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An online dating horror story, her true crime story should literally be a special on Netflix... In April of 2019 she found out the guy she had been dating for 6 months was a con man and was in the middle of his biggest con to date... Dating her. Breathing coach, physiotherapist and  host of the #1 Podcast in New Zealand , Conning the Con, we've got Emma Ferris on the show.Emma takes us through the story of how she built trust and a relationship with a man who she later found out was not who he said he was... And then being put in a position to "con the con".How after being put in a situation where her she lost a mass amount of trust, she learned to trust herself.She shares her story, because she believes that in some way we all have been "conned" in our lives. In going through a situation in business, relationship or otherwise where we place our trust in someone and they turn out not to be who we thought they were.How she dealt with the stress of the situation. Consciously choosing not to go into "victim mode" and instead choosing "to step into life".How her understanding of the body and how the body reacts to stress helped her through this situation and how our body can store tension over time, impacting our breathing pattern and influencing our emotions.Why we are always sitting somewhere on the spectrum of safety to trauma. And how so many people are stuck in trauma/anxiety mode on a daily basis without knowing that this is not normal.Why it is possible for us to be in a completely safe environment, but can be stuck in an anxiety state because we are carrying tension with us from years ago.The power of play and dance (i.e. ecstatic dance) in releasing trauma being held in the body.The power of having a breathwork practice through times of fear and uncertainty (like COVID).Enjoy.To connect with Emma Ferris:Listen to her Podcast - Conning the Con The Breath Effect - Coaching & ResourcesInstagramFacebook

You may know him as @daringtodad on instagram... we've got men's coach, father coach, Ryan Walton on the show today.We go deep down the rabbit hole on fatherhood. What Ryan was faced with when he became a parent. And how though he "went into the ring ready", he was greeted by a punch in the face.How parenting forces us to face the parts of ourselves that maybe we don't like so much and some of the stories that we carry with us. And how really, most of parenting is NOT about managing our child's emotions and behaviour, but is being faced with and managing our own.How we spend so much time preparing to have kids (reading all the magazines, buying clothes, toys, a sweet crib)... But in reality the biggest thing we can do in anticipation of becoming a parent is working on ourselves.Why it is so important for men to find "brave spaces".Why curiosity is the defense to judgement. And how what we judge we will never understand. Why an attitude of curiosity (and not judgement) is the number one thing you can take into fatherhood.Finally, how the comparison trap exists in parenting as well.Enjoy.To connect with Ryan Walton:Instagram WebsiteFacebook

He coached multiple top 10 players throughout their tennis career and was the personal coach for Victoria Azarenka (former world #1) and Andrea Petkovic (former world #10). Not to mention, he himself was also a tennis player on the international circuit. For the past decade his focus turned to mindset training for peak performance through evidence-based mindfulness skill development, which he incorporates in his function as the Global Mindset Coach for adidas Runners as well as with his personal and corporate clients. Our guest today, Mr. Christian Straka has been at the forefront of the mindfulness movement in pro sports for many years.Today we get into how he has seen the sport world shift more towards mind training and mindfulness as a key piece of driving performance.How there is this stereotype out there that mindfulness is ONLY to be used to help treat issues in our lives (i.e. deal with difficult relationships, with anxiety etc.). But the reality is, there is so much value in working on our minds through the good times as well. To improve our performance and how we are showing up on a daily basis.How the self-critic, negative thoughts and negative emotions are not all inherently bad. And what a healthy relationship with these looks like. The things Christian does to train the minds of elite level athletes so that they can RESPOND and not REACT in the big moment.Enjoy.To connect with Christian Straka:InstagramMindSize Performance Training ProgramChristian Straka's WebsiteGet the UltraHuman App

