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72 minutes | a year ago
Episode 13: Being a Breadwinner With Christie Clough Bishop!
Have you worn out your favorite pajamas yet? Us too! No matter how many holes we have in our pants, we’re pressing on with this week’s episode. (This was recorded pre-COVID, so if it sounds like we still had hope and wonder in our voices, that’s why.)At any rate, we had a FANTASTIC conversation with the wildly impressive and professional badass, Christie Clough Bishop about being the breadwinner in a relationship. Did you get tense just reading that? We know! It’s a topic we were eager to cover because it’s rife with preconceived notions and stigma! Why, though? Is it because money makes everyone get weird? That’s what we wanted to know… and dug into!Christie is a powerhouse in the advertising world while also hosting her own podcast, Commercial Grade. She’s appeared on Adam Carolla’s podcast and now… ours! Her journey to becoming an earning champion is inspiring and gave us some #goals. We’re excited to hear your feedback on this topic and hope you’ll share your stories of your own badassery!Tina-Louise, Christie, and Tara Jean basking in the glow of lady power.As always, thanks for listening, thanks for your support! Follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, and like and subscribe on your favorite podcast provider!
56 minutes | a year ago
Episode 11: Divorce (the Big D) with Scott Palmason!
The uber-talented Scott Palmason sat down with us to talk about his experience with divorce. This is a subject that almost no one wants to talk about but let’s face it–nearly every single person reading this has first-hand experiences with the Big D! (Also, some of us would like better experiences with other types of ‘Big D.’ We digress. But also email@example.com)Divorce is a mixed bag of emotions and we were so grateful that we were able to tackle this tough topic in an open, understanding, and of course, humorous, way with our Scotty! We hope it might help you get through your own relationship woes, or maybe give you a better understanding about what someone in your life might be experiencing if they are facing divorce.THANK YOU for listening and sharing the show! Just yesterday we hit 2500 listens! We are awed and honored and buoyed to your love!Go see one of Scott’s shows if you’re in LA! Follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, and like and subscribe on your favorite podcast provider! And remember: WASH YOUR G-D HANDS!!Scott discovering that we add hand sanitizer to all our vodka sodas!
68 minutes | a year ago
Episode 10: When Your Partner Gets Sick with Ian MacLeod!
We were honored and inspired by this week’s guest, Ian MacLeod. His journey when he was diagnosed with acute myeloid leukemia (AML) (a rare Cancer) (sorry for all the parenthesis) (not sorry) is one of hope, courage, and frankly, scared the living shit out of us! We chat about what happens when your partner gets sick, what it’s like when you’re sick and alone, and how Ian was able to recover, be diagnosed as cancer-free, and how his experience with AML changed the trajectory of his life. He’s writing a book that we know will inspire everyone!Also, we talk about how badass Ian’s wife was during the whole process. She has two standing marriage proposals from both Tina-Louise and Tara Jean. Yes, that would make Tara Jean a polygamist. Anyone out there a polygamist who wants to come on the show?THANK YOU for listening and sharing the show! Please make sure and check back for details on the release of Ian’s book! Follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, and like and subscribe on your favorite podcast provider! Now, get out there (after meditating of course) and let your light shine! Or at least, pray for warmer temperatures. We’re done with this cold weather!TL, Ian, and TJ doing their best… let’s say… duck face? Impressions…
47 minutes | a year ago
Episode 9: Cheating with Sean Michael Boozer!
Loading up the big guns now! In this episode, we address the ever taboo subject of cheating. Is it worse when you’re married or is it worse when you’re single? How do you move forward in your relationship? Does it always mean the end? Also, there are (depressingly) many resources for married people to find partners for extramarital affairs. WHAT IS THIS LIFE?!Luckily, we have the talented, and very honest, Sean Michael Boozer with us to talk about cheating and he shares some of the male perspectives on the topic. It’s a candid and open conversation on a topic no one really wants to talk about.THANK you for listening and sharing the show with your friends and enemies! Now you can also share it with people you’ve cheated on–or someone that cheated on you–what a gift! Follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, like and subscribe on your favorite podcast provider!Tina-Louise, Sean Michael, and Tara Jean celebrating people who don’t fit within the boundaries of just one name.
88 minutes | a year ago
Episode 8: Natural Childbirth with Shea Andreone!
We cannot WAIT for you to listen to this fascinating episode about natural childbirth! As our regular listeners know, neither one of us has children for reasons including, “none of your business,” and, “can you ask me a more relevant question,” but hearing Shea’s pregnancy story is inspiring, beautiful, and 100% made us cry. She talks all about having hyperemesis gravidarum which is a fancy way of saying ‘morning sickness’ except it never went away and yes, she vomited all the time not just in the morning (see: Amy Schumer & Kate Middleton).Shea’s story ends with two really great kids so don’t worry! We didn’t want you to have that on your mind while listening. The vomit paid off! Read more about her journey on her blog, Twig Hugger.If you or a woman you know has this condition, there is a study that is being conducted they can participate in because as most things dealing with “sensitive” women’s issues, very little is known about what causes hyperemesis. Go to HelpHER.org now!And as always, THANK you for listening! We’ve passed the 1600 downloads mark and we’re so grateful! Please don’t forget to follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook, like and subscribe on your favorite podcast provider!
