative allyship, this time dipped in conspiracy propaganda, appealing to white mothers only - we meet again.

One Smilf’s experience on family mediation in the public system. How to prepare, fight for your RIGHT (not to party, but, like, custody of your kid) and why the family law system is inherently flawed and misogynistic.

Wear a mask. Stay home. It’s not a ‘plandemic’. Get off my social media, Karen. Also, fuck Pete Evans.

Not really! But let's debunk the role of the Stepford Wife mummyblogger, the difference between trolling and taking accountability and TOXIC FEMINISM. 

Are you a co-parent or a parallel parent? What's the diff, sis? Do you feel like dying a bit inside everytime you see #coparent goals on the 'gram? Do you feel like you're sometimes walked all over by the other parent? Reel it in, gals, let's breakdown some handy(ultra) tips to setting boundaries in your family dynamic! One non-experts guide on how to survive the next 18 years with people you would've deleted off your Myspace Top Friends years ago, but now share DNA with. XOXO SMILF

Smilf’s back and we’re covering all things rentals! How to land your ideal rental, tips for moving solo, how to not yell at old mate Rod the red-faced middle-aged real estate agent who cancelled yet another rental inspection you travelled 45 mins for with a whiny toddler in tow (tip - I failed at that one) 🙃. Renting can be as competitive as getting the parent carpark at Aldi, but these tips might help you land a home fit for a Kween!

Y'all washed your hands?!  One single mama's choices and the social, political and economical repercussions of The Virus Who Must Not Be Named. 

Happy fookin' Valentines! Let's dive into modern dating, dating as a mum, #hotbarista rejection and some utterly cooked dating stories by yours truly. Hint: he said not to worry about paying for my drink as "you're a single mum, I get it". Scoff those chocky hearts, pour yourself a vino and switch on to the TRAGICOMEDY of dating as a SMILF

UP THE (HILARY) DUFF: You’re late on your rags and it’s not a drill - the stork is dropping baby bird and you don’t know what the freak is about to hit you, for vag or your bank statement. This episode is a guide to what to expect when you’re expecting as a solo hoe-lo, covering all things medical, how to maximise your care in the public system, savvy advice re the whole ‘put baby daddy on the birth cert’ or not sitch & what baby shit you really need (hint: it’s not seed heritage). PANDA's National Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Helpline: 1300 726 306 For those opting to terminate pregnancy: https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/abortion

The world is on fire, ScoMo's watching the cricket & we're draining our Centrelink cash to save the koalas. A guide on how to cope as a parent when the end of the world is nigh: practical advice from a nobody on welfare on how to live consciously, ethically, to reduce our teeny tiny weeny winy carbon footprints so there's something left for our kids other than some Murdoch media strewn on the side of the tolled freeway #LoveNLight

How can one #TreatYoself when you’re on the fkn single parent pension? Some handy tips on how to maintain your wellness and sanity as a single mum when you wanna rip your pubes out with stress. BYO SHEET MASK!