"If you're not growing, you're dying"Today we've got a guy who is all about growth on the show. Jared Graybeal.Author of "The Self Help Book - 6 Practical Ways to Never Stop Growing" , he's  a NASM-certified personal trainer, fitness nutrition specialist, behavioral change specialist, CrossFit Level 2 trainer, and corrective exercise specialist.He owns and operates two companies. One is Superfit Foods, a healthy, subscription-based, fully customizable meal prep company. The other is E3, a business consulting and marketing agency.He's done some cool things, like exhibiting Superfit Foods at Forbes Under 30 and giving a TEDx Talk on nutrition and mental health.We get into everything around the concept of growth in this one.How growing pains happen and why growth SHOULD be painful (that's how you know you're growing).Why 69% of people feel stuck in their daily routines (and how to break out of this).Why setting specific and relevant goals is KEY.What true self-awareness looks like. And asking yourself "who do I want to be and what do I value?"And finally, why Jared says "I love you" to everyone he knows.To connect with Jared Graybeal:BUY THE BOOK InstagramListen to His Podcast (The Business & Leadership Podcast)

"Live the way you want to be remembered"Decisions are hard, man. And they don't have to be. That's why we've got psychologist, author and decision making expert, Tim Yen on the show this week.Author of "Choose Better, the Optimal Decision Making Framework" - we dig into first of all why decisions can be seemingly so hard to make. Whether it's what type of meat you want on your nachos or whether you should take the leap and change careers.We get into why the first step in optimal decision making is changing our relationship with failure. And dissociating our self worth from the outcome of the many many decisions we make as we go through our day.How a huge component of "Nice Guy Syndrome" (see past episodes with Dr. Robert Glover and Dr. Michael Pariser) is the inability to state our opinion and define what matters to us.How at the end of the day, it is not a performance enhancing drug that will make us better at decision making. But rather, it is going inward. getting to know ourselves. Who we are. What we like/don't like. And operating from this framework of self awareness and respect for what we value.Enjoy.To connect with Tim -BUY THE BOOK - Choose Better: The Optimal Decision Making FrameworkWEBSITEINSTAGRAM

"There is nothing stronger than vulnerability".This week we've got men’s embodiment coach, group facilitator, and evolutionary guide, Mr. Jason Lange on the show.We kick things off talking about the "worst date of Jason's life". And what he learned from it. (Listen to the end to hear my own "worst date story").But this is all about the power of finding presence and stillness as men in relationship (AKA being like James Bond).We talk what the #1 thing women look for in a man.How at the end of the day it all comes down to one word... TRUST.The power of choosing where to put your awareness (instead of just unconsciously doing what our nervous systems dictate).How it is in our "edge" that we figure out who we are as men.And why we need to get better at being alone.Enjoy!To connect with Jason: WebsiteInstagramCoaching

Today we've got The Fear Guy, Ben Harris on the show!He coaches, mentors and creates content that is all about helping people "free themselves" from the fear in their lives.This one starts out all about fear and then gets into a deep discussion of masculinity and what it means to be a man. So good.We get into how some of the fear that we hold on a daily basis is NOT even our own fear (others perhaps projected this fear onto us).What it means to "find our frequency" (woo-woo sounding I know, but also a very real thing).Why Ben is on a hiatus from social media and other things he does to "protect his energy".How masculinity is being demonized in some ways in today's society and what aspects of masculinity we SHOULD be celebrating.Why asking for help is a superpower (and why this is such a hard thing for dudes in particular).And finally, why Ben found himself sobbing on his bathroom floor and what he learned from the experience.Follow the fear my friends AND follow Mr. Ben Harris:InstagramWebsiteFeeling Free - the Podcast

“Everything we have been searching for outside ourselves has been within us the whole time”Boom.Today we’ve got entrepreneur, coach, 5x author, international speaker and host of the Entrepreneurial You Podcast which has featured the likes of Richard Branson and Seth Godin (to name a couple). Heneka Watkis-Porter!After many years "hustling" and building businesses, it all came to a grinding halt for Heneka when she began experiencing severe adrenal fatigue, insomnia and depression. This forced her to slow down and really focus in on her wellness.We get into what has (and has not) worked on her wellness journey.The importance of listening to our bodies.The power of taking an inventory of all of the things that we DO on a daily basis and eliminating the things that perhaps we are doing out of a fear of not doing (AKA of just BEING).So so good. Enjoy.To connect with the amazing Heneka Watkis-Porter:WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitter

Today we've got my friend, an award-winning digital thought leader and author, distinguished Toastmaster & keynote speaker, former partner and Chief Operating Officer of a multi-million dollar retail company, and a sought after lifestyle mentor and executive performance coach. From Vancouver, fellow Canadian! Mr. Dai Manuel on the show!Truthfully, I had an issue coming up with a title/theme for this episode because we just kinda hit record and talked about a thousand things. We get into how he is 44 years old but looks like he could be 30. And what his secret is.How he strives to be FUNctionally fit (note that fun is capitalized) in all areas of his life. I.e. if ENJOYMENT is lacking from any area of his life, he looks to alter that area to a point where he is enjoying it once again.His struggles with alcohol and how externally it didn’t probably look like he had an issue, but how he had developed a dependency and it was compromising the man he set out to be. And the awesome question that his wife asked him that changed it all.His experience doing a 10 day silent vipassana meditation. In Thailand.Enjoy!!To connect with Dai:WebsiteHis BlogInstagram

Boxing Day Special!!Perhaps I am taking the punny humour a step too far, but naturally had to wait two months to release the episode with Boxing Coach (and just fantastic dude), Cleveland Hughes on Boxing Day.Without a doubt one of the toughest dudes we've had on the show. He started Healing Mitts Boxing Gym - which is unique in that it's intention is NOT to produce the next Iron Mike Tyson.INSTEAD, it's intention is to make people better at life and make better people. Through boxing. So f***** cool.We talk how we all need outlets to emotionally regulate. And how men in particular need to find healthy ways to express masculine emotions like anger and aggression. The importance of finding community.How stepping into a ring knowing the other dude in that ring wants to knock you out has helped Cleveland deal with anxiety.The power of being AFRAID, but still getting in the ring and doing the THING.PLUS a phenomenal story about a client that MIGHT make you cry - disclaimer.Let's get in the ring and do the thing.To connect with Cleveland Hughes:InstagramYoutube Video on Healing Mitts Healing Mitts Website

Today we've got former collegiate baseball player turned sport scientist turned entrepreneur, Mr. Dallen Reber on the show!This one is all about the power of SELF-AWARENESS.One of the ways that self-awareness is built is through the practice of journaling. Dallen takes us through how journaling is THE thing that led him to leave a job that others would perceive as "super cool" to follow what he REALLY wanted in life. That takes courage, man.That's why he founded the "Realization Self-Mastery Journal". Helping lead others toward similar realizations.We talk flipping the script from finding value in "what we do" to instead finding value in "who we are".And finally, how to relentlessly chase a vision while still staying grounded and present in the moment.Enjoy.To connect with Dallen Reber:Purchase the Realizations Self-Mastery BundleInstagram

Today on the show we've got former NBA Scout for the Cleveland Cavaliers and former College Basketball Coach, Mr. Steve Done (A.K.A. Coach Done).Of course we talk a little (ok like a significant amount) of ball. But we go deeper than just talking basketball.This one gets into CHARACTER. And what character means. And how Coach Done identified this trait in young up and coming players as a scout.We talk the importance of AWARENESS in basketball and in life. And how amazing it is to have people in your life who are honest & direct with you - in helping you to bring awareness to the blind spots in your life.And finally, Coach brings us through his experience at "rock bottom". Outwardly, everything looked great. But inside he was a self described "mess". Much of this, he found was fueled by resentment.How did he turn things around? Forgiveness. Forgiving himself, forgiving others - and in particular, his parents.This is a good one! Enjoy.To connect with Coach Done:Here is a link to all of his books (including the recent release - TIMEOUT)Coach Done's Youtube Channel