46 minutes | a year ago
Episode 7: Uber Safety with James Elden!
This week we sit down with former rideshare driver, and our friend, James Elden! We learn that Tina-Louise has been stalked by a number of Uber drivers and Tara Jean is blissfully unaware that anything bad could possibly happen in a total stranger’s car. The great news is Uber/Lyft safety has come a long way and if you ever use rideshare, you should download safety apps and utilize emergency tools when you use the services.Bottom line, don’t be rude to your drivers, do speak up if you’re uncomfortable, and please send us your comments!Thanks for listening and please don’t forget to follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. And also, please like and subscribe on your favorite podcast provider!
55 minutes | a year ago
Episode 6: Religion with Chris Cappiello!
The dashing and brilliant Christopher Cappiello sits down with us to talk about religion! Surprisingly, none of us were immediately sent to hell (yet). Specifically, we talk about when one partner is a member of a religion and one is not–will there be ANY disagreement in this episode? Will we end the podcast after this episode? Will we all have to bow to a cat god after this (hint: too late)?We hope you enjoy listening to Chris’s insights as much as we did!Forced Chris to love us! It worked!Thanks for listening and please don’t forget to follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. And also, please like and subscribe on your favorite podcast provider!
50 minutes | a year ago
Episode 5: Adoption with Tina Sanchez!
We were so lucky to have our delightful, super-Mom, and environmental activist, Tina Sanchez with us to talk all about her experience of adoption her awesome little boy. We learned a lot and we know you will too–whether you have kids or not, this is a topic that effects us all.This is our first part in our three-part series on family planning. Real talk: we’ll probably do a lot more than three because we hear parenting/childrearing/children is challenging? I mean, yes is the correct answer (so we’re told).Let’s go dominate 2020!Tina sees us for who we really are.Thanks for listening and please don’t forget to follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. And also, like and subscribe on your favorite podcast provider!
14 minutes | a year ago
BONUS! Happy Holidays from TL & TJ!
Tina-Louise and Tara Jean wanted to send a special holiday shout out to our listeners by recounting some of our more traumatizing holiday moments. We hope you listen while trying to tune out your family this holiday season! Thanks for listening and please don’t forget to follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. And also, like and subscribe on your favorite podcast provider!TRANSCRIPT:Single VS. Married 0:10 We wish you horrible Christmas We wish you a horrible Christmas. We wish you a horrible ChristmasTara Jean O’Brien 0:19 and a depressing New Year.Tina Louise Eckert 0:21 I’m single alone.Tara Jean O’Brien 0:24 I’m married and sad.I don’t think we wanted to start it like thisTina Louise Eckert 0:32 It was so organic.This is our little mini episode for you guys.Welcome to single versus married podcastTara Jean O’Brien 0:41 The Christmas edition. Well, the Holiday Edition. I’m so sorry.Tina Louise Eckert 0:45 Here comes the hate mail.Tara Jean O’Brien 0:46 Okay, wait, hold on. Let’s start. Here we go. There’s my best friend Tina Louise Eckert.Tina Louise Eckert 0:49 And this is my best friend Tara Jean O’BrienTara Jean O’Brien 0:51 and this is the holiday episode.Tina Louise Eckert 0:56 We just wanted to check in I know you got to listen to a few real episodes and you got to hear some heavy subjects and some light hearted subjects.Tara Jean O’Brien 1:03 We’re just so glad that you’ve been here with us. We’ve had such a good time doing it.Tina Louise Eckert 1:07 Loving it so far. But we really want to bring down this really festivus mood and talk about some really traumatic Christmases that we’ve both hadTara Jean O’Brien 1:15 Oh man, traumatic Christmas. I know. We’re not alone and having traumatic Christmas,Tina Louise Eckert 1:20 Families are difficult.Tara Jean O’Brien 1:21 They are I mean, there’s the joy, but there’s also like the reality.Tina Louise Eckert 1:25 Yeah,Tara Jean O’Brien 1:25 like getting everybody together in one room for long periods of time. Good. God.Tina Louise Eckert 1:30 I mean, I come from a very large family of six kids, but then you have boyfriends and husbands and kids and all the extra and then baggage and angerTara Jean O’Brien 1:39 and then people not getting you the right present.Tina Louise Eckert 1:41 I feel like I was about to say different dietary restrictions. All of a sudden someone’s on keto now like it’sTara Jean O’Brien 1:47 like someone’s vegan or both your brother and his girlfriendTina Louise Eckert 1:52 it’s like it’s like extra now like people are people would be like, oh, you’ll soon so it was gay now be like, Okay, well, we accept him in the family now like oh, there Vegan were likeTara Jean O’Brien 2:01 That means I have to buy different food.And my house when I was growing up for Christmas, we were pretty isolated. Like in terms of Christmas day, it was just me, my mom, my dad and my brother when my parents were still married, and we just spent quiet Christmas morning we’d open the presents. We’d open the stockings have like a like, elaborate brunch breakfast.Tina Louise Eckert 2:20 You stockings first, like right when you woke up?Tara Jean O’Brien 2:22 Yeah. So when we were so when I was a kid, the rule was were like, if you woke up first early, you were allowed to open your stocking, but not anything else until everybody in the house was awake. That’s a pretty solid.Tina Louise Eckert 2:32 I think it’s a thing. It’s good to see kids quiet for a whileTara Jean O’Brien 2:34 it does. And like when I was younger, and my brother was like a baby, I’d be like, we come up, I don’t care. He doesn’t care. He’s maybe he doesn’t know. But the other tradition was when we lived in the same city. My grandparents would come over my mom’s parents and they were big gamblers, in Reno and Vegas, and they loved her it’s in it’s an air it was in but they fed us. So anyways, their favorite game to play with spades. raids is a four player game you can’t really play with More than four players and my grandmother was very specific about the rules that she would play by So, in the afternoon, they would come over we’d open the couple presents that they would bring us and then we’d have our dinner and I do eat dinner at noon or oneTina Louise Eckert 3:13 That sounds more traumatic than the story’s going right now.Tara Jean O’Brien 3:16 You know art had this like a lot of people had that reaction I’m like that’s Is that weird? Because I it’s only thing I ever knew like you never ate late on Christmas like you would eat at barely one o’clockTina Louise Eckert 3:27 to try to get a family dinner ready in my house? We started making a rule that we had to start eating before nine o’clock pmTara Jean O’Brien 3:34 PM?Tina Louise Eckert 3:34 Yeah, because it just wouldn’t be finished like it was just so many things to make and then likewe have to wake up people to eat a lotTara Jean O’Brien 3:42 that’s so well that’s just like my militant house. My mother’s like everything’s ready we will eat right now. And then we will clean it up and everything will be done by two and then we can go to bed at 4.Tina Louise Eckert 3:50 Very Willy Wonka on the same bed.Tara Jean O’Brien 3:54 No, but so in the afternoon, you know, my brother and I would play with our toys or do whatever and they would play spades and they would drink obviously But also they just played and my grandmother surprisingly was loud, weird, where I might get it from maybe, and they would play and they would play and they would start screaming each other like every year, it would devolve into some sort of stupid fight. My grandma would be like, that’s not a trick. You can’t play trick like that. Or my mom would be like, Oh, Mom, yeah, now what you do, and it would literally every year, one family or one member would get so mad that the game was over, and then they would just March out and leave. And I’d be like, I guess Christmas is over, like,Tina Louise Eckert 4:28 a real unraveling of familyTara Jean O’Brien 4:30 every year. And it was like I laugh about it now because it was never weird to me. But whenever I tell anybody that story, they’re like, that’s so sad. And I’m like, No, it was just that was the traditional.Tina Louise Eckert 4:39 I could just picture you and little baby Rory just sitting there like, what?Tara Jean O’Brien 4:44 The first two years but then I’m like, and then I’m like, let me watch Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer 12 more times.Tina Louise Eckert 4:49 Right this this game is really dragging on. I hope someone picks a fight soon.Tara Jean O’Brien 4:53 Like I’ve gone through almost all the toys I got.Tina Louise Eckert 4:56 Well that sounds like your normalTara Jean O’Brien 4:59 Should give a lot of insight intoTina Louise Eckert 5:01 my Fun fact, sad fact. Christmas story would be when I moved out of my parents house with my mom, my stepfather, and my three younger sisters lived there. I moved real far away.Tara Jean O’Brien 5:15 Well, how far?Tina Louise Eckert 5:15 four houses down.Tara Jean O’Brien 5:19 You really, you really got out of that nest. I didn’t spread your wings.Tina Louise Eckert 5:23 But a lot of knowing me, like I needed out of the house, I needed to build my own life. I wanted to kind of keep my sisters andTara Jean O’Brien 5:30 You needed more than like four square inches of your own space.Tina Louise Eckert 5:32 Yeah, but I want to care about them. But also I couldn’t live there anymore.But I was going to junior college and concurrently to USC at the same time and I was working at a restaurant and I had zero money. And I didn’t even think about asking for help. Like it never even dawned on me that even no one even asked me if I ever ate so that always worked at a restaurant. I felt like I always got one big meal a day. Sure. So then in the morning, like I’m just buy a pack of English muffins and like that with jelly on it was like breakfast when I time got to work like Five o’clock in the evening, then I would have dinner. Yeah. And then maybe eat again at work but like, so I never really thought to buy food. But I was always starving apparently. And so we the similar with us that we got a stocking before we could open gifts. Yeah. And I asked my mom once, if she could stop putting chocolate was always like chocolate and gummy bears. And I go because since I don’t have food, like sometimes I’ll just eat the chocolate. Like for like a meal. And then she’s like, Oh, no, no, of course. And then she started putting like string cheese in there and like, multivitamin and things I really want to likeTara Jean O’Brien 6:31 NutriousTina Louise Eckert 6:32 Yeah, like, like face lotion. I was like, Yes, you know. So by time I would come over and we’re my sisters were there and we’re all opening our stockings. moms like you’re stuck into the refrigerator. So I goTara Jean O’Brien 6:44 you know, that’s where Santa put your stocking.Tina Louise Eckert 6:47 also used to it also excited. I remember once I got string cheese and those little mini blocks of cheese like Oh, yeah,yeah. Not like the baby bells.Tara Jean O’Brien 6:55 No, no, you the one there in foil.Tina Louise Eckert 6:56 Yeah. So my sister’s going through it. I’m watching all the candy. They And like not jealous because I don’t even eat