Our guest today has written a book, is a health coach and is in relentless pursuit of "living damn well".Jorge Roman joins us and we get into first, what it means to "live damn well". How it is SO important for each of us to ask ourselves this question. In asking what optimal health really means to us. WHY do we work out every day, why do we eat what we eat? What is the point of it all for US.We go down SO many rabbit holes in this one...- Why you can have a 6-pack and still be unhealthy. And what biomarkers of good health we SHOULD be looking at - The importance of the big D! Vitamin D- How we as humans are meant to be OUTDOORS. And the affects of too much time inside in a sterile environment on us- How electromagnetic radiation is the silent killer- How meditation can REVERSE aging- The power of connecting with others- The effects of the different seasons on our bodies and how we are meant to eat seasonally- The "miracle mineral", magnesium- Why pushing our bodies to the extreme (i.e. HIIT training) multiple times per week can actually have a negative effectJorge does a LOT of research and references many articles. Here are some of them below:1.) Loneliness: https://www.webmd.com/balance/news/20180504/loneliness-rivals-obesity-smoking-as-health-riskhttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6366024/2.) Meditation: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26799456/3.) Electromagnetic Radiationa.) The Theorized Mechanism of Action: https://peaceinspace.blogs.com/files/5g-emf-hazards--dr-martin-l.-pall--eu-emf2018-6-11us3.pdfb.) More resources on EMR at the Environmental Health Trust: https://ehtrust.org/To Check Out Jorge's Book:a.) FREE download of chapter two on my website: https://mailchi.mp/ab3797c37d7d/live-damn-well-mobile-landing-pageb.) Full book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08JYMPFTW/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=livedamnwell-20&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=B08JYMPFTW&linkId=378c4f9d10244cf3f9d278ea929144caTo Connect with Jorge:WebsiteInstagram

Our guest today is someone who I would call a “spiritual badass”. We’ve got Chess Edwards on the show. Who spent 20 years as an adventure travel guide and then took a huge career pivot becoming a different kind of guide – a spiritual guide/meditation teacher. We get into how in his career as an adventure guide, he was exploring the most amazing places on earth, all in an attempt to avoid turning inward and exploring himself. Living in a world that allowed him to never get close to anyone. I know that I resonate with this and as I talk about, led to me to be totally blocked off emotionally in relation with others.We talk how you don’t need to be a monk to be in touch with your spiritual side (i.e. a spiritual badass) – fully engaged with day to day life but also connected with ones self.The power (especially for dudes) of building an emotional vocabulary and getting in touch with what the heck we are feeling each day. And how it’s so funny how we are so descriptive when describing a craft beer or a glass of wine, but when it comes to how we are feeling say things like “I'm doing OK”. OH, and Chess has generously provided a couple of gifts for you. A collection of amazing guided meditations (let me tell ya, this guy's voice was crafted by the gods to lead meditations) and the "Emotional Vocabulary Builder Tool". Both of which are linked to below!To access your collection of FREE guided meditations:  https://bit.ly/Chess-36mWVSW  To access your FREE Emotional Vocabulary Builder Tool: https://bit.ly/Chess-EVB-SlowDownMan For more, visit Chess' website:  https://www.chessedwards.com/ and YouTube:  http://www.youtube.com/c/chessedwards 

Today we’ve got the founder of nutrition company, Alaya Naturals (awesome clean, organic superfood supplements) on the show. And as you will surely realize when listening, just an amazing woman. But today we're not talking nutrition. We're talking finding your authentic voice. Something Shauna was forced to do when writing a memoir of her life (and literally laying it all on the table).We dig into how many of us "edit ourselves" (often unknowingly) on a daily basis. Changing how we act, look and talk to adhere to the validation of others.And we talk about the absolute magic that can happen when you put the "editing" to rest and just let your true self "flow". Emotions, thoughts, everything. And how when we show up as ourselves (i.e. show vulnerability) we invite others to do the same.We also chat about the following:- How (literally) everything that we do (including what we eat) is a projection of our value systems as a person.- The power of "checking in with ourselves" to see what we need in that moment. Sometimes it's a hard workout and a green smoothie. Sometimes it's netflix and pizza.- How we're all just "kids trapped in an adult body" and Shauna being forced to "reparent" herself through the process of parenting her kids.- The power of first of all holding space for emotions that we are experiencing. And then taking this a step further and documenting everything going on in those moments.- How sometimes the "next step" is simply taking a step. And then course correcting if necessary.And more! I sincerely hope you enjoy.To connect with the amazing Shauna Reiter:Alaya Naturals WebsiteAlaya Naturals InstagramShauna Brittenham on Apple MusicShauna Brittenham on Spotify

As Taylor Swift says, "Two is Better Than One" and so today we have TWO guests on the show - Nicole Girouard & Laura Moon. Of Bare Slate and hosts of the awesome "Ask More, Get More Show".This one is all about asking yourself two (very important) questions. 1) Who am I?2) What do I want?And how once we dig into the answers to these questions (which takes a whole lot of time), we can no longer be offended. Because we know who we are and what we value and place these things ahead of the validation of others.Nicole & Laura have a wealth of experience working with leaders at organizations and so we also dig into what causes dysfunction in the workplace. Hint: Most of it stems from complexity and not actually knowing who the f*** you are working with.Finally, we chat how we can have more moments in our life where we are EXCITED about how slowly time is passing. And the importance of balancing hustle with slowing down.Such a good conversation and I hope you enjoy!To connect with the wonderful Nicole & Laura of Bare Slate:Join the GET MORE MovementInstagramWebsiteYoutube ChannelThe Ask More, Get More Podcast

We go further down the rabbit hole on "Nice Guy Syndrome" with a good friend of Dr. Robert Glover's... Dr. Michael Pariser.With over 20 years of experience treating emotional issues and AUTHOR of the book No More Mr. Nice Guy: The Hero's Journey - A Step-by-Step Guide to Becoming an Integrated Male. Since 2012, he has been helping Nice Guys find their way to greater confidence and masculinity. In this episode we dig into how "nice guys" can grow their sack back. Not through traditional symbols of masculinity like big muscles or being an "asshole". But through self-acceptance. Yes, you heard that right, self-acceptance.We talk how the root of nice guy syndrome is in a belief that we are inherently "unlovable" and how the cure to this (and all of the many symptoms of nice guy syndrome) is to accept ALL parts of ourselves and quit the constant chase to mask all parts of us that we deem unworthy.Also...- The difference between healthy and toxic masculinity- Asserting ourselves as men in a healthy way- The three aspects to getting in relationship with someone (interest, intimacy and commitment). And how nice guys often mistake interest for intimacy and rush commitment (thinking "she's the one"!!)Enjoy!To connect with Dr. Michael Pariser....Buy his Book "No More Mr. Nice Guy: The Hero's Journey - A Step-by-Step Guide to Becoming an Integrated Male" (I HIGHLY recommend)Visit his Website

Today on the show we've got the Author of "Becoming a Better Man", Mr. Mike Cameron on the show!After experiencing a tragedy in his life, Mike made the decision to change the lives of men.We talk about what TRUE strength is and what it truly means to be a man. It's not pushing through pain and "being strong". But rather having the courage to sit with strong emotions and work through them.We talk creating space for men to drop the masculine mask and express their true selves.How emotional work is no different than hitting the gym. It requires the same attention and consistency of practice.And his ethos ties PERFECTLY to the theme of the podcast... SOAR (Slow Down, Open Up, Accept, Reconnect).And finally, how "sometimes in order to keep it together, you just have to lose your s***".Enjoy!To connect with Mike Cameron:WebsiteInstagramBuy his book, "Becoming a Better Man"Watch his Ted Talk, "Redefining Badass"

Love is in the air! We've got Love Coach, Shaun Galanos on the show talking all about why when it comes to relationships, slower is better.Great empires (and relationships) aren't built overnight. We dig into where this rush to get into relationships stems from (hint: it is an attempt to avoid the existential loneliness of being human).He tells us how we can gauge if a relationship is moving too fast. What WE can do if we are one of those people who has a tendency to rush relationships. As well as how we can go about talking to our partner if they are being a speed racer.Ultimately, humans crave certainty and relationships come with an inherent lack of certainty. So Shaun tells us why instead of seeking certainty, we should be seeking clarity.Finally, I ask him the hard hitting question "does love at first sight exist?"To connect with Shaun Galanos, please see below!InstagramWebsite And check out his podcast, The Love Drive

Our guest on the show today is JACKED.And he does it the right way. With a balanced (not overly restrictive) diet and a focus on things like sleep, hydration and not focusing on things too much.We've got Max Cathcart on the show, who owns a nutrition company helping entrepreneurs gain mental clarity, build muscle, and improve energy through nutrition.We get into the importance sleep, water and the odd cheat meal. As well as how to make time for your fitness and nutrition, even if you have no time.And we talk about how all of this leads to greater mental clarity in life.Enjoy!To connect with Max:WebsiteInstagram