59 minutes | a year ago
Episode 4: Vacation Planning with Michael Silva
Our resident travel guru, and person we’re usually jealous of, Michael Silva, joins us for this episode all about vacation planning! How hard is it for married couples to plan a vacation? Does a single person always get the couch? What day is the best day to get flight deals? We talk about all this and much, much more!As always, thanks for listening and please don’t forget to follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook! We love your feedback and want more! More, more, more, we say!TRANSCRIPT:Tina Louise Eckert 0:14 Cheers. Pick it up!Tara Jean O’Brien 0:17 Nobody can see that I didn’t pick upTina Louise Eckert 0:19 It means something to me.Tara Jean O’Brien 0:20 Hello.Tina Louise Eckert 0:21 Hi this is my best friend Tara Jean O’Brien.Tara Jean O’Brien 0:25 I like that you almost forgot.This is my best friend Tina Louise eckertTina Louise Eckert 0:28 And I am singleTara Jean O’Brien 0:29 And I am marriedTina Louise Eckert 0:30 And this is single vs. married. The podcast.Tara Jean O’Brien 0:35 Not the movie, not the TV show, not the documentary, the pod cast. Oh my god I’m so excited for this episode. This is fun and excitement.Tina Louise Eckert 0:43 This is a great topic is we are going to be talking about vacation planning. That’s right and vacation but who doesn’t love a good vacation? I love it. Okay. But you know, it is different now. I have to tell you, the lingo being different. It’s not just less of a lack of places to go to, you know,Tara Jean O’Brien 1:02 You can still go anywhere singleTina Louise Eckert 1:04 to get murdered.But like, you know, when I was with x, I was in charge of the vacation planning. Sure. I mean, also because I’m a Virgo and I was mostly because you’re very controlled mo very controlling me. This is why you love me and why I love you. But now being single, and I get invited with things with you and art. Yeah, you know, I’m just kind of part of your plan. So now I can add to the trip, like adventures, but I’m not really in charge of them kind of boohoo do whatever you guys decide.Tara Jean O’Brien 1:35 I mean, here’s, here’s what I’m going to say back when I was single, in 26 ad.I always thought and it was true is that to me traveling your first weekend away or whatever, to me. It’s a big deal, right? It’s a make or break of a relationship. Because it doesn’t matter how nice the person’s been or how cool or how clean or whatever. When you traveled together. That’s a 24 seven, right? You’re in a new place. Sometimes places neither one of you’ve ever been And you’re discovering something new together and your behavior, it’s much harder to hide. If you’re like a real asshole, you’re at your limits. And it’s like, Okay, well, let’s see who this real person is. So for me when I was still dating, you know, when I still was relevant and that working vagina, what was that moment was that moment is like, Okay, cool.This is our test. Here’s our test.Tina Louise Eckert 2:22 To me was to me it was more of a stress test.Tara Jean O’Brien 2:24 Well it is, the exactTina Louise Eckert 2:25 yeah,Tara Jean O’Brien 2:25 like I just met a vagina test. Oh, yeah.Tina Louise Eckert 2:27 My vagina doesn’t need to be tested. I mean, it’s tried to remain single, so it doesn’t closed up for business. estate sale.Tara Jean O’Brien 2:37 I’m not gonna sell it to anybody for the lowest but I’m not goingbankrupt. My vagina is not bankrupt.Tina Louise Eckert 2:44 Maybe it is, but it’s interesting. It’s also to see how your spouse responds to stress. Now being single Sure, the same thing goes with my friends. Now I travel with friends more, you know, obviously I don’t have a partner. So now I really see friends. Like how they react and that’s interesting to me because I know this person I see them a happy hour I now to get drunk with them at brunch. Yeah, but all of a sudden, the driving is like, oh, you’re now angry or you’re going to sleep. You’re going to sleep while I drive like this is a team effort and you’re going to sleep but these are like respect things or doesn’t just have to be your partner canTara Jean O’Brien 3:20 you and I’ve traveled a lot together. And I think we travel well together.Tina Louise Eckert 3:23 We could do great on airplane.Tara Jean O’Brien 3:25 We do great on an airplane. Everybody else on the plane may hateTina Louise Eckert 3:28 Oh, we the last time we were on a plane to New Orleans.The lady in front of usshe hated us.Tara Jean O’Brien 3:37 Oh, that’s right. She gave you the death glare. me keep us to death. She She stood up to leave it was both of us.Tina Louise Eckert 3:45 We were bothtalking.Tara Jean O’Brien 3:46 No but then you stopped, she stood up and looked at me like oh, I’m talking in my normal level aren’t ITina Louise Eckert 3:50 No. Okay, wait. There’s a better part to this. So she kept saying given us glad let’s see me glances her glasses like we were getting glasses. So she’s going to stand up and go to the bathroom. The minute I See your stand up I go Tara Jean pretend you’re sleepingTara Jean O’Brien 4:02 oh it was the best thing in the world so that she couldn’t give a side I when she said she doing both my like fake sleep.she was suchTina Louise Eckert 4:11 And then she like we wouldn’t give her the gratification of giving us the look nope and then she walked away we start talking and the minute we saw her come out of the bathroom she like the minute we saw we’re like back to back sleepingTara Jean O’Brien 4:25 I get it we’re a lot like a lot of people can’t take it it’s fine whatever when art night first got together right before that I had planned through sky auction com I got a trip to Paris from LA to for like $230 like it was crazy good deal My friend was going to serve on so I was gonna stay somewhere for nine days for free and I’m so excited because I actually love to travel alone. I don’t speak I I speak conversational Spanish, but I don’t speak any other language but I was so excited to go because I was like, I love this. This is you know, I don’t have a cell phone or anything because by the way, this was also a longTina Louise Eckert 4:57 time like they had pagersTara Jean O’Brien 4:59 pretty Be real. Anyway. So I was like, so excited because to me, I can do what I want to do, I can plan what I want to plan, I can leave, you know, I can sleep in or not sleeping independence, its independence. And so it was so funny because it was literally I think it was a week or a week and a half before I left for this trip was going to be nine days essentially by myself that art and I got together. And I remember going on that trip and being like, I’m so excited to get back to the sky. But at the same time, like, this has been the best trip of my life. I’ve been in Paris and like in France in general for nine days by myself, I don’t speak the language. And let me tell you, first of all, French people are lovely. They were so nice to me, but it’s also a single woman traveling alone. There was a certain amount of like, I was on my guard, but at the same time, I would go up to somebody and be like, Oh, I’m so sorry, I don’t speak French. And let me tell you, nine out of 10 times they were like Oh, like where do you were gonna go like whateverTina Louise Eckert 5:50 American vagina ask me your question.Tara Jean O’Brien 5:53 Open up for us. We will show you the way.Also that was Borat and not in France at all. But anyways, my point is, is Like when we when I got together with art, I like traveling alone. Like, I don’t know how he’s going to be it’s a big deal. So what how was the first time you traveled with them? Okay, so the first trip I think we took was to wine country and solving. And we I was like, Okay, here we go, we’re going to go drink wine. It’ll be fun. I think I’d only done it once before I think we went up there. He, he was so well behaved like we really like, we were just very on the same wavelength of like, cool. We went to go here, here here. And I’d be like testing. I’m like, What if we go here? He’s like, yeah, cool. Like, it was really like he was as clean as as advertised. You know? Like, yeah, the good behavior you’re having, oh, he same thing. And we had such a fun day. And at the end of the day, we went to the last winery, like in town, and we were just hanging out. And these people who own the winery looked at us and they’re like, are you guys doing anything else after tonight? We’re like, no, we’re just like hanging out. And they’re like, we’re going to close the winery. Why are you guys staying like have dinner and like, going up the up up the day? I was like, not only was he on good behavior all day, like in terms of good behavior, like we’re We were totally compatible but at the end of the day people like enjoyed being around usTina Louise Eckert 7:04 Your energy and your chemistryTara Jean O’Brien 7:07 and it was like it was veryTina Louise Eckert 7:08 How funny that like helped your relationshipTara Jean O’Brien 7:10 it actually I think it did it, it was interesting.Tina Louise Eckert 7:13 See and another thing about being single now about traveling is let’s say no I’m not no not let’s say I am your best friend.I mean I get you know in being best friend for gonna stay at an Airbnb I get the best second room like you and art get th
50 minutes | a year ago
Episode 3: Abusive Relationships with Dr. Suzie Chen
We welcome the brilliant clinical psychologist Dr. Suzie Chen on this week’s episode. She has a robust background in helping people identify the differences between unhappy relationships and abusive ones. We also talk about a variety of resources that can assist people in getting out of a relationship when they are ready. WHEW! We told you it might get heavy once and a while… just know it all works out in the end!Most importantly, if you or someone you know is battling with the decision to get out of an abusive relationship, just know you are not alone. There are resources you can access right now. The hardest part is taking the first step and know that someone will be there to catch you.Tina-Louise, Dr. Suzie Chen, Tara JeanWe love patterns and bananas.Here are some of the resources mentioned in the show:National Domestic Violence Hotline, Available 24/7/365 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) American Psychology Association (apa.org)Find a local therapist: Psychologytoday.comWhen Is Enough, Enough? By Laurie AshnerTina-Louise, Dr. Suzie Chen, Tara Jean in living color.TRANSCRIPT:Tina Louise Eckert 0:13 Hey everybody, this is my best friend Tara Jean O’BrienTara Jean O’Brien 0:22 is my best friend Tina Louise EckertTina Louise Eckert and I’m singleTara Jean O’Brien 0:22 and I am married and this is single versus married podcast. I still like that we specify that you are listening to a podcast. Well I’m excited today is very exciting for us. This is our first episode where we’re having an expertTina Louise Eckert 0:37 experts having an expert know an expertTara Jean O’Brien 0:39 you know an expert who is a doctor, doctor was news to me today. I did not know this, but Okay, everybody, I know there’s going to be heavy. It’s a little bit heavy. Our topic today is signs that you’re in an abusive relationship. Yes. And this isn’t just a love relationships. This is any sort of relationship in your life. And we’re going to get to that and we’re going to hold back the tears for now because I’m an important question. I’m ready. What’s wrong with your face?Tina Louise Eckert 1:13 I have a really popular hobby.Tara Jean O 1:16 Yeah, it’s going to beTina Louise Eckert 1:19 very expensive. I mean, some people do crossword puzzles. I mean, I just like to sit in a dental chair and cry. Yeah.I had some dental surgery, let’s say, and let’s just say my body didn’t really like it.So I kinda have half my face melting off my body right now.Tara Jean O’Brien 1:37 Oh, you poorflittle chipmunk only a hal.Tina Louise Eckert 1:40 I said, I look like a chipmunk, chipmunk. Like I’m hiding a chipmunk, chipmunk to yourhamster in your hamster itchy. And I youTara Jean O’Brien 1:48 know, I will admit, I feel really I feel very personally guilty for all your dental surgery because this all started I don’t know how many like 15 years ago I threw a fundraiser for a friend and at this fundraiser Tina Louise was pretty Performing but before she go on stage and performTina Louise Eckert 2:03 so we had a little food backstage and sure no just a little noshingand I’ve bit on a baby carrot and broken tooth still wenton to the showTara Jean O’Brien 2:12 I think like what happened is becauseI came out was like where’s Tina Louise? Like she broke it to me and I’m like,What like she ate a carrotTina Louise Eckert 2:20 with the most random and I’m like she left because she broke her tooth on a carrot like like that’s fragile over nevermind i don’t have any cavities never had cavities rightI just have my teeth are just made out tocrumble. So that wasn’t the first dental problem I had just happened to be the first one you got to experience but I felt responsible for all that you have that you can carry that responsibility toGod butthe show still goes on show must go on.Tara Jean O’Brien 2:52 You’re still beautiful and the right sideTina Louise Eckert 2:54 of my case I’m gonna havethe insights Fraggle Rock this little people Working on my team though pitchforks nobody so much cheaper.So today’s topic is signs your in an abusive relationship. And we not only have an expert and a doctor, but also a very dear friend of mine. This is Dr.Susie Chen. Yay.Dr. Suzie Chen 3:18 Hello, thank you for the very lovely introduction. Thanks.Tina Louise Eckert 3:22 So responsible.Sounds like she pays her taxes and raises children get their teeth cleaned.CarrotsTara Jean O’Brien 3:36 Excuse me. Have you ever broken your tooth on a carrot?Dr. Suzie Chen 3:39 I can say confidently never.Tina Louise Eckert 3:41 I alwaysbroke a tooth on a chicken strip in Vegas.Tara Jean O’Brien 3:47 That’s like, that’s like kind of a soft food. Susie, I hope you’re learning a lot about us today and I surely AM.Tina Louise Eckert 3:54 So Susie and I have been friends for a guess about 14 years.Tara Jean O’Brien 3:59 Wow, that’s been a long time and 13 How did you guys meet?Dr. Suzie Chen 4:03 We met at a party.Tina Louise Eckert 4:05 You want to take it from here?Dr. Suzie Chen 4:07 Oh, God, you might have to remind me. Well, essentially, at the end of the party, you offer to walk me to my carbecause she hadTara Jean O’Brien 4:14 Wait, is this really Wait, was this almost like you weren’t single at this moment?Tina Louise Eckert 4:20 That’s how we met we met to do X, okay. So she had like tall black boots on like to, like, little past her knee or to her knee. And I remember thinking like, Oh, you can’t walk to your car. So like, I was, like, I have to walk in I just met her like, Oh, I’m walking to your car. And as I get to her car, she goes, why can you walk me to my car, but then you have to walk home by yourself. That’s right, but I’m just very protective. And she was gonna be a new friend or a new stuff my clients into her and I’m like, you are now my friend. That’s such a funny story. Because is like, well, how are you gonna get back but that sounds like me doesn’t hitTara Jean O’Brien 4:56 100%. You’ve probably done that. 100 times. Yeah. I love it. How do you new Susie oh well I know Susie through you, but I feel like we really bonded when so Tina Louise and I came up with the TV show idea. So we shot a sizzle reel for it. It was called pretty dumb luck and I made you be an offensive Asian stereotype.Dr. Suzie Chen 5:15 Remember that so long ago? And did you know it was so long ago that I think there was maybe like one Asian stereotype at that time? Yeah. So it was great for me becauseI can’t act. You did so great. You threw things out. I know. She threw tops. I know I getviolent.Tara Jean O’Brien 5:37 Thank you Susie. It was funny. And guess what? Everybody who might be offended right now that show went nowhere. So we got our dude.Tina Louise Eckert 5:44 Oh, it’s so funny. I thought you’re gonna say that’s showbiz?Tara Jean O’Brien 5:48 No, I was it still was funny. It holds up. Everyone was like,Tina Louise Eckert 5:54 we weren’t a stereotype of ourselves. We were a stereotype forWell, I think we were just playing who we wereyou were playing Reno. Whywouldn’t you be?Tara Jean O’Brien 6:04 All right, let’s just jump right in, you got to rip the band aid off.Tina Louise Eckert 6:08 I know, this is actually a difficult topic, and I’m happy that we’re hitting on it because it does hit close to me.Tara Jean O’Brien 6:17 I just wanted to say, I know this is very hard for you to today. So we’re all here to support you. AndTina Louise Eckert 6:20 I honestly can say I didn’t see it. In in the beginning, I thought they were obstacles like workable problems, because that’s how I saw it. I didn’t see it as it maybe someone wasn’t treating me well or was toxic. I just thought, Oh, this is relationship problems, we’d have to work on our communication. And it wasn’t until I had my aha moment and just happen to be in a form of a massive car accident.Unknown Speaker 6:47 You know, sometimes you just need to spin out on the 10 freeway to really see the world across all five lanes of traffic.Unknown Speaker 6:52 Yeah.Tina Louise Eckert 6:54 Which,and then also seeing a therapist at the time. really changed my My words fromwhat you’re doing is hurting my feelings, too. When you do this, I feel unsafe. And that was a big transition for me. And as much as I felt foolish afterwards that I even was in a relationship of that manner. I’m more proud of myself that I was able to get out. And I think this is something that we really want to talk about, like, not only the signs of what maybe don’t think is abuse, which really is and I think that was a big part of my problems. I didn’t, I didn’t realize that things were abusive, and I’m not talking physical abuse is definitely emotional andpsychological.Yeah. Is that the other? That’s correct. That wouldn’t be right.That’s the other because the word I wanted to say was not that was like something to do with like mind ology. I don’t know where I’m going with that one.But that was really important is to see that oh, this is not a normal relationship problem. This is actually a one sided problem, because I didn’t have control over it. And I do want to see the signs going back to when I first saw the signs after my aha moment was when I would wake up in the morning and think, don’t do anything wrong today, like at least get to work without making a mistake, because that was probably very likely I was gonna say something wrong or do something wrong that was then gonna Domino
52 minutes | a year ago
Episode 2: Online Dating with Jim O’Brien
One of our OLDEST friends, Jim O’Brien, joins us to talk about the trials and tribulations of online dating. Tina-Louise talks about her recent foray into the world of online dating and Tara Jean talks about the ever so icky world of online dating for married people (there’s more than just Ashley Madison–insert gasp here).Also, buckle up for our very first installment of, TRUSH OR TRASH! The segment where a guest tells us a crazy story and TL & TJ have to figure out of the story is true, or if it’s TRASH!Thanks for listening and make sure to send us a DM or a Tweet with your thoughts about the episode! We LOVE hearing from you!Tara Jean, Jim O’Brien, Tina-Louise in the jungle…TRANSCRIPT:Tina Louise Eckert 0:16 I would like to welcome my hipster best friend Tara Jean O’BrienTara Jean O’Brien 0:21 And this is my best friend Tina-Louise Eckert.Tina Louise Eckert 0:35 I’m single.Tara Jean O’Brien 0:36 And I’m married. And this is single versus married.Tina Louise Eckert 0:43 the podcast.I tried to make podcasts and well, professionals.Tara Jean O’Brien 0:49 You did great, great, nailed it. you know what else is nailing people who online date.Tina Louise Eckert 0:55 That’s today’s topic.Tara Jean O’Brien 0:58 And so online dating to Me is kind of like when Earth began. I don’t I have no you weren’t there. I wasn’t there. And I had we hear about it. It’s like a rumor and the rumor mill. It’s like if I read about it in the newspaper, when the telegram comes in Well, the telegram comes in they say there’s a thing called Tinder. I’m like, Oh, is that word?And by the way does also would it’s also whatTina Louise Eckert 1:25 I get it.Tara Jean O’Brien 1:26 Yeah, no art and I and even when you were in your long term relationship, we that was there was it wasn’t a thing. It was like people it was like what true weird friends we’re doing. Yeah. Because also we had that that idea of what internet dating like the internet was, it was like, just creepy old guys sitting in there like apartment like trying to find young girls. Like I remember that. Like we first got a computer at my house and like email, and I was AOL. And there was these things called chat rooms. And I was like, Oh, I want to meet people and like you didn’t know that weird dude in the fucking chat room.Tina Louise Eckert 2:00 Eating onionsUnknown Speaker 2:03 red like flaming hot Cheetos. No. online dating when you heard like your friends are doing it that was a weirdTina Louise Eckert 2:08 but also like, Why? Why good like you’re you’re a good looking guy or you’re a normal person to go to a bar.Tara Jean O’Brien 2:15 Any friendsTina Louise Eckert 2:16 supermarket yeah supermarket, your metrics, the supermarket. Oh wait definitely got hit on it supermarket.Tara Jean O’Brien 2:23 I don’t. I mean, actually half. That’s right. But it’s such a like, that’s so weird. I haven’t thought about that all the time. It’sTina Louise Eckert 2:31 really been history really makes me feel good sometimes when I go to my local supermarket, and it really does,Tara Jean O’Brien 2:36 like live in a neighborhood where like Olympians liveTina Louise Eckert 2:39 so hippiesUnknown Speaker 2:44 I don’t know, it’s all it. Listen, I have almost no reference point for this. I think it sounds terrifying.Tina Louise Eckert 2:49 And also, like, I’m so new to it. I mean, I was with that for 10 years. So when the big boom went off where everyone was getting on board. I never ever even knew I knew for my friends I heard stories but like, I’m so behind on the times right now likeTara Jean O’Brien 3:04 I’ve been to two weddings where people met from eHarmony and remember the first one that was probably like seven or eight years ago I remember seeing art I’m like, so crazy they met my heart like that’s a thing like that’s works. It’s real. Yeah. Weddings from eHarmony people ITina Louise Eckert 3:19 know. You know also I’ll tell you off off the thing but we know somebody alpha one of the free ones to which I think is so funny like an OK Cupid like they met off at that and got married. What I know, I can’t wait to read this. One who invests in a monthly subscription and you still found? See there’s hope. There’s hope. That’s the route I’m going so I’m not going to invest? A I don’t want to do that. 500 questions. I don’t even ask myself questions. 500 questions. I don’t know. I’m just really using a big number because I think anything over 25 will feel likeI remember when the wedding we went to that was eHarmony he did tell me it was a lot of questions.I want to talk about that. He got kicked off. I’m not gonna say what you got kicked off. eHarmony he got kicked off eHarmony I gotta know if you’re gonna say it. But then he just got a new email.And they were like, he didn’t like how you answer the questions, and then he had to do it again. It was all about something about like, Did you always about monogamy?Tara Jean O’Brien 4:18 Yeah. And then he was like, kind of like, you don’t say on a dating like on eHarmony is to monogamy Yeah,Tina Louise Eckert 4:25 this is a big of a deal. I’m not really looking for it. They’re like, it’s he.This is exactly why people are here.Wait, so if you haven’t done that, what have you done? WhatI did for a little over two weeks was like two weeks in two days. I did Bumble and what’s been Bumbles? The one where the that where I bump into my husband at night and I go Get off me No, that’s one of these things. Youknow, my honeymoonTara Jean O’Brien 4:50 got want to do with that. No business here.Tina Louise Eckert 5:01 was the one where the girl is in charge. So if I am in charge of swiping and I see somebody I like, I can I make the first move. So I say, like I, he now knows that I’m interested, it gives him 24 hours to write me a message, or I can write him a message to him, but then it just puts up more so the guys are not coming to me like I can pick which guys, I like that. And the best feature is if you swipe by accident, and it’s happened, no offense, just someone who just could not be more or less my type English me fugly. Just not my tires are. And I would freak out like, oh, and you couldbe like, I didn’t want accident. And thenlike it goes away, hopefully before they see it. So let’s see, did they get a notification that that happened? They’re like,Tara Jean O’Brien 5:47 Oh, this hot girl. Oh,Tina Louise Eckert 5:50 it might be. But I’ll tell you I would get responses like some guy would be. I’ve had a guy asked me like, Did you mean to swipe on me? Oh, really?Yeah, I’m like, and you know,now I’m like, now it’s like Doesn’t it like why are you asking me that? Like a question because it shows their self esteem or they’re trying to like yeah or they’re trying to play me I don’t like it and also I don’t like it I just I’m just so used to organically meeting people but now everyone just I feel like a lot of people distinct find it easier to do it this way you can do it on the toilet you can do it bed. I feel like a lot of people are swiping like early morning or late night you know?Well it’s like part of that you know, I think it’s also it feels very transactional to me like the whole idea of swiping on a person whatever there is there right there little stats there by thank you because I always getTara Jean O’Brien 6:33 someTina Louise Eckert 6:34 base and and then it’s like part of your job right like well I gotta find somebody to bang tonight solike, I guess I mean there’s I mean, obviously there are good ones if you p for people who want to being mean that this is just not something I’m looking at, you know, looking into right at the moment. Did you go on a real dates for mumble I did. I went on three other weird thing was two weeks.I had a good hair week to get it out there I don’t know it would take a while to go on tape because I felt like the the texting game was strong and that bothers me too because you can be whoever you want via text you can you have more time to think about what is a good react like what’s a good response right you know and indeed to be more flirty it’s it’s harder to flirt with somebody in person and get rejected or maybe it’ll stumble on your words and I would tell the guys like when they wouldn’t go date I would say I want to have a phone conversation first right one I wanna I want to hear your voice you know right make sure it really is you you know it’s not gonna be like a show on MTV punk me I’m not signing that paper right that release form release my image but also I want to see the really have that kind of banter or is this thought out banterso what So did you talk to them on the phone?It was so three different people’s one day. Yeah. So I talked to each of them. One of the guys said on the first guy went out with he said, these give me advice because I was new to the site because it was not going to happen with us, like, really good conversation, just no sponsor. He goes, can I give you some advice about being on Bumble? You say suck it. Me advice? Actually, I can’t believe it. I’m like, No, no, I don’t want your advice. Like, I’m not even attracted to you. Like you too. Yeah, yeah.Maybeyou want any advice?Like I’m doing something so wrong. Like that. And his advice was not to tell people not to try to enforce a phone
53 minutes | a year ago
Episode 1: Meet Tina-Louise & Tara Jean!
Single VS. Married has LAUNCHED our FIRST EPISODE!Who the heck are these broads? Dig into this introduction podcast and you’ll learn about how we became friends, how LA or not LA we are, how Tina-Louise doesn’t remember that we’ve been best friends for 18 years, and how Tara Jean became the world’s foremost Tina-Louise translator.Please enjoy meeting Tina-Louise Eckert and Tara Jean O’Brien on the first episode of Single VS. Married!Love,Single (TL) vs. Married (TJ)